When his mom took him to the play place and went off to tend to the baby, he cried “why does she hate me”. I UGLY CRIED. The parents need family therapy. 😭😭
Hitting children is never the solution. No matter how much they cry, no matter how much they yell. They're kids. No wonder the kid has anger issues and hits his parents. Jay is taking an example from his parents. The parents have anger issues, so does Jay. The parents hit, so does Jay.
Maybe you are over reacting. As long as they all know that they love each other and also people loose their temper sometimes, it's okay. The is no - 'never do this'.
@@desibigfoot3874he’s FOUR and he literally verbalizes that he thinks his mother hates him. They physically hit him. Where is the love? Are you kidding me??
Honestly, these parents are not the worst I’ve seen in that show, and Jay isn’t that bad either. More affection and attention from his family will tix this problem. I wish them well
I think the boy is really smart. I hope he can be taught smartly because i think he will excel well in school. He is still young but can interpret the situations around him.
Halway through I had to stop as it was making me feel so sad for this kid. I have a 3 yo myself (and we have three older children part time aswell) and even if we are exhausted, we cuddle a lot, talk a lot laugh, play and try to spend time together. Of course I can lose my temper at times, but it's important to still talk, explain, comfort, apologise and tell your kid over and over how loved they are. Never ever hit a child, no matter what. That solves nothing, teaches nothing and only makes it all worse. Be the adult, be the example, be the rolemodel the child needs.
I watch the original video but they turn off the comment. I really really mad with the parent. They come to the show saying the boy have anger issue, but it's them who yell and told him to go every.single.freaking.time he talk NICELY. Imagine you're a freaking 4 years old, you come to your mother, excitely showing your toy but she said "go away". you got startled, make your toy fall and she got angry "why you always throw your toys?" And beat you. That's so st*pid and irritated me. How come a 4 years old saying he's lonely and his parent hate him??? I feel really sorry for him having such a parent.
What I usually notice in babies is that they seek attention from the parents or people they don't have, babies can reconnect fast with the person but they also notice mood change.
so u r telling me u have the time and the energy to “disciplinate” ur kid by beating him with an object, but u don’t have the energy to do a puzzle with him? pls 💀
I literally cried after seeing this video! The boy was crying because he was really sad and was left alone his parents didn't give enought time to their son all that little boy wants is affection and attention from his family .He is just the reflection of what he sees at his house he has anger issues because of his parents. They should give him more time and love❤
This child is an old soul. He is extremely intelligent and needs to be stimulated and kept busy. More love and understanding is needed. Very bad parenting 😭
He's so adorable, his parents should step up because beating a child while he is sobbing is not exactly discipline, it's more like a life worth of trauma. Also, him being scared of his own father shows that they quite frankly failed at parenting.
@@nanasekunurugi yup. it's not right, but it's what they learned from their parents (not only Asians though). People often think that what kids need is punishment, or "discipline" when they are acting out. They think they are showing "tough love", and that they're actually helping their kids grow strong and independent. For better or for worse though, kids don't think like adults. What a parent might understand to be an expression of love or concern can be perceived as hatred or disdain. Which can obviously be immensely traumatizing for a child. It's sad
Back then with myself plus I have seen others I m Asian tho, the amount of beating I got was immense, such thing if occured in today's time it would have been considered crime lol, tho it does put me in trauma but discipline is imp too, it's a thing once married there's press to bring kids in the world, it should be stopped, one should conceive when ready, parenting should be learnt
@@nanasekunurugiIts common in black households too, to get “whoopings” to get their children in check and it’s extremely encouraged . I didn’t know it also happened in asian households too😮
It teaches the child they are not invincible and has consequences for their actions. Obviously it should be controlled and not an actual beating. There are children in free range households who hit and curse at their mom with no consequences. These children w/ no consequences also take their behavior outside with them cursing at teachers etc.
This is primarily because there is no equal parenting. The wife is expected to work but also do all the parenting and housework. She's exhausted and at her wits end but gets zero help from her husband. Her mom instead has to take up that burden. If you have kids expect that you have to take care of them. Also dont have more than one if you are already not doing well w/ the first one.
