Hi guys, this is a mentality that I wanted to share with you guys that has helped me relax and live a little more the past few weeks. Hope this is helpful for some 💜
It’s so important to be just at peace with the way things are and just be content. And yh that doesn’t mean you need to lose hopes and dreams and stop working on yourself
This video is so relatable! I’ve always struggled with making friends, and being an introvert makes it even harder. But there’s always a voice in my head telling me, ‘You have to be more open and talk to people!’ So now, I’m actually trying my best to step out of my comfort zone. And honestly, I’d say yes-when you open up more, things do start to get easier! Don’t overthink it (I do sometimes too, but letting things happen naturally is probably the best solution) This video actually helped!!😀 you did great Btw Have you still been running marathons recently?
I stopped caring about making friends once i knew my nature. I do crave intimacy (not just normal friendship), but it will be there for me some time, i am where i need to be. Just sharing thoughts
that feeling of being dejected after not being able to break into those college cliques, or even any clique in general 😖i've had it too many times but learning to not be attached to the outcome is so important, wow. i'm just letting that sink in bc it applies to so many different aspects of life!
DUDE WHAT THIS CAME AT THE PERFECT TIME! I'm a freshman in high school and only have one friend (I had more but I lost a ton of them) and have always struggled with making friends. I go from feeling like I need friends to just not needing them at all and it's so back in forth. so tysm for this video it makes me feel less alone! ❤
This is straight TRUTH. I'm so glad that you have discovered this mindset at your age. I think so many people (including myself) have these "hopes" or expectations that are just a waste of energy (perhaps some things out of our control), which cause disappointment, despair, or anxiety/depression when they aren't achieved. Instead, I agree that it's just a better use of energy and brain space to fill it with appreciation for what you have, and focus on what's in your control, like being able to draw, create, engage in recreation, etc. Thanks for the cheer up! I was having a really hard day with my fiance and this cheered me up and reminded me to focus on what I can do, despite living with a partner whom I have difficulties with.
don't know if you've read The Stormlight Archive, it's a fantasy book series, and there's this concept of "journey before destination" that honestly changed how I view life as a whole. It's nice to have goals but what is even the point of goals if you're not going to enjoy the ride? I think people get too fixated in setting goals that would "create their dream life once achieved" when we should honestly look for goals that would create our dream life in the pursuit of said goals. Because a lot of times you can't really be sure that you'll hit a goal in life, many times doesn't even depend on you, but you can make sure you put in the work for it, and if you enjoy the work, then you're already living your best life without even achieving the goal you know? Journey before destination, the destination might never come, or it may come too soon (as in death and all that) but if you actually whole-heartedly enjoyed the journey, you're already fulfilled before hitting the goal. I think maybe we need to reverse-engineer goals. Instead of setting a goal and then figuring out what you would need to do to achieve it, instead maybe we could look at what we enjoy, what makes us feel fulfilled, what we can see ourselves doing day in and day out, and obsessing over and getting better at, and make up a goal out of that. For example, with making friends, instead of thinking "okay I need to make friends so I should socialize and do this and this and this" could be better to think "what kind of stuff I enjoy doing? how can I turn the things I'm passionate about into a more sociable activity?". Instead of obsessing over the goal, just make sure you enjoy the process (and make sure it is a process you can actually enjoy) and most times the goal will come naturally sooner or later.
^ Perfect example of why I said what I said in my other comment. Some goals can't allow that kind of mindset. Do you think Bezos enjoyed his journey more than his destination, which created another journey? This is just natural selection.
