How to Heal, Validate Yourself & Be Good Enough For You | Brittany Burgunder on Women of Impact
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- Опубліковано 5 сер 2024
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Brittany Burgunder is a Certified Professional Coach (C.P.C.) specializing in eating disorders and the author of Safety in Numbers: From 56 to 221 Pounds, My Battle with Eating Disorders -- A Memoir. In this episode of Women of Impact she talks about her journey through eating disorders and how to recover to become your best self.
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SHOW NOTES
Why we lean on external validation to feel accepted [02:46]
The control element of eating disorders [04:28]
Why real change takes time and effort [07:19]
The question every woman should ask herself [09:18]
How to find your own voice [12:21]
How to differentiate between feeling lonely and needing to be alone [14:58]
Why you need to have a "why" [18:17]
How to avoid the trap of identity [19:41]
The importance of doing scary things [24:36]
Recognizing and reversing self-sabotage [25:47]
Tips for accepting yourself as you are, while still wanting to change [29:45]
Why labeling yourself is dangerous [32:53]
Why Brittany published her private journals after recovering from her eating disorders [35:57]
How to turn your rock bottom into your greatest strength [40:20]
Why Brittany felt like a fraud after publishing her book [42:50]
Brittany's superpower [45:40]
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This will forever be one of the best days of my life! Thank you so much for the privilege of sharing my voice with you and the opportunity to help others!
Brittany Burgunder ADORE YOU!!!!!!
Lisa Bilyeu 10 zillion percent mutual!!!!!!💜
Brittany, thank you for sharing and being your voice with Lisa Bilyeu and others. Important! The identity piece is so true. We constantly have to go deep to see if the new identity is just providing us the love, acceptance, security and survival needs, or if it truly authentic which comes from your core/coeur. ❤ 🤜🤗 And it is truly inside out work!
Thank you SO much for sharing your voice lovely lady!! 💜💜💜
@@dronesandnature TOTALLY... Inside-Out 💜💜
Lisa and Tom are amazing interviewers.
Krizzia Udtohan agreed💜
@@BrittanyBurgunder omg! You replied! 😍😍😍 I learned a lot from you even though I have a different mental illness. Thank you very much! ❤❤❤
Thank you sweetie! So lovely 💜
Krizzia Udtohan oh my goodness it’s more than my pleasure! Feel free to reach out anytime. Cheering for you 😘❤️
I love how Lisa look with so much empathy, you can feel it and its so beautiful. Lets hope more people can be inspired by that pure empathy!
I have gained and lost over 120 lbs twice in this body. Currently at a healthy weight and still digging and training to maintain self love and enough of a sense of self worth to take care of myself. Day by day. Thank you for sharing!
Gabrielle Angel Lilly YOU ARE A SUPER HERO! Thank you for continuing on, opening your heart to share with others and being YOU. Don’t ever doubt how strong and capable you are 💜
It’s so comforting to know that the struggle of being rejected is real. I spent so many years feeling embarrassed that I allowed being rejected in primary school( I think that elementary school in the US) to lead me into depression. But it’s so comforting to know that I’m not the only one who struggled from rejection . I use to think that there was something wrong with me and use to try and change myself as well. Thank you for this video and for making me feel normal
This interview is the sweetest thing I‘ve seen in a while. Lisa is such a GREAT interviewer, and Brittany is INCREDIBLY GOOD at putting complicated feelings into comprehensive words👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼✨✨✨
This has been a big part of my personal life lessons also. That I am worthy of my own love, without any external validation. To be okay alone. Just turned 48 and amazed at how I am still healing wounds from my infancy. All part of the process, learning to love, be loved, be love. I trust. I align. I connect. I let go. I play.
Gabrielle Angel Lilly YES YES YES TO ALLLLLL of what you said. Life isn’t a race and you are one incredible individual 💜
Beautifully put. Not sure we ever stop healing or learning!
Fingers crossed for you Gabrielle
Can’t understand why anyone wouldn’t want to be her friend. I’m here wishing I could give her a hug and be best buddies with her 😓
Same 🥰
teach your kids how to find those kids & be their friends. :) being nice can be even more addicting than being mean. spread it around!
