By watching so many of your videos I feel this one-way connection with you. This connection naturally makes me wonder how your everyday off camera life looks like and if you are happy. I hope you are happy Lloyd.
Personally, for me; I take a lot of pride and passion in my work (Working as a craftsman at the shop making custom hearthpads for fire places and pellet stoves) and many times, I'll work through my lunch, go in early and leave late because I just love it. As such, this also carries into my personal life because I go home tired, sore, dirty, and have my head held high because I know I put in a days of hard, honest work for honest pay. I may be a "rarity" but I personally love what I do, and it makes me happy when I get home.
Private life is king. However i need to put majority of my efforts into work as i am poor. I like working, but i know from my life that i need to put significant effort into raising my kids, thus time. this way they might have a better chance than i did.
finally someone who gets it. if you have medium success at your job and a medium personal life, where would you invest more time and energy? a medium personal life can totally be enough and having a better one might feel a bit better, but it will never pay your bills. more success in your career will immediately translate to more money and therefore safety. that to many people is a good substitute for personal happiness.
Tyler i mean i am open for this shit, but nowadays it is too practical. what would you replace it with? digital credits? communism with food tickets and so on? it is alright to be edgy or even a rebel, but at least come up with a better idea. saying no to things is easy, anyone can do that. whenever you say no to something say yes to something else that will replace it for example
Some of the brightest people I've known were so absorbed in their chosen pursuits, they had absolutely no interest a "career". One PhD in a cutting edge technology who chose to be a postman comes to mind. He spent all his free time thinking about his intellectual preoccupations, with little desire to monetise them. Unfortunately many of the jobs that supported people with those lifestyles, and the affordable accommodation that made them possible, have disappeared to be replaced by career-lite job structures. There was a time when one could be a postman/woman or a warehouseman or whatever, and so long as you fulfilled the task allocated to you efficiently, your employer had no interest in professionalising your role or impinging upon your own time. Now, people operating supermarket checkouts often have career incentives dangled before them. OTOH I've known highly successful individuals with next to no imagination, who'd have been completely lost if their jobs were taken away. It was literally all they had financially, personally and as a way of filling their time. It takes all sorts.
It depends on how much money you have. You need a certain minimum amount of money to be secure and comfortable. Until you achieve that career is more important. After that happiness is more important.
The key is to find a career which you enjoy so much, and get along so well with your colleagues that it effectively is your personal life; then you get money as well as happiness/fulfilment/allthatstuff
Maybe if you weren't such a coward and made an effort, you'd actually find people worth working with. I have and many others have as well, though perhaps the problem could be you - maybe you just scare away all the good people away with that cynicism of yours.
Either that was a look-alike or Lindy took a step on a slippery slope. White gambeson today, tomorrow we might find him saying the French are people too!!! Very worried about him indeed!
Lloyd, the part about success leading to happiness. Some people believe that they can only be happy with wealth, success and or power. So some would answer yes to the magically make them happy bit.
In today's society MOST people have to work hard in early life to earn enough for supporting a family with home and expenses. Hopefully saving enough to live on comfortably after retirement...
The weird thing about this question to me is more that though I enjoy work family and friends, I've worked hard to learn to generate my own happiness. If I relied on those things as my only source of happiness I'd give up what makes me most happy.
I think time preference comes into it at a point: I used to work a pretty low rent job, but had a nice little home with my girlfriend whom I could support easily, and no debts, a handful of great friends, etc. But I eventually left it after a few years to actually go to college and try and move into a proper career. I think when you're younger and basically invincible it's easy to sit back and enjoy the good times. But in the long-run, at least for the sake of me and my partner, I would choose the stability of a better career. If happiness in a low-rent job can be derived from good money management, I would say happiness in a professional stage of life can be derived from good social-currency management (in terms of both family and friends). Both are skills one must learn, the difference is one is more stable in its outcome and has reduced marginal costs. So as a rational person, I would choose the latter.
You still have a home/career divide- the only time you couldn't have one is if you were doing reality home TV and that is only half way without a divide. Are your family intimately involved in every part of Lindybeige the business? If not then there is a divide. The most successful UA-camrs have a big divide between family and work.
That, with all due respect, is bollocks. There's always overlap between one's private and professional life, and in a case like Lloyds that overlap is so great that it's barely worth considering them two different lives anymore. This idea of his family needing to be intimately involved in every part of his profession is also utterly nonsensical; even within one's private life, not everybody is involved at all, leave alone intimately, in every part (most people don't involve their family in a friends' night out for instance, or their friends in their love life), so if this doesn't even hold for one's entire private life, then why would it be a criterium for the true unity of one's private and professional lives?
I've been in the position where I've literally made the choice between successful career and private home life, and very easily took the home life. When my first child was on the way, I had a good many offers for acting gigs, but it would have meant living in a big city and basically devoting my life to theatrical pursuits. Instead I chose to move to the country and raise a family, and I've never regretted a second of it.
As someone who had their budding career ripped from them by illness (partially due to the career), professional failure can be a strong source of unhappiness. I am a hs dropout that went to college late. I have three healthy and intelligent children and my wife is about the best woman any man could dream of. She has stood by me when I barely got out of bed for months because of pain and we have always been poor. When I was unable to hold food down she still cooked me three meals a day. She is still standing by me through my waves of depression. I can't say for sure if it is so.e kind of psychological hangup or a product of my evolution but I am a very driven person, the type that sits and thinks of ways to move forward at night until I fall asleep and wake up to a cup of coffee with a tool in my hand. Feeling like a failure with no real hope of redemption can not make anyone happy. The positive side is that I am healthier now that I am on treatment and know how to better avoid the things that make it worse. I will never be healthy but I get to spend a lot of time with my children and do whatever projects I am capable of doing in the timeframe I am able. I would not trade my family for anything, even my health and career, because I know without my family any accomplishment would be completely meaningless
Try prostitution, I've heard that it's a ecstatic life style. And seeing as there are only 4 forms of happiness, Comfort, Fulfillment, Ecstasy and Joy, why not go with the most primal one, ecstasy, which can only be achieved during physical or mental stress. In this case it's positive stress. And seeing as how prostitution is the simplest way to get positive physical stress, and get paid for it, because I doubt that you can get good pay for the other methods of positive stress inducements.
