Ending the pursuit of perfection | Iskra Lawrence | TEDxUniversityofNevada
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- In this inspiring talk, model Iskra Lawrence asserts that we all need to be taught how to look after ourselves mentally, physically, and emotionally and encourages us to invest in ourselves right now. She gives examples of self-care techniques like the mirror challenge and the gratitude list that work for anyone, any age, anytime. If we learn self-care and practice self-care, then we can gift self-care to others.
Iskra is a British model represented by JAG models in the Americas and Models1 in Europe. A champion of body diversity, Iskra has long been committed to improving the image of women in the media, having been told she was both “too big” for straight-size modeling and “not big enough” for plus-modeling. Iskra is committed to posting unretouched images on her social media channels and has launched her #IskrasArmy campaign to introduce compulsory self-care education for boys and girls in UK schools.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
Self love is so important and she's such a great role model for girls, humans everywhere. So inspiring. I love her!
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And males.
Soeren Steiniche They said humans, meaning men and boys as well
"If we are insecure, we are a motivated consumer." "Gratitude list." Powerful talk.
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She is me in the future, on TED. my current struggles will help me inspire and change the lives of others!
Good luck, I hope you can do it!
God she is amazing public speaker. I cried a little when she told about her experience in changing room, because I did experienced that and how I hated myself so much. You're totally my roll model iskra.
"i can't get those years back of self-loathing..."
U dont need to, you can start now.
In Polish, her name means "spark". And doesn't it suit her perfectly?
Charlie the Unique Corn in russian also.
so cute!!
slavian, not only polish ;)
I am from Slovakia and it also means spark
in croatian also, spark
She inspires me every day.
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OneLoudNinja Well excuse youuuuu ? 😡♥️
Kawaii Penguiin me too, Iskra Lawernce is a great and inspiring person to women and men, she's kind of cute and she has a great and wonderful butt.
I want to hug the penguin and give them some treats. It's so cute ^^
I had a food and nutrition class and one of the assignments was to go stand in front of a mirror, jump around, and see if anything bounces where it's not "supposed" to.... no body did it because they were either ashamed or thought it was a compete waist of time. We were 15 years old and that is honestly so irresponsible to tell children skinny is healthy.
+____Turtle please get help
______ Turtle perfection takes over our lives and consumes our thoughts like it did to you. You're messed up bro sometimes things are gonna jiggle but that doesn't mean we're unhealthy or fat. you are strange
Skinny is healthy lol, the longest living populations often are quite skinny
@@foottoast4235 not true, they are usually in the lower average scale - skinny equals healthy is a widespread myth
I don't believe
0:22 any talk that starts this way HAS to be good! 1:12 Exactly!
For those of you criticizing her for being a model or wondering her credibility, her credibility lies in her popularity as an Aerie model with a curvier body. Personally, I think it's an important conversation to have and she is a great candidate to enforce the one sided media image we are shown because she represents a strong, athletic, woman's body. She's young and beautiful, but understands her popularity and decided to do something with it, which is commendable. As a person who has struggle with body image and eating disorders, I applaud that she encourages working out, eating healthy, and self-care. I don't think the point of body positivity is to encourage obesity, but to say that you need to love yourself no matter where your body is. After all, hating yourself, if you are obese, is most likely not going to lead to healthy weight loss. We need women to value their bodies and feel beautiful. We need men and women to feel this way. Underweight/overweight people need to love themselves or they will never reach a healthy weight. It's about enjoying life.
Couldn't have said it any better!
StayBeYOUtiful16 Yes!👏
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Well stated!! :)
Model agencies are private parties. They can ask for any beauty standard they want. I don't go out and complain why Gucci wouldn't make me their next model. She is a pretty girl, and her talking about insecurities genuinely pissed me off.
I loved when she mentioned the butt pads and the camera man caught her from a different angle that shows her butt haha, she's literally an inspiration for me, I really want to be like her, you feel her kindnesses and humbleness through the screen.. I love you so much iskra and I'm so proud of you !! ❤❤
Najoo98b 12 noticed that too 😂😂
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It's been said in person language that "what all the gorgeous people have ,you have" physically & mentally...
