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How to stop alcohol cravings in their tracks - a tactic that really works
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- How to stop alcohol cravings - urges and cravings to drink when you want to quit alcohol can feel overwhelming. This tactic will help you stop the cravings to drink in their tracks.
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I was a heavy daily red wine drinker for over twenty years, I would drink anything from one to three bottles of wine, often with beer on top. There was hardly a single day when I didn't drink and alcohol ended up having complete power over my life.
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Alcohol cravings can feel awful and it can be easy to tell ourselves that we have no choice but to give in to them and drink. But this is a belief that will hold you back, because it isn't true and is preventing you from being the best version of yourself.
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I’m on day day 7! Feeling uncomfortable 🙄
Hi Kerry, well done on 7 days, great work - have a look at my 7 Days to Sobriety course, it is on offer at the moment and you can get it for £7 / $9, you will get a lot from it and it has a bunch of bonuses included too. Details are here - besober.co.uk/store/7-Days-to-Sobriety-Course-inc-Bonus-Content-p295942756 - Simon
@@besober thanks Simon I have been watching your videos some really good tips I am 2 weeks tomorrow but feeling so tired 😢
@@rickgriffin6351 I feel ok losing weight which is good! Just feel tired ! At least I’m not working atm I would have got the sack by now lol... are you on this journey too?
@@rickgriffin6351 thanks I know I will miss the drinking I dread when pubs open again 😫 you can do it !
Day 2 . SERIOUSLY considering but something doesnt want me to have another one Because of all the damage it's caused me. It's a complete love/hate relationship
9 hours sober. Good luck everyone. We can do this. ❤️🤛
3 mo later, how you doing?
I hope you made it
24 hours without a drink… I got this formidable mountain ahead…!!
Well done, congrats. Always be proud for every second hour,day etc. I know I am.👌
Ok sir. You have my attention. I love your train and yes, I don’t think I can’t unlearn it. Love it.
Me = 12 days. I am noticing the more days I do the harder it gets. I guess my detox was a party compared to cravings.
Have a good day Simon and everyone else I’m gonna meet standing on the platform wondering why the bright train hasn’t arrived yet…
I am 35 days sober,and today is my birthday. I had a horrible incident yesterday where I went to my usual shop for groceries and at the last minute with out thinking, got a monster beer. I paid for my items, went outside and sat down, like I used to do when drinking alcohol. Then my husband walks up. Now this is a man that stopped drinking on his own. He doesn't touch alcohol, he's seen me destroy cars, fall and get concussion, break my tailbone, watch my own son dying from alcoholic cirrhosis of the liver, watch his best friend died of alcoholic cirrhosis of the liver, nothing deterred me from drinking. He show's up there, but doesn't take the beer from me, instead he demands we walk home. I started crying and screaming that I need the beer, I can't stand it! I'll die with out it. As we walked home, I realized I cannot have this beer, the consequences are to profound. We get home, I hear him crack it open and pour it out. By now I'm crying and screaming. Time goes by.... that craving I felt, it was as if I would die if I didn't have that beer, well it went away. Now my husband won't be able to be with me every second of the day, I am greatful to know that I have a CHOICE! I don't have to drink. It is about literally rewiring my brain to take another train, or not get on that train at all. Alcohol cravings have got to be the worst feeling in the world, it's going to take time and training my brain to make different choices now. God bless each of us on this journey
Wow Donna thank you for sharing your story with us. So glad you made it and that your husband is there to support you.
there’s a reason alcohol is called SPIRITS
You should write professionally for other to read about your journeys , you had me hooked
What a concept.
Thanks for sharing,it was very helpful
I have had no alcohol since 1993 and I had cravings and desires both from a mental standpoint and also from an emotional standpoint like everyone does before I finally stopped. But the victory came one day when I made the decision to just stop. I know it sounds strange because you feel you are powerless to the urge, but believe me, it is when you decide and stick to that decision that you stop for good.
