Lovebombing : If the Narcissist Was Honest
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- Опубліковано 18 вер 2024
- What if the narcissist spoke to the victim entirely honestly about the process of lovebombing? What would this reveal? What insight would it provide with regard to the way that the narcissist behaves, thinks and operates? HG Tudor provides you with that insight which is eye-opening.
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Wow. The Narcissist mirrors you and makes YOU fall in love with yourself.
pretty much
Yes, and that in itself is very addictive
I like to see this as the ultimate compliment. In a way, they show you how awesome you actually are so you can take comfort in that if they discard you & try to make you feel like you're trash. You're not trash, you are that amazing person they love bombed you with. You are too good for them.
And it doesn't last long before they don't want you
It was a shock to find I had married a narcissist
HG should get the academy award and the Nobel piece prize for this! This video is literally saving people’s lives from the ensnarement from a Narcissist.
"More potent and more addictive than heroine." This is more than just a grandiose statement. This is the absolute truth.
100% truth!
Synthetic heroin at that. Not even the real thing but it sits on the same receptors don't it !
WOW, the narc makes us fall in love with ourselves. That hit home!!!!
Thank you H.G.Tudor. How ever some of us wake up and realize this is not love at all and that we have been conned! For those who get married the victim realizes they have been deceived!! God will save us! If you have an ounce of self love or self esteem you will wake up!
You are welcome. HG will save you and he has done so with many, many others.
@@hgtudor-theultra Why do you save people? Aren't you supposed to be evil??
Don’t narcissists worry that people like me for example may have 3 big strong and bass ass brothers that would easily show up at their home and take care of them in a heartbeat ? Big brothers would do this even if they catch wind of what this person has done to their little sister? I always wondered that bc I have those brothers and play with the temptation in my head. It would be really really satisfying even if briefly. 😂
@@humanrel he had addressed this in a different video. I'm sorry I can't tell you which one as I can't recall what its called. If I remember correctly its part of establishing his legacy.
I actually laughed at some parts of this. It's dead on correct. Once you figure these sickos out, they're so predictable, It's laughable & can be entertaining to see them follow the same game plan & know what they'll do next. I let this play out in my most recent encounter because not only did it amuse me to see him checking off every box, it also simultaneously gave me validation. He thinks he won, he thinks he discarded me, but I actually discarded him. I'm really the "winner" and he knows it.
What I find depressing is that the Narcissists that I often get don't even give me a good "golden period". It could be the reason why I don't have a problem cutting them off after a fairly short time. When a person goes from "I love you" and then immediately starts treating me like a piece of furniture I lose my patience and my temper very quickly.
Yes, if you are proving difficult to control then certain narcissists will break off and seek an alternative target.
@@hgtudor-theultra Lol. After being raised by Narcissists, I made a vow that I would never allow anyone to control me ever again. I also know many techniques of passive aggressive behavior that I unfortunately learned from my mother when it comes to making a Narcissist THINK they have control, and then pulling the rug out from under them when I need to drop them for my own safety and emotional health. I learned GOSO a long time ago, I just wish I had better techniques when it comes to asserting boundaries. Obviously my grandmother despised my attempts to have boundaries and not be enmeshed like the rest of my family.
@@jenneast8611 we have amazing techniques at our disposal. Despite ourselves we know how to extract ourselves.
This has been my exact experience with narcissists. With me they always move into the devaluation mode unusually fast, which just has the effect of me losing my temper and shouting at them and then ghosting them (This probably isn't their desired effect, but apparently narcs will take negative fuel as well).
Sister!😘
For years I said "I wish one of these assh*les would effectively lie to me long enough for me to get laid."
OMFG. This is one of your best videos. Gave me goose bumps. You said all the things I saw with the narc I dumped. 3 months now & still he begs like a dog, not believing I actually do not want his parasitic energy near me ever again. I will never remove my "anti narc protective shield."
