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The part when you said ‘having breasts when you’re a man is incredibly distressing’ just really hit home with me for some reason. No idea why that particular phase, but thanks for sharing! I had my top surgery in March and it’s just the best thing ever! I have dog ears that I’m getting revised at some point but like you say, that’s nothing compared to being pre op! Much love mate.
Yes indeed, I think it can often be hard for folks who arent trans, to understand why people would 'want' surgery, but when its framed in the way that, having breats as a man is distressing, it makes far more sense to people. Congrats on your top surgery too! Thank you so much for your lovely comment and for watching!
Looks so amazing! So happy for you! I finally had my first meeting with a doctor to get me started on transitioning and get me on the top surgery list.
I love your videos and your complete honesty about your transition and everything that has happened with it. I am 56 years old and have always known I was was in the wrong body. But, when I was growing up, I was just called a “tomboy” and that was that. Being transgendered was not even in anyone’s vocabulary. At my age, I feel like I’m too old to begin the transition, plus I live in a very conservative area, and I don’t know if I have the internal strength to begin. Anyway, I love watching your videos, they give me so much joy that you have made the journey so well. Thanks for showing everyone that being transgendered is not a “defect”, but only one part of the wonderful human tapestry that’s woven every day. 😊
Thank you so much for your kind comments, and for sharing so honestly with me. I can really relate, I grew up thinking that my only option was to be a tomboy, it wasnt until I was 37, when being transgender started to become more openly talked about, that I realised I was transgender and found the courage to transition. I can really understand how it feels like its too late, but even at 56, it isnt too late, I know of people even older than you that have transitioned. It does take courage and strength, but then so does trying to survive as someone you arent. I do offer coaching and mentoring, helping people to work through gender questioning and transition, so if you ever fancy a chat, please do pop me a message. finlaygames.com/mentoring-and-coaching/
@@FinnTheInfinncible Thank you so much! My wife is fully supporting me if I decide to transition, we have talked at length about it over the last year. So, I have her in my corner. 🙂 I just need to work on my courage to begin, I may take you up on your offer. Stay safe!
I subscribe& enjoy your posts. You just helped me tonight! Be hating on one side of my chest post op. You just helped me feel better that I'm not deformed or something. Hahaha! It's common so that helped. Also your comment on weight gain. Dammit man! It just won't quit! I'm disabled so excersize is challenging. But I live by the mantra #NEVERGIVEUP Bless you & keep doin what your doin because some of us out here really benefit from what you share. Thanks!
I am so glad to hear that this video helped! Yes, having bits of our body that are not quite right, is a very human experience! Remembering that, really does help us to move into aceptance. And as for the weight, it is a constant battle for me too! When we have limitations, we must just be gentle with ourselves and remind ourselves that we are doing the best we can. Thank you for your lovely comments!
First off, I can not believe I have been watching your channel for more than 4 years. I can’t remember if you had top prior or after I started watching you. I’ll be 4 years post top December 21st. I’m getting phallo stage 1 in 77 days:) Congrats on 7 years:) That is so awesome:)
Yay! I love that you have been travelling with me for so long! Thanks for watching and sharing! Congrats on 4 years post top, and how incredibly exciting about lower surgery! How do you feel? Are you prepared?
I had top surgery 5 weeks ago. Still healing and getting use to my body. I've watched loads of reveal videos and when I didn't seem to have the same ecstatic reaction I felt like the odd man out. I'm happy they're gone but not jumping for joy either. It's been a journey and I'm not 100% comfortable touching it yet but I'm guessing that will come with time. I am very appreciative of your videos, I hope to have lower surgery next year so will definitely be watching your videos when the time approaches. Thank you for sharing
Congrats on your surgery! How you feel isnt unusual at all. I think we spend so much time fighting dysphoria that once we have top surgery we are exhausted from it and it can leave us post op feeling quite flat in mood. I certainly experienced this at times post op. I also found myself having to get used to the new way my chest looked, the shape, the nipples sticking out, it all looked so different to the way it looked with a binder. It took time to really settle in so I'd say dont worry that your reaction is different. Let me know if l can be of any help re lower surgery. Thanks for your lovely comment and for sharing your experience with me.
It's crazy to think it'll be 5 years in January since my top surgery. It doesn't seem like that long ago. And yeah, any excuse to take my shirt off. lol
This was the perfect video for me to see today: the day I hit my weight target to arrange a surgery date with Mr Yelland after my consultation last month. Your gratitude for the freedom to surgery can provide is great to see. Thanks
Ah Tadge that is such great news to hear! I am so pleased for you! And yes, it will be so worth the wait my friend! Missed you around the flock club, hope you are doing OK!
