EP.35 PART 1 of Thandeka on surviving being buried alive and life from one abusive relationship to.

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  • @BokangMphohla-yw7xr
    @BokangMphohla-yw7xr 5 місяців тому +100

    The minute she says "yoooooo" I know it's going down and it hurts
    The giggle says it all
    May God restore her❤

    • @sarariet-o8y
      @sarariet-o8y 5 місяців тому +2

      What l can only say is wow..wow..wow..l am lost for words..what us women go through in this life..Lord have mercy on us 😮😮😮😮.l pray that you really heal my lady.😢😢

  • @favour664
    @favour664 5 місяців тому +22

    Sis Thandeka, you will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. You are a living testimony❤❣

  • @tshepishoselepe6514
    @tshepishoselepe6514 5 місяців тому +78

    She unpacked her story so well that madam speaker didn’t have questions after each and every scenario. What a smart woman ,I could listen to her the whole day

  • @itumelengmaloka3177
    @itumelengmaloka3177 5 місяців тому +31

    I’m watching this interview and I get teary 😢. To think I’ve met you few times and you always have this beautiful smile not knowing what you’ve been through 💔. Love and light sis Thandeka 🕯️❤️.

  • @gugusegwabanyane5524
    @gugusegwabanyane5524 5 місяців тому +46

    The pain behind the nervous giggles can’t be unmasked. May God restore all you’ve lost sisi. Your story is too painful

  • @Cassandra-nn2os
    @Cassandra-nn2os 4 місяці тому +11

    A true definition of a Goddess. ❤❤❤❤Sending lots of love and light to Sis Thandeka. I love how she acknowledges her pain and how it affected her children and most importantly, the fact that she acted on it. 100% beautiful to hear about where she's at right now. More than anything I'm glad she chose herself and her kids at the end of the day. That's all that matters.

  • @kutloanomolumo1115
    @kutloanomolumo1115 5 місяців тому +53

    We need a part 2 please, she narrates her story so well. Love and healing mama!🥰

    • @claytonny78
      @claytonny78 2 місяці тому

      What else do you want to hear?

  • @Tshegomlp
    @Tshegomlp 5 місяців тому +59

    I didn't think I'd finish this video because it was triggering at first BUT I noticed how Sis Thandeka tried to make it easier to digest with her nervous giggle(she understands her lived experiences may be too much for others to hear). With all that she's been through, I was relieved to hear that she persevered!
    I don't believe that what she went through was because of God but God took what was meant to kill her for good! Aus'Thandeka is an amazing story-teller(I could picture every part). Beyond the work that she now does I think she should write a book, and that that book should be made into a theatre play or a film🤞🏽she's such an inspiration

    • @ntandokazi5587
      @ntandokazi5587 5 місяців тому

      She’s good
      She knows how to regulate herself and I commend her for that. ESP coming from such an abusive background

    • @louisagilika3060
      @louisagilika3060 4 місяці тому

      Absolutely ❤❤❤ I thought I would breakdown instead I'm deeply moved, motivated and mesmerised by this amazing woman called Thandeka. Awaiting part 2. 1:17:18

  • @nickypieters5278
    @nickypieters5278 5 місяців тому +68

    Holy Spirit please comfort her. We thank you Jesus for the healing within and upon her, amen

  • @keepitfrankwithfentse
    @keepitfrankwithfentse 5 місяців тому +28

    As someone who lost her parents by the time I was 13. I am sooooo grateful for my extended family...both sides (mom and dads side) really made sure I was taken care of....Not once did I feel unsafe. Today Im married with kids and my husband takes care of me...I wish this lady had someone to look after her in her time of need. She has been through more than ANY person can bear. I hope she can find healing one day.

    • @PhumieD
      @PhumieD 4 місяці тому +3

      It's so painful because the Thandekas biological mother was alive and aware if the problem. Heel my sister may the good Lord give you strength.

