0:00 Opening Song 🎵 Mystery Song 🎵 2:40 🎵 Field Coffee, Pt. 6 By Fields For Coffee 🎵 4:06 🎵 Voyage By Chris Westlake 🎵 7:21 🎵 Mystery Song 2 🎵 8:51 🎵 Bossa Lisboa By Sonic Moon 🎵 10:29 🎵 Cuban Cigar (Reduced Mix) By Peter Godfrey 🎵 13:17 🎵 Your Good Lies By Vividry 🎵 17:12 🎬 Show Starts, Monologue, Social Skills Make You More Successful, Candle Of The Evening Le Labo Palo Santo 14, Fragrance Of The Evening Amouage Reflexion 45 29:20 Difference Between IQ And EQ 42:00 Do People Like You? 1:11:30 1st Caller Maritan age 35, Married 2nd Caller age 25, Married, 3rd Caller age 28 1:31:15 4th Caller Jarrod, 5th Caller Gavin age 42, 6th Caller age 29, 7th Caller age 26, Clueless 1:48:30 Final Words and Important Point 1:52:54 Outro
@@MrDkb21 I’m At The Gym Right Now But I Have To Say This… He Had So Much More To Teach Though. He Would’ve Been The Most Known And Taken His Talents To New Heights Never Seen. Not Only Redpill And The Manosphere Taking Height To Life And Awareness But The Health Of People And The Ever Changing Dynamic Between Men And Women (mainly women). I’m Still Heartbroken And I Haven’t Vented In A While But I Miss Him. I’m Glad I Could Vent.
Gentlemen. The best thing you can do to honor this mans legacy, is to live your life to the fullest potential. You know that is exactly what he would want for you. Rest In Peace to The Godfather.
KS is right on this one. Yes I’m not the smartest guy nor did I go to a big name college and I got a business management degree. But, I’ve always known that high EQ is where the opportunities open up the doors. I got my BA while working full time. Already was making 45K a year salary as a junior and then 75K right after I graduated (beat 79 applicants with way more IQ and experience then me. I was the stronger interviewer, with more confidence, in a tailored suit, in shape, plus bilingual Spanish). I know KS isn’t a fan of HR, but I’m on my way to HR management in a few years (I’m a 37 year old tiger, with no kids so moving is no problem for newer higher paying opportunities when they come). Fellas, discover what kind of problems you like to solve professionally (if you’re stuck in what career field you want to get into), then plan and run with it (and keep developing as you go). Go take what’s yours gentlemen.
@The Esquire of Sports ® exactly. Circle of friends and gaining new friendships that are like-minded challenge you and give you all the information you need. Taking advantage of what your school has to offer is huge. Mock interviews with high level professionals that are connected to your school is huge and you gain a new professional friend. In my opinion, there’s very few (and I mean less than 3) ways to be successful in a career. And you’re right, there’s is no “I’m doing it my way” kinda bullshit 🤣 you really keep yourself in the rat race thinking that way.
Yessss!!! I'm speaking as a woman here, but I did similar (though I had the added benefit of a husband, so it let me be a bit more relaxed in goal setting) -- if I were single and/or a man I would have been much more aggressive in going after things. That's exactly what we teach our teenage son --- goals 1st, everything else will follow -- Sometimes this means separating yourself from some. If they're not teaching, motivating, inspiring or adding benefit to your life in some way, remove them! Good luck!
@The Esquire of Sports ® that was one of my biggest mistakes when I was younger. I would 100% be classified as an introvert if someone watched me 24 hours a day, but these days I can talk to people for so long that they laugh when I mention I'm actually an introverted dude. Extro/intro just refers to how we recharge our batteries, extros recharge by being around people and intros recharge by being alone... Neither one is necessarily shy or super social. Younger me was trying to prove a point that I could succeed alone, with no degree, no car, no credit, no debt... Basically trying to reinvent the wheel of success when the formula was already in existence and right in front of me.
Can’t thank you enough for everything you’ve done to improve relationships between people, especially black men and women. Although I didn’t learn about you until after your passing, this is just a testament to the positive legacy that you have left through your work. Thank you for all that you have done. RIP…
KS 1000% correct on this . Having super strong social skills. And able to carry on conversation's with ppl. And having some sense of humor and common sense. Will open up all sorts of door's and salary opertunnitys being successful in Americas work force no matter what type work you doing. You have to wake up and go get it.Bc nothing will be giving to you . You have to earn it. And having top notch social skills will help you get there. Facts 🤙🏾
It’s not even about social skills with random ppl but with the one they’re with at least. Some of these dudes are socially awkward almost autistic (you can tell by the question they ask). Obviously a man needs to be able to relate to a woman, communicate well with her etc.
This is the truth. I got promotions at a warehouse when I first came to the states with no work experience after a couple months mainly because I was a social person people knew me. When I was would miss work people will ask me the next day if something happened because they are so used to seeing me all the time. I didn't even have to do interviews they would just give me the job. Social skills are massive. I am the only one in my family who speaks Hindi and I learned that when we lived In India. I would talk to shop owners in Hindi, Talk to my landlord in Hindi, Cab drivers everyone. People light up when you talk to them in their native language. My Spanish is average at best but every chance I get I try to speak it to anyone whether it's coworkers or shop owners. Mind you I love being at home and just relaxing but I thrive when I am around people.
@@professionalpookie With you saying bruh you can't even start off. A sentence properly now that's truly sad. Get it together and do better and send out more positive energy instead sending out negetive energy.
As a Mechanical Engineer, I needed to hear this. I thought that social skills and relationships don't matter in my field. It turns out they do. Your video woke me up and showed me that image still matters even if you are good at your job on paper.
Kevin I am 70 years old and listening to you has opened my eyes about my past mistakes and the younger women had better listen, because in the Black community we never had true good guidance except for the Church and even they are not as concerned as much as we need..keep doing what you do and ignore the naysayers
Fantastic content & relatable. Being an introvert it was initially challenging to be social. However, I took effort to practice on whatever avenue I could (personal/ professional). Today, I am an Account Manager for the biggest client in a company. The feedback from our client was they like the professional relationship built (started when I joined the company). Be a trained extrovert. It will open more doors. KS is 💯 accurate on this subject.
@The Esquire of Sports ® it got me no where in the company being introverted. At times I still do get the emotional anxiety 😅. However, the more practice I got, the better. I still have room for improvement. KS's platform is getting international attention. I am from Malaysia.
As a man myself I like quiet females. Silent cute and discreet is the way to go. Obviously in certain situations understand how to socialize (when necessary) but other than that, my lady is best up under me and discreet.
@far from I am married. Touching 15 years now. At work I may lead, but at home there is one leader - my husband. I am able to voice out my concerns or opinions, but the tone & deamor has always got to be respectful, cooperative - to cut it short- what KS says what being feminine is all about.
LADIES listen to the married sister and leave behind your single and ALPHABET friends to themselves. They are there to remind you the good things about single life and not how you can improve your marriage. LEAVE THEM!!!
I often travel by myself internationally and my social skills have opened up business opportunities, dinner meetups, and networking. Most people are shocked to even see a solo traveler and I’m often the only black woman in a crowd. It’s a great conversation starter and I’ve meet some interesting people over the years. One of your best videos Kevin. Cheers🥂
@@skipg73 Understood but the key for me has always been using basic common sense. I stay around people, don’t isolate myself in risky areas, and do many group tours and activities when abroad. Many people I know don’t like to travel and life is too short to just stay at home.
This really tripped me up as a young man. I was VERY technically competent, but was never a "people person." I got promoted young to management on the strengths of my work but was TERRIBLE managing people doing the work. It was a tough road, learning to work the people aspect of business. My natural EQ with women was poor until I put in deliberate effort learning.
Not feel bad. I'm the same way. I'm 24 and got into med school. However I'm struggling to communicate with mentors and others students. Some are questioning why I even wanted to become a doctor. Meanwhile my friend fails at everything but he is a people person so people recommend him all the time. Also women dont exist at all Lol. I'm putting in that effort as well.
