Mean son [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.07.08]
Вставка
- Опубліковано 7 лип 2019
- Click the "Caption" button to activate subtitle!
▶Subscribe KBS World Official Pages
UA-cam Subscribe： / kbsworld
Homepage: www.kbsworld.co.kr
Facebook: / kbsworld
Twitter: / kbsworldtv
Instagram: / kbsworldtv
Line: goo.gl/g5iRQV
Android Download : bit.ly/1NOZFKr
IOS Download : apple.co/1NktctW - Розваги
![I'm tired of looking after my jobless older brother [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.03.11]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/O1gCC60_L-4/mqdefault.jpg)
![I'm tired of looking after my jobless older brother [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.03.11]](/img/tr.png)
![I'm a genius, but my dad doesn't acknowledge it. [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.05.13]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/A8czHc37wkA/mqdefault.jpg)
![[Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.04.15]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/UOs4qQEebt4/mqdefault.jpg)
![Super patriarchal husband [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.06.17]](/img/n.gif)
You've never seen him playing soccer, yet burry his dreams and say he cant make it just because your older son couldn't make it. But sure, you are not comparing, lmao
True, that was so disgusting. That son should have sit there.
That doesn't mean the son has to act with violence!!! Like breaking her nose!
So, they are both at fault!
儿子不应该打妈妈 一打下去他就失去他的优势 只要忍住 以后可以直接要回因有的东西
He sounds like he’s very passionate and driven about pursuing his dreams, his mom should be more supportive and he should treat his mom better
yngi honestly!! It’s like she doesn’t even believe he can do it and with that attitude I see why the son is mad
@goran stojanovic yeah and he needs to fix that
She wants to control his sons life,how can she expect to treat her better
Lmao that mom is definitely overdramatic, she's probably the one that starts the fights which is why her son doesn't like her, i wouldn t like her either
Yeah, they dont compromise. She wants what she wants, but doesnt allow what he wants which in return doesnt allow what she wants
A fight doesn't start if one of them doesn't want to take an argument, so the problem is not just the mum. The boy has to be comprensive with her mum feelings, but also the woman has to take in count his son's dream. Raising a children is not that easy.
why so mean? like you don't know
Paula SE idk my parents have entire arguments with me while I can barely even get a word in
@@sunshinelove4576 just by watching this video we know. It's obvious. The mum is not even giving the son a chance. She just wants her way
The kid could've instead taken his mom to the show, and the problem would be named "Selfish, unsupportive mother judges child by his brother, demands he leaves the house naked."
Riada OMG TRUE
why are you so mean like yeah the mom shoulde be alittle awake of his dream but having a son who is that mean is just a nope
Right! I was thinking that the seats should be reversed lol
@@sunshinelove4576 yeah he comes off rude but he's hurt. I too would react exactly like him if my mom were that bad too. Plus all the hosts were teaming up with the mom and basically just disregard what he says, that would make him feel agitated, it would make me frustrated too tbh. Just watching made me angry. He'd feel like his brother, his mom, the hosts, and basically everyone watching is against him.
Like his fucking mother took him to a national television to fix her son. Like it's her job to parent her son. He's only a teenager.
"But sports aren't my plan."
EXCUSE ME, MAAM?
That's your son's life.
I know. She legit just said that she had a plan for her SONS LIFE-not hers-yet all the people there are sympathizing with the mom and acting like the kid is some villian.
Exactly!
I liked your comment because it stopped at 666 and I don't want Satan grabbing me from my bed. Goodnight
Yeah. I'm wondering what the hell that was ignored.
Something about the mom is just off.. She gives me weird vibes
She looks innocent but she's not. She the problem. Its like she is trying to play victim when she isn't trying to understand her son.
Rosemary Yang I also think after the show ended the mom probably told her son that she still doesn’t want him to play soccer lmao
She a teacher tho..aingg
Yes ikr
She reminds me of my 5th grade teacher ehhhhh
I have had enough of parents who try to dictate their children's lives. You cant be this. You cant be that. Why not just support them and try to see how far they can go? Eventhough they fail, at least they have tried. Besides, everyone's talent is different. Who knows younger son is talented more than the older son in soccer so he still do better with less practice.
Hello stranger,can i copy u wise well words,u say very accurately ! I loved to copy it,if u allowed it.
@@rozeelaramli5464 lol. Yeah you can.
