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DO’S And DON’TS Of A First Date!
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2019
- ‘Do’s And Don’ts Of A First Date!’
We get it, first date’s can be intimidating. Especially if you’re fresh to the dating scene. Where are we going to go? Do I offer to pay? What do I say? How much do I open up? What if I say something dumb? RELAX. We’re here to help. We want your first date to be a success :)
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Looove this!! Morgan.Keep.That.Smile! 😁😁
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this was a very very very not good But Excellent video.👍👍👍👍 never been on a date but now i know what to do. Man you guys are number 1. UA-cam would be boring with you guys😇😂
Brill video lovely couple.. advice plz though.. first date with a Christian guy yesterday he texted today saying I found no spark.. what could I do or say to change his mind we got on great I thought.. I live far tho 😭😭
I'm an atheist and disagree with you guys on a lot of issues but I just wanted to express support and sympathy because it's very easy to see that you guys are good people and yet you seem to get so much hate, some of which borders on _slander_ in my opinion. You guys have a right to believe what you do since you guys aren't really hurting anyone! Keep pursuing your UA-cam dreams and trying to help others
I Do What I Want awe really appreciate the comment. Thanks for watching, God bless
Thats so nice of you man. : )
Wow, I rarely come across a comment on a Christian channel from an atheist this kind. Not saying there isn’t any nice ones out there, just not common. Take care.
I think it's a common misconception that atheists are not pleasant people. Most of my friends are atheists and they are lovely and non-judgemental. It's the super self-righteous, vocal, judgemental ones that give them a bad name, and they often shout the loudest.
Great comment.
One thing that I love for a guy to do on the first date is to open the car door for me! I love when a guy is chivalrous and opens up doors for girls. I think it’s just a simple way to show respect and courtesy!
me too 🥰
Also if you dont want the pressure of having constant conversation and just staring across the table at eachother lol..esp if you dont know eachother well...then instead of eating out, do something side by side that's an activity: hiking, a church event, bowling, skating, going to a museum or festival ☺ ease in with questions..but dont be afraid to tackle important issues. Above all, just be yourself, who God made you; the right person will love that and be so comfortable with you that you dont even have to talk allll the time and always fill up empty space with conversation.
Also- I love Panera!😂
my strength my song thanks for the comment :)
From a Male perspective, I agree with this 100%! I believe that you can't really know each other until that friendship is developed & on a solid foundation. Do something fun instead of something too personal or too "close". (If that makes any sense. Lol)
Great video you guys! I wish we had these tips when we first started dating! I (Nate) needed a little help on the asking questions part!
Nate and Sutton hey! Lol we all start out a bit rusty😁 I (Paul) wore a gold lion chain to one of my first dates😂
Paul and Morgan 🤣🤣
I had a date show up an hour late for our first date. True story. She did text explaining why she was late, but still. I felt really awkward waiting inside the cafe for her and had a slight moment of concern about how things were starting out, especially since we met online and this was my first real intentional dating experience.
Didn't go too bad though....six months later I proposed and we're now three weeks shy of celebrating one year together since that first date.
I hope you two have a very blessed and beautiful marriage!
🎉🎉🎉
Even the second date dont be physical and don't have a date hanging out at your apartment or a place that allows y'all to be closer and physical. Totally agree with P and M. I've had 2 second dates where we hung out in private and it led to a first kiss or cuddling before we even really knew eachother and then it didn't work out and was much harder to break it off because we'd made it so much more serious with the physical stuff. Emotions are always tied with those physical steps so don't lie to yourself. Save those physical steps for someone who is serious, not to make them serious.
Thank you for sharing!❤️
I wouldn't have a second date at my apartment religious or not. I wouldn't want a stranger in my home no matter how likeable he is. I need to know this guy at least for two months before that happens.
My first date sucked! I told the guy beforehand about some of my boundaries, and he said he understood and would respect them. We went out for sandwhiches and had some pretty good conversation and i thought he had potential. At the end of it he dropped me off at home and and asked to kiss me, and i told him again, about my boundaries. This dude literally threw himself at me and stole my first kiss and ruined my first date😭I gave up on actively looking for someone for a while because of that. I was so mad at him and disgusted with myself. It took alot of praying for me to move on from that. After that I set my standards really high. Still waiting for a good first date🤷and I totally slapped. That made me feel better too😂
Why would you be disgusted with yourself?