Totally off topic but it's the first time hearing Brittany speaking and she has such a lovely voice. I could listen and listen to her everyday.
I'm so happy I found this interview. I'm in my 40s and still struggle so hard inside. There are better days than others. I just keep it all inside and do my best to get through the day. I'm not in anyway looking for attention, I just feel so encouraged by Brittany and I can't wait to get Brittany's book. I'm so grateful for the internet and especially for people who put such good contents to help others. Thank you.
Your words mean so, so much to me! Thank you for YOU! It's so darn difficult, but slowly focusing on the good days will outweigh the bad. I kept most of my struggle a secret and to myself for over a decade -it's so NOT about attention, but almost the opposite -feeling inadequate to the point we spiral into harming ourselves whether we realize it or not. I'm so grateful for you and the time you took to watch, share about yourself and kind words. I believe in you and you aren't alone
Oh my gosh. Thank you so very much for your reply and supportive words. It really means so much. Thank you and God Bless you.
Nands Peartree 😘❤️❤️❤️
This is so heartfelt. Thank you for sharing! So glad that Brittany has inspired you and extended her beautiful hand in support. She's a gift. Keep moving forward with love and compassion for yourself 💜💜
I've watched hundreds of similar videos, but nothing comes close to Brittany's story. While I don't have an eating disorder, I did have neglectful/invalidating parents. When she talked about turning to external things for validation and needing to be the best in order to feel worthy, that's a mindset I'm all too familiar with. I completely get why self-validation is the #1 priority in our case. This girl gets it. Thank you Brittany and Lisa
I've seen every single episode of Impact Theory and Health Theory that Lisa's husband, Tom, has put out, and I've loved them all. Seriously, I've watched multiple videos more than a couple times (can I get an amen for Mel Robins' episode?), as I find so much value in them. Imagine my delight then when I discovered that Lisa herself is as amazing an interviewer as her husband and had several episodes out for me to devour that focus on WOMEN. YES YES YES! HECK YES to mentally and emotionally strong women helping others thrive via sharing their own experiences and lessons learned. I've already gotten so much from these interviews, and I greatly look forward to seeing/listening to more!
I HAD to comment that after watching this interview in particular; When Brittany commented on the fact that she knew she didn't want to die, but she had never asked herself if she wanted to LIVE I got such goosebumps. This is a gem of an interview.
Julie Barnum haha! AMEN 🙏🏻 (for Mel) and WHOOP for you loving our content 👏🏻💜 Thank you sooo much for your comment! And totally agree - that line just HITS like bricks! LOVE Brittany ❤️
Aww thank you so much for your kind words Julie and for watching!!! I also so agree with everything you said above! Lisa and Tom are the best!✨
Brittany Burgunder 😘😘
Thank you to both Brittany and Lisa for a stellar interview. Lifelong struggles with PTSD, depression + anxiety have taken me to profound depths of despair, and astonishing gifts of self discovery and ultimately to wholeness. Getting to witness the authenticity and depth that you both brought to this interview inspires me and supports me and definitely makes me feel less alone. When you share your story, you broadcast the energy of healing in the world, and we all are nourished by it.
Lisa, your interviews with women of impact are especially inspiring and powerful. As women, I believe our collective superpower is power with rather than power over. Helping to bring the voices and stories of amazing women to our awareness - to encourage and inspire and delight us, is an extraordinary blessing in the world. Weaving your own story into the interviews allows us to recognize your own depths, strength, and vulnerability. You invite us deeper into connection with our own humanity, and with each other as well. And equally important, you remind us of the incredible gift of being women, together. Well done, and so profoundly appreciated!
Lisa, i’ve never been diagnosed w/ an eating disorder though I’ve binged to gain weight when I used to be a bodybuilder. Regardless of that, I just wanted to say that I’m devoted to watching each one of your interviews because I always walk away w/an empowered mindset. I’m sending Brittany a virtual hug for her speaking out about loneliness and being alone. Many people do not understand making the choice is survival mode.