You’re probably one of the best writers/narrators I’ve ever listened to and it would be a shame if you never get into voice acting. Just think of the terrified children if you were to voice a cartoon villain.
Thank you.
Thats too funny but seriously though thats 1 cartoon I would enjoy watching.
Yup I was listening and my 3 year
old niece came in and heard h.g's voice and looked at me all scared lol I told it was ok😊
The more I listen to HG videos the more I wish people.could grasp and understand the importance of following him!
This video is one of the best. Listening to what love is it makes me wonder if I've ever been truly loved.
OMFG.
Exactly what you said.
I soothe myself, with a realization, that Mother Nature gives 0 damns about us, just the offspring.
The *healthy*, or narcissistic offspring,
I mean.
Have a nice day.
If you wonder, then you haven’t.
This is the absolute best description of the satanic demon prowling that happens within the soul of the human hearts that are possessed by them.
James 4:7 of the Bible says "submit yourself to God, resist the devil, and he will flee from you".
It works. It happened to me today. This particular narssist is gone.
Only the person who don't have themselves can truly become anybody'they picked. If you are no one you can be anyone. No acting just mirroring.
Thanks, translated the love bombing. Love bombing feels good, until it doesn't. 🙄
Indeed and you should realise that feeling good was based on something that was not genuine.
You need to record sleep stories, your voice is so soothing!
I have a saved play list here on UA-cam where I have the videos from HG that I've yet to listen to saved and will set them to play through as I go to sleep. This may seem odd to some but I'll tell you since starting to do this I've been sleeping much sounder. Coincidence? Who knows, but I like the old adage if it works don't fix it.
I went through the whole invasion and it took me 18 months to understand what I got myself into. He tried sqeezing every single drop of my soul but I've fought back after understanding what a narcissist is. Your videos have helped me understand what I've gone through...and now its no contact.
That’s just evil
Absolute planks
Yeah.. But I like him honesty
Plank is such a good word. I also enjoy using "weapons grade helmet".
EXCELLENT HG!!
Spot on!! Wish I had this knowledge long ago. Very painful process for us Empaths. Very hard to wrap your mind around that people like this exist. It's heartbreaking so sad. The nightmare the pain the awaking is horrific total devastation the shock like WTF is unreal. Truly taught me a lesson I will never forget. I feel the Greater are the best at what they do. Looking back I was with 2 Mid Range Narcissist. The Greater however was a different story. It took being with a Greater to open my eyes. Thank you so much for helping so many.
I am pleased you found it useful.
Thank you for touching on the subject of shapeshifting... more please, HG.
You are welcome.
Oh, I noticed but convinced myself I was being over-sensitive. Too much watching HG Tudor, I thought. We were long distance and after 4 months of flying in to spend time with me, I've been ghosted after his last 11 day visit. I told him exactly what he is on the one platform I'd left open and he promptly blocked me. Thankfully he's in a different country - gone for good.
Stay frosty, there is always a risk of a hoover, make sure you implement a total no contact regime.
You luky, dodge the bullet.
The worst that could hsve hapend to you is when the narc move in with you and you start a buisness with that demon - 🥶🥶🥶
Stay no contact - never ever let that 👽 in.
You certainly didn’t pull the shortest stick.
HG and his usual brilliance 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Thank you.
Wow..made me chuckle...I am an empath ...he got me ...discarded me abruptly. I never moved in with him - i have my own much nicer home thanks, didn't go abroad with him to his magical thinking new job...magical thinking...
I kept saying no thank you to him and the presents got bigger.
Walking in the mountains ...top romantic hotels with 4 Poster beds and baths in the rooms. Boy was i love bombed...
I hadn't got a clue it wasn't real...
I am healed now and stronger than ever....
Every time i listen to HG i say " Fascinating " ...
I am learning so much 🥰
Glad you are learning.
My ex husband told me just before we separated that his counselor told him that I was a narcisist and that I gaslight, project and deflect conversations. He knew what he was ( is) .
