It's Not You: Navigating a World of Narcissism | Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Chase Jarvis LIVE

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  • @chrisknowles7443
    @chrisknowles7443 10 місяців тому +44

    Dr Ramini is the absolute best in this area of mental health for sure!!!!

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka5690 11 місяців тому +39

    Dr. Ramani rock and rolls

  • @dgno02
    @dgno02 10 місяців тому +25

    Thank you Dr. Ramani! Narcissistic father, supervisors, and now ex-husband has f***ed me up. I need your wisdom & experience. It's literally life saving comfort. I listen to you all the time to learn, grow, and get through this.

  • @DianeKopesky
    @DianeKopesky 11 місяців тому +32

    This is my first exposure to Dr. Durvasula. I was married to a narcissist for 29 years. This entire discussion has been so helpful. I am going to buy the book. Thank you so much.

    • @Lena-so2lq
      @Lena-so2lq 10 місяців тому +2

      Check out Narc Con, great community. Sam Vaknin ive listened to for years. If i hadnt discovered these people, idk where i would be! ❤

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  10 місяців тому

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @peterfitzpatrick7032
      @peterfitzpatrick7032 10 місяців тому +4

      Her "Dr. Ramani" YT channel is full of vids specialising on narcissism... I found it so helpful that I was more than happy to order her book as soon as it was launched... its the least I could do... of course, I subbed and liked her too... 🙄😂

    • @npdsurvivorsmith9962
      @npdsurvivorsmith9962 10 місяців тому +3

      Listen to her UA-cam podcast too - she posts every day - 1.6 million followers. Very helpful

    • @mariapearce8617
      @mariapearce8617 6 місяців тому

      I was with someone for six an half years an in the end the relationship was like a game of cat an mouse I didn't understand it but listening to DR Ramini other podcasts I think my ex was narsasistic I get it ,! I've been through it !!!

  • @Bs6223
    @Bs6223 11 місяців тому +56

    Ihave been listening to dr ramani for weeks. I am so greatful for her passion in this. I am planning on buying her book. I express my want for help , i dont need a anti depressent or have someone again negate my feelings. I need tools to know how to heal myself, and finding dr ramani has given me a sense that my life was not me not being forgiving enough, enough in whatever was used to negate my voice, my life, my pain and hurt was significant and she has acknowledged that i am enough, that i can have a life with this knowledge that can be full. I am not looking for perfection in myself or anyone else. I am working on me forward better despite my history. She speaks to all facets of life. It has been a journey of pure amazement for me. People dont understand and i tell them you are lucky you dont. My mind has bloomed. I am so greatful. thank you

    • @Bs6223
      @Bs6223 10 місяців тому +8

      I feel that as Dr. Ramani said out of fear we do not speak . Her knowledge on this subject is not only through her pursuit to educatation but through experience. The loss of ourselves is so true. Such a sad truth. That we feel if we just morphed ourselves, say nothing, question the truth we slowly become shells . The unrelentless moments that clearly are not the reality that we fear to address. I get not speaking up, i understand at times our choices are not always choices we want to make. So in that grief, shame come in like small droplets of rain. Slowly overtaking out self esteem, our voice , dreams. I pray that anyone that is going through this can hear these podcast, find a way to save ourselves.

    • @awesometulips9427
      @awesometulips9427 10 місяців тому +2

      Try her online support group for a month ($25) and see if it is useful to you. For me it was empowering/validating a place of support when I needed it. She is great, isn't it 😄❤❤❤

    • @jilllandrum4849
      @jilllandrum4849 9 місяців тому +2

      Dr Ramani & wonderful sexual assaults survivor therapist have both literally saved My life! I've been through a Dad, boyfriend, roommate, and girlfriend who were ALL EXTREMELY life alteringly damaged me and my life forevermore 😢. Thanks 🙏👍🙏 Dr Ramani U rock!! Please 🙏🤞🥺🙏 please don't every stop and I agree completely & totally with EVERYTHING she said especially about the changes that EVERY area of society NEEDS changed & reformed ASAP!!!

  • @DebParker-ux8nu
    @DebParker-ux8nu 10 місяців тому +15

    Dr Ramini is timely and spot on!

  • @serenaknight9858
    @serenaknight9858 10 місяців тому +41

    The damage to the victim is real.

    • @mgenihamed5710
      @mgenihamed5710 10 місяців тому +4

      For my point of view it was blessing to the victim,they think they destroy people it turn out they push them to their purpose,god is always with the good for them the devil is their partner what I loss

    • @nellbell071679
      @nellbell071679 10 місяців тому +2

      Very, very real.