Kreative Juice House thank you so much for your heartfelt comment 🙏🏻 Glad you’re enjoying the show and on behalf of Brittany and ourselves - virtual hugs back! 🤗
I can’t express enough how much your kind words mean to me -thank you! I agree, I always feel on top of the world after listening or reading any content from Lisa😄💕
This I the most honest and genuine interview I've seen on the channel. No front
“Maybe if I change myself, people would like me” THIS my story in 9 words. 🤞🏾
I'm in my early 30s
But somehow I feel like my life literally started the day I listened to this interview
Thank you so much
Thank y'all so much dearest 🌹
Y'all such an inspiration 🥰
Appreciate y'all from the bottom of my heart 💖
Be Blissful Eternally 🙏👼🌈
Wonderful video! Brittany is so brave and courageous to discuss her struggles and helpful for others, like me. You give it a voice and take your life back. I have struggled with weight issues and emotional eating and it took a long time to realize it's not about the food or the weight, but about the emotions, behaviors, control, addiction, avoidance, escape, etc.... I love that Brittany reinforces recovery is imperfect and so not linear. It is a struggle of falling off and getting back on, accepting and loving ourselves (and others) all the way through. Thank you!
It’s the “...it was being so god damn imperfect...” that does it for me 🙏
What a wonderful interview. I am in recovery as well and I can relate to so much of Brittany's journey. She is such a beautiful soul. Thank you @Women of Impact and Lisa. I just love your channel and wonder women you have on your show. Thank you. Much love xoxo
I had eating disorders, anorexia & bulimia for over 15 years & fought HARD to overcome it. Finally recovered & I'm so grateful for you both for sharing this!! Love & LIGHT & STRENGTH!!
Wow what a brave women!
I understand what she went through as I have had this problem all my life and everything she said is a powerful message to everyone!
Thank you so much
YOU ARE MY HERO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ditto what Lisa Bilyeu said 💜💜
These interviews are really helpful. I appreciate women are offered the opportunity to have their voice. We need more women to be a role model and show their vulnerability. I can see Brittany's beauty and sadness. Thank you for sharing your story.
hhh h ❤️❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. So many amazing pieces of advice ❤️
Lisa,
This was an amazing interview with Brittany Burgunder.
Well done for validating mental health and allowing women (and men) to recognise that mental health is a condition that should be spoken about on the daily.
I appreciated the fact that you indicated that mental health doesn't just have one form and that each individual will have their own journey.
Well done, Women of Impact team.
Kind Regards,
Lisa :-)
This is absolutely amazing I need to watch this again there was so many great nuggets here omg!
Incredibly amazing ! Very vulnerable, courageous, and heroic! Thanks so much ! This helps me a lot !
I love ur titles a lot, it's so encouraging for me to click so fast😎
Great episode as usual, thank you so much✨👌
Thanks so much for your feedback! So awesome to hear that you're enjoying our content 🙌🏻💜
Brittany is so authentic and helpful!
This is epic! Super resonated with me and extremely powerful. Thank you.
26.00 was so good. She explained self sabotage perfectly. Wow
Vtomorra thank you!💜
Thank you so much for this Brittany. You are such a beautiful human being. Your light shines in the recovery community and you have truly inspired me so much in my personal journey! Never stop being you
This is so lovely. Truly happy that Brittany has helped you on your journey! 💜
This is making me cry happy tears! THANK YOU SO SO MUCH!!!💜
Thank you very much. I wasnt expecting getting so much out of this. Love this channel.
Thank you! Thank you so much for giving a voice to women who are not afraid to be vulnerable and inspire us to believe in ourselves. They remind us that there is always hope, whatever we are going through. Thank You Brittany, I loved your book and I am so grateful for the message you are sharing.
Apo Linette oh my goodness I can’t possibly tell you how much your words mean to me -THANK YOU 💜
This is so lovely! So heartfelt 💜 Thank you 🙏🏻
Ty Women of Impact for this video it was inspiring , motivational and simply incredible. TY!