Beautiful video! I had top surgery two months ago and have struggled a lot with the imperfections, healing and asymmetry after a hematoma evacuation of the right breast post op.. Thank you for the reminder that no chest is perfect.
I am very glad this video helped. It is a journey post op, as we adapt to our new chests and to our own expectations. Focusing on the Joy's, the positives, is what helped me to embrace the scars and the lumps and bumps and come to love this beautifully imperfect perfect chest!
I have to wait 2 years for even getting on testosterone ! So still in a female body and waiting with patience , but these vids make me feel like there is an end at the tunnel and thx for being such a positive man !! Your chest looks perfect to me ! 😉
Bless you! The wait is hell l know, but there is indeed a very bright light atbthe end of the tunnel and you will be bathed in it before you know it! And remember, you already have a male body, because you are male!
@@FinnTheInfinncible ❤️ aye so grateful for your response ! I’m 44 years old and can wait a little longer ! Married to my beautiful wife who does take me as I’m ! You’re an inspiration alright ! Your positivity is just that !! Thx you so much and have a wonderful Xmas be safe 😘
I couldn't help but put my hand on my chest while you were talking about the euphoria we get once we've had the surgery, and I welled up. You're so right in that such seemingly normal things like changing rooms and gyms are so hard for us normally with the wrong chest, and they are taken for granted. I'm nearly 2 years post op. Congrats on 7!
Oh buddy! Yes, I often get quite emotional when I reflect like this, , the pure joy and euphoria of my hand on my flat chest, magical! And 2 years for you, amazing!!!
My respect for you grows with your every video, Finn. I love how you have found a way to be steady and present, even when the wind’s against you (as it so often seems to be for all of us). A bit of belly is a manly midlife passage. I am sure you will meet it steadily and kindly.
What a lovely comment, thank you so.much! Yes, being steady with life is a lovely way to put it. I stopped fighting, learned to take life on lifes terms, and that absolutely transformed my life! As for the belly, well it's all part of being a middle aged man, and one that loves icecream, but lm ok with that!
Your videos are so great! I started watching cos I have a transgender nephew and I wanted to just increase my education but, coincidentally, I am also a cis woman who has big boobs and hates them, has always hated them. I I had a breast reduction 20 years ago and the only regret I have is that 1) I didn't have enough money to do it at age 18, 2) I couldn't convince the surgeon to make them even smaller. So many of the things you say about how you feel after your surgery are similar to my experience; the only difference is the gender element of the body disphoria. Most people (including the surgeon in preliminary appointments) think I did it for cosmetic reasons or to resolve back/neck pain but it was really about disphoria and discomfort in activities. My scars also settled down after a few years. I also have little lump/bump in the cut under both arms which have become larger as I've put on weight. I also loved being able to be closer to people when I hug (heck, even sit closer to tables), being able to lay my arms flatter in front of me when I fold my arms, and buy clothes that fit instead of the froufy clothes that fit over big boobs but don't fit my self image at all. I loved being able to do sports more comfortably (I've always been very sporty, but now I do it with less interference from boobs). I don't feel that I am male but I also hate having boobs and it has been distressing since I was about 13. I always hated, STILL get really upset, by people who imply that I love having big boobs or that they're somehow an advantage to me. I HATE them and would do the operation again in a heartbeat.
How lovely you are to want to support your nephew! Thank you for your kind words, and for sharing so honestly with me about your own struggles. Yes, dysphoria is not just limited to trans people. There are many people like you who's gender identiy is consistent to the one assigned at birth, but struggle with their gender presentation. I am glad to hear you found a solution and your own version of body freedom! Oh and l can relate to the even sitting near people! I used to be so hyper vigilant about anyone being anywhere near me, in case a part of them brushed against anywhere even near my chest! Folks cant comprehend how incredible it is to be free of this worry can they!
Hi Finn - I really hope that I find the same freedoms you have in my own skin when I have top surgery. To be perfectly truthful like you I just want what I have off of my body - I remember when I went for my top surgery consultion back in March and the surgeon asked me "What do you hope to gain from this surgery?" I said to her "I want what I have on me, off of me because They cause me so much stress and upset." and she said thats what she'll do. Now I can't fault the Manchester team because they've agreed to remove the loose skin at the sides of my chest and you know what? I really thought i'd have to go and get that gone myself but no their doing for me. Seeing you're reveal video and how emoional you were just made me cry and feel so happy and proud for you.
