thank you so much coach. i have been struggling. not with fighting, but with an accident that i had that left me scarred and ultimately changed my life. i feel i can go out there and win now. i mean it from the bottom of my heart, thank you
Hey Fran. Thank you for that. Please pass on to Jay my heartfelt respect. To go into that crucible undoubtedly changed him. Forever. The real opponent is inside us. To get in the ring, - to 'climb the steps' as you put it, - to face someone who weighs as much as you do, has trained as hard as you have, and who is going to try to knock you out, is a real test only truly understood by those who have done it. You remember how I said you are a Teacher, as opposed to an Instructor? This whole story is an example of what I mean by that. How fortunate Jay was to have had such a mentor right there, literally in his corner, when he faced his demons. For teenagers, in particular, having the right kind of mentor around during those crucial formative years, I believe can make a literally life-changing difference. Thanks again. Respect. Karl
the amount of very gud skills I learned of this channel is unreal I try dem out all d time in fighting and sparring and every single thing Fran shows us on his videos work best coach ever even d way he explains things love this channel
Thank you, that's great feedback. Glad that the stuff helps and it's great that you have an open mind to try and apply. You'll develop into a fine boxer with that attitude.
May God and His angels always be with you mate you are definitely an inspiration for me. From The Young 49 year-old in Ocala Florida. Thanks again mate.
You're a gifted storyteller coach, the story was inspiring and brought tears to my eyes. I've been watching your stuff for a while and you've inspired me to get down my local club soon and start. I'm 25 this year so need to strike whilst the iron is still hot!
I am late to the party on this. Powerful stuff. You really have a knack for gleaning wisdom and inspiration in all of the stories you share. Thanks for this. I am at a point in my training where I am doubting the fruits of my labor. This was much needed
I think that this story goes deep into what boxing is all about.The skills and the techniques and the fitness are our best friends in order to overcome fear. A lot of thanks to Mr Fran Sands a great coach and a great Man.
From my earliest memory as a child I was beaten mercilessly. So much horrible pain was inflicted on me as a defenseless child I was terrified of being hit. PTSD from the start. As I grew up my terror of being hurt never left me. I hated myself for a coward. It took most of my life to get past it. Today it's too late for me to ever box, but I learned to stand my ground and fight and give an accounting for myself. I wish so much that I had come to this at a younger age. But alas today I content myself studying the art of boxing and learning about the great boxers. Too bad I never met someone like Mr. Sands when I was younger.
Hi Richard. It sounds to me like you've come to terms with those early life bad experience that conditioned you in such a way. You have turned things around, and we all still experience fear, but functioning in the face of that fear is what counts...so great credit to you sir 👍
I cared about the result until near the end, when it's true the result didn't really matter, the win had already happen by getting up and facing that fear, it's unbelievably hard, you are trying to overridden your survival instinct, that's such an incredibly difficult thing to do, jay was a champ that night!
Thanks for sharing, true courage is when you face fear in the eyes and everything you learn you put it in action. I can still remember my first day sparring I spelt blood on the floor sparring someone more talented then me, I went and got tidy up and put toilet paper inside my nose and carry on, my mind was playing games of doubt but I refocus and refuse to give in. After my sparring session I got respected for not giving up. Thanks true inspire.
Thank you Coach for this inspiring story. One thing I've learned from my coach is to always fade the fight head on. I find a lot of similarities in your teachings. Keep up the good work.
Well done Jay...absolute inspiring story and one I will share with my son, who I am considering taking to Sefton ABC. Thanks again, your videos are all fantastic and have helped me with my white collar bouts 👍
Really good video. It makes me very happy to see that more and more videos dealing with the mental side of combat sports/martial arts, fear most of all. I have been involved in martial arts for the last 20 years or so. I remember fear almost being a taboo subject in gyms/dojo's. Few would admit to it or were prepared to discuss it, much less given advice or examples of how to deal with the second opponent., that being yourself and negative feelings. It is also very easy to mistake fear for the effects of adrenaline in a fight/spar.
That was great , I think Fran broke that down well , the guy had an epiphany right there in the ring , all boxers have to go through it , but to have it right there in the ring , that’s nuts , what was key was the “two years” , so the guy knew how to box , he just had,nt conquered his fear , lmagine it was about to consume him right there at the end of the first round , but his option to quit was removed , and he had to face his fear with the only tools left to him , his “two years” of training, remember Fran said he was a good trainer , a tall skinny dude who kept himself to himself , I can see him sticking this aggressive tattooed dude on the end of his jab , and catching him with hard backhand counters all off the back foot , if he was catching him clean , that’s going to force a count in the amateurs , which ultimately led to the stoppage I presume , nice one...
I randomly came across your channel and at first I didn't think I'd learn anything and thought you were another wanna be youtube boxing coach. I sincerely apologize because as I kept digging in your channel I not only found instructional info, I also got inspired especially from this story. I literally wake up everyday feeling like a failure and I hate confrontation of any sort. I often get picked on because a lot of people think I I can't do much because of how skinny I am and I'm honestly sick of it. I just recently started trying to teach myself how to defend myself because I want to control my fear and prove others wrong. Wish I had the money to join a boxing gym but your UA-cam videos will have to do for now. Thank you!!!