I think so too....😫😥
reiyuuri tsubasa that’s what I was just commenting, but instead she’s just so fixated on comparing the two.
Asian parent problems
The mother is too extreme and thats why her son turns out that way. The mother is "If I said something then thats final" type.I know her son still loves her .When she called out his name his facial expression shows it all. I hope the son also try to say his likes in a nice way rather than rudely to his mother.
Bobo Doll the thing is I have experienced similar stuff to him. He probably tried being nice, but then she probably didn’t listen.
"All i want from him is for him to work hard and live his life But sports aren't part of my plan"
LMAO she should listen to her words.
Her plan is dictating her son's life. I see a very toxic relationship right here.
Mom wants to get the respect from her son but she doesn't even respected his son's dream/life decision? 😒
Yes ,you are right but that dosen't give the right to the son to say all those mean things....like she is always your mother.I would never ever tell my mother those mean things and if she don't respect my dream i would try all sorts of things to convince her that she is wrong.
@@abiemwenseomoruyi2979 good thing for you that you have chances to convince, some parents, like this one, these are the type that wont give you a chance to even explain your side and will just cut you off when you say something that is against what they want... She is the definition of a strict asian parent. There will be a point where you will just explode and get angry not getting what you want, and its better to let that our early than keep it in
그러니까요
Korean parents have a habit of demanding respect no matter what
@@abiemwenseomoruyi2979 dude trust me.. Even if shes a mother, if you push enough buttons, a son can pop off at his mom
Their all sympathizing with the mom. But dame let the younger son have a chance with his own dream's.. If he fail he fails but let him at least try and encourage him.. So him some compassion and help him pursue his dream's . .
He's hitting her and cursing her out. What do you expect?
@@lavinder11 the reason is why?? Maybe he wants her to pay some attention to him.. love without disapline is selfishness ?
@@alexandabbyskon1923 The same mother raised both sons and the eldest turned out more considerate with even more pressure and control applied to him.
And if all he's doing is watching other people play soccer at that weight and practicing for 2 hours a day, how serious is he, really?
The kid's a brat. He wants to be able to do and say whatever he wants on his parents' dime with little to no responsibilities. He needs to grow up because no besides young kpop fans will take him seriously.
@@lavinder11 parent's shouldn't compare their children with each other for they have different personality and different goal's etc.. And parents are their to support not judge, let him fail if that's what his passionate about let him pursue that dream or whatever.. He will learn from his own mistakes.. Let him.. Parents are for love, compassion, encouragement and to be their if he need's helping hand. Not to discouraged him.. Give him guidance .. Maybe he might open up little more to his mom
lavinder11 imagine your parents not giving you a chance on your dream, telling you to give up but tells you, you should become something else that they want. Wouldn’t you be mad, angry and frustrated? I know I would because I know they wouldn’t understand me or think In my perspective. Since he’s a teenager like I am, they’ll think we as teenagers are going through a “phase”. of course they want the best for us but it’s also good if they support as for what we like and not what they want us to like. You can’t force someone to like something. and maybe it is a little to far for him to hit his mom like that, I would honestly too but instead of hitting her I would run away.
Host : Why not just let him do what he likes?
Mom : He isn't good enough to go pro.
Host : You've seen him play?
Mom : No.
Also mom : He doesn't have the talent.
Host : So have you ever seen he play?
Mom : No.
Me : Hahaha... Bullshi-cago...
@@AP-vt8ro what you said really saddens me. It's not like I'm offended or anything, it just reminds me of an old friend in highschool.
She's so into art (mostly drawing cartoons, anime), her artwork is very amazing and beautiful. She even drew her own comic in the notebook. She often submit her artwork in the school yearbook. She dreams of to go professional and work in an animation company.
However her parents are both teachers.
Her mom's a highschool teacher, while her dad teach at an elementary school. Maybe because of either the 'intellectual' genes or painstaking hardwork, coz she's also excel in her studies, her report card only mark the grade A and the very least was B+. So her parents wants her to also work in the teaching profession as well. They know she draws well, they know she's love drawing. How could they not know when the mother taught at the same school where's her daughter was studying. Everyone was talking about how talented her daughter are, from the next class down to the last senior grade class. Even other teachers were saying the same thing.
But they turned a blind eye. As a parent, maybe they thought to work in animation and drawing just a mere comic won't give enough paycheck and honour for their daughter. They denied her dreams, saying that living with just passion isn't enough to feed you for your whole life.