I think these questions are not quite as stupid as they may seem. Speaking as a young professional in a reasonably good job, it's easy to get in from work each day and feel as though you don't have the energy for anything else. I climb and I swing dance, and I find that the evenings go by very quickly, so even when I'm quite tired from work, I find it's often worth spending the time and energy going to a climbing wall or to a social dance, because I know that I'll feel a lot more fulfilled if I go to these things, and spend time with people I like. Dating also takes a good amount of time and energy, but I make sure to make time for it, since I think this will improve my future happiness. Often doing all of this means I'm more tired than I otherwise would be at work, but I think I would prefer to be tired, but feel active in social areas of my life, than be well-rested but feel that I'm not doing very much outside of work
Lindybeige i have question for ya you know how in medival movies main character gives a great speech to army boosting they morale did that happend in real life or yust movies?
They do it in modern warfares in afghanistan, iraq etc. . But, maybe only because it is shown in Hollywood. I dont think a king gave a speech infront of his whole army tho. I mean without microfones only 1% would understand him anyways
I notice there are a lot of comments with " roots " in them. In English " route " is pronounced " root ". In Americanese it is wrongly pronounced "rowte " . Lindy is English so he pronounces it correctly.
Ah, I see. I was basing my assumption on some American holidaymakers who asked me for directions. They asked for the " rowt " to a nearby town. So it was an accent / state thing then. I understand. We have some strange accents here as well lol.
2:30 No. There are people with goals, which are not about their personal needs/ wishes. Maybe somebody wants to make a dynasty, or provide for somebody else, or even groups, or maybe they want to defend, or destroy something, for the sake of a group, maybe even humanity at whole. And there are of course the people who can't feel happiness, so their choice will be the other, more usefull successful profession. Oh, andother thing: You don't want money to have happiness, you actually want the safety money provides, possibly on a subconcious level.
I also have no private life/professional life divide, and I already have a tolerable and unexciting private life, which somehow lead me to put time and effort into my professional life, on which I depend anyway. So yeah, I'd rather have it very successful since I already focus on it, and this is where and how I feel I achieve something, which in return makes me more confident and daring, which is more likely to make me able to break the boringness of my private life, while providing me incomes and professional recognition.
This is a very poorly worded question, as seems to be a trend for this book from what videos I've seen. To imagine what the former entails, one must assume the job is either utterly trivial or something they despise. If it were professional success at business, as a doctor, or something that generally made a lot of money or had status, that would bring happiness. It must be assumed this option would be something like having professional success as a garbage man or cashier. Low paying, unenjoyable, low self-worth and purpose, and so on. And in this way, it's not even a real question.
That particular question introduces a logical fallacy (or more) and yet, I love the way you managed to answer it anyway. It always bothers me when people with an agenda ask a "loaded" question and try to suggest that if you can't answer it then you must be guilty of done dastardly soothing or other when really it just means that their mindset was to narrow to account for every possibility.
I feel like professional success does lead to personal happiness. Or, at least, a feeling that you belong in the world and are doing what you're supposed to be doing. I don't really know how I could be happy without somehow contributing to society (note how I even have to comment on things like UA-cam videos). Now, if by 'professional success' you mean 'making lots of money' then yeah that seems less important. But I see professional success as 'finding the job you would gladly do for the rest of your life, which will not be taken away from you before then', in which case success and happiness go hand-in-hand.
I would opt for the happy personal life and the tolerable working life. I chose that for the reason that I seem to have this already. I work nights as a security guard and I have enough time, almost 6 hours, between waking up and going to work. I have a night off a week. So this divide, in my eyes is pretty 50/50. I work enough hours to earn a fairly decent living yet have enough free time so I don't feel overworked. I have a girlfriend from the US (I'm English) who I've travelled to see and I get out enough to see friends and such so I'd say I'm happy in my personal life...
I think many people put more energy into their career because it makes them more able to care for the ones they love and care about. Spending time with those you care about is important but being able to pay for a surgery they need or food for them to survive is even more important if you really care about them. This is coming from an American who doesn't get so much aid from the government.
Would I trade professional success for private happiness, or the other way around. Hell, both of those are better than what I have now. I would take either. You think to much. You should ask me first. You are not getting them.
I believe those question are more of a rhetorical nature. They are designed for those people who did never really think about that and by reading that 'ridiculous' question realize they have had an error in their believe system all along...
My goal of course is to have a happy private life. I view a successful professional life as a means to an end to get a happy private life. In my private life I enjoy certain things like playing video games, going to HEMA classes, eating food, wearing clothes, and sleeping in a place that is insulated from the weather. And all of those things require money. My professional life is where I acquire the money I need to have a happy private life. And I would like, one day, to not have to work to survive or enjoy my hobbies anymore. But of course I am still going to need money when that day comes. So I put a a bit of the money I earn now into retirement plans such as mutual funds, social security, and a savings account.
One thing is for sure though. Having an unsuccessful professional life can lead to unhappiness. In the case of the stay at home mother, if she's constantly fighting to bring food on the table and is mainly unsuccessful in doing so, leading to her kids suffering, it's surely going to make her unhappy.