Congratulation to you & your partener,❤️❤️❤️
Her mind is as beautiful as her image
Really amazing video
She is a great public speaker! Iskra is my idol, whenever I need to feel inspired, I watch one of her videos :)
Yes.. Beautiful people need more validation
Good public speaker Too bad for her her romantic interests tells any half brain human being that her self esteem is really fragile.Talks are cheap actions are expensive
ISKRA
really thank you you really inspired me alot
you gave me self confidence & self love
I think this is why I admire this woman so much. Notice how in her speech it's not just all about women's body issues...she also includes boys and men. Almost every plus sized female model who does interviews or speeches, totally ignores men's issues and only focuses on females. Like she said, we got guys killing themselves down at the gym lifting heavy weights and abusing roids. It's true, and I have witnessed this first hand. What a truly beautiful person Iskra Lawrence is.
Very true - i appreciated that line very much as well. Men struggle with beauty ideals too
Inspirational and heartbreaking. We all are perfect, and there is always someone that will love us just the way we are.
The knowledge shared here is invaluable. It is very, very important that we know how to deal with psychological pressure. Kudos to Iskra Lawrence.
She looks better than all top Hollywood heroines. Absolutely.
I trust the universe with teaching me to take care of my self
That was so beautiful. I am crying. Tears of appreciation.
the world needs to see this!!
She doesn't. All because someone talks about their experience doesn't mean that they're egotistical. It's easy to think that when someone's being assertive or sharing a view.
crazylesh i know right. it's not a big deal to be rejected for modelling, not everyone can be one or wants to be a model.
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What a sweetheart, she is beautiful and managed to normalize this conversation for both men and women. What a blessed conversation and absolutely on point for everyone!
Lol it's almost like Brad Pitt talking about his struggles with looks and rejection! Lmao can someone not good looking talk about insecurities and such!
She is not that good looking at all, she looks like an averge British Blonde.
Your'e amazing Iskra! And I love your outfit!
I like that she mentioned the male side of insecurities too.
Iskra in Slovakian language means Spark :)
In Russian too
@@manbona Same in Polish ;)
And in Ukrainian
Interesting name ISKRA = spark. It's sparkplug that propels the car in motion. The power of her speech, honesty, and delivery will trigger and set aflame like a spark some self-reflection in a lot of minds.
@@HalynaHavrysh а как на ukranian будет "кошка"? "кот"? "слово"?
Whoever is reading this, you are beautiful
Thank you! So are you :)
We Definitely need Self care and self love taught in schools. 1000%!! Amazing inspiration Idea!!! Beautiful soul. Thank you for all you do. xo
Never gonna happen!!
I stopped reading magazines YEARS ago and it's honestly worth it.
My daughter is twelve years old, and developing early. She has been dealing with body image issues for awhile, and been subjected to things that she is too young to deal with. Her body image has been distorted by what she has been told is beautiful, and I have been showing her your videos.
Izkra, I just wanted to tell you that every inch of you is beautiful, especially your soul. Thank you for being an inspiration, and role model. You are amazingly loveable, and such an inspiration. Stay beautiful, you are such a good soul.
beauty is in the features. Her face is perfect, I wouldn't care about my body and being a little bit overweight if I had her face. Furthermore, you can lose your weight but you can't change your face. Sad truth.
To the people saying ‘well she’s one to talk, she’s a perfect 10!’ How about instead of discrediting her because of the way she looks you focus on what she’s actually saying.
Because she doesn't know what she is talking about.
"The real body ideal is to being imperfectly you." Thank you Iskra for sharing positivity, self -love and courage. LOVE YOU so much!
Great motivation for girls with psychological diturbance about their body.
Women boys and men as well
Shes absolutely stunning though. She's near perfect
It is achievable though... because I see women in real life almost daily who look amazing...
Then theres me. I feel like I'm so close to getting the body I want but I'm just not there yet. And I was almost there then I gave up.