3:50 also the mother tried to hit him aiming his hands… this is where we have really sensible veins connected with the brain, if the kid then grows up also being violent and angry thats on the parents. God if this was in my country the kid will be already taken away
This right here is why if I did have kids, i'd want to have no more than 1 Parenting can be exhausting (More so if you're also working) and having to give more than one kid love, attention and parenting could wear you down. Though it's not the kids fault and they deserve to have a parent give them these things without treating it like a burden. If I had only one kid I could focus on them and just making sure they have all they need. Without wearing myself thin, they're all too busy to give him love and attention but when it comes to punishing him then they're all on board. No wonder he feels hated
A child needs siblings, if not now, then when he is older. You will not be around always. By the way, don't try to do too much parenting. Just enjoy it and let them enjoy. It's not a competition - who has the most successful child. Just protect them physically and guide them sometimes. Rest they know.
You know discipline is the most critical crime that caused to a child to feel traumatized, alone, betrayed and neglected and also emotional at the physical abuse, and discipline needs to drop down at 0%
Asian people society is somewhat different from the Western. before cursing the parents, you should know their background. I'm not saying that the parents have not done anything wrong. But people should avoid judging people by using individual attitude. And at least, the parents who bring their children to see a doctor/physiologist, they wish their children to become more mature.
@@Hanna_63332_it is not able blaming. If you understand how childhood psychology works you will understand how much impact it will have on a child. Let me ask you a few questions: Do u have bad relationships with people? What do you do when it happens? When someone tells you that they have an issue with you, do you pay attention to their problems or do u try to reason with them about why there is nothing wrong with you or the problem lies with them? Do u find yourself “attracting” bad people in your life without knowing why? If for the second question ur answer is reasoning with others or that nothing lies with you then yes you have experienced unhealthy relationships. If for the last question you answered yes then yes u have experienced some kind of trauma in childhood and do not know how to identity a unhealthy person because of the way you were treated by your caregivers. Acknowledging trauma serves as a way to transform unhealthy patterns into healthy ones. And finding the right people who can love you correctly
The therapist is also korean. Im not korean or asian and i was born more than 30 years ago. It was the same shit with both working parents, and there wasn't even a grandmother in the picture, i was in childcare from 8am to 6pm and my parents still had the store open until 8pm so instead of going home i was dropped at the store and had to sit in the corner. It was 12hours of work for me already, 12hours outside of the house and then get more yelling and beating and bullshit. And im the second child. Birth control already existed back then and exits now. These people have kids for the picture and have someone to abuse.
There is no borderline about it. This is emotional and physical abuse and neglect. This poor child doesn’t stand a chance of thriving in the environment without intervention. And the baby isn’t exempt from this form of abusive parenting either. This is an extremely toxic household.
I dont know how you got this video but this is strictly private this show itself has closed comments section for parents and childs privacy You must abide by it as well Are you going to be responsible for the childs pain when he sees your video when he grows up? Dp you even have the legal copyrights?
I think you were a little unfair saying she hit him with a plastic bat. It was one of those Inflatable toys. You made it sound like a real plastic bat that’s hard. I noticed multiple times you misconstrued Information to fit your already formed opinion. It is not a bias account if what went on
@@zaza_rat123 you should be concerned for this child because any form of abuse is detrimental the development of a child. SMH semantics aside, who cares about the narrator? I only care about the abused and neglected child. I hope the professionals on this panel helped him.
He is litrally 4 years old wtf is wrong with people like you? Did you grew up like that too without love? Cause i see no reason for You to pinpoint a LITERAL CHILD
It was heartbreaking..... he needs tobe taken away from his parents,his parents are physically and mentally abusive. They need to be reported to the police and child welfare.
