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Quitting Drinking: 7 Big Mistakes to Avoid in Sobriety
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- Quitting Drinking? These are the seven big mistakes people make when they stop drinking alcohol.
Make sure you avoid them when you decide to become sober. If you are sober-curious these tips will help ensure you are set for success as you go forward on your journey to becoming alcohol-free.
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Have you been asking yourself why quitting drinking feels so hard? Why it feels like you keep having setbacks and never seem to get it right?
Have you tried stopping drinking and found that obstacles have got in your way? Before you know it you are back at day one, carrying out the same old habits and in the same daily cycle where you are obsessing about booze and overwhelmed by the urge to drink.
All too often we find ourselves totally stuck, confused and feeling alone. We search for the answer to the question 'How do I quit alcohol' and become frustrated that we just can't change our mindset and end up firmly believing we are destined to fail.
If this sounds familiar, don't despair, chances are you are making one of the big mistakes that are common when we try quitting drinking that I share in this video.
Sobriety is a little bit like learning a new skill, we need to educate ourselves, learn from our mistakes and practice before we master it. The more you learn, the more you will grow and before you know it you will be well on the way to complete freedom from alcohol addiction.
You can break free from alcohol and if you learn from the 7 big mistakes people make when they quit drinking you will be set for success.
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Alcohol and cigarettes addiction actually destroyed my life. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my husband which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Amen God bless people. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.
YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
Yes he's Dr.benfungi.Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have really helped him. mah dudes have safe trips all.
Started drinking at 16 and now retired. Cost me two marriages and countless friends. Decided to stop completely after downing a Bottle of Rum every other day at home during lockdown. Something told me it’s now or never. Managed 2 months sobriety up to now and still going strong but it’s not easy especially at night. Hopefully the road ahead is a happier one because so far my life has been dominated by alcohol...it’s just taken me 52 years to realise it.
Thank you so much for your honest comment. Lockdown really has caused so many 'unseen' problems. The nights certainly can be the most tough when we aren't occupied with activities that we are throughout the day. Well done on your 5 weeks of sobriety, that really is amazing. I hope you are still going strong and if you need any support, then please feel free to get in touch.
Still sober, now 2 months since my last drink. Feeling good apart from the odd night when it’s difficult. Thanks for your comment.
Keep growing in sobriety.
God is our refuge and strength a very present help trouble!!! (Look up Psalm 46 verse 1)
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I completely relate same thing with me. I can't control my alcohol. I keep repeating the same cycle
I was at my end. On the verge of suicide. Something blew up in my head and I went to my first AA meeting. I was scared to go but I forced myself. I knew immediately I was home. It was miraculous. My cravings stopped. From that day on for the first 10 days I had to sit on my hands to stop them from shaking from withdrawl. I have been sober for 40 years and gave me a life. Not my life back, a better life. I owe everything to the support of the program and other alkies just like me.
This man's saving tens of thousands of lives.
So nice of you to say! If my videos help one person then this is all worth it :)
Indeed and thousands of £s.
I’m ready. 40 years of drinking , many tries. I’ve had 3 children 1 divorce so many failed relationships and yes dwi’s. This ongoing world wide situation is making my drinking worse. I need to stop. My 1st step is watching these videos. Thank you!!
Well done Lisa, what a wonderfully positive choice. Have a look at my stop drinking programme at www.joinbesober.com it will give you all you need to get started. I also have a playlist designed for anyone new to sobriety. Simon
I was on the edge and then this dude popped up. No bullshit here, 40 years drinking and the last 10 of those an 18 pack everyday. I am only 16 day's in, but he is right. Positive changes are happening. Honestly I don't know what's going to happen moving forward. but so far so good.
I’m on day 26 and I’m so grateful for your videos
Alcohol blinded and deafened me. When I stopped I saw and listened.
Soberness is transformative and makes it easier to stay sober for my family.