The problem with alcoholism is that things work in reverse where you feel you are depriving yourself from something you need to have, or you feel guilty as if you are doing something wrong for not having it. You can ignore all that. As a human you have a will and you can decide what it is you want to do. When the trigger happens say no and change your thought to something you like to do that is harmless. I call it the 'attraction of distraction'. Believe me, you will soon find that that urge has passed.
Alcoholism works the same way as someone having a panic attack or anxiety attack where they feel the world is closing in on them, when in reality everything is just fine around them. They treat this condition by having you talk to your subconscious mind to tell it that there is no danger and everything is alright. You need to speak to yourself that you are fine and that you do not need alcohol today right now this minute. Then change the thought and drive down a different road.
You can win this thing that you think owns you. It doesn't. You have the power of decision. You have a choice. Oh, you think you'll be sad or depressed, or life will seem boring and uninviting. Those are just feelings and they cannot hurt you. Ride them out. Let those feelings come and pass through and leave you. The next day may be the happy day. You might meet someone new, or find a new thing to do. But you can win this. I wish you well.
I left work, got in my car, drove to the store and grabbed a drink. but then I put it back and walked out of the store!
I'm on day 2. ❤ good luck everyone.
Congratulations on taking the massive step, Amber! Please keep me updated with your progress and if you need any additional support, then please check out my Facebook support community - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
Still going ?
I'm on day 2 as well
@@shaniecegullison same, this my 2nd day
I'm on day 1. Hope it worked out for ya woukd love an update amber
I started drinking when I was 13. I didnt stop drinking untill I was almost 40 years old and had gone through three rehabs. I decided to put down the excuses and stay sober. I also looked at "cravings " as excuses. When I finally had no excuses .The cravings become just a passing thought as time went on.
Ialso had a very good sponsor that told me to stop referring to myself as being in recovery. She told that once you accept that mindset of always being in recovery then thats all I was going to be in constant recoverring mode.
She said you are not in recovery ,you are recovered!
She explained to me that its a choice. Was I going to be in recovery for the rest of my life,struggling with recovery ? Or will I choose to be recovered from alcohol in the long term? It was sp stupidly simple that it was brilliant. I had never had it explained to me like that before. She was right. Because the moment you put the drink down and walk away. You are recovered from alcohol. Because you have the power of choice. If you dont pick the drink up .You have the power. The moment I pick up a drink. I no longer have the power of choice.
I will have 11 years sober on August 24,2020. I choose to be recovered from alcohol . I now have that power because being recovered means for me that Im not willing to give up that power.
What a wonderful positive story - 11 years is fantastic, well done on your incredible journey to sobriety and freedom!
Congratulations on your 11 years may you have many more
Glad your sponsor didnt agree with Big Book about power of choice. Mine said i had permanently lost my power of choice that someday i would be tempted again and would succumb unless a God intervened, that id no mental defence at all. If a spiritual entity didnt respond to my pleas for help id drink. Well thats what happened. Ive since rejected that part of the book and adopted your wsy of thinking. Thanks and glad to read youre doing very well.
I also began drinking beer at 14 and just now deciding to put a end to it in my 60's. I'm looking forward to going from recovery mode to past tense. After many years, stopped smoking weed and cigarettes, those addictions were child's play compared to being addicted to 'beer'.. I was using the excuse that 'beer is not really alcohol'...
Good luck.
AA made me want to drink more. It was so stressful, and for me, outdated. I was not good with groups. I am so glad that it has worked for so many others.
I managed to piece 18 mos together and then fell off the wagon when my mother died. I'm in the very early stages of going completely alcohol free again b/c I know it's best and I remember feeling amazing once -- and I vividly remember *not* having these cravings and being able to easily walk past people drinking, bottles, etc....and it not affecting me much at all. But boy -- the early early stages are just a beast to get through. This particular video has been incredibly helpful in understanding that it's not just an "oh forget it, I'll pick back up tomorrow" *single* choice. There really are so, so many miniStops where you can still say no. Thank you so much for this. Videos like these are life-savers for those in the earliest stages...which everyone was at, at some point.
