I had a neighbor like her. When husband passed, she told me, outside on the church steps, that she felt like a bird that had been set free. She has lived happily for the past 20 years.
What a harrowing sad story. I’m glad things are changing and that if you are being abused there are help lines to get away from an abusive person. The one thing to remember is if you decide to leave, don’t tell the abuser, leave when they’re not around. Get someone or the police to come and take you to safety. Abuse never ends, you can tell yourself that things will change but they don’t , and it’s detrimental to your kids and family if you allow it to continue. I’m so glad that her husband is gone and she is living a life that she should have lived years before. Very brave of all who spoke on the vlog and I feel especially sorry for her son who was obviously traumatised by his childhood and tried to switch it off as an adult. So glad he was given a voice. Well done xx 😘
I'm at a loss for words. I've been in abusive relationships and it is so much more common than people know. I'll never, ever understand treating people with anger, hatred or abuse? I'm so THANKFUL she is FREE and finding some JOY in life.
@@lindav1189 “There by the grace of God, go I.” Unless you have been abused and brutalized you must not judge. This dear man was abused from the time he was born… please pray for him and his mother.
I know just what she was going through ,I had the same thing ,my husband was interviewed over the murder of a girl which I didn’t know about until he was dead and we we’re divorced,you can’t explain what it’s like unless you’ve been through it . And when you get out it’s a dream ,I’m now 80 and have been married again to a lovely man who has sadly passed away ,So Pat live the rest of your life in a beautiful dream with the love you deserve from your friends and family 🥰🥰🥰
These stories are hard to hear but very important for those who are in abusive situations and feel afraid to leave. Its great there are good souls who support the abused. We all need to be heard and to be validated. God help all these poor souls who suffer such terror. Its so evil. God bless these poor people and those who help them.
WHEWWWWW THANK GOD!! I felt anxiety and fear just LISTENING to this story. I was scared of what the son would say next!!! That father was demonic!!!! So happy that Mom is DOING WELL and has recovered her life back. What an ORDEAL for her and the family. WOW. 😱
So on a daily basis you were getting all of this husband’s self hatred. Because in the end that’s what he needed his family to become. His scapegoat for his self hatred and guilt.
Pat, im so happy for you and I wish you all the best for the rest of your life. It takes a strong person to endure what you have. The bullies and crazies of the world always prey on the sweet people. Thank God you got relief.❤
Oh, I would have dealt with him immediately! No way on this side of Hell, would he have done that to my mother or sisters without my unbridled justice being inflicted. It would be his last day on this planet in an upright position. I have a special recipe of anger against those rotten sob's. Leeann
He acknowledged that - even he looking back understands on one level - yet on another, the fear drilled into him as a child, , , On some subconscious level, he probably believe T and his mother deserved the miss treatment. I think the lovely thing is how much support he’s giving his mother now.
As a Social Worker, I can tell you there are so many levels, nuances, and psychological effects that go along with being in an abusive relationship that affects how a person deals with leaving a parent with their abuser. A woman leaves on an average of eight times before she leaves for good. Leaving their abuser is also the most dangerous time for a woman. It is the time when she is most likely to be murdered.
I can’t believe the things that poor woman had to go through. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment I’ve never been in a situation like that but I have heard many different stories, and even little children will try to protect their mother and I’m sure the son was living in fear too, but how was he able to sit there day after day after day seeing your mother being treated that way and he never did anything???
It's a construct where the whole family feels trapped and powerless! Learned as a child! Where were the police who are actually paid to protect it's citizens?
Why didn't the son do anything when he became an adult. My son is a state trooper and I couldn't imagine he would let his father beat me without stepping in and either giving him a good beating or having him arrested. This son just went on with his life while he knew his mom was being beaten.
Geez it's not always easy for anyone, have some compassion. My father was a law officer and beat my mom and other family members. It's an awful situation for all concerned. Always one person who has to misjudge and think what should have been done.
The son didn’t step in because he was in such fear of a man that terrorized his family his whole life. Unless you have lived this life you will never understand why
So her son was a police officer while she was still being battered and abused and he was “hoping that his mom wasn’t being abused.” Really? HE’S A COP! With a gun! He was trained on how to handle bad people and he left his mother there to suffer. I know I’m being judgmental, but my mom went through that too with 6 kids in the house. And my brother, the only boy, was 5 years old and he would jump on my father’s back to try to stop him from pounding my mom into a grease spot. Yeah, dad shook him off like he was a pesky fly, but at least he tried. I could see guilt all over his face. Yeah, good. She had to save herself when her son had the ability to do something. Smh
The son was a coward. He was a policeman who allowed horrific abuse to continue to be put upon her because he did not want to be embarrassed himself, and in the end, everyone knows everything anyway. She could have had so much more life if only he’d not been such a coward and waited for his father to kill himself instead of handling it like a man, and police officer, should.