I see and hear what I did to them. I’m sad for what I did but am joyful for what I’m doing
stopped drinking 10 days ago after watching your video. Was drinking too much every evening and as you say I believed that I couldn't have fun without it. Early days but feel as though I have broken the habit and looking forward to the future ! So thanks, your enthusiasm definitely helped !
Well done you 👍❣️
My husbands alcoholism came to a head over Xmas and it has made me look at my own drinking which has increased over the last few years. I am now sober since last week and thanks for this video
Thank you for your comment. Well done on making this positive step! I am here to provide help and support. Please have a look through this link for help moving forward - besober.co.uk/2020/08/18/stop-drinking-books-by-simon-chapple-recommended-quit-alcohol-books/
"An idle mind is the devil's playground." Very true! I am happy that I have so many interests.
😂Hello! I just did one day without a buzz. A friend had a birthday celebration at a bar. I was offered a bottle of beer. I turned it down but opted for soft drink instead I felt strong and happy afterwards. Slept better that night. I hope to continue to smash it. Thanks
This guy is really good, he gets straight to the point without faffing about 👍
D B thanks 😊
One thing is that if you don't have support, friends, someone... It's REALLY tough. That part gets overlooked.
I hope I can do this and stick to it.. everything good goes bad in my life because of drink i need to the be the change 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 7 - 10 days we got this
The early days can be challenging. Are you in a sober community? My FB group is a great place to find support and camaraderie on the sober journey. Be Sober - Quit Drinking & Enjoy Life.
I'm on day 3, again, and your videos have helped me stop hating myself and to just keep trying. I'll be checking out your other content as well. Thank you for everything.
40 days sober
I want what you have. Thanks for your post💖
Amazing! It has taken me nearly that to reply to the comments on my videos - hopefully over 70 days now! Simon.
@@belindarosenheim2322 aaà
Congratulations!! 16 days here.
On day 31 😊 one of your books arriving to day
Thank you very much for what you do. I think 99.9% of all mistakes I have made in life were alcohol related. I feel like if demons exist, alcohol is one of them.
All the best to you and yours. Keep your chins up guys,
Serge in Chicago.
Serg that's why they are called spirits
Day 1 for me
Hi Megan - good for you, I hope the videos on my channel are helping - Simon.
It’s been five days. Feel a bit better. Came really close to stopping by the bar on Saturday..
I have 10 years and 3 plus months sober and counting. Got sober with AA
Thank you for commenting, Victoria! That is really great to hear. 10+ years is amazing!
28 hours no alcohol nothing in the house to drink one day at a time thanks
I am loving your videos, thank you! 14 days sober today, aged 40. Old hobbies have come back already, electric guitar, running, with those also comes mindfulness. I don't want to go back, I do get thoughts about it during the day, but I'm not going back, I see the light.
Ha.Same.12 days in and back on the guitar and creative again...lots of plus points but strong flashes of desire for a session...it passes pretty swiftly so far but wonder if I can resist if those pangs occur for wider stretches of time....taking it day by day.Its all we can do i guess.Hope you do well.Peace.
So helpful thank you . My son will see me smile again . One day at a time .
You got this! - Simon
Day 23 no alcohol, no cigarettes since early April, and my life has completely changed. My brain and body have experienced a serious health upgrade, and I now truly enjoy life. I actually want to feel every single emotion, no matter how dire or great. I experienced my first sober 4th of July, since 2008, and it was beyond stunning and memorable. I keep sharing my experience with everyone I know that is an alcoholic, in hopes they are inspired and want to make a life change. You sir, keep me inspired with your enthusiasm and positive affirmations. Thank you. Good luck to us all.
Also, it helps if you stop associating with people who try to get you to drink and lower your self to their level. When I stop drinking, I lost about six people. I thought were my friends.
And you were so correct about having time. I looked back and started working on my cars again. I now have a lot of time to work on them and extra money for parts.