I hope you're doing well Tory 💓
Take care of yourself. I know I done the same after mum passed. You are aware so that's really good. You are so right so many warning signs to stop. I'm only 2 weeks 4 days yes it's a beast very true. Thank you for sharing
I like to picture the cravings as a animal/beast that wants to be fed with alcohol. If you deprive it the growls will get louder. And a dying beast makes the loudest growls. If you feed it then it you only temporarily silence the beast until it's hungry again but if you decide to put up with the growls then the beast will start to die and the growls will slowly fade away until the beast is dead. Just take comfort that the most intense cravings is a sign the addiction is dying. Like i said a dying animal/beast makes the loudest sounds and scratch the loudest.
Love this and so true! The louder it sounds/feels the closer you are to success!
I really like this analogy. I'm going to use this to help me get to the end of week 1 (evening of day 4 atm, right in the witching hour so I'm here distracting myself from the growling dying beast. It is very loud atm but I want it to die so no food for it today!)😂🤞
OK, yesterday I decided I wanted to wake up today without having a bottle of wine last night. I did it. First time in years, like 2 decades.
This sobriety is addictive!
Day 5 zero alcohol.
16 hours sober and still determined, wish me lucky🙂
How are you doing? All doing well?
My word Simon! This couldn't have arrived in my mailbox at a more appropriate time. I am currently still sat at the platform waiting for this loud train to leave the station without me on it! 20 minutes ago I was about to nip to the supermarket to pick up a bottle or 6. Instead of getting in the car I am going to wash it. Thanks
Clare Haigh amazing!!!! Love it - no getting ok 👍
I’m not getting on that ugly dam train either ... I’ll sit on the platform thanks very much
@@besober lost my daughter and son nothing could help
Oh my god ... absolutely brilliant .. I have tried so many times to change the way I drink .. My husband drinks like you did ...he tries to encourage me to drink so it excuses him. he passes out every night. I was beginning to become like him... I hate that it takes away so much of your life .
I am joining the alcohol experiment again. This time will be it ... I’ve got this.
I’m definitely at the platform and I’m definitely not getting on that dam train ..
Thankyou ... I’m reading your book and I love it .. You are going to be my saving grace .
Thanks Leanne I’m so glad it helped! Yes stay on the platform or leave the station!
Leanne Coates Z
I’m back on day one. Drinking has gotten where it gives me chest pains. I’m down to drinking two days per week but after the two heavy days of drinking. 12 pack of beer and 6 shots of vodka is my habit per day. I’m going to use the train station the next time I get cravings. Thank you I’ve joined your channel. My name is Chuck
Chuck you might want to see a Dr about your chest pain & get your heart checked out. Doesn't sound good & if anything is wrong there you need to know asap before it is too late!
I cannot thank you enough for this, I have tried many times to stop drinking for over half my life, I’m 48. This train analogy has not only kept me from staying off the drinking train but has kept me from over thinking and dwelling on thing I have no control over, I remind myself this is a train, or better a train of thought I don’t want to board. Again thank you 🙏
Yup so true. Everything he says I go through
I'm on day around 80 and it's one of those nights where I'm struggling and the cravings are strong. Thanks for this!
I will try it. I hate the feeling next morning after drinking even one drink. The memory of a hungover keeps me away too.
Hi there, yes, I can completely agree with you there. It takes time and you need to view it as a journey. By all means check out my site - www.besober.co.uk/ where there are some excellent guides and support available for you.
This was a much needed video today. I looked at that big shiny train with all the flashing lights over and over all night long. But each time I reminded myself that just because it looks fun doesn’t mean I need to get on that train. We all know where that leads. So I’m glad to say this tactic worked !!! Thanks Simon!!
Nice work! Well done 👍 glad it helped 😊
This is so helpful. I did this today and it stopped me from even wishing for alcohol in 2 minutes. Kind of like a miracle
I'm on day 3 and I will definitely use this tactic. Just came from watching your alcohol and anxiety depression video, you have my full attention. Thank you for these videos from the 🇺🇸 USA
Hi Sarah - glad the tactics are helping, stay strong and keep checking my channel, there are two new videos each week. Simon
Wow…you’re a genius! Stopped me on my “tracks” otherwise the end of the train goes to “anxiety/depression” pit stop of complete remorse all over again!