Brittany you are so awesome, so brave, so articulate and by sharing your story, you are helping so many others!
Kay Stevens Thank you SO much Kay!!!!! Love you💜
🙏🏻 Spot on! So much love for Brittany 💜
This was so inspiring and I could relate so much, despite not having a (diagnozed) eating disorder myself. I have however struggled with depression for most of my life and the part where she mentioned being comfortable with hear anorexia and such... just resonated with me. I'm still struggling with being comfortable without my depression. It was myf riend for SO long and it kept me company for SO many years and I still find that I miss it sometimes. Because itw as comfortable.
I have however, much thanks to these types of videos, managed to start overcome it and challenge myself. But ever so often I still find myself sitting, often when I feel weak for whatever reason, and miss being in my comfortable, dark, gloomy bubble.
And just tonight I caught myself almost going down the road of self-sabotaging again.
Ugh. Thank you so much. Even though our roads are different, just knowing that there are people out there struggling with the same thing is so encouraging. Thank you.
you are loveable. love yourself.
Thank you for bringing real women with real heart touching stories on your show! I love it that you Lisa tear up and the moment your guest tears up, that shows your heart, you go on the journey with your guest, you know how they feel. It never stops to amaze me that most powerful stories of people who make a difference in the world, are coming from those who went " through fires of life" and came out on the other side pooring water on someone else's fires and lighting up fires of hope and healing on other people's dreams! Brittany I dis not have eating disorder, but other things, and your message touches me to the depth of my heart. Thank you for being real and vulnerable, this is priceless! You brought me to tears...I also self sabotage and bully myself even though I overcame so much. I never heard it said the way you did: We do this ahead if time to ourselves, so when others do it, it will not hurt so much:( Thank you for your beautiful heart Brittany!
This is so lovely, warm and heartfelt! We're so happy to be able to bring you this content, with such incredible women. Brit is an angel in human clothing. Thank you so much for commenting! ❤️
Extraordinary On Purpose I don’t have the words to thank you! Now I’m crying!😭💜 And Lisa will forever be one of the most special people in my life💕
Thank you for sharing your story and being so transparent, Brittany. I am inspired to be more transparent in my own writing, as I struggle with similar questions. All part of the process. Much love.
Gabrielle Angel Lilly Thank you so much for your kind words Gabrielle! I’m tremendously proud of your perseverance and courage to not only heal yourself, but also share parts of your healing. Being vulnerable is very brave and scary -but it’s more than rewarding. I’m cheering for you 💜
Keep at it lovely! 💜💜
This episode has had the most impact on me I think out of all the women of impact talks , thanks guys
Lolitaloliops 💕
Incredably brave of Brittany! 🤗❤
Brittany and Lisa... Thank you...Just, Thank you...
I recently recognized my addiction to Validation. I married a man that had the best validation, it was warm love flowing thru my veins. The past 3 months, meditation has helped me look inward and ask myself so many questions. Questions that made me look at my truth, the scary things I didn't want to see. Thank you for sharing your truth! You are Enough!💜
Thank you for sharing -I'm so proud of you! And you are enough as well
Thank you so much for sharing this 🙏🏻 The things we don't want to see are always scary, but when we have the courage to acknowledge and accept them, the healing truly begins 💜
@@BrittanyBurgunder Love this! Women supporting women 💜💜
Women of Impact my favorite thing to do and see💪🏻💕
Thanks for sharing your amazing story. you are beautiful inside and out. i completely resonate with your thoughts. xoxo
Thank U For This...
Ohh someone so crude.....I love you Liz.....you've actually inspired me to recover and self pace .....isn't this word great
Be your own best friend. Heal yourself and don't self-sabotage. Love yourself.
This is a great msg 🙏🏽🙏🏽😊😊
The guest and Lisa...both rock 👍👍👍👍
Megha Sapru Thank you !
Britney Lisa you guys great video phenomenal information I can relate to a lot thank you have a phenomenal week🔥💯👋
It is always the kindest peope that get bullied and doubt themselves I hope Brittany realises it is about them and not her she seems like such a kind soul,her eating disorder is very similar to mine I am going through the obese stage and I am hoping to change direction soon. I definately want to live!!
