Nah man, be nice to me. I don’t like people playing games with me. Every woman is different and me PERSONALLY, I don’t like disrespectful men. That doesn’t excite me😂
As a tall girl, anytime a shorter man approached me, I gave him some play. The fact that he wasn’t intimidated by my height was actually attractive. It shows a strong confidence in a man. So short men, stick ya chest out, and shoot your shot. Confidence is the turn on 😙
It’s true. I’m 5’10 and sometimes I get approached by shorter guys, last week I got approached by a guy around 5’5 haha. He was real cute and I entertained
I agree with the wig thing tbh, hugeee societal thing. saved soooo much $ after listening to my bf and really finding God, he’s been telling me to stop spending on makeup, weaves etc, no one really asked us to do all that loool just love your natural self!
Yes! I only used to get lashes and weave because I didn’t feel like I looked pretty without them (because of social media). Recently I threw away my lashes and I do still get protective styles to protect my natural hair underneath, but I am never getting a wig again. They are way too expensive and I don’t really care for them. Learning to love my natural self again. Bare face and all
Preach! I’ve been feeling sooo much more confident and myself once I started loving my natural beauty/ state. I used to think I needed to ALWAYS add to my hair for it to be right but no! It’s crazy that once I paid attention to my hair, it actually started growing at a much faster rate
@@bbbryne893 ya see exactly! 💖💖🙌🏾 same here with the protective styles, you know braids, rope twists, faux dreads etc always beautiful and natural on us black women!
@@Hadixblessed yessssss 💖🙌🏾 especially with isi’s natural hair care videos, it helped me so much to just leave my hair alone! Such a big difference in health and growth 🥺
I agree with josh’s example of how being complacent is a killer, and I definitely see how it’s a two way street. A pastor once told me to never stop courting once you get married. That a husband and wife should continue to learn one another. For example even if you get a formal education and become a nurse, you still have to get a renewal every two years to maintain your license. What I’m saying is even if you think you’ve reached the finish line, there’s more work to be done to maintain/renew the relationship otherwise it’ll deteriorate and become outdated.
As a little girl being told boys only want one thing from me.. I treated guys mean a looong time. Bc why tf are u being so friendly? Being too thirsty is not cute where's the balance lol
Usually tho when we don’t like the “nice guy approach” it’s because we’re just not attracted to him, most guys get put in the friend zone not because he’s a nice guy and we prefer bad boys but because we’re just not attracted to him & in all honesty If Im not interested I’m not gonna fake it just because I know he’s a good. That’s settling imo.
THIS! Unfortunately attractiveness plays a role if you get zoned… can we find attractiveness over time yes, but that’s once we realize we have fallen for them beyond their looks & that doesn’t always happen because no one wants to or should have to settle.
Yea I agree about question #2. I used to find the bad boys more exciting especially being “the one” he’s not bad to but in my big age?? Oh no, give me the flower nerdy gamer guy immediately 🤣
exactly! for me the saying “you accept the love you think you deserve” was sooo true! but when you dig deep to move towards a secure attachment- the bad boy doesn’t interest you. You want reciprocity and affection
That was not Josh in this video… THAT WAS JAY! Lmaoo jokes aside, I appreciate Josh’s respectful, honest responses. I’m definitely not the kind of women that wants an Alpha man. I see right through that stuff. It’s a turn off, knowing that locker room talk is huge & they don’t hold themselves and friends accountable. Videos like these help me understand myself AND men better. Thanks! Btw Isi looks so iconic in this. The colors were perfect on her
The 2nd question I agree for the most part with Josh in my opinion the bad boy is romanticized in books and movies so especially when we're younger and more immature is what we go for cause it's the examples we see in those movies and books and it's fun and a challenge cause we tend to try to change them like Josh said but with age we realize the (genuine) good/nice guy that is into us is better I do got to say there's a difference in being interested and thirsty cause if you're to thirsty especially in the beginning when you barely know me (personality wise) and mostly compliment me on my looks like Josh said it's not gonna be fun or interesting and it's gonna make me question what you're interested in...cause from my experience there was a lot of infatuation over my looks and fantasies they created on their heads and not actually interested in me as a person
As soon as a dude is mean to me unprovoked I get turned off. I had a dude who bullied me throughout middle school and then told me he did it because he liked it. It's lowkey normalizing abusive and toxic relationships imo.
one thing I learned from my psychology course is that when we are angry sometimes it stems from a deeper meaning. For example, if I constantly remind my partner to take out the trash everyday but they aren’t willingly doing it, then of course it will make me mad. Initially, it will look like Im mad because he won’t take out the trash but the deeper meaning can be lack of taking initiative or feeling invalidated.
Here for the "quiet guys"! They have a look of confidence and self-assuredness. It's not smug or superficial. The latter exudes a bit of masquerading. When younger, liked bad guys. Quickly found out their shallowness. To this end, I dig nice guys!!😍
I think some women probably don’t go for the nice guy because maybe they have had an experience in the past where the nice guy turned out not to be so nice so then a guy who is nice to them would appear to be hard to trust. On the other hand if they go for the bad boy at least they see that side of him first hand and know what to expect and then if they see a sweet side of the bad boy somehow that makes them fall in love even more and maybe makes them feel special because they think he’s only sweet with them. 🤷🏽♀️
I agree with what you are saying. I gave some attention to « nice guys » who after showed me their true colors and destroyed my self esteem. So I don’t trust the Nice show anymore especially on social media. I don’t vibe with the bad boy Alpha male red pill energy too because of it’s toxicity traits. Finding someone who is genuine and true is the best actually
I think for the girls who are into bad boys are stuck in a younger mentality and haven't realized the difference between the romanticized "bad boy" and real world bad boys that will mess up your credit and your life lol. Where im at in my life now - a bad boy better not even waste his time looking my way it's a no for me. I'm here for being cherished and truly valued by a hardworking, trustworthy nice guy.
