I would say the person has to be ready spiritually and emotionally and being confident that they have totally healed from past hurt experiences or toxic relationships, second has the person dated themselves first to know exactly who they are in Christ and work on the areas that they need to to be the one they are looking for, thirdly in my personal opinion been aware and conscious of the relationship leading to marriage.. I feel like most people want to date to have companionship but mostly fun and my heart and time it's too precious to potentially risk my sanity, love, care and selfless for someone who is not ready to take this journey to the altar and build a life together. Finally this in my opinion goes for both genders: stability in the sense having a job and a place to live, been smart with finances and having a clear vision/ambitions for the future :)
I love it, esp the bit about hygiene! :D It's easy as a single to not prioritise that but it should be part of the prep (plus our bodies are temples, after all!), so I highly agree! :) Love your topics!!
Don't let go of This God centered ministry ... Let go and trust God in this season if yours . Don't let the dry place or wilderness make you quit . Stay strong 💪
To guys: Make sure you let the girl know what you want out of a relationship. If you want to date the girl, call it a date instead of hanging out. Be honest about what the relationship is and make sure to define it.
We as a finnish people are jealous about american dating culture. If you here imply too much to girls that you want a relationship they think you are desperate or disturbing. And I also agree that I don't like too "fast" girls in that way. Still it would be so much easier if it was casual to just invite some you like to get to know even almost random to a date (not netflix&chill). It also would be nice that if someone doesn't want to go on a date with you, they can say no and its fine.
I’m not desperate but I believe chilvary is not dead. The woman should not have to be the one calling all the shots. I’m a Christian and I believe that God is not a God of confusion so if you like someone tell them.
I don't know if I completely agree with this, not because you shouldn't try to heal, but because "completely" is impractical. I've been working on all that stuff for a very long time (years in therapy, with friends, mentors, adopted parents, and mostly God) and I still keep finding things. It would suck to think that I have to expect to remain single because nobody will want to put up with my baggage. I would say that, if you know you're working on yourself and someone decides they can't date you because of your past or "baggage", that's 1) kind of hurtful and 2) they aren't meant for you. I don't think it really means that you brought too much baggage though.
Since when is having good hygiene and appearance controversial? Most people are going to find it unattractive if you have poor hygiene and don’t put some effort into your appearance.
@Anny AmayaAyala Jesus wouldn't be put off by a person's appearance, there are unhygienic Christians, just as there are unhygienic non believers. They call it sunday best for a reason, church on Sunday isnt the most accurate pool to be setting a standard with. You may get more modesty in the way Christians dress on the day to day, but bad hygiene is across the board. And yes, the bible does teach us that its prideful, and often hypocritical to judge people by their appearance. And if they've gone so far as to be profane in their appearance, rise above it.
Yeah, an uncle of mine said, “Build your house first before building your relationship.” It may be handy for someone out there. Have faith! Don’t lose hope; stay confident!
Stephanie Anguiano haha thanks!!! Blessings from Florida! Aw May the Lord give you a double portion of blessings and confirmations on everything you asked for in prayer. remember to never give up! 💪🙏😆😊
This is actually super relevant to me. I just bought a house in September. I haven't moved in yet because I'm having it fixed up before I do. And even after I move in I need to make some additions. So thanks because this was a good reminder that I literally need to get my house in order first.😅
To all the guys: Supporting your local chivalry is a good way of being dateable because it shows that you’re caring person, don’t do it in a way to make her feel weak like she can’t do anything herself but as a gesture saying “ hey is there anything I can do to make life less difficult” it’s all about having a servants heart ya know
Michaela Huffman ayy I thought I was the only one who watched that vid, as I was watching this that part came to my head and I’m like ima drop it in the comment since it’s relevant
Holding a door open doesn’t mean a guy sees a girl as weak. Throw your hateful feministic incompetence out the window. How dare you fake support for godly character in guys this way.
Shanae B I didn’t mean it like that and I wasn’t talking about opening the door I meant other gestures that you wouldn’t do for another person to lighten their load
I think to be dateable, you need to be able to examine and know yourself; flaws, strong points, baggage and lessons from past relationships, etc. From that, you have a lot to pull from to figure out who you’re looking for and what qualities they have. The key point here goes along with what you said about raising the bar for yourself: If you think about that ideal person, then about yourself, would they see you as the kind of person they are attracted to? Be the person the person you are interested in attracting is looking for!
100%% yesss! I went to a retreat recently and the speaker was saying "dont be a walking problem!" not meaning you are a problem, but that you just want to share your problems with everyone, unload on everyone, etc. Its not ppls job to fix you nor is it fair for you to be so negative and debbie downer on them
1. Make sure you’re an appropriate age to start dating. 2. Evaluate your walk with the Lord. 3. Establish yourself as an independent person (move out!). 4. Become as selfless as possible. 5. Take care of yourself.
Haha, my husband was the baggy sweatpants guy and I fell in love with him :). It was actually soccer shorts and a backwards baseball cap, but that's because it was costa rica. And he fell in love with me when I wore t-shirts and hiking pants every day. I think it really depends on the person and what's a priority for them! Neither of us are into fashion by any means, but I'm sure if that was important to me, he would clean up a bit to get my attention... just my opinion! Great video!