Oh buddy, I cannot waut to celebrate your freedom with you! How wonderful that they are going to remove the skin too! And yes, exactly the same for me, I didnt even care about how it would look really, I just wanted to get rid of the lumps that shouldnt have been there! For my chest to look so great, for my body to feel so free, and for all the other amazing ways it has changed life, I am so grateful! The reveal was the most surreal experience in the world! Much love to you fella!
@@FinnTheInfinncible Yeah it is wonderful and I was completely shocked when she said it to me but I was over the moon as well. I've opted against nipples though in case i'm not at my ideal weight for surgery - say If i were too lose more weight post surgery and my chest didn't falling into place as it where and I'd need more surgery at later date I don't want to put myself through healing of nippes that I might lose later on down the line!
Omg I've missed so much taking a break from the interwebs.... You are looking great. Your such an amazing role model, I send all the happy feels your way. Thanks for always being you!
It’s not just trans people you’re helping with these videos. As a cis man, I take a lot of confidence from these regarding my own imperfect body. It’s a great reminder to realise how blessed I am not to suffer with gender dysphoria and not needing corrective surgery. Did you get any more stuff done on language? You mentioned in a video you might look at that with your partner.
Bless you Ed thank you for that, it's really good to know that my content is far reaching because I really do believe what I talk about is universal. And yes, we do plan to do a language video at some point. 😊
Wonderful to see the changes over the years Finn! I remember that clip of your chest reveal, when the surgeon picked up the tweezers to remove the stitches and told you 'Don't worry, this won't hurt me one bit' LOL
I love this so much. Allot of it resonated in me and really affirms my own feelings about my chest. Thank you for your channel! Always puts me in a good mood after watching. 🌞
Hi Finn. It is so exhilarating to see you happy and joyous and free after having Top surgery. Being a Cis woman I cannot imagine what being a man feels like. But when I watch you I am so thrilled for you that you can celebrate your body now. I have a question for you. How long were you on testosterone before you had your top surgery? I want you to know I was so excited when I saw in my notifications that you had uploaded a video. I love your energy. I feel so much acceptance just watching you talk and express your thoughts and feelings. Thank you for being the man that you are. You are such a wonderful human being.
What an absolutely beautiful comment, thank you so very much for being so kind. I love that you were excited to see an upload! To answer your question, I had been on testosterone for almost 8 months when I had top surgery. I was lucky at the time that waiting lists for top surgery were far shorter than they are now.
I love the whole slow motion semi-strip reveal, you're so wonderful Finn! I haven't had a genuine laugh in quite some time, thank you so much for that! 🤩🥰 I wish I could have saved nipple sensation, but I had a prior reduction surgery that left my nipples un-saveable except for "just decoration" but I also do NOT miss them getting so erect that they would pinch of the blood flow to themselves and turn white, and also it was PAINFUL! I'm curious to know how our bodies know where the new ones went, and how it knows to grow our new chest hair around the right places lol! Just as another note, I started looking up men's chests just out of curiosity to see if they were "perfect" from my perspective, and, as I started thinking "Would I like this chest if it was MINE" I started noticing flaws in even their chests, and that made me feel better knowing that my chest after surgery is just another unique chest, and it's MINE! Just as your chest is yours, to me, your chest turned out just fine! 👍 I turned out to have more back hair than chest hair, I truly was NOT expecting that haha! Oh wow, I thought I was the only one who was self conscious before top surgery, I even had my best friend TELL me one time "As long as our boobs don't touch" for hugs 😭😱 Talk about feeling dysphoria after that. Now I can hug her and she doesn't push back or passively resist the full bear hug you speak of! It's amazing how much of a difference that can make even emotionally, let alone physically and mentally. Most definitely, the wind through chest hair is such a wonderful feeling! My partner is a bit of a (I don't even know the word!) Prude? He won't even go shirtless at HOME! It's so weird. (We don't live together because I just couldn't handle it unfortunately, after my top surgery and starting T we've grown apart a bit more) My observation is that you have more of a full pectoral muscle, did you work on that to develop it a bit? I seem to only have the top part bulked up, but the lower part is completely indented? 🤔 Do/did you lift weights or do any top exercises to increase the awesome pecs you have? Love you Finn! Today in Minnesota we had freezing rain and sleet, and now it's foggy and -1C (I think I got that right... it's 30 degrees here lol! 😅🤪😁) Happy Thanksgiving if you celebrate that over there! Stay safe my friends! Give Chris a hug from someone living across the pond!