Christian online dating is the way to go, sis
Guys, I can confirm that physical touch is extremely powerful and can be incredibly damaging. I had no idea until it happened to me. The guy wasn't looking out for my heart and everything was happening so quickly that I didn't know what to do (I was 17). Although they seemed like simple touches, they made a huge impact on my heart and heavily influenced the next few months of my life (they were not good ones 😔) Thank you so much Paul and Morgan for this video and informing people about these things!
i just came to support since i see alot of atheist and LGBT trying to always bring you guys down. i pray for the Favor of God in your lifes. keep doing your awesome videos and keep being on the path of God. Amen.
Maybe they should stop bashing groups of people, then they wouldn't get backlash. Idk that's just an option too.
@@gone5815 they dont bash. they only profess their faith. and in Christianity, we have righteousness and sin. and Christians are suppose to help everyone/eachother to stay on the right path.
The Honest Truth I really appreciate the love and encouragement❤️ God bless!
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Yes that's true but however get this and try to understand very carefully, God gave everyone free will. Okay. If they don't want to get bashed then they should not cause it or else they will continue to get bashed. That's all i'm saying.
@@gone5815 Watching my Philosophy professor debate with Christian in class was fascinating. He told her if God created free will, he does not believe, he would be cursing God for eternity in hell!! I know some amazing Christians and they are NOT telling other people how to live their lives. They truly act like the Jesus they talk about! So yup some people m are going to defend themselves against the hate these two are dishing.
When I am ready for my next first date, I can’t wait to come back to this video!
Miranda haha awesome!❤️
I think you should both make your boundaries clear on the first date. Never assume that you don’t have to, unless you already know each other’s, because you don’t know if they have different boundaries. If theirs are different, they may accidentally overstep yours or you may accidentally overstep theirs.
Carrie thanks for sharing😊
I've only been on one first date (and I hope it was my last!), but from my limited experience I would add...
Do: Talk about boundaries as soon as possible. It takes the pressure off of both sides to know what is and is not okay to do with you, even though it is just a first date.
Don't: Pull out and go down a list of deep, marriage-related questions when you don't even know if this is going to become serious yet or not. I did that to my boyfriend on our first few dates, and looking back I honestly can't believe he decided to stick with me after that. XD Granted, we had been good friends for over a year by the time we started dating, but I still wish I would've taken the time to get to know him better on a basic level before we dove in deep and risked awakening love before its time.
I love this advice, and thank you so much for sharing! 🙂
I've actually never "formally" been/asked a girl on a date before. It's always been meeting them wherever I did, getting to know them through asking questions, hanging out with them, be it a mall or their house/etc. then as our chemistry seemed to match, I'd ask them to be my girlfriend if I felt she had the same feelings for me. Granted, this was all before I came to Christ, and my last girlfriend was over four years ago, so I'm not sure how I'd approach it today 😂 That's why I'm grateful you make so many videos on this to help give me ideas :)
Mikey Silbert thanks for the comment :)
I think you should continue to do this approach because to me it sounds really good. I've been in relationships in the past in an godly way, which didn't work out well. They never did anything like this just moved it in to fast. After, living out my godly life just recently there was a guy who I barely knew that found interest in me. He got to know me first, then confessed interest to me. I thought it was okay to be open to the idea, but it was too fast. And his feelings for me were too strong like he told me that he loved to me in like two weeks. I knew that was a sign obsession, so I had leave him. It reminded me what you did, which I liked it just need to not allow feelings to go ahead of you because that's not healthy. The approach you did in the past is really good in my perspective, since you get to know each other as friend and if feelings do develop God would lead you guys together. 🙂
Don’t top the other person!!:)
For instance you stub your toe and then they go,”I remember I broke my arm and it was worse then this!!”😂😂
That's a really good one! I kind of do something similar, where if someone shares a story of hardship, I'll try to think of a relatable event in my life that I went through to try to help them not feel alone in their hardship, even if they may not feel that way in general. Great tip! 👍😁
Mikey Silbert I think there is a difference between sympathizing and trying to top them!!:)
It can be hard to find the line where your showing you understand there pain, without making seem like your bragging you had it worse!!:)
Thanks for the comment!!:)
@@KAyLA_K Good point! That's where my heart is when I share a related story to someone going through a hardship. To empathise with them, so I guess I shouldn't worry about coming off like how I would if I tried 1-uping someone's story :) Again, great tip! I know I've met my fair share of people who 1-up lol
KAylA K haha that wise advice 😊
Mikey Silbert Thanks Mikey!!:)
That’s awesome!!:)
As long as you know your hearts in the right place, don’t worry about it!!:)
I'm with Paul on this one... If a guy asks me to Chipotle, Chick-fil-a, or even Panera Bread, I'm more likely to say yes to a first date.