i’ve adopted this mindset since before starting college and now that i’m in my third year, i’m glad that i stuck with it and that you share the same thoughts!! tbh, i thought this mindset came from a lack of ambition (compared to people who put a lot of time and effort for their goals to the point of burnout), but like what you said, we still have our own goals, but we’re not too attached to them or the expectations. i’ve found more peace with myself knowing that my achievements are not what define me. i can reach my goals in my own time and not attach my worth to them. very insightful video
It’s funny because I’m sure that every single one of us out there has a goal we want to achieve. Seeing other people have something you don’t, especially in a world where social media bombards you with only the highlights of people’s life, it’s like we never stop to appreciate what we have at the moment, because our eyes constantly chase what’s in front of us, what we “don’t have”. It’s good to be ambitious, but it’s dangerous when one has no self awareness. I was like this before. The only time I started to achieve freedom, happiness, peace and actually attract the things I want, is when I stop wanting them. I think the right term would be “detachment”. Every now and then, it’s important to be present and grateful for what we have. Remind ourselves that we are deserving of a great life, right here right now. There are so many things to be grateful for when u start practicing gratitude. It’s easy to be in a high vibrational energy when you love life. And ofc, never stop working hard towards the life u love, just know that you are already living a wonderful life. Ps. Try not to focus your energy on negative things or people, shift your focus towards what makes you feel good. 😌
Thank you for this, as a 19 year old that just started college. My mentality is something I surely should be working on. Right now I'm amplifying myself by expressing what I love doing and posting it on UA-cam. Thank you for the help! 💜
Your mindset resonates so well with my inner beliefs,I too try really hard to get a thing,even though this necessarily a bad thing,but I forget living in the present and cherishing the amazing things I already have,and the person I’ve become ,I forget appreciating my progress because my eyes are always on the next thing.Once I get that,I’ll be able to rest and enjoy and after I get it ,the cycle continues. I’m truly glad your video popped up in my feed, your calm demeanour really fascinates me. I loved every bit of the video. Also, I love to draw,I always postpone drawing because of one task or other ,but today I’ll draw and get lost it in the moment and enjoy every bit of it😊. Thanks for your video,keep up!!wish you luck🍀 !!!!
OMG BEST THING AT BEST TIME. i spent years and years to achieve goals with beliefs that i'll be happy after having those things, but after all i just feel very empty and unfulfilled. im learning to embrace small aspects of life rn but having a hard time. thank you for coming at this phase, it means a lot to me😊
This is also something i am working on too as i was always given what wanted then i started obsessing over things and it became it that ultimate achievement will bring me happiness and as life we don't get everything we want that happened with me too and i was devastated then went into depression.... Now finally i have started to realise I don't need something external to be whole or full and happy i can choose to be happy with everything i have right now and with everything i will happen in future either way i can be happy. It's quite long but just wanted to convey my thoughts. Btw your videos are always helpful.
Thankyou for this, I been experiencing some feelings like regret and frustration as my recent friends decided to cut me off because of misunderstanding. Friendship breakup scks, I been questioning myself of I should do that or do this, feeling sad because of it and the feeling of being misunderstood. But recently I adapted and letting the things go slowly, it hurts but I realized it is the way it is so I decided to let it go, and let them be. I got tired of trying to fix it when I am the only one trying. So either way whats gonna happen, Im good.
I have graduated, been working a full time job and I only have one person who i can truly call my friend besides my family. I'm an introvert at heart and an ambivert when it is required. Hearing your mindset about 'Im fine either way' has been helpful, next time I meet with my run club I will open up, hopefully make new friends, and see what happens. 🤞
This video came to me at the perfect time!! I really needed to hear these words, lately I've been trying to focus more on the present moment and just to enjoy life without overthinkig about the future and it's not that easy for me because I deal with OCD (it's not only about cleaning and organizing it's more complicated with different diagnosis) anyway this shitty thing made my life quite miserable for such a long time and I'm still 20 so i don't wanna live my whole life like that! So I decided that this year it's gonna be different and I'm trying to heal which is not easy at all! But thanks for real this video helped me a lot and i just woke up n it's the first thing i saw so i guess it's a sign! Love ya! ❤
Keep up the good work, Meiqii!. You are with the people who are fighting for their dreams, the people who are living their life and give it a hope even if it's a second chance. You're with the people who are trying their best and grateful for the new opportunities every single day. And you're with the people who are making the world around them better by their existence. So you're not alone, along with other people seeing this comment, you're not alone as well :) Stay healthy! 😊
A great woman once said : "You know, sometimes you can be blinded by your extreme emotions. I definitely was looking for answers, during that time when I wrote that song, and yeah, I was depressed and sad, and there were thoughts, but there were never actions, thankfully. But I wanted to share that side of my story, because I know there are so many other people out there that have gone through things like that, and you always feel like you're the only one going through that. You walk out the door, and you see someone you know, and they ask you how you are, and you just have to say you're fine when you're not really fine, but you just can't get into it, because they would never understand. Well, then comes along a song that speaks to you, that makes you feel like "Gosh, I can get through this if she can get through this, I can get through this".