Josh really made sense of it all and I appreciate him for calling women out as well we always believe we are right until we hear the other point of view 🧡
When Josh said “woman be so” when I tell you I was like 👀 my ear perked and everything I was like now what is Josh gonna say 😂😂 also when Josh said Isi doesn’t cook I mean it’s true but she workin on it for herself you know, but Josh your done your done 🤣
Idk bout question 2. ‘Mean’ people get side eyed from me. And I don’t like disrespect, so when a dude thinks that’s how he’s going to get my attention (being an ass, overtly extra, trying to tell me how I should be) it turns me off. I hate the “you should smile more” type of ppl, I instantly despise that type of energy from people in general, let alone a dude who “likes me”. It’s just not attractive at all. 🤷🏾♀️ Spice doesn’t win everytime when you’ve been shown different by someone who actually cares. The mean ones IMO seem like they just want something out of you. Or start the fire so they can also put it out. That just doesn’t fly with me. Edit: I think the nice approach doesn’t work when he’s not as attractive. Like the example Isi gave. It’s odd that that Woman said she didn’t gravitate to him just because she knew he liked her. If you return the same sentiments I feel like that’s what most Women look for, that he’s interested…so why when we have dudes that give you the run around all of a sudden that’s not enough. It’s like you need him to play with your heart or something to know he’s fr. Tbh I think it’s all conditioning. We’ve been conditioned & so used to being treated like $hit that when we do see the real ones out there who’d prove they want you & be about that action we get scared, don’t take it serious, & think it’s a joke. It’s sad.
The hair cut question was funny when he went on a rant about wigs. I def agree that women set the ridiculous standard that we need $600 wigs n stuff. My my bf preferred my natural hair and didn’t care for makeup 🤷🏾♀️
ion think so.. especially as black women society expects us to do the MOST to be considered pretty sine we’re by default unattractive “in their opinion”
AHHHH YES just made my Tuesday even better I start working out today (after months of not doing so) now i can chill with y'all, you both look so cozy Isi you look beautiful like always giving me cool rich aunt chilling at home vibes and I'm here for it
I need a good blend of sugar and spice. There’s a man I know who melts when we talk. He’s extremely sweet and doesn’t say or do anything that he thinks I may not like. There’s another man I’m friends with who notices subtle differences in my hair, makeup, outfits, etc. which I appreciate but he challenges me. He’s not afraid to hurt my feelings to tell me about myself BUT if I feel disrespected he is humble and takes what I’ve said into consideration. I like the balance. I like when a guy isn’t afraid of me, who knows I’m not perfect and wants to help me grow. HOWEVER, there needs to be respect and kindness with that.
The be mean to the woman thing never attracted me, I married the nice guy with bad boy traits but those traits only come out if there's danger! Loved this discussion Josh and Isi and as always adore you both 🤗🤗❤❤
also, my fav answer: Josh: *talking about accountability with friends & locker room talk* "For a man to try to change that narrative, YOU CAN DO BETTER!" I LOST it😭🤣
I think the "grown man" that acts mean toward some he likes lack a form of emotional intelligent/ regulation. They'r e aren't sure how express/connect with their intimate feeling to express the interest in someone. This can apply to all genders
This Josh, this Josh passed the test and I approve! 🤣🤣💀 honestly though he was being real and stating facts that we all needed to hear. Some were ugly truths, some were just funny but overall I recommend a part 2 🙌🏾
Omg what came over Josh in the intro he was fed up LMAO I already know it's quality I can tell Josh is gonna be especially extra and savage today Edit: 14:40 exactly he's on a different energy
As long as your shit look good nobody cares if you wearing a wig or natural hair. Josh was completely right y’all do that to yourselves. No man has ever rejected a woman because she has natural hair or weave in her head
Most older women have told me from young that a guy has to be a little more interested for it to work so I never really ever focused on getting a guy. I think the whole “bad boy” thing has more to do with the conditions we are raised in. Let’s be honest, most of the good looking guys are the “bad boys” because they were either brought up with the confidence that they’re so handsome,and he’s gonna be a heartbreaker (which they subconsciously become) OR they internalize the things they see other guys do around them to get many women vs having a girlfriend. Most guys can’t take rejection so they often go to other guys for help and that help usually consist of toxic advice for self- preservation. As far as women being attracted to bad boys, I think it’s because they have the confidence in themselves that women admire. A man that can stand up in himself is always gonna win. And women also pay attention to the guys around her. If she has a good father 8/10 times she’ll get a good man, but when we don’t have one at all or low quality ones she’ll subconsciously seek out ones using society standards (which is low) so when she does get him into other shit she thinks she’s got him but she’s really just teaching him new tricks.
I simply loved this video, it was so funny, so chill, and so real. Reminded me why I love watching you guys been here since beauty and beau, love your growth🤎.