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At this age a child behaviour is just a reflection of what he sees home.. It's very clear that the issue is his family not him :((
Exactly
When his mom took him to the play place and went off to tend to the baby, he cried “why does she hate me”. I UGLY CRIED. The parents need family therapy. 😭😭
이미 문제 해결 했다. 걱정마라
When you don’t have time to take care of your kids why even have them. Just horrible
Frr
Knetz can't manage kids only know how to bash around kpop idols
EXACTLY
REALS
@@Blueocean42crazy some of them are adults and have the time to sit around to talk abt how much weight an idol gains💀💀
Hitting children is never the solution. No matter how much they cry, no matter how much they yell. They're kids. No wonder the kid has anger issues and hits his parents. Jay is taking an example from his parents. The parents have anger issues, so does Jay. The parents hit, so does Jay.
Maybe you are over reacting. As long as they all know that they love each other and also people loose their temper sometimes, it's okay. The is no - 'never do this'.
@@desibigfoot3874he’s FOUR and he literally verbalizes that he thinks his mother hates him. They physically hit him. Where is the love? Are you kidding me??
Honestly, these parents are not the worst I’ve seen in that show, and Jay isn’t that bad either. More affection and attention from his family will tix this problem. I wish them well
what is the show?
@@iminlovewithu3”My golden kid” that what is they called.
Some people definitely shouldn't have children.
He's 4???? Yeah terrible parents
Or overworked parents who shouldn't have had so many kids, and if they were going to have more kids. They should have waited until J was older
니가 끔찍한 부모를 못봐서 그렇지...
The kids are so cute..... Omg I cried watching this.
I think the boy is really smart. I hope he can be taught smartly because i think he will excel well in school. He is still young but can interpret the situations around him.
Halway through I had to stop as it was making me feel so sad for this kid. I have a 3 yo myself (and we have three older children part time aswell) and even if we are exhausted, we cuddle a lot, talk a lot laugh, play and try to spend time together. Of course I can lose my temper at times, but it's important to still talk, explain, comfort, apologise and tell your kid over and over how loved they are. Never ever hit a child, no matter what. That solves nothing, teaches nothing and only makes it all worse. Be the adult, be the example, be the rolemodel the child needs.
If they're so exhausted all the time and can't take time for the poor child, they shouldn't even have had kids in the first place.
Exactly
I watch the original video but they turn off the comment. I really really mad with the parent. They come to the show saying the boy have anger issue, but it's them who yell and told him to go every.single.freaking.time he talk NICELY. Imagine you're a freaking 4 years old, you come to your mother, excitely showing your toy but she said "go away". you got startled, make your toy fall and she got angry "why you always throw your toys?" And beat you. That's so st*pid and irritated me. How come a 4 years old saying he's lonely and his parent hate him??? I feel really sorry for him having such a parent.
What I usually notice in babies is that they seek attention from the parents or people they don't have, babies can reconnect fast with the person but they also notice mood change.
so u r telling me u have the time and the energy to “disciplinate” ur kid by beating him with an object, but u don’t have the energy to do a puzzle with him? pls 💀
Exactly.
The time and energy they've wasted yelling and hitting the kid but cant help put together a puzzle for a 3 year old
I cried watching the clip with him. He deserves so much better. I hope something changes and he gets the love and care he deserves.
I literally cried after seeing this video! The boy was crying because he was really sad and was left alone his parents didn't give enought time to their son all that little boy wants is affection and attention from his family .He is just the reflection of what he sees at his house he has anger issues because of his parents. They should give him more time and love❤
the grandma is the mvp 🎉
The only reason why Jay is like that is because his parents are aggressive too and he learned from them so yea
This child is an old soul. He is extremely intelligent and needs to be stimulated and kept busy. More love and understanding is needed. Very bad parenting 😭
He's so adorable, his parents should step up because beating a child while he is sobbing is not exactly discipline, it's more like a life worth of trauma. Also, him being scared of his own father shows that they quite frankly failed at parenting.