    • @aprilwilcox5065
      @aprilwilcox5065 10 місяців тому

      Lived it and still damaged from it

    • @mn9120
      @mn9120 4 місяці тому

      Look at Ramani. Nobody represents that better than her.

  • @cyberninjasworld
    @cyberninjasworld 10 місяців тому +10

    Dr Ramani a true influencer, thank you❤

  • @lornai7171
    @lornai7171 10 місяців тому +10

    Dr Ramani tells it like it is. All hail the empaths! Great interview 😍

  • @janne8253
    @janne8253 10 місяців тому +9

    Dr. Ramani, full of experience, best words to describe, full of energy and passion for the first and most important topic of this and following generations (because for the first time in history we are connected through the internet, our generation is not alone to deal with emotional abuse, and information is for free through yt), saved so many souls, still underestimated, she is the most important person for people all over the world who suffer heavily and enables people to become sane and afterwards more aware of the problem itself and themselves again...much love and strenght to her, deep respect for her work, Janne from Germany 😘

    • @Tom-xz3jz
      @Tom-xz3jz 8 місяців тому

      A lot of knowledge in this vid
      Narcissist r scum and everyone should know about them

  • @roberth2627
    @roberth2627 11 місяців тому +11

    Have seen a couple these of interviews with Dr. Ramani.Have to say this is the best, I've seen..Thank You BOTH.!!

  • @christinakuczora4862
    @christinakuczora4862 10 місяців тому +9

    The good doctor so accurately diagnoses, discusses and explains many exact situations I’ve found myself in over my lifetime with a narcissistic mother, boyfriends, husband and friends. I’m astounded how accurately she described what I’ve experienced/lived with these disordered people. It’s like she knows me and is talking about MY life!

  • @jesusfaith2232
    @jesusfaith2232 11 місяців тому +12

    Thanks for your truth Dr R ❤

  • @jesusfaith2232
    @jesusfaith2232 11 місяців тому +13

    Your are the best, thanks for your great work !

  • @patrickbinford590
    @patrickbinford590 11 місяців тому +15

    Dr Ramani is so interesting: a true public intellectual, who is not averse to helping us in the world of popular media. This is an effective combination. But more importantly, she is a true healer, from the category of being a psychologist while doing that. She's also practical because she's dealing with the everyday things that people are dealing with in helping them. In helping these people that she's helping. So she also is, imho: a practical psychologist.

  • @maevebutler4641
    @maevebutler4641 10 місяців тому +2

    DrRamini is the world's leading psychologist re - Narrcissist's and how the abuse from these personalities style can impact their victims . The woman has saved my soul and my sanity with her daily videos on her UA-cam channel
    Thank you for this interview ❤

  • @towardsgrowth8
    @towardsgrowth8 10 місяців тому +6

    Thank you so much for your work! This was a nice discussion with a lot to agree with. When I first heard the label narcissist, I was one of those who said "it is a cruel name calling, they went through a lot in childhood, they don't deserve that", I even said that I have never met anyone like that in my life until I realized that my mother is a narcissist. A lot of things started to make sense and I am slowly recovering myself.

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior 10 місяців тому +7

    Omg the radical acceptance of grief... does it ever end? Almost 43 I feel it will never end. Been dealing with these people since before birth. I finally see. I am working on it with an amazing trauma therapist. But it still feels like it's never going to end.

  • @jillijewel8922
    @jillijewel8922 10 місяців тому +3

    one time a few months ago one of the most narcissistic person i know was listening in yt about narcissism and I was so triggered, I felt like throwing up and all a bit dizzy. it was because i feel like she was trying to study narcissism so she could play a victim again. cuz her son did that to me..., used the spiritual gurus i shared to him, against me when he was trying to discard me. Since i thought he was a part of my tribe to (stupidly thought we could)change the system in our family, i was so open to him and shared what he needed to know to be empathic until he no longer needed me and discarded me in such subtle manipulative ways. it was a nightmare...but now that his mom was learning about narcissism, I was panicking. Then after a few days......she suddenly stopped. Like it was boring her. And then i realized, her son also could not stand Dr. Ramani....or videos that showed true compassion. I realized it was probably because they really cannot relate...and that they would rather listen to spiritual gurus and meditations to selfishly FEEL at peace while the rest around them is burning down from the fires they created.