So, so sad, someone didn’t put a bullet in him, years before !!!! I grew up in a alcoholic battlefield between my parents. My father drank and my mother was the instigator, always ready for a fight and I tried to be the referee 😢
May he rest in peace with our Lord and savior Jesus Christ. Eternally in heaven. Love is light and hate is darkness. May God and his angels worked on him in the afterlife.
I had a neighbor like her. When husband passed, she told me, outside on the church steps, that she felt like a bird that had been set free. She has lived happily for the past 20 years.
He finally made the right decision👍
Hopefully he can't rest in peace.
This is so sad. Im sorry all of you had to go through life living this way. I hope you are all living in peace now. 💜💜💜💜💜
What a harrowing sad story. I’m glad things are changing and that if you are being abused there are help lines to get away from an abusive person. The one thing to remember is if you decide to leave, don’t tell the abuser, leave when they’re not around. Get someone or the police to come and take you to safety. Abuse never ends, you can tell yourself that things will change but they don’t , and it’s detrimental to your kids and family if you allow it to continue. I’m so glad that her husband is gone and she is living a life that she should have lived years before.
Very brave of all who spoke on the vlog and I feel especially sorry for her son who was obviously traumatised by his childhood and tried to switch it off as an adult. So glad he was given a voice. Well done xx 😘
I'm at a loss for words. I've been in abusive relationships and it is so much more common than people know. I'll never, ever understand treating people with anger, hatred or abuse?
I'm so THANKFUL she is FREE and finding some JOY in life.
I'm so happy for her and her son. I hope she enjoys every moment of her life going forward.
Her son should have rescued her. He abandoned her and was a cop.
@@lindav1189 “There by the grace of God, go I.”
Unless you have been abused and brutalized you must not judge. This dear man was abused from the time he was born… please pray for him and his mother.
I’m so pleased she is free from that wicked, wicked man.
Freedom is the essence of life!!! Blessings to all the survivors of everything!
I know just what she was going through ,I had the same thing ,my husband was interviewed over the murder of a girl which I didn’t know about until he was dead and we we’re divorced,you can’t explain what it’s like unless you’ve been through it . And when you get out it’s a dream ,I’m now 80 and have been married again to a lovely man who has sadly passed away ,So Pat live the rest of your life in a beautiful dream with the love you deserve from your friends and family 🥰🥰🥰
These stories are hard to hear but very important for those who are in abusive situations and feel afraid to leave. Its great there are good souls who support the abused. We all need to be heard and to be validated. God help all these poor souls who suffer such terror. Its so evil. God bless these poor people and those who help them.
Amen in Jesus name🙏🏾
He was a classic narcissistic psychopath.
WHEWWWWW THANK GOD!! I felt anxiety and fear just LISTENING to this story. I was scared of what the son would say next!!! That father was demonic!!!! So happy that Mom is DOING WELL and has recovered her life back. What an ORDEAL for her and the family. WOW. 😱
So on a daily basis you were getting all of this husband’s self hatred. Because in the end that’s what he needed his family to become. His scapegoat for his self hatred and guilt.
Wow what a painful journey for Pat & her family. Too bad he couldn’t have taken care of himself earlier.
I'm so happy for her. Been there but not that violent. God bless you dear sister.
What a sorry son, grew up to be a cop and didn't help her. What a pos
So glad you're happy again pat best wishes for the rest of your life ❤
God bless all who came to her aid and cared for her.
Another narcissist with the usual rages. So happy she is now out of that abuse and her son has a good life too.
Her son? He leaves her, becomes a cop, but doesn't rescue her
God bless you Pat, proof that an embattled soul shall always smile 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
That coy smile she had after her fuzzy navel story warmed my heart ❤and made me feel so happy for her.
Pat, im so happy for you and I wish you all the best for the rest of your life. It takes a strong person to endure what you have. The bullies and crazies of the world always prey on the sweet people. Thank God you got relief.❤
I understand your relief!
I only watch the first minute of this, and it triggered me.
I have no words
Oh, I would have dealt with him immediately! No way on this side of Hell, would he have done that to my mother or sisters without my unbridled justice being inflicted. It would be his last day on this planet in an upright position. I have a special recipe of anger against those rotten sob's. Leeann
I can't believe the son, a COP, just leaves his mother with her abuser and goes on with his life.