    • @a.dlamini
      @a.dlamini 2 місяці тому

      Yo. Exactly what I was thinking about. I lost my mom at the age of 8, my oldest sister raised us. I am so grateful.

  • @leratosebetoane8333
    @leratosebetoane8333 5 місяців тому +19

    Oooh the strength she carries is unmatched ❤.May God continue holding in the palm of his hands. Sis Thandeka is beautiful and im glad she no longer needs the validation. 🎉🎉

  • @florahngulube3544
    @florahngulube3544 5 місяців тому +8

    A very touching story,l pray God ushers a new blessed prosperous life to Thandeka as God promised to turn whatever the devil meant for evil,for God to turn it to her good.

  • @Iam_Nelisa
    @Iam_Nelisa 4 місяці тому +3

    Perseverance’s ability to just sit and listen is commendable! What a blessed skill to have. Bless her!

  • @thokogqiba4683
    @thokogqiba4683 5 місяців тому +7

    Thandeka your resilience is amazing❤ your story is healing a lot of people.
    Keep sharing Queen. In spite of your childhood trauma you have good qualities of strength. You're an amazing hardworker and very creative.
    Much respect and love for you dear sister❤

  • @boldkoatala
    @boldkoatala 5 місяців тому +15

    Most of this show I've cried,as woman we must stop being each other's enemies we must rather support each other.this woman went through alot n i wish the abuser's can realize how deep the wounds go.the woman still remember everything that happened while she was still young in details.she went through hell n back.may God give her strength n courage she needs in life

  • @lettienahole
    @lettienahole 5 місяців тому +18

    Yoh yoh. This world is cruel especially for women. Love and light to Sis Thandeka.

  • @Tshegofatsomaleka_m
    @Tshegofatsomaleka_m 5 місяців тому +11

    I watched your video and I want you to know how deeply moved I am by your strength and courage in sharing your story. It takes incredible bravery to open up about such painful experiences, and your willingness to speak out is truly inspiring.
    I am so sorry for the pain and suffering you have endured. No one deserves to go through what you've experienced, and I admire your resilience in moving forward despite the challenges. Your journey is a testament to your strength and determination.
    Please remember that you are not alone. There are people who care about you and want to support you on your healing journey. If there's anything I can do to help or if you ever need someone to listen, please don't hesitate to reach out.
    You deserve love, safety, and happiness in your life, and I believe in your ability to find peace and healing. Take care of yourself and know that brighter days are ahead.
    Sending you strength and solidarity❤

    • @hlengiwemathenjwa1371
      @hlengiwemathenjwa1371 5 місяців тому +1

      How I sooooo wish too I could help her in any manner I could have but may God bless her

  • @patienceikombele9161
    @patienceikombele9161 5 місяців тому +197

    How much more can a one person take 😢😢😢😢 No maan this is too my much. This woman never had peace. This is a reality of many girls who were born in the 70s and early 80s.

    • @tshilidzisengani8667
      @tshilidzisengani8667 5 місяців тому +6

      And it's painful as hell 😢😢😢😢😢

    • @mamolewamodiba9159
      @mamolewamodiba9159 5 місяців тому +8

      It’s a very sad 😢 experience that Thandeka went through however I don’t believe that what she went through was experienced by those born in the 70s 80s or whatever. I was born in the 70s and I’m watching this with shock😳😳😳 our childhood experiences are different

    • @Nabolanga
      @Nabolanga 5 місяців тому +7

      Born in '87, and you're absolutely right -our parents' generation was rotten. Sad thing is WE look like the bad people for telling the stories. I don't know what they put in their water🤷🏾

    • @nosisamasiza683
      @nosisamasiza683 5 місяців тому

      😮​@@mamolewamodiba9159

    • @dorahmokete218
      @dorahmokete218 5 місяців тому +1

      U are correct im born in 83 i had to fend for myself as if my mom wasnot there ,parents in tose years were something else,not caring at all ,but that experience made me strong and a better Mom,i thank god every day😢​@@Nabolanga

