How to Transform Yourself in Solitude | Useful Ways to Spend Time Alone
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- Опубліковано 16 чер 2024
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Hermits, regardless of why they’ve chosen their lifestyles, may have closed themselves off from one world; they’ve gained another: a world that’s potentially much deeper and fulfilling. It’s no surprise that hermits have appeared in many cultures in human history. Another example are the Christian desert mothers like Syncletica of Alexandria who abandoned the city and spent the rest of her life in a crypt. Or Hindu philosopher Ramana Maharshi who meditated for many years at a temple, and Rabbi Yosef Yozel Horowitz who spent years of his life in seclusion.
But even though a stronger connection with God and the prospect of enlightenment are the grounds on which these hermits secluded themselves; there’s also a more mundane reason why spending time alone can be beneficial: it’s an opportunity for self-transformation.
Being alone can be a transformative experience if we utilize it correctly; which is backed up by numerous accounts in the field of psychology (see links in the description) as well as philosophy and spiritual teachings like Buddhism.
Now, this video doesn’t recommend becoming a hermit nor socially isolated in ways that are unhealthy and destructive, or gives any ‘advice’ for that matter. Solitude is a tool, which can be used for good and bad, in moderation and excess, and this video explores the benefits that solitude can have. The information presented to you is mainly based on the author’s reasoning and observations, supported by different sources. Video: How to transform yourself in solitude, and useful ways to spend time alone.
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00:00 - Intro
02:07 - (1) A chance for self-knowledge
05:26 - (2) A chance to let go of fixed views and groupthink
08:25 - (3) An opportunity to become more self-sufficient
#solitude #alone #loner
"One who looks outside, dreams. One who looks inside, awakens." - Carl Jung
"Know thy self" - oracle of delphi.
“Knowing others is intelligence;
knowing yourself is true wisdom, Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.”- Lao Tzu.
“know yourself and you will win all battles”
- Sun Tzu.
I do both 😆
How?@Rubim Ellmelech... Be specific
@@withinmypower9999 How what ? please elaborate.
Those are quotes from Lao and Sun Tzu and the Oracle of Delphi, may I suggest that you read "The art of war" and look in to Greek history "Know thy self" (in Latin: Nosce te ipsum) is one of the Delphic maxims and was the first of three maxims inscribed in the pronaos (forecourt) of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi.
But if you want to interpret on it, lets try a bit, by knowing yourself in and out, you will know what you stand for and can stay true to yourself etc. other people will have a hard time persuade you, to do things that is`t in your best interest, like most advertising is designed to do, or stray from your path, as you will have one since your know yourself and what you want, you will not be a pawn in the hands of others with a stronger will power, but be the master of yourself, by knowing yourself you will know your own strengths and weaknesses and therfor is able to work on your weaknesses and use your strenghts to it fullest, you will know your limitations and that will enable you to stay humble and know that you don´t know it all and that will allowe you to learn.
"True knowledge exists in knowing that you know nothing"
--Socrates.
Um yeah. Can someone knock tf out now?
"If one makes it through a day without killing oneself it was a good day"
- Someshit Schopenhauer prolly said.
Been voluntarily isolated in the forest here in Norway for years now.
First it was because I was severely depressed, now I just can't get enough of the peacefulness.
Happy for you bro
At least you have a good internet signal !
Living The Dream 👌
Happy for you too! I’m envious!
ooh ! Iam happy for you. You are a blessed man .I dreams Everyday of An oportunity to be Alone in nature
"Be alone, that's the secret of invention; be alone, that's when ideas are born."
Nikola Tesla
Wasn’t he the guy that died of loneliness and depression and didn’t even get much recognition for helping with the discovery of the lightbulb. Whereas Thomas Edison had his ‘invention factory’ which was a group of inventors that worked together to create inventions and it is they that succeeded
@@Vishal006 that is the oficial narative
@Vishal006 when live gives you a choice to be Tesla or Edison. be the Tesla.. U will not be a slave..
@@Vishal006 He was also a gay man that, despite helping the British govt in war, was chemically castrated by that some government for being gay
What people don't want to understand is that if you want to be a loner, you have to have cluster A personality disorder, so you can enjoy being alone and in solitude.
If you're a normal person without those traits of cluster A personality disorder, It's going to be very difficult for you to find enjoy being alone more than one week
I’m at peace when I’m alone. That’s why I travel alone and hike alone. Self love is peaceful!
from my personal experience in both of those endeavours it helps to have a dog with you...
Until you get attacked or mugged out of nowhere. Better have a weapon.