Dealing with cravings is the number one skill to achieve alcohol cessation. Every technique helps. Thanks, Simon.
My pleasure and thank you for the comment, Clay. Completely agree! If you can deal with the craving you are more than halfway there!
Love this analogy, will use it!!! I’m 4 days sober. I was the type of drinker that thought I had it under control. I would limit myself to 2 to 3 glasses of wine and night but that’s the thing it was every night. I’m excited about this journey and I’m really thankful for you and your podcast your tools make a lot of sense and I’m putting them all in my tool bag. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I dont understand why I have to realize 8 million times in a row that I hate it what its going to take for me to stop. Ive been in car accidents, duis, embarrassed myself a million times (back in my heavier use days) and now I drink recreationally and "responsibly" but it just makes me feel so terrible afterward. I end up eating like a slob, spending too much money all to just feel depressed and exhausted. I just want to stop, but its very difficult. I love sunshine and a fizzy drink! A glass of red wine before bed (that turns into a whole bottle). I can't keep more than one bottle in my house at a time. Alcohol is the devil.
Hi Kelsey I think it is important for you to start with a blank piece of paper and ask yourself:
1) Why do you believe you like to drink?
2) What do you benefits to you believe alcohol brings you?
Once you have some clear statements - for example 'alcohol helps me relax' or 'alcohol reduces my stress' you should look at the truth in the believe.
A bit like a jury in a court case - list out the pros and cons and see how true your beliefs really are. I am sure you will realise they are untrue and holding you back.
For example:
You might feel less stress initially after drinking due to the numbing chemical effect. But after that you behaviour might change, your mood may shift, you might say or do things you regret, have hangovers etc - all of this is more stressful...look at the whole picture and start to destroy the false beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
I used to have similar beliefs and it wasn't until I realised they were limiting me and totally wrong that I became super motivated and excited to experience an alcohol-free life.
You should check out my quit drinking programme, there is a brilliant online audio course you can work through to dig really deep int this and a whole lot more.
More details here www.joinbesober.com - we also have a live workshop on Saturday for members who want to create the foundations for successful sobriety.
Simon
I am the same way. I’ve tried a million times to drink “responsibly “ and still go overboard. Still blackout and still wake up with so many regrets. I’m finally realizing that drinking too much or drinking responsibly in my world just doesn’t exist. I can NOT drink. I just can’t. I get so envious seeing others out laughing and drinking and wonder “why can’t I do that”.....now, who knows how their night really ends or even they themselves are wishing they hadn’t started that evening - but, I can’t wrap my head around why I can’t stop. Why I keep “trying” to be a “here and there” social drinker. I’ve given up wondering and know I have to stop. I’ve hit 2 years before and started drinking again one year ago....it’s exhausting and just a big lie. I wish you well in your journey. Just wanted to let you k ow I feel like a mirror image of what you are feeling.
@@weinerwagon6781 yes its very hard. It is very helpful to have people in your circle who don't drink. If that means spending less time around certain people thats ok. I dont know if you're a Christian but God seems to keep putting people in my life I become close to who don't drink. It's been a tremendous help for me.
One take! One take! And you touched my heart! You are unbelievable! I am struggling with alcohol and divorce... I needed this video. I am an English teacher and to hear how fluent and coherent you are with barely any pauses is eye opening. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
Brilliant way to pause and think. I don't even see or notice this Train anymore, been Sober for 14 months, it is absolutely true that this is only a thought. Was drinking Polish strong Lagers for many years and just did not know where to turn, I knew it was not right and this little Voice was drowned by this vicious Poison, but with this kind of help I have come out as a 'New Person' after decades of being a prisoner of this ghastly posion called Alcohol!! I feel so free now.
Hi - well done on how far you have come, so glad the videos have helped - Simon.
There is so much I can relate to. I smoked 40 cigarettes a day for 11 years. It was impossible for me to believe I could get off that train.
I'm now 13 years without smoking and I have absolutely no recollection of why I smoked.
Alcohol is exactly the same. Every day is as easy and as hard.