Something important to understand is that as humans, we require purpose, one of the fundamental identifiers for people with depression is joblessness or the possession of a job they do not wish to have. When we have no purpose, when there is no reason to get up in the morning and you have nothing to aspire to other than your serotonin/endorphins(Mood) levels, the reality is you'll become happy as a result of a purposeful life. You aren't going to be happy as a result of having money, I've known a lot of wealthy people in my life and they're probably the most miserable I've ever known. The same goes for having things, power or relationships, those things alone just aren't enough to drive people. The reality is we thrive of effect, we want to know we are helping each other, that we are benefiting our species - which makes a lot of sense, survival of your species comes before your own survival. You might wonder where to find that purpose, especially if your skillset or career seems isn't anything like Lindy's in which you could change the lives of others for the better. For that we have people like Jordan Peterson to remind us that we're changing the world whether we like it or not, for everyone of us, just by existing we roughly affect the lives of 1 million or more people due to the domino effect of interaction. So no matter what you do, you'll have an effect on the world, so you can change it for the better in whatever profession best suits you - assuming you can find it, which you can. That fear and assumption that only the greats get to do what they love is bullshit, it's spread by people who have given up on their lives and are now in frustration also trying to destroy yours. The possibilities for what any single person can do are limitless, we're discovering constantly that the limitations of our species are boundless and that there are very few things we cannot do. Though this isn't just down to hard work, it's through experimentation and self analysis that people their path. Everything we do is flawed, it's imperfect, it could be done better - it's fundamentally wrong in some way, so you need to find that problem and try to make it less so. Maybe the way you have been looking for work is flawed, maybe your definition of a job is flawed, perhaps the career you are chosen isn't whats meant for you. The way you are trying to learn could be flawed, it may be the wrong school, the wrong degree - maybe you don't even need a degree, most people in creative industries have never needed one themselves to do anything. I'll end this by saying it's 3 AM and this is how I deal with watching scary movies when I can't sleep. This information may be unreliable, so I'll end the post with something that is reliable. The point that you should always question what you are doing and assume that it can be done better, because it can and every time you check - at the very least you can affirm that it is the right way to go. Because it's only by checking that we can determine whether something is true or false.
The last part just after he smiles and says there are lots of roots to happiness you can just see the complete disappointment spilling off him I couldn't help but laugh
i dont think you need the hard coded subtitles, youtubes automatic subtitles work quite well most of the time. especially since you do a good job of enunciating every word. that said, its not that bad if you just do it for the books text.
I would say that professional life gets more of your effort because it's what your employer demands in exchange for the paycheck. Whereas typically even if there is someone demanding more of your effort/time from your personal life that someone is usually more forgiving and expects for the career to take up most of your efforts anyways.
Lindybeige, just found out I was accepted into the Teacher's Education program at my university. Since one day I hope to be a high school history teacher (in the States), maybe a video on the history of the good ol' USA?
to go for being happy as the life goal is very unwise in my opinion. first: happyness is a fleeting emotion not a constant condition. second it is nothing to the deep satisfaction that meaning gives to your life. and meaning can be achieved in quite a few ways (and yes it has to be achieved): family, work, learning/studying, actively contributing to a social community, aso. third persuing "happyness" often leads to stupid hedonism and quite the opposit outcome: the sense that something missing (aka meaning) and depression in the end. fourth some tragedy will inevitably happen in your life (loved ones dying, shit happening) being happy all the time doesn't work so well to build resilience to that. fifth being a fleeting emotion trying to stay happy stops you from achieving anything long term because that usually means at least some kind of effort that causes some level of discomfort. so you basically get stuck at achieving nothing remarkable because it yould be too demanding/disstressfull. go for meaning!
That with people working in education being less fertile... I agree, my girlfriend loved kids, wanted five of them, a year into working as a teacher she wanted just three, another year later and now she only wants two... Waiting till it drops to none
i think maybe the question is asking which you'd choose--professional success or a happy private life--if you weren't able to have both. It's actually kind of annoying when people try to find loopholes in "would you rather" questions.
Give me a computer with internet I can play games with and program on and food and I'll have a happy private and professional life. Of course this implies having a home to place the computer in and health to be able to enjoy it. ^_^
And this is what life will be like once A.I takes over all our responsibilities. Even games will be better. Modern games are limited by human time and skill etc. Imagine the depth and scale of the worlds an A.I can craft. People will practically BEG to be plugged into the matrix. And go mad if you try to pull them out.
Damian Reloaded also doesn’t answer the questipn because it didn’t say a happy work life it said a successful one, so having a computer you can program on has a surprisingly small amount to do with actually being successful.
Pretty much the same. Give me the basic necessities to live a somewhat comfortable life, a decent computer with the access to the internet and I'm going to be perfectly content with my life. And thankfully enough, this is what my life is right now. It won't stay that way for very long, but for now, it's bliss. :)
What about hobbies, interests, intellectual pursuits or something creative that you don't really plan on or marketing for money. Wouldn't these things count as a part of your private life?
I think that question is a lot more suitable for women age 35+ who have become miserable, has no partners, dislike their friends, and generally has depression due to choosing career over family. However in all other cases it is a pretty silly question. However I don't think it's a question that should be taken as literal as it is, I guess it's more of a moral compass question, and would been a lot better if it was rephrased. Is sacrificing your personal life worth to further your career? One gets a lot better and more interesting answers from that question.
I would choose success and tolerable happiness over happiness and tolerable success. Happiness isn't particularly important to me, but my aspirations are incredibly important. Particularly as they pertain to my children and the well-being of the society in which I live.