Just like this korean mother here. There's no way she hadn't heard it from the school when she herself said that other teachers recommended her son to go into this sport. That means he have the potential. But as she said "I wanted my son to live his own life. But sport just isn't in my plan.."
Idk... even that phrase alone sounds twisted to me. It seems like she wants to be the victim and appear as innocent to the audience while blaming her son for being rebellious to what future she had forced on him.
Maybe I'm just being too judgemental. --- *shrugs...
she is clown 😂😂🤣🤣
I agree with the son. The mother is problem.
@@bp-u-will-always-be-famous no
"I'm not comparing them" she says as she's comparing her 2 sons. That's her issue. She's selfish and hurts her kids egos. He knows she doesn't respect him so he doesn't even bother trying to respect her. She started it all. She could have told him go ahead and do it, but you have to do things yourself if thats what he really wants so he can at least try. So he can learn and figure out if thats what he really wants to do. He's still so young and has plenty of time to think about his future yet she doesn't want to be supportive of anything. So even if he did later on feel differently about soccer he wouldn't even want to talk to his mom about what he wants to do because of the way she reacts. I don't agree with the way he acts towards her, but tbh its hard living with someone that belittles you. So the only feeling you have towards that person is hatred. I can totally understand him cuz my mom does the same thing
I don't think it's selfishness, I think she's just being overprotective. She doesn't want her son to pursue something she doesn't think will give him a good life. But the way she's going about it is enough to make even strangers angry, i can't even imagine how it must make her son feel.
@@chelecovers6893 parents need to draw a line between protecting their child and restricting them... The mom here clearly didnt know where to put that line
Yeah that's true your life cannot be happy never happy when you live with someone who betitles you i also live a life like that everyday is too depressing for me to live
everyone compares , its normal
@@chelecovers6893 shes not overprotective, overprotective is far worse than that, she just wants him to be stable in career. overprotecting means not wanting your children to go outside. completely different.
How does she know her son will never succeed in football when she never saw him play.....she's probably the type who goes to fortune tellers and get scammed ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Hes closed and rude that way probably because hes been suffering this for many years and keeping it for himself
Yess exactly
I feel like the son is being sincere and the mom is putting on a show
Parents just don’t understand sometimes. If they are blaming the child then they are practically at fault because you raised him. A child grows up the way they do based on what he/she experiences. I think the parents are at fault here. He is acting like that because of the parents
right and anyways parents always gonna say this magic words "we know better than you" "you know nothing because you're still a kid" so what's stopping them from acting like an adult for once and fix their own child behaviour because THEY KNOW BETTER THAN US
Her mustache is bothering me.
😂😂😂 same.
I WAS SCROLLING FOR THIS COMMENT
You shouldn't make fun of something someone can't control about themselves
@@echostarr4745 She can't control a wax strip?! LMFAO sis please, get real.
My name is Happy Singh she has a haircut,,,
How could this lady be a teacher, even she did not let her own son to experience, I do know what would be her attitude towards slow learners in the class.
where I come from, it is said that parents make impossible possible for their kids, but this lady making impossible for her own (young, passionate, talented) son, who she never saw him playing at the age of nineteen and waiting to take a photo with him at the prom night, such an indifferent attitude.
Was thinking the same thing. She probably compares her students that needs more help learning to.
she's like the teacher that no one likes
Coming from a culture that similar to Korean, most teachers I had were like this to the point where I can say this is a very typical teacher personality.
Right, i wonder if there still any parent trust her to teach their children after watching this
personal experience :
my mom is a teacher in fact a very like-able teacher to her students but not her own children
This show makes me grateful for the life and family I have
you should do more than being grateful
His mom is sweet in talk in here but she is like mom whose son left her (first mom ) of sky castle ....
She is an example of sky castle mom ... In real life ...
the fact that she said others said to her to be carefull of swearing says a lot
Yep, you got it. She thinks she's playing The Sims instead of raising her sons.
Thats what I thought too. I thought parents that are extreme only existed in dramas.
@@user-pp1ff3kt5g nah. They're everywhere. My mother always looks for me whenever she's stress over something then start to punch the hell out of me even I did nothing wrong. I went to ER two times because I got head injury. It took me years to build courage to runaway.