@@JudicialBrat Honestly the odds of that are incredibly low, been doing it myself for 6 years, including through cities at night and never had something like this happen, though I'm a big bloke
@@iraholden3606 sadly women can’t relate
@@Lalabooey True, assumed from his profile Sol was a bloke
When alone, you are not comparing yourself to others. I feel like people that like to be alone are the most grounded as they don’t seek the attention or approval of anyone
Very true. I'm an introvert and don't use any social media anymore except UA-cam and messenger from time to time. You can always feel the pull though, especially if you are without social contact for too long. That's why the best way to live is to just work, find a partner, work out, and go out and have some fun. Vacation is also good and getting away from your normal routines.
I agree 👍. I have been very codependent on what others think of me and always have to be around people to be ok for many years. Now coming to a place in my late in my 40s, I love spending time with myself and learning the true me
All interaction is civil and respectful, also people have real problems unnecessary quarrels are avoided.
That is just one of the great comforts about being alone
*If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company.*
― Sartre
Agreed. An idle mind is the devil's work shop.
Also.....”Hell is other people.”
@@carlos4477Or to put it more direct, Narcissist are hell. These people are not human.
@@Christrulesall2 No, 'Narcissists' (who don't exist as a seperate kind of people) are just ordinary people who are very insecure and cope with this by pretending to be someone better than they actually are. If you actually love yourself you wouldn't be a narcissist, you require self hatred to be narcissistic
@@iraholden3606I agree. I didnt mean that in a literal since. I meant from their morals. They are very immature people who have a false delusion that they must live up to the perception on what people what them to be and to achieve it, they must be willing to step over anybody and anything to get what they want. Thats who these people are. They have no conscience in the traditional sense. Its alll about them and are to be avoided at all cost. They will destroy you.
In an unhappy marriage for 23 years because I was afraid to be alone. Finally realized I was alone already. Moved out on my own and the loneliness disappeared. I now love being alone. Can't believe I ran away from it for so long.
Congrats dude. Take pride in the life you build.
@@unknowninfinium4353 she is not bro.. she was my wife
@@solidfuel0 Are you happy now she’s gone?
@@GUCC1197 yes we were unhappy for 23 years. We both are better people now. I just regret that I wasted my only life being in unhappy marriage. I should have ended it when she first cheated on me 20 years ago
@@solidfuel0 That’s painful. Hope you can heal now💗
...instead of being alone in a group, it's better to have real solitude all by yourself. - Faye Valentine (Cowboy Bebop - Jupiter Jazz (Part 1))
A man of culture, well said mate!
☺☺☺
carry that weight.
and whatever happens, happens.
See you someday, somewhere space cowboy or cowgirl! 🚀 🤠
If you go through a traumatic experience, and in weeks following that, you are alone and not really accomplishing anything, take heart in the fact that you are busy healing in stillness, which is very worthwhile. Don't think you are lazy, be positive.
this is beautiful, thank you
Needed to read this.
Needed this. Thank you
this is true, it's good to allow yourself to just do nothing. :)
thank you :(
I broke up with my gf of 15 years and moved out of our house one month before the pandemic hit. I spent most of the last year alone, for the first time in my life.
It was hard at first, but now I haven't felt better in years. I made a lot of changes to my life and habits, I'm working through my issues and anxiety, I grew a lot and really got to know myself. It's like my mind is clearer and more focused.
And more importantly I found out I don't NEED anyone in my life, there's just a few people that I WANT in my life. I spent too much time and energy worrying about what people thinks of me when I'm completely fine on my own.
Good for you man. The journey is difficult in the beginning but then you find a rhythm that works and brings peace. Life is too short to waste time with the wrong people, which drives home even more the point to make yourself the best company you keep. ✌🏼
My family is dead. I'm alone.
Naw, it's shitty
Just split from my g/f of 11 years. I'm in the same situation but starting to adjust. Thanks for posting , we are not really alone after all
thank you for this yo. glad ur good 🤍 this inspired me today
Rumor is..they usually want to get married by the first decade.
i'm in love with solitude since i was a kid. i never fit in and finally after maaaany years i realized that i should stop pretending like a "normal" person and just be my real self. i'm a loner and i'm cool with it.
The worst times in my life came when I tried to "fit"
I feel exactly the same...
When I am with people I am alone ,when I am on my own I don’t feel alone ,I feel happy and content.
✌🏼
Me as well. Finally stopped trying to swim against the current.
“All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone”
Pascal, if I remember rightly? And he is right.