Great video. Thanks. 4 weeks in. The insomnia was what got me to quit ultimately. It was hell and was 100% due to alcohol. Ratty, every problem magnified, constantly catastrophizing, always down and anxious. All gone. Trying to contain it was just WAY WAY WAY more effort than just cutting it loose. One thing that helped me was the quote 'the wolf you feed is the wolf that grows stronger'. Every time you face it off, you get stronger and it gets weaker.
Stand in the storm... Very powerful and motivating statement for me. Here's to another day one, hopefully my last.
Yay! Me too!
Julie De Biasio how are you doing? I’m day two.
Frances Lemount great! Trying to fall asleep. It’s great to not feel sick!
Maureen Hogan excellent to hear, keep going ❤️
Day 1 for me. Filled with anxiety and an foot injury...Everyone good luck with your journey to sobriety 🙏🏻🦋
Great channel Simon. I love the clarity and conviction of your ideas here. I remember doing some work for you back in the seo days. I had no idea you were doing this now. Thank you for the inspiration. You're absolutely right, alcohol has proven to provide no benefits whatsoever. Even a small amount is destructive to your health.
Thanks Simon, great advice. I'm on Day 11 and your videos are a huge help to me.
Great to hear! Well done Jeff, thanks for the comment! Simon
Jeff how are you doing?
I have listened to most of your videos & find them informative & Motivational. I can't quite crack the final sobriety hurdle. I can easily stop for 8-10 days after a binge session of 6 beers without any desire or cravings. Then a small thought starts and grows and nags all day eventually overpowering enough that I disregard all the sobriety tools I have in place and head for the booze shop. This is frustrating as I can't seem to tough it out.
Thanks for watching and I am pleased you are taking steps in the right direction.
I know how frustrating it can be when it feels like you stop and then start again, but you can get past this.
The problem most likely exists in your beliefs about the benefits of alcohol - if you still believe that it brings you something positive such as - relaxation, de-stress or fun then it will cause an internal mental struggle.
This is the obstacle you need to smash out of the way.
You should consider joining my programme, it will give you what you need in terms of support, structure, tactics for change and connection.
Details here: www.joinbesober.com
Simon
Sober now for 72 days. Still finding it hard and feeling flat. Must keep going! Thanks Simon❤
I really enjoyed this one to. I'm still sorting my life out. I have some more hills to climb but this is what it's about. 🙂
Glad it helped Alex, keep on climbing those hills, it gets a whole lot easier!
Alex Lorenz... #stayinthefightDear1#I'mPROUDOFYOU
Simon please don’t hate making this video! It’s THE most motivational video I’ve seen! Thank you so much.
Frances Lemount wow thanks - that means so much ❤️
Quit Alcohol Coach - Simon Chapple - Be Sober I couldn’t sleep, second night of not drinking and was looking for... well, exactly this! I’ve subscribed and you’re going to be my coach throughout my journey. I love a visual and ‘Stand in the storm’ will be my mantra. I especially take to heart when you describe how after a few days it gets easier, I’ve never got that far. I’ve been a bottle of wine a night person for years, and desperately want to make my life better. Thank you again.
@@bettyboo1927 well done! The sleeping gets easier, I do have another video about sleep. You should join my quit drinking programme for extra support and structure www.joinbesober.com
Quit Alcohol Coach - Simon Chapple - Be Sober I’m definitely going to. A brilliant resource ❤️
Nobody talks about withdrawals, how they did it, scared
I'm looking forward to my new journey. I'm nervous but it's most definitely necessary. I used to be a social drinker but once my relationship of 15 years ended on terrible terms my drinking increased to the point of drinking almost a whole pint daily. I'm literally tired of it so I'm making a firm decision to completely stop and I'm praying for strength and self control in this new chapter.
😵 Sober 2 days and a morning. No sleep last night and i start new video therapy at 10 this morning oh and my adult son's birthday at 7 tonight. Honestly i feel fried. I know it will pass, but "Uuuuhg. Whine. Snivel. Grrrr." I'll post about my success In a few days.