Too be honest when the mom was talking I felt nothing. I know that a mom will definitely feel bad when a son acts like that be I also believe that a son does not act that way without a reason. The first thing was the comparison to the elder son without even knowing she was this means that she does it a lot which means that a lot of time the boy would have felt hurt and shut her out the more. Another thing is the thing about his mom promising him something when he was younger and not getting it. A lot of people did not understand that could be a very common lie every child hears at least once from there parents but for some one who takes a lot of mean to the word promise the trust can be affected and he said that is his earliest thing he can remember about his more lying. People who were told that living when they were younger don't really remember it but if someone does it means that he was deeply hurt. A big reason am on the son's side is because when you see your mom showing support for your elder brother and encouraging him about a choice he made and you making the same exact choice but being cutoff is just a feeling no one should experience I think that's what he meant by she is partial and unfair. The thing that broke my heart was the starting she hasn't seen him play and she didn't even know he is a sticker and not a goalkeeper things like this are what made him to be like that toward her. Remember and not saying talking to your mom in such a manner is right am saying she was the one that made him that way. I stop here 😂
In this type of situation I always pose the question 'Which do they love more? Their children and their happiness, or the future job/position their children will hold?'
Honestly the mom is the problem if he is passionate about something then do it he also shouldn’t be so damn rude to his mother smh but I see where he is coming from I hate when people tell me I can’t do this or that it makes me want to prove them wrong even more so I get his mindset he just needs to word it nicer
The mum is the problem honestly. She doesn't trust his own son and she doesn't give him a chance. She keeps comparing him to his brother. She's just being stubborn and she wants her son to do everything her way. I wouldn't want a mum like that.
I want him to live his own life... but sports is not in MY plan...Something is very wrong with that statement.
Having to give up on your dream without being able to try hurts even more than giving up while trying a lot because you'll have more regrets. Yes, the son's choice of words are not nice and are disrespectful towards his mom, but his mom doesn't even let him freaking try to pursue what he's passionate about and I think that's even more disrespectful towards her son.
+ her perception of the world is within her borders, and in my opinion parents should support their children to look further and try further than what they've reached. Parents shouldn't limit their children to their world or with their fears and believe in the world.
Honestly, I think both of them were wrong. The son was too rude, and the mom was supposed to be supportive. Also why was the mom smiling while explaining her problems lmao. I side more with the son. If my mom didnt believe I could be a soccer player, (if I wanted to be one), I would act this mean and rude, but I would definitely be very upset and mad. Plus, it's not her first time parenting. She hasn't watched the boy play soccer and automatically assumes he can't make it far. If my parents did this to me.. honestly I might have ran away and stayed at a friends place until I can afford my own. I'm sure my friends would understand lmfao
The son probably let all his angers bottled up inside so he exploded whenever the mom would not understand him. Seriously parents like her needs to stop comparing and being so close minded. She didn't even watch him play soccer and just assume he can't make it. smh. If she watches him and he isn't great then that would be a different story
@@sinha3997 Exactly. Parents like that get on my nerves. And it's not like shes never been a mom before. She has 2 sons
@@Nana-tl3gs I really hated it when she said it's her first time being a mother....like what has she been doing for 20+ years of not being a mother
@@sinha3997 Same. I couldnt believe what I just heard
yupp and she always comparing them..
"i haven't seen my son play but i know he's bad at it"
what a great mother wow
16:45 That's when we all knew who probably starts the fights. Being a teenager myself I can understand how hard it is to find what you like in life when it's time to decide. Not having a supportive parent especially at this age can my heart-breaking. He should show more respect, but she absolutely needs to stop comparing and trust her son.
I connect with the son so much due to my mother and I having a very similar relationship as he has with his mother. We fight multiple times everyday whenever we meet, and I end up talking with "angst" (I am well over puberty) and similar speech as the son in the video talks. And she is the person I despise most in the world. Sometimes I just want to end it all bc that would be the best revenge.
Edit: I apologize in advance for my english ;;
That's really sad. I hope it works out for you.
That is not the best revenge, living and doing well is the best revenge. At least I think so. Like look, I made it!!