Haha! I am glad you enjoyed the comedy strip! Had to be done! Chris burst into the lounge after work, having seen it, and called me a tart 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Your nipples sound like a relief to be gone! It's funny, l was told I would not be able to feel.my nipples but l can, and l have full erotic sensation in them! As for my pecs. I have to be sickeningly honest and say that l am blessed naturally with a muscular body without having to put in much effort! I was the same pre t and post t l bulked more., but did hardly any more exercise! I do some basic weights at home with dumbbells, and some cardio, but that's it! I do also have a dip in my chest, called a pectus excavatom, which helps to accentuate my pecs! Love to you my dear friend, from us three!
Finn if you go to a gym ,then you know there is nothing wrong with your chest ! The best clip is of you ripping off your shirt a dancing at the concert . You are s good dancer . Cheers !
Aw thank you! Yes lm perfectly happy with my chest, I only critique it to show that loving your body doesnt mean its 'perfect' (not that that even exists!) But that you love your body with all its imperfections included....because that what's human!
It would be really cool for your 8 year update, to meet up with some younger trans masc. UA-camrs, and discuss how your top surgery experiences were different depending on when you got them. Jamie Dodger and NoahFince some like this, they are both UK based.
Well hello and congratulations! Thanks for your kind comments! I have a blog with lots of scar care treatment I shall link it here 👉finlaygames.com/reduce-scars-top-surgery/
I was just thinking how amazing and perfect your nipples looked when you said you thought they were big. It’s funny how we all have these little insecurities that other people love or even wish they had themselves. We need to celebrate our uniqueness. I’m so glad you’re happy and love your chest 😊🥰
Yes we do indeed! Body quirks are what make them beautiful! I love my nipples now, but l think l needed time to get used to my new chest and to accept my own idea of what good enough meant, as l had no idea really what a male chest should look like....then l remembered that l am a man and so my chest is exactly how it should look...if that makes sense! Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful words, and for watching!
Fin you look incredible thanks for sharing your videos as none trans gay man I have learnt a lot to support trans friends and work colleagues and as LGBTQ Staff Network Co-Chair at barts health NHS Trust I thank you for helping to me understand ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍💗💙🤍🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
What a lovely comment to find! I love when my videos help in this way! If you ever need a speaker, please do give me a shout finlaygames.com/public-speaking/
His is the biggest or one of the biggest areas of my disphoria. I am ashamed today for the thoughts I had as a young teen until early adulthood. I wore a coat in class from 4th grade on to hide my chest. My teachers actually had a session with my parents to get me to remove my jacket in class. It was 95 degrees and I wouldn't remove it. I got my monthly in 4th grade also. For those that don't realize I was barely 10 ys old. This is the part that shames me even though I meant nothing toward anyone else and it's how a child's mind works I hoped I would get great cancer. That's what they were time and the only wayiknew to get rid of them. I was 100% tomboy and all of a sudden the boys saw me in a dif light. They didnt want to play with a girl who had boobies. This crushed me. I started contemplating suicide at 10 ys old because I developed extremely early. In grade 4 I had to wear a bra and got my monthly. Those things usually happen between grade 7 to 10 or even grade 12. I cut my wrists every day for 9 years. I never had the guts to finish it but I'm glad today. They are still 2 strange lumps of fat only chest but I'll be with them.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry you went through all that. It's such a difficult experience to have your body cause so much pain and distress.itsceven harder to get to the bottom of why and what to do about it. For some people it might be about developing body acceptance and confidence, for others it's the realisation that they are trans and need to transition. I am glad you found the right solution for yourself.
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Love how every year you seem more confident and more comfortable in your body
Ah yes indeed! I love that too! Thank you so much for watching!
The part when you said ‘having breasts when you’re a man is incredibly distressing’ just really hit home with me for some reason. No idea why that particular phase, but thanks for sharing! I had my top surgery in March and it’s just the best thing ever! I have dog ears that I’m getting revised at some point but like you say, that’s nothing compared to being pre op! Much love mate.
Yes indeed, I think it can often be hard for folks who arent trans, to understand why people would 'want' surgery, but when its framed in the way that, having breats as a man is distressing, it makes far more sense to people. Congrats on your top surgery too! Thank you so much for your lovely comment and for watching!
Finn!! Looking good!!
Thank you so much!
Looks so amazing! So happy for you! I finally had my first meeting with a doctor to get me started on transitioning and get me on the top surgery list.
Amazing news my friend, congrats!