  • @mariamasetloa6272
    @mariamasetloa6272 5 місяців тому +77

    She hides pain 😢 😭 😔 💔 😞 with laughter 😢😢😢

    • @winniemaduna
      @winniemaduna 5 місяців тому +7

      I also noticed dt as well and it broke my heart 💔

    • @marthamotuba3825
      @marthamotuba3825 5 місяців тому +4

      Jaaaaa😢 IT Hurts So BAD💔🙈😭But 🎉God is GOOD All the Times 💃💕💅 LOVE you Deary ❤️

    • @ntombicebekhulu1989
      @ntombicebekhulu1989 5 місяців тому +8

      umama failed her big time,Nkosi kanti mele izingane zethu zibalekele kuphi uma thina omama asibanakekeli

    • @kwandiennkosazanaentleelun7515
      @kwandiennkosazanaentleelun7515 4 місяці тому +3

      She’s really hiding her pain with laughter 😢wow I’ve learnt to never judge a person cause we don’t know what they have been through… May God continue to comfort her I’ve realised once you get rapped it keeps following the person.
      May she be healed in Jesus names

    • @takalanisinthumule7338
      @takalanisinthumule7338 4 місяці тому

      Thats what i and hubby do ,it shows she is a good person

  • @blessingsgcaba9445
    @blessingsgcaba9445 4 місяці тому +18

    The brain blocking everything, that's why she forgot everything 😢it's unfortunate but the brain was protecting her from her trauma😭

  • @MahlogonoloSebola
    @MahlogonoloSebola 5 місяців тому +62

    Just when you thought you've went though alot then you listen to other people's stories and you get to understand that actually you haven't been through anything
    People have bigger issues😭😭💔

  • @preciouszondi7164
    @preciouszondi7164 4 місяці тому +5

    Wow I'm speechless I know her and she is an angel on earth there is no way I could have known she survived so many things. Keep striving sisi you are a true reflection of a person walking the walk with the most high. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @drkhanyarajuili4753
    @drkhanyarajuili4753 4 місяці тому +4

    It's amazing how trauma duplicates itself in people who experienced it. I salute your guest to have conquered and able to share

  • @SeabiTshabalala
    @SeabiTshabalala 4 місяці тому +8

    Can we all pls come gather here and cry our lungs out...aa man this is too much. Father God pls forgive me for being ungrateful 🙏...my sister I love you and God loves you more 😘💝

  • @sharonmaluleke4618
    @sharonmaluleke4618 5 місяців тому +20

    God, how can one person go through soo much alone 😭😭😭😭😭 Yhoooo this is painful, I wish to hug her now

  • @VusiMazibuko-q8o
    @VusiMazibuko-q8o 4 місяці тому +4

    This is too much I salute her and I think she's an earth Angel.

  • @winniemaduna
    @winniemaduna 5 місяців тому +74

    I wish i could hug usisi 😭she has bn through a lot

    • @LilianMajeke
      @LilianMajeke 5 місяців тому +1

      I can attest to that 😢ijoh that's me hugging her in my mind and heart she's been through the most😢❤

  • @katienkhwashu
    @katienkhwashu 5 місяців тому +13

    She's the best narrator i ever heard here .... please bring her for part 2...eish Life nee where's God in all of this though.

    • @susansusan5616
      @susansusan5616 5 місяців тому +5

      He was there that's why she's narrating the story is where you can see that God is alive if He was not there she was not going to be alive, Glory to God

  • @ZikoraKems-e5u
    @ZikoraKems-e5u 6 днів тому +1

    You are a strong woman and healing looks good on you. You are amazing

  • @Iam_Nelisa
    @Iam_Nelisa 4 місяці тому +4

    I wish I could give mama Thandeka a hug, this is so heartbreaking. Lord have mercy!