This is legitimately the best and most important video KS has ever made. As someone whose social skills and high EQ came very naturally, everything he is saying is 100% true. I am not attractive and wasn’t born into money, but I’ve achieved everything I want in life. Social skills, people skills, and the ability to work with others matters a LOT. The story about not using the expense account is so relatable, especially in sales. I knew exactly where that was going, because the best salespeople are all honest and relatable. This translates to non-work. Lubricate the room, gentlemen. Don’t agitate it.
For real! I'm trying to start up a wedding videography and photography company and I've never been that great at approaching people. Time to change my mentality!
Just found this video organically and realized I see some questions so update: An increase in higher paying clientele, less attrition, more word of mouth referrals and more people connecting with me as the medium for them to go on doing business together, stronger community, many gifts from clients Got a couple lunches lined up this week as I’ve continued to recognize that social side
Yes. So true. As always. I cutt off all my friends for 4 years now. Separate them because: 1)Single friends with no marriage prospects and femen inists 2)Male friends that I felt they gave me attention just because I am a "cute girl". They were younger than me too. So no guys males. I have stayed alone or learning from married women, good examples and bad examples, taking notes how to do or not. But saving to hire a coach and hope when I am married, keep a therapist/coach to keep me in track too. It is better to be alone than with toxic single friends. Now, I am working in my social skills joining short courses that reunite people from Businesses,culture and taking cooking classes. I am almost 30, but avoided relationship like a sickness since I was a teen. Childhood trauma, healing and preparing to get married in the next years. I live in Europe (not near Russia or Ukrania. God Bless the people there) If you are in your 20's, listen to Kevin. He knows and if you have kids teach them this wisdom. I wish I was taught this way when growing up. Thank you Mr Samuels♥
I am Senior Project Manager, I cannot begin to express how important this is. I deal with many incompetent people due to their inability to communicate. Well done sir!!!!!
This is such a great topic and so true. I started my first community organization in 2018 and it has been without a doubt primarily supported by the relationships I’ve built up over the last 15 years. It blows my mind everyday that connections I made over a decade ago are paying off in the present day. Not being afraid to start a conversation with strangers and knowing how to carry one goes a long way. Having a good personality takes it even further. Opportunities open up just because people enjoy your presence.
I’m going to miss Kevin giving his insight and advise on life. I was lucky enough to find your channel in becoming the best version of me, before you left.
Best monologue he has had in at least a year. Those soft social skills are so crucial today in society. Being likable can get you in doors that your knowledge cannot. I have seen it in corporate for a decade. I also like the comment from one of his people in his chat mentioning the pokies and Ray Ray’s having social skills. Kevin wouldn’t dive deep into it but the guy was absolutely right. Bums generally have the gift of gab and women value social skills. This is why they initially get chose.
Now all of a sudden Pookie has charisma and social skills? Their full time job is chasing women, drinking, smoking and wasting their lives away. How tf does this equate to having better social skills? Find me the the white, Asian or Hispanic version of Pookie who has as much success with women of his cultural group. Oh wait you can't. Other women don't find that shit appealing, bottom line. Becky and Marisol will f Pookie but she won't see him as a serious prospect as a mate or father of her child.
Losing the godfather is a very hard pill to swallow. He inspired me to be at my very best and keep leveling up thanks to him I'm in the six figure club my next step is to be a high value man love you Godfather rest in power
A book recommendation that has helped my soft skills is Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss. It teaches that to win any negotiation, you have to convince the other side that YOUR idea is THEIR idea w/ empathy. You’re welcome
Downside of being socially involved- lack of trust, betrayal, and people who can potentially use you, fakeness. Main reason I stay introverted but I can talk to ppl but only when I feel like it some people are draining!
@Bishop No. he's right, and his points are not hypothetical. Often times very sociable people are that way because they do not stand for too much and therefore "relate" to a lot of people and are better able to "socialize"
@Bishop I think the disconnect is what kind of introvert are we talking about. Some ppl are introverts because they can’t help it. (socially awkward, insecure, etc…) Then, there are introverts like myself who has social skills, can deal with any crowd or gender but I CHOOSE to stay away from ppl because I don’t like being played with, stabbed in the back, I tend have opposing views (conservative).
Well said Kevin. Absolutely Correct. My son asked me one day; How do you get so many store discounts? How do you get so much respect when you go out and people want to talk with you?
I'm a stay at home father so I know alot of men here wont wanna hear what I have to say but in my social circle, I'm the friend people come to for whatever they need. I've always been a leader since young in sports. Learned how to drive semis at 16 because of my dad. Was training drivers at 21. I was in a accident because of a unrelated drunk driver plowing head first into me as I was heading to work. Since then I had to take a step back and let me wife lead. She makes great money so it only makes sense. I've been told 100s of times how lucky I am to have my wife but me and my wife have been together since high school. This isn't luck, its teamwork. Love you Michelle. ❤
Yes. social skills and charisma is a form of currency. It is a lost thing among the younger generation and is a key for older guys to pull young women. Social skills will get you in circles and close to people that you wouldn't believe. I once talked myself onto Ziggy Marley's tour bus many years ago lol
When i tell women who ask me for relationship advice that i dont ask for relationship advice they think im weird. But its cause I've let my female friends and sisters influence my approach in relationships in the past in a way that i almost ruined my relationship. The day I distanced myself from friends and i kept my sisters away from my relationship is when it started flourishing.
Thanks KS. I'm working on my outward image b/c i have always been intelligent but never really understood my value to society. I was too stuck on Disney fantasy and the value I could bring to a damaged woman. Im definitely working to a better outcome thanks to men like you
Thanks Kevin. I think this show is going to be one of the biggest ones for me hands down. I recognize how much my social skills suck. I really thought improving my IQ was the answer. Boy was I wrong on this one. Again, thank you Kevin. I won't forget this one.
Don’t sweat it. Not all men are chatty patties 🤷🏽♂️. It’s cool to be stoic, reserved & introverted. Somebody has to be the show monkey & it doesn’t have to be you. 💪🏽
It's not all on the women. There's a lot of weird ass men out there, very socially awkward and talk like they're still teenagers. This is partially the impact of social media and people living their lives through devices instead of interacting with people in real time face to face. If you have children that are pre-teen and early teen, do them a favor and monitor and limit their social media activity and make sure they interact with real people regularly.
He literally split the whole show giving advice to both sides. Telling women they don’t need to improve doesn’t help them. If they don’t have the outcome they want, something needs to change and often it’s them.
@@antwanthorogood4921 I'm not saying women don't need to improve. The only point I was trying to make was listening to some of the guys that called in it wasn't hard to tell why they might have problems with women. Almost all of them were over 25 but talked like they're still in high school.
@@jayp3360 yeah they lacked vocabulary and real social life skills. Thing is, they could recognize it and was asking for help. The women spent the time trying deny anything was wrong or pass the blame to someone or something else.
@@antwanthorogood4921 he said….”it’s not ALL on the women” he never said women don’t have to improve…the ones that have great careers have gotten complacent and the ones that don’t tend too talk to much too many people as it is 😂 jk they need to use their mouth and social skills to help their man and family as a whole. KS said “it’s ALL ON WOMAN”
Peace and blessing to all who truly understand what this man was trying to do with his community. He started a wave and our collective improvement in life is a tribute to his legacy. Men and women alike. ❤️
This is true. I have an IT job that requires a cyber security bachelors all from my soft skills. I only have some college with no degree. I didn’t have a family member get me the job, or a friend. I started at the bottom and knew how to be liked by everyone I encountered. I left for two months and they begged me to come back. Now I make 70k and am taking classes for my bachelors payed for by my company. All from communication skills and being liked by the pack.
I've always admired how they watch out for one another. If a member of the church is down on their luck, they provide resources and guidance to get them back right. They also hold members to a standard. I'm not s religious man but I can always respect folks who actually live by the words they preach.
I was born and raised Jehovahs Witness. I still am a practicing Jehovahs Witness. He just cracked me up with this. He ain’t lying, Saturday morning we are going to give you this word. Lol. Great content Mr. Samuels. I listen to you because of your love for the Bible and “limited” vulgar language. We LOVE ALL HUMANS!!