Otherwise I hope it gets better for you
I hope you can get away from her. That's my advice. I had to move 3 states away to finally be free from my crazy mom. Don't give up, the best revenge is living well and not answering her calls LOL
Hayoung Lee, love without disapline is selfishness . . What I mean is life is to short to hold grudge or revenge . . I'm not perfect mom, im far from it.. but I'll be dame to destroy my children dreams . . I love my 2 beautiful son's and whatever they choose in life I'll be there and support them anyway I can for their my babies . . Parents try so hard to be perfect or being friends with their children , you need to be a parent first.. Try talking to your mom.. really listen. Hug her tell her you love her and that your glad that she's your mom.. Put a side whatever problem you have from her and just really look at her.. Remember God does love you and I bet your mom does to
16:30 anyone else notice how fast his smile disappeared. I feel so bad for him he was so excited talking about his dream and when his mom spoke up saying he doesn’t want him to do it he was sad his mom doesn’t believe in him 😢
When he said he doesn´t needed his mom to root for him I really felt bad for him. My mom and I used to figth bc she didn´t like the fact that I become a dancer, after everything that she said to me and all the abuse I was going through I thought the same "I don´t need her,bye" so I got a scholarship and left for good.
Are you a dancer now? How did you do it?
@@cheejeuporkeucuteuleteu Hi! I am, I applied to 5 different programs. I got a scholarship and it is hard to maintain but it is manageable, you just have to see what opportunities open around you, be self critical but not to the point of destruction, this career is hard but it is awesome.
That model is so handsome
How could his mom asking for respecting when she dont even respect her son's dream? This is so frustrating at first. But we can see a ray of light when they both becomes gently and open up their hearts towards each other.
Sometimes we're not just expecting each other much, but respecting each other is better than anything. I wish the both not stuborn anymore after this.
I know the son shouldn't be so mean to his mom but she is really making it hard for him. If he's gonna do what he wants to do either way she should support him along the way instead of discouraging him every second of the day. I understand so much where he's coming from. Omg I'm so frustrated rn😫😫😫
Everything aside, as I’m learning korean it was actually really easy to understand the way the mother speaks. This episode really helped learning^^
I low key blame the mom she is to blame the kid has a dream but she dont even believe in him? If my mom was like that i wouldn't respect her either
he doesnt need her support could me he gave up on the fact that his mother would let him continue his dream. people have a certain way of using another word for another word and so they understood him for being mean
I think that if she doesn't let him pursue his dream he will grow up resentful of his mother for the rest of his life. He'll always have the "what if" in the back of his mind and blame her forever. When she gets old he might just put her in a nursing home and never look back.
Edit: I made the comment that he might put her in a nursing home and never look back before I finished the episode. Glad he said he won't do that. I didn't think they would have asked him about that.
The fact that he holds grudges doesn't help her
Hello from Indonesia. Was watching on the bus on my way back home. And fortunately i didn't cry.
Treat every human the way you wannabe treated, eventho a kid.
His mom is just ugh, always comparing the younger son to the older son and completely ignoring the younger sons dream. She hasn’t even seen him play!
Edit: she also keeps saying he has no talent and that just annoys me so much, can’t she tell she’s the reason why he’s acting the way he is??
As someone whose dream got crushed by their parents honestly hurts a lot and I totally understand why his behaviour is like that towards his mom.
Children must live their own lives. Imagine if she had been supportive.
I had a mother like her. She tore me down, constantly. I was in my 40's, living thousands of miles away, before I found success.
If you see his reaction when his mum called him "my son hosong" you can see how lacking he is in terms of love and supportive words from her, she made him like this
As a korean and around the age of maturity, I understand how he feels. I always wanted to become a singer and that’s still my plan right now, but both my parents are against it even though they heard me sing they still don’t want me to pursue my dreams. I’m 16 and I’m still not allowed to go dance/singing classes. Instead, I just work at home in secret and sometimes I go to my friends house to practice there with her since she also wants to sing. I think both are at fault and I don’t think he should use violence or harsh words but I also don’t think the mother should take over his life choices like that. I hope the best for both of them and their relationship. 💕
It’s funny how in the beginning the son was like “we’ll see who’s side they choose” but in the end they choose neither😂
The way the son talks was the result of how his mother treated him. People treats you the way you treats them, that's just it.
Both are right and wrong, I think. I can understand how the mom feels wronged by her son's anger towards her. If I elbowed and broke my mom's nose, I'm sure I'd be dead meat. He needs to find a different way to cohabitate with her and persuade her besides aggression. But it's also the mom's fault. She's honestly controlling and stepping out of line. It's his life, his future, and he's the one busting ass on the soccer field, not her. I'd hate her as a mom because she lacks maturity and feels hurt by everything without critically and openly viewing her own side. Who should change first? The mom.