Whether work or private, it's possible for people to burn themselves out, that is to exhaust one's self. As long as the bills are paid with adequate funds left over, then the individual is free to choose their own priorities.
speaking as one who dosnt have a "work life", if the idea is that you had your "perfect job" and garunteed success id go with professional success, because the nature of my perfect job would also grant me a otherwise happy private life, whereas having a "happy private life" dosnt infer that i find a perfect love, and have ideal childeren although you could put a sick "monkeys paw" twist on the question where which ever you choose, nothing actually changes in your circumstances you just have a falsely bright outlook on things, are aware of it, and driven insane by the paradoxical farce
I don't really think there was any bad wording in the question, I read it as some interesting rhetorical questions to make you think, not actual questions to be answered literally
Because the majority of us are enslaved in debt,created by the current fiscal system,which rules the world,where we have a fiat currency system & aprivate central banks like Bank of England ,magicing monetary of thin air and charging us interest for it,ie we can never pay this debt system of, so we're caught in a perpetual cycle of over work. !
That fellow who wrote that question... I think I probably know what his answer would be. His bias is practically dripping from his follow-up questions.
"Since many people place great emphasis on a happy private life, why do people often wind up putting more energy into their professional lives?" That ones easy. At least where I live. Say that you have 20 hours per work week (4hrs per work day) where you have nothing better to do excep sit at the computer and watch youtube videos. You could spend those 20 hours at something personal like planning a party for the weekend. Of course you can't have a party every weekend so that only takes up one week. The next week maybe you decide to work a bit on some fullfilling hobby. Personally I hunt but if there is no game in season that I want to hunt at the moment it won't matter if I spend 20 hours doing that eventhough it might be an extremely personally satisfying hobby of mine. So instead I spend 4 extra hours at work every day. That means that I have 20 hours of overtime coming my way near the end of the month which means I could possibly buy that fancy new rifle I've been eyeing lately. Or I could take out those 20-40 hours (depending on what deal you have with your employer) as compensated leave during the next hunting season. So I think this part of the question is more about weather you seek instant gratification or if you can postpone gratification. I mean instead of spending extra time at work I could be sitting here watching Lindybeige that would be gratifying in the short term.
Private life obviously. But it's harder to achieve a great private life or at least for me it's 5 years or so away. Saving up for a house and then only going to work for half the year and the other half I will spend living off savings. Probably just keep doing that. For me being happy is simply spending time with my parents and siblings. I don't have a partner nor do I want one I'm far too pre occupied with the family I have now. That and lots of little hobbies.
You could be happy with work and at home. I will say that the definition of a check out clerk at a grocery store is just a job and not a career. Maybe that is as far as an individual has the ability to go. More than likely their experience would allow them to do other things in the store or even a higher step in the cashier group. All jobs need to be done, but when people vocalize criticism of that job as being dead end and thereby establishing the person who does the job as inferior hoping to make themselves superior, you end up with people hating their work because they feel people view them as inferior. Better to do your best at whatever job you do. Really a job is to provide financially for you and your family. I would have a hard time being a clerk in a grocery store. You would need to be efficient, quick but also be somewhat sociable and of course helpful. More power to the ones that can do it well. To me as a customer I care more about the quality of the check out clerk than the store accountant 's ability. The same with the person working on an automobile assembly line. The vice president of the factory does not assemble my car. But viewed in the eyes of most the vp and the accountant are considered to be superior positions.
"There are only so many flowers you can buy your wife before she becomes rather suspicious" Gold
thats wisdom.
3:38
says the english incel!
Ah, another episode of Lindy explaining why a question is a stupid question. I love this series.
Lindy's such a knowledgeable and down to earth dude. Would have a beer with him
I'm 17 so I would play a rpg with him.
Im 69 so Ill ask him to paint the garage.
Until you're talking about Climate Change^^
gringhidu gehtdichnichtsangoogle LOL
gringhidu gehtdichnichtsangoogle
Lol
Did you just say "bonk"?
Give me a happy home. No head stone ever said "Wished I had worked more."
Ooh boy waking up and seeing a video for Lindy is an awesome start
Hey qt, do you have IG or fb or something? :3
By watching so many of your videos I feel this one-way connection with you.
This connection naturally makes me wonder how your everyday off camera life looks like and if you are happy.
I hope you are happy Lloyd.
That wasn't a question, it was the preface to a sermon.
I think Lloyd that by the time you get to the 3 figure questions,you'll be pulling your hair out at their inanity
Personally, for me; I take a lot of pride and passion in my work (Working as a craftsman at the shop making custom hearthpads for fire places and pellet stoves) and many times, I'll work through my lunch, go in early and leave late because I just love it. As such, this also carries into my personal life because I go home tired, sore, dirty, and have my head held high because I know I put in a days of hard, honest work for honest pay. I may be a "rarity" but I personally love what I do, and it makes me happy when I get home.
Either option would be a hell of an upgrade for me.
Private life is king.
However i need to put majority of my efforts into work as i am poor.
I like working, but i know from my life that i need to put significant effort into raising my kids, thus time.
this way they might have a better chance than i did.
"What is having a really good private life?"
"Cooking a really good omelette,"
Man how are you not a history professor? So many kids could benefit from your exuberance and enthusiasm.
Because jobs pay money and we need that to do things. Its that simple.
finally someone who gets it.
if you have medium success at your job and a medium personal life, where would you invest more time and energy?
a medium personal life can totally be enough and having a better one might feel a bit better, but it will never pay your bills. more success in your career will immediately translate to more money and therefore safety. that to many people is a good substitute for personal happiness.
Archon Katiara Blackdawn Let’s abolish money :)
Tyler i mean i am open for this shit, but nowadays it is too practical. what would you replace it with? digital credits? communism with food tickets and so on?
it is alright to be edgy or even a rebel, but at least come up with a better idea. saying no to things is easy, anyone can do that. whenever you say no to something say yes to something else that will replace it for example
Onetwo Threefour Read the damn bread book
Tyler no i fucking wont
why i even would i
Some of the brightest people I've known were so absorbed in their chosen pursuits, they had absolutely no interest a "career". One PhD in a cutting edge technology who chose to be a postman comes to mind. He spent all his free time thinking about his intellectual preoccupations, with little desire to monetise them. Unfortunately many of the jobs that supported people with those lifestyles, and the affordable accommodation that made them possible, have disappeared to be replaced by career-lite job structures.