This part right here at 1:08:37 is spot on!! Get off them damn phones!!!! So many issues would be reduced....so many greater moments would be created if people just knew how to do the most simple thing.......talk!!! .....to be continued.
Having a good idea/product means nothing unless you know how to market and sell it to people. No way around it. The world is full of genius individuals walking around who most people will unfortunately never know about.. because these individuals lack the skills needed to effectively communicate their gifts. It's quite sad if you think about it.
Totally agree it's like someone being totally book smart. And could almost run a nuclear power plant on their own. But don't have that common sense to start a conversation on normal everyday things. To break the ice to someone to show how really how genius they are.
Kevin, this episode was made just for me, im actually going to therapy and trying to read books like, how to win friends and influence, because my social skills are rubbish. You're describing me and i don't know how to start to change, it's really hard for me to connect with people. Thank you for this podcast.
I would suggest joining a boxing gym, MMA gym, or any kind of gym that has a lot of people and involves competitive contact. I joined when I was 17 and was somewhat quiet, but the forced interaction with like-minded people alongside the physical challenges is a double edged sword and open you up to be more confident overall in yourself. It’s a natural environment to develop in a hierarchy as well just like the real world. You won’t feel bad as you improve physically. (Translates into less feelings as you grow professionally and personally). Hope everything goes well for you.
Great points again sir. We all need to remember that we need the society and other people. None of us can survive alone (no matter how independent we think we are). We all need to do what we are good at and bring those skills to the market so that we can get the benefit of other's skills and production. Before we begin to build EW and interpersonal skills, we need to begin with the understanding that we need each other. People need to work on the speaking, writing and listening skills. Listening being the most important. If we don't listen, we will never figure out what others need so that we can give that to them in exchange for what we need. And lastly, proper speaking does not mean a large vocabulary. Too many times people use large words (often incorrectly) trying to impress, but instead, it isolates us. To reach the most people, we need to use the words we all use and can easily understand. That will reach the biggest audience. (Never use the word "verisimilitude". No one knows that that means.). Good speaking means projecting your voice in a confident manner (not shouting), and when talking with someone, listen for understanding, not to respond. Thanks again for your videos Mr. Samuels.
This broadcast information was filled with so much valuable information. Thank you Kevin for taking a no nonsense approach and really focusing on what gets results. More young men need to hear these things (including myself). Social skills are everything.
These videos are my training program to use and prepare myself to be the best version of myself. Thank you Godfather for the info gone but not forgotten
10 things to quit for all Strong Men: 1. Caring about what others think 2. Not believing in yourself 3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business) 4. Not prioritizing your health 5. Wasting your precious time 6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it) 7. Chasing meaningless relationships 8. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 🥩 9. Wasting time by scrolling social media 10. Nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!) Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list.......................................
This is so deep, had notepad in hand. I'm 54, I know I need to work on my communication skills. I believe this will put me on the right path. Thank you Godfather!
When Mary Barra took over GM, they were selling 10 Million cars a year. After 7 years (the end of 2021) they are down to around 4 Million Vehicles a year. If she were a man, she would have been fired in shame. Instead now in 2022, she got a MASSIVE performance bonus that effectively DOUBLED her pay in GM, making her one of the highest paid execs on the planet. During this same period Tesla's sales have been doubling every year and GM's electric cars had to be paused to figure out how to keep them from exploding!
I pick my own stocks. One of the 3 main factors I look for is the lowest possible DEI score. No women on the board, CO or top positions. I also avoid the alphabet mafia.
@@personalshopper2585 maybe it was personal how u know. It’s def not masculine AT ALL to take donations from other grown men.. A man with a certain pride and honor would never
PersonalShopper Your a misandrist who's propaganda doesnt works in the manosphere. Your attempt to leech of others content to stave off the decimation of the swirling/divestment numbers speaks volumes.
This is a great conversation. Mr. Samuels is very correct about the importance of social skills, Soft skills, Team Building, etc.... I've achieved a lot more in my life because of my people skills than I EVER did with my resume! Some of my friends have technical skills that can lap me 5 times over but because I have great people skills, I was able to climb higher and because of my network/connections, I was able to open up more opportunities and be more valuable to people in my circle and extended circles. you NEED great people skills to have success!
I understand you so well on this topic. Social skill are incredibly important. For instance, I am the only employee with whom the president of the company has social and personal conversations with. To a degree that the supervisors, office managers look uncomfortable when he approaches me and engage in conversations. I also provided him with the need to add room for truckers to park trailers and he made sure that that had gotten done. I also have my CDL. And with that he was really proactive in getting a lot built. I had once left this company. And he and many others were sadden about that. Due to my social skills and relationships I had with the people in the front office. And they convinced me to return and gave me a salary proposal. And was able to negotiate my yearly salary. Why? Because I had established a relationship with the hierarchy at my place of employment. I am a robotic machine technician. I create and input programs for their operations.
@ᴋᴇᴠɪɴ sᴀᴍᴜᴇʟs Mr. Samuel. I want to inquire about booking a session with you. And how I go about it. I love your content. Many of the topics in which you have for women. I too have had these conversations with my nieces, female counterpart and even with my ex-wife before I discovered your channel. Which is why, when I first discovered your channel I was immediately connected. For so long I thought I was crazy due to the fact it seemed as if I was the only person in this world of understanding. You proved I was not. I thank you my brother.
OMG I've been giving my friends the same opening monologue about us and how we approach business awareness. hard work is not everything, use your soft skills, work smarter not harder
I fell asleep to this last night and am watching this again at work so glad I didn’t close my browser this is why how to win friends and influence people is such an important book
Hey Kevin we need a book the social side of success written by the godfather 🔥 content and at a perfect time for me as I'm growing to be the man I want to be salute
That is our job to write a book. Do your Ph.D. dissertation on this great topic like I am and help our current generation!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Doctorate of Divinity!! I pray to take all of KS great knowledge to help Black Boys!!!!!
Supposedly he is writing a book! He spoke about it some months or even a year+ ago, but we haven't gotten an update since as far as I'm aware. Fingers crossed we get it soon, it's a day one read for me.
My husband is such a great people's person. And it isn't necessarily that he needs the interaction, he's just great at socializing with others. It could be as simple as shopping in the grocery store. People are just draw to him. Of course that's one of many things that attracted me initially. At first I didn't understand it, but now I find it admirable. I don't have the social skills he does, I'm a very awkward person so putting myself out there is hard. But since meeting him I'm more outgoing than I once was. And I least know how to fake it till I make it. I hope to get better with time and learn to communicate with others. Especially as I'm growing in my faith and want to serve in my church. Lastly, ladies shoot your shot! Don't be afraid of rejection. Women don't take initiative often so when you do it sets you apart. I did it and now we're married lol.
@@vlogcity1111 thank you! I'm in my late 20s now, we started dating when I was 21 and we were together 3 years before marrying. He's 10.5 years older than I am.
One of the best ways to improve your quality of life from a financial and relationship stand point is being an active listener. Many people struggle with this regard and when you excel at it you stand out amongst the crowd to reap the rewards.
Carl Icahn spoke about this from a much more damning perspective in his Lebow University School of Business commencement speech on how America is falling behind in management because of this frat/sorority club social orgy mentality which Kevin is absolutely correct is necessary for survival in this day and age but not necessarily healthy for the progress and productivity, I definitely could understand why women as naturally being more socially adapt would desire the current zeitgeist of interaction across all spectrums a more balanced approach seems ideal, I’m not so sure the greatest men in history would thrive in a system so greatly skewed to one side of the spectrum being that a conventional mind would always value doing more and talking less as being far more productive in the long run, but being that we are now in a gynocentric social order where men are compromising their innate nature gradually as time goes on (especially black men) this formula that Kevin is presenting seems like perfect advice 👍
@UCVADz2H1nDcORtPHNssan4Q I believe you should watch the speech Icahn is the archetype of this high value profile Kevin speaks of becoming, Icahn’s entire life he’s relied on friends in high places I don’t get any sense that he’s a proponent of repressing the development of social skills I believe he’s just valuing performance and tangible results over making everything a High School popularity contest it actually seems more lazy to want to rely on your social butterfly skills as opposed to your cognitive aptitude to get things done sensibly there should be a balance of the two…black folks in general prefer to talk too much which makes sense being that the black community is effectively ran by a matriarchy and that’s why I think this message of refined “EQ” rather than actually excelling first as people in the areas of STEM could be counterproductive leaving them to becoming more of overpaid caricatures of themselves in these professional settings instead of figures of real value, meritocracy is important there’s a reason why after a few decades of minorities smiling from ear to ear at cocktail parties dressed in Sunday clothes and bow ties still all of the nearly 70 trillion dollars in investment capital floating around blacks actually manage and own less than 2% of it 👍
These callers are why I tell young people that one of the best jobs you can get while you're young is a restaurant server. The money you make is directly connected to your social skills. I'm an introvert who can ACT like an extrovert because of the lessons I learned waiting tables and bartending.