Just became a patron a couple days ago. Thought I did a while ago. You guys are awesome!
Awe thanks for becoming a Patron, Sarah!❤️ Haha exactly, all three of those places are good for first dates!
I could recommend to not talk about your common future on the first date. That happened to me one time where the guy was planning where I should or shouldn't study so that I'm not too far away from him, and we only knew each other for a few hours. That was strange and way too fast.
Oh wow, yeah that’s pretty heavy!
Yeah that should be common sense, you can't talk about a future with someone you don't have any history with. And also too much self disclosure is a no-no and not just for the sake of scaring away a guy but most importantly to protecting yourself. If you don't do it for the sake of scaring him away do it for the sake of you. :)
Don't continue a date with someone that you are not interested in because you are trying to be nice! I had a date with a guy and I went out for coffee with him and then he said, let's go to a movie and I won't take no for a answer. It was honestly, one of the worst dates that I had been on and on top of that I chose to see The new poo bear movie that came out, because I didn't know how to tell him that I wasn't interested. Be honest! I'm not doing that again! Poor guy!😂P,S the movie was so bad!😂
Eliza Blair awh no!
Haha thanks for sharing. Good advice😊
@@PaulandMorgan Your welcome, I enjoy going on a date with someone that I'm interested in!😂
I had a great friend back in primary school and going to high school, we kept in touch. We're in our final high school year and twice we've caught up with coffee and a meal and he has been super sweet to offer to pay for the times we've spent time together. Sometimes you just have to let the man be the man. He appreciates it and enjoys taking that lead, even though I am independent and I could've paid as well. He knows that and he appreciates me stepping back for a bit :)
Thank you so much for making these videos! Even though I’m not dating right now these will definitely help for later on in life☺️.
Lexi Witherspoon awe good! Welcome❤️
MY EXPERIENCE:
Sokka: My girlfriend turned into the moon.
Zuko: That's rough buddy.
I'm actually going on a date tomorrow haha so thank you!
HAN.CA woop woop go crush it!❤️
Praying that it will be a good one and for the Holy Spirit to be with you :)
@@Bea94Spacca thank you! It was incredible!
HAN.CA aww that’s nice to hear :)
As a Canadian, I would be so happy for my guy to take me out to Panera!!! The closest one is a 45 minute drive away but its soooooo good!
Allison Lucas haha right!😄
Yeah I'm paying for the first date. Really tells a lot about the guy and the girl. Can't be with a girl that doesn't let me be a guy in a traditional sense.
Hi Paul & Morgan! I have a question that’s been on my heart. My past is the same as Morgan’s in the context of relationships and sin - now I am completely free and even the pastor in church stopped the service to tell me God was saying I was pure now (he didn’t know about anything by the way), but the guy I’m interested in obviously wants to marry a virgin. We’ve talked about it and he said it’s something he can deal with but it really hurts him knowing if we did marry, he’d never get that experience. Would you and Paul have any advice for him? Besides forgiveness, I think he’s struggling with the physical aspect, and how it wouldn’t be my first time experiencing that (in truth I can’t even really remember anything that happened though.) I know this is an intimate question and apologize for that, but I feel a lot of people are struggling with the concept of the other person experiencing it before them. Also sorry if that’s really badly explained! You guys are such inspirations to me and everytime I watch I feel closer to my Jesus 💛 thank you endlessly!
If he is the right guy for you he will forgive you and love you for your past and presence.
You're really pretty btw!
Katelynn Markle thanks for the advice!
Awesomeness thank you that’s so kind!! 🥺
I'm a Christian guy and I, at one point, struggled with that concept as well. I couldn't stand the thought of the girl I liked being with someone else and it honestly made me feel insecure about many things and made me doubt if our connection was as special to her as it was to me. However, I was talking to my sister about it, and she said that Jesus can redeem anything. That completely changed my entire view. Jesus doesn't say "Hey I'll redeem your life" but then add an asterisk when it comes to sexual sin and say "Uh except for that ... you going to have to handle that on your own." Regardless, I think it's a matter of personal conviction, but my mind was changed which doesn't mean his can't either.