There comes a day when you realize you didn't think about feeding your addiction. I wish you all success on your journey. I'm still trying daily to remove alcohol from my life. I hope I can win this battle also.
Dealing with a different addiction to alcohol and still found this immensely helpful. Thank you!
I want to thank you for offering such a practical tactic that is so easily deployed in the tug of war against cravings. I will definitely have this stuck in my mind going forward. Thanks again!
My pleasure, I am so happy it helped - it is one of those tactics that you can never unlearn when a craving to drink arises.
63 and trying to quit its not easy at all but i do go day by day...i fall sometimes but then i start again this has allowed me to not drink as much...so i quess what im saying is my drinking is becoming less and less each time i fail i go longer without a drink i will eventually
Quit completely i know this in my heart...Good luck and keep going everyone...
The 'Cravy' Train!!! This is fabulous Simon. I absolutely love trains. Have you ever listened to Parsley Sidings? It's hard not to beat myself up at 41 days and be kind. I forget I am learning a new skill. I forget to study and let the grotty conductor take over. I also think I am lazy - can't be - that's when I get caught out. So today is day 42-2=40. Onward and sharpen up Philly.
Love this ❤️
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For me, alcohol is a mood shift. A way I shift my emotional state quickly. Before the pandemic I did AA and recognized that it was also a mood shift. A distraction, and seeing familiar people shifted my mood.
In the last few months I started drinking again. The struggle I have is with anxiety. I am cutting back to avoid the hangover anxiety so I can put it down completely. Also, taking vitamins and herbs for sleep. I think I am in my last week. One beer a day. That’s what I allow. Joining an online group. I need the contact with those I can talk to alcohol about.
It's great that you recognise this. I too had alcohol-led anxiety. Please do join my Facebook Community. It's completely free of charge and it will really help you - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
Hi Simon, thanks for all you do !!! My name Steve and after 47 yrs of drinking, I've had enough and attempting to quit cold turkey. On day 8 and feeling better each day......feeling a bit guilty for not suffering too bad of cravings, just remind myself I've put enough poison in my body of the years. Biggest reason for quitting.....told my son and he's comment, "Why would you want to do something like that?" I realized over his almost 30 yrs of life, he had never seen me without a drink/drunk or buzzed, it hit hard that I was not a very good example. Not to late to start being one now ....... Where can I get a "Sobriety Rocks" T-shirt?
Absolutely incredible. Of all the videos ive ever seen, and all of the advice out there, this one in particular has been the breakthrough- a saving grace, 110 percent. Thank you
Thanks Sarah - I am so pleased my video helped - the great thing is that you can never unlearn it and every time a craving comes up you will find yourself stood on the train station platform! Simon
@@besober Very true. Ill be watching all of your videos, until they stick. And if i ever meet anyone who needs help, im highly recommending your channel for all of your help and invaluable advice ❤🙏🏻
Four days. So grateful you're all here.
I’m on day 16! Had an intense thought/craving today and this visualization really helped. Thank you!
I can’t wait till I get to day 16! I’m on day 3 right now
So I sat down today with the calculator and put the price of the alcohol I was using and multiplied it out over the year, it came close to $8,000, gave me a fright. It’s probably more if I want to be really honest.
I meet up with friends every Sunday morning and we usually discuss worldly subjects. I’ve shared that I’m doing an experiment for 30 days alcohol free. Later on this evening we have a function to go to at a local pub. My friends did not try and talk me out of my commitment and was not backward in coming forward and announced I will be the designated driver. 🙏
Really appreciate your videos. Almost six months sober now and loving the positive changes in my life. Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom!
Where I would get into trouble is when the destination is a very short train ride, like one train, one short stop. Sitting in a restaurant looking at chilled glasses of wine on neighboring tables would trigger me to order a glass with my meal. Another short stop, single station trip is when I’m a guest at a party or dinner and my host either hands me a glass of wine or asks me if I’d like a glass of wine. Those are the hardest moments as I’ve enjoyed wine most in these situations in the past and the decision window being only seconds is where my mammalian brain takes over.
what brilliant advice Simon...