This was a great episode. I realized I tend to have good social skills and usually have people wanting to be around me. I am a journalist by profession, and being personable was the best way to have a more organic interview. I applied that to my personal life, and I definitely dont have a shortage of people wanting to hang out and be around me. I think the down side for me is that I've met more women than not who have terrible conversation skills. On the other side. I have a good friend who is extremely intelligent. But he has a hard time really making friends and meeting women. Great dude, but his social skills are a little bit lacking. And I think he puts too much stock into women instead of putting stock into himself.
@@eliduncan7715 talk to people without wanting anything in return. A good way is just saying "Hi" or making a a joke or something lighthearted when you're in line at the store or waiting for coffee. Mainly just being a genuine person. Not putting pressure on yourself to meet people, but more so just enjoying the human experience. I'm a true introvert and can go weeks without talking to people. But I can also go to a gathering like an exhibit or gallery opening and just chat with people there. Learn about the event and what not. But the first thing is just starting with saying "Hi". Take it one day at a time.
@@eliduncan7715 be open aswell be cautious for obvious reasons in my situation want to better myself and have bigger circle of friends because at present moment have three people that aren't exactly leveling up me
@@66coldnight this is a good point. I found that as I was bettering myself my circle of friends got smaller and eventually it was just me. I realized that I need to be around people who inspire and challenge me to be better. Some people get to a point in life and that's their apex. In my case, I want to see what my ultimate self is like. Meaning training my mind, body and spirit. Understanding that I will always be a student of life. And i am okay with staying on my path even though people I care about may not be able to keep up. After my divorce, I was left at the very bottom. Living out of my car and the best job at the time I could get was a groundskeeper job at a golf course. I worked and focused on being the change I want to see. Eventually I got a better job, then finally made it into the professional world. I am currently head of marketing for a company here in NC. I stayed focused on what I need to succeed. Meeting people was a part of that and because of my social skills I netted some important references, that boosted me to the next level. So stay focused on constantly improving. Hit the gym, join a boxing club or martial arts dojo, and build skills around your main skills. I went from being homeless in Chicago to head of marketing in Charlotte. Its one step at a time bruv and remember its progress not perfection. Sometimes those closest to us are unable to keep up. But that shouldn't stop us because maybe our actions will inspire, just like others have inspired us.
I thought that glass was some fine scotch... Gotta love Kevin. RIP. "I try to make as little division between men as possible." Very wise. True brotherhood.
Just like most things in life, social skills have gradations. It's not a one size fits all equation. You can be an introvert/lone wolf, and still have social skills. They're like the good China, you only pull them out when the time calls for it.
I watch all the time but this has been the most helpful video for me by a long shot. I could go into why and all that but ever since I started working out in addition to crushing it in my field I started to realize some gains. Thank you for helping me understand the social aspects of things.
I decided to create a career devoid of needing social contacts, but they came anyway. Depending on your skillset, there's plenty of high paying work and even businesses you can create that do not take a lot of social front-facing. I went from doing a lot of biz-gen for a business I operated and dealing with business owners to working solo as a Futures market trader(mostly oil and indice futures). I much prefer not relying on social contacts to earn money, but i'm always open to conversations about what I do and they endlessly come.
Time stamps
0:00 Opening Song 🎵 Mystery Song 🎵
2:40 🎵 Field Coffee, Pt. 6 By Fields For Coffee 🎵
4:06 🎵 Voyage By Chris Westlake 🎵
7:21 🎵 Mystery Song 2 🎵
8:51 🎵 Bossa Lisboa By Sonic Moon 🎵
10:29 🎵 Cuban Cigar (Reduced Mix) By Peter Godfrey 🎵
13:17 🎵 Your Good Lies By Vividry 🎵
17:12 🎬 Show Starts, Monologue, Social Skills Make You More Successful, Candle Of The Evening Le Labo Palo Santo 14, Fragrance Of The Evening Amouage Reflexion 45
29:20 Difference Between IQ And EQ
42:00 Do People Like You?
1:11:30 1st Caller Maritan age 35, Married 2nd Caller age 25, Married, 3rd Caller age 28
1:31:15 4th Caller Jarrod, 5th Caller Gavin age 42, 6th Caller age 29, 7th Caller age 26, Clueless
1:48:30 Final Words and Important Point
1:52:54 Outro
I was just looking for you,Thank you Deshawn soo much!!🤞👑
Legend 💪
The most consistent MVP around - thanks @deshawn !
Your the goat Brotha
Awesome job
Godfather still taking me to school in March 2024.
I wish he were still here, but such is life.
Thanks KS.
Appreciate the knowledge and insight Kevin. Still can’t believe your not with us anymore. Thank you Godfather.
Facts
My hearts ♥️ broken
He finished his work on earth and God called him home.
@@MrDkb21 I’m At The Gym Right Now But I Have To Say This… He Had So Much More To Teach Though. He Would’ve Been The Most Known And Taken His Talents To New Heights Never Seen. Not Only Redpill And The Manosphere Taking Height To Life And Awareness But The Health Of People And The Ever Changing Dynamic Between Men And Women (mainly women). I’m Still Heartbroken And I Haven’t Vented In A While But I Miss Him. I’m Glad I Could Vent.
@@atorius why do you capitalize every word?
Gentlemen. The best thing you can do to honor this mans legacy, is to live your life to the fullest potential. You know that is exactly what he would want for you.
Rest In Peace to The Godfather.
Indeed
He was so awesome
That’s right
Spot on
Amen
RIP, you're a staple to Men and the development of Men's Masculinity.
KS is right on this one. Yes I’m not the smartest guy nor did I go to a big name college and I got a business management degree. But, I’ve always known that high EQ is where the opportunities open up the doors. I got my BA while working full time. Already was making 45K a year salary as a junior and then 75K right after I graduated (beat 79 applicants with way more IQ and experience then me. I was the stronger interviewer, with more confidence, in a tailored suit, in shape, plus bilingual Spanish). I know KS isn’t a fan of HR, but I’m on my way to HR management in a few years (I’m a 37 year old tiger, with no kids so moving is no problem for newer higher paying opportunities when they come). Fellas, discover what kind of problems you like to solve professionally (if you’re stuck in what career field you want to get into), then plan and run with it (and keep developing as you go). Go take what’s yours gentlemen.
Its dope you made 45k a year while a junior. Great story.
@The Esquire of Sports ® exactly. Circle of friends and gaining new friendships that are like-minded challenge you and give you all the information you need. Taking advantage of what your school has to offer is huge. Mock interviews with high level professionals that are connected to your school is huge and you gain a new professional friend. In my opinion, there’s very few (and I mean less than 3) ways to be successful in a career. And you’re right, there’s is no “I’m doing it my way” kinda bullshit 🤣 you really keep yourself in the rat race thinking that way.
Thank you makes so much sense to a 34yr old
Yessss!!! I'm speaking as a woman here, but I did similar (though I had the added benefit of a husband, so it let me be a bit more relaxed in goal setting) -- if I were single and/or a man I would have been much more aggressive in going after things. That's exactly what we teach our teenage son --- goals 1st, everything else will follow -- Sometimes this means separating yourself from some. If they're not teaching, motivating, inspiring or adding benefit to your life in some way, remove them! Good luck!