See how insecure I am? 😪
Such a powerful woman
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her changing room story is my whole life
this deserves wayyyy more views
10:16 she has a... a boyfriend ? All my dreams flew away in just a sentence 😢
Why? Love is amazing but you don't needed a boyfriend to be happy. To love others you need to love yourself first. YOU CAN DO IT💜💟☄
So is she a plus sized model, curvy, thick?? From the looks of her, she'd be the last person I would think, to have image issues. I'm not sure what she's referencing from.
I'm afraid some people are watching this and finding it like an excuse to stop trying to be healthy... to stop eating healthy, to stop working out and really to stop self care.
You still need to work out and still need to try to eat and be healthy, just realize that you're never gone look like a Greek God.
Few things have actually managed to help me, but this talk has changed my life in a way I could never have thought it would. Thank you with all my heart for this Iskra, you should be proud to be such a role model, inspiration and friend to everyone whom you have impacted like this.
Very Nice Pronunciation be more success and also you have pretty face and body i like you so much if you single i am also single could you engaged me.
The irony that she looks perfect to me
I love Iska and find her real and inspiring, and when she ended with "the real beauty ideal is being imperfectly you" i was so happy. "Being healthy" seems to be the usual catchphrase, but there's a lot of chronically ill people who will never achieve that. Also the idea of "healthy" is not as black and white as most paint it as, especially not when it comes to both physically and mentally. Imperfectly you is ten times better
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Then why miss world and miss universe competitions are being done based on particular body measures ?
Beautifully said
However, the speech your beauty is too high to take by me..........
"If we are insecure, we are a motivated consumer"... Word
I Love you Iskra ❤️👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I didn’t believe in perfection until I saw Iskra 😍😍😍
such an inspiration❤ love her!!
Iskra, you are beautiful and it's not because of your lovely face and body, it's because of who you are. Thank you for this
Beautiful girl with a beautiful message
dcookoo Irska Lawernce is a great and inspiring person for women and men and she is kind of cute and she has a great wonderful butt.
How someone looks doesn't matter
From a young age we have conditioned to believe that our success and our happiness are highly depend on our attractiveness.
SHE IS THE BEST ROLE MODEL 💕
agree
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yeah sure we need to love ourselves but honestly there are beautiful peoe in the world who have amazing bodies and facial features....and they will stand out because that's just how that is. there is such a thing as beauty it's just that it's different for everyone. if you study evolution than you will see why we are naturally attracted to thinner, well proportioned and attractive people. that is because it shows that your traits have survived and adapted over time to continue the process of life.
Ngl her body is nice 💯 she looks good and it’s true what she is talking about. Advertisement is a war waged on contentment
Beautiful woman....beautiful message !
I really love how she talks. The crisp move is so rejuvenating! :))
Amazing ..Sooo inspiring..👍
U are really awesome Speaker
Iskra's speech reminded me of my aunt's words decades ago before she passed away " Girls what are you doing with that weight scale? Let me tell you a story.... a young girl came to the hospital about a year ago, she had passed out during class in school, when her parents arrived at the hospital the doctor explained their daughter was bulimic and she needed to stay at the hospital and receive 24/7 care. After six months of therapy she came back to the hospital -- she came back to thank the doctors and nurses for bringing her back from the brink. You see it's not about losing or gaining weight but about "How comfortable are you in your own skin? Own it, live it, and take care of yourself".
And auntie was the person who nursed the girl back to health. #❤you Educate yourself and others.
Watching this for the 10th time and will continue to watch it on days when I don’t feel good enough and remind myself that I’m more than enough no matter what.
I'm crying right now because I do blame my physical appearance. Like I always questions myself why I am small, I'm 23 y/o but I'm 4'9", why I have this kind of face, I look like a 17 y/o little girl, I wanna be a teacher but my height, my face, my blah blah don't fit for what i wanna be, what am i gonna do??
Me lol nobody takes me seriously, I’m grown
dress older.
I just watched this after an in-home workout, during in which I was squeezing the fat on my stomach and yelling at my body for it. I love it when it when Iskra says, "Imagine being able to give the gift of self-love to your loved ones."