Hi Belinda - well done on taking this step - have a look at the recent video I did with William Porter, we discuss sleep in some depth and share some strategies, it is in the 2nd half of the video. Hope it helps. Simon
Stay strong you can do it
You can do it
Ii didnt drink for 8 months last year - just didnt want to feel exhausted next day. Then started again for holidays and im now done with alcohol. All stupid stuff ever done associated w alcohol.
I identify with every word. The anxiety is intense I hate. Hate.
Hate it. And being hung over is like being dead, but still in pain. So I hate the way I feel b4 I drink and hate the way I feel after. So thanks for your help.
Filling the time is harder than anything else. I honestly don't know what to do with myself and will be my downfall if I can't get past. I was just thinking about that this morning. I have GOT to find something to do because I'm bored senseless. Volunteer, work part-time, go take some classes...does anyone have ANY ideas????
As for me, I have many hobbies and things I enjoy doing, such as walking in nature, cycling, and reading, driving my car. I also like to visit the library and spend some time there. In the evening, I have a routine where I prepare my favorite foods like salad, antipasti, snacks etc, and then I watch TV series. Sometimes, I also indulge in alcohol-free beer when I feel like it. There are so many more activities you can explore; you just have to think about what brings you the most joy. If you're not sure where to start, you can always search for tips and ideas online.
Go to the gym in the evenings, not only will you fill unused time, you will feel great.
Think back, did you enjoy anything before started drinking? Do that stuff.
For me, it's
1) reading
2) exercising
3) writing/recording music
4) re-learning piano
5) spending time working on marksmanship skills
6) hiking
7) cooking healthy meals
Now I'm eating chocolate instead,never used to whilst drinking wine,on the good side started walking,swings and roundabouts
Pretty amazing ... KEEP GOING ... you will help many and encourage with the courage to be honest and open to share your life experiences.
Thank you so much!
9 days sober ,i dont know what space I'm in.
Well done - you should join my quit drinking programme, it will give you so much support and guidance, take a look at www.joinbesober.com
To e. Keck
U may not like labels but if ur an alcoholic, you've got one. As far as aa meetings? They not only saved my life, but aa is the greatest source of wisdom in the world. Sitting 'in a roomful with a bunch of drunks` is exactly why it works for so many thousands of people around the world. How a person gets sober is up to them. I just know from my own experience the support you get, and how talking and listening to other drunks wasa fast track way for me to get sober, stay sober and work out a lot of kinks. It sounds like you don't believe that I didn't drink after my first meeting. I'm not saying that it was easy, but thats what happened. I've been sober for 40 years. Its not like that for everyone but it was for me. I was totally dedicated to stop and that made it easier. I had withdrawls, sleeplessness, shakes, appetite changes, mood changes etc. But I got thru it with a little help from my friends. I drank for 13 years, progressing to a half gallon of wine or a 5th of vodka every day. And of course drinking in the shower is normal....isn't it? Your disdain and prejudgment of aa is certainly your right, but misplaced in my opinion. Narcotics anonymous is more similar to what you think aa is all about. Perhaps you've tried aa and didn't like it, but if you haven't, i don't think you have the right to throw shade based on your presuppositions. Yes, it worked for me and I don't really care if you believe that I stopped after my first meeting. I wish you luck in your uphill journey.
How would I know anything about your story or history with AA? How would I possibly know if you quit after one meeting or not? How could it sound like I don’t believe you? I have no idea what your journey looks like, we have never met or spoken so how could I possibly have given an opinion on your individual story! As I said in the video - it works for some people and that’s great but personally I don’t identify with the term Alcoholic and never will. How can I be an alcoholic if I don’t drink? I also have the right to choose my only labels, as does everyone. Good for you on becoming free 👍
No. Positive. Benefits. So true.
YES!
I am going to try doing this over December starting today, my birthday on the 8th, Dec, it's so hard being a chef and in restaurant trade, but day for day
I'm so inspired! Thank you!
So great to read your comment - I hope it motivates you to make a change - Simon.
On an all day binge with Simon here. 🤗. And having so much fun watching and learning.
Simon, this was lovely, thank you.