Nah but I agree with everything he said except about to wig thing. Has anyone is this comment sections ever been on black Twitter like everrrrr. Black men stay talking abt what they do and don’t like black women to wear. A few years ago they were going on an tangent about how they don’t like when black girl wear braids. Then they went on about how they can see the grids on our lace fronts, then they went on about how they don’t like our natural hair. Black Women also bash each other black women about their looks but to act like black men don’t care abt what Black women do with their hair would be extremely false. Josh might not care or his friends might not care and thats good for him, however, there a lot black men and I mean a lot of black men who say they would even date a black woman if she wears her natural hair or they wouldn’t date a black woman that wear weaves. Even in my day to life I have men come up to me talkign abt how I need to get my nails done Bc my nails are nubs. A lot of men care wayyy too much abt what women got going on with their appearance. And then they turn asking and bash them for not loving themselves in their natural state. Girls, do you.
You’re judging an entire subgroup of men based off of some goofy niggas on social media. Put the phone down and go outside. The majority of black men do not care about that shit as long as you look good. Wig weave or natural it does not matter. What josh said is right y’all bash each other more than anybody when it comes to that shit.
Geez, I would be really happy if a guy were to come up to me and was really nice. I think it’s because those girls tends to get approach a lot. As for me, literally no one comes up to me lol.
I seen this somewhere (probably tik tok) a time ago a girl saying something along the lines of a high end brand store barely has clients and it's looked for the general public and why is that cause it's quality and not everyone can afford it (this was very ruffly explained)but I'm sure you're beautiful and a amazing person one day you will get a quality guy and don't be scared to make the 1st move if that's the case be confident people like that
Issiiiii😭😭😂😂😂 not you going into detail and putting out his business and know to the T who he followed, ON READY! Like damn is you good sis😭😭😂😂👀 now you ain’t had to do him like that😂😂😂 10:20
I love the themed videos because they provide insight on things were all wondering. Our 20’s are spent learning and i learn something new every time i watch your videos
I’m glad someone brought up accountability for men towards their friends and other men…. I’ve been seeing a lot of men talk about women don’t like accountability but they don’t have that energy among themselves. Men seem to have the mentality that they can’t tell another man what to do, but expect women to 😏
That’s really been grinding my gears lately lol they would never fix they lips to say anything to another man but they have so much shit to say about women and have the nerve to say female every time
Honestly I don’t like the bad boy type I prefer the nice guy all day any day I do not want to change someone nor am I going to put my energy into changing someone I don’t have the time. There’s already a guy who vividly shows me he wants me but I’m going to go for the bad boy the one who’s going to put through stupid shit!? Nahhh I’m good give me my good guy.
Part 2 please !!! I thoroughly enjoyed this. I thought it was hilarious and every answer was entertaining. My favorite answer was to “why do guys get so upset when you remind them if something they need to do?” This was my favorite Because I needed this answer in my life. From now on I’ll ask my man at the end of the day AFTER he’s forgotten to do something. I guess we should give him the chance to get to it first and don’t assume he’s forgotten or ignored it. Oh I died at holding your friends accountable 🗣”YOU CAN DO BETTER!!!” 🤣
I know girls like that but I do not like that 😂💯. I used to get bullied in general so that being mean to me does not excite me. It is exciting to me when I’m being complimented and shown affection.💯🙂
On the being bold section. I’ve heard (& this is even from ppl who read the Bible) that Women seeking their partner or shooting their shot that it’s considered “thirsty” or chasing or something like that. And I was confused because I thought if we want something we should go after it/them. Why do we have to wait for a male to come after us? We may lose our chance if he even is too scared to speak up. No one has time for that.
Ever heard about Ruth in the Bible? She shot her shot! Her mother-in-law told her what to do. She shot and scored. Ended up being like Jesus' great grandmother. So shoot for what you want!😁♥️
@@chukwuenyemblessing8433 interesting. I never heard of that story til now. I definitely appreciate you sharing. Some things we literally never find out from the Bible until way later.
I actually never viewed the word simping like that. To me the word simping is not just exclusive to romantic relationships and simply means going above and beyond and giving all your energy to a relationship while the other party does nothing. For example, if every time you hang out with your friend you have to be the one to schedule and plan the whole outing as well as pay for everything while the other party never reaches out to you and never pays for themselves. This is an example of simping. Giving all your time and energy into a relationship where the other party gives nothing in return.
Yep!!!! Josh is absolutely right… I had 2 babies with the “BAD BOY” and turned down the good guys due to the EXCITEMENT! However I do choose the good guys now… because I’ve grown up!!! But my children have suffered for years with their relationship with the bad boy daddy who still thinks he’s the ish, very narcissistic! So ladies DONT DO IT!!! Go with the great guys who can have a decent conversation and be a great dad!!! 🙏🏽☮️💟😊☀️🙏🏽
listen i just saw your video on refinery29, OMG i am so proud of you guy. been following Isi for like 5 years now then you started a channel together and you guys are hands down the best UA-cam couple i watch ( well you're the only because i hate the fake pranks) but i really stay for the wholesome content and knowledge you impart on us. ps i've been waiting on josh to recommend some financial literacy book but keep being you. Love it
Quick little analogy to compare to the lion and gazelle thing lol. Not coming for anyone because it’s definitely a common train of thought but here’s another way to look at it. Unfortunately most of society thinks that way about getting into relationships but if you think about it, that mindset can come from a place of “using”. When you’re a lion hunting for prey, you don’t want to keep the thing you’re chasing, you want to consume it and use it. I think a different viewpoint more people should adopt is to be a “gardener”. You still have to go out and get your plants to garden, but once you have it you have to keep doing the things you did to make it grow. You also have to adapt with it. Maybe it doesn’t need the same things as when you first got it or maybe it needs a different environment, etc etc. I feel like that’s a really healthy change to the way of thinking about the process of getting and building of a relationship 😊🪴
I agree with josh about the wigs, the make up etc. I don’t wear make up are wigs but I know women who do. Some men really don’t care about that kind of stuff. It’s not nothing wrong with getting your hair done, makeup etc. Some women try to compete with other women to see who looks the best. Who have the best hair, clothes etc. I also agree with Josh when he was trying to paint us a picture with the animals. Only a Aquarius would understand, how I know because I am an Aquarius. They way he explained it I got it. Also y’all came along way. I’ve watched a lot of y’all older videos and y’all evolved so much as a couple. Y’all rock. Great content as always.