Bro hitting a child?! I can't explain how family violence and issues can ruin lives... He'll live with the consequences for the rest of his life
I know this might sound odd to you but it's pretty common asian household
@@nanasekunurugi yup. it's not right, but it's what they learned from their parents (not only Asians though). People often think that what kids need is punishment, or "discipline" when they are acting out. They think they are showing "tough love", and that they're actually helping their kids grow strong and independent. For better or for worse though, kids don't think like adults. What a parent might understand to be an expression of love or concern can be perceived as hatred or disdain. Which can obviously be immensely traumatizing for a child. It's sad
Back then with myself plus I have seen others I m Asian tho, the amount of beating I got was immense, such thing if occured in today's time it would have been considered crime lol, tho it does put me in trauma but discipline is imp too, it's a thing once married there's press to bring kids in the world, it should be stopped, one should conceive when ready, parenting should be learnt
@@nanasekunurugiIts common in black households too, to get “whoopings” to get their children in check and it’s extremely encouraged . I didn’t know it also happened in asian households too😮
It teaches the child they are not invincible and has consequences for their actions. Obviously it should be controlled and not an actual beating. There are children in free range households who hit and curse at their mom with no consequences. These children w/ no consequences also take their behavior outside with them cursing at teachers etc.
This is primarily because there is no equal parenting. The wife is expected to work but also do all the parenting and housework. She's exhausted and at her wits end but gets zero help from her husband. Her mom instead has to take up that burden. If you have kids expect that you have to take care of them. Also dont have more than one if you are already not doing well w/ the first one.
She has no energy putting together some puzzle but she good to hit him again and again smh😒
I wanted to watch this episode but even the clips made me cry
3:50 also the mother tried to hit him aiming his hands… this is where we have really sensible veins connected with the brain, if the kid then grows up also being violent and angry thats on the parents.
God if this was in my country the kid will be already taken away
Poor kid
I don't know why people decide to have more children when they don't even have time for one. Very sad
This right here is why if I did have kids, i'd want to have no more than 1
Parenting can be exhausting (More so if you're also working) and having to give more than one kid love, attention and parenting could wear you down. Though it's not the kids fault and they deserve to have a parent give them these things without treating it like a burden. If I had only one kid I could focus on them and just making sure they have all they need. Without wearing myself thin, they're all too busy to give him love and attention but when it comes to punishing him then they're all on board. No wonder he feels hated
A child needs siblings, if not now, then when he is older. You will not be around always. By the way, don't try to do too much parenting. Just enjoy it and let them enjoy. It's not a competition - who has the most successful child. Just protect them physically and guide them sometimes. Rest they know.
@@desibigfoot3874 "a child need siblings" like do you even hear yourself 😭
@@desibigfoot3874 not every child need a siblings I'm talking with 2 siblings
people like that are the worse because they are clearly not ready to be a mother which TAKES HARD WORK.
Smh they shouldn’t have had kids
The cutest baby boy!❤
Now the world needs Baby mons debut honest review video. Come on give us one
He's just a baby..😢
I was crying rn i uave never been so emotional
Why having a second child if they don‘t have time or energy for two children?
They are just taking out their frustration on poor little boy
Poor boy. :(
Witj otjer traumas, this also results in to anxious attachment style
I take him and give him love and TimE he is so cute he needs love
why isn’t there the full subtitled in english ?🙁
You know discipline is the most critical crime that caused to a child to feel traumatized, alone, betrayed and neglected and also emotional at the physical abuse, and discipline needs to drop down at 0%
oh so the grandma is the real villain of that history
I watched it and shes kinda like my mom
what do you think of bbm batter up mv /song plz make a video on it
여기 댓글 다들 전문가네... 이래서 이 프로그램은 유투브에서 댓글 사용 금지임. 몇몇 성숙하지 못한 부모들이 있긴하지만 부모들 다 부모가 처음이기에 애키우는데 문제가 많이 생김.. 오박사님이 다 해결해 주셨으니 걱정말고 당신들걱정이나 하시오.
How could you hit a child? Awful.
The fact that there is justification is wild
Asian people society is somewhat different from the Western.
before cursing the parents, you should know their background.