Thank you 😊
I'm sick to death of drinking and where it leads me time after time, I frequently have time away from it but this is another of these times where I want to finish for good.....day 8
If you have thoughts of drinking think of your worst hangover and the way you felt and how sick you were.
It definitely helps to see that you feeling great in a sober state and would happen if you drink having a horrible night with hangover.
Brilliant Simon I LOVE then analogy and thinking process. During this Covid experience I have drank 2-3 times...and this experience is unusual...so not out of craving but out of severe anxiety. Of course it makes anxiety worse and I figured out its roughly 3-4 hours of relief ....maybe with alcohol to / with 10-14 hours of sugar rush, bad sleep and feeling so much worse the next day. I did NOT beat myself up for this situation...although it did scare me to even pick up alcohol again !!!!!!..but with the IMBALANCED time rational towards feeling bad after...I didn't keep up the horrible habit of using it to deal with anxiety and numb out but instead found my yoga mat and long walks again - that works beautifully - with thanks Simon !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So glad this worked! Sounds like you are doing real well 😊
I also picked up yoga on my sober journey! it's great! I also use alcohol whenever feeling anxious but also for other reasons as well. REcently after staying sober for 12 days in a row... I stumbled again and felt bad for 3 days... hungover, bad sleep, heart-racing, clouded mind for 3 days!!! It's really not worth it and the bad feeling afterwards seems to be getting worse and worse, especially if you managed to stay sober a couple of weeks and have tasted a different way of thinking and mental status...
Good job Simon, I made this decision 15 years ago and I feel great, the best decision I ever made, and now I also do the Wim Hof methode, great....
You are doing a very good thing to help people.
I am on day 8 and am determined to keep going! X
I tried this today and it’s working , thank you for the videos !
Got to seven 11 last month and only bought cigarettes by shading my eyes from the other stuff on sale..
That can be a good avoidance tactic 👍
I ended up drinking today, I stopped though , didn’t let it get out of hand. I can get a week or two in and then end up drinking. It’s so stupid , your videos have been a huge help. I just have to put it all together 😔
Not only will I do this with cravings, but with my anger as well.
I'm saving this video. Thank you. But honestly I had to stop near the end because after you said "you grab a bottle" ...it made me wanna go grab one so I'm going to practice this teach right now and get off my phone...great tactic either way
Thanks Simon, I found this really helpful. I have tried to stop so many times, and I think this time I mean it. Then a craving comes along and I am riding express all the way. And the thought is, well, I bought it so I might as well drink it as if it's game over. Good to know a craving can be worked with.
Thanks Liz, so happy it helped. It is a great tactic for stopping cravings. I have an audio course with my quit drinking programme and a big part of it is all about beating cravings. You can try it free for 14 days at www.joinbesober.com - Simon.
This is a VERY good advice, which i immediately put into practice. I realized my common mistake in the past. I wouldn't "stop, pause, reconsider" until I was actually in the store facing the beer cooler. That's when I'd think, "Should I really be doing this?" Well of course I was too far in the journey at that point, and 19 times out of 20, I'd leave the store with the beer and go home and drink it... with no further thought of "Should I really be doing this?" So basically I set myself up to have only ONE stop between the start and the final destination. What's ironic is I have been practicing mindfulness in many other areas of my life, with great results. Paying attention to the present moment as much as possible. Living in the here and now. Why wasn't I being mindful of all the little "present moments" between the start and the final destination?? Thanks for posting this!
I'm on day 21 after drinking daily for 20 years and having my ups and downs but have a great wife and family and each day is getting a little easier. Thanks for your videos they really help me to listen to on my drive back from work
I'm so glad you're finding sobriety and finding support from the videos. Thank you.
Simon Chapple, my Alcohol saviour, thank you... I'm a firm believer of Analagies that seems "stupid" at first... I'm using this train analagy everytime I pass a Liquor Store here in South Africa, I pass smiling of my pause & choice to pass that "bright" train becoming dull by the day! 😁😁🌟🌟... Thank You Sir!!! I'm taking it all one day at a time until I reach my personal objective!!! Constantly Praying through the process, also enjoying the process of course! I am in CONTROL through God's Power!!! 🙏🏽💯... Thank you Simon! Your work is much appreciated Sir!!!