Appreciate the honesty, Sarah :) You’re right, it does depend. Just something to be mindful of as a general rule, but there are def exceptions. Thanks for the comment! ❤️
Confidence in being alone first so when you’re with someone you don’t have unsettled self hatred and you don’t have to depend on someone for self worth (aka confident in your identity in the Lord!)
How can it be that every topic you guys post fits perfectly in my life!! I just had a talk with my mom about getting a boyfriend and it made me think: am i ready to be in a relationship right now? I think you guys are right about everything in this video. I have to work on some things, but it's all for the good! A prayer would be welcome 😄 I want to learn put God on #1 I really want to be a independed woman, pay my own bills. Again, thank you so much for uploading this video ♡♡ I thank the Lord for the internet so I can be encouraged through both of you. 🤗😗
I can’t wait for these college videos!!! I am really excited to learn how to navigate through college as a single Christian woman in a way that is glorifying to God!!
Pray, pray, pray... then Wait on God. However, be specific with God. Tell Him what you're looking for in a relationship. For example, someone who Loves God, a believer, a hard worker, one who loves their family (just to name a few qualities). Be sure you are ready by knowing what you're looking for in another. Don't ever compromise on the basic qualities. Those little compromises become big thorns later in the relationship. At the same time tho, be realistic in your expectations. Noone is perfect, including you. Just dont get in the mindset that you will "change" what you dont like about someone, it aint happening, OK ! Well, there is a tidbit for you. Remember, God wants us to be equally yoked, so keep that in your mindset. 😊 I hope thats helpful to someone.
I respect the encouragement, but I have to disagree on two of these. When you mention independence and living with your parents, I understand where you're coming from and what your main point is. But showing a potential partner how you're independent is much more displayed through other actions other than housing. Second, when you mention appearance.... and sweatpants.... it doesn't come off as laziness at all. What if that person is in the fitness industry? Or athleisure fashion industry? Or it's just out of comfort more than style? I don't think people would or should assume "taking care of one aspect means for all". However, I do agree with some of these commenters who mentioned chivalry. Kudos to y'all. Great vid.
My number one tip? Spend time with the Lord daily, reading the Bible, praying, in community with other believers. . And let your faith push you to serve others. Marriage must be centered around Jesus and serving one another ❤️ and thats the end goal of dating!
I love your videos. I’m 32 and I have not dated much it’s not that I haven’t wanted to but I notice red flags quick and that was something I’ve always asked God to help me see. The one thing I’ve recently learned is to make sure you are healed from past relationships.
I'm no where near ready to date right now. Been in 2 serious relationships, but both where I put the guy before God and was very insecure and thought I could never do better. Working on growing with God and growing myself personally so I can be someone I'm proud to be and confident! Loving the time to grow while single and look forward to when I'm ready to date😁
I've been available for a year& have been asked out on dates but only DUDS 😢 I have everything ready to go for a 21 year old so it's frustrating...But God is just saying it's not the right time for me. I'm also just upset nothing is happening because lots of my close friends just don't really ask me to hangout. I've asked them why & they say they're busy. Bit ya know what? I shouldn't complain so much. The Lord hears my prayers!
Hi, Paul and Morgan. I’m really struggling with the concept of whether or not it is good or biblical to date without the intention of marrying someone. Does every relationship in which you date and still have boundaries have to be for the intention of marrying someone? Can you just really like someone and want to get to know them better but know you won’t marry them? Can you date to learn what you like and don’t like and how to be in a different type of relationship with another person?
It's not wise to date with that intention because what's the point? You're giving apart of yourself emotionally to this person you're in a "relationship" with but yet there will be no romantic future. If you want to get to know them better it's better to just stay friends and have those boundaries that Paul and Morgan has talked about in past videos. I feel you should only date when you are ready to marry. But then again if God tells you something different then always listen to him first.
I'm trying to go back to school and get my license I'm already 20 and I feel so stuck! I feel far from God too. Sorry this is off topic, but prayer please 😕
Lord, please help sarah alyssa to be able to go back to school and to get her license. Also, please help her to draw closer to You in this time. Please let her know that Jesus loves her and that she is very valuable. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.💚✝️✡️
I love the practical advice! Things you can actually do! not just the regular 'waiting on the Lord' kind of advice that gets weary, sometimes! 😂 also tickled to see my name at the end 😊
I gotta say we might have a disagreement on the baggy sweat pants!!😂😂😂 It’s hard to find appropriate clothes and comfortable too!! I would agree with it’s not the best style 😂, but their so comfortable!!
I can definitely relate to the comment of putting ur partner on a higher pedestal than God. I did that over 3 relationships before I finally gave everything to God to let Him simply love me let alone work in my life instead of trying to make things happen on my own. In my current season of singleness I'm learning how to be in relationship with the Creator of relationships Himself. And as a side benefit, He's preparing me for the husband He has for me so that I will no longer look to a man as my god but instead continually looking to my Father God
Great video y’all!! I really enjoyed it😁 one thing I think is really important to have/know before going into a relationship is the correct perspective. This can go in many different ways, a while different video maybe, but one very important perspective to have while dating is, how can I serve and love this person through this relationship? A good dating relationship should be about the other person and not what you can ultimately get out of them.