But wait!! What if your on the first date. You get the notification that a new Paul and Morgan video just was posted. Nothing to do but say we're going to have to cut this short. I got to go!😄😄😅😅
Roger Carrico Little did you know they where subscribed to Paul and Morgan to and if you had asked the tough questions(Are you subscribed to P&M?), you could have watched it together.😂😂😂
@@KAyLA_KLove it! Now that would be the beginning of something beautiful! 😍
Roger Carrico Haha Yes!!😂
Don’t be afraid to compliment! I felt a little sad that I dolled myself up and didn’t get one comment on one of my first dates. Like, I know I didn’t need his validation or anything, but I have no problem in saying someone is looking good.
YAY! It's a shock to be the first patron to be called out! Glad to be supporting. :D On my very first EVER date, I tried to not make it a huge deal. Just going out for a meal and talking. But once we got there and ate, it was really awkward, and the time went by a lot faster than planned. It would have been better if I had planned something fun (but not too expensive) before the meal to make things less awkward and fill more time. So, my 1st date advice would be to not just plan for a meal. :D
Zogly i thought it was so cool they called you out first too! I don’t know you, but I often notice your comments so I recognized the name right away! I love that you always take the time to share your thoughts on their videos. :)
Hannah Dare, thanks for your comment. ☺️ I like being part of the community and being able to give feedback/another perspective on what they talk about. 🙂 Paul and Morgan’s videos have been a blessing to me since early this year, and several of them were really helpful in some tough times. How/when did you find them?
Zogly, hmm let’s see... I know I’ve been watching them for over a year now. I think one of their videos just popped up in my suggestions feed one day and I subscribed after just one video. I agree that Paul and Morgan are a huge blessing. I found it extremely refreshing and encouraging to hear Christians really striving to follow Christ, not just believe in Him and call it a day. This might sound funny, but it also gave me hope. Seeing Paul be such a strong Christ centered man with high values and morals in relationships and life reminded me that there are great guys out there.
How did you first find their videos?
Curious, where does the Zogly come from? P&M said your name is Samual? You don’t have to answer I was just wondering. Personal info in UA-cam comments section is something to be cautious of for sure.
Hannah Dare I originally saw a video or two by them because a friend liked what they had to say about a topic we were discussing. I didn’t really start watching them till February or March of this year though. Several of their videos were more relevant at that point. Like you, I enjoyed their messages, but also just watching a Godly christian couple work together to talk about a topic and laugh, joke, and have fun with each other in the process.
The name Zogly is a username that little 2008 me made up when the username I wanted for a game was already taken. It has stuck and become my online name. And yes, Samuel is my actual name. 🙂
Zogly definitely agree Paul & Morgan are awesome. Watching them interact with each other is really inspiring. And that’s really cool on the username. It’s unique and stands out - in a great way! But I also love the name Samuel. Hope you have a great day ☀️
There wasn't anything said about online first dates, and since I have recent experience, I can offer some do's that worked for me.
- Do: plan a similar meal. My date and I both made a pasta dish, but we each added our own separate twists and revealed our creative genius that night. The personal twists is optional, but a fun way to make the night interesting.
- Do: help the conversation flow with pre-made guided questions. About a year before I even started online dating, I made a jar full of slips of paper with questions written on them--some light-hearted and basic and others more serious and future-focused--for both people to answer, all pulled at random. There were some small games, challenges, and activities for to do as well, just for fun. He gave very mature and well-thought out answers, and he was willing to play along with the silly things. Being ingenuitive and having a variety of things to do kept the date insightful and entertaining.
- Do: Listen attentively and respond with respect. What I appreciated about my date is that he leaned in and kept eye contact while I talked, and to whatever I said he replied with either positive or neutral comments. I did likewise, and we both enjoyed each other's genuine interest.
- Do: be patient with the technology. We all know electronic devices can get funky, but it's okay; it may delay the date a bit, but it shouldn't lessen the quality of your time together.
Those are my thoughts. I hope they help. 😊
To be clear, by "online first date", you mean like a Skype a call as a first date?
@@MrAnimus Yes, that is what I mean. It's a creative way to see each other and hold non-text conversation for the first time. Sorry for not communicating that before.
*To start out on the right foot, don't start with games. If you don't want to pay for the meal, don't offer to pay for the meal. Don't play the game of I'll pay for my half, hoping he will come back and offer to pay again. That's manipulation and misleading. It's not a good foundation. Sure, lots of people do it, but it's something you'll have to work thru and undo later once you get into the meat and potatoes of an honest relationship. Games are never good when you're working for a solid relationship.
I have no problem with paying, or receiving payment for a meal. Gifting from a genuine place needs to be accepted, with both parties. Don't cheat someone of their blessing.