  • @neshmatshiambwa8562
    @neshmatshiambwa8562 4 місяці тому +8

    Joh this lady went through so much at her early age.. She's broken.. May God heal her

  • @hildaachwa8251
    @hildaachwa8251 5 місяців тому +14

    Please put subtitles for your viewers who aren’t from South Africa. We miss a lot

  • @dineomhlari1038
    @dineomhlari1038 4 місяці тому +8

    i honestly cant stop my tears from rollin this momma has been through the most😢

  • @KatMug
    @KatMug 5 місяців тому +17

    13:03 this part 😢 what he said to her just broke me. A whole entire brother. I’m disgusted and sad at the same time

    • @Benkeba77
      @Benkeba77 3 місяці тому +1

      Hey love, would you mind translating for me plz?
      Hugs from Haiti 🇭🇹 🤗

  • @esthermakhubela4239
    @esthermakhubela4239 5 місяців тому +13

    Thandeka may God be with you my darling. But madam speaker we need part 2

  • @annaramagaga
    @annaramagaga 5 місяців тому +11

    Yoh, I am sorry what happened to you my sister. God continue to bless and heal you.sendimg hugs and love.

  • @okuhlengubo9359
    @okuhlengubo9359 5 місяців тому +5

    "Going to the father of devil"
    Not me crying and smiling at the same time.....Sis Thandeka o dibone hle. Sending hugs❤

  • @Millicent_Kgaladi
    @Millicent_Kgaladi 5 місяців тому +105

    I feel like you should allow your guests to express themselves in their own language and put subtitles. Had she narrated in her own language she was gonna flow. Very sad story so sorry she had to go through all this trauma.

    • @zwad3423
      @zwad3423 5 місяців тому +38

      I think she did well in english too

    • @GreatnessLungile
      @GreatnessLungile 5 місяців тому +8

      Also, I've heard that subtitles are costly. Maybe let's be patient until she can do that

    • @zinhledludla6674
      @zinhledludla6674 5 місяців тому +1

      Yes 🤞🏼

    • @A-_B956
      @A-_B956 5 місяців тому +37

      I think her English is perfectly adequate, people do not have to sound American or European for their English to be pleasant.

    • @KoketsoNdaba
      @KoketsoNdaba 5 місяців тому +19

      Without Practice And Error, There Can Never Be Learning ❤. She Expressed Herself Adequately... So Proud Of Her❤️

  • @rumbidzaimachapu9650
    @rumbidzaimachapu9650 4 місяці тому +3

    My heart can’t take this yohh 💔 💔 Thandeka thank you for sharing . You are so brave 😢

  • @busisiwezulu7200
    @busisiwezulu7200 5 місяців тому +9

    She's really hurting & trying to hide her pain & tears because it has never helped her. Ii feel her.

  • @mogatlatshireletso8825
    @mogatlatshireletso8825 5 місяців тому +9

    Ahhhh , I want to give her a hug 🫂

  • @ndemathabi5508
    @ndemathabi5508 5 місяців тому +3

    You are just an amazing storyteller though it’s so sad that you’ve gone through all the traumas and you still stand.🥰🥰😘

  • @feziwemotshabi3096
    @feziwemotshabi3096 5 місяців тому +3

    I really applause her, very strong lady
    We can learn a lot from her and her kids must be proud of her 💕

  • @nomsachironda9624
    @nomsachironda9624 5 місяців тому +5

    Most definitely my Queens we👑 are not happy we need a part 2 this is so deep and we are learning a lot 4rm our Sister over there Thandeka she is a true fighter i love how resilient she is what a strong smart women she is woooooow it's a lot yoooh mara God bafhwethu am happy he showed up for her❤🫂🫂God always shws up indeeed🙏