Such a special person. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for sharing.
Nate Size thank YOU so much 💜
She really is 💜 So glad you enjoyed the share!
Awesome! Britt, so proud of you!!! ❤️
Not Your Average Nutritionist 💜💜💜you to infinity!
@@BrittanyBurgunder Aww, love this 💜💜
incredible self awareness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 100 claps for you missy!!
Courtney McCullough 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Thankyou Women of Impact. This interview i have identified with so much that has been said.
May God bless you for your work.
Muhumuza Bernadette Thank you so much for your kind words and I agree -all of them are Superwoman!
@@BrittanyBurgunder Thank you for your bravery. i was bullied too...and i developed anxiety and i hated myself for as long as i can remember. i have fallen into the perfection trap and the constant need for validation. i have recently put on so much weight and could not get myself to work out or eat right i have so much self doubt and anxiety. i have tried talking to people about it but they think i am being spoilt i felt i was being spoilt.
hearing you speak helped me have compassion for myself and realised i am going to work to live a better life and heal my emotional wounds.
You are so strong and true Inspiration may God continue to bless u
Muhumuza Bernadette oh wow thank you so much for your courage to share this! It definitely resonates with me -major goosebumps! But mostly I’m just so darn proud of you for having such awareness into yourself and realizing you can let go of the old and live your best life. I’m cheering for you every step! Don’t ever forget how capable you are and NEVER alone 💜
@@BrittanyBurgunder thankyou 😀😀
@@muhumuzabernadette1122 LOVE this. Thank you so much for being so open about your experiences, and so glad we could be part of your journey 💜💜
So honest and raw! Great interview!
Thank you so much!
Thank you 🙏🏻😊💜
"You have no idea how good life can get if you stay there". Words cannot describe how much I love this interview and this show all together ❤️
Sarah Groth aww 🥰 thank you so much! Really happy to be making an impact 🙏🏻❤️
@@LisaBilyeu ☺️ Thank you so much for creating this show!! The stories being shared through this channel are absolutely incredible and inspiring ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you so much for watching! I’m really glad you found something helpful in it💜
@@BrittanyBurgunder ☺️ Awuh well thank you for choosing to share your story!! Your interview has really made me take a deeper look at my relationship with food and my body and because of that I've been adopting healthier habits and beliefs (for that I'm SO grateful!) 💖
Amazing.... thank you both♥
Fikria Fatima Akubardia 💜💜💜
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My anorexia went to bulimia still struggle with binging. I am now diabetic and having to be super focussed and have been living on fruit and naked noodles. Went up to 108.8kg now 98.7kg I absolutely agree about needing time on my own. To decompress when I was 42 I felt like I had landed and felt more grounded and felt centred. I’m now wondering if anorexia is an identity issue the perfectionist that needs protected and looked after and wanting (in the early stages wanting it to take control)
Jennifree Eh14 thanks so much for sharing 😊 and glad you feel more grounded now 💗
anyone else feels like this looks like a hard journey of undiagnosed autistic? super strong brave and inspiring
In Buddhism, it's love and kindness that you must give to yourself. You must be able to give yourself love and kindness enough first then you will become happy and then people will be able to happy with you who happy with yourself.
:( Shes still suffering. To see a follow up interview a year later to see her growth would be empowering.
Why would you say I’m still suffering? Because that is completely false.
@@BrittanyBurgunder It’s just my observation and it holds zero importance to your reality. I wish you healing and happiness:)
@@cheeseburger5555 Thank you so much for your well wishes! I'm still unsure of what you are basing your observations on. I do hope to do a follow up interview though! :)
Such a genuine and real interview. Thanks!
You can't deny that Lisa is Tom's wife, similar expressions, body language hahaha. I like Lisa's 80's style fashion, i so love the 80's. I don't have an eating disorder but i can relate to Brittany's emotional story a bit, everything is a mental Karate to fight of negative emotions, but it's part of the process. "Either you karate do "yes", or karate do "no". - Mr. Miyagi.