Stephanie E. thanks - my pleasure 😊
New n fresh to this channel and I’m struggling. I’m to the point it’s effecting my mental and physical like you say. And I love fitness and art. We are human and trauma can come in and we constantly suppress. I went through narc abuse about a couple years ago. I started drinking a lot before that and then things happen. I think I need to write things down. Can’t wait to be a new person
Best stop drinking vids I’ve ever seen
I'm glad you found it helpful.
Thoughts on the nonalcoholic beverages please with 0.05%?
I get hungry and tired and bored and uninterested when I do things without beer that I usually do with beer. Does that go away too? It makes me so mad. I love to have a beer set there while I carve wood, do chores, groom the horses , ride, play the drums , shoot archery. I mean CMON!! Those arent boring things. It's so frustrating
You failed to mention your health! Alcohol has a negative effect on your entire body. Give it time; your activities will thank you. 👌🐎
The Ultra Running community is made up of 10% lifetime runners and 90% ex-alcoholics! I happen to be in the lifetime runner category but I love and appreciate the history and stories everyone has. Whatever works! 🏃🏻♂️🎉
Thanks Simon 😊
Hi Dickie, thanks for watching - Simon
Very helpful thank you.
Christine Grant thank you
If been having problems with drinking my husband drinks to the point we're he's getting smashed out of his head my son who his 12 years old started taking money out of my account my older son as been drinking for 3 hrs everyday I see him nearly every day last night I had a drink because I thought I just fancied one but I drink to help me trying to get to sleep due to restless less syndrome I did come of it for over year I think I was just stressed out what do you think love
So sorry to read what you are going through at a moment, Dawn. It does sound like an incredibly difficult situation. If you need to reach out for additional support, then head over to my Facebook support page. It's completely free and a safe space for you to talk with others - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
3 days in and this time I'm going to do it!
How are you doing? This will be your upcoming first weekend alcohol free! Reach out to my FB group at Be Sober Quit Drinking and Enjoy Life for support. My book Sober Survival Guide might be of help to you, as well.
What about withdrawals
Thank you. You are a true professional. ❤ And you saved my life 😓
i do feel different once o have bought a drink and i haven't even opend it
Definitely I know the feeling it's funked up knowing you can have it but it's there
Just by accident run into your Channel, not a big drinker / have drink twice a week/ but wasted my time with Hang overs and never reach my Goals. One thing for sure Alcohol is a Poison for our Bodies, all we looking for quick fix that become Bad Bad Habit hard to over come. Craving is the Devil to Deal with. Liked when you mention not to drink for 7 Days, avoid areas that remains your Craving, have a Plan....great tools, thank you
You're helping me a lot! I'm having huges cravings in 7-10 days. How many days i'll have to deal with it until it gets better and softer? Fir the first time i'm compromised with quiting and making strategies and following everything u say
A lot of depression, anxiety, cant deal with it for so much time.
I sure love many pints but need to quit ! Thanks
I am trying Again!!!!, this is my 3rd day,its usually the 3rd, or 4th day where I fall down again. I am constantly thinking about drink; all the images of alcohol gives me a craving and the idea to just have 'a' drink. Buts I know its always the same ,if I have one then I will not stop. I think my immune system is weak, as I'm contantly getting chest problems, and feeltired all the time. I'm goint to watch at least one you tube video about alcohol every day to motivate myself.
52 days sober today. I feel good. Im bored. I jeep feeling i have nothing to reward myself with. Nothing excites me like alcohol did. Even as a kid i didnt like things and was bored alot.
Thank you Mr Chapple. I have subscribed and look forward to more videos.
Every time I wanted to quit I would still drink one beer,seltzer or hard kombucha a hard after work….I was a sad person
I hope the video is helpful for you.
I love your vids Simon. Thank you for your help. Keep up the good work!