They always tell on themselves .. but we never take it seriously 😟
I really love the photography on your videos!!
Glad you like them
Meet too want that candy now lol
Oh my GOD this is all i have experienced 💔
Accuracy will always be found within my work.
@@hgtudor-theultra Sounds narcissist LOL!!!
100 % correct.
Exatly that's how it starting - the misery.
I had to pause the video at 16min and actually laugh. HG you are something... and I quote, " In the most brilliant of perversions, I make you fall in love with yourself, how narcissistic is that?" That was one of my key horror moments. When I realized how I had been fooled, what defective part I had, the file in my software that needed tending to, cleaning out and security installed... At first I was angry, I imagine that was my emotional thinking trying to take hold, which is falsehood.... now I am grateful.
That is the way of the empath, to be angry at first and then allow logic to shine through and be grateful for being able to access it.
I also had to become grateful for that anger.... that anger allowed me to access my narcissistic traits to get out from under myself, and thus from the ever-controlling and all encompassing grasp that is the narcissist. I often compare this to the last xmen movie, about the Phoenix.... those narc traits I possess and have welcomed into my fold consciously, now work in service to me....
I am speechless! Hg just amazes me time & time again! Love this!❤👏Thank God Mr.Tudor is speaking on How the movies & music is all bullcrap! Love is nothing like they portray but it keeps the masses asleep.
You are welcome.
So narcs likes to send you love songs. It’s crazy how they act like love specialists but know nothing of it. How are we so gullible as humans?
HG ...... speechless 🙊
This helped with the missing pieces of the Narcissist puzzle 🧩!!
Thank you for your brutal, intelligent, honesty with zero sugar. Your dark humor & delivery are unmatched, loudest I’ve laughed in a thousand years. It also happens that the voice I’ve heard my entire life at times when I’ve known, without pause, that it was the Devil himself speaking to me happens to HG’s as well. Smooth, deep, soothing, seductive & addictive…my favorite binge for reminding myself what I’m dealing with and the only honest answers I’ll ever get.
His motives for why he does this matter not for those that question. Apply his gut resonating answers to every deep, dark, nagging gut feeling that won’t go away (after decades) and use it to cut all narcissistic abuse out of your life. You wouldn’t beg a tapeworm to move out of your body😂 you’d have it removed & you’d certainly never cry or miss it when it was removed or wonder if misses you 😂
Thank you doesnt cut it , you are helping me through my home life step by step. I am enlightened empowered and able to go forward when before i would have left
Thank you for this sinister Insight.
Excellent HG
Hg will keep u from ever even thinking of going back to the narc.I have shut doen my emotional thinking so much I sometimes feel like a narcissist.Im not the old doormat I use to be.
Indeed.
Thank you Mr Tudor. I have been going back and forth with my narc who he himself has broken up with me countless times and I was always begging for him back and he would always take me back just to throw me away in a weeks time and it was soooo heart breaking. It was only your videos that has allowed me to block him and keep him blocked and believe me, I will never go back there again. Thank you!!!
Thank you Mr Tudor ✌️
You are welcome.
I’m so curious to know a deep physical, mental and emotional description of what it is that is LOCKED away.
How are you "designed" this way? I also experienced horrendous abuse as a child but I have emotional empathy, how can this be?
Listen to "What Makes A Narcissist"
Me too Marie . I was molested by my dad, uncles, strangers for many years and taught to abuse and witness severe animal abuse . Today I am a veterinarian that adores animals and I am fully capable of loving people.
He doesn't care about your questions.
@@freddyheadbite3084 its fuel
I’m speechless.. what an absolute perfection of work!
Wow Finally I got it. Thank you.
Thank you H.G 👤
You are welcome.
Thank you. Listening from Alaska.
At 1:21, methinks, just as HG said, “Get Out & STAY Out”.