There was a time when one could be a postman/woman or a warehouseman or whatever, and so long as you fulfilled the task allocated to you efficiently, your employer had no interest in professionalising your role or impinging upon your own time. Now, people operating supermarket checkouts often have career incentives dangled before them. OTOH I've known highly successful individuals with next to no imagination, who'd have been completely lost if their jobs were taken away. It was literally all they had financially, personally and as a way of filling their time. It takes all sorts.
Being happy is a success.
6:53 50,000 crowds? Assuming each crowd has 50,000 people, that's 2.5 billion people - that's one hell of a rock star!
Money brings happiness with it.No matter how much you want to argue about it,it's true.
It depends on how much money you have. You need a certain minimum amount of money to be secure and comfortable. Until you achieve that career is more important. After that happiness is more important.
This was a great example of a question revealing more about the author of it than intended...
When you are rewatching his old videos and then he uploads new content, thank you.
Is that jumper backwards?
idk but it bothers me
stuart cole no.
Kasi Mndfck how do you know?
stuart cole I think the kind of knitting is traditional, the 'collar' is a straight one, not round as mostly seen... It's perfectly fine 😻
Knitted jumpers tend to have visible seams on both sides.
The key is to find a career which you enjoy so much, and get along so well with your colleagues that it effectively is your personal life; then you get money as well as happiness/fulfilment/allthatstuff
Tom Stafford That's easy to say.
There's four of us here... so....
Da Komrade! I'm Sure The Percentage Is Higher Than That.. Even If You Lowball It
But for a fully satisfying working life, you shouldn't be *just* tolerating people.
Maybe if you weren't such a coward and made an effort, you'd actually find people worth working with. I have and many others have as well, though perhaps the problem could be you - maybe you just scare away all the good people away with that cynicism of yours.
Lloyd I’m a little disappointed in you. Why wasn’t your gambeson at fight camp beige?
But you more than made up for it by saying Bonk.
Either that was a look-alike or Lindy took a step on a slippery slope. White gambeson today, tomorrow we might find him saying the French are people too!!! Very worried about him indeed!
I already dread the day we will hear Lloyd say that katanas are great.
I mean they are
Jazza Beardedbjorn according to Matt Lloyd tried to find a beige on and is now trying to dye that one.
Alistair Shaw I know man, I was the one Matt replied to. I’m just taking the piss.
Dayum, of all the questions so far this one is definitely the most one-sidedly loaded.
Lloyd, the part about success leading to happiness. Some people believe that they can only be happy with wealth, success and or power. So some would answer yes to the magically make them happy bit.
In today's society MOST people have to work hard in early life to earn enough for supporting a family with home and expenses. Hopefully saving enough to live on comfortably after retirement...
The weird thing about this question to me is more that though I enjoy work family and friends, I've worked hard to learn to generate my own happiness. If I relied on those things as my only source of happiness I'd give up what makes me most happy.
“Happiness definitely makes you happy” - love it hehehehe
I think time preference comes into it at a point: I used to work a pretty low rent job, but had a nice little home with my girlfriend whom I could support easily, and no debts, a handful of great friends, etc. But I eventually left it after a few years to actually go to college and try and move into a proper career. I think when you're younger and basically invincible it's easy to sit back and enjoy the good times. But in the long-run, at least for the sake of me and my partner, I would choose the stability of a better career. If happiness in a low-rent job can be derived from good money management, I would say happiness in a professional stage of life can be derived from good social-currency management (in terms of both family and friends). Both are skills one must learn, the difference is one is more stable in its outcome and has reduced marginal costs. So as a rational person, I would choose the latter.
Brilliant discussion as airways. Keep it up.
You still have a home/career divide- the only time you couldn't have one is if you were doing reality home TV and that is only half way without a divide. Are your family intimately involved in every part of Lindybeige the business? If not then there is a divide. The most successful UA-camrs have a big divide between family and work.
That, with all due respect, is bollocks. There's always overlap between one's private and professional life, and in a case like Lloyds that overlap is so great that it's barely worth considering them two different lives anymore. This idea of his family needing to be intimately involved in every part of his profession is also utterly nonsensical; even within one's private life, not everybody is involved at all, leave alone intimately, in every part (most people don't involve their family in a friends' night out for instance, or their friends in their love life), so if this doesn't even hold for one's entire private life, then why would it be a criterium for the true unity of one's private and professional lives?
I've been in the position where I've literally made the choice between successful career and private home life, and very easily took the home life. When my first child was on the way, I had a good many offers for acting gigs, but it would have meant living in a big city and basically devoting my life to theatrical pursuits. Instead I chose to move to the country and raise a family, and I've never regretted a second of it.
The video started buffering at 0:42, and I’m just facepalming during this time. *EVERY. FLIPPING. VIDEO. LLOYD.*
As someone who had their budding career ripped from them by illness (partially due to the career), professional failure can be a strong source of unhappiness. I am a hs dropout that went to college late. I have three healthy and intelligent children and my wife is about the best woman any man could dream of. She has stood by me when I barely got out of bed for months because of pain and we have always been poor. When I was unable to hold food down she still cooked me three meals a day. She is still standing by me through my waves of depression. I can't say for sure if it is so.e kind of psychological hangup or a product of my evolution but I am a very driven person, the type that sits and thinks of ways to move forward at night until I fall asleep and wake up to a cup of coffee with a tool in my hand. Feeling like a failure with no real hope of redemption can not make anyone happy. The positive side is that I am healthier now that I am on treatment and know how to better avoid the things that make it worse. I will never be healthy but I get to spend a lot of time with my children and do whatever projects I am capable of doing in the timeframe I am able. I would not trade my family for anything, even my health and career, because I know without my family any accomplishment would be completely meaningless
Most ot the time you cant have neither. Enjoy it if you have one of those.