It's so messed up how i keep postponing life, as in like i want to do so much stuff but i limit myself, and i won't let me enjoy things, I'm not sure why but it's a deeply weird rooted feeling of self sabotage, where I'm not even chasing a feeling, I'm evading those feelings, I'm only postponing things that everyone else has already gone through.. Do you have any advice on doing the things i actually want to and how to be more liberating and care free when enjoying things that i like.. i do not know if anyone else has this kind of issue.. it's weird. Great video though i loved it and i can relate to a lot of stuff and I'm slowly applying your advice in life but i would love some input on what i just described. All love 🤍 great channel btw I'm new but I'm hoping to stay.
I think you can want more while still being content with what you already have. Like I’m perfectly greatful and happy where I’m currently at in life and I don’t need anymore but I also want to keep hitting higher levels.
What I understood from the mentality of I am fine either way is let me explain with an example so suppose you want to make some friends but you are not able because of your talking skills or anything else so you are like ok I don't care much about that I don't want to get attached to the that thing much I am ok either way like by having a friend or even not having.
I dabbled in some major philosophies in my 20's like stocism ,buddhism glanced over nihilism ,etc . And you know what i learnt 😂 All philosophies are ret@=ded .you cant just theorise life to a simple good sounding sentence.like if you will go and tell some small kid with good caring parents anything like look live like this , dont depend on outer things too much ,he will look at you like wtf are you talking about grandpa ,i dont know about things,but i wanna run , play , fall get hurt ,i dont care about feeling good all the time.i think as we grow up we are hurt so much and not wanting to get hurt we develop so many philosophies.
But how do you change your mind so much to the point it doesn't go back to its old patterns? For me, although I know some things, I can never truly switch myself into thinking and feeling differently than I already do
I usually visualize my future and kind of “cut ties” with my “perfect visions” and recognize that I have everything I need right now. This is the best I can articulate it😭hopefully this helps
To live in the present moment you must leave your past, which means you must come to terms with your suffering. It's nice to see how far you've come but let's see how long this inertia actually lasts. I can see from the comments what kind of audience your advice actually speaks to... and they're soft. Nobody here is ruthless. You've built yourself an echo-chamber of affirmation and you are well aware of UA-cam being a potential career. Others have to burn way more to get where they need to be. This is good advice for like women, and femme - boys. Good luck, there's plenty of those around to keep you afloat. I know this is going to get backlash or deleted. But if anyone is going to comment against this, please have an actual argument opposed to getting emotional because then you just solidify my point.
It’s so important to be just at peace with the way things are and just be content. And yh that doesn’t mean you need to lose hopes and dreams and stop working on yourself
This video is so relatable! I’ve always struggled with making friends, and being an introvert makes it even harder. But there’s always a voice in my head telling me, ‘You have to be more open and talk to people!’ So now, I’m actually trying my best to step out of my comfort zone. And honestly, I’d say yes-when you open up more, things do start to get easier! Don’t overthink it (I do sometimes too, but letting things happen naturally is probably the best solution)
This video actually helped!!😀
you did great
Btw Have you still been running marathons recently?
currently training for my next one💪
@@meiqiii That‘s great!! You can do it!! 💪😀
I stopped caring about making friends once i knew my nature. I do crave intimacy (not just normal friendship), but it will be there for me some time, i am where i need to be. Just sharing thoughts
that feeling of being dejected after not being able to break into those college cliques, or even any clique in general 😖i've had it too many times but learning to not be attached to the outcome is so important, wow. i'm just letting that sink in bc it applies to so many different aspects of life!