I'm not saying that the parents have not done anything wrong. But people should avoid judging people by using individual attitude.
And at least, the parents who bring their children to see a doctor/physiologist, they wish their children to become more mature.
shut up
I’m Asian too and my family is extremely backward.
But the kind of person you are is up to you.
Don’t blame the background you come from.
@@Hanna_63332_it is not able blaming. If you understand how childhood psychology works you will understand how much impact it will have on a child. Let me ask you a few questions:
Do u have bad relationships with people? What do you do when it happens?
When someone tells you that they have an issue with you, do you pay attention to their problems or do u try to reason with them about why there is nothing wrong with you or the problem lies with them?
Do u find yourself “attracting” bad people in your life without knowing why?
If for the second question ur answer is reasoning with others or that nothing lies with you then yes you have experienced unhealthy relationships.
If for the last question you answered yes then yes u have experienced some kind of trauma in childhood and do not know how to identity a unhealthy person because of the way you were treated by your caregivers.
Acknowledging trauma serves as a way to transform unhealthy patterns into healthy ones. And finding the right people who can love you correctly
@@Hanna_63332_background will definitely have an influence on how you turn out. Same as them or different from them.
The therapist is also korean. Im not korean or asian and i was born more than 30 years ago. It was the same shit with both working parents, and there wasn't even a grandmother in the picture, i was in childcare from 8am to 6pm and my parents still had the store open until 8pm so instead of going home i was dropped at the store and had to sit in the corner. It was 12hours of work for me already, 12hours outside of the house and then get more yelling and beating and bullshit. And im the second child.
Birth control already existed back then and exits now. These people have kids for the picture and have someone to abuse.
😢😢😢
I was sobbing throughout the video, i hope the parents learnt something about treating their child properly
bro, someone charge them with child negligence 💀 this is borderline abuse
There is no borderline about it. This is emotional and physical abuse and neglect. This poor child doesn’t stand a chance of thriving in the environment without intervention. And the baby isn’t exempt from this form of abusive parenting either. This is an extremely toxic household.
who else actually cried?
My Indonesia
I dont know how you got this video but this is strictly private this show itself has closed comments section for parents and childs privacy
You must abide by it as well
Are you going to be responsible for the childs pain when he sees your video when he grows up?
Dp you even have the legal copyrights?
do a video of babymonster debut plsss I wanna see ur opinions on it so bad.
Where can I watch full epi
I know
I think you were a little unfair saying she hit him with a plastic bat. It was one of those Inflatable toys. You made it sound like a real plastic bat that’s hard. I noticed multiple times you misconstrued Information to fit your already formed opinion. It is not a bias account if what went on
But then she wanted to get something harder si it would hurt
@@zaza_rat123 that’s not the point. My point is that the lady who’s narrating this wasn’t giving an accurate account
@@Lex-rc1gr yea if the video wasn’t there i would be concerned why someone is hitting their kid with a wooden bat
@@zaza_rat123 you should be concerned for this child because any form of abuse is detrimental the development of a child. SMH semantics aside, who cares about the narrator? I only care about the abused and neglected child. I hope the professionals on this panel helped him.
@@denagustafson6070 true now that I think about it why can’t she just use her words to explain to him instead of hitting.
Where can i watch the full episode?
Where can I find it with eng sub?
Where can I find this full video?
It’s in Korean
Tbh I had it worse 😢
And?
and?
Kasihan
????
talk ab palestine. not korean dramas.
Kid is a bit of a drama king
Madarchod teri ma tere ko hospital se adopt kya tha kia??
He is literally a kid
He is a child
He is litrally 4 years old wtf is wrong with people like you? Did you grew up like that too without love? Cause i see no reason for You to pinpoint a LITERAL CHILD
it depends on how you teach them. When they become adults, this speaks louder than anything and reflects how their parents treat them.
It was heartbreaking..... he needs tobe taken away from his parents,his parents are physically and mentally abusive. They need to be reported to the police and child welfare.