I didnt experience much love bombing. My time was invaded by whiny victim pity plays, texts, calls and unexpected visits. This description is good to know as to what it incorporates. The narc I had been dealing with wouldn't have endeavored to be anything of intellect (so no brain the size of 🇨🇦 haha and I am Canadian btw). Lucky for me he never met any of my relatives as they would have thought WTF????
This is some sadistic ish.
Brilliant. Like poetry.
I have someone trying to do this to me right now. It is fascinating to watch.
And it’s not just an individual concept, this applies to the group of people who want to rule the world
That was awesome!! Well done!! My stomach is in knots right now (it hit home). My narc boyfriend did all of that shit to me in the beginning. I posted this tutorial to Facebook hoping the world will listen to this. HG do you think narcissism is the #1 public health crisis right up there with cancer and heart disease?
@@rooftopcat1785 You're so right about Facebook for sure. IDK about other social media as I really don't use them anymore other than Facebook so I'll take your word for it. I'm recently divorced and literally all I did on my Facebook profile was change my relationship status and wouldn't you know in less than a week some guy started messaging me out of the blue. Turns out his account was only a few months old and most all those listed as his friends were women. Seemed quite odd that some stranger would start messaging me. What did he want? IDK as I didn't give him the chance to tell me. I blocked him and reported the account. IDK what if anything Facebook did about it but I did make sure my account is set so only friends can see my posts. If by chance you have any suggestions or advise as to how to prevent this from happening again other than what I've already done please do let me know. Thanks and God bless
Thank God for my discernement
Yeah, I started picking up on the songs on the radio. Never fully realized it was all part of the con but I was beginning to catch on...
This is golden information
Yes, it is.
And This is why so many have trust issues.
Isn't it just immensely mind blowing to think "I have experienced this" ? what a beautiful, yet sometimes incredibly strange universe we find ourselves in? It's haunting. But each day I let them go more and more until one day they will be erased for good - in mind, body, and soul.
(and in emotions, energies and vibrations)
My Goodness!
In a way I’m so glad my mother was a narcissist, I escaped her grasp and it gave me an in built narcissist radar, I knew when men or women were just ‘off’ and I didn’t give them the time of day after that, I didn’t know what it was until I started to realise what my mum was. It’s true I inherited some narcissist traits which I’ve been able to restrict with education and personal growth, it really is true though that my mum and greater narcissists can’t love
My mother was also a narcissist and I know what you mean about the radar. I didn't know what it was but I did know if anyone acted as The Mother did I wanted no part of them and would avoid them at all cost. My sisters and I called that evil woman The Mother and would often add a choice word or 2 at the end, often the word would start with a F. 🤣
Frightening close description of my child’s mom. She love bombed me to the extreme and pretty much else in HG’s explaining. But she didn’t do the devaluation of me directly in front of me or in my presence. She did all the devaluation behind my back without my presence.
And could for example say person X thinks this about you and person Y says that about you in our relationship (I’m the bad person understated).
And finaly I got ghosted after 10 years when I confronted her about a new source of energy.
She also went no contact and turned everything around and treating me as the narcissist with no contact. Have not spoken with her in over 3 years about our son. Only communication is via proxy - social service or lawers.
She is really a nasty person.
Her fake smiles and her empty eyes and sympathic and empathic fake play 🤮🤮
As if the is the most humble person on earth 🤮🤮
My partner came clean with me before her recovery. She told me that most people looked to her like cardboard cutouts in monochrome. Suddenly, an individual could become like a superhero glowing with energy that she could syphon. At some point the energy would turn sour and the person then looked dry and withered, and even putrefied, which was their own fault and deserving of all kinds of revenge. They would never regain their superpowers. In preparation for this inevitability, she was compelled to build a sarcophagus around them making them her servant or toy.
Often it is so transparent and obvious but can still be intoxicating . I try very hard to be cynical and stay grounded
It’s absolutely petrifying
I went no contact. He isolated me. Now he is everywhere I plan to be further isolating me. If I go I break NC. If I ask him not to be there I break NC. If I don't go he has isolated me.