As I’m transitioning into adulthood, I like the nice approach. I love a man that’s going to bring me flowers, tell me I’m beautiful, and express how he feels about me. I want to be clear that we are mutually into each other. I don’t want to change no grown ass man, he should’ve changed at his big age or he should at least knowledge particular habits (like not being forward and romantic) and actively work to change that. Or he’s simply not for me, and that’s okay too
For some women when a man is “too into her” from the jump, yeah, it’s just not exciting. That comes from an area in their life they haven’t grown in yet. For the rest of us, a guy being that into us from the very beginning can feel uncomfortable for another reason... We know that they don’t know us. Any attraction they’re feeling is LIKELY (not always) coming from a superficial place. Whatever persistence they exhibit in trying to get us to date them feels unprompted, weird, or just plain extra. Women like to know/ feel like you’re attracted to them for the right reasons and not just because you want an arm piece (or a piece of the arm piece you feel me?) . Or she just don’t like you and there’s no use analyzing it 😂😂
JOSH’S COMEDIC TIMING IS UNMATCHED
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Nah man, be nice to me. I don’t like people playing games with me. Every woman is different and me PERSONALLY, I don’t like disrespectful men. That doesn’t excite me😂
Me too. Its a no!
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Yess!!
Isi: I don’t leave chicken juice and seasoning on the counter when I cook
Josh: you don’t cook …..
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I actually enjoyed every ounce of this. He literally said no wrong. And did it respectfully.
Josh is a respectful king.
@@thisisyourfinalwarning ^^^^!!
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As a tall girl, anytime a shorter man approached me, I gave him some play. The fact that he wasn’t intimidated by my height was actually attractive. It shows a strong confidence in a man. So short men, stick ya chest out, and shoot your shot. Confidence is the turn on 😙
Facts im 6’2 I tend to date shorter men🥰
It’s true. I’m 5’10 and sometimes I get approached by shorter guys, last week I got approached by a guy around 5’5 haha. He was real cute and I entertained
As a fellow tall girl, It’s a hell no for me😭
@@KorliCymoneIsWhoIBeI was about to say cause girl same 😩
I personally like some taller guys
I agree with the wig thing tbh, hugeee societal thing. saved soooo much $ after listening to my bf and really finding God, he’s been telling me to stop spending on makeup, weaves etc, no one really asked us to do all that loool just love your natural self!
Yes! I only used to get lashes and weave because I didn’t feel like I looked pretty without them (because of social media). Recently I threw away my lashes and I do still get protective styles to protect my natural hair underneath, but I am never getting a wig again. They are way too expensive and I don’t really care for them. Learning to love my natural self again. Bare face and all
Facts
Preach! I’ve been feeling sooo much more confident and myself once I started loving my natural beauty/ state. I used to think I needed to ALWAYS add to my hair for it to be right but no! It’s crazy that once I paid attention to my hair, it actually started growing at a much faster rate
@@bbbryne893 ya see exactly! 💖💖🙌🏾 same here with the protective styles, you know braids, rope twists, faux dreads etc always beautiful and natural on us black women!
@@Hadixblessed yessssss 💖🙌🏾 especially with isi’s natural hair care videos, it helped me so much to just leave my hair alone! Such a big difference in health and growth 🥺
I'm liking this 2022 honest Josh!! Speak the truth and recognizing the duality in most things. Keep it up! We should call him barbershop Josh lol
Yo, fr! #BarbershopJosh
Yess!! #BarbershopJosh
love it #BarbershopJosh
JOSH IS LITERALLY KILLING ME WITH THESE RESPONSES. IM LAUGHING SOOO MUCH
I agree with josh’s example of how being complacent is a killer, and I definitely see how it’s a two way street. A pastor once told me to never stop courting once you get married. That a husband and wife should continue to learn one another. For example even if you get a formal education and become a nurse, you still have to get a renewal every two years to maintain your license. What I’m saying is even if you think you’ve reached the finish line, there’s more work to be done to maintain/renew the relationship otherwise it’ll deteriorate and become outdated.
Josh’s statement was on point. Being too nice freaks me out but that bad boy that does right just for you is exciting. Love you guys btw!
As a little girl being told boys only want one thing from me.. I treated guys mean a looong time. Bc why tf are u being so friendly? Being too thirsty is not cute where's the balance lol
Bad boys are annoying. That boy tried to choke me for me rejecting him.
Bunch of nimwads
Usually tho when we don’t like the “nice guy approach” it’s because we’re just not attracted to him, most guys get put in the friend zone not because he’s a nice guy and we prefer bad boys but because we’re just not attracted to him & in all honesty If Im not interested I’m not gonna fake it just because I know he’s a good. That’s settling imo.