  • @mantelekhitsane8935
    @mantelekhitsane8935 5 місяців тому +42

    God when she giggle my heart become heavy💔💔😭😭😭

  • @Wasa35
    @Wasa35 5 місяців тому +2

    What an inspiring woman! I thank God for her life!❤❤❤❤

  • @Imvubu.dablack
    @Imvubu.dablack 5 місяців тому +11

    Guys I dreamt of this interview a month back but it was my aunt Thandeka who was sharing her story and the interviewer and the audience was crying including myself listening. My aunt was wearing white😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱

  • @nataliekangwa7221
    @nataliekangwa7221 5 місяців тому +3

    She is a good storyteller i could continue listening to her. Glad she left her abusive married

  • @natashabohlolo9074
    @natashabohlolo9074 5 місяців тому +2

    This is heart wrenching. Love, light and hugssesi Thandeka.

  • @nothandodube7573
    @nothandodube7573 4 місяці тому +3

    Yoh I had to stop and take a moment and pray for Thandeka. I hope konke kuhamba kahle manje. May you heal, may you experience joy.

  • @onkabetsesepeng7433
    @onkabetsesepeng7433 5 місяців тому +3

    Your resilience and strength are something..... Power to you♥️✊🏿🙏🏽

  • @noluvuyomthetho897
    @noluvuyomthetho897 5 місяців тому +3

    I cried and smiled at the same time,she went through a lot,sending love

  • @ugogojessicaTartot7545
    @ugogojessicaTartot7545 5 місяців тому +3

    Ijoooó this lady is so calm,after what she went through about her life ❤❤❤

  • @sithembisomtungwa6110
    @sithembisomtungwa6110 4 місяці тому +1

    yhooo Sisi Thandeka i never saw a brave woman like you, may the Lord heal you dear 🥰🥰🥰

  • @michellebowes7650
    @michellebowes7650 5 місяців тому +1

    Oh Thandeka I am so sorry for all that you have been through. The pain is so fresh as you speak, I feel it for you. I pray for peace and prosperity over your life. I wish that I could give you a huge hug😢❤

  • @paballomajela4907
    @paballomajela4907 5 місяців тому +17

    Sis is still broken😢😢praying for your healing My sister. May God restore your healing❤😢

    • @MillyMRM
      @MillyMRM 4 місяці тому

      She is 😢, the little laughs in between her story are just masking her pain 😢

  • @mpumimaphanga280
    @mpumimaphanga280 5 місяців тому +5

    How much pain should one take 😢 hugs to u baby girl keep on Thandeka u are dearly loved cc

  • @Savebygrace-it
    @Savebygrace-it 5 місяців тому +20

    My blood boils bafethu this story is so common ekasi. Why vele. The communities are not safe, our homes are not safe. And omama nabo they don't pay attention to their kids busy trying imshado with men that end up abusing their kids. We are really a damaged society.

    • @beejjjj4106
      @beejjjj4106 4 місяці тому +1

      Our parents glorifies marriages. They care about "batho ba tla reng" at the expense of their children. Then they also say they stay "for the sake of children", which is just a selfish excuse, because at the end of the day, it is children that gets hurt at the end. Speaking from experience, I lost a little sister because of my mom's toxic marriage. Still going though therapy, because I can't just believe that she's no more. My sister's death was when I realized just how toxic that marriage is. Out of respect. And so many meetings I've had with them in the past.I just distanced myself.

  • @KoketsoMakoene
    @KoketsoMakoene 4 місяці тому +3

    We need a cohost to assist, no empathy towards the guest or connection. What a strong team woman, such a sad story and I wish she told the story in her mother tongue and we would rather read subtitles

  • @mmabathomakwela2246
    @mmabathomakwela2246 3 місяці тому +3

    😢😢😢sad story am glad shes happy now with her family,God bless you

  • @marlenekhakoni1404
    @marlenekhakoni1404 4 місяці тому +4

    Kindly put subtitles for us international viewers when the guest speaks in local language. Otherwise, this has been so deep. May God graciously restore her.