I love your videos and your complete honesty about your transition and everything that has happened with it. I am 56 years old and have always known I was was in the wrong body. But, when I was growing up, I was just called a “tomboy” and that was that. Being transgendered was not even in anyone’s vocabulary. At my age, I feel like I’m too old to begin the transition, plus I live in a very conservative area, and I don’t know if I have the internal strength to begin. Anyway, I love watching your videos, they give me so much joy that you have made the journey so well. Thanks for showing everyone that being transgendered is not a “defect”, but only one part of the wonderful human tapestry that’s woven every day. 😊
Thank you so much for your kind comments, and for sharing so honestly with me. I can really relate, I grew up thinking that my only option was to be a tomboy, it wasnt until I was 37, when being transgender started to become more openly talked about, that I realised I was transgender and found the courage to transition. I can really understand how it feels like its too late, but even at 56, it isnt too late, I know of people even older than you that have transitioned. It does take courage and strength, but then so does trying to survive as someone you arent. I do offer coaching and mentoring, helping people to work through gender questioning and transition, so if you ever fancy a chat, please do pop me a message. finlaygames.com/mentoring-and-coaching/
@@FinnTheInfinncible Thank you so much! My wife is fully supporting me if I decide to transition, we have talked at length about it over the last year. So, I have her in my corner. 🙂 I just need to work on my courage to begin, I may take you up on your offer. Stay safe!
I subscribe& enjoy your posts. You just helped me tonight! Be hating on one side of my chest post op. You just helped me feel better that I'm not deformed or something. Hahaha! It's common so that helped. Also your comment on weight gain. Dammit man! It just won't quit! I'm disabled so excersize is challenging. But I live by the mantra #NEVERGIVEUP Bless you & keep doin what your doin because some of us out here really benefit from what you share. Thanks!
I am so glad to hear that this video helped! Yes, having bits of our body that are not quite right, is a very human experience! Remembering that, really does help us to move into aceptance. And as for the weight, it is a constant battle for me too! When we have limitations, we must just be gentle with ourselves and remind ourselves that we are doing the best we can. Thank you for your lovely comments!
First off, I can not believe I have been watching your channel for more than 4 years. I can’t remember if you had top prior or after I started watching you. I’ll be 4 years post top December 21st. I’m getting phallo stage 1 in 77 days:) Congrats on 7 years:) That is so awesome:)
Yay! I love that you have been travelling with me for so long! Thanks for watching and sharing!
Congrats on 4 years post top, and how incredibly exciting about lower surgery! How do you feel? Are you prepared?
I had top surgery 5 weeks ago. Still healing and getting use to my body. I've watched loads of reveal videos and when I didn't seem to have the same ecstatic reaction I felt like the odd man out. I'm happy they're gone but not jumping for joy either. It's been a journey and I'm not 100% comfortable touching it yet but I'm guessing that will come with time. I am very appreciative of your videos, I hope to have lower surgery next year so will definitely be watching your videos when the time approaches. Thank you for sharing
Congrats on your surgery! How you feel isnt unusual at all. I think we spend so much time fighting dysphoria that once we have top surgery we are exhausted from it and it can leave us post op feeling quite flat in mood. I certainly experienced this at times post op. I also found myself having to get used to the new way my chest looked, the shape, the nipples sticking out, it all looked so different to the way it looked with a binder. It took time to really settle in so I'd say dont worry that your reaction is different. Let me know if l can be of any help re lower surgery. Thanks for your lovely comment and for sharing your experience with me.
It's crazy to think it'll be 5 years in January since my top surgery. It doesn't seem like that long ago. And yeah, any excuse to take my shirt off. lol
Wow! That has gone fact too! Isnt nakedness wonderful!!!
@@FinnTheInfinncible Yes, yes it is! 😁
Looking amazing go you! You have smashed this its amazing to see how you have progressed🤗
Aw thanks Liz!
@@FinnTheInfinncible you're very welcome xx
This was the perfect video for me to see today: the day I hit my weight target to arrange a surgery date with Mr Yelland after my consultation last month. Your gratitude for the freedom to surgery can provide is great to see. Thanks
Ah Tadge that is such great news to hear! I am so pleased for you! And yes, it will be so worth the wait my friend! Missed you around the flock club, hope you are doing OK!
Beautiful video! I had top surgery two months ago and have struggled a lot with the imperfections, healing and asymmetry after a hematoma evacuation of the right breast post op.. Thank you for the reminder that no chest is perfect.
I am very glad this video helped. It is a journey post op, as we adapt to our new chests and to our own expectations. Focusing on the Joy's, the positives, is what helped me to embrace the scars and the lumps and bumps and come to love this beautifully imperfect perfect chest!