All of humanity’s problems stem from that one fish that wanted to walk
All of humanity's problems is that man wants to be the best in a god like figure, but he's to stupid to know how. Love to all and, all to love. Namaste 🙏
All of humanity's problems are rooted in greed. All transgressions and sins begin with greed.
@@deshawnwest9538 if a time-machine is invented I want to kick that fish back in
Only when you are alone do you find out who you really are
TRUTH 👌
Ive been alone for a year and I dont know wtf I want or am
Even then...
@@coolpfpbut9505 there is not set time and you shouldn't make it a goal to be alone or mindful, these things should happen naturally. And when they do your response to being alone shouldnt be to seek out others or feel as if you arent content. Instead you should learn to embrace this freedom, and along the path, the door way to the true you will be revealed, but even still, not everyone is made to be alone and maybe you arent one that would benefit from solitude. You have to answer that first.
This lady said you find out who you are when you interact with other people...
*"Solitude is good for great minds but bad for small ones."*
- Victor Hugo
Well said. does everyone define solitude the same way?
I live alone, where I can have peace and quiet when I want, but I go out and socialize with ease everyday.
Sometimes I feel like the quotes in the comment section are pretty elitist and often focus on how your behavior is superior to others.
Maybe it's just my feeling, any thoughts?
Me atm and yes it is very bad
@@clemensundt6268 i didn't notice that because I have a small mind :
OMG YES! No annoyances, no dealing with someone else's problems. Peace, quiet, calm and soothing. There's nothing better than solitude. Hermits Unite, Alone, at Home😂
😂😂😂😂 yesssss
If hermits united then they wouldn't be alone.
@@magnatarbeing8749sarcasm my dear
Hi fren
Some people doesn't want to be alone because they're afraid to face their own demons that they can easily point on other people
❤
My mom said that she hates being alone because she’s scared of her thoughts, that surprised me and saddened me to the core.
Some people have anxiety
this is really true.... i dont like people who blame and cant the responsibility of their own selves.
@@jJust_NO_ don't worry about anyone else
As a guy who was a bachelor for 20 years after high school, I think I can speak on this topic. Being content to be by yourself means being classified by your family, friends, associates as a loser and a loner. They don't care to hear that you enjoy your own company and love yourself. They want to hear that you want a big wedding followed by lots of kids they can play with. When you don't fulfill their expectations, you will only get their total disgust.
It's not just you, brother. This is a very typical Indian thing you hear from relatives, and it's even worse for girls because we have a 'biological clock' and 'need to have kids while we still can because women are only worth something when they are wives or mothers'. While I admit that having a biological limit to having children is a harsh reality for many, but it is not the only fulfillment in life, is it? Many may not want children or families, and I think as a society we should accept such individuals as well.
You're not bullshitting at all.
Screw those assholes. They just want to suck you into the same crap that they're a part of. Stay strong!
They mean well, however they are programmed minded. Many people are.
Oh it is much, much worse as a woman.
I never feel alone or lonely, when I'm by myself. When I am amongst other people, it's when I on the other hand, feel the most lonely. I'm trying to learn to appreciate time with others though, but it will never be better then alone time.
The only way to think my own thoughts without interference from others.
Should have your own thoughts while with others.
I had trouble with depression 2 years prior. At some point I basically cut contact to 95% of my contacts, went regularly on long walks alone without my cellphone. I did this for half a year, in which i realized that i was not pursuing my own goals in life and was overly hung up with what others might think about me (as I always felt like the odd one out, as some see me as a weirdo). I am now heading in a way different direction and am way happier. I've always was okay with being alone from time to time, but the in few years before my depressive state, i was constantly with other people, as i was a quite prominent student at my university department. Now i am confident that spending time alone is probably one of the most important aspects of a happy life, for me.
woah this sounds EXACTLY like what happened for me 2-3 years ago from depression and other issues.
Thank you both for sharing! 👍
Loneliness is hell, Solitude is peace.
The most important thing about solitude is that away from all the noise, we have the chance to reflect. Giving ourselves the ability to reflect is the key to self-actualization.
''in the desert you can remember your name, cause there ain't no one for to give no pain''
Carl Jung loved solitude. In his autobiography, he wrote 'Outward circumstances are no substitute for inner experience. Therefore my life has been singularly poor in outward happenings. I cannot tell much about them, for it would strike me as hollow and insubstantial. I can understand myself only in the light of inner happenings. It is these that make up the singularity of my life' ..........Thank you Einzelganger 👁 your videos are great.
Yes, but Carl Jung was married, had several children, and even extramarital affairs. So technically he was not completely alone all his life.
Great quote. I'm glad I came across it.