There are lots of roots to happiness but I can find none
Try prostitution, I've heard that it's a ecstatic life style. And seeing as there are only 4 forms of happiness, Comfort, Fulfillment, Ecstasy and Joy, why not go with the most primal one, ecstasy, which can only be achieved during physical or mental stress. In this case it's positive stress. And seeing as how prostitution is the simplest way to get positive physical stress, and get paid for it, because I doubt that you can get good pay for the other methods of positive stress inducements.
Make you own DIY root!
Both are cool ideas. I'll try the second one first and if I fail prostitution it is then
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sudo happy --be
I think these questions are not quite as stupid as they may seem. Speaking as a young professional in a reasonably good job, it's easy to get in from work each day and feel as though you don't have the energy for anything else. I climb and I swing dance, and I find that the evenings go by very quickly, so even when I'm quite tired from work, I find it's often worth spending the time and energy going to a climbing wall or to a social dance, because I know that I'll feel a lot more fulfilled if I go to these things, and spend time with people I like. Dating also takes a good amount of time and energy, but I make sure to make time for it, since I think this will improve my future happiness. Often doing all of this means I'm more tired than I otherwise would be at work, but I think I would prefer to be tired, but feel active in social areas of my life, than be well-rested but feel that I'm not doing very much outside of work
Lindybeige i have question for ya you know how in medival movies main character gives a great speech to army boosting they morale did that happend in real life or yust movies?
They do it in modern warfares in afghanistan, iraq etc. . But, maybe only because it is shown in Hollywood. I dont think a king gave a speech infront of his whole army tho. I mean without microfones only 1% would understand him anyways
@@thomasawdffaw123 what if there was an echo or something so his voice would be heard realy far like mountouns terrain
@@cookikingcooki3366 maybe that would work. But then again, usually medival battles weren't in mountainous areas
@@thomasawdffaw123 i would make my army climb a mountain yust so they can hear my speach
The question got really critical at the end
As an Aussie, I completely agree with the statement 'there are lots of roots to happiness'.
I notice there are a lot of comments with " roots " in them. In English " route " is pronounced " root ". In Americanese it is wrongly pronounced "rowte " . Lindy is English so he pronounces it correctly.
It's pronounced "root" by Americans too, it's just that there are different American accents, where people may also say "Rowt"
True. Example: we say "root 66" not "rowt 66". Never heard anyone say "rowt 66".
Ah, I see. I was basing my assumption on some American holidaymakers who asked me for directions. They asked for the " rowt " to a nearby town. So it was an accent / state thing then. I understand. We have some strange accents here as well lol.
2:30 No. There are people with goals, which are not about their personal needs/ wishes. Maybe somebody wants to make a dynasty, or provide for somebody else, or even groups, or maybe they want to defend, or destroy something, for the sake of a group, maybe even humanity at whole.
And there are of course the people who can't feel happiness, so their choice will be the other, more usefull successful profession.
Oh, andother thing: You don't want money to have happiness, you actually want the safety money provides, possibly on a subconcious level.
A tolerable professional life would be an upgrade. So would being privately happy. So that one.
I also have no private life/professional life divide, and I already have a tolerable and unexciting private life, which somehow lead me to put time and effort into my professional life, on which I depend anyway. So yeah, I'd rather have it very successful since I already focus on it, and this is where and how I feel I achieve something, which in return makes me more confident and daring, which is more likely to make me able to break the boringness of my private life, while providing me incomes and professional recognition.
This is a very poorly worded question, as seems to be a trend for this book from what videos I've seen.
To imagine what the former entails, one must assume the job is either utterly trivial or something they despise. If it were professional success at business, as a doctor, or something that generally made a lot of money or had status, that would bring happiness. It must be assumed this option would be something like having professional success as a garbage man or cashier. Low paying, unenjoyable, low self-worth and purpose, and so on. And in this way, it's not even a real question.
You know, has my sense of humour changed, or has he just gotten funnier?
A brood of kids is a phrase I will definitely use in the future.
No person's child ever said of their parent at said parent's funeral "I wish they spent more time at work."
That particular question introduces a logical fallacy (or more) and yet, I love the way you managed to answer it anyway. It always bothers me when people with an agenda ask a "loaded" question and try to suggest that if you can't answer it then you must be guilty of done dastardly soothing or other when really it just means that their mindset was to narrow to account for every possibility.
Uh oh "youtube has taken over my life!" It is a cry for help, send beige life-rafts. Lindy is being held hostage we must save him.
I feel like professional success does lead to personal happiness. Or, at least, a feeling that you belong in the world and are doing what you're supposed to be doing. I don't really know how I could be happy without somehow contributing to society (note how I even have to comment on things like UA-cam videos). Now, if by 'professional success' you mean 'making lots of money' then yeah that seems less important. But I see professional success as 'finding the job you would gladly do for the rest of your life, which will not be taken away from you before then', in which case success and happiness go hand-in-hand.
nice to see you in other side of youtube
I would opt for the happy personal life and the tolerable working life. I chose that for the reason that I seem to have this already. I work nights as a security guard and I have enough time, almost 6 hours, between waking up and going to work. I have a night off a week. So this divide, in my eyes is pretty 50/50. I work enough hours to earn a fairly decent living yet have enough free time so I don't feel overworked. I have a girlfriend from the US (I'm English) who I've travelled to see and I get out enough to see friends and such so I'd say I'm happy in my personal life...
Bonk!?
It's like table tennis, but with slightly smaller balls.
Or like baseball with a smaller bat.
I was amused that Lloyd's streram of consciousness led him to that point and that BONK was the word that came out. Childish I know.