Also they are both wearing sweatshirts in this video? Like maybe you should choose a different outfit to film in if you’re going to outright say people should dress up to be attractive.
Be sure that you evaluate and make necessary changes to your expectations. It could be your expectations of a relationship in general, of your preferred guy or girl, or even of yourself. Set expectations that maintain a balance between what is realistic, healthy, hopeful, and honoring for both people in the relationship.
I'm dreaming of getting married and living in a loving relationship one day, but I just can't imagine ever becoming a mother. I don't want to have children, I'm 25 already and always felt that way. What does good, christianity say about a married woman who doesn't want children? Can I still live a complete marriage without the aim of bearing children?
Firstly, don't worry what "good christianity" say about anything. Just seek what the bible has to say about things and pray about it. God does not call all women to be mothers. And that is perfectly ok. I am 36, have been married for 13 years and have never had or wanted children. God did not call me to that. My husband and I are and have been involved with many ministries throughout the years involving kids, teens and young adults and find that we fit into "the village" of "it takes a village to raise a child". It is just fine that you don't want children. You will need to be upfront with your potential spouse before when you are dating, however, to make sure he is also on board with that idea.
Wow guys that was so encouraging. And it gave me reass because sometimes I'm worried that what if in the future I meet my Husband in a state where I just don't want to be. I really want to present myself to my future Husband in a way we are both comfortable in and your video let me know that I can take all the time I need to improve myself because there is a lot I want to work on with myself. In taking care of myself in my talents and academics and emotions. Thank you both you guys are so smart I love you guys so much❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏👍👍
Idk I want a stay at home wife, so a lady still with her parents and not "independent" is ok. Kinda like the Duggars. Having good homemaking skills is crucial though. Biblically a woman would go from under her father's authority to her husbands.
Yeah, and biblically you shouldn’t wear mixed fabrics and slavery is acceptable. But society has moved forward and we know better. Women are not property and are not under anyone’s authority except their own. They aren’t owned by their father or partner. Please don’t treat them as such.
Guys you have to know what applies today and what doesn't. Most of the old testament mosaic law is gone with. I'm talking about roles in marriage, we can't go off our feelings in a topic but what scripture says.
To be honest, I’ve had a crush on and off on this guy who is the same age as me. (We are both minors).We were friends as children but slowly grew apart. We also used to be in the same class. Recently a few weeks ago we saw each other as this christian concert. We both lead worship at different places. I’ve been getting closer to God and I’ve been feeling stronger but I have so much more to grow in. Any advice? Also love your videos💜 God bless
Thumbs up. I found one point of disagreement. I don't see not living at your parent's house as a problem. It could be a way to save money. It could show you have a good heart if you are taking care of a family member who needs help.
I liked this video when Paul said, "Like we all have selfishness, God purge us, but there are some people who are really selfish." With a smile, (sigh) you guys both crack me up, on multiple occasions! God bless!
I know, especially with yourself! I really like what was said also because I know it applies to me too, I know I'm selfish a lot more often than I admit to myself and it causes many problem for me, I know this is a problem I need to allow God to fix in me and they say that the fist step to solving a problem is acknowledging that you have one in the first place so...
Hey Paul and Morgan!!! Love you're show so much!! I always hear Morgan talk about her singing and I was wondering if you would make a video!! Please 😊❤
Hello, i LOVED this video!! what would you consider a "solid" relationship with the Lord? like how would you know someone is having a solid relationship with God?
I really like the point yall made about if one is self-fish or not. It really helped me understand a prt of me that I wasnt aware of. Thanks Paul and Morgan!!
I was interested in both of your opinions on boundaries when it comes to dating. Is it okay to text or mingle with the opposite sex when you are being intentional and or dating? Or is it better to seek advice, prayer and just small talk with men if a man and women for women. I personally do not entertain any male text messages or go to men for prayer or anything on social media and entertain any playful behavior especially men I have had any type of interest with in the past. Please help.
These seems like wonderful tips for neuro-typicals (a.k.a people without some kind of disorder), but what about those on the autism spectrum? I could see many Asperger's people cringing at how wearing jeans might cause them to have rashes or maybe they wear their hair a certain way as a comfort blanket. If you need help with giving spectrum folks dating advice, I'd be more than willing to share my knowledge! From the other Christian Paul.
Is it bad to date somebody or marry a man who still lives at home with his mother if he 36 and 37 years old and his parents interfere and intervene into his business with his relationship?
I think another thing that you need to make sure is to not be insanly introverted. It is alright to be an introvert but to never/hardly ever talk to people is something else.