@@robertoorsi3203 you don't understand. Just because someone has a family or significant other, that doesn't mean they can't have feelings of aloneness. I have a wonderful family, yet I feel so alone at times.
@@WindHashira Well, he's right in saying that. Jung was happily married to his wife, and she was quite involved in his work too. The kind of solitude this videos points to is a different level of solitude.
@@mts2639 Carl Jung after having the 'regular lifestyle' to which roberto points out when to live totally alone. I think we are not talking about different solitudes in here... after all, we [most of us] are born in a family that will introduce us to life in society. The choice of the hermit is not a childhood one, I guess...In any case, I think we are talking about the same kind of solitude 🙂
I have grown to love my solitude. I treasure it.
Me too 🤗
I been noticing and enjoying it too. More and more infact down to the point I look forward to it. As often as can.
❤me as well!
We can grow best when we arent worried about what others think 🙏
AMEN to THAT ❣️
Obviously dude💥
But how to stop worrying about what others think?
@@tejaswinilakkaraju258 We have to realize that we don't have any control over HOW people think. We only have control over HOW we think. We have the power to not let others, have the power over our thoughts. As we age it get easier ❣️ Meditation can also help.
"They didn't leave me, they lost me."
"I never lose them, I only lose interest in them"
If you ever felt, well.. disregarded and insignificant, turn the tables and keep visualize it till it became reality.
Yhh…this is highly subjective. Some people are better off to be left alone even if they don’t understand. Sometimes you leave because they don’t want to change themselves. Sometimes they leave because you don’t realize your own flaws.
People are not lost they are returned
@@chickadee317 stoicism core
Lived for 2.5 years in the woods on the hills all alone. Best 2.5 years of my life, I could do anything and I had time to do everything before going to bed, no stress, no deadlines and no need to hurry up with anything. That time was so calming and full of life's lessons that usually people pay institutions to get.
Oh man, the part about hanging out with people that we don't really like to not feel alone... I did exactly that with a group of "friends" who ended up betraying me when going through a tough time. I ended up in hospital because of it.
The only silver linings are that it ended those "friendships" and my mindset changed for the better.
I not only love being alone, I crave it. I've never quite been able to get how people can be afraid of or hate being alone. Being with people you love and going through things together is magical in its own right, but so is solitude (in a whole different way).
I love being alone for long stretches. Walking, running, driving. I’ve always been into solo pursuits, music, reading, photography. I can spend time with people but there’s always a cut off point. Weddings, parties, social outings are a chore for me, so I always have an excuse ready!
"If you need a real friend, God is sufficient" Master Nursi
Spending time alone the right way is important. Stay active. Use your body and mind and be an observer of your actions. And be curious about what you can do next. Don’t sit by yourself and do nothing. That’s where the problems start.
I've learned more wisdom by sitting by myself and doing nothing.
Solitude is very different from loneliness. Many people are surrounded by others yet feel very lonely. That is why when people suicide many will say, they seemed happy, there were no red flags. There were red flags, but people just assume that because the person doesn’t show outward appearance of sadness doesn’t mean they are battling struggles within.
Yes, particularly people who don't have an understanding of depression. Perhaps they see things in more black and white terms - 'this person's OK because they are laughing.' For some people, ignorance is bliss, they cannot cope with it. Some people lack the ability to read between the lines aswell. And some people just want to leave interactions feeling better about themselves, or at least not feeling worse. . I feel like I'm saying everything and nothing here really!
that's because you don't connect with the people around you. if you did you wouldn't feel alone.
@@kieransimpson4965 You said everything here, very succinctly. Thank you. In my experience, most people know but ignore it because they cannot deal with the potential implications of knowing.
*"Solitude is where one discovers one is not alone."*
- Marty Rubin
We are never truly alone, when we love our selves ❣️🤗❣️
@@janycebrown4071 I love me too
@@maximuscomfort Awesome possum 💕
Wow loved that
Just be careful to not isolate yourself too much. I like my solitude so much I never go out. You’ll forget how to be social and interact with people for the times it is important like a job interview or teamwork.