I think many people put more energy into their career because it makes them more able to care for the ones they love and care about. Spending time with those you care about is important but being able to pay for a surgery they need or food for them to survive is even more important if you really care about them. This is coming from an American who doesn't get so much aid from the government.
Would I trade professional success for private happiness, or the other way around. Hell, both of those are better than what I have now. I would take either. You think to much. You should ask me first. You are not getting them.
I believe those question are more of a rhetorical nature. They are designed for those people who did never really think about that and by reading that 'ridiculous' question realize they have had an error in their believe system all along...
Lindybeige deconstructs the private/professional dichotomy
My goal of course is to have a happy private life. I view a successful professional life as a means to an end to get a happy private life. In my private life I enjoy certain things like playing video games, going to HEMA classes, eating food, wearing clothes, and sleeping in a place that is insulated from the weather. And all of those things require money. My professional life is where I acquire the money I need to have a happy private life.
And I would like, one day, to not have to work to survive or enjoy my hobbies anymore. But of course I am still going to need money when that day comes. So I put a a bit of the money I earn now into retirement plans such as mutual funds, social security, and a savings account.
One thing is for sure though. Having an unsuccessful professional life can lead to unhappiness.
In the case of the stay at home mother, if she's constantly fighting to bring food on the table and is mainly unsuccessful in doing so, leading to her kids suffering, it's surely going to make her unhappy.
Something important to understand is that as humans, we require purpose, one of the fundamental identifiers for people with depression is joblessness or the possession of a job they do not wish to have. When we have no purpose, when there is no reason to get up in the morning and you have nothing to aspire to other than your serotonin/endorphins(Mood) levels, the reality is you'll become happy as a result of a purposeful life.
You aren't going to be happy as a result of having money, I've known a lot of wealthy people in my life and they're probably the most miserable I've ever known. The same goes for having things, power or relationships, those things alone just aren't enough to drive people. The reality is we thrive of effect, we want to know we are helping each other, that we are benefiting our species - which makes a lot of sense, survival of your species comes before your own survival.
You might wonder where to find that purpose, especially if your skillset or career seems isn't anything like Lindy's in which you could change the lives of others for the better. For that we have people like Jordan Peterson to remind us that we're changing the world whether we like it or not, for everyone of us, just by existing we roughly affect the lives of 1 million or more people due to the domino effect of interaction. So no matter what you do, you'll have an effect on the world, so you can change it for the better in whatever profession best suits you - assuming you can find it, which you can. That fear and assumption that only the greats get to do what they love is bullshit, it's spread by people who have given up on their lives and are now in frustration also trying to destroy yours.
The possibilities for what any single person can do are limitless, we're discovering constantly that the limitations of our species are boundless and that there are very few things we cannot do. Though this isn't just down to hard work, it's through experimentation and self analysis that people their path. Everything we do is flawed, it's imperfect, it could be done better - it's fundamentally wrong in some way, so you need to find that problem and try to make it less so. Maybe the way you have been looking for work is flawed, maybe your definition of a job is flawed, perhaps the career you are chosen isn't whats meant for you. The way you are trying to learn could be flawed, it may be the wrong school, the wrong degree - maybe you don't even need a degree, most people in creative industries have never needed one themselves to do anything.
I'll end this by saying it's 3 AM and this is how I deal with watching scary movies when I can't sleep. This information may be unreliable, so I'll end the post with something that is reliable. The point that you should always question what you are doing and assume that it can be done better, because it can and every time you check - at the very least you can affirm that it is the right way to go. Because it's only by checking that we can determine whether something is true or false.
What is the difference between happiness and contentment?
The last part just after he smiles and says there are lots of roots to happiness you can just see the complete disappointment spilling off him I couldn't help but laugh
i dont think you need the hard coded subtitles, youtubes automatic subtitles work quite well most of the time. especially since you do a good job of enunciating every word.
that said, its not that bad if you just do it for the books text.
The guy figures out a philosophical sentence for his conclusion in half a second.
I would say that professional life gets more of your effort because it's what your employer demands in exchange for the paycheck. Whereas typically even if there is someone demanding more of your effort/time from your personal life that someone is usually more forgiving and expects for the career to take up most of your efforts anyways.
I would quite undoubtably go for the financially advantageous position. Here, even if i'm not happy I am in a better position to make others happy.
These are very loaded questions. I wonder if the person writing it was aware how much of their opinions made it into the question.
Lindybeige, just found out I was accepted into the Teacher's Education program at my university. Since one day I hope to be a high school history teacher (in the States), maybe a video on the history of the good ol' USA?
to go for being happy as the life goal is very unwise in my opinion. first: happyness is a fleeting emotion not a constant condition. second it is nothing to the deep satisfaction that meaning gives to your life. and meaning can be achieved in quite a few ways (and yes it has to be achieved): family, work, learning/studying, actively contributing to a social community, aso. third persuing "happyness" often leads to stupid hedonism and quite the opposit outcome: the sense that something missing (aka meaning) and depression in the end. fourth some tragedy will inevitably happen in your life (loved ones dying, shit happening) being happy all the time doesn't work so well to build resilience to that. fifth being a fleeting emotion trying to stay happy stops you from achieving anything long term because that usually means at least some kind of effort that causes some level of discomfort. so you basically get stuck at achieving nothing remarkable because it yould be too demanding/disstressfull.
go for meaning!
That with people working in education being less fertile... I agree, my girlfriend loved kids, wanted five of them, a year into working as a teacher she wanted just three, another year later and now she only wants two... Waiting till it drops to none
Happiness definitely makes you happy! - Lindybeige, 2017
i think maybe the question is asking which you'd choose--professional success or a happy private life--if you weren't able to have both. It's actually kind of annoying when people try to find loopholes in "would you rather" questions.