Focus. I think that i look in a guy someone who has a really Focus life and specially on God, when you know who you are and what you want you will go for it to the end
I'm a housewife so It wasn't important to my husband that I live independently or earn money (though I did at the time); I think the heart matters and being mature and responsible are more important than finances :)
Key words Paul and Morgan mentioned in the whole hygiene/sweatpants story is 'constantly'... Get yourself someone who can do both 😎 pezaz themselves up for the occassion but can also survived being seen in their hobo style 😁🥳😎
Also, moving out as a single adult is American culture. Not to be ethnocentric but there’s no right or wrong here. Other cultures stay home until marriage, even after adulthood.
Hey guys - not exactly right. We got married very young and were totally and utterly immature and not very attractive nor fastidious re the appearance bit. So please edit hurtful words in the intro? I know of mature Christians who longed to date and get married and who had to live with their really godly parents for years until they finally found the right partner. Other lovely people don't need to hear something like this. A little bit judgemental intro perhaps? On the whole - excellent content - much appreciated.
Asexual reproduction is a type of reproduction by which offspring arise from a single organism, and inherit the genes of that parent only; it does not involve the fusion of gametes, and almost never changes the number of chromosomes. Learn basic biology. Unless you are a oligochaete, turbellarian, worm, or plant, then you don't reproduce asexually.
C K yeah, that’s not what asexuality means. Maybe educate yourself first before demonstrating your misunderstanding. Asexuality is when a person feels no sexual attraction or desire towards other people. It’s got absolutely nothing to do with reproduction.
Hey P&M Fam! What did you think of the things we shared on becoming dateable? What’s something you would add? Comment Below!❤️
I am 15 have a job and am saving up for college and have all the other criteria to date that you mention in the video am I old enough to date?
I would say the person has to be ready spiritually and emotionally and being confident that they have totally healed from past hurt experiences or toxic relationships, second has the person dated themselves first to know exactly who they are in Christ and work on the areas that they need to to be the one they are looking for, thirdly in my personal opinion been aware and conscious of the relationship leading to marriage.. I feel like most people want to date to have companionship but mostly fun and my heart and time it's too precious to potentially risk my sanity, love, care and selfless for someone who is not ready to take this journey to the altar and build a life together.
Finally this in my opinion goes for both genders: stability in the sense having a job and a place to live, been smart with finances and having a clear vision/ambitions for the future :)
I think I fit all qualifications except the living in your own house, but I am graduating this year, and then going to college, so what about that?
I love it, esp the bit about hygiene! :D It's easy as a single to not prioritise that but it should be part of the prep (plus our bodies are temples, after all!), so I highly agree! :) Love your topics!!
Don't let go of This God centered ministry ... Let go and trust God in this season if yours . Don't let the dry place or wilderness make you quit . Stay strong 💪
To guys: Make sure you let the girl know what you want out of a relationship. If you want to date the girl, call it a date instead of hanging out. Be honest about what the relationship is and make sure to define it.
I like that advice😊
This generation fails so bad at that. “I dOn’T lAbEl It.” 😂🤣
Lack of labels calls for confusion and God is not the author of confusion.
We as a finnish people are jealous about american dating culture. If you here imply too much to girls that you want a relationship they think you are desperate or disturbing. And I also agree that I don't like too "fast" girls in that way. Still it would be so much easier if it was casual to just invite some you like to get to know even almost random to a date (not netflix&chill). It also would be nice that if someone doesn't want to go on a date with you, they can say no and its fine.
I’m not desperate but I believe chilvary is not dead. The woman should not have to be the one calling all the shots. I’m a Christian and I believe that God is not a God of confusion so if you like someone tell them.
Make sure that you're completely healed from past relationships so that you don't bring in all of that baggage into your new one.
debbie baldus 😊
I don't know if I completely agree with this, not because you shouldn't try to heal, but because "completely" is impractical. I've been working on all that stuff for a very long time (years in therapy, with friends, mentors, adopted parents, and mostly God) and I still keep finding things. It would suck to think that I have to expect to remain single because nobody will want to put up with my baggage. I would say that, if you know you're working on yourself and someone decides they can't date you because of your past or "baggage", that's 1) kind of hurtful and 2) they aren't meant for you. I don't think it really means that you brought too much baggage though.
DAT is a friggin good one
So good!
debbie baldus true
Since when is having good hygiene and appearance controversial? Most people are going to find it unattractive if you have poor hygiene and don’t put some effort into your appearance.
Carrie 😊😉
It's not controversial.
@Anny AmayaAyala Jesus wouldn't be put off by a person's appearance, there are unhygienic Christians, just as there are unhygienic non believers. They call it sunday best for a reason, church on Sunday isnt the most accurate pool to be setting a standard with. You may get more modesty in the way Christians dress on the day to day, but bad hygiene is across the board. And yes, the bible does teach us that its prideful, and often hypocritical to judge people by their appearance. And if they've gone so far as to be profane in their appearance, rise above it.
Yeah, an uncle of mine said,
“Build your house first before building your relationship.”
It may be handy for someone out there.
Have faith! Don’t lose hope; stay confident!
Hi! I like your channel you have great content. Blessings from Texas 😁
Stephanie Anguiano haha thanks!!!
Blessings from Florida!