His voice calms my anxiety filled soul. Lol
Breath. Always remember to take DEEP BREATHS❣️
Laugh out loud
After a sixteen year marriage which I often felt lonely, even around friends, I dated for years but learned to enjoy my own company more. It’s nice to touch base with familiar faces from my home town but since the plandemic, I feel like it’s a lot of effort. You can have meaningful interactions with people online and since the experimental vaccines, there is a community of like minded individuals that can share their experiences in forums or via vlogs like these. Staying away from mainstream living has effectively saved me from being a candidate. I made an informed decision using my own inner compass, not herd mentality or coerced by employer as I’m self employed. If a situation ever arose where we all had to help each other, I believe the “hermits” would be better at organising etc as we’d see more clearly through the chaos. Peace to anyone reading this ❤😊
As someone who usually isolate myself whenever I feel the desire so, I also would like to bring up that interaction is also a necessity for self-seaching as much as isolation. When you're alone you do have a better chance to know yourself - but to know yourself alone may not be your whole self, since being alone denies you of everything else that's also you when accompanied. It is crucial to be at easy with being alone, but we can't deny that when we're close to people, we're also given the chance of being ourselves, and human interaction bring some exclusive experiences which you can't achiev alone. I see isolation as the place where I go to synthetize all the new information and stimulus I received interacting with the world and myself
Awesome Comment. I agree. There has to be in my opinion a mirroring soul. Someone preferably a therapist who has knowledge of trauma by going through it his/ her self and healed it within themselves. Being alone can bring up things from early on which have to be processed, validated, felt to integrate. It's extremely difficult to sift through this with a fragmented self.
The irony is that when I'm with other people that is when I'm LEAST myself. I know myself better alone.
@@dumfriesspearhead7398 facts i put a mask on around most people because i know they wouldn’t except me for who I really am and I would just end up being ghosted for being too”quiet/boring” im by myself so I don’t have to worry about my brain flooding with negative thoughts when i get around others like am i not talking enough? Do i look good enough right now? Are they looking at me?
I love this thank you
This is beautiful
I have been using iv drugs for about 2.5 years. Also homeless and then in an institution for the last 3 months, so I have some catching up to do on this channel. The last 3 months have given me a new perspective of solitude.
You replied to an email of mine in January of 2020, before the pandemic and not even 1 year into my relapse. It was more meaningful than I can express. Even 4 months later I was still important enough to get some of your time. I copied down what you said, and soon I will be able to implement the ideas to create a new family.
However, this video reminds me that I need to become more comfortable being alone. Still. I have realized that I have/had more people in my life (healthy ones) than I originally thought. Consumed with memories of the ones who left, the ones who stayed suffered. I suffered and prayed for death because of the abandonment of a shit load of assholes.
I intend to face the demons I refused to in 2005 when I originally got clean. I intend to become my own best friend. Starting right now, I will look at the thoughts and emotions I sought to escape. I have known this on an intellectual level, but it feels easier today than it did yesterday.
Thank you for being a part of my recovery.
Wow! That is the spirit!
Success to you!
this is wonderful, good luck and success with the rest of your journey!
Keep on keeping on, you got this!
all the best to you, sending ❤️
You are a thriver. I believe in you
Its better to be alone than to be with people who make you feel alone. Came out of an 8 year narccicist relationship. Great video.
I just lost my best friend. And I have to regain the ability to be able to be happy on my own again. This video reminds me that it isn't so bad to be alone. It's helping me finding my peace again.
I used to be happy on my own, just do things that will make me happy. I was perfectly fine on my own. But ever since I met my ex-best friend, I slowly opened up and learned to rely my happiness on other. I started focus on doing what make us or my bestie happy. I let myself be comfortable like that for a long time.
But now it's all gone, and I have to be with myself again. I know I can manage this, since I used to be happy alone before. But I have forgotten how I can be happy on my own and scared to be alone. I try to regain that feeling, that ok-ness. This video gives me a peace of mind and is helping.
good luck on your journey, i hope you find your own happiness soon. have a good day
I’m 18 turning 19 years old and I actually spend 90% of my life alone. friend groups, relationships, just gone like that. I rarely hangout but I realized time with yourself even when you don’t like the loneliness is that there are many blessings in disguise…You just have to find them.
I know alot of people agree that solitude gives way to self improvement or healing. But that's not always the case (Imo). I'm introverted for the most part and have been single for most of my life since I deal with depression and and anxiety. I realised that not everybody can be secluded by themselves, I don't like being surrounded by noisy people yet I still look for that one person who will enjoy and appreciate quiet moments and being away from people every once in a while. I'm the kind of person who has grown up being the qiuet, reflective one surrounded by alot of judgemental and uncomfortably loud people yet I still depend on some social attention (specifically from certain type of people) in order to know what my positives and negatives are by comparing those certain people's opinions on me with my own. I guess I subconsciously look for approval from certain people, This my way of growth and maturity.