I’m at 10 days sober.. I honestly cannot remember the last time I did this.. definitely years. Feel great and already dropped 2 lbs. going to keep it going. Had a dream I was drinking a beer last night!
I found that a big glass of strong lime juice cordial and sugar free tonic gave me very strong taste which kind of worked! I used to drink ginger beer with no alcohol which nearly worked but not strong enough but lime and tonic was strong like a spirit without being one!
I’m on day 3!
Well done, keep up the great work. There is one place remaining at my bootcamp this weekend, you should come along, it will set you up for long-term success, details are here: besober.co.uk/stop-drinking-bootcamp-with-simon-chapple/
What a great video, thank you so much. It's funny how this kinda happened to me yesterday, I was having a bad craving and I was giving in and going to bar, but then after a shower i stopped and started to question myself and I stayd home and watched a movie. Great decision.
I’ve been watching various videos from your channel. This is absolutely amazing content. It helps so much to hear your story and experiences. You make things feel comfortable, caring and possible - all with grace and mercy.
Great tactic Simon, I’m definitely going to try this
Thank you! I would love to hear how you get on. Keep me posted!
I will practice this tactic thank you. I decided to stop drinking on Monday. I've been drinking so much during these times that its been easy, but today i was feeling some cravings. Im glad i found your channel just now, will be subbing!
Hope it helps - if you need more support have a look at my online programme www.joinbesober.com
I really enjoyed your view points. Great analogy.
When I stopped smoking the thing that stopped me was deciding I didn't want to do it anymore. REALLY decided. I think it's the same with smack and booze.
I agree, knowing that we have a choice and we have that power is crucial - and being determined to see our decision through.
Thank you. This is very helpful. 39 hours clean
This is a great tactic! Thank you for this.
Excellent analogy. Very helpful. Thank you.
My pleasure, Sophie. I really enjoyed creating the video, so I am really pleased to hear you liked the content!
I'm not sure If I have a problem. I don't think I want to quit it completely, I really enjoy beer and the whole science and art to it.
I am a moderate drinker and rarely have more than 1 or 2 at a time. But still would like to reduce the amount I have. Its just become a habit to have a beer or a glass of wine each evening before dinner. I think I've realised often I'm actually just hungry and need to prepare my dinner sooner. Once I'm eating I lose interest in the alcohol and often don't even finish my beer. But it does take the edge off my anxiety and help me wind down after work. No more than 1 drink, but I guess its still a habit that I need to challenge.
Brilliant Simon I got off the train bought a top instead. I was going to buy a bottle non alcoholic wine. And I thought no I'd rather have something to a show for my money. Really great advice Simon I will use that ! Thank you as always, very grateful
Thank you Julia! I hope you are well and really pleased you enjoyed this video :)
How brilliant is this!
4 days for me too...not easy! Power to us.
Thank you. I’m ready to take this journey. This will be day one. I soooo need a change
Simon, I Just subscribed and watched a few of your videos... fortunately I've managed to stay completely alcohol free for almost a year now, from my perspective I think your content is fantastic and I just wanted to compliment and thank you as you undoubtedly do save lives!! Personally I'm in a very good place with my sobriety but I will definitely continue to subscribe and view your helpful content, its brilliant. Well done!
...a Streetcar Named " Desire". Thank you, sir.
I love your channel . Thank you for sharing with us is your knowledge and your energy. I appreciate your genuine desire to help people. I watch your videos every day, they bring me out of the darkness. Thank you
With this video, I suddenly realized that a "craving" isn't necessarily a physical compulsion, somehow divorced from my routine thinking... it IS the thinking, the thought: "yes, that sounds like a good idea, like a satisfactory escape from or an escape to." It's that passing thought. Nip it in the bud with a pause, a reflection. "Trump" it with alternatives, be mindful, play the video to at least one destination; viz., a hangover, remorse, and self-condemnation. This epiphany is wonderful! And yes, the "addiction" notwithstanding (after all, after 40+ years of alcohol abuse, there ARE biochemical predispositions); but we humans are more, much more than the sum of our constituent parts... we ca m rise above and direct ourselves to a different course of action! Take fasting, for example. We need, desire, and opt to eat, but we have the choice to abstain.