DUDE WHAT THIS CAME AT THE PERFECT TIME! I'm a freshman in high school and only have one friend (I had more but I lost a ton of them) and have always struggled with making friends. I go from feeling like I need friends to just not needing them at all and it's so back in forth. so tysm for this video it makes me feel less alone! ❤
I hope your freshmen year goes well for you! :)
being alone makes it easier to fully focus on yourself and be completly free. it's great for focusing on school. Don't forget u are loved >U
i’m about a year younger than you, n i wanna tell you it’ll all be okay
This is straight TRUTH. I'm so glad that you have discovered this mindset at your age. I think so many people (including myself) have these "hopes" or expectations that are just a waste of energy (perhaps some things out of our control), which cause disappointment, despair, or anxiety/depression when they aren't achieved. Instead, I agree that it's just a better use of energy and brain space to fill it with appreciation for what you have, and focus on what's in your control, like being able to draw, create, engage in recreation, etc. Thanks for the cheer up! I was having a really hard day with my fiance and this cheered me up and reminded me to focus on what I can do, despite living with a partner whom I have difficulties with.
don't know if you've read The Stormlight Archive, it's a fantasy book series, and there's this concept of "journey before destination" that honestly changed how I view life as a whole. It's nice to have goals but what is even the point of goals if you're not going to enjoy the ride? I think people get too fixated in setting goals that would "create their dream life once achieved" when we should honestly look for goals that would create our dream life in the pursuit of said goals. Because a lot of times you can't really be sure that you'll hit a goal in life, many times doesn't even depend on you, but you can make sure you put in the work for it, and if you enjoy the work, then you're already living your best life without even achieving the goal you know? Journey before destination, the destination might never come, or it may come too soon (as in death and all that) but if you actually whole-heartedly enjoyed the journey, you're already fulfilled before hitting the goal.
I think maybe we need to reverse-engineer goals. Instead of setting a goal and then figuring out what you would need to do to achieve it, instead maybe we could look at what we enjoy, what makes us feel fulfilled, what we can see ourselves doing day in and day out, and obsessing over and getting better at, and make up a goal out of that. For example, with making friends, instead of thinking "okay I need to make friends so I should socialize and do this and this and this" could be better to think "what kind of stuff I enjoy doing? how can I turn the things I'm passionate about into a more sociable activity?". Instead of obsessing over the goal, just make sure you enjoy the process (and make sure it is a process you can actually enjoy) and most times the goal will come naturally sooner or later.
^ Perfect example of why I said what I said in my other comment. Some goals can't allow that kind of mindset. Do you think Bezos enjoyed his journey more than his destination, which created another journey? This is just natural selection.
i’ve adopted this mindset since before starting college and now that i’m in my third year, i’m glad that i stuck with it and that you share the same thoughts!!
tbh, i thought this mindset came from a lack of ambition (compared to people who put a lot of time and effort for their goals to the point of burnout), but like what you said, we still have our own goals, but we’re not too attached to them or the expectations. i’ve found more peace with myself knowing that my achievements are not what define me. i can reach my goals in my own time and not attach my worth to them.