  • @nomvuselelosmoyo8451
    @nomvuselelosmoyo8451 4 місяці тому +1

    It does hurt the most to hear how you were being abused from childhood. This trauma is unmatched. Sending hugs and healing to you. ❤

  • @huberthamogotsi6424
    @huberthamogotsi6424 5 місяців тому +7

    The way I'm steadily waiting for this episode to drop 🤞🤞👌.

  • @culturenarrativeswitholalo7394
    @culturenarrativeswitholalo7394 4 місяці тому +1

    Beautiful spirit ❤❤❤❤❤Thankyou for sharing your story so bravely

  • @phumlasimandla4641
    @phumlasimandla4641 5 місяців тому +8

    This story is so painfully 😢😢😢😢

  • @Onthecuspwithdaphne
    @Onthecuspwithdaphne 4 місяці тому +1

    On a higher level of a goddess 👏👏👏👏👏love your spirit to the core. Thank you so much for sharing such a powerful and painful part of your life 🙏May God bless you 💙💙💙👌keep shining sis 🙏

  • @joycesebati4695
    @joycesebati4695 5 місяців тому +2

    Listen ladies i thought i am going through a lot but no i am still playing by the way❤❤i am healed today thank you very much and you are looking beautiful and you have said mouthfull and today and forever i am the best version of myself 🎉🎉thank you very much for the uplifting podcast ❤❤and i love you ladies no more crying i am the change that i always wanted to be ❤❤part 2 and 3 please ladies

  • @SeabiTshabalala
    @SeabiTshabalala 4 місяці тому +2

    For me it's the giggles 😭😭😭 sending lots of love my sister ❤️

  • @ntshengedzeninetshilindi2561
    @ntshengedzeninetshilindi2561 5 місяців тому +12

    Please madam speaker, part 2 please…nwana hashu

  • @eunicemaretela4961
    @eunicemaretela4961 5 місяців тому +2

    I thought I went through hell but joo this lady ...I cried all the time she was explaining 😭😭😭

  • @MorategiMakgamatha
    @MorategiMakgamatha 3 місяці тому

    Shelters for abused women are very important and beneficial. Women shouldn’t be ashamed or afraid to approach these places. You come out stronger. Safe yourself and children. Restore your life and dignity. Well done Ausi.

  • @ZolaNgemntu-v8t
    @ZolaNgemntu-v8t 5 місяців тому +2

    Wishing her all the best in her Healing Journey 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @a.dlamini
    @a.dlamini 2 місяці тому +1

    I am so sorry for what you have experienced. No one should ever go through abuse and neglect let alone at this level. I hope you are okay, I will be praying for you complete healing. With love.

  • @TsakanePatians
    @TsakanePatians 5 місяців тому +5

    Yo this lady reminds me of my up bringing I don't know how I finish my high school my mother was so so irisponsible with no love to her kids except my younger brother I'm the third child and most hated till now she is 82 years but nothing changed and now I started to hate her

    • @susansusan5616
      @susansusan5616 5 місяців тому +4

      Hi dear don't hate her carry on where there's void love will open doors for you, may God heal you and shows you love.

    • @kenanaomabina6257
      @kenanaomabina6257 3 місяці тому +1

      Don't become her, seek therapy and learn to love

  • @tshepiso0
    @tshepiso0 5 місяців тому +2

    I love sis Thandeka😊 wish I can meet her one day some of her story I see myself in it, would love to pour my heart to her

  • @mantelekhitsane8935
    @mantelekhitsane8935 5 місяців тому +2

    😭😭😭💔Iyoh this is too much but thanks God sis Thandeka you survived going hell and back, God continues to heal her heart❤🙏🫂

  • @veronicakesebelwang
    @veronicakesebelwang 5 місяців тому +2

    Ohh God thandeka bafethu u r such a strong woman ❤❤

  • @Mamghobhozi478
    @Mamghobhozi478 5 місяців тому +2

    Beautiful interview so emotional and painful but usisi is very strong i wish her well for her journey❤❤❤