Aw May the Lord give you a double portion of blessings and confirmations on everything you asked for in prayer.
remember to never give up! 💪🙏😆😊
Rockenster15 mmm interesting :) Thanks for sharing!
This is actually super relevant to me. I just bought a house in September. I haven't moved in yet because I'm having it fixed up before I do. And even after I move in I need to make some additions. So thanks because this was a good reminder that I literally need to get my house in order first.😅
Thank you for that, I found it helpful. Also be sure to keep the Biblical Sabbath.
To all the guys: Supporting your local chivalry is a good way of being dateable because it shows that you’re caring person, don’t do it in a way to make her feel weak like she can’t do anything herself but as a gesture saying “ hey is there anything I can do to make life less difficult” it’s all about having a servants heart ya know
Red Hawk wisdom right there😊👍
"Support you local chivalry" Is that a blimey cow reference or is that just a common phrase and I'm out of a loop?
Very good advise either way.
Michaela Huffman ayy I thought I was the only one who watched that vid, as I was watching this that part came to my head and I’m like ima drop it in the comment since it’s relevant
Holding a door open doesn’t mean a guy sees a girl as weak. Throw your hateful feministic incompetence out the window. How dare you fake support for godly character in guys this way.
Shanae B I didn’t mean it like that and I wasn’t talking about opening the door I meant other gestures that you wouldn’t do for another person to lighten their load
I think to be dateable, you need to be able to examine and know yourself; flaws, strong points, baggage and lessons from past relationships, etc. From that, you have a lot to pull from to figure out who you’re looking for and what qualities they have. The key point here goes along with what you said about raising the bar for yourself: If you think about that ideal person, then about yourself, would they see you as the kind of person they are attracted to? Be the person the person you are interested in attracting is looking for!
Great insight bro🙌
Possitivity. Nobody wants to be around a constant negative attitude. Plus, all that negativity can foster a very toxic environment
Michaela Huffman agreed!😊
100%% yesss! I went to a retreat recently and the speaker was saying "dont be a walking problem!" not meaning you are a problem, but that you just want to share your problems with everyone, unload on everyone, etc. Its not ppls job to fix you nor is it fair for you to be so negative and debbie downer on them
This. I struggle with this a lot, especially at work.
1. Make sure you’re an appropriate age to start dating.
2. Evaluate your walk with the Lord.
3. Establish yourself as an independent person (move out!).
4. Become as selfless as possible.
5. Take care of yourself.
Thank you soo much ! 😌🙇🏾♀️
😊👍
Haha, my husband was the baggy sweatpants guy and I fell in love with him :). It was actually soccer shorts and a backwards baseball cap, but that's because it was costa rica. And he fell in love with me when I wore t-shirts and hiking pants every day. I think it really depends on the person and what's a priority for them! Neither of us are into fashion by any means, but I'm sure if that was important to me, he would clean up a bit to get my attention... just my opinion! Great video!
Appreciate the honesty, Sarah :) You’re right, it does depend. Just something to be mindful of as a general rule, but there are def exceptions. Thanks for the comment! ❤️
@@PaulandMorgan hey, thanks for the reply! And you're right; you can't go wrong with being clean and put together :)
Confidence in being alone first so when you’re with someone you don’t have unsettled self hatred and you don’t have to depend on someone for self worth (aka confident in your identity in the Lord!)
Thanks for sharing :)
Paul and Morgan of course! Love you guys and praying for you two!
How can it be that every topic you guys post fits perfectly in my life!!
I just had a talk with my mom about getting a boyfriend and it made me think: am i ready to be in a relationship right now?
I think you guys are right about everything in this video. I have to work on some things, but it's all for the good! A prayer would be welcome 😄
I want to learn put God on #1
I really want to be a independed woman, pay my own bills.
Again, thank you so much for uploading this video ♡♡
I thank the Lord for the internet so I can be encouraged through both of you. 🤗😗
Anouk Loves Jesus awe really cool to hear that! Thanks for the encouraging comment❤️
I can’t wait for these college videos!!! I am really excited to learn how to navigate through college as a single Christian woman in a way that is glorifying to God!!
Awe glad to hear it!
I’m in college so I can’t wait for this Thursday! And this video is so good I needed to hear this to be honest. Thank you for this ☺️
Esther awe yay😊 we’re excited too!
Pray, pray, pray... then Wait on God. However, be specific with God. Tell Him what you're looking for in a relationship. For example, someone who Loves God, a believer, a hard worker, one who loves their family (just to name a few qualities). Be sure you are ready by knowing what you're looking for in another. Don't ever compromise on the basic qualities. Those little compromises become big thorns later in the relationship. At the same time tho, be realistic in your expectations. Noone is perfect, including you. Just dont get in the mindset that you will "change" what you dont like about someone, it aint happening, OK ! Well, there is a tidbit for you. Remember, God wants us to be equally yoked, so keep that in your mindset. 😊 I hope thats helpful to someone.