@The Esquire of Sports ® that was one of my biggest mistakes when I was younger. I would 100% be classified as an introvert if someone watched me 24 hours a day, but these days I can talk to people for so long that they laugh when I mention I'm actually an introverted dude. Extro/intro just refers to how we recharge our batteries, extros recharge by being around people and intros recharge by being alone... Neither one is necessarily shy or super social. Younger me was trying to prove a point that I could succeed alone, with no degree, no car, no credit, no debt... Basically trying to reinvent the wheel of success when the formula was already in existence and right in front of me.
Can’t thank you enough for everything you’ve done to improve relationships between people, especially black men and women. Although I didn’t learn about you until after your passing, this is just a testament to the positive legacy that you have left through your work. Thank you for all that you have done. RIP…
KS 1000% correct on this . Having super strong social skills. And able to carry on conversation's with ppl. And having some sense of humor and common sense. Will open up all sorts of door's and salary opertunnitys being successful in Americas work force no matter what type work you doing. You have to wake up and go get it.Bc nothing will be giving to you . You have to earn it. And having top notch social skills will help you get there. Facts 🤙🏾
It’s not even about social skills with random ppl but with the one they’re with at least. Some of these dudes are socially awkward almost autistic (you can tell by the question they ask). Obviously a man needs to be able to relate to a woman, communicate well with her etc.
This is the truth. I got promotions at a warehouse when I first came to the states with no work experience after a couple months mainly because I was a social person people knew me. When I was would miss work people will ask me the next day if something happened because they are so used to seeing me all the time. I didn't even have to do interviews they would just give me the job. Social skills are massive. I am the only one in my family who speaks Hindi and I learned that when we lived In India. I would talk to shop owners in Hindi, Talk to my landlord in Hindi, Cab drivers everyone. People light up when you talk to them in their native language. My Spanish is average at best but every chance I get I try to speak it to anyone whether it's coworkers or shop owners. Mind you I love being at home and just relaxing but I thrive when I am around people.
Bruh you can't even write sentences properly! This is just sad
@@professionalpookie With you saying bruh you can't even start off. A sentence properly now that's truly sad. Get it together and do better and send out more positive energy instead sending out negetive energy.
Damn this something I struggle with .
The hater’s can keep on hating, your message lives on. Rest well Mr. Kelvin Samuels.
I heard this yesterday " its not about who you know, its about who knows you!!".........
The saying is “ It’s not about who you know, It’s about who you BLOW”
@@gorilla9519 that’s for women
@@gorilla9519 This is a wild comment!
It’s not what you know, it’s who you know
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As a Mechanical Engineer, I needed to hear this. I thought that social skills and relationships don't matter in my field. It turns out they do. Your video woke me up and showed me that image still matters even if you are good at your job on paper.
He left us a great road map to life's issues with relationships & social skills& business etiquette, R.I.P
Godfather.
Facts 💯
Kevin I am 70 years old and listening to you has opened my eyes about my past mistakes and the younger women had better listen, because in the Black community we never had true good guidance except for the Church and even they are not as concerned as much as we need..keep doing what you do and ignore the naysayers
“Some men make money other men take money” man said that with more confidence than a game show contestant.
Had me dying 🤣🤣🤣 Kevin said what's my topic for the night lol
@@thatdudekove yes😂😂
and he was like: uhmmmmm...
💯💯‼️
He said that with no follow up either.
🤣🤣🤣
Feel so sad Kevin is no longer with us..! What a legend...!
Watching this in Oct 2022. Miss watching your lives Kevin, you're the man. Thank you for everything.
Fantastic content & relatable. Being an introvert it was initially challenging to be social. However, I took effort to practice on whatever avenue I could (personal/ professional). Today, I am an Account Manager for the biggest client in a company. The feedback from our client was they like the professional relationship built (started when I joined the company). Be a trained extrovert. It will open more doors. KS is 💯 accurate on this subject.
@The Esquire of Sports ® it got me no where in the company being introverted. At times I still do get the emotional anxiety 😅. However, the more practice I got, the better. I still have room for improvement.
KS's platform is getting international attention. I am from Malaysia.
As a man myself I like quiet females. Silent cute and discreet is the way to go. Obviously in certain situations understand how to socialize (when necessary) but other than that, my lady is best up under me and discreet.
@@BRlGADE_KINGPIN cringe
@far from I am married. Touching 15 years now. At work I may lead, but at home there is one leader - my husband. I am able to voice out my concerns or opinions, but the tone & deamor has always got to be respectful, cooperative - to cut it short- what KS says what being feminine is all about.
Generally, we still give our men respect.
LADIES listen to the married sister and leave behind your single and ALPHABET friends to themselves. They are there to remind you the good things about single life and not how you can improve your marriage. LEAVE THEM!!!
Preach
Married and happy and successful. Not married and miserable.
Odd that you include alphabet friends, as if they cant/dont have successful relationships like single people, when they do.
This is about bringing men and woman together everything else is out and off balance
@@jee6213 they don’t lol you know divorce lawyers got hard and wet when homosexuals were granted the license to “marry.”
This was a Personal Development Lecturer at KS university, Thank you Sir
I often travel by myself internationally and my social skills have opened up business opportunities, dinner meetups, and networking. Most people are shocked to even see a solo traveler and I’m often the only black woman in a crowd. It’s a great conversation starter and I’ve meet some interesting people over the years. One of your best videos Kevin. Cheers🥂
Be careful, traveling alone is how BW get killed all over the world.
@@personalshopper2585 Nice way to shove in your personal coincidentally antagonistic feelings about Kevin
@@krog1618 everyday we get live example on why we shouldn’t deal with American BW.
@@skipg73 Understood but the key for me has always been using basic common sense. I stay around people, don’t isolate myself in risky areas, and do many group tours and activities when abroad. Many people I know don’t like to travel and life is too short to just stay at home.
Same here, solo traveling does open opportunities and networking especially in Mexico
This really tripped me up as a young man. I was VERY technically competent, but was never a "people person." I got promoted young to management on the strengths of my work but was TERRIBLE managing people doing the work. It was a tough road, learning to work the people aspect of business. My natural EQ with women was poor until I put in deliberate effort learning.
Not feel bad. I'm the same way. I'm 24 and got into med school. However I'm struggling to communicate with mentors and others students. Some are questioning why I even wanted to become a doctor. Meanwhile my friend fails at everything but he is a people person so people recommend him all the time. Also women dont exist at all Lol. I'm putting in that effort as well.
Same. Accept the challenge and evolve.
Unfortunately today's corporate America is corrupt. Corporations promote
Thanks man ! I am going through this right now it lets me know it can be done
How would u go about working on EQ ?
This is legitimately the best and most important video KS has ever made.
As someone whose social skills and high EQ came very naturally, everything he is saying is 100% true. I am not attractive and wasn’t born into money, but I’ve achieved everything I want in life. Social skills, people skills, and the ability to work with others matters a LOT. The story about not using the expense account is so relatable, especially in sales. I knew exactly where that was going, because the best salespeople are all honest and relatable.
This translates to non-work. Lubricate the room, gentlemen. Don’t agitate it.
How do you do that if your not attractive?
I agree. Great comment!
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@@tilt6715be charismatic. Don’t matter how attractive you are when your charismatic. Be funny too that’s a bonus
This might not hit a milli but this is by far one of the best shows I've seen. 🔥🔥🔥
“There’s a social side to success” pumped going into this next week with that reminder
Get to it and please post an update about how it went. We will cheer your success.
For real! I'm trying to start up a wedding videography and photography company and I've never been that great at approaching people. Time to change my mentality!
How did it go?
Just found this video organically and realized I see some questions so update:
An increase in higher paying clientele, less attrition, more word of mouth referrals and more people connecting with me as the medium for them to go on doing business together, stronger community, many gifts from clients
Got a couple lunches lined up this week as I’ve continued to recognize that social side
“If you’re NOT the lead dog, the view never changes” is the quote
Yes. So true. As always.
I cutt off all my friends for 4 years now. Separate them because:
1)Single friends with no marriage prospects and femen inists
2)Male friends that I felt they gave me attention just because I am a "cute girl". They were younger than me too. So no guys males.
I have stayed alone or learning from married women, good examples and bad examples, taking notes how to do or not.
