Thanks for the response video to his video. I, as a predominately cis dude, found this all very interesting and gave me some good perspective on being trans.
@@Mark-sd4hv”cis” is the same as “trans” as a label. If you need to know the difference, you use cis to refer to those “comfortable in sex” and trans for those who are transgender. It’s everyone’s language. It’s your language.
As a trans man, it’s so interesting hearing what cis people think and what they question. Often times, I forget that people don’t just “get it” like I do because they experience gender completely differently. Especially when it comes to my partner (who is cis) and has a hard time grasping at the concept. At the time when I was rediscovering my gender, after a long time of trying to conform, was actually when I wasn’t going out in society and wasn’t actively being perceived all the time. It’s very easy to just put the mask on and/or mimic the behaviors around me but when given the opportunity to be completely alone, I get to ask the questions I avoid: “well who am I actually?” And at least for me, I started to realize my people pleasing tendencies and do what was best for myself because when no one is around, that’s all you got. But there are things that I wouldn’t change if I wasn’t around people and that would be my voice and that’s usually what separates me from being a man from just looking like a butch and idk if I vibe with that :/
It’s so refreshing to see someone asking genuine questions about trans people without malicious intent. Tho its def not trans ppl’s jobs to have to explain themselves, I appreciate those that are comfortable with doing so. As a fellow trans person I enjoy the opportunity to get to share my experience too, but I’ve had so many negative encounters where people ask what at first seem like innocent questions but then quickly start trying to invalidate my gender. So this was def a breath of fresh air Also the whole theory that being in isolation can help u start to realize what truly makes *you* happy and not other people is so true for me too as I finally came to terms with the fact that i was trans during quarantine. That time away from the outside world let me be brave enough to start expressing my gender in a dif way too. My instinct was always to blend into the background and try to fit in as best as possible without actually thinking about what felt like *me* vs what society wanted. Since i hit puberty It was just like “welp i never feel comfortable but I guess that’s just what being a teenager is like” only for me to realize after i started being more myself how much more comfortable i could feel. There’s still like a lot of discomfort im yet to hopefully get rid of eventually but was def a big realization.
Thanks for the response video to his video. I, as a predominately cis dude, found this all very interesting and gave me some good perspective on being trans.
🤮 imagine using their language to other you because they can't accept who they are
@@Mark-sd4hv”cis” is the same as “trans” as a label. If you need to know the difference, you use cis to refer to those “comfortable in sex” and trans for those who are transgender. It’s everyone’s language. It’s your language.
As a trans man, it’s so interesting hearing what cis people think and what they question. Often times, I forget that people don’t just “get it” like I do because they experience gender completely differently. Especially when it comes to my partner (who is cis) and has a hard time grasping at the concept. At the time when I was rediscovering my gender, after a long time of trying to conform, was actually when I wasn’t going out in society and wasn’t actively being perceived all the time. It’s very easy to just put the mask on and/or mimic the behaviors around me but when given the opportunity to be completely alone, I get to ask the questions I avoid: “well who am I actually?” And at least for me, I started to realize my people pleasing tendencies and do what was best for myself because when no one is around, that’s all you got. But there are things that I wouldn’t change if I wasn’t around people and that would be my voice and that’s usually what separates me from being a man from just looking like a butch and idk if I vibe with that :/
It’s so refreshing to see someone asking genuine questions about trans people without malicious intent. Tho its def not trans ppl’s jobs to have to explain themselves, I appreciate those that are comfortable with doing so. As a fellow trans person I enjoy the opportunity to get to share my experience too, but I’ve had so many negative encounters where people ask what at first seem like innocent questions but then quickly start trying to invalidate my gender. So this was def a breath of fresh air
Also the whole theory that being in isolation can help u start to realize what truly makes *you* happy and not other people is so true for me too as I finally came to terms with the fact that i was trans during quarantine. That time away from the outside world let me be brave enough to start expressing my gender in a dif way too. My instinct was always to blend into the background and try to fit in as best as possible without actually thinking about what felt like *me* vs what society wanted. Since i hit puberty It was just like “welp i never feel comfortable but I guess that’s just what being a teenager is like” only for me to realize after i started being more myself how much more comfortable i could feel. There’s still like a lot of discomfort im yet to hopefully get rid of eventually but was def a big realization.
I hope TDD responds, but in the mean time, he has said that he is bisexual, so it is presumable he's experienced negative societal pressure.