I understand son. 100%
Wow everything they say resembles me and my mom.
I don't think anyone will have the same problem as when I was young anyways but...
Her son has a dream and she denies everything without seeing for herself, for me it's when I asked my mom a favor but she denied everything without having any reasons to.
She nags at him and he replies with something rude. Every adult thinks the mom was being nice and thinks it's unnecessary to be so rude, for me it was when she just annoyed me with her existence and I replied with something rude.
He's only being aggressive and rudely towards his mom but with others he's kind, for me it was just. the. same.
Like seriously this shit gave me depression when I was only 10 to 13 years old and I don't want anyone to experience the same with their mothers. This is like living in hell.
I know what you mean. The mom isn't supporting her son's dreams without even seeing his skills in soccer.
Same. I lived the same hell when I was 11-16. I tried to kill myself 3 times before I could finally move away from that psycho bitch after I got a job.
The mum shouldn't compare and be supportive, but he should learn manners because if I spoke to my mum like that the beating I'd receive bruh it's not worth it
i agree and relate to the son. why is everyone siding the mother?? just because she’s the mother doesn’t mean she’s right. bc rn it sure looks to me like she disrespected her son. parents hurt their children and act like they are the victim just bc they’re the “parents”. there is a stereotype that parents are always right, and that the love their children unconditionally. hell no.
Even if he fails at least he had a dream and tried to be successful. having support would change their dynamic so much
The mom should just respect his decision & support, then i think everything will be same as before. He will respect her even in home & love her more
I absolutely understand where the boy is coming from. I dont understand why HC team is not making the mom understand her fault, your job is not to side with any party but suggest both the parties. I’m myself a victim of a mother who constantly compares and looks down on me (telling me i wont ever get a job, or i am not enough talented to survive in outer world) which results into me arguing with her or not talking to her. I am not as well surprised that he doesnt even want her to “support” him because now he understand its his GOALS and his biggest competitor is his MOM. I hope one day he has a trophy in his hands, and he can do that without his mom’s support! Lets stop support toxic families just because they are “blood related”.
"i dont want to hear much about the life of happy couples"
same my dude, same.
The way she said it’s not part of my plan like it was her life literally had me baffled, like seriously how could she be so selfish it’s her sons life and if he fails then he’ll learn from his mistakes and work harder or decide another career she should just let him be and support him omfg 🙄
엄마는
절대라는 말을 하지마세요
아들은 아직 어리잖아요
그리고
아들보고 이친구라니 참
엄마도 이상하다
난 우리아들이 이 엄마같은 교사는 안 만났으면 좋겠다
꿈을 이룰수 없드래도
꿈꾸게 해주는 교사가 좋다
남 앞에서 말할때는 이 친구라는 표현을 쓸 수도 있는거죠.ㅎㅎ 별거 가지고 트집잡으시네.
I hope his mother reads all of our comments here. I just want her to open her eyes and just believe that her son is doing a great job in soccer.
and you have to know that you're very dramatic.
She needs to understand the fact that he's not his older brother and she doesn't control his life.I really just don't like her...
엄마가 아들을 인정하지 않는 말투로 대하니 아들이 공격적으로 변한듯
ㄹㅇ
He has such a cute smile
her: and my older son...i'm nOt cOmpaRiNg
also her: *proceeds to compare*
It's the mom's fault not his though. She could have been more supportive
The mom is just extra af. Yes, he may not go pro but at least let him try! You never know what could happen. He’s mean his mom because she doesn’t show support. And from experience, when you feel like your parents don’t support you, you don’t want to be around them more than you have to.
엄마라는것 보다 저런 분이 교사라니.....애들이 잘하는것만 밀어주고, 다른건 다 무시해버리고, 저런 사람이 선생님이라고 생각만 해도 진짜 끔찍하다......어린 시절에 선생님에게 얼마나 영향을 많이 받는데 ㅠ 저런 식으로 애들 꿈을 짓밟아 버리고 애들을 불신하고 완전 고집불통이네 축구선수 아들 포지션조차 모르고 축구 하는걸 본 적도 없다니 진짜 나라도 욕나오겠다. 제자리에서 열심히 사는것만 바란다면서 운동은 자기 계획에 없다? 비교하는게 아니지만 작은아이는 노력을 안한다? 큰 애가 입시 실패해서 자기도 상처를 받았다? 왜 아들 입시에 상처받은 모자른 자기의 마음을 저런식으로 풀지? 입시는 실패할 수 있지만 인생의 실패가 아니라는걸 알려주는게 교사로서 엄마로서 할 일 아닌가. 진짜 저런 선생 좀 걸렀으면 좋겠다.