But saving to hire a coach and hope when I am married, keep a therapist/coach to keep me in track too.
It is better to be alone than with toxic single friends.
Now, I am working in my social skills joining short courses that reunite people from Businesses,culture and taking cooking classes.
I am almost 30, but avoided relationship like a sickness since I was a teen. Childhood trauma, healing and preparing to get married in the next years. I live in Europe (not near Russia or Ukrania. God Bless the people there)
If you are in your 20's, listen to Kevin. He knows and if you have kids teach them this wisdom. I wish I was taught this way when growing up.
Thank you Mr Samuels♥
You will forever be missed my brother. RIP my brother awesome soul blessings to family
I am Senior Project Manager, I cannot begin to express how important this is. I deal with many incompetent people due to their inability to communicate. Well done sir!!!!!
This is such a great topic and so true. I started my first community organization in 2018 and it has been without a doubt primarily supported by the relationships I’ve built up over the last 15 years. It blows my mind everyday that connections I made over a decade ago are paying off in the present day.
Not being afraid to start a conversation with strangers and knowing how to carry one goes a long way. Having a good personality takes it even further. Opportunities open up just because people enjoy your presence.
This is an excellent broadcast. Very needed in this day and age!
And remember ladies and gents, all we had to do to get this was click the like button on you tube. What a message
I’m going to miss Kevin giving his insight and advise on life. I was lucky enough to find your channel in becoming the best version of me, before you left.
Best monologue he has had in at least a year. Those soft social skills are so crucial today in society. Being likable can get you in doors that your knowledge cannot. I have seen it in corporate for a decade.
I also like the comment from one of his people in his chat mentioning the pokies and Ray Ray’s having social skills. Kevin wouldn’t dive deep into it but the guy was absolutely right. Bums generally have the gift of gab and women value social skills. This is why they initially get chose.
Great point!!!
Chosen.
Now all of a sudden Pookie has charisma and social skills?
Their full time job is chasing women, drinking, smoking and wasting their lives away. How tf does this equate to having better social skills?
Find me the the white, Asian or Hispanic version of Pookie who has as much success with women of his cultural group.
Oh wait you can't.
Other women don't find that shit appealing, bottom line. Becky and Marisol will f Pookie but she won't see him as a serious prospect as a mate or father of her child.
Losing the godfather is a very hard pill to swallow. He inspired me to be at my very best and keep leveling up thanks to him I'm in the six figure club my next step is to be a high value man love you Godfather rest in power
A book recommendation that has helped my soft skills is Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss. It teaches that to win any negotiation, you have to convince the other side that YOUR idea is THEIR idea w/ empathy. You’re welcome
this one is for the books. i needed that eye opening. time to expand my connections and relationships.
Downside of being socially involved- lack of trust, betrayal, and people who can potentially use you, fakeness. Main reason I stay introverted but I can talk to ppl but only when I feel like it some people are draining!
Facts 💯💯💯
@Bishop No. he's right, and his points are not hypothetical. Often times very sociable people are that way because they do not stand for too much and therefore "relate" to a lot of people and are better able to "socialize"
@Bishop I think the disconnect is what kind of introvert are we talking about. Some ppl are introverts because they can’t help it. (socially awkward, insecure, etc…)
Then, there are introverts like myself who has social skills, can deal with any crowd or gender but I CHOOSE to stay away from ppl because I don’t like being played with, stabbed in the back, I tend have opposing views (conservative).
@Bishop foh you don’t need people to make money in 2022 lame
As the saying goes, " a friend of many is a friend of none".
The intro monolog was great, Specially when KS talked about IQ vs EQ. I feel I owe him money for all the gems he dropped.
Well said Kevin. Absolutely Correct. My son asked me one day; How do you get so many store discounts? How do you get so much respect when you go out and people want to talk with you?
my mom is the same way lol i learned from her shes an amazing women
Honestly, this man had made me want to be the best version of myself❤😢. I’m going to really miss Tuesday’s lectures🥺
I'm a stay at home father so I know alot of men here wont wanna hear what I have to say but in my social circle, I'm the friend people come to for whatever they need. I've always been a leader since young in sports. Learned how to drive semis at 16 because of my dad. Was training drivers at 21. I was in a accident because of a unrelated drunk driver plowing head first into me as I was heading to work. Since then I had to take a step back and let me wife lead. She makes great money so it only makes sense. I've been told 100s of times how lucky I am to have my wife but me and my wife have been together since high school. This isn't luck, its teamwork. Love you Michelle. ❤
good luck, bro.
goooood LUCK.
Don’t go through your wife’s phone or come home unexpectedly
Godspeed
😂😂😂😂
@@torachan23he stays at home? How would he come home when I he is home .?
This guy is a true friend and teacher and we are all so fortunate
Yes. social skills and charisma is a form of currency. It is a lost thing among the younger generation and is a key for older guys to pull young women. Social skills will get you in circles and close to people that you wouldn't believe. I once talked myself onto Ziggy Marley's tour bus many years ago lol
When i tell women who ask me for relationship advice that i dont ask for relationship advice they think im weird. But its cause I've let my female friends and sisters influence my approach in relationships in the past in a way that i almost ruined my relationship. The day I distanced myself from friends and i kept my sisters away from my relationship is when it started flourishing.
Miserable women keep other women single.
@@franknitti1190 🎯🎯🎯🎯
@@franknitti1190 💯💯
At least you cracked the code!
I couldnt understand women that do something like that. This is why i keep my personal life private from most friends, regardless of their gender.
Thanks KS. I'm working on my outward image b/c i have always been intelligent but never really understood my value to society.
I was too stuck on Disney fantasy and the value I could bring to a damaged woman.
Im definitely working to a better outcome thanks to men like you
@ᴋᴇᴠɪɴ sᴀᴍᴜᴇʟs F*ckin Bot... I know this ain't KS
Thanks Kevin. I think this show is going to be one of the biggest ones for me hands down. I recognize how much my social skills suck. I really thought improving my IQ was the answer. Boy was I wrong on this one. Again, thank you Kevin. I won't forget this one.
You can't improve iq
They are tests. You can practice.
Character, loyalty and other virtues is way more important than talk. Talk is cheap
@@promochannel25 You can improve physical ability and also mental capability. So yes you can.
Don’t sweat it. Not all men are chatty patties 🤷🏽♂️. It’s cool to be stoic, reserved & introverted. Somebody has to be the show monkey & it doesn’t have to be you. 💪🏽
It's not all on the women. There's a lot of weird ass men out there, very socially awkward and talk like they're still teenagers. This is partially the impact of social media and people living their lives through devices instead of interacting with people in real time face to face. If you have children that are pre-teen and early teen, do them a favor and monitor and limit their social media activity and make sure they interact with real people regularly.
He literally split the whole show giving advice to both sides. Telling women they don’t need to improve doesn’t help them. If they don’t have the outcome they want, something needs to change and often it’s them.
@@antwanthorogood4921 I'm not saying women don't need to improve. The only point I was trying to make was listening to some of the guys that called in it wasn't hard to tell why they might have problems with women. Almost all of them were over 25 but talked like they're still in high school.
Well said! 🎯
@@jayp3360 yeah they lacked vocabulary and real social life skills. Thing is, they could recognize it and was asking for help. The women spent the time trying deny anything was wrong or pass the blame to someone or something else.
@@antwanthorogood4921 he said….”it’s not ALL on the women” he never said women don’t have to improve…the ones that have great careers have gotten complacent and the ones that don’t tend too talk to much too many people as it is 😂 jk they need to use their mouth and social skills to help their man and family as a whole.
KS said “it’s ALL ON WOMAN”
Peace and blessing to all who truly understand what this man was trying to do with his community. He started a wave and our collective improvement in life is a tribute to his legacy. Men and women alike. ❤️
This is true. I have an IT job that requires a cyber security bachelors all from my soft skills. I only have some college with no degree. I didn’t have a family member get me the job, or a friend. I started at the bottom and knew how to be liked by everyone I encountered. I left for two months and they begged me to come back. Now I make 70k and am taking classes for my bachelors payed for by my company. All from communication skills and being liked by the pack.