  • @tobytopaz921
    @tobytopaz921 10 місяців тому +6

    so wished everyone would understand,
    got one of those...

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka5690 11 місяців тому +8

    So cool

  • @GiantSlayer-rr1vu
    @GiantSlayer-rr1vu 10 місяців тому +2

    Dr Ramani you have really put in the work to get that double best-seller. Thank you so much, YOu blessed my life

  • @cristianmihai4818
    @cristianmihai4818 10 місяців тому +15

    Empty shell is the feeling you have after narcissism abuse....0% battery left....

  • @okokok7081
    @okokok7081 11 місяців тому +6

    Good intervju.

  • @OasisJones
    @OasisJones 6 місяців тому +1

    2:05 Ramani’s background
    8:43 social media
    14:03 signs of narcissism
    17:41 social structures
    19:55 public figures
    23:05 peak performance
    30:01 sex tape
    31:45 path forward
    34:19 narc education
    38:46 heal and transform
    40:11 being successful
    45:34 celebrity
    53:31 acceptance
    54:56 grief
    57:52 protect children
    59:32 suffering
    1:01:46 home life
    1:04:40 message to narcs
    1:07:49 sorry

  • @tijeraslack3
    @tijeraslack3 10 місяців тому +2

    Thanks to Dr. Ramani for speaking on CPS and also the DV system. If this topic of narcissism is not understand, it becomes a very hot mess.

  • @venusb248
    @venusb248 7 місяців тому +1

    Absolutely! I always said that narcissistic abuse needs to be taught at school 👏👏👏❤

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior 10 місяців тому +6

    I still believe it started with Cain and Able

    • @redhead8777
      @redhead8777 10 місяців тому

      SSL: I so agree this problem of narc relationships are definitely described in The Bible! But I believe it begins before in Adam & Eve + Serpent or possibly even the casting down of satan himself (who tried to USURP the very goodness/love/beauty of God & HIS CREATION himself. This narc mindset & behavior is nothing less than evil personified - in each one of us. Each of us has this dualistic nature. Some fight against it and some are using it fully. It IS WRITTEN. The Bible also teaches in the last days that these behaviors will be very prevalent (as they seem to be now). Most of the people I know that exhibit highest narc traits are non-believers who hide behind "feelings," "labels", and "outward finger pointing at others" (casting stones). However it is definitely exhibited by some believers/wolves as well. I suppose they are the fake (possibly just immature) Christians who are in the Church in order to maintain the appearance of a false self evil parading as good (satanic wolves in sheeps clothing). I find it is a constant battle to maintain purity of thought amongst it - but I believe (wholly) that it is the mission of the True Believer until Christ returns ("Father forgive them, they know not what they do". - Jesus). I have been personally attacked by the demonic activity & wounded by it. I've been on my knees in repentence & prayer to fight against this (for days) and prayer is answered. The Biblical answer is prayer & forgiveness & keeping the faith until the end. With deep & due respect and admiration, This is where I veer from Dr. Ramani's advice to abandon the sick. We must be strong in prayer for each other to remain in God's word and presence, while we are walking the walk of trying to help others understand that JESUS IS THE ANSWER to this problem. I know it is the secular world view that is increasing this problem. THAT is what being a Christian is all about. We remember Constantly that LOVE is the greatest of these. I KNOW how hard it is to forgive self & others for these demonic wounds which we All cause and receive. In my mind, anyone who him/herself thinks they are not a dealer of narcissistic behaviors (self preservation/desperation - some worse than others) is deluded. Everyone: Be kind, loving & forging & Pray With The Sick if they will allow you to; or, Pray For Them if they won't allow you to. This acts as an exorcism of demonic overtake. We as a society cannot have hope & goodness if we don't have The Real hope for THE light at the end of the tunnel (Jesus). God bless each person to have their eyes and ears opened to these Biblical Truths. Thank you Dr. Ramani for making the symptoms of the demonic which are caused by Trauma (within every person) SO Clear ❤.