THIS! Unfortunately attractiveness plays a role if you get zoned… can we find attractiveness over time yes, but that’s once we realize we have fallen for them beyond their looks & that doesn’t always happen because no one wants to or should have to settle.
This was so entertaining!!! We got the no filter Josh today 😂
Love the no filter Josh!!! Halarious but he’s truthful!!!
Isi: I remember that Light skin freckled faced big booty girl 😂😂😂
Josh: 🤷🏽♂️
What’s crazy is I think I know who they’re talking about 🤣☠️☠️☠️
@@TheCRYSTALLURE me too lol
Yea I agree about question #2. I used to find the bad boys more exciting especially being “the one” he’s not bad to but in my big age?? Oh no, give me the flower nerdy gamer guy immediately 🤣
exactly! for me the saying “you accept the love you think you deserve” was sooo true! but when you dig deep to move towards a secure attachment- the bad boy doesn’t interest you. You want reciprocity and affection
@@melchol2121 yes exactly! 👆🏾👆🏾👆🏾
flower nerdy guy can be bad as well.
@@princesslove1566 I definitely agree! That’s where discernment comes in 🙏🏾
I love the openness and honesty between you two.
That was not Josh in this video… THAT WAS JAY! Lmaoo jokes aside, I appreciate Josh’s respectful, honest responses. I’m definitely not the kind of women that wants an Alpha man. I see right through that stuff. It’s a turn off, knowing that locker room talk is huge & they don’t hold themselves and friends accountable. Videos like these help me understand myself AND men better. Thanks!
Btw Isi looks so iconic in this. The colors were perfect on her
The 2nd question I agree for the most part with Josh in my opinion the bad boy is romanticized in books and movies so especially when we're younger and more immature is what we go for cause it's the examples we see in those movies and books and it's fun and a challenge cause we tend to try to change them like Josh said but with age we realize the (genuine) good/nice guy that is into us is better I do got to say there's a difference in being interested and thirsty cause if you're to thirsty especially in the beginning when you barely know me (personality wise) and mostly compliment me on my looks like Josh said it's not gonna be fun or interesting and it's gonna make me question what you're interested in...cause from my experience there was a lot of infatuation over my looks and fantasies they created on their heads and not actually interested in me as a person
As soon as a dude is mean to me unprovoked I get turned off. I had a dude who bullied me throughout middle school and then told me he did it because he liked it. It's lowkey normalizing abusive and toxic relationships imo.
one thing I learned from my psychology course is that when we are angry sometimes it stems from a deeper meaning. For example, if I constantly remind my partner to take out the trash everyday but they aren’t willingly doing it, then of course it will make me mad. Initially, it will look like Im mad because he won’t take out the trash but the deeper meaning can be lack of taking initiative or feeling invalidated.
Here for the "quiet guys"! They have a look of confidence and self-assuredness. It's not smug or superficial. The latter exudes a bit of masquerading. When younger, liked bad guys. Quickly found out their shallowness. To this end, I dig nice guys!!😍
Okay eloquent! 👏🏾👏🏾 same
I think some women probably don’t go for the nice guy because maybe they have had an experience in the past where the nice guy turned out not to be so nice so then a guy who is nice to them would appear to be hard to trust.
On the other hand if they go for the bad boy at least they see that side of him first hand and know what to expect and then if they see a sweet side of the bad boy somehow that makes them fall in love even more and maybe makes them feel special because they think he’s only sweet with them. 🤷🏽♀️
I agree with what you are saying. I gave some attention to « nice guys » who after showed me their true colors and destroyed my self esteem. So I don’t trust the Nice show anymore especially on social media. I don’t vibe with the bad boy Alpha male red pill energy too because of it’s toxicity traits. Finding someone who is genuine and true is the best actually
I think for the girls who are into bad boys are stuck in a younger mentality and haven't realized the difference between the romanticized "bad boy" and real world bad boys that will mess up your credit and your life lol. Where im at in my life now - a bad boy better not even waste his time looking my way it's a no for me. I'm here for being cherished and truly valued by a hardworking, trustworthy nice guy.
We love when y'all do quality stuff like that I like a bad guy and a good guy mixed together
Yes a healthy balance
Yess agree have a little edge/spice but still be genuine good guy
Yes agreed nice guys with attitude 👌🏿
i PRAYYYY i have a relationship the way they do 😩
Josh really made sense of it all and I appreciate him for calling women out as well we always believe we are right until we hear the other point of view 🧡
When Josh said “woman be so” when I tell you I was like 👀 my ear perked and everything I was like now what is Josh gonna say 😂😂 also when Josh said Isi doesn’t cook I mean it’s true but she workin on it for herself you know, but Josh your done your done 🤣
Our ears be on OD 10 🤣🤣🤣
Josh was right about everything he said. I wish more young men would follow him
The cooking convo was definitely an argument later 😂😂
Idk bout question 2. ‘Mean’ people get side eyed from me. And I don’t like disrespect, so when a dude thinks that’s how he’s going to get my attention (being an ass, overtly extra, trying to tell me how I should be) it turns me off. I hate the “you should smile more” type of ppl, I instantly despise that type of energy from people in general, let alone a dude who “likes me”. It’s just not attractive at all. 🤷🏾♀️ Spice doesn’t win everytime when you’ve been shown different by someone who actually cares. The mean ones IMO seem like they just want something out of you. Or start the fire so they can also put it out. That just doesn’t fly with me.