Repression is a horrible thing. They both, mother and son, had a lot of healing to do.
He acknowledged that - even he looking back understands on one level - yet on another, the fear drilled into him as a child, , ,
On some subconscious level, he probably believe T and his mother deserved the miss treatment. I think the lovely thing is how much support he’s giving his mother now.
You most likely don't know what its like to grow up in an abusive household, that fear stays with you even as a grown man. Don't blame the victims
You do what is best for your survival.
If it is unsafe to hit back you don't hit back ...
They are usually stronger
As a Social Worker, I can tell you there are so many levels, nuances, and psychological effects that go along with being in an abusive relationship that affects how a person deals with leaving a parent with their abuser. A woman leaves on an average of eight times before she leaves for good. Leaving their abuser is also the most dangerous time for a woman. It is the time when she is most likely to be murdered.
I hope you sued the social worker or at least reported them for HIPPA violations.
Very glad she is free ❤
I can’t believe the things that poor woman had to go through. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment I’ve never been in a situation like that but I have heard many different stories, and even little children will try to protect their mother and I’m sure the son was living in fear too, but how was he able to sit there day after day after day seeing your mother being treated that way and he never did anything???
It's a construct where the whole family feels trapped and powerless! Learned as a child! Where were the police who are actually paid to protect it's citizens?
Surely something should have been done well before the bully ended it. Disgusting no one helped all those years of abuse😞
Why didn't the son do anything when he became an adult. My son is a state trooper and I couldn't imagine he would let his father beat me without stepping in and either giving him a good beating or having him arrested. This son just went on with his life while he knew his mom was being beaten.
Geez it's not always easy for anyone, have some compassion. My father was a law officer and beat my mom and other family members. It's an awful situation for all concerned. Always one person who has to misjudge and think what should have been done.
The son didn’t step in because he was in such fear of a man that terrorized his family his whole life. Unless you have lived this life you will never understand why
Your son was not raised with abuse, though, was he? It's different for a child with abusive parents.
I wonder what he’s thinking now, while he’s in hell?
He done the world a favour 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉God Bless ❤❤❤
50 years 😢
I’m so glad she was finally free, but I think her family should’ve stepped in and helped her especially her son the cop, why? Why?
I grew up just like that minus the suicide..😢 it effected me more than I realized…
Why stay! For that long?
So her son was a police officer while she was still being battered and abused and he was “hoping that his mom wasn’t being abused.” Really? HE’S A COP! With a gun! He was trained on how to handle bad people and he left his mother there to suffer. I know I’m being judgmental, but my mom went through that too with 6 kids in the house. And my brother, the only boy, was 5 years old and he would jump on my father’s back to try to stop him from pounding my mom into a grease spot. Yeah, dad shook him off like he was a pesky fly, but at least he tried. I could see guilt all over his face. Yeah, good. She had to save herself when her son had the ability to do something. Smh
Thanks be to God however speaking out early saves
What a horrible husband.
🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
Surprised no one sh** him 👿
The son was a coward. He was a policeman who allowed horrific abuse to continue to be put upon her because he did not want to be embarrassed himself, and in the end, everyone knows everything anyway. She could have had so much more life if only he’d not been such a coward and waited for his father to kill himself instead of handling it like a man, and police officer, should.
Clearly he is psychologically damaged into passivity from watching this abuse. He was not hit it seems. But he was broken.
I’m very curious what went on with her husband’s past to generate such monstrous behavior and to such a degree.
Someone convinced him he was worthless. Perhaps he was also physically abused.
@@LoveMusic-pd5iz
No excuses, you have to take responsibility for what you have done
No, you have to take responsibility for your bad behaviour
So, so sad, someone didn’t put a bullet in him, years before !!!! I grew up in a alcoholic battlefield between my parents. My father drank and my mother was the instigator, always ready for a fight and I tried to be the referee 😢
Why are people blaming her son 🙄 his mother chose to stay with her abuser until the end. He suffered since he was little.
May he rest in peace with our Lord and savior Jesus Christ. Eternally in heaven. Love is light and hate is darkness. May God and his angels worked on him in the afterlife.
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I doubt very much that he's in heaven. More likely roasting in Hell for eternity, where he belongs.
May HE. Rest in peace. No HE is in hell where HE belongs. And I hope he is getting everything HE gave to her and so much more.
Read your bible …no word on God working with people on the after life.