I respect the encouragement, but I have to disagree on two of these. When you mention independence and living with your parents, I understand where you're coming from and what your main point is. But showing a potential partner how you're independent is much more displayed through other actions other than housing. Second, when you mention appearance.... and sweatpants.... it doesn't come off as laziness at all. What if that person is in the fitness industry? Or athleisure fashion industry? Or it's just out of comfort more than style? I don't think people would or should assume "taking care of one aspect means for all". However, I do agree with some of these commenters who mentioned chivalry. Kudos to y'all. Great vid.
That's why they said there is exceptions for both.
You guys are great ❤️ you have helped me get into the best relationship with a man from church all your dating tips have helped me ❤️
Kelsey Villeneuve awe yayy so cool🙌🙏
My number one tip? Spend time with the Lord daily, reading the Bible, praying, in community with other believers. . And let your faith push you to serve others. Marriage must be centered around Jesus and serving one another ❤️ and thats the end goal of dating!
Amen, thanks for sharing!
You guys are so inspiring. I have hit rock bottom and it was very recent. I found y'all and y'all have filled my cup up to MAXX. Thanks so much!!
CODYSMITH awe sorry to hear that but praise God for His redemption and faithfulness. Stay in His word👊❤️
I love your videos. I’m 32 and I have not dated much it’s not that I haven’t wanted to but I notice red flags quick and that was something I’ve always asked God to help me see. The one thing I’ve recently learned is to make sure you are healed from past relationships.
Thanks for the comment :)
I'm no where near ready to date right now. Been in 2 serious relationships, but both where I put the guy before God and was very insecure and thought I could never do better. Working on growing with God and growing myself personally so I can be someone I'm proud to be and confident! Loving the time to grow while single and look forward to when I'm ready to date😁
It’s cool you have that clarity😊
Y'all guys have any tips on how to find friends that will keep you accountable for things that you do or decisions that you make?
Look for someone who is mature in the faith and then be clear and intentional about seeing if they will connect with you regularly :)
I've been available for a year& have been asked out on dates but only DUDS 😢 I have everything ready to go for a 21 year old so it's frustrating...But God is just saying it's not the right time for me. I'm also just upset nothing is happening because lots of my close friends just don't really ask me to hangout. I've asked them why & they say they're busy. Bit ya know what? I shouldn't complain so much. The Lord hears my prayers!
Hi, Paul and Morgan. I’m really struggling with the concept of whether or not it is good or biblical to date without the intention of marrying someone. Does every relationship in which you date and still have boundaries have to be for the intention of marrying someone? Can you just really like someone and want to get to know them better but know you won’t marry them? Can you date to learn what you like and don’t like and how to be in a different type of relationship with another person?
It's not wise to date with that intention because what's the point? You're giving apart of yourself emotionally to this person you're in a "relationship" with but yet there will be no romantic future. If you want to get to know them better it's better to just stay friends and have those boundaries that Paul and Morgan has talked about in past videos. I feel you should only date when you are ready to marry. But then again if God tells you something different then always listen to him first.
@@shellytaylor9471 That's the conclusion I came to as well. I just was a little confused because I was being encouraged to date.
I'm trying to go back to school and get my license I'm already 20 and I feel so stuck! I feel far from God too. Sorry this is off topic, but prayer please 😕
Lord, please help sarah alyssa to be able to go back to school and to get her license. Also, please help her to draw closer to You in this time. Please let her know that Jesus loves her and that she is very valuable. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.💚✝️✡️
I love the practical advice! Things you can actually do! not just the regular 'waiting on the Lord' kind of advice that gets weary, sometimes! 😂 also tickled to see my name at the end 😊
Awe glad to hear it! Thanks for your support, Anita❤️
"Its gonna end badly if the person you're dating takes the place of God in your life" ugh so true! I do this subconsciously, but not anymore no no
I gotta say we might have a disagreement on the baggy sweat pants!!😂😂😂
It’s hard to find appropriate clothes and comfortable too!!
I would agree with it’s not the best style 😂, but their so comfortable!!
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Also being physically fit is a good goal to shoot for. If you have your health, you owe it to yourself and her/him - workout!
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I seriously said to myself as I opened this video, well I'm 25 so of course I am. And then the very first clip...
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I can definitely relate to the comment of putting ur partner on a higher pedestal than God. I did that over 3 relationships before I finally gave everything to God to let Him simply love me let alone work in my life instead of trying to make things happen on my own. In my current season of singleness I'm learning how to be in relationship with the Creator of relationships Himself. And as a side benefit, He's preparing me for the husband He has for me so that I will no longer look to a man as my god but instead continually looking to my Father God
Great video y’all!! I really enjoyed it😁 one thing I think is really important to have/know before going into a relationship is the correct perspective. This can go in many different ways, a while different video maybe, but one very important perspective to have while dating is, how can I serve and love this person through this relationship? A good dating relationship should be about the other person and not what you can ultimately get out of them.
Appreciate the comment😊
@8.22 Where has morgan been for last few videos? so good having her back!
MX chick_27 taking a small break :) Glad she’s back too!
Please do not laugh or make fun of people wearing sweatpants all the time! It should be about the person's heart not about how they dress
Sweat pants are amazingggg
Also they are both wearing sweatshirts in this video? Like maybe you should choose a different outfit to film in if you’re going to outright say people should dress up to be attractive.