Edit: I think the nice approach doesn’t work when he’s not as attractive. Like the example Isi gave. It’s odd that that Woman said she didn’t gravitate to him just because she knew he liked her. If you return the same sentiments I feel like that’s what most Women look for, that he’s interested…so why when we have dudes that give you the run around all of a sudden that’s not enough. It’s like you need him to play with your heart or something to know he’s fr.
Tbh I think it’s all conditioning. We’ve been conditioned & so used to being treated like $hit that when we do see the real ones out there who’d prove they want you & be about that action we get scared, don’t take it serious, & think it’s a joke. It’s sad.
Nah josh had the ttime and energy today lmfaooo it’s fun to see this side of him
Josh was buggin, but he was dead on!! Definitely need a part two!!
The hair cut question was funny when he went on a rant about wigs. I def agree that women set the ridiculous standard that we need $600 wigs n stuff. My my bf preferred my natural hair and didn’t care for makeup 🤷🏾♀️
ion think so.. especially as black women society expects us to do the MOST to be considered pretty sine we’re by default unattractive “in their opinion”
@@smartblackgirl you right I forget about all that sometimes. I definitely get weird looks when wearing my natural hair certain places
Josh really came for our necks in this video ladies 😂😂😂 Love you guys!
AHHHH YES just made my Tuesday even better I start working out today (after months of not doing so) now i can chill with y'all, you both look so cozy Isi you look beautiful like always giving me cool rich aunt chilling at home vibes and I'm here for it
Aye I did a workout today too! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🏋🏾♀️
@@TheCRYSTALLURE yesss you gooo proud of you!!
@@filipa8626 Aw thank you! Proud of you too. Let’s get it!💪🏾
@@TheCRYSTALLURE yess thank you!!
Question 2? I never was into bad guys. I was always attracted to nice guys that was family oriented.
I need a good blend of sugar and spice. There’s a man I know who melts when we talk. He’s extremely sweet and doesn’t say or do anything that he thinks I may not like. There’s another man I’m friends with who notices subtle differences in my hair, makeup, outfits, etc. which I appreciate but he challenges me. He’s not afraid to hurt my feelings to tell me about myself BUT if I feel disrespected he is humble and takes what I’ve said into consideration. I like the balance. I like when a guy isn’t afraid of me, who knows I’m not perfect and wants to help me grow. HOWEVER, there needs to be respect and kindness with that.
It’s always funny seeing josh different responses depending on his mood 🤣🤣🤣🤣
The be mean to the woman thing never attracted me, I married the nice guy with bad boy traits but those traits only come out if there's danger! Loved this discussion Josh and Isi and as always adore you both 🤗🤗❤❤
y'all are such a pretty couple & bring so much joy to my life man🥺😭🖤✨
also, my fav answer:
Josh: *talking about accountability with friends & locker room talk* "For a man to try to change that narrative, YOU CAN DO BETTER!"
I LOST it😭🤣
I think the "grown man" that acts mean toward some he likes lack a form of emotional intelligent/ regulation. They'r e aren't sure how express/connect with their intimate feeling to express the interest in someone. This can apply to all genders
This instance where Josh hurt Isi feelings was a perfect example of question 1. Lol. I think Josh should question Isi too
This Josh, this Josh passed the test and I approve! 🤣🤣💀 honestly though he was being real and stating facts that we all needed to hear. Some were ugly truths, some were just funny but overall I recommend a part 2 🙌🏾
“It was all in love” - Hydrated Hero 😂. love y’all stay blessed ❤️
So glad you guys posted lol UA-cam was dry without ya'll! Love your content and you guys are so inspiring!! Thanks for sharing xo
Omg what came over Josh in the intro he was fed up LMAO I already know it's quality I can tell Josh is gonna be especially extra and savage today
Edit: 14:40 exactly he's on a different energy
I HEARD NO LIES!!! .. He told these women what they needed to hear instead of what they wanted… #period
Bye this was hilarious, y’all are starting 2022 off amazing!!! But we definitely need a part two ASAP 😂🤎
Isi what did you feed josh... man my cheeks hurts and the video not done yet....😅😅😅😅
I hate micromanging...josh knows what's up.
The only thing I disagree with is the hair comment… men, especially Black Men, are very invested in hair (too much in my opinion)
As long as your shit look good nobody cares if you wearing a wig or natural hair. Josh was completely right y’all do that to yourselves. No man has ever rejected a woman because she has natural hair or weave in her head
Most older women have told me from young that a guy has to be a little more interested for it to work so I never really ever focused on getting a guy.
I think the whole “bad boy” thing has more to do with the conditions we are raised in. Let’s be honest, most of the good looking guys are the “bad boys” because they were either brought up with the confidence that they’re so handsome,and he’s gonna be a heartbreaker (which they subconsciously become) OR they internalize the things they see other guys do around them to get many women vs having a girlfriend. Most guys can’t take rejection so they often go to other guys for help and that help usually consist of toxic advice for self- preservation.
As far as women being attracted to bad boys, I think it’s because they have the confidence in themselves that women admire. A man that can stand up in himself is always gonna win. And women also pay attention to the guys around her. If she has a good father 8/10 times she’ll get a good man, but when we don’t have one at all or low quality ones she’ll subconsciously seek out ones using society standards (which is low) so when she does get him into other shit she thinks she’s got him but she’s really just teaching him new tricks.
I simply loved this video, it was so funny, so chill, and so real. Reminded me why I love watching you guys been here since beauty and beau, love your growth🤎.