very insightful video
your place, the plant, the color palette and the lamp kept against that map is so comforting
It’s funny because I’m sure that every single one of us out there has a goal we want to achieve. Seeing other people have something you don’t, especially in a world where social media bombards you with only the highlights of people’s life, it’s like we never stop to appreciate what we have at the moment, because our eyes constantly chase what’s in front of us, what we “don’t have”. It’s good to be ambitious, but it’s dangerous when one has no self awareness. I was like this before. The only time I started to achieve freedom, happiness, peace and actually attract the things I want, is when I stop wanting them. I think the right term would be “detachment”. Every now and then, it’s important to be present and grateful for what we have. Remind ourselves that we are deserving of a great life, right here right now. There are so many things to be grateful for when u start practicing gratitude. It’s easy to be in a high vibrational energy when you love life. And ofc, never stop working hard towards the life u love, just know that you are already living a wonderful life. Ps. Try not to focus your energy on negative things or people, shift your focus towards what makes you feel good. 😌
I'm so grateful you have a UA-cam channel, thank you for saying things many people are needing to hear
Thank you for this, as a 19 year old that just started college. My mentality is something I surely should be working on. Right now I'm amplifying myself by expressing what I love doing and posting it on UA-cam. Thank you for the help! 💜
Your mindset resonates so well with my inner beliefs,I too try really hard to get a thing,even though this necessarily a bad thing,but I forget living in the present and cherishing the amazing things I already have,and the person I’ve become ,I forget appreciating my progress because my eyes are always on the next thing.Once I get that,I’ll be able to rest and enjoy and after I get it ,the cycle continues. I’m truly glad your video popped up in my feed, your calm demeanour really fascinates me. I loved every bit of the video. Also, I love to draw,I always postpone drawing because of one task or other ,but today I’ll draw and get lost it in the moment and enjoy every bit of it😊. Thanks for your video,keep up!!wish you luck🍀 !!!!
OMG BEST THING AT BEST TIME. i spent years and years to achieve goals with beliefs that i'll be happy after having those things, but after all i just feel very empty and unfulfilled. im learning to embrace small aspects of life rn but having a hard time. thank you for coming at this phase, it means a lot to me😊
This is also something i am working on too as i was always given what wanted then i started obsessing over things and it became it that ultimate achievement will bring me happiness and as life we don't get everything we want that happened with me too and i was devastated then went into depression.... Now finally i have started to realise I don't need something external to be whole or full and happy i can choose to be happy with everything i have right now and with everything i will happen in future either way i can be happy.
It's quite long but just wanted to convey my thoughts. Btw your videos are always helpful.
Thank you so much for your words and advice, truly inspiring, awakening and comforting
Thankyou for this, I been experiencing some feelings like regret and frustration as my recent friends decided to cut me off because of misunderstanding. Friendship breakup scks, I been questioning myself of I should do that or do this, feeling sad because of it and the feeling of being misunderstood. But recently I adapted and letting the things go slowly, it hurts but I realized it is the way it is so I decided to let it go, and let them be. I got tired of trying to fix it when I am the only one trying. So either way whats gonna happen, Im good.
thank you, you’re so real all the time
I have graduated, been working a full time job and I only have one person who i can truly call my friend besides my family. I'm an introvert at heart and an ambivert when it is required. Hearing your mindset about 'Im fine either way' has been helpful, next time I meet with my run club I will open up, hopefully make new friends, and see what happens. 🤞
Your advice is actually so helpful tysm ✨
You dropped this girl 👑✨...imma proud of you
This video came to me at the perfect time!! I really needed to hear these words, lately I've been trying to focus more on the present moment and just to enjoy life without overthinkig about the future and it's not that easy for me because I deal with OCD (it's not only about cleaning and organizing it's more complicated with different diagnosis) anyway this shitty thing made my life quite miserable for such a long time and I'm still 20 so i don't wanna live my whole life like that! So I decided that this year it's gonna be different and I'm trying to heal which is not easy at all! But thanks for real this video helped me a lot and i just woke up n it's the first thing i saw so i guess it's a sign! Love ya! ❤
Keep up the good work, Meiqii!. You are with the people who are fighting for their dreams, the people who are living their life and give it a hope even if it's a second chance. You're with the people who are trying their best and grateful for the new opportunities every single day. And you're with the people who are making the world around them better by their existence. So you're not alone, along with other people seeing this comment, you're not alone as well :)
Stay healthy! 😊
A great woman once said :
"You know, sometimes you can be blinded by your extreme emotions. I definitely was looking for answers, during that time when I wrote that song, and yeah, I was depressed and sad, and there were thoughts, but there were never actions, thankfully. But I wanted to share that side of my story, because I know there are so many other people out there that have gone through things like that, and you always feel like you're the only one going through that. You walk out the door, and you see someone you know, and they ask you how you are, and you just have to say you're fine when you're not really fine, but you just can't get into it, because they would never understand. Well, then comes along a song that speaks to you, that makes you feel like "Gosh, I can get through this if she can get through this, I can get through this".