*Not everyone can pay for a semi-expensive meal. That doesn't mean they're unfit for dating. Even poor people deserve to have a partner. Only each party can determine what level of lifestyle they're prepared to accept. Not everyone's seeking the same thing. At least a man will have the assurance of knowing that his date isn't just out for his money.
*TMI is never good on a first date if you're looking for a quality person. TMI on a first date attracts others who can exploit you for your weaknesses. They'll smell that like a shark when there's blood in the water. People who become emotionally naked right off, without allowing trust and a bond to form first, usually screams of desperation and insecurity. Generally, it's a flashing billboard saying you're looking for a codependent partner.
*I agree, don't make the mistake of monopolizing the conversation and sell yourself as if you're a sales person selling a used car. If he/she likes you, they'll like you for you, and you don't have to convince them of anything. Either you vibe or you don't. If it's not right, don't try to force it.
*Phones are usually rude at dinner. Sometimes there's circumstances that warrant such usage, but it's a good idea to not do so, if possible.
Good tips 👏
Mikell Wells thanks for the comment :)
Would the babysitter canceling be a reasonable reason to need to reschedule? Being a single mom kinda makes dating a bit tricky.
Elisha Jacobs awe man I bet that can be tricky :) you get a pass😊
@@PaulandMorgan yeah I don't remember the last date I was on to be honest. But was just asking for future. Though currently I see no evidence of a date coming my way anytime soon lol. But I want to be prepared for if or when that day comes. Thank you for the advice you share with all of us. Sorry I had to postpone my patron membership was running short on money. Will be joining again this month my next pay. :) you guys are such blessings and doing a great job and sharing Gods word and godly advice for the rest of us. Keep up the good work. Love you guys, God bless.
I'm hoping that I've gone on my last first date!!!🙌💞 best of blessings to y'all, love ya Paul and Morgan!!
my strength my song ooohh❤️ Hope so!
Literally meeting with a girl tomorrow for lunch. Idk if it's a date, but more of a "let's get to know each other better." I've never actually dated anyone in my short 20 years of living, so having this pop up the day before definitely eased my mind a bit. God bless you guys, always excited when you guys post!
Ryan Looper how was it?
@@kw7700 it went surprisingly well, I may have rambled a bit, but she seemed to be enjoying it as well. We talked quite a bit about scripture and our homes. Really nice, 10/10 would do again.
Enjoy the process. Enjoy the moment you are in and don’t overthink everything so much.
Good advice!🙌
Great advice!🙌🏼🙌🏼😁 What do yall think about this idea...?🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔A week after the 1st coffee date, have a picnic on a boardwalk beach bench while we talk and possibly make up stories for people walking by. Then, maybe ride bikes or walk together somewhere scenic: boardwalk or historic neighborhood a few blocks away. Is that too complicated too soon?? Maybe I should save that for a later date? Thanks!
-Hirtz Life Show
I actually really like that date idea!🙌
Awesome! Thanks!🙌🏼
I honestly love Panera 😂🙌🙌
Christina D. Haha right!! 😄
Christina D. Yeah, haha I totally thought that was a good choice.😂
I got my first date ever this Sunday, so this was right on time. Thanks!
Hey Paul and Morgan. Loved this video. Could you tell me what Christian boundaries shouldn’t happen on the first date. And when you should do what and when xxxx
Hey, you should watch our ‘Boundaries In Christian Dating’ Playlist :)
Don't:
- Have a wondering eye (extremely rude to ask a woman on a date, then check out every woman in eye range in front of your date)
- Lie about your physical appearance or things that could be a deal breaker (kids, separated but not divorced, smoking, drugs, etc.)
- Play games after the date. If you liked them, ask them out again on the date or no more than a day later. Don't sit for a week and then ask because the other person would think your not that interested, desperate or playing games.
- Go to a movie, you can't talk and get to know each other.
Do's:
- Compliment your date on something (smile, hair, outfit, whatever. It just shows you have an interest) obviously don't if you are not interested.
- Check to see if they got home safely if you did not pick them up.
- Don't assume she doesn't like you (if she paid her 1/2, didn't kiss you, didn't sleep with you, etc.). She may like you but is independent and have values/morals.
- Do an activity, it helps break the ice and your doing something together vs. talking at each other. You talk during the activity and it becomes easier to get a bite to eat after. Then you both can talk about what you both just did and feel more comfortable to talk in general.