I love her. Why why can't we all be so happy like this? Why doesn't everyone care so much enough to help others? Even with her background, not loving, even hating the way she looked. So cool. Wow. And I'm not her, but I'm still so happy.
Everyone does not think like you. You are beautiful inside as you are in outside. It is easier to give motivational speech when you are extremely aphrodisiac like you. @Iskra Lawrence
We need to strike a balance though. Self love is important for emotional and mental wellbeing, but that shouldn't be an excuse to continue to damage one's body through an unhealthy lifestyle, all in the name of self love. That would be a cop out and highly irresponsible. In fact if someone were to let themselves go too far, at a certain point the body becomes unable to simply "snap back" should they decide to lose all the weight (for example the problem of loose skin). Thankfully our bodies can exist within a healthy range of weight and size, so all we need to do is find our healthy range and stay within that range. It's all about treading the middle path.
Inspirational video. but the issue has to be attended to from its foundation. The first problem we make is to even put a definition of perfection. We have allowed the media to tell us and display it, but is that what perfection is?
One of the most sincere ted talks I've ever seen. She's simple and natural and talking from the heart but still professional. I'm happy to have seen it and be inspired. Thank you Iskra!
She seems to be very confident women ,whatever she spoke she mean it every bit ,that's why she is able to connect with audience/youtube viewers ,theory of caring too much about how we look may be something to do with we have so much free time to think of it ,best way is to pick up habit and get lost in that and be the best in the world in that
I just followed her on Instagram after watching this. Such an inspiring woman and speech :)
Great story and motivational speech , but there is a lot more to self love and true self respect than she is sharing here. Self love and health go hand in hand, clearly she's not a health advocate if she's encouraging that it's ok to eat junk.
This is the best speech they’ve posted deserves more views.
Amazing and inspirational ! Go girl 💪🏽💁🏼😍
"Embrace yourself" says the drop-dead gorgeous woman with an almost perfect body. I love how easy it is for her :-)
She is the definition of a PAWG
This made me inspired me. Coming from a young teen
Problem is I will never like myself
wow soooooo nice video I like this girl ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
She's such a beautiful person inside and out.
You know who pursues perfection?
Billionaires. CEOs. World champion athletes.
But by all means, keep trying to be average.
Beautiful, empowering and raw... I LOVED IT!
Perfection is a moment in ⏲️time? A period of beautiful , Perfection, great ideas that want less forever 💯👌 So to make every thing and every one Perfect will lead to doomsday .Explain a rose 🌹is Perfection but dies when winter comes but a new rose will grow next spring! ... Humans need to rewrite the word Perfection. Humans should believe more in amazing 👌💯
Until I had my 6 children i was always 55kg . Now I'm 65kg . I was always trying to put on weight. Humans never satisfied right . I'm fair would love to be dark . There u go . Always want the opposite
In Russian her name means Spark ⚡️ ❤️
The trick is: she acts like a non-perfect role model leader but she is perfect actually. That body is not average.
Self care is about emotional and mental care, not just physical care. Our greatest journey of self love is to eliminate self shame.
Iskra love u take care sweetheart God bless u ... Rohit Goswami Delhi
What a gorgeous human being. 😍 inside and out
Beautiful Iskra
My favorite model since day1 everybody !!!!
I like her accent. But wanting to improve your appearance does not mean you are "chasing perfection". Balance in everything. Make yourself better than yesterday. Work out for apperance and health, thats ok. Recognice there is no perfection and stay off social media. There saved you the trouble of listening to 15 minutes.
I wish more girls looked up to her instead of Kim kardashian
If you, looking honestly in the mirror, especially deep in your eyes say that you are going to give up pursuing mr. perfect and you will confirm your bonded testimony in wrighting on the front of solicitor and third party person then I will give you thumb up.
everyone be happy with who you are. we are all beautiful. no more self hate you are strong and great
I'm sorry, but redefining the beauty ideal is also a myth. Imagine the world liking Asian features, ha! Asian noses are laughed at.