  • @godsfavouritedaughter3476
    @godsfavouritedaughter3476 4 місяці тому +6

    Guys what's wrong with men vele? Same thing happened to me by my father's brothers, 2 of them. From the age of 6, now im 38. Im not ok, my life is a mess. I don't know whether im coming or going. The worst part is i told my grandmother and my aunt but i was threatened and told to keep quiet. Then last year i decided to talk and tell everyone, the attacks i got from my cousins, everyone calling me a liar, prostitute, devil, any name they can think of. They say time heals all wounds. Not in this case. Women, take EXTRA care of your children because all of this happened while my mom was around. And its like child molestation attracts rape because i was also raped at 20.

    • @papalirabele75
      @papalirabele75 2 місяці тому +1

      my queen. I am sorry that happened to you. heal heal heal Dear Sister

  • @Mrs_Matt.
    @Mrs_Matt. 5 місяців тому +10

    Thandeka went through alot, its like the guy who sent her to buy bread ledt her with all the bad luck...may the good lord locates her and her children🥺this is too much for one person❤️‍🩹

    • @Me-xoxoz
      @Me-xoxoz 5 місяців тому +1

      He probably knew he could get away with it ngoba her family bekungela order.

    • @Khethokuhle_Dlamini
      @Khethokuhle_Dlamini 5 місяців тому +1

      They say isnyama, it always follows you. Hence you gotta cleanse

  • @nomsashikishi2917
    @nomsashikishi2917 5 місяців тому +5

    Nxese sisi ur growing up was painful and u relate the story with a smile but the hurt its written all over ur face.

  • @TlakiManama
    @TlakiManama 5 місяців тому +1

    Yhoo Thandeka you are such a strong pèson after all what you went through. May the good lord bless you and leave for your kids ❤❤❤

  • @LadyLe-z7o
    @LadyLe-z7o 5 місяців тому +10

    Eish my sister your story hurts. I wish I had a power to heal you and make you forget all the trauma that u went through. May the great god bless you and heal you. Big love and hugs

  • @mvuselelobnzama8498
    @mvuselelobnzama8498 Місяць тому

    So much trauma but healing at at the end and laughter
    Loving the kids with the way she would loved it

  • @ZeeInterpretationz
    @ZeeInterpretationz 5 місяців тому +3

    May God give sis Thandeka more strength and resilience to continue to heal and heal others.

  • @emmabaloyi8566
    @emmabaloyi8566 5 місяців тому +3

    I love you sis thandeka, if life is for the was a person huwe loyo❤ ❤😊

  • @NomvulaIrene
    @NomvulaIrene 5 місяців тому +3

    Skilled hardworker, God bless you

  • @lindiwemdhluli8491
    @lindiwemdhluli8491 2 місяці тому

    I love you mommy, you are the true definition of a woman, so strong bold and ambitious. ❤❤❤❤😊

  • @Moreless-j3v
    @Moreless-j3v 5 місяців тому +11

    Am 14 minutes into this video, and am so hurt and scared to finish it😢😢😢
    Am worried that shes laughing,she needs help please

    • @polynarcs
      @polynarcs 4 місяці тому +3

      I am a victim of SA, it's a nervous laugh, if we didn't laugh trust me, we probably wouldn't be alive. It's just a coping mechanism. I myself went for therapy and I am on antidepressants and anxiety meds, no amount of therapy and medicine has helped me but, laughing at my hardshps helps me to forget them and move on with my life.

  • @thrivingrosie1290
    @thrivingrosie1290 4 місяці тому +1

    My heart goes out to you. May the Lord heal you. Please Madame Speaker kindly add subtitles. I got lost a lot and had to guess. Love from England.❤

  • @Savebygrace-it
    @Savebygrace-it 5 місяців тому +10

    Is there a link between children who grew up under traumatic conditions and them later on attracting abusive partners😢😢😮😮. We really need therapy guys😮😮😮

    • @keepitfrankwithfentse
      @keepitfrankwithfentse 5 місяців тому +1

      Yes there is. So how its explained is because you grow up in a toxic or traumatic situation you are not able to recognize the red flags. You deem toxic situations as normal when its not...Now again this is not the case for everyone. I became an orphan at 13 but despite that I had healthy romantic relationships throughout my dating life until I met my husband...Again..solid man who has a rough childhood but treats me like an egg. It also depends on personality traits too.