Bro this right here is golden I’m currently trying to break into IT
Jehovah’s Witness are actually some of the nicest people I ever met.. Real talk. They really do live a civil regular life. And are genuine behind it.
Facts
I've always admired how they watch out for one another. If a member of the church is down on their luck, they provide resources and guidance to get them back right. They also hold members to a standard. I'm not s religious man but I can always respect folks who actually live by the words they preach.
@@melvinbarnes6652 Yes. Very very true.. it’s like a well governed society of folks
I was born and raised Jehovahs Witness. I still am a practicing Jehovahs Witness. He just cracked me up with this. He ain’t lying, Saturday morning we are going to give you this word. Lol. Great content Mr. Samuels. I listen to you because of your love for the Bible and “limited” vulgar language. We LOVE ALL HUMANS!!
I get we have to hold women accountable, but this type of content is my favorite. Kevin give a lot gems.
I too am a hard worker but I’ve been pushed in the right direction cause of the ppl I know 🙏🏽
The woman who said women keep each other single needs a award.
That's been a saying for almost a year in a half now. Where you been?
@@stayathomedad4830 your making a assumption.
This part right here at 1:08:37 is spot on!! Get off them damn phones!!!! So many issues would be reduced....so many greater moments would be created if people just knew how to do the most simple thing.......talk!!! .....to be continued.
Having a good idea/product means nothing unless you know how to market and sell it to people. No way around it. The world is full of genius individuals walking around who most people will unfortunately never know about.. because these individuals lack the skills needed to effectively communicate their gifts. It's quite sad if you think about it.
So true
Totally agree it's like someone being totally book smart. And could almost run a nuclear power plant on their own. But don't have that common sense to start a conversation on normal everyday things. To break the ice to someone to show how really how genius they are.
He was so good!….
Hope you’re next journey is rewarded well with the work you’ve done here and left us!
R.I.P.
Kevin, this episode was made just for me, im actually going to therapy and trying to read books like, how to win friends and influence, because my social skills are rubbish.
You're describing me and i don't know how to start to change, it's really hard for me to connect with people.
Thank you for this podcast.
Love the idea going to therapy Alvaro,, and try to win yourself not friends then we will attract to you..
Hey, maybe try connecting by same religious and or political views.
I would suggest joining a boxing gym, MMA gym, or any kind of gym that has a lot of people and involves competitive contact. I joined when I was 17 and was somewhat quiet, but the forced interaction with like-minded people alongside the physical challenges is a double edged sword and open you up to be more confident overall in yourself. It’s a natural environment to develop in a hierarchy as well just like the real world. You won’t feel bad as you improve physically. (Translates into less feelings as you grow professionally and personally). Hope everything goes well for you.
@@danieldiaz4692 Cool, nice strategy!
First step is being aware of it then to take action you're well on your way
Great points again sir.
We all need to remember that we need the society and other people. None of us can survive alone (no matter how independent we think we are). We all need to do what we are good at and bring those skills to the market so that we can get the benefit of other's skills and production. Before we begin to build EW and interpersonal skills, we need to begin with the understanding that we need each other.
People need to work on the speaking, writing and listening skills. Listening being the most important. If we don't listen, we will never figure out what others need so that we can give that to them in exchange for what we need.
And lastly, proper speaking does not mean a large vocabulary. Too many times people use large words (often incorrectly) trying to impress, but instead, it isolates us. To reach the most people, we need to use the words we all use and can easily understand. That will reach the biggest audience. (Never use the word "verisimilitude". No one knows that that means.). Good speaking means projecting your voice in a confident manner (not shouting), and when talking with someone, listen for understanding, not to respond.
Thanks again for your videos Mr. Samuels.
This broadcast information was filled with so much valuable information. Thank you Kevin for taking a no nonsense approach and really focusing on what gets results. More young men need to hear these things (including myself). Social skills are everything.
These videos are my training program to use and prepare myself to be the best version of myself. Thank you Godfather for the info gone but not forgotten
10 things to quit for all Strong Men:
1. Caring about what others think
2. Not believing in yourself
3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business)
4. Not prioritizing your health
5. Wasting your precious time
6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it)
7. Chasing meaningless relationships
8. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 🥩
9. Wasting time by scrolling social media
10. Nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!)
Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list.......................................
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Tight list, brother.
This is so deep, had notepad in hand. I'm 54, I know I need to work on my communication skills. I believe this will put me on the right path. Thank you Godfather!
When Mary Barra took over GM, they were selling 10 Million cars a year. After 7 years (the end of 2021) they are down to around 4 Million Vehicles a year. If she were a man, she would have been fired in shame. Instead now in 2022, she got a MASSIVE performance bonus that effectively DOUBLED her pay in GM, making her one of the highest paid execs on the planet. During this same period Tesla's sales have been doubling every year and GM's electric cars had to be paused to figure out how to keep them from exploding!
I pick my own stocks. One of the 3 main factors I look for is the lowest possible DEI score. No women on the board, CO or top positions. I also avoid the alphabet mafia.
Kevin left his mark on a lot of young men in the world thank you god for giving us a blessed man to guide your soldiers
He nailed it - the world is ran by people with people skills. It was hard for me to adjust.
"Some men make money and other men take money"
-Pookius Maximus 🤣🤣🤣🤣
It was off the topic of social skills. Another man tried to talk about divorce. Social skills are why 90% of dudes are here.
@@personalshopper2585 maybe it was personal how u know. It’s def not masculine AT ALL to take donations from other grown men.. A man with a certain pride and honor would never
@@personalshopper2585 Preachers pimp other men too. Actually alot of men pimp other men in one way or another if you really think about it
@@Kickinthescience Right ! That's the way of the world. Look at Donald Trump and Don King. Only in America
@@personalshopper2585 well he did start out talking to men and the way he talked to women now was the same way he talked to men.
Kevin you Absolutely murdered this topic thank you!
PersonalShopper Your a misandrist who's propaganda doesnt works in the manosphere. Your attempt to leech of others content to stave off the decimation of the swirling/divestment numbers speaks volumes.
This is a great conversation. Mr. Samuels is very correct about the importance of social skills, Soft skills, Team Building, etc.... I've achieved a lot more in my life because of my people skills than I EVER did with my resume! Some of my friends have technical skills that can lap me 5 times over but because I have great people skills, I was able to climb higher and because of my network/connections, I was able to open up more opportunities and be more valuable to people in my circle and extended circles. you NEED great people skills to have success!
I understand you so well on this topic. Social skill are incredibly important. For instance, I am the only employee with whom the president of the company has social and personal conversations with. To a degree that the supervisors, office managers look uncomfortable when he approaches me and engage in conversations. I also provided him with the need to add room for truckers to park trailers and he made sure that that had gotten done. I also have my CDL. And with that he was really proactive in getting a lot built. I had once left this company. And he and many others were sadden about that. Due to my social skills and relationships I had with the people in the front office. And they convinced me to return and gave me a salary proposal. And was able to negotiate my yearly salary. Why? Because I had established a relationship with the hierarchy at my place of employment. I am a robotic machine technician. I create and input programs for their operations.
Powerful Story Sir
@ᴋᴇᴠɪɴ sᴀᴍᴜᴇʟs Mr. Samuel. I want to inquire about booking a session with you. And how I go about it. I love your content. Many of the topics in which you have for women. I too have had these conversations with my nieces, female counterpart and even with my ex-wife before I discovered your channel. Which is why, when I first discovered your channel I was immediately connected. For so long I thought I was crazy due to the fact it seemed as if I was the only person in this world of understanding. You proved I was not. I thank you my brother.
Wow I’m So happy he left us with such an amazing backlog of videos to go through, forever thankful for you brother Kevin.
Thank you Godfather for everything you taught us and continue to teach us. You are truly missed in this world.
Kevin is one of the most straight up people I’ve ever seen in my life
Very true...some folks can't take all that realness and bluntness
OMG I've been giving my friends the same opening monologue about us and how we approach business awareness. hard work is not everything, use your soft skills, work smarter not harder
I appreciate your content! I wake up and watch you every morning before work. I’m a 27 year old black king. From Jacksonville Florida
Appreciate everything you’ve shared with us uncle Kevin , never had a role model teach me these things . Fly high
Gosh! These advices are golden.