I love you guys 💗💗but I'm literally just taking all of this up so that when I do start going on dates with people I know what to do
Orikundela Matshili nothing wrong with that!❤️
Hey, I really love your show you have great energy and keep even the challenging topics really talkable! Y’all are reaching so many lives with your positivity anarchy! I really wanna commend you on having such a great reputation and spiritual thrust for your Channel. Just curious what you use to film and mic your videos?
My book came today and i can honestly say that I so pleased with it. It looked so cool and I'm looking forward to reading it
Awe yay! Pumped to hear that❤️❤️
Make sure you eat the dinner he buys for you even if you're too nervous to eat! Order something small if you have to lol!
Kiersten Elizabeth 😊
How do y’all feel about the guy having to ask the girls father permission before a first date?
Haven Asnip I honestly wouldn‘t like it. For me it would be weird. And how can the father know if he wants this guy to meet his daugther when he doesn‘t know the guy yet bc it’s only the first date
Haven Asnip I think it’s a good idea if the father is wise and has discernment
Johanna *-* Honestly, I’m not sure I would like it either, but it’s what my Dad wants and I want to honor him in that. It’s just that I’m not sure how that will work logistically. For example: at college my Dad won’t know the guys that may ask me on a date, and how am I going to be like; sorry you have to ask my Dad first. 🤷🏻♀️ Idk it’s just confusing lol. I’m praying God will work it out so the guy is already familiar with my family prior to possibly asking me out.
Mariam H.V. Yes, I kinda agree that’s it’s a good idea. I’m just confused as to how that will practically play out. 😬 But, I can totally understand how if guys have to go through my Dad (who only wants to protect me) it could potentially save me from a lot of emotional pain. Also, do you think it depends on the age of the girl?
Haven Asnip I feel like it would only work out if your dad knew the guy first because then he would know his intentions and stuff like that. Maybe after your dad got to know the guy then he could tell you whether or not he thinks you should got out with him. Again, if your dad is wise and has discernment he would be able to do a good job at this. As to age, I don’t really think it matters unless your dad is clearly being unreasonable and your an adult.
I heard the "Get off your phone" reference indirectly related to Hannah Williamson's video from last week.
Mark Moore oh nice!
Great video once again. I only have a few comments on the first date. First of all, I have never understood why people want to go to a movie theatre to watch a movie for a first or second date. There is absolutely no conversation and no interaction while watching a movie during a first or second date. If you are in a committed relationship, then yes, I can see why dating couples would want to watch a movie together. On another note, even though I am a guy myself, I would like to encourage guys not to tell a girl "I will call or text you soon" if you absolutely know that you have no real desire to go out with her again. Merely say, "It was nice meeting you." Be real, while remaining a gentleman.
I can see a movie being part of a second date if you take her somewhere else first, like the mall or something and finish it off with a movie.
I got some questions for y’all. Why are you pro life? What do you think that movement is accomplishing? What do you think the pro choice movement is about? Have you studied biology? Would love to hear your answers.
My experience:
A friend of mine wanted to go out to dinner with me, I talked him into getting coffee instead (I wasn’t interested in dating him but I wanted to be courteous since he was bold enough to ask me out).
Day of, he showed up (later than me, and I was already a few minutes late), didn’t get anything (I already bought my drink before he arrived so he wouldn’t have the chance to pay for me - again, I wanted to make it clear that I wasn’t interested in dating him), and showed up in baggy jeans and A SWEATSHIRT (in the summer lol).
I know it’s not really that big of a deal, BUT if you’re going to go out of your way to ask someone out, even if they defer to it being more of a casual thing, make sure you look put together!! I DEFINITELY was put off by the clear lack of effort that went into getting ready to meet up with me...again, it sounds dumb, but the little things DO matter! A little effort goes a long way :)
Keep making videos like this, and by the time I go on my first first date, I'll be prepared. That, or I'll be informing him of all the taboo things he did and he'll run for his life.
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Dont try to dress sexy! I did when I was 18 and mom was so angry. She let me go out. But I felt so guilty and uncomfortable during the date.
I would love to go to Panera on a date, it being a familiar restaurant takes an anxiety factor out of the equation because I already know what I'll order :P
I get that😊
The pretend phone call 😂😂 love your transparency and advice. Thank you
Paul and Morgan I have a question. So I have bf but we don’t agree on important things but we always just avoid the conversation about those things. I don’t wanna end it bc I think it’s a good experience but maybe I should get out of this. And also he seems to treat my body more like an object but maybe i just think that. How do you tell if he’s treating you like an object vs a person? And I’m kind of apprehensive about physical touch with him. Is that a bad thing? Is it a sign I need to end it or is this normal? Thanks so much paul and Morgan
If you feel that way then it means he probably treats your body like an object and doesn't really care about you exactly like you said ha. So break it off
That hat though 🤣🤣
There are no dos and don'ts. You're literally meeting someone, and everyone is different. Just be respectful, go with your gut feelings, and have fun. But you have some great points that people should use in their daily lives.
do: brush your teeth and have a shower before your date 😂
"Should the guy pick up the girl?"