Kid's reflect their parents. That kid is exactly like his mom. Parent's have to be very careful on how they show or talk themselves infront of kid's, especially when they are young.They absorb like sponge. The fact that the kid remember the first betrayal from his own mom, a lie. Even if it's a small thing, the impact that has on the kid's speak volume.
*PSA: PLEASS THINK TWICE ABOUT BECOMING A PARENT.* Being a parent is not easy. It's possibly the hardest/most important role you can play in another person's life. People treat parenthood like it's the natural and conventional progression of life: you reach a certain age, get married, have kids... happily ever after? Life doesn't always follow that trajectory, nor should it. Parenthood is hard. And there's so much more to it than just conception and bringing them into this world. Your child does not stay little forever. Children are not an accessory to your life.
At the end, the mom says 'this is my first time being a mom.' I think all parents feel that way and will most likely feel that way with *every child* they choose to parent because every child is unique, with different strengths, struggles, insecurities, and personalities. *You can ask your child for compassion, but please don't ask them to teach you how to be a parent.*
I believe the mother is at fault. A child only rejects a parent when they feel like that parent doesn't care.
I connect with this kid alot I had a bad relationship with my mom really bad, but we're able to fix it with a conversation with listening to both sides and understanding boundaries.
This mother needs to listen to her child not lecture him. And if he needs space then give him if you give him lots of freedom then try to enclosed him it won't work.
Theres no tears even when she's 'crying.' She definitely gives bad vibes.
This boy deserves a mother that would support his dreams and goals in life rather than one that keeps comparing him to his older brother. His mother keeps on saying he has no talent and he'll never make it, when she's never even seen him play. Like, while watching this video, I kept wanting to strangle the mother like OMG. I 100% side with the son. She is obviously the reason to why he acts like this. He used to be a sweet son but probably changed after his mother kept looking down on him and not being supportive at all, and instead being a stubborn and mean mom. Honestly speaking, this video should have been titled "Mean Mom".
Bro the fact that she is not supporting his dream (with valuable reason) doesn’t mean he should treat her like that. She’s still his mom and without her he would not even be on this planet nor be able to have dream.
She claims that she wants her son to live his life yet she says "But sports aren't a part of my plan." Like really? Excuse me but your son doesn' t have to live according to your plans. She didn't even watch him play for once. I can relate to the son, even i'm angry at her
I'm so jealous to his son. He already made a path for his future and here i am still not sure about my path. I hope his mom would support him play and not became a hindrance because most of those kids that are being stop would literally end up his career and just stay at home and became hard headed.
The mom is wrong at the very first place. He never supports his son. If she supported him from the very start, he will not end up being like that since all of this started from his very young age. If i could share my supportive parents to him i would like to. The son was obedient to her but since he felt the unfair love given to him and his brother eversince childhood he act up like that. I hope that the mom really support him in his choices in the future and on the other round, I hope the child will try to control his words too.
Like how the hosts cut her off👍🏻
the fact he doesnt get any support from her and is put down all the time is the reason he grew apart from her. there is a reason he says he doesnt need her approval.
it's so sad to see that some parents cant respect their children but expect to be respected in return. that's not how relationships work
외국인들 화낫다... 근데 우리나라 부모들은 이런 경향이 많은거같아요 자식이 남들과 다른길을 가는걸 너무 두려워하는...
한국 부모들은 꼰대들이 많음 😂😂🤣🤣
I wholeheartedly understand the son more than anything. Parents need to realise that children mirror what adults do. If the mother doesn’t respect his dreams without a PROPER reason, the son will just think “my mother doesn’t respect me, why should I respect her?” It’s true he shouldn’t talk that way to his mother however children don’t just learn to talk that way on their own, they gotta learn from somebody and the biggest role model that children have in their lives are their parents.