LMAO! that 🗣"YOU COULD DO BETTER" part ended me😭⚰💐
this video was HILARIOUS! I love yall energy for real!!!
I loooooooove this Josh 😂😂. Haven’t enjoyed a video like this in a while 👏🏽 👏🏽
Nah but I agree with everything he said except about to wig thing. Has anyone is this comment sections ever been on black Twitter like everrrrr. Black men stay talking abt what they do and don’t like black women to wear. A few years ago they were going on an tangent about how they don’t like when black girl wear braids. Then they went on about how they can see the grids on our lace fronts, then they went on about how they don’t like our natural hair. Black Women also bash each other black women about their looks but to act like black men don’t care abt what Black women do with their hair would be extremely false. Josh might not care or his friends might not care and thats good for him, however, there a lot black men and I mean a lot of black men who say they would even date a black woman if she wears her natural hair or they wouldn’t date a black woman that wear weaves. Even in my day to life I have men come up to me talkign abt how I need to get my nails done Bc my nails are nubs. A lot of men care wayyy too much abt what women got going on with their appearance. And then they turn asking and bash them for not loving themselves in their natural state. Girls, do you.
You’re judging an entire subgroup of men based off of some goofy niggas on social media. Put the phone down and go outside. The majority of black men do not care about that shit as long as you look good. Wig weave or natural it does not matter. What josh said is right y’all bash each other more than anybody when it comes to that shit.
Fucking love yall, keep makin that QUALITY 👌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
🤣🤣🤣the splinter analogy... I'm sorry...whaaaa?!
Lol I loved this! Y’all had me laughing the whole way through. Love y’all! 😂🥰
I started literally jumping so excitedly just from seeing this title and thumbnail lol! I love y'all #qualitycrew forever
Geez, I would be really happy if a guy were to come up to me and was really nice. I think it’s because those girls tends to get approach a lot. As for me, literally no one comes up to me lol.
I seen this somewhere (probably tik tok) a time ago a girl saying something along the lines of a high end brand store barely has clients and it's looked for the general public and why is that cause it's quality and not everyone can afford it (this was very ruffly explained)but I'm sure you're beautiful and a amazing person one day you will get a quality guy and don't be scared to make the 1st move if that's the case be confident people like that
@@filipa8626 I wish I wasn’t so shy 😔. But I really like your comment. Maybe one day
@@honeybee1795 you can always work on that just keep working and focus on you and loving yourself and im glad I could make you feel better!!
Me too! I have had a guy say oh your fat like that's gonna make me like him. His crazy I walked away and never talked to him again
@@shukosworld5754 as you should so disrespectful body shaming you
Issiiiii😭😭😂😂😂 not you going into detail and putting out his business and know to the T who he followed, ON READY! Like damn is you good sis😭😭😂😂👀 now you ain’t had to do him like that😂😂😂 10:20
I love the themed videos because they provide insight on things were all wondering. Our 20’s are spent learning and i learn something new every time i watch your videos
I’m glad someone brought up accountability for men towards their friends and other men…. I’ve been seeing a lot of men talk about women don’t like accountability but they don’t have that energy among themselves.
Men seem to have the mentality that they can’t tell another man what to do, but expect women to 😏
That’s really been grinding my gears lately lol they would never fix they lips to say anything to another man but they have so much shit to say about women and have the nerve to say female every time
@@giachristine9188 That’s those redpill guys 😩
I love when ISI WEAR THAT Cardigan it’s so soft I can tell.
I enjoyed this video from start to finish! 😂 Y’all always give QUALITY content!
Joshua… CLEAN AS YOU GO. When you’re done w something put it back, you spill something wipe it up
Men definitely be nitpicking about black women's hair in particular.
Honestly I don’t like the bad boy type I prefer the nice guy all day any day I do not want to change someone nor am I going to put my energy into changing someone I don’t have the time. There’s already a guy who vividly shows me he wants me but I’m going to go for the bad boy the one who’s going to put through stupid shit!? Nahhh I’m good give me my good guy.
Josh you didn’t have to snatch wig and expose my bald cap like that in this video 😂😂😂😂
I MISSED THESE !!
This might be my favorite josh and isi video ever!!!!
Josh: PAUSE🤚🏾🤚🏾🤚🏾….You don’t cook
Me:😟😫😱🤣🤣🤣
Part 2 please !!! I thoroughly enjoyed this. I thought it was hilarious and every answer was entertaining.
My favorite answer was to “why do guys get so upset when you remind them if something they need to do?”
This was my favorite Because I needed this answer in my life. From now on I’ll ask my man at the end of the day AFTER he’s forgotten to do something. I guess we should give him the chance to get to it first and don’t assume he’s forgotten or ignored it.
Oh I died at holding your friends accountable 🗣”YOU CAN DO BETTER!!!” 🤣
I know girls like that but I do not like that 😂💯. I used to get bullied in general so that being mean to me does not excite me. It is exciting to me when I’m being complimented and shown affection.💯🙂
On the being bold section. I’ve heard (& this is even from ppl who read the Bible) that Women seeking their partner or shooting their shot that it’s considered “thirsty” or chasing or something like that. And I was confused because I thought if we want something we should go after it/them. Why do we have to wait for a male to come after us? We may lose our chance if he even is too scared to speak up. No one has time for that.
Ever heard about Ruth in the Bible? She shot her shot! Her mother-in-law told her what to do. She shot and scored. Ended up being like Jesus' great grandmother.