    • @Tom-xz3jz
      @Tom-xz3jz 8 місяців тому +1

      Me toooooooo😂🎉😂🎉😂🎉
      And don’t forget the devil

  • @TZach1987
    @TZach1987 10 місяців тому +1

    Dr ramani we love you 💕 thank you for this wisdom you are putting out into the universe!!! i feel so not alone. as an infj im drawn to narcissists to “help” them and currently working thru this pattern

  • @NikitaNair
    @NikitaNair 10 місяців тому +2

    So many questions i had since years got answered by Dr Ramani. She is an angel sent by God

    • @mgenihamed5710
      @mgenihamed5710 10 місяців тому

      She is wonderful soul and courageous not an angel,angel are flawless

    • @Tom-xz3jz
      @Tom-xz3jz 8 місяців тому

      Oh yea

  • @danielleluscombe8145
    @danielleluscombe8145 15 днів тому

    LOVE this!!!!! Thank you!!!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @TammyBayFaker
    @TammyBayFaker 7 місяців тому

    I’m a new subscriber here - and Chase, I immediately appreciate how well you listen and allowed Dr. Ramani to talk. I like your thoughtful, insightful and relaxed style.

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  7 місяців тому

      Hi Tammy, thanks for the feedback and welcome! 🤗

  • @bekindloved
    @bekindloved 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank you 💕 Dr very interesting and informative thanks

  • @donaldacoey1436
    @donaldacoey1436 5 місяців тому

    You're absolutely right it should be taught in school save a lot of us from a lot of Heartache

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior 10 місяців тому +2

    Ramani I LOVE you

  • @kittykitty4245
    @kittykitty4245 3 місяці тому

    Thank you 4 giving her a platform🖎

  • @afraidtosay1
    @afraidtosay1 10 місяців тому

    I'm enjoying the man's face who's enjoying Dr R talk.

  • @marlanaferro1558
    @marlanaferro1558 7 місяців тому +1

    Be on guard for initial compliments, especially with regards to beauty.

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior 10 місяців тому +2

    Minute 51 omg ty

  • @jessetheskeptic601
    @jessetheskeptic601 10 місяців тому

    This is the best interview I've heard yet with Dr. Ramani. I like that she discussed her introversion and gave us some insight into her beliefs on the general state of affairs in our society. I don't typically read self help style books, but I just ordered Do You Know Who I Am?; fingers crossed it's not full of fluff. 😅

    • @npdsurvivorsmith9962
      @npdsurvivorsmith9962 10 місяців тому

      Don’t miss her UA-cam Channel- she has 1.6 million followers. She posts daily. Read comments too

  • @Spartacus2474
    @Spartacus2474 6 місяців тому

    Dr. Ramani has helped me in so many deep ways. Tks Doc. NowI know my former boyfriend used to loudly say I was holding him back, etc.

  • @GaliciaSekulska
    @GaliciaSekulska 10 місяців тому

    Go Dr. Ramani… some comedic talent coming through with this one 🙌 Laughter is the best medicine, so thank you for that. Might be on the woo woo side so to speak, but totally picking up on some past lives doing standup comedy. 🙏💕🌌

  • @ms.robinson485
    @ms.robinson485 9 місяців тому

    Go middle school teachers 👏🏾 love the shout out!!!

  • @sharicoburn5475
    @sharicoburn5475 10 місяців тому +1

    For the narcissists watching, go to the 1:00 mark, she addresses you and what you can do

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior 10 місяців тому +2

    I don't know his name. But I am convinced that the most recent judge I had to sit in front of...... Actually understood narcissism. He offered to talk to me after court. But my brain was screaming no. I definitely should have. He was pushing hard for a very extended restraining order against my husband. I only asked for 2 months What I thought was enough time to get me out. It wasn't enough time. So I left everything behind. I really wish I had that sit down with the judge after the court session. He got away with everything he did to me. I had bruises on my body that the hospital sent me in for CT scans..... I just needed to go and hide

    • @rozwilcher
      @rozwilcher 10 місяців тому

      Thank God you still got our alive

  • @carolclark5776
    @carolclark5776 10 місяців тому

    I heard a commercial talking about st Petersburg Florida being one of the top ten places to live. There are tons of narcissitists there. There are also nice people.

  • @gfp163
    @gfp163 9 місяців тому

    15:25 Look at me, isn't my breakfast interesting... Wow, I love it! Just that one little comment about a narcissist happens to be is so funny to me, in spite of all the misery that a narcissist causes. It's nice when you can get a laugh from hearing about such a rotten subject. Comedians should really hammer on the subject of narcissism. Then, people that just don't realize what's going on with narcissism may end up waking up to what narcissism really is and avoid being taken advantage of before it's too late. May the Wizard of Oz have a broken curtain rod.