My parents didn't believe in my dream too...As a result I did a science degree and dropped out in the second year...and then they said Computing is the next best option but I greatly disliked it...then when I stopped after a semester they wanted me to do a degree on Information systems which didn't work out as well.... so I really resented my parents and myself for letting their vision overshadow my dreams...However I am blessed to have met people that helped meout of that mindset. I hope the second son will be able to pursue his dreams and live his life his way.
The mother said much stronger words and they only focused on the son, my mother talks to me like that and I never call her mom anymore.
I hate parents like her. She should let him try, if it doesn't work out, let him decide what he wants to do next. I get why the son is so frustrated, smh. He should at least treat her a bit better but his mom need to stop being so close minded and comparing the brothers. Hope the son can make his dreams come true.
That grudge was too relatable, except how does someone hold it for that long
엄마는 자신이 교사이기도 하고 완벽한 엄마라고 생각 하는듯
스스로 수준 있다고 생각하는듯
Typical case of parents doesn't recognize their sons talent...
I'm too, interested in writing, that I've written several scripts and short stories during my school year. I even have 3 novel that I have just started and still ongoing till this day. It just that my parents really want me to become an office worker or something related to govt service, which force me to study what I really doesn't want too...😥😩😩 I know I'm not suppose to sigh since they support me for everything...
Hi, it's okay to sigh and rebel telling your parents you won't do something because you don't want to. You see if try pleasing your parents and all of that your going to harbour some or the other resentment against them cause they didn't let you do what you want so its better to show them everything you've done rather than doing what they want, 'cause you're the one doing it in the end and if you are not happy then what's the point anyways it seems like your parents are nice so try talking to them .
Fighting ;)
If you have true talent and others have said so too i say sometimes you just have to rebel unless you will be stuck in something you don’t want to do
Just do what you love. If your parents dont respect what you like, make it clear that you arent going to abide by their rules. Tell them about your passion for writing. If they really understand where you're coming from, which they most likely will, then they're really caring parents that you might as well be happy for you. I believe that you can become a great writer! You got this!
and suddenly today i am so very grateful to god than ever before that this educated women with great profession is not my mother... if my mom had her personality i would've run away from home
When the mother called him "this guy" (and smiling) I was shocked.....
I agree with the MC, she made him like this. he does not seems necessarily evil, just fed up and betrayed. He seems like a nice person, maybe slightly immature.
She gotta understand it’s her sons life not hers
He also has to understand that breaking your moms nose is a no no
My mom used to compare me with my cousin, it grew us apart and it caused me depression for a short period of time until my mom realized that was really toxic for me and she stopped, this mom should change her ways tbh
19:09 I understand where he is coming from.From his perspective it’s like “oh my older son failed,let’s try the younger one now”,it’s even worse if the mother never paid attention to the younger son (which she didn’t).
So..... I do understand.
They should put a psychologists as a judge because really everyone there has a trauma or a problem result of their childhood experiences, he can trust his mom, he can't get support from her, and it's not something he made up, is what his mother showed through his actions while he was growing up.
I'd be lying if I didn't understand how the son feels or why he's behaving this way, but I feel like the mom is just doing her best to make sure her second son doesn't make the same mistakes with his education that the first son did. She should be encouraging him, saying things like as long as your grades are good I'll support your dream, instead she's trying to choose his life path for him. The only thing that will do is make him resentful.
19:35 why this person in the yellow dress suddenly started crying?? I know that boy way of talking is rude but can't thy understand how much he is struggling? Me being in the same life, can understand that boy n his dreams
Im mad at that girl.... he doesnt understand wht the younger son feels
Rooting a kid to failure with your words and preventing him to develop as a healthy adult then accuse him of failing and immaturity OH THE NERVE !
Exactly.
That woman is so fake.. she probably just went on the show to prove a point, but we all saw how passionate her son was. He needs to keep following his dreams and not let others pull him down
Respect works both ways, ESPECIALLY when you're both adults. Of course the son should be more gentle with his mother, but at the same time I can understand why he could be mean and hateful towards her. I was like that with my mother for a while and I always regretted my actions afterwards but I couldn't help it sometimes. She's gotten better now, but she used to be soooo controlling and I hated it. Now she's only backed off since I started nursing school. I'll always love my mom since she's my mom, but there's a part of me that just hates the words that she's said to me. That's how I think it is for the son too.
The mother a kind of reminds me of youngjae mother and kang joon sang mother (sky castle) hmm
You can’t crush his dreams just because your older son couldn’t. And you expect people show some pity? Nahh