I agree, as what esther perel said in her study that only we can learn to find ourselves in our relationships with others, what i wanted to say as well is that seclusion and being alone once in a while maybe healthy for some people who needed it but some people may not
Eric, l used to maintain friendships bcz l thought that was the right thing to do, but l was much more at ease alone, now l don't bother with friendships, there's times l find I'd like someone to talk to but not everyone fits the kind of person l would feel comfortable with, l find my Faith fills 99% of gaps in my life and brings great peace, plus the need for approval left, we're spiritual beings and this life is a place of learning,
Well, humans are a social species after all.
Nope that is not the whole picture. Being introverted and solitude is not the same thing. The goal from solitude is to not even rely on approval. I would elaborate more but this forum seems inappropriate. But as someone similar to you (I'm 20) I''d say that there's a lot more to it than simply growth or maturity. It is rather about the paradigm itself.
@@nachiketh3650 🍃 Introversion is a sign of the soul needing healing, all issues in the mind come from a hurt in the soul, yes, l agree, needing solitude is not the same as being Introverted, people who like solitude are whole, l used to be introverted, my upbringing made me that way, but finding and having a relationship with Jesus healed me where hundreds of self help & phycology books failed, bcz the problem isn't in the mind it's in the Soul, which can only be reached spiritually,
January 2020 i decided to spend a year in solitude, meditating and observing my own mind. One of the best decisions i ever made.
You know, the same thing can be said about "falling in love". When you're in it - you can accept lots of things, though when break-up happens, life is started being smashed, thought at the same time some new ways, new ideas can flood into one's mind. Also, for me it's hard to learn something new when I'm in love, due to that "love inebriation". In my case solitude after the break-up has given me clarity and new ways of living.
I have spent the past 5-10 years becoming what others have termed "an urban hermit". It has been the most influential period of my 37 year life so far. My life had been full of abuse and i had known nothing else. Ive found love and support within myself. And am finally beginning to prosper.
🍀☀️🌸
urban hermit - - I love that.
“What a lovely surprise to discover how unlonely being alone can be.” - Ellen Burstyn
“Telling an introvert to go to a party is like telling a saint to go to Hell.”
― Criss Jami, Killosophy
I wouldn't call myself a saint but being in parties does feel like hell to me
@@LuisSierra42 🤣smart
Introverts don't exist
@@iraholden3606 you don't exist
Right
I've been alone my entire life and don't see that ever changing.
@@unusual6523 I'm busy
My solitude starts and ends at home. As a Cook i am grateful to serve the public. It's what i have been for 35 years.
As for home i have a small family of Cats inside and out. As well as the wild critters i feed every night.
The time to myself is filled with painting, science, literature.
My dream come to life🖤
sounds great !
In another life I spent 45😊 days in solitary confinement while in jail. Changed my life in every way I emerged changed refreshed grateful and restored.
I have been isolating, initially due to depression, for 6 years now and I love it. I have my pets, I have a comfortable place to live, I speak to my children regularly (they live elsewhere as adults) and I get what I need delivered. I'm happier now than I have ever been. I can love as I like, wear what I like and be who I am rather than having to put on a mask and pretend to be someone I'm not for the sake of other people. I am neurodivergent and people are hard work for me so without that social interaction I am less stressed and have found peace in my life. I don't feel lonely ever. I wish I could go outside more and enjoy the world but if its a choice of going out and having to engage with people or staying in amd being quiet and peaceful I would take the latter every time
Is it possible to be addicted to being alone? Just recently became a grandma and still.. prefer to be alone. It so peaceful! Grew up with lots of drama in the home.. a divorce and a brother struggling with coming to terms with dad being gone (he was domestically violent towards mom and I). Immediately had my own kids at a young age (3 kids by 23).. chaos has been most of my life.. this peace is so.. peaceful. ❤
I love solitude, I learn so much more about myself when I’m spending time alone.
Solitude is like a hole dat needs to be filled. That has not always to do with being alone. Bad company is often worst. Without connection you are better of alone. I prefer nature and animals to people.
Found out my gf was cheating on me, broke up with her. My friend group at the time isolated and vindicated me for having different political views. So I spent the past 3 years isolated and rebuilding who I really am. I found who I was, found new friends, and I'm in better mental and physical shape now, than I ever have been. Solitude has saved my life time and time again. I simply can't understand those who Constantly have to be in the presence of others.
Love that quote “if you can’t live alone, you were born a slave. You may have all the splendors of the mind and the soul, in which case you’re a noble slave, or an intelligent servant, but you’re not free.” Wow. Love it.
Or should it be if you can't BE alone.
I find my time alone goes so quickly. It makes me appreciate and value my lone time and look forward to finishing my shift and arriving home to no one.