2 weeks still sleepyhead and no energy but I drank daily for over30 years but sleeping much better I use to wake up at night and drink because of boredom. But every thing gets old after time I must say I miss the high but I was so hung over especially after I got int my 70s I also have less inflammation in my hips and general body I thought drinking was an anti inflammatory drug but it's not in excess and I drank about 10 ounces a day
Biggest mistake is not going to a medical professional for treatment. The goto treatment for moderate to severe AUD is naltrexone and following the doctor's guidance. I got the scrip, lost the cravings for beer almost immediately. Once the cravings are gone, abstinence is easy. Recognize what your triggers are and you're home free.
First time since I had Covid in 2020 I'm not drinking a few glasses of wine tonight. I want to know what it feels like to wake up without a bottle of wine hangover.
Also I'm a month into a zero carbs diet so 19g of carbs in a bottle of wine is unacceptable.
So grateful for your advice
We should quit drinking because you could get a liver problem like my uncle has
Yes, there are unfortunately many unseen problems that alcohol causes. It's one of the key reasons for starting www.besober.co.uk
I get to day 3-4 and then i just cant do i anymore!!
because i got no friends or family to help me…..
My partner is an alcoholic. I met him only 6 months ago and did not know that he has a problem. He doesnt want to admit it. I have never came accross with someone who has a problem like this. What would you suggest for me to do. I really would liem to help him but dont know how. Can you help me in order for me to help him. I was very nasty to him lately but that is not the right approach. I am not sure if I can do something to help him. Many ppl telling me to keep myself away. Thank you for your advice/help in advance
You can’t fix him. He will have to admit to himself that he is an alcoholic. If he’s not ready to admit this and take steps to recover there is absolutely nothing you can do. I am a recovering alcoholic myself. There is a hard road ahead for you if you persist in this relationship. I suggest moving on, it won’t be healthy for you
It sounds like the people around you are concerned. Alcoholism is a dis-ease. He could and probably is a wonderful person with a lot of potentials. The problem is he is not well. .......it is very unlikely you can change him yet it is likely his problem will get worse. Unfortunately, the drug alcohol robs a person of their personality and hurts the people around them. It is a sad situation and only he could decide to stop and i think you will find that decision will not come easy. Hope this helps. It is from experience.
What about Al-Anon, a programme for those affected by someone else 'sAlcoholism. This could be , parents, siblings, parteners etc. God bless. 🙆🌻🙇
Leave. If he has any ability to change and if he values your relationship more than booze he may change but I doubt it. If he appears to change do not move back into a relationship with him until he’s had a year sober. I speak from experiences. My first husband (2 kids together) chose booze over us. Best move I ever made was to stay strong and stay away. My present husband has just quit drinking - on his own after 20 years together. I couldn’t help him see the light sooner . I should have known that I couldn’t make him see how terrible his drinking was. If I had known at 6 months into this that it was going to take 20 years I would have left. He’s a great guy, intelligent, funny etc and I love him dearly but the past 20 years has been full (many times a week) of his drinking being a focus. I’ve watched his health deteriorate due to it and watched him get more and more overweight and sedentary. He quit on his own because he became alarmed at how unwell he was now feeling. He’s now in his mid sixties. I hope that this is a new beginning. It has been 3 weeks since he drank and he’s excited about how well he feels. So, to recap - at 6 months in (for you). - leave. His will impact your life even if you are not a drinker (I don’t drink much at all...maybe 2 drinks a month).. even if he is great in all other ways. At 6 months you’re still seeing his best side.
Alanon. Only your partner can help himself. You have to help yourself.
Serious question: how did you only drink 25 hours a week if you were throwing back three bottles of wine at a minimum daily?
Day 1 after drinking 2 5ths of jack danels on my fathers bday he passed in 2019 my wife left with my 3 girls rightfully so im done. Im a mess but im not giving up for me or my family
Dear Mr. Chapple, that comment was not meant for you, but rather a reply to someone called E. Keck. I certainly meant no respect to you at all. Any person who can guide an addicted person to recovery is certainly on my team. As far as labels? I am a woman, a mother, a daughter, a friend and a n alcoholic. I am also a diabetic, which is no more shameful to me than being an alcoholic. I didn't choose to be an alcoholic, but I'm stuck with it nonetheless. But to each his/her own. A rose by any other name....thank you for your reply. I wish all the people who listen to you gain what you have.