@@barkbb they're married so they can wear sweatshirts. Jk jk. I'm sure they didn't mean any offense. I think they prolly meant try to look presentable
I love your videos! you're so wise God bless you both :) and I love the college series I'm in college and it can be difficult for me at times
Stephanie Anguiano awe thank you❤️❤️
Be sure that you evaluate and make necessary changes to your expectations. It could be your expectations of a relationship in general, of your preferred guy or girl, or even of yourself. Set expectations that maintain a balance between what is realistic, healthy, hopeful, and honoring for both people in the relationship.
Thanks for sharing :)
I’m excited for the new series!!
Suzannah Johnson good!🙌
I'm dreaming of getting married and living in a loving relationship one day, but I just can't imagine ever becoming a mother. I don't want to have children, I'm 25 already and always felt that way. What does good, christianity say about a married woman who doesn't want children? Can I still live a complete marriage without the aim of bearing children?
Firstly, don't worry what "good christianity" say about anything. Just seek what the bible has to say about things and pray about it. God does not call all women to be mothers. And that is perfectly ok. I am 36, have been married for 13 years and have never had or wanted children. God did not call me to that. My husband and I are and have been involved with many ministries throughout the years involving kids, teens and young adults and find that we fit into "the village" of "it takes a village to raise a child". It is just fine that you don't want children. You will need to be upfront with your potential spouse before when you are dating, however, to make sure he is also on board with that idea.
Yayyyy I just started college this September 🥳
Awesome!
What college are you going to?
Thank you for being so inspirational ❤️❤️😍
Ellen Dawson awe welcome❤️
You need to be able to hold a conversation!💕
Haha yes :)
Wow guys that was so encouraging. And it gave me reass because sometimes I'm worried that what if in the future I meet my Husband in a state where I just don't want to be. I really want to present myself to my future Husband in a way we are both comfortable in and your video let me know that I can take all the time I need to improve myself because there is a lot I want to work on with myself. In taking care of myself in my talents and academics and emotions. Thank you both you guys are so smart I love you guys so much❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏👍👍
Thanks for watching :)
Thanks guys , your videos keep me encouraged about walking with the Lord throughout .. .😊😊
Awe praise God 😊❤️
Idk I want a stay at home wife, so a lady still with her parents and not "independent" is ok. Kinda like the Duggars. Having good homemaking skills is crucial though. Biblically a woman would go from under her father's authority to her husbands.
Thanks for the comment😊👍
Yeah, and biblically you shouldn’t wear mixed fabrics and slavery is acceptable. But society has moved forward and we know better. Women are not property and are not under anyone’s authority except their own. They aren’t owned by their father or partner. Please don’t treat them as such.
Guys you have to know what applies today and what doesn't. Most of the old testament mosaic law is gone with. I'm talking about roles in marriage, we can't go off our feelings in a topic but what scripture says.
It applies :). But of course we live in a fallen world and many are left without fathers let alone godly ones.
To be honest, I’ve had a crush on and off on this guy who is the same age as me. (We are both minors).We were friends as children but slowly grew apart. We also used to be in the same class. Recently a few weeks ago we saw each other as this christian concert. We both lead worship at different places. I’ve been getting closer to God and I’ve been feeling stronger but I have so much more to grow in. Any advice? Also love your videos💜 God bless
Be sure to keep the Sabbath sister. And be sure to pursue God first. Matthew 6:33
Thumbs up. I found one point of disagreement. I don't see not living at your parent's house as a problem. It could be a way to save money. It could show you have a good heart if you are taking care of a family member who needs help.
I liked this video when Paul said, "Like we all have selfishness, God purge us, but there are some people who are really selfish." With a smile, (sigh) you guys both crack me up, on multiple occasions! God bless!
Haha thank you :) Gotta be honest😁
I know, especially with yourself! I really like what was said also because I know it applies to me too, I know I'm selfish a lot more often than I admit to myself and it causes many problem for me, I know this is a problem I need to allow God to fix in me and they say that the fist step to solving a problem is acknowledging that you have one in the first place so...
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Naythed0ll 😊😊
I think I fit all qualifications except the living in your own house, but I am graduating this year, and then going to college, so what about that?
Hey Paul and Morgan!!! Love you're show so much!! I always hear Morgan talk about her singing and I was wondering if you would make a video!! Please 😊❤
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Hello, i LOVED this video!! what would you consider a "solid" relationship with the Lord? like how would you know someone is having a solid relationship with God?
I really like the point yall made about if one is self-fish or not. It really helped me understand a prt of me that I wasnt aware of.
Thanks Paul and Morgan!!
Awe good😊
Great video! I honestly cannot think of something you missed...I think you have covered everything! Love both of you 😄
Awe thanks!🙌
So excited for the college series!! I love your videos but it will be even more intriguing knowing that they are tailored to people like me!
Yes!