Question: what if the guy is currently saving for the car he doesnt have yet?
😂😂😂😂 This video is entertaining. I have a first date coming up, and it’s at a Korean BBQ. He offered boba, but I prefer real food. So I suggested Korean BBQ and he’s never been to one.
I had a girl that wouldn't put her phone away. I was nice and polite When I pointed it out. But she just sat The phone down on the table and started texting. She continually kept talking about herself Pretty much how awesome she was really weird and off putting. And She never looked up once. I went to the bathroom, then I thought to myself well I wonder if I walk Right past her will she notice. She didn't. Never heard from her again.
The weirdest thing about this situation is that she was the one that asked me out... I've had worse dates...
Thanks for this!!! Really helpful!! 😊🙌🏻 I enjoy watching your videos!
Awe good!❤️
Thanks for the tips for first time dating Paul and Morgan. I hope that when I meet that special girl to make a good impression and take her anywhere she wants to go at a time and place she chooses. Plus on the first date I just want to start by getting to know her as a person and to be completely open with her. Great Job on the video and keep up the good work.
Thanks for watching😊
Love y'alls videos. Prepares me for future relationships!
amanda villarreal awe good!
I accidentally found myself on a terrible date. When the bill came at the end, I immediately grabbed the check and insisted on paying...my way of saying it wasn’t a date. Any ideas or suggestions for nicely communicating that you aren’t interested in future dates with the guy?
I know its hard to reject someone but if you just tell them you dont feel a compatibility i think thats fine : )
Just be honest with him.
I got a fist date this Friday. I don’t really know her really well. We are going to arcade/bowling (take the pressure off, have fun) then get some frozen yogurt (talk business). Should I flirt by touching her on the shoulder/back or should I just keep my hands to my self on the first couple of dates? I just fear of being friendzoned if I don’t.
Max of 2 Spongebob quotes per first date.. got it.
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Thank you guys for the video!
These are great tips😊
Vanessa Meraz awe welcome😊
What were you guys boundaries/what type of boundaries did you guys have while dating?
Angel Cooper take a look at our recent vid we did on setting boundaries! :)
Yaaayy!! haven't even watched it yet but couldn't wait to comment! lol
Emily C awe haha thank you😊❤️
Paul what is something super cute a girl can do?
Ann check out this video! I answer that question😊 ua-cam.com/video/FiHZP1tYeKs/v-deo.html
Money has nothing to do with if you should be in a relationship...sure, it's a consideration because eventually your finances would be tied if the relationship is long-term...but on a first date, that shouldn't be a thought. Men shouldn't be expected to pay, that's ridiculous. And Panera is fine...you don't need to spend a lot (or even anything at all) on a first date.
Also, physical boundaries are up to the individual...if they want to get physical on the first date, that's up to them. If you don't want to get physical, that's also fine.
I haven't ever been on a "date". I have dated a couple of guys, but all we did was hangout. The word date is such as confusing word for me to wrap my head around. Is it a date because someone clearly ask you out on a date and says that it is a date or can it be a date without either person saying that it is a date?
So helpful! Love you guys!
Macaroni Crafter Aww good!😊
Great video!
I've recently decided to take a break from dating, but I'm still watching your videos and I love them. I'm looking forward to using this advice when I start dating again. 😊
Would have been nice to have this video come out before my first date instead of after...😂😂
Love you guys keep up the wholesome Christian content❤
Carl Quandt awe haha you live and learn😊
As far as SpongeBob quotes go Paul, can we at least use "I'm ready, I'm ready, I'm ready"?😆
I think it depends as soon as you meet the person. If you meet a person and don’t like them but still proceed is that ok
I'm sorry Paul, but when you said that you took all your first dates to Panera that gave me uneasiness. Lol I wouldn't like a guy taking all the girls in the same first date, but it's really nice that Morgan got passed it.
Hey! So I have recently started following Nate and Sutton and I love them so much and when I saw y’all collaborate with them I was like, sick these are some great people with amazing messages!! Long story short I love y’alls videos and I noticed you said Lexington Kentucky??? Do y’all live in lex? Because i do!!!