Answered in exactly the way I would have answered.
Give me a computer with internet I can play games with and program on and food and I'll have a happy private and professional life. Of course this implies having a home to place the computer in and health to be able to enjoy it. ^_^
sir, you know what life is all about.
And this is what life will be like once A.I takes over all our responsibilities.
Even games will be better.
Modern games are limited by human time and skill etc. Imagine the depth and scale of the worlds an A.I can craft.
People will practically BEG to be plugged into the matrix. And go mad if you try to pull them out.
Damian Reloaded also doesn’t answer the questipn because it didn’t say a happy work life it said a successful one, so having a computer you can program on has a surprisingly small amount to do with actually being successful.
What about water and oxygen?
You'd think those two would be in high demand.
Pretty much the same. Give me the basic necessities to live a somewhat comfortable life, a decent computer with the access to the internet and I'm going to be perfectly content with my life. And thankfully enough, this is what my life is right now. It won't stay that way for very long, but for now, it's bliss. :)
What about hobbies, interests, intellectual pursuits or something creative that you don't really plan on or marketing for money. Wouldn't these things count as a part of your private life?
I think that question is a lot more suitable for women age 35+ who have become miserable, has no partners, dislike their friends, and generally has depression due to choosing career over family.
However in all other cases it is a pretty silly question.
However I don't think it's a question that should be taken as literal as it is, I guess it's more of a moral compass question, and would been a lot better if it was rephrased.
Is sacrificing your personal life worth to further your career? One gets a lot better and more interesting answers from that question.
I would choose success and tolerable happiness over happiness and tolerable success. Happiness isn't particularly important to me, but my aspirations are incredibly important. Particularly as they pertain to my children and the well-being of the society in which I live.
Would you consider doing a similar series for Richard Herrings emergency questions book?
Question was success or happiness.... ends up talking about fertility
I do no work, I have no life. Perfect balance
Whether work or private, it's possible for people to burn themselves out, that is to exhaust one's self. As long as the bills are paid with adequate funds left over, then the individual is free to choose their own priorities.
That end... do you want to talk?..
speaking as one who dosnt have a "work life", if the idea is that you had your "perfect job" and garunteed success
id go with professional success, because the nature of my perfect job would also grant me
a otherwise happy private life,
whereas having a "happy private life" dosnt infer that i find a perfect love, and have ideal childeren
although you could put a sick "monkeys paw" twist on the question
where which ever you choose, nothing actually changes in your circumstances
you just have a falsely bright outlook on things, are aware of it, and driven insane by the paradoxical farce
You totally knicked that book from the sauna
I don't really think there was any bad wording in the question, I read it as some interesting rhetorical questions to make you think, not actual questions to be answered literally
Lloyd dodges the question part 14.
Because the majority of us are enslaved in debt,created by the current fiscal system,which rules the world,where we have a fiat currency system & aprivate central banks like Bank of England ,magicing monetary of thin air and charging us interest for it,ie we can never pay this debt system of, so we're caught in a perpetual cycle of over work. !
That fellow who wrote that question... I think I probably know what his answer would be. His bias is practically dripping from his follow-up questions.
"Since many people place great emphasis on a happy private life, why do people often wind up putting more energy into their professional lives?"
That ones easy. At least where I live. Say that you have 20 hours per work week (4hrs per work day) where you have nothing better to do excep sit at the computer and watch youtube videos. You could spend those 20 hours at something personal like planning a party for the weekend. Of course you can't have a party every weekend so that only takes up one week. The next week maybe you decide to work a bit on some fullfilling hobby. Personally I hunt but if there is no game in season that I want to hunt at the moment it won't matter if I spend 20 hours doing that eventhough it might be an extremely personally satisfying hobby of mine.
So instead I spend 4 extra hours at work every day. That means that I have 20 hours of overtime coming my way near the end of the month which means I could possibly buy that fancy new rifle I've been eyeing lately. Or I could take out those 20-40 hours (depending on what deal you have with your employer) as compensated leave during the next hunting season. So I think this part of the question is more about weather you seek instant gratification or if you can postpone gratification. I mean instead of spending extra time at work I could be sitting here watching Lindybeige that would be gratifying in the short term.
Private life obviously. But it's harder to achieve a great private life or at least for me it's 5 years or so away. Saving up for a house and then only going to work for half the year and the other half I will spend living off savings. Probably just keep doing that. For me being happy is simply spending time with my parents and siblings. I don't have a partner nor do I want one I'm far too pre occupied with the family I have now. That and lots of little hobbies.
Eating, having a home to go to and being warm is good. The rest is a bonus 😊
Extrapolating.... Q217 will be uploaded on Sep 7, 2027
You could be happy with work and at home. I will say that the definition of a check out clerk at a grocery store is just a job and not a career. Maybe that is as far as an individual has the ability to go. More than likely their experience would allow them to do other things in the store or even a higher step in the cashier group. All jobs need to be done, but when people vocalize criticism of that job as being dead end and thereby establishing the person who does the job as inferior hoping to make themselves superior, you end up with people hating their work because they feel people view them as inferior. Better to do your best at whatever job you do. Really a job is to provide financially for you and your family. I would have a hard time being a clerk in a grocery store. You would need to be efficient, quick but also be somewhat sociable and of course helpful. More power to the ones that can do it well. To me as a customer I care more about the quality of the check out clerk than the store accountant 's ability. The same with the person working on an automobile assembly line. The vice president of the factory does not assemble my car. But viewed in the eyes of most the vp and the accountant are considered to be superior positions.
I'm pretty sure they assume their audience is composed purely of workaholics who need a bit of a sermon on the joys of family life.
"...but there are only so many flowers you can buy your wife before she become rather suspicious" This! (personal experience).
i think that there's some ideological bias in that question
peace (from the UK)
Good point - what does person want to be happ.