Literally got ditched yesterday and this shows up. Perfect timing as always 🙏
I’m glad your mind is open to the riches that solitude can bring you at this difficult time. I hope you will okay, thrive and laugh again sometime soon.
Look after yourself.
Best wishes.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life! I hope that you are doing well 🤗
@ellajo1209B @Janyce Brown
Thank you so much for your kind words! It means so much, I hope to get better soon. Best wishes to all 💐
@@Kusumi4chan how are you now ? I hope everything is better for you now
@@dannybarly441 thank you for asking, this came out as a surprise hah it's been only a month, so it has been rough. Talking about it helps, not pushing oneself to heal faster helps... And dreaming about better tomorrow. One day it will be a distant memory and I am looking forward to that.
I cant imagine the horror of NOT being alone! I love it
even covid19 and self isolation has separated the men from the boys as regards mental attitude . some people can't live without their lives cluttered with modern living ; while others it has been a revelation in getting rid of the cluttered life !. making a positive out of a negative situation !. :) seiriyokuzenyo !
Thats been me. Without the lockdowns, I wouldn't have changed my habits and mindset
Came here faster than light. this videos are so good that one second without watching them is potentially a sin
Being in solitude is a good way of finding yourself. More people in society should do it.
How can you ever really think for yourself or even be yourself if you're never alone?
loved this. This actually makes us more strong when we don't seek the love outside. when we seek everything outside which is available within us, then this means we need to love ourselves more.
excellently said!!
I've been feeling an intense need to be alone.
This serves as confirmation that this is the right path. Thank you!
Im 72. I finally enjoy being by myself. Wish I was intelligent enough to appreciate myself in the past. Learned to appreciate myself by filling the hole in my life with knowledge. Do not waste your time in pity when information will fill the loneliness.
Thank you i feel better now and i have to go back here and listen to your lessons in order to remind myself that living alone is for my own wellness.
I feel very drained when around others so being in solitude is a gift from the gods for someone like me! I get a lot done when alone whether its for my music career or for reflectional reasons in learning where I need to improve as a human being.
Sisters and brothers do not rush to solitude :) If you are here to live long enough it probably comes on its own :) On the other hand after 3 years seclusion, joy of any company is appreciated a lot :) Take care :)
At first, loneliness seems like a curse that has been stricken upon you, but as you remain in loneliness for longer, you start to realize, much of the pain and stress in your life is due to other people coming in to your life ( He/she did this or that to me, he/she thinks that of me, etc). The most amazing gift lonely people have is PEACE. Another thing that comes along with it is the ability to discover yourself and find who you are, no one can do that but yourself, for the person to decide his or her own path in his or her life is and is always ought to be the one who can fully and truly decide their path.
You've fully articulated what i thought about in my head that i couldnt express with words...I also want to add that for me, i think most people who resist being alone with their inner voice and live life in the momentum of other peoples expectations, dont realise that their constantly living in a state of reaction, to their environments actions.
Fits the channels name.
Einzelgänger means alone-walker in german.
I did not know that
I’m just in love with the accent 😊
I grow better in solitude but we need people to see ourselfs in them,for better or worse.
I think there's a lot of material that talks about solitude as the best form of self actualization, but that doesn't point to the whole truth. We also need people, the push and pull, the grind of achieving something and measuring ourselves against yardsticks to see just how much of our growth and realisation will hold up in the day to day existence we live.
I find that solitude is a thing of the mind that helps you gain understanding. But confidence and trust are built by being out there and acting out what's on your mind. If not, it's easy for anxiety to creep in.
@@okeekpagha2126 I totaly agree,once solitude revealed some answers its time to get back in the world.
👍This can also help a person to form or discover their identity without any outside distractions. Solitude also provides time for contemplation, growth in personal spirituality, and self-examination.
I've lived in cities & it's been lonely not knowing anyone, until they catch my accent.
I'm better off, without other pepole, acting out their lives, & not really caring about others.
This Christmas, was a good example - those whom I know to be alone or lonely, were contacted, just prior to, with small gifts, to help them feel cared about - those who were helped are all over 85 years - the "youngest" being, 101.5 years.
Namaste 🙏 💟
Being alone is not the same as being lonely. Learn to love thyself and you will eventually learn to love others....
One word: HEALING 😇
Thank you.
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I am back to eating better and exercising. I am doing those two things first. I have knocked an item off of my bucket list also. I am going to keep going. Alone.