Hi Margo - my apologies for assuming the comment was for me. If using the label alcoholic works for you then all power to you. Personally, I find it laced with stigma and if I don't drink I am no longer an alcoholic, I enjoy a positive outlook and this label would drag me down. However, it works for some and that is the most important thing. All the very best on your journey. Simon
Dear Mr Chapple, I read your reply, and of course I understand. As I said earlier, anyone who helps people get sober is on my side. And I respect those who reach out to others. My son is now sober for 4 and a half years without aa. It works for him just fine. Labels? To each his own. I find it reminds me of my lifelong condition and keeps me alert, but even Bill W referred to himself as a recovered alcoholic, which is generally not in use in aa today. Thank you for responding to me. Thank you for the work you do that helps so many. Warmly, Margo
Mr simon im on the third day again not drinking and my heartbeat is fast anxiety is high and the urge came from nowhere not sure i need a drink to taper down
Wow great video 💔♥️👍
Thank you very much!
I have crippling anxiety when I don't drink wine. I just don't know how to do this.
Yes, the anxiety of removing it altogether can be so hard. Have you got a support group around you that can help you with your anxiety?
@@besober I have a very complex situation. I had been in therapy for two years but I've reached a dead-end here and the anxiety is off the charts. I never get drunk but the wine is the only thing that quells the anxiety. I had been put on clonidine and other meds about 10 years ago - those meds pretty much destroyed my life.
See a doctor ASAP. There are plenty of medications for anxiety and depression that work, like Lexapro.
@@codyjames9376 I started Prozac but I just want to stop drinking right now.
It helps and then brings it back 20fold:(
excellent advice
Im only 2 days sober ive cut down to airplane shorts no more than 4i drink wiskey its hurting me even with less drinking i have colitis and ive been trying to quit made it 30 days and relapsed because my stomach hurt and ive been dilling with stuff with my girlfriend she moved in with her friend that's 71 dieing of cancer beings alone has been hard on me i didn't start drinking till I got colitis me and my girlfriend were drinking at night to sleep ive cut way down but haven't been able to quit even only a little drinking i know what you mean i get a few days week month and start again my girlfriend quit drinking too try to help me but she was hiding drinking at first i work nights sometimes I can't get wiskey i don't drink anything else but I need to stop there is 5 liquor stores within 5 miles of me and can taste it when I go by even taking vivatrol to try to help even thinking about going back to rehab but I'm not sure if i do i will relapse there i don't go to bar can't really make friends because everyone I know drink im even worried my girlfriend will start drinking again she is how I relapsed few months ago when I got sober im just not sure what to do
What about dt’s. I have anxiety. How relevant is my fear of dt’s? I think that fear is holding me back.
Some of us do need medical help...of course, the dt's (delirium tremors) would be determined by how much alcohol a person has been drinking. If you find yourself very shaky, unable to keep anything down, even possibly seeing things,,,,,,, head to a doctor for medical help to come off the alcohol. Not everyone can just abruptly stop safely. That being said fear is of no help at all. That's why we need to seek support and answers. If you fear doctors ask about weaning off. Best to you!!!
I've been thru some of the most extreme DTs you can go through. If you would like, I'd be more than happy to help you any way I can.
8months sober tomorrow!
Please reach out, I promise you as a community we can guide you thru it. Do it for the ones you love♥️
If u are so afraid of dts, I can only recommend seeking medical advice, or rehab. Dts depend on how long and how much you drank plus your age. I drank a bottle of vodka a night, or a gallon of wine when I hit bottom. I was terrified of stopping and in denial for years. Face your fears if you really want to stop. Hiding behind them only prolongs the misery and makes it harder to stop. Plus, your body becomes more addicted the longer you drink. I wish you the best of luck. Please seek medical advice.