Edison - Tesla example is right on! Edison had connections and outfoxed Tesla in the market. Fantastic example!
I fell asleep to this last night and am watching this again at work so glad I didn’t close my browser this is why how to win friends and influence people is such an important book
this video should be at a million views from all the high value men who will arise🙏🏽
this was one blessing of a show!
Hey Kevin we need a book the social side of success written by the godfather 🔥 content and at a perfect time for me as I'm growing to be the man I want to be salute
Amen brother. appreciate to the massive contribution that's helped us grow as men
That is our job to write a book. Do your Ph.D. dissertation on this great topic like I am and help our current generation!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Doctorate of Divinity!! I pray to take all of KS great knowledge to help Black Boys!!!!!
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Supposedly he is writing a book! He spoke about it some months or even a year+ ago, but we haven't gotten an update since as far as I'm aware. Fingers crossed we get it soon, it's a day one read for me.
@@ScentSense yea definitely can’t wait at the same time not rushing the more he goes through and thinks about the more 💎
You ARE On Point Brother with the Information you Are Sharing, “The Truth HURTS!”
Kevin, you are a great teacher. I also think you must have some Dutch in you: since you tell the unvarnished truth without malice. Thank you.
This knowledge is precious!!! This teaching is so rare poeple,God bless kevin.
I am still gonna watch , like comment and subscribe . More men need this content even though Kevin is no longer here !
My husband is such a great people's person. And it isn't necessarily that he needs the interaction, he's just great at socializing with others. It could be as simple as shopping in the grocery store. People are just draw to him. Of course that's one of many things that attracted me initially.
At first I didn't understand it, but now I find it admirable. I don't have the social skills he does, I'm a very awkward person so putting myself out there is hard. But since meeting him I'm more outgoing than I once was. And I least know how to fake it till I make it. I hope to get better with time and learn to communicate with others. Especially as I'm growing in my faith and want to serve in my church.
Lastly, ladies shoot your shot! Don't be afraid of rejection. Women don't take initiative often so when you do it sets you apart. I did it and now we're married lol.
So awesome good for you! How old are you and how long were you together before you got married?
@@vlogcity1111 thank you! I'm in my late 20s now, we started dating when I was 21 and we were together 3 years before marrying. He's 10.5 years older than I am.
One of the best ways to improve your quality of life from a financial and relationship stand point is being an active listener. Many people struggle with this regard and when you excel at it you stand out amongst the crowd to reap the rewards.
Great advice
Facts
Carl Icahn spoke about this from a much more damning perspective in his Lebow University School of Business commencement speech on how America is falling behind in management because of this frat/sorority club social orgy mentality which Kevin is absolutely correct is necessary for survival in this day and age but not necessarily healthy for the progress and productivity, I definitely could understand why women as naturally being more socially adapt would desire the current zeitgeist of interaction across all spectrums a more balanced approach seems ideal, I’m not so sure the greatest men in history would thrive in a system so greatly skewed to one side of the spectrum being that a conventional mind would always value doing more and
talking less as being far more productive in the long run, but being that we are now in a gynocentric social order where men are compromising their innate nature gradually as time goes on (especially black men) this formula that Kevin is presenting seems like perfect advice 👍
@UCVADz2H1nDcORtPHNssan4Q I believe you should watch the speech Icahn is the archetype of this high value profile Kevin speaks of becoming, Icahn’s entire life he’s relied on friends in high places I don’t get any sense that he’s a proponent of repressing the development of social skills I believe he’s just valuing performance and tangible results over making everything a High School popularity contest it actually seems more lazy to want to rely on your social butterfly skills as opposed to your cognitive aptitude to get things done sensibly there should be a balance of the two…black folks in general prefer to talk too much which makes sense being that the black community is effectively ran by a matriarchy and that’s why I think this message of refined “EQ” rather than actually excelling first as people in the areas of STEM could be counterproductive leaving them to becoming more of overpaid caricatures of themselves in these professional settings instead of figures of real value, meritocracy is important there’s a reason why after a few decades of minorities smiling from ear to ear at cocktail parties dressed in Sunday clothes and bow ties still all of the nearly 70 trillion dollars in investment capital floating around blacks actually manage and own less than 2% of it 👍
These callers are why I tell young people that one of the best jobs you can get while you're young is a restaurant server.
The money you make is directly connected to your social skills.
I'm an introvert who can ACT like an extrovert because of the lessons I learned waiting tables and bartending.
Kevin: "What does your boyfriend do for a living?"
Caller: "He's a skyscraper."
"you can't make this *** up"
😂😂😂
This was a great episode. I realized I tend to have good social skills and usually have people wanting to be around me. I am a journalist by profession, and being personable was the best way to have a more organic interview. I applied that to my personal life, and I definitely dont have a shortage of people wanting to hang out and be around me. I think the down side for me is that I've met more women than not who have terrible conversation skills.
On the other side. I have a good friend who is extremely intelligent. But he has a hard time really making friends and meeting women. Great dude, but his social skills are a little bit lacking. And I think he puts too much stock into women instead of putting stock into himself.
How should I improve on my social skill?
@@eliduncan7715 talk to people without wanting anything in return. A good way is just saying "Hi" or making a a joke or something lighthearted when you're in line at the store or waiting for coffee. Mainly just being a genuine person. Not putting pressure on yourself to meet people, but more so just enjoying the human experience. I'm a true introvert and can go weeks without talking to people. But I can also go to a gathering like an exhibit or gallery opening and just chat with people there. Learn about the event and what not. But the first thing is just starting with saying "Hi". Take it one day at a time.
@@eliduncan7715 be open aswell be cautious for obvious reasons in my situation want to better myself and have bigger circle of friends because at present moment have three people that aren't exactly leveling up me
@@66coldnight this is a good point. I found that as I was bettering myself my circle of friends got smaller and eventually it was just me. I realized that I need to be around people who inspire and challenge me to be better. Some people get to a point in life and that's their apex. In my case, I want to see what my ultimate self is like. Meaning training my mind, body and spirit. Understanding that I will always be a student of life. And i am okay with staying on my path even though people I care about may not be able to keep up. After my divorce, I was left at the very bottom. Living out of my car and the best job at the time I could get was a groundskeeper job at a golf course. I worked and focused on being the change I want to see. Eventually I got a better job, then finally made it into the professional world. I am currently head of marketing for a company here in NC. I stayed focused on what I need to succeed. Meeting people was a part of that and because of my social skills I netted some important references, that boosted me to the next level. So stay focused on constantly improving. Hit the gym, join a boxing club or martial arts dojo, and build skills around your main skills. I went from being homeless in Chicago to head of marketing in Charlotte. Its one step at a time bruv and remember its progress not perfection. Sometimes those closest to us are unable to keep up. But that shouldn't stop us because maybe our actions will inspire, just like others have inspired us.
Almost 2 years later and I’m still learning from this man.
RIP and thank you KS
This is an absolute Master class.
I thought that glass was some fine scotch... Gotta love Kevin. RIP.
"I try to make as little division between men as possible." Very wise. True brotherhood.
Just like most things in life, social skills have gradations. It's not a one size fits all equation. You can be an introvert/lone wolf, and still have social skills. They're like the good China, you only pull them out when the
time calls for it.
I watch all the time but this has been the most helpful video for me by a long shot. I could go into why and all that but ever since I started working out in addition to crushing it in my field I started to realize some gains. Thank you for helping me understand the social aspects of things.
That's exactly why they're called gains. Keep going and keep grinding.
This video was very impactful. Thank you Kevin.
Finally... This is needed for human existence.
Thank you, Kevin
I decided to create a career devoid of needing social contacts, but they came anyway. Depending on your skillset, there's plenty of high paying work and even businesses you can create that do not take a lot of social front-facing. I went from doing a lot of biz-gen for a business I operated and dealing with business owners to working solo as a Futures market trader(mostly oil and indice futures). I much prefer not relying on social contacts to earn money, but i'm always open to conversations about what I do and they endlessly come.
One of his best vids, RIP Godfather 🙏