    • @Savebygrace-it
      @Savebygrace-it 5 місяців тому +1

      @@keepitfrankwithfentse well articulated, I think it's about the choices we make as adults as well whether we want to better or remain stuck our past. Life.... Hectic

    • @TebohoNage
      @TebohoNage 3 місяці тому

      Isn't it a curse Marr am looking at my life now and am like I grew up in a toxic environment and now am raising my child in a toxic environment 😢this toxicity is following me my whole life

    • @kenanaomabina6257
      @kenanaomabina6257 3 місяці тому

      At least now you are an aduly can choose what's best you ​@@TebohoNage

    • @nonkanyisomofokeng7470
      @nonkanyisomofokeng7470 2 місяці тому

      I think it's those evil spirits they surrounded you and keep on attracting other bad spirits.

  • @mqilingwakampilo2288
    @mqilingwakampilo2288 4 місяці тому +1

    I cant 😢😢, this story is so sad 😢 I just wanna give her a big hug ❤

  • @ChwayitaMboxela
    @ChwayitaMboxela 4 місяці тому +1

    I'm sorry cc God loves you pls be strong you came this far for a reason let your story help other's to heal and may God heal you too thank you for sharing your pain 😢🙏🙌🏿

  • @nhlentini404
    @nhlentini404 22 дні тому

    Nkosiyami mayehleka inhlungu yakhe ngivele ngizwe inhliziyo yami I bleeder. Ubuhlungu obungaka Jehova😢😢😢

  • @Chichinekhubvi-1
    @Chichinekhubvi-1 5 місяців тому +2

    You've been through the most cc, you are very strong, you have the cutest kids ever, you are gorgeous❤️❤️

  • @ugogojessicaTartot7545
    @ugogojessicaTartot7545 5 місяців тому +6

    The story of Sisi.. brought some childhood traumas on me about the elder brother

    • @MalemeTau
      @MalemeTau 5 місяців тому

      How come a brother become that / rapist to a blood sister, according to you sis, what childhood from parenting side make brother to do that to a sister, teach us please??

    • @ugogojessicaTartot7545
      @ugogojessicaTartot7545 5 місяців тому

      @@MalemeTau same from the mother and the father's can happen,this stories do happen

    • @ugogojessicaTartot7545
      @ugogojessicaTartot7545 5 місяців тому

      @@MalemeTau mostly in family members they dnt wanna talk about this

    • @ugogojessicaTartot7545
      @ugogojessicaTartot7545 5 місяців тому

      @@MalemeTau this are thy untold stories of black communities

    • @ZeeInterpretationz
      @ZeeInterpretationz 5 місяців тому +2

      ​@@MalemeTau it's a curse that is passed down. No one wants to address it in families.

  • @nthabisenglethabo9108
    @nthabisenglethabo9108 4 місяці тому +2

    😢😢i feel your pain mama I've been there God bless you you a strong woman ❤

  • @kamogelothamaga5751
    @kamogelothamaga5751 5 місяців тому +2

    She’s simply amazing 🥹❤️🫂 oh how I wish I could hug her! 🥹

  • @moratouamolefe8677
    @moratouamolefe8677 5 місяців тому +3

    Ohhh my God Thandeka went through the most but she is tough and loving ❤❤❤❤

  • @siphelelemoyani4941
    @siphelelemoyani4941 4 місяці тому +2

    Igama laka sisi should definitely be "I remember"
    But her story is so heartbreaking 😢😢😢