I discovered your videos recently and I really appreciate the messages you share and how encouraging you are ❤️
Awe I’m glad :)
I was interested in both of your opinions on boundaries when it comes to dating. Is it okay to text or mingle with the opposite sex when you are being intentional and or dating? Or is it better to seek advice, prayer and just small talk with men if a man and women for women. I personally do not entertain any male text messages or go to men for prayer or anything on social media and entertain any playful behavior especially men I have had any type of interest with in the past. Please help.
Love you guys!!!
Daní Jean 😊❤️
Good Video, and along the same line what would you say to some one that is at dating age and ready to date but has fairly serious health problems.
These seems like wonderful tips for neuro-typicals (a.k.a people without some kind of disorder), but what about those on the autism spectrum? I could see many Asperger's people cringing at how wearing jeans might cause them to have rashes or maybe they wear their hair a certain way as a comfort blanket.
If you need help with giving spectrum folks dating advice, I'd be more than willing to share my knowledge!
From the other Christian Paul.
Nice job guys! May god bless you!
Layton Tapley thank you❤️
Am I selfish vs am I independent...woof
I can’t wait for Thursday... Morgan I feel like is about to answer the zillion questions I asked you on IG sometime last month ...
Haha I hope she does😊
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Naemi H 😊❤️
Oooh excited for Thursdays now
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Is it bad to date somebody or marry a man who still lives at home with his mother if he 36 and 37 years old and his parents interfere and intervene into his business with his relationship?
God bless you two
This was very helpful!!!! Thank you so much!! You guys are great!!
Marick awe good!❤️
@@PaulandMorgan Love from Zambia, Africa!!❤️
yay new upload woo
jemima 😄🙌
Having a good attitude and being polite!
Yes!
What! Sweatpants/trackpants were so fashionable in 2020!
I think another thing that you need to make sure is to not be insanly introverted. It is alright to be an introvert but to never/hardly ever talk to people is something else.
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Ah man, love you guys! Always telling it like it is - thank you for your sincerity and honesty. P.S - Morgan, you look GORGEOUS!
Awe thank you😊❤️
What about If I’m 14??? What about 15??? 16???
Focus. I think that i look in a guy someone who has a really Focus life and specially on God, when you know who you are and what you want you will go for it to the end
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I'm a housewife so It wasn't important to my husband that I live independently or earn money (though I did at the time); I think the heart matters and being mature and responsible are more important than finances :)
Quick question; Do you really think moving out on your own is biblical?
Key words Paul and Morgan mentioned in the whole hygiene/sweatpants story is 'constantly'...
Get yourself someone who can do both 😎 pezaz themselves up for the occassion but can also survived being seen in their hobo style 😁🥳😎
😊 Thanks for the comment
I'd love to see something aimed toward teenagers in future! Keep up the good work.
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Another awesome and encouraging video... love y'all
Daniel Barker thank you!❤️
Zesty
Jacqi Farrar haha😊
Also, moving out as a single adult is American culture. Not to be ethnocentric but there’s no right or wrong here. Other cultures stay home until marriage, even after adulthood.
I love your videos !
Going to college next year so I'm excited for Thursday's video x
Awesome!🙌
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Omg thank u for the series
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Based on this info they gave I am ready to date but my parents say I'm still to immature.
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Great advice as usual!!
LA Revival thank you😊❤️
Lol me a teen, highschooler who isn't planning to date soon...I am learning for my future 💯
Hey guys - not exactly right. We got married very young and were totally and utterly immature and not very attractive nor fastidious re the appearance bit. So please edit hurtful words in the intro? I know of mature Christians who longed to date and get married and who had to live with their really godly parents for years until they finally found the right partner. Other lovely people don't need to hear something like this. A little bit judgemental intro perhaps? On the whole - excellent content - much appreciated.
Good advice guys 👍🏻
Great advice
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So good y'all!!
Thanks for watching, Cade! Excited about Saturday morn😊
What is on Paul's shirt?? It's bugging me lol
My guess: some animal (cow?) with it's mouth open coming out of a couple leaves...
Except it has stripes, so maybe a tiger..? Lol
Can’t wait for the series
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22 and ready to start dating!
Great advice! Much love ❤️❤️
Thank you, Tonia😊❤️
Yeah these are great!!
😊thanks!
I agree with the moving out! I think both guys and girls can learn and mature a lot when they're on their own apart from their parents. Great video!
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I personally dont date never had any interest in dating iam asexual and aromatic dont want to date or marry
As a non-asexual person, I always find asexuality to be really interesting. Live your best life!
@@Goat.Cheese most dont beliebe in asexuality we are only 1%
Asexual reproduction is a type of reproduction by which offspring arise from a single organism, and inherit the genes of that parent only; it does not involve the fusion of gametes, and almost never changes the number of chromosomes. Learn basic biology. Unless you are a oligochaete, turbellarian, worm, or plant, then you don't reproduce asexually.
@@carter5007 are you talking about plants
C K yeah, that’s not what asexuality means. Maybe educate yourself first before demonstrating your misunderstanding. Asexuality is when a person feels no sexual attraction or desire towards other people. It’s got absolutely nothing to do with reproduction.
love the video i'm nathan i'm christian
Thank you!😊
Your welcome