I have to wait 2 years for even getting on testosterone ! So still in a female body and waiting with patience , but these vids make me feel like there is an end at the tunnel and thx for being such a positive man !! Your chest looks perfect to me ! 😉
Bless you! The wait is hell l know, but there is indeed a very bright light atbthe end of the tunnel and you will be bathed in it before you know it! And remember, you already have a male body, because you are male!
@@FinnTheInfinncible ❤️ aye so grateful for your response ! I’m 44 years old and can wait a little longer ! Married to my beautiful wife who does take me as I’m ! You’re an inspiration alright ! Your positivity is just that !! Thx you so much and have a wonderful Xmas be safe 😘
I couldn't help but put my hand on my chest while you were talking about the euphoria we get once we've had the surgery, and I welled up. You're so right in that such seemingly normal things like changing rooms and gyms are so hard for us normally with the wrong chest, and they are taken for granted. I'm nearly 2 years post op. Congrats on 7!
Oh buddy! Yes, I often get quite emotional when I reflect like this, , the pure joy and euphoria of my hand on my flat chest, magical! And 2 years for you, amazing!!!
My respect for you grows with your every video, Finn. I love how you have found a way to be steady and present, even when the wind’s against you (as it so often seems to be for all of us).
A bit of belly is a manly midlife passage. I am sure you will meet it steadily and kindly.
What a lovely comment, thank you so.much! Yes, being steady with life is a lovely way to put it. I stopped fighting, learned to take life on lifes terms, and that absolutely transformed my life! As for the belly, well it's all part of being a middle aged man, and one that loves icecream, but lm ok with that!
Your videos are so great! I started watching cos I have a transgender nephew and I wanted to just increase my education but, coincidentally, I am also a cis woman who has big boobs and hates them, has always hated them. I I had a breast reduction 20 years ago and the only regret I have is that 1) I didn't have enough money to do it at age 18, 2) I couldn't convince the surgeon to make them even smaller.
So many of the things you say about how you feel after your surgery are similar to my experience; the only difference is the gender element of the body disphoria. Most people (including the surgeon in preliminary appointments) think I did it for cosmetic reasons or to resolve back/neck pain but it was really about disphoria and discomfort in activities. My scars also settled down after a few years. I also have little lump/bump in the cut under both arms which have become larger as I've put on weight. I also loved being able to be closer to people when I hug (heck, even sit closer to tables), being able to lay my arms flatter in front of me when I fold my arms, and buy clothes that fit instead of the froufy clothes that fit over big boobs but don't fit my self image at all. I loved being able to do sports more comfortably (I've always been very sporty, but now I do it with less interference from boobs). I don't feel that I am male but I also hate having boobs and it has been distressing since I was about 13. I always hated, STILL get really upset, by people who imply that I love having big boobs or that they're somehow an advantage to me. I HATE them and would do the operation again in a heartbeat.
How lovely you are to want to support your nephew! Thank you for your kind words, and for sharing so honestly with me about your own struggles. Yes, dysphoria is not just limited to trans people. There are many people like you who's gender identiy is consistent to the one assigned at birth, but struggle with their gender presentation. I am glad to hear you found a solution and your own version of body freedom!
Oh and l can relate to the even sitting near people! I used to be so hyper vigilant about anyone being anywhere near me, in case a part of them brushed against anywhere even near my chest! Folks cant comprehend how incredible it is to be free of this worry can they!
Hi Finn - I really hope that I find the same freedoms you have in my own skin when I have top surgery. To be perfectly truthful like you I just want what I have off of my body - I remember when I went for my top surgery consultion back in March and the surgeon asked me "What do you hope to gain from this surgery?" I said to her "I want what I have on me, off of me because They cause me so much stress and upset." and she said thats what she'll do. Now I can't fault the Manchester team because they've agreed to remove the loose skin at the sides of my chest and you know what? I really thought i'd have to go and get that gone myself but no their doing for me. Seeing you're reveal video and how emoional you were just made me cry and feel so happy and proud for you.
Oh buddy, I cannot waut to celebrate your freedom with you! How wonderful that they are going to remove the skin too! And yes, exactly the same for me, I didnt even care about how it would look really, I just wanted to get rid of the lumps that shouldnt have been there! For my chest to look so great, for my body to feel so free, and for all the other amazing ways it has changed life, I am so grateful! The reveal was the most surreal experience in the world! Much love to you fella!
@@FinnTheInfinncible Yeah it is wonderful and I was completely shocked when she said it to me but I was over the moon as well. I've opted against nipples though in case i'm not at my ideal weight for surgery - say If i were too lose more weight post surgery and my chest didn't falling into place as it where and I'd need more surgery at later date I don't want to put myself through healing of nippes that I might lose later on down the line!