  • @chriswalls5831
    @chriswalls5831 10 місяців тому +4

    Bunch of them out here

  • @Smartbeautifulawesome
    @Smartbeautifulawesome 10 місяців тому +1

    Everyone’s angry nowadays weird stuff everywhere…actually I think TV is just people to express themselves for art and helping people etc. I think people are really trying to make a difference telling stories, something inside them that is driving that

  • @IAm-rw7gz
    @IAm-rw7gz 10 місяців тому

  • @daisy7066
    @daisy7066 10 місяців тому +1

    "Existed since all of humanity"? I find it difficult to believe that just because narcissism is prevalent in the US that means it's always been around!

    • @christinakuczora4862
      @christinakuczora4862 10 місяців тому +2

      If you are not familiar with the 7 Deadly Sins of Catholicism - check them out. Many believe they cover the character shortcomings/weaknesses of a narcissist.

    • @mgenihamed5710
      @mgenihamed5710 10 місяців тому +1

      Pharaoh was a narcissist during the time of Mosses

    • @sharicoburn5475
      @sharicoburn5475 10 місяців тому +1

      What do you think genghiss khan, napoleon, Hitler, pol pot, etc etc were???

  • @sharicoburn5475
    @sharicoburn5475 10 місяців тому

    Dr Ramani and others, the Bible new testament jesus speaks about putting others first. Thags all a narcissist needs to do. Its a heart thing.

    • @susankeith326
      @susankeith326 4 місяці тому

      Narcissistic people cannot and will not put others first.

  • @susankeith326
    @susankeith326 4 місяці тому

    When I look at fb pages and the entire account is mostly selfies, it's pretty obvious the person has strong narcissist traits. I don't accept friend requests from such people.

  • @davidalanbinder4238
    @davidalanbinder4238 10 місяців тому

    Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus

  • @Spartacus2474
    @Spartacus2474 6 місяців тому

    The biggest problem in Brazil concerning how to approach abuse aka narcissistic abuse is taking it as a religious matter. NOPE. It is a HEALTH LEGAL MATTER.

  • @danielborrowdale3903
    @danielborrowdale3903 7 місяців тому

    A good talker can spin anything but if you watch what they do and it doesn't match or they have different rule's for themselves walk away don't try to fix or help.

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior 10 місяців тому +1

    Near the end.... I wish I could say F offf.... but I agree don't. Do the work like the rest of us are

  • @dottyp137
    @dottyp137 8 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @ChristopherLarson-c4n
    @ChristopherLarson-c4n 9 місяців тому

    I know it is a Spiritual Battle from invisible realms (Righteous live by Faith in Jesus), but in my case, being groomed and sexually abused between ages 0-5 (Human Character cemented) and living quite a Narcissist life myself in addictions, boundaries are difficult. If when people are suffering a person hurts with them, this is empathy, correct? I do possess this. But, I am like a Narcissist MAGNET. I single and not interested in becoming untangled in a romantic relationship, until I a fully healed. However, I have a passion to protect the innocence of children from Predators and Predatory behavior. As such, if the Lord Jesus is willing, I am planning to pursue acceptance into a very prestigious University to finish that M.B.A, but with concentration in Marketing-Non Profits. I attempted Pastoral Counseling at Liberty University, a fantastic school with very rigorous Graduate programs in an advanced pace (Semesters split in two). My question is, am I putting myself into a shark tank that is likely to destroy me by even considering such (N.D.)?

  • @Daniel2Ghost
    @Daniel2Ghost 9 місяців тому

    Amen, wwhoo AmememA 😂😂😂

  • @上口秀文-c4y
    @上口秀文-c4y 2 місяці тому

    NARCISSISTIC PARENTS DIDN'T TOOK THERE IS CHILDHOOD TRAUMATIC FOR VINDICTIVE THEM. BUT THEN TO WHEN THEY'VE FORGOTTEN ANYMORE. ALL THE NARCISSISTIC PARENTS STOPPED COMPLYING ANYMORE. MY PREFERENCE INVESTED

  • @Daniel2Ghost
    @Daniel2Ghost 9 місяців тому

    Redirect RED RIDICULOUS

  • @Daniel2Ghost
    @Daniel2Ghost 9 місяців тому +1

    Donkashane

  • @gerardcremin
    @gerardcremin 10 місяців тому

    👀 'promo sm'

  • @superherobookfan1838
    @superherobookfan1838 9 місяців тому

    Was that sex tape comment really necessary? I felt it was highly disrespectful to a Doctor.

  • @pierre931
    @pierre931 11 місяців тому +1

    luckly its me the narcisist and the fool,god is crazy too

  • @keb7933
    @keb7933 2 місяці тому

    She talks too fast 😟