This is very relatable, am happy that I found your chanel.
Hello, I just wanted to say that I think that you are very smart and you very real for saying these things and I'm praying for you 😁🙏
Finally someone speak up my mind
You have such a baby face and love the concept of giving advice while painting
Great timing meiqi!!! Love your videos 💗💗love from India 💗
Amazing video definitely agree , thank you for the video 😊
Supporting you always!!! Love your videos!!! Keep going!!!
Past tense of overthink is overthunk,You are welcome.
You’re so pretty omggg 💕
Thank you for this video!!❤
The title is giving "either way" by ive (love your videos!)
It's so messed up how i keep postponing life, as in like i want to do so much stuff but i limit myself, and i won't let me enjoy things, I'm not sure why but it's a deeply weird rooted feeling of self sabotage, where I'm not even chasing a feeling, I'm evading those feelings, I'm only postponing things that everyone else has already gone through.. Do you have any advice on doing the things i actually want to and how to be more liberating and care free when enjoying things that i like.. i do not know if anyone else has this kind of issue.. it's weird. Great video though i loved it and i can relate to a lot of stuff and I'm slowly applying your advice in life but i would love some input on what i just described. All love 🤍 great channel btw I'm new but I'm hoping to stay.
This came perfect time . Love you ❤
I think you can want more while still being content with what you already have. Like I’m perfectly greatful and happy where I’m currently at in life and I don’t need anymore but I also want to keep hitting higher levels.
The only constant is change
What I understood from the mentality of I am fine either way is let me explain with an example so suppose you want to make some friends but you are not able because of your talking skills or anything else so you are like ok I don't care much about that I don't want to get attached to the that thing much I am ok either way like by having a friend or even not having.
great video
i loved this
I dabbled in some major philosophies in my 20's like stocism ,buddhism glanced over nihilism ,etc . And you know what i learnt 😂
All philosophies are ret@=ded .you cant just theorise life to a simple good sounding sentence.like if you will go and tell some small kid with good caring parents anything like look live like this , dont depend on outer things too much ,he will look at you like wtf are you talking about grandpa ,i dont know about things,but i wanna run , play , fall get hurt ,i dont care about feeling good all the time.i think as we grow up we are hurt so much and not wanting to get hurt we develop so many philosophies.
meiqiii invents buddhism...
W vid queen
Thank you 😢❤
But how do you change your mind so much to the point it doesn't go back to its old patterns?
For me, although I know some things, I can never truly switch myself into thinking and feeling differently than I already do
I am fine❤❤❤❤ i am the best❤❤❤
Have a nice weekend. ❤❤❤
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thank you
Are there any things you do to really get into that mindset, like repeating mantras? Thanks for the video ❤
I usually visualize my future and kind of “cut ties” with my “perfect visions” and recognize that I have everything I need right now. This is the best I can articulate it😭hopefully this helps
underrated
To live in the present moment you must leave your past, which means you must come to terms with your suffering. It's nice to see how far you've come but let's see how long this inertia actually lasts. I can see from the comments what kind of audience your advice actually speaks to... and they're soft. Nobody here is ruthless. You've built yourself an echo-chamber of affirmation and you are well aware of UA-cam being a potential career. Others have to burn way more to get where they need to be. This is good advice for like women, and femme - boys. Good luck, there's plenty of those around to keep you afloat.
I know this is going to get backlash or deleted. But if anyone is going to comment against this, please have an actual argument opposed to getting emotional because then you just solidify my point.
Love from india ❤
This is swag
MeiQi is so MeiLi
🩷 go queen
2 MINUTES AAA
Anybody notice if she has makeup on in any of her vid 😅
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