We pay already during love bombing/golden period, because they monopolize our time. Thank you for letting us understand that.
Wow wish I would’ve found you in 2018! Glad I know now though. Thank you!
I just busted up laughing when he says "I will move in with you within a week" my previous and now my latest just kinda showed up banging on my walls and windows at my apartment complex at 7am f**k me running with no where to run too and yes this leech is textbook. At least he's currently incarcerated which gives me a guaranteed 2 years till I gotta move.
Move, change your phone number, maybe even your last name depending on how bad he is. I'm rooting for you! God bless.
Narcissists do this in order to feel "special."They have a mania for that feeling, probably because they didn't get it from their own narcissistic parents. Narcissistic parents are only concerned with their own needs, and have absolutely nothing to give to an adult, much less a child.
We're all ego functions to a narcissist. A narcissist's ego is essentially defunct, which is why he/she has to be propped up from the outside.
A narcissist also harbors a lot of self-hatred, and has to unload it on someone. That someone could be a spouse, a child, a coworker, whoever.
Narcissists are nearly psychotic. They're in somewhat better shape than someone with DID, but not much.
100 % agree.
What's DID?
@@surfshack2 right
They tell you that you are their “Soul mate”, proposing marriage after a few weeks…check..check….
So fkn accurate
You describe it so well...
So well explained... I attrack those in a matter that is just beyond my comprehension... but I now can see clearly a lot faster and I am less surprised when I am faced yet again to one of those... and I get out a lot quicker and stay out... love bombing is one of their favorite tools in the beginning of the relationship clearly... Thank you HG... Just got out of yet another such relationship that was supposed to be so rosy and good for me lol and it turned out to be all about him... of course... Better alone than... with ;)
these types of videos help me wake up and dislike my narcissist every waking hour
If I were at university still, I would create a drinking game out of these videos. This is some of the best humor on the internet.
@HG Tudor...Those of us who have studied narcissism with you,have come to many conclusions about why you do this treatment.Having listened over many months, my understanding of this is...You never lived up to your parents view of what perfection should be.You got very close but that was put across as a fail which meant all the things you were promised,love,care and attention melted away like the winter snow and you lived in permanent winter, alone and left to run wild without boundaries.So as a child does, you made up your own version of the world in which you are always the winner.Only empaths who are caring will ever come close because they are the ones who eventually understand your trauma and why you build the alternative world, where you do the punishing, to calm the glaring wounds that were inflicted on you.That is why you have issue with abandonment and why you have studied and studied to master many subjects.From making your alternative world to child arsonist to ensnaring the weak and willing,you have made it your legacy to punish those who are too blind to see.The real you is buried very deep inside as you feel, it alone, would not be able to catch your prey.The facade is enabled to get your needs met quickly then it becomes tiring to keep it going. Your victim sees your true self and wants the lovebomber to return, you devalue and disengage.You insist you have the right to do it again and again.But the scales are tipped in your favour now and you are that real winner as you have made known to so many what to avoid and how to protect against, all who are part of the rise of the world of the narcissist. Below the layers of self hatred lies a sensitive man who is fearful and distrusting and has developed the tools to survive in his world.They work for him,mostly,so they will never be surrendered. Written by an empath who cares that he survives.
Brilliant analysis.
Great video💕
This is brilliant.
If only there was a way to express - without giving fuel - the truth that the sex really was kinda trash tho. Cause it was 🤣🤣🤣
100 percent spot on ..how sad
I think that we have to realist that nobody decides that one day they want to be a narcissist. That’s their goal in life but that they become one after some sort of trauma ( I guess ) that lead them there and it’s really impossible to reverse so they just figure out how to run with it. The sad thing is that it’s just so often taken for confidence so we cheer it on and it’s not.
Brain the size of Canada and Dirty Dancing worshipper 😂👌❤❣
Yes, frozen and empty!