@@itsreallyimportantman ah that makes sense!
Omg I've missed so much taking a break from the interwebs.... You are looking great. Your such an amazing role model, I send all the happy feels your way. Thanks for always being you!
Well hello! Thank you so much for those lovely words!
It’s not just trans people you’re helping with these videos. As a cis man, I take a lot of confidence from these regarding my own imperfect body. It’s a great reminder to realise how blessed I am not to suffer with gender dysphoria and not needing corrective surgery.
Did you get any more stuff done on language? You mentioned in a video you might look at that with your partner.
Bless you Ed thank you for that, it's really good to know that my content is far reaching because I really do believe what I talk about is universal. And yes, we do plan to do a language video at some point. 😊
absolutely brilliant video mate and can't explain how much I cannt wait for my own - Very best to you and to continuing enjoying yourself!!!
Ah thank you so much for watching and for your lovely comment! May yours come soon!
Wonderful to see the changes over the years Finn!
I remember that clip of your chest reveal, when the surgeon picked up the tweezers to remove the stitches and told you 'Don't worry, this won't hurt me one bit' LOL
Haha! Yes! Mr Yelland is such a lovely guy! So warm and funny! Mad to think it's been 7 years!
Oh my dear, they made a very good job!
I’m so so happy for you!!! 👍👍👍😘
Thank you so much!
I love this so much. Allot of it resonated in me and really affirms my own feelings about my chest. Thank you for your channel! Always puts me in a good mood after watching. 🌞
Ah that is such a lovely comment to read, thank you and thanks for watching!
It's wonderful to see you so happy! Thank you for continuing to educate us cis folks on your experiences xxx
Thank you so much for wanting to share them with me! Allys like you are pure gold!
You look amazing! It's so nice hearing about how it changed your life in all aspects 💗 Thanks for sharing your story!
Thank you so much for watching, and for your lovely coment!
Hi Finn. It is so exhilarating to see you happy and joyous and free after having Top surgery. Being a Cis woman I cannot imagine what being a man feels like. But when I watch you I am so thrilled for you that you can celebrate your body now. I have a question for you. How long were you on testosterone before you had your top surgery? I want you to know I was so excited when I saw in my notifications that you had uploaded a video. I love your energy. I feel so much acceptance just watching you talk and express your thoughts and feelings. Thank you for being the man that you are. You are such a wonderful human being.
What an absolutely beautiful comment, thank you so very much for being so kind. I love that you were excited to see an upload! To answer your question, I had been on testosterone for almost 8 months when I had top surgery. I was lucky at the time that waiting lists for top surgery were far shorter than they are now.
I love the whole slow motion semi-strip reveal, you're so wonderful Finn! I haven't had a genuine laugh in quite some time, thank you so much for that! 🤩🥰
I wish I could have saved nipple sensation, but I had a prior reduction surgery that left my nipples un-saveable except for "just decoration" but I also do NOT miss them getting so erect that they would pinch of the blood flow to themselves and turn white, and also it was PAINFUL!
I'm curious to know how our bodies know where the new ones went, and how it knows to grow our new chest hair around the right places lol!
Just as another note, I started looking up men's chests just out of curiosity to see if they were "perfect" from my perspective, and, as I started thinking "Would I like this chest if it was MINE" I started noticing flaws in even their chests, and that made me feel better knowing that my chest after surgery is just another unique chest, and it's MINE! Just as your chest is yours, to me, your chest turned out just fine! 👍
I turned out to have more back hair than chest hair, I truly was NOT expecting that haha!
Oh wow, I thought I was the only one who was self conscious before top surgery, I even had my best friend TELL me one time "As long as our boobs don't touch" for hugs 😭😱 Talk about feeling dysphoria after that. Now I can hug her and she doesn't push back or passively resist the full bear hug you speak of! It's amazing how much of a difference that can make even emotionally, let alone physically and mentally.
Most definitely, the wind through chest hair is such a wonderful feeling! My partner is a bit of a (I don't even know the word!) Prude? He won't even go shirtless at HOME! It's so weird. (We don't live together because I just couldn't handle it unfortunately, after my top surgery and starting T we've grown apart a bit more)
My observation is that you have more of a full pectoral muscle, did you work on that to develop it a bit? I seem to only have the top part bulked up, but the lower part is completely indented? 🤔 Do/did you lift weights or do any top exercises to increase the awesome pecs you have?