Solitude & silence are now far more valued & enjoyed than noisy social situations. If I had to choose one over the other it wouldn't be difficult. A balance of both is optimal.
i dont get peoples issue with social interaction. you dont have to be their friends. you could just talk to them and dont expect too much from people
@@qwertyki9367 social interaction sans expectations are quite easily enjoyed. To a point. Balanced with solitude. Many find solitude uncomfortable, I’m not one of them. Time alone actually seems to increase the value & quality of socializing. We’re all different & we’re all the same in thinking we’re different.
Last year I fell into depression so I iscolated myself and hid from people. At that time, I felt lonley and felt that I needed connection, and perhaps I did. But during depression I was determined to better myself and started to educate myself and learn how to be a happier in life and kinder to myself. By the end I changed drasically and for the better. Solitude really improved my outlook on life, happiness, perception, and overall changed me as a person.
This dude einzelganger always spittin 😈
Luv being alone cause people always looking for new ways to make other around them miserable
I needed this... I have been binging these vids all morning.... trying to find some peace of mind... I lost my grandmother a few hours ago and I honestly don’t know what to do with this empty feeling. Spending my time in solitude is all I feel like doing
I'm sorry you're grieving. I hope you find some peace in your solitude. 🙏
Peace be with you 🙏🏼💔
When I lost my dad a year ago I spent several hours alone. I got myself out of the house and was comforted by the sunshine on my face, the beautiful clouds, listening to the birds, noticing little purple flowers, touching the leaves. Then I realized I was surrounded by my dad and there is where I found comfort. I pray you find comfort.
Hope youre okay, heres a heart for your grandma 💜
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Psalms 46:10 " Be still and know that I'm God." Amen.
When I was little I would have panic attacks when I was alone. Now I LOVE my alone time 💕
I really envy the people who have had good experiences in isolation but I spent most of my life growing up alone. I would spend summer in my room by myself with nothing but my own thoughts to keep me company. This made me into the incredibly intelligent and introspective person I am now but it also warped my sense of reality quite incredibly. When your mind is left to wander it will come to some crazy conclusions. Ones I’ve had to learn weren’t actually “reasonable” or “logical” but simply my mind running loose and never getting corrected because I had no one to talk to. Even simple stuff like how my brother abused me. I didn’t know until I jokingly told a story and my friends all looked at me in horror and said “that’s abuse” interacting with the outside world is really integral for your development
It doesn’t necessarily need to be all or nothing. Take your solitude or enjoy others as you need.
I once had a loving boyfriend. He left me and that's 22 years ago now. Before I began thinking of (and missing) him, I was perfectly fine on my own. I have to come back to that state of mind!
Solitude is literally like a good friend that helps you grow but it lives inside of you and it manifests when exterior factors don't interfear
I have BPD and it’s so hard to be alone because for someone with borderline personality disorder we always seek and need a person by our side 24/7. I’ve been single and alone now for 3 years and yes it gets sad, lonely, and depressing most of the times but I’ve also learned to like being alone at times sometimes it’s peaceful
Solitude is very helpful for me as a empath it helps me recharge myself and it is one of my self care tool.
Being in a relationship with someone who is like minded and understands this is important. Many people take your wanting to be alone as rejection, and will look for someone else who want's to spend time with them.
When being alone you find that things you've learned aren't always right,but the point of being alone is to teach you to appreciate things;and to grow in the area's of your life where you need strength..
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“loneliness express the pain of being alone and solitude express the glory of being alone “
Solitude can be beneficial but a life worth living is one in service and blessing to others. Our example is Jesus of the Christian Bible.
Other people are background noise that eventually fools you into adopting it as your own personal thoughts, and by being alone you get good at distinguishing between what's truly you and what's the outside world.
Thank you sooo much for making our life better ! ❤️
"Freedom is the mother of joy, and solitude is its midwife"
I didn't realize how being alone is wonderful until i moved to a new place where i didn't know anybody.
At first i was bored and wanted my old company back.
After a while i realized that i was just wasting time on people that do not respect my time.
I rarely need to hang out with people. Sometimes there are fun times and evenings. But i rather spend the time with myself as i am the best company i will ever have and one buddy i will always have by my side.
I'm seeing all these comments of people enjoying their solitude. I was recommended to do that so I also made the decision to withdraw myself from a social life. The whole time it feels like it's been killing me. With freinds, I've been lonely, on my own, I'm still lonely. In fact I feel worse although I know I can't go back to my friends for good. I don't know what to do. I sometimes feel the relief of knowing that I'm no longer dealing with aweful people but I'm not truly at peace. I'm not happy with myself. I wish I could feel the peace you lovely strangers feel in solitude.