So shoot for what you want!😁♥️
@@chukwuenyemblessing8433 interesting. I never heard of that story til now. I definitely appreciate you sharing. Some things we literally never find out from the Bible until way later.
10:44 mangggg🤣🤣🤣
pause you don’t cook broo 💀😂
thiss wass such a great videoo: pure laughter and keeping it real💙
Not the "pause...you don't cook" 😭 @12:41
looooool "Sometimes, I miss lotion" JOSH LOL did we not all witness queen Isi on hand and knee with your foot dem?!! *crying*
The ending where isi was hyping josh up was everything! Y’all are truly best friends and I love it
I actually never viewed the word simping like that. To me the word simping is not just exclusive to romantic relationships and simply means going above and beyond and giving all your energy to a relationship while the other party does nothing. For example, if every time you hang out with your friend you have to be the one to schedule and plan the whole outing as well as pay for everything while the other party never reaches out to you and never pays for themselves. This is an example of simping. Giving all your time and energy into a relationship where the other party gives nothing in return.
Josh told no lie. Loved the 100% honesty even though some were hard to accept 😅
a real man will hold his boys accountable if they're moving mad🤷🏿♀️
I told my guy friend that he was fake because lmao he didnt understand so i had to break it down lol
@@amiracrandon1258 yea it's kinda sad that they don't get it
Yep!!!! Josh is absolutely right… I had 2 babies with the “BAD BOY” and turned down the good guys due to the EXCITEMENT! However I do choose the good guys now… because I’ve grown up!!! But my children have suffered for years with their relationship with the bad boy daddy who still thinks he’s the ish, very narcissistic! So ladies DONT DO IT!!! Go with the great guys who can have a decent conversation and be a great dad!!! 🙏🏽☮️💟😊☀️🙏🏽
listen i just saw your video on refinery29, OMG i am so proud of you guy. been following Isi for like 5 years now then you started a channel together and you guys are hands down the best UA-cam couple i watch ( well you're the only because i hate the fake pranks) but i really stay for the wholesome content and knowledge you impart on us. ps i've been waiting on josh to recommend some financial literacy book but keep being you. Love it
Lmfaooo joshhh 🤣🤣🤣
He said “Dat asssssss” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Another Quality video aside....Isi was absolutely gorgeous!!! Sis is glowing! Love the hair!!
Josh went in this time!! But we needed to hear this, appreciate the honesty. And appreciate ISI’s secureness!
Quick little analogy to compare to the lion and gazelle thing lol. Not coming for anyone because it’s definitely a common train of thought but here’s another way to look at it. Unfortunately most of society thinks that way about getting into relationships but if you think about it, that mindset can come from a place of “using”. When you’re a lion hunting for prey, you don’t want to keep the thing you’re chasing, you want to consume it and use it. I think a different viewpoint more people should adopt is to be a “gardener”. You still have to go out and get your plants to garden, but once you have it you have to keep doing the things you did to make it grow. You also have to adapt with it. Maybe it doesn’t need the same things as when you first got it or maybe it needs a different environment, etc etc. I feel like that’s a really healthy change to the way of thinking about the process of getting and building of a relationship 😊🪴
I agree with josh about the wigs, the make up etc. I don’t wear make up are wigs but I know women who do. Some men really don’t care about that kind of stuff. It’s not nothing wrong with getting your hair done, makeup etc. Some women try to compete with other women to see who looks the best. Who have the best hair, clothes etc. I also agree with Josh when he was trying to paint us a picture with the animals. Only a Aquarius would understand, how I know because I am an Aquarius. They way he explained it I got it. Also y’all came along way. I’ve watched a lot of y’all older videos and y’all evolved so much as a couple. Y’all rock. Great content as always.
19:17 I'm crying with Josh's face lmao
This video is soooo entertaining
And yesss, I want a part 2 and 3 and 4
This was so funny! I was dying! I want to see a 2022 part 2 and another truth or drink.
As I’m transitioning into adulthood, I like the nice approach. I love a man that’s going to bring me flowers, tell me I’m beautiful, and express how he feels about me. I want to be clear that we are mutually into each other. I don’t want to change no grown ass man, he should’ve changed at his big age or he should at least knowledge particular habits (like not being forward and romantic) and actively work to change that. Or he’s simply not for me, and that’s okay too
😂😂😂 Yeah, Josh had tiimmmeee today!
I enjoy your channel so much. Love you guys!
This is so relatable!!!! Thank you Joshua for your input and Isi I love yall so much. 🥰😍😘😘
For some women when a man is “too into her” from the jump, yeah, it’s just not exciting. That comes from an area in their life they haven’t grown in yet.
For the rest of us, a guy being that into us from the very beginning can feel uncomfortable for another reason... We know that they don’t know us. Any attraction they’re feeling is LIKELY (not always) coming from a superficial place. Whatever persistence they exhibit in trying to get us to date them feels unprompted, weird, or just plain extra. Women like to know/ feel like you’re attracted to them for the right reasons and not just because you want an arm piece (or a piece of the arm piece you feel me?) .
Or she just don’t like you and there’s no use analyzing it 😂😂
Need more of this lol I love the honesty #2022energy
Don’t come for me… I f*ck with this Josh! 🤣😂 Lmao
I love y'all ❤️❤️😍 and the quality!
i love this transparency😂
the pause you don't cook cracked me up because she was silent after 😂🤣🤣🤣 im sorry y'all are funny