DragonSwordMountain ❤️this comment!😄
Very strong and emotional video, thank you ❤️ so much ❤️
Thank you
@@BrittanyBurgunder
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Thank you! 🙏🏻 So glad you thought so 😊💜
@@LisaBilyeu thank so much ❤️ 💕 😘
You are beauitful and strong
yes! this is what bullying does to people! DO NOT LET A BULLY DO THIS TO YOUR KID! It's not 'kids will be kids'. it's not 'she'll grow out of it.' it's not about 'we'll get her a bike.' if ridicule is a part of your kids life (giving or taking), jump in and make it stop. my friend said 'it's like a monster has your kid & you can't do anything for her.' make sure your kids know better & know enough to defend kids who get picked on. (of course there's more to it, just my 2 cents on this aspect)
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Binging is how you heal after an eating disorder. The binging isn’t an eating disorder, the restriction and purging you do that causes the binging is the disorder.
I have seen almost every episode of Impact theory and women of Impact and have a question I am dying for Lisa to clarify... many episodes suggest defining an issue is the first and most important step but then others say that labelling issues is a flaw... How do you define or acknowledge an issue (e.g depression) without labelling it???
toni hardy such a good question and sadly I don’t have an answer. Labels are effective for categorising symptoms and making generalisations, but they can become harmful. Rock... hard place 🤷♀️
Is this show available on RadioPublic podcast
No, but it is available on apple, Spotify and stitcher 💜
Ask yourself. I do i feel about myself now?
Damn sneaky eating disorders+ emotional-malfunctioning-eating... 1 MENTAL /MIND REPAIR
2. Toss out MENTAL-Garbage-INFO
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It's inspiration while i'm struggling so much right now... From 77lbs to 150lbs. So a bit less than Brittany but still very huge. I feel so bad, I don't binge anymore but I am still constantly fighting with me, not accepting myself and my body. But for me it's not possible to accept this big fat body, I just can't :'( and even with this huge amount of fat, I still don't have my periods. So my body doesn't trust me. So how can I trust me ? Recovery is too hard. I hate what I see in the miror
Marion Petit darling all we can do is send you love and support ❤️ Keep moving forward. It’s never an easy or straight road but cut yourself some slack and keep going 😘
Kick stress out your life, work under pressure, love your body, your heart, your look, your experiences manifest your greatness thank you for sharing Lisa, great journey Brittany you conquer the world 😉😉😉😉💪💪💪✅✅🌻🌻🌻🌻🙋♀️🙋♀️🙋♀️
Me thinks the interviewer is suffering from a eating disorder too! Brittany appears to be the stronger person here. Anyone see transference here? Go Brittany, an amazing survivor! Listen to the interviewer say "shit" under her breath when Brittany says I never thought of living instead of dying. Brittany Little Cuddles here........from Ireland. So sorry have no been in touch,
Little Cuddles Thank you so much for your concern. Unfortunately Lisa (the interviewer) has digestive issues, hence her size. Glad you enjoyed the episode and are a fan of Brittany... who is an absolute superstar! 🙌🏻
Where's WonderWomen Funk Pop?? I can't find her in this video. :)
Kienholz Family haha! Check again 😉
LOL
A relative has this disorder
Forgive me for repeating this ad nauseam, but i'm in a negative mood at the moment, and it seems that we put so much in to life only to die at the end. Adrien Chiles' article in the Guardian depressed me, his talking about shuffling off his mortal coil or something. But I see that Simon Jenkins has written an article about assisted dying, which kind of chimes in with what I'd like, which is to have permanent health and live indefinitely until one chooses to die.
What I meant to say was that it seems that spontaneity is a myth, in that we have to keep reminding ourselves of our 'philosophy'?
The Human Body is The Temple of the real God, the only reality ever perceived inside every Soul.The Real Priest may be our own Bodham, the Mind Set, and so love own Body and mind as they may lead us to the reality inside out!So explore your Self the Soul in all that you may not be thirsty again.