Awe so cool! Yeah we do! That’s awesome🙌🙌
Paul and Morgan Sweet! I’ve never followed anyone that’s even lived in Kentucky! Let alone Lex! 💞💞
I hear... I haven't gone on a date in ages .. I just cant wait..
Hi Paul and Morgan! I love your videos!! I kinda need some advice. There’s this guy that really likes me and he’s great!! He’s interesting and I think he’s good looking and we can have a 3 hour conversation and I wouldn’t get bored. Besides that he’s actively pursuing me and so sweet. The thing is even though I find him attractive and sweet I don’t seem to like him. Which is terrible because it seems I always like the guys who are toxic 😭Do you think there is a chance that I could ever like him? I’ve known him for about 3 months in total. Thank you!
I feel you on that because just recently again there was a guy I met and he got obsessed with me after two weeks of knowing him. Anyways, if it's been three months and you are still not interested, then I don't think you would so don't ever force yourself to be with someone you aren't interested in. Because you already tried to give him a chance, which is nice but you don't want to wait longer as it would just hurt more that way. When God has someone for you, then you will know that person is right for you. I hope this helps.
Adriana Bonilla thank you so much! I know you’re right I just feel bad about it :(
@@stephanieanguiano1004 you're welcome. And I understand because I am the same way, but it would get worse if you don't act now. Also, you don't need to worry about him because he can heal and God will take care of him. It's not fun to be hurt, although I would assume he will appreciate you cutting it off rather than leading him on. There are times in season when we have to go through pain, which is okay. He should bounce back as time goes by, which the good thing is that it has only been a few months so he shouldn't suffer too much, plus the bonus is that he will grow stronger in His faith in Christ. We don't have to look at suffering as a bad things because we have Jesus. 🙂
I probably assumed that you both are christians, but I could be wrong?
Adriana Bonilla yes that’s true! I don’t want to lead him on and like you said he can have stronger faith after this which is great! Thank you 😊 I take it as a big sign because I was praying to God to help me with this whole thing. At the end of the day it’s better to cut it off. How are things with the guy you talked about if you don’t mind me asking?
@@stephanieanguiano1004 you're welcome and praying to God was to give you strength will be helpful. Lol I was thinking to tell you that, but I forgot. Like I forgot to finish telling my experience with the guy, my bad 😅. Anyways, what happened was that I felt that I needed to stop talking to him without giving him warning. In the past, I've been through obsessive relationships not just with the guys, but I was too. So, I knew the signs immediately and the right thing was to leave.
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I’d say try not to eat outside if the sun is going to be directly in one of the two person’s face.😂
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If you went on a blind date and did not really click, how do you let them down gently?
So I have a question I went out with this guy and our first date was good and the second date we were really flirting..... then he just got weird after I kinda told him I like being around him. So idk what happens
Hey,
I totally agree with you two. Try to not get physical. Save that for marriage 💑
Imagine you may NOT marry the person and your job is to try to keep them pure for their spouse.
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Thanks for the advice Paul and Morgan!
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What are some tips if you're early 20s and never been on a date before?
Watching this video is a great idea.
Have at least 10 questions written out ranging from spiritual topics (what is your church like, salvation) to fun, more personable topics (favorite food, pet peeves, interests).
No dinner & a movie, hibachi, or private place for first date.
I’m enjoying the new vibe/energy you have in this video. It also seems more humble than a few in the past, looking forward to what the next few months bring you. :)
Hey guys, great video, i was wondering if you have any tips for not talking enough about yourself on a date
You two killed it!!!
Thanks for the heads up.
Will for sure come back to this whenever I have ask a girl out. Thanks you guys!
Lol i think panera is a perfectly good choice paul. Normally im on morgans side but i got your back on this one ahahah
Haha thank you!
"I know people are going to think we're crazy but we're used to that." 😂
Lol I think people just need to keep in mind that what worked for you guys doesn't mean it has to work for them there should just be a good balance depending on what works for each couple.
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Guys what’s your opinion on long distance relationships?? Does God want us to have those?? Ps your videos have been soooo helpful and such a blessing 🙌🏻
yaayyy another video! Keep comin with this stuff I Need it ._.
Paul's hat ! Is wayyyy cool!
😍 you two are the cutest!
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The first girl I dated we didn’t kiss tell aleast 6 or 7 months later
Y'all live in Lexington, KY still ??? If so : hiii fellow Lexingtonian !! 👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