Love you Finn! Today in Minnesota we had freezing rain and sleet, and now it's foggy and -1C (I think I got that right... it's 30 degrees here lol! 😅🤪😁)
Happy Thanksgiving if you celebrate that over there! Stay safe my friends! Give Chris a hug from someone living across the pond!
Haha! I am glad you enjoyed the comedy strip! Had to be done! Chris burst into the lounge after work, having seen it, and called me a tart 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Your nipples sound like a relief to be gone! It's funny, l was told I would not be able to feel.my nipples but l can, and l have full erotic sensation in them!
As for my pecs. I have to be sickeningly honest and say that l am blessed naturally with a muscular body without having to put in much effort! I was the same pre t and post t l bulked more., but did hardly any more exercise!
I do some basic weights at home with dumbbells, and some cardio, but that's it!
I do also have a dip in my chest, called a pectus excavatom, which helps to accentuate my pecs!
Love to you my dear friend, from us three!
You're amazing Finn. Much love
Aw thank you! And thanks for watching! Sending a ton of love your way!
so adorable bear cub
Aw 😊🥰
Finn if you go to a gym ,then you know there is nothing wrong with your chest ! The best clip is of you ripping off your shirt a dancing at the concert . You are s good dancer . Cheers !
Aw thank you! Yes lm perfectly happy with my chest, I only critique it to show that loving your body doesnt mean its 'perfect' (not that that even exists!) But that you love your body with all its imperfections included....because that what's human!
@@FinnTheInfinncible : Exactly Finn !
Keep loving yourself! No one can rain on your parade
Love your comment! Thank you!
It would be really cool for your 8 year update, to meet up with some younger trans masc. UA-camrs, and discuss how your top surgery experiences were different depending on when you got them. Jamie Dodger and NoahFince some like this, they are both UK based.
Or same deal but discussing with trans folks of different nationalities to discuss how those experiences differ
Hi! I just came across your channel AND just got top surgery. I was wondering what type of scar care routine you had? thanks alot! great video
Well hello and congratulations! Thanks for your kind comments! I have a blog with lots of scar care treatment I shall link it here 👉finlaygames.com/reduce-scars-top-surgery/
I was just thinking how amazing and perfect your nipples looked when you said you thought they were big. It’s funny how we all have these little insecurities that other people love or even wish they had themselves. We need to celebrate our uniqueness. I’m so glad you’re happy and love your chest 😊🥰
Yes we do indeed! Body quirks are what make them beautiful! I love my nipples now, but l think l needed time to get used to my new chest and to accept my own idea of what good enough meant, as l had no idea really what a male chest should look like....then l remembered that l am a man and so my chest is exactly how it should look...if that makes sense! Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful words, and for watching!
Omg so awesome!!!! I'm genderfluid myself, so that's SO COOL! 😎
Thanks so much!
You look great!
Thank you so much!
Is your scar totally flat my friend? My english is not too good🥺
It is indeed flat
Fin you look incredible thanks for sharing your videos as none trans gay man I have learnt a lot to support trans friends and work colleagues and as LGBTQ Staff Network Co-Chair at barts health NHS Trust I thank you for helping to me understand ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍💗💙🤍🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
What a lovely comment to find! I love when my videos help in this way! If you ever need a speaker, please do give me a shout finlaygames.com/public-speaking/
His is the biggest or one of the biggest areas of my disphoria. I am ashamed today for the thoughts I had as a young teen until early adulthood. I wore a coat in class from 4th grade on to hide my chest. My teachers actually had a session with my parents to get me to remove my jacket in class. It was 95 degrees and I wouldn't remove it. I got my monthly in 4th grade also. For those that don't realize I was barely 10 ys old. This is the part that shames me even though I meant nothing toward anyone else and it's how a child's mind works I hoped I would get great cancer. That's what they were time and the only wayiknew to get rid of them. I was 100% tomboy and all of a sudden the boys saw me in a dif light. They didnt want to play with a girl who had boobies. This crushed me. I started contemplating suicide at 10 ys old because I developed extremely early. In grade 4 I had to wear a bra and got my monthly. Those things usually happen between grade 7 to 10 or even grade 12. I cut my wrists every day for 9 years. I never had the guts to finish it but I'm glad today. They are still 2 strange lumps of fat only chest but I'll be with them.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry you went through all that. It's such a difficult experience to have your body cause so much pain and distress.itsceven harder to get to the bottom of why and what to do about it. For some people it might be about developing body acceptance and confidence, for others it's the realisation that they are trans and need to transition. I am glad you found the right solution for yourself.