Margo Christensen mmmmkm
Dr. G, Medical Examiner show had an episode on the death of a serious alcoholic. They showed an awesome animation of how alcohol withdrawal works and the dangers of quitting cold turkey. I've never forgotten Dr. G's description.
Imagine you're driving a car (your brain). As you're driving, you're pressing on the break at the same time (alcohol is a break on the brain). What happens when you suddenly release the breaks? (quitting cold turkey)? The car speeds up drastically. This is the danger - seizures that stop the breathing center in the brain, the person stops breathing, and dies.
Absolutely, quit drinking! But, do it safely.
Day 1
An amazing day! You have got this! If you need any additional support or resources, then please head over to besober.co.uk/2020/08/18/stop-drinking-books-by-simon-chapple-recommended-quit-alcohol-books/ Please keep me updated with your journey :)
@@besober thankyou for your support
Im 41 marrige White 3 children started drinking hevy last 3 years.
Becouse of mum and dad died same year 56 and 59 and som other stuff had a hard depresion.
Got so far that i Went in prison for 3month and in prison my wife left me
21 years West have been 😢
I Dont drink now but man its hard
Back to day one
Can a relationship last when only one stops drinking?
Very difficult
No
I’m going through that now.
Nope you both have to be on the same page. You get what you are
My boyfriends drinking has caused me not to want any. I am an alcoholic. Hadn’t had a drink in five years when we started our relationship. I didn’t realize how much he drank until I moved in with him. I would have a drink. And I could be fine with just that one. Guess cause I know how hard it is to get off of it. But he is now drinking a 1/2 Gallon of Whiskey every two days. He has quit his job of 10 years two months ago. Is not looking for another job. When I come home from working 10 hours he is already totally wasted. He says it’s not the drinking that is causing us to fight. He says he has anxiety so bad that drinking is the only thing that helps. He is on prescription Xanax for depression. I know, from experience, that people don’t quit drinking until they want to but I don’t think he is ever going to want to. Don’t know how to get him to see his problems are caused by his drinking. It bites. He is such a different person when he is sober. I just wish I could help him. How much does a person give or do before they don’t feel guilty about leaving? The last two months he has started calling me names and is so mad out of nowhere. The dog won’t even come near him when he’s drinking. I am ready to give up.
Day 1 for me I have to do this I cnt feel like this anymore its pathetic it really really js
Congratulations on Day 1! That's probably the biggest step we take in our sober journey. Have you thought about joining a sober community? There are several on FB, which will be of help to you in feeling supported. I hope you will consider joining my group, Be Sober - Quit Drinking and Enjoy Life. You will find like-minded people there. It's a safe space, and completely private. I hope to see you there.
I feel like if I could get a full week under my belt...then I can completely do this ...I absolutely will not drink today .. although I do have a bottle in the house.....if I cave .and it's happened before.ha .I'm cutting back HARD this week. .next week is hell week...NO ALCHAHOL in the house...none coming....This is my beginning....I'm going to take the bottle to the deep end and stand on it ..wish me luck....9 hrs sober...today im going to go to the end of the day...... midnight...I will not drink today.....I'm learning this process on my own .got nobody else
. I need my son back..he's approaching adulthood and he's looking at me in a bad way and stopped coming...it's my fault..I need to mend this .
Edit. ..I gave up smoking 2 weeks ago..I suspect this is confounding my liquor cravings .
I start craving only on days 7 to 10
Any advice for alcoholics to change their shitty personalities AFTER They quit drinking? All the alcoholics I know are just as mean, useless, hateful, and miserable as they were when they were drinking. I have NO patience for addicts anymore.
Maybe you should be more understanding or by any chance take a look inward
@@Zikato no, looking inward I see I no longer allow toxic, abusive addicts in my life,
I found the more time I got under my belt the less I wanted to drink.
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We'll look into that. Thanks.
How do I join your program?
Anybody using Naltrexone?
What happened to the 28;day rule
Your doing good work bro