It works. It bloody well works!
On day 5, on a Friday night and I’m so tempted!!!!
My wife moved out yesterday while I'm at work, I'm here tryna take some real steps to get a grip of myself
Thanks so much Simon!!!!! I will listen to this several times my friend!
The number of times I've started to drink and tipped the rest down the sink. Sone unseen force takes me to the shop, picks and pays for the drink and totally abandons me when i open thd bottle. I don't want to drink, don't even chase the feeling anymore, but i have been unable to stop stop myself. I will certainly give the train visual a go.
I just stumbled on your page as I’m dealing with quitting alcohol addiction, I always relapse after a couple of days. I really do need help and I’m hoping I would get the help I need I am Rolanda from Nigeria
You are amazing and on point.
Thanks Maria - I hope this tactic helps stop any cravings for alcohol. Simon
@@besober it really does. 💖
Hope this works I need help
Hi Gladys, it really helped me stop cravings to drink. If you need more support have a look at my quit drinking programme, you can try it for 14 days for free, details here: www.joinbesober.com - Simon
The fact that you recognize you need help is the first step...you can do it
Thanks heaps man ❤ really helpful stuff. 😊
Wow. I needed that video
That's awesome! Thanks Simon for sharing that great strategy. What a wonderful thought that we are able to trough so many stops to still make the decision to fall back or keep on going on our sober journey! :) Warmest wishes from Vienna all the way to you, Sabine
Excellent video, thanks 🙏
My pleasure!
This was great. Thank you for this. I have already subscribed to your channel and definately will take this into account the next time I get one of those dreaded cravings.
I listened for 4 minutes straight- all you talked about would make anyone WANT A DRINK- " taste it on your lips , pour it into your mouth ,etc.- then " listen to what I'm going to say , underground trains , stations , it sounds stupid , keep listening , keep listening" LISTEN YOURSELF !!! I want to quit so badly , I listened quietly with hope , it just triggered a desire for a drink " drink , taste it ,drink , it's I your mouth" If you think I'm neurotic , just listen to your own words in the first four minutes.
Im going to do this. Glad i found you.
So helpful!
Thanks! It's probably been 1000 times i've been here but i'm on Day 4
I have difficulty sleeping without alcohol. Last night I was up until 2:00 and I only slept til 6:30. I’ve tried a variety of meds to help but nothing works like alcohol.
Thank you for the video. I will implement the map of the several train station journeys i can take.
Day 4, this video has helped me. Thank you.
Hello kind sir. I thank you for your video. You have me in tears. I broke when I lost my mom to suicide in 2019, my job (due to depression as a result of my mom) and then my license. I try to quit drinking and go a few days even a few weeks then it's THAT CRAVING! I also suffer from anxiety, depression & PTSD. I heard that people with mental illness are more prone to drink. I feel like a failure when I give in. i feel powerless. I put so much pressure on myself not to drink but then that wave craving comes. YOU ARE DEAD ON! Nothing good has ever come out of drinking for me. God bless you sir for your video's but I've tried so many times to stop, time to put the toys away and grow up. Is this my destiny? I just don't know anymore. Do you have a facebook group Simon?
It also help to think it trough. So after I drink that one beer what next? Then I will probably buy some more. Then I will get drunk and regret my decision. The next day I will have hangover maybe anxiety and feel bad about myself.. Do I really need that drink then?
Day 18. Thanks
Nice work, well done.
39 days, thanks to UA-cam
Thank you for this, Simon. Namaste.
Day 2 sober, itching and struggling, but living the train system, I am not leaving platform 1 today😊
I'm focusing on reducing my consumption rather, because I could stop for a while but the I go back to the same feeling worse for not staying strong. So I think it just might be realistic to use some tricks to reduce my craving for alcohol... we'll see.