@@hgtudor-theultra 🤣💯
🔫Jesus H.G. Never-mind Love-bomb. You just fired a Nuclear missile directly in the cross-hairs of our emotional thinking. Your Mark was true💣The real enemy is between our ears.✌
My friend was Loved Bombed .. All great in the beginning.. she said as showered with affection and adulation .. He told her he loved her in a very short time .. asking to move in together say their soulmates .. Until he started controlling.. jealous of a relationship she had of 12 years that ended a couple of months back . And she was still talking to her ex .. but not in a romantic way .. And because of that the Love bomber was upset .. checking her phone .. asking for her GPS location .. spending every day together.. Until one day he grabs her phone and was searching for he ex’s number and calls him .. He then cursers her out , calling her names .. and the kicker of all this .. He video calls her with him slapping a naked females ass . I was floored to say the least .. and I told her .. he never loved u and he is a malicious prick .
And we went from 0 communication to the best twin flames
I'm if you love someone u don't hurt someone
My narc is sensible only during sex. He does not throw me around, he will make sure that I enjoy it and needs me to confirm this most of the time. He is a great lover for me...
I got a man that is so jealous he won't leave me a mile away from each other
Would you please consider putting out more information on narcissist façade and veneer? Thank you.
This is exactly how my last relationship was...
I got the only tight Narc in existence lmao..No gifts, not a sausage 😂
HG, do all narcissists love-bomb? I am confident my last partner was a narcissists. He demonstrates more traits of a narcissist than I can count, but he did not lavish me with gifts, nor did he compliment me on my appearance. In fact he said outright things like, "I'm a jerk, so you're not going to get that kind of affirmation from me," "I don't compliment women on their appearance because that's vanity." He would give me backhanded compliments, or say something positive about my achievements then simultaneously counter his own statement with something negative about me. The weirdest part? I was enamored by him all the same. I thought he was hilarious and this cynical "humor," seemed...great. Until it wasn't so great and was outright abusive. It's still quite confusing.
When he wants me it’s all likes and loves and comments on social media , lots of attention .
In a nutshell.........fakery and foolery. I ate it up and then I spit the narc out.
Brilliant
Because I love you for u
So heartless..☹☹☹ but, what to do...
These narcissists are weird. After three discards, last time he finally got me back to him and I got stuck. We were supposed to be back to being "just friends" and "roommates", well nope another ruse. I became primary again and damn sure it was for negative supply then thrown out on Thanksgiving. Well I remember at my first discard he told me I was a narcissist and he was sorry my brain worked like that but he just can't take my behavior it was just too toxic for him. Of course he lead his family to believe I was a horrible abuser and told his flying monkeys the same. He even filed a report that I hit him, that never happened. That his freedom and safety are at risk with my. All the threats he made, getting so mad he would start to raise his hand to me. These things are creepy. They will lure and catch you for what they need.
📈 awesome 📉
chilling
Thank you.
I have found helpful many of your videos so thank you, and yes I have listened to you speaking about your background. I have the strong desire to have you describe exactly what narc definition you align with, and exactly what kind of empath you are encountering in this video? Without at this time divulging my background, which if I shared you would find quite extensive, your narrative as it progresses, devolves into an exagggered unreal fairytale movie like version of what actually happens
I wouldn't say that a narcissistic personality knows that it is a narcissist.
That was fantastic
Thank you
Does the narcissist realize if they destroy your financial blessings and hurts them because they can’t sponge off your financial blessings anymore?
They’ll move on to the next. Maybe let you recover and then come back. Rinse. Repeat.
What kind of supply is the narcissist getting if he doesn't need any thing material from the victim, where he himself is wealthy and if it's a long distance relationship where communication is done by mainly text.. I don't understand what he get's out of intense love bombing. Is this just about the narcissist exercising control, is that what he's getting off on.? What's in it for him. I'm new to understanding the psychology of the narcissist. I've just gone no contact with a narcissist after several months of extreme love bombing, including a marriage proposal. At some point my gut told me something wasn't right and I have done no contact.