Enjoy them. Build your confidence, you need impress no-one but yourself. Remember, stick to the basics, doing them well will never let you down. Thank you for taking the time to comment
I prefer hands high Hamas as they provide solid cover, I agree with Cam. Mayweather does the shoulder roll but he has 12 rounds and to be fair he only tends to do it when he knows he can get away with it. Against a flurry it can be risky (I don't coach it).
Hi mate, this video was amazing i can relate to it in so many ways, im 20 and been boxing a year now and have had 3 contests when it comes to competitions and the adrenaline takes over i handle the fight situation very well but for some reason when i sparr in my gym im always on the back foot waiting to long and dont let my shots go as for some reason i lack the confidence and worry what is going to comeback. Im not sure if its because i know its a sparr and i cant throw punches with bad intentions or it is a confidence thing. I also struggle as the people i sparr with in my gym im quite friendly with and dont have intentions of hurting them when i throw a punch. Could you recommend anyways of dealing with this? Ive asked my coach but he just says i need to beleive in myself and let my shots go. How do i use fear as my friend?
Keith Docherty I had a similar problem, the thing is since it's a spar let it be productive . Don't throw wilds shots but if your sparring partner does catch and block the punches. If he or she does it once again without setting it up let them pay for it,that way they won't do anything reckless in a real boxing bout. Over time that sparring partner will learn,adapt and grow. Also use your jab to control yourself and situation, it is indeed the most important punch
Hey Keith, glad you like the video. I think Diddle Diddly has it right on the money (first time this year I've agreed with someone named after a nursery rhyme :-) - he gives really good advice. In sparring you can make it competitive without trying to hurt the opponent. Sometimes shots can land harder than you wanted, sometimes lighter than you wanted. You will learn, listen to you coach and you'll be sound.
And by the way, did Jay win with uppercuts? I think you said he gave his opponent two standing 8 counts in the second round, or something like that, so I imagine he was giving him some power punches, and you mentioned how the guy was sticking his chin out.
Ha! Good to know that Jay not only conquered his demons, but was cool enough to take advantage of his opponent's mistakes. Very inspiring story, thank you for sharing it.
thank you so much coach. i have been struggling. not with fighting, but with an accident that i had that left me scarred and ultimately changed my life. i feel i can go out there and win now.
i mean it from the bottom of my heart, thank you
Damm..... "a face only a mother can love"..... damm
Bloody Hell! when I began watching this, I wasn't expecting to be in tears at the end! Thanks, Fran, and well done, Jay, we are all proud of you.
Courage is not the abscence of fear but the will to own the fear.
Hey Fran. Thank you for that. Please pass on to Jay my heartfelt respect. To go into that crucible undoubtedly changed him. Forever. The real opponent is inside us. To get in the ring, - to 'climb the steps' as you put it, - to face someone who weighs as much as you do, has trained as hard as you have, and who is going to try to knock you out, is a real test only truly understood by those who have done it. You remember how I said you are a Teacher, as opposed to an Instructor? This whole story is an example of what I mean by that. How fortunate Jay was to have had such a mentor right there, literally in his corner, when he faced his demons. For teenagers, in particular, having the right kind of mentor around during those crucial formative years, I believe can make a literally life-changing difference. Thanks again. Respect.
Karl
Thanks Karl. He's an amazing lad, gone on to some amazing things as well. Appreciate your contribution here and in response to my emails too.
the amount of very gud skills I learned of this channel is unreal I try dem out all d time in fighting and sparring and every single thing Fran shows us on his videos work best coach ever even d way he explains things love this channel
Thank you, that's great feedback. Glad that the stuff helps and it's great that you have an open mind to try and apply. You'll develop into a fine boxer with that attitude.
excellent story, thank you
CJ Miguel you're welcome. thanks CJ
May God and His angels always be with you mate you are definitely an inspiration for me. From The Young 49 year-old in Ocala Florida. Thanks again mate.
You're a gifted storyteller coach, the story was inspiring and brought tears to my eyes. I've been watching your stuff for a while and you've inspired me to get down my local club soon and start. I'm 25 this year so need to strike whilst the iron is still hot!
That touch the heart... thanks brotha
I am late to the party on this. Powerful stuff. You really have a knack for gleaning wisdom and inspiration in all of the stories you share. Thanks for this. I am at a point in my training where I am doubting the fruits of my labor. This was much needed
I feel inspired.
Excellent
I think that this story goes deep into what boxing is all about.The skills and the techniques and the fitness are our best friends in order to overcome fear. A lot of thanks to Mr Fran Sands a great coach and a great Man.
A agree with you pal. Thanks for the kind words.
Excellent little story, told brilliantly, thank you
Thanks James
Thank you for this!
What a inspiring story!!!!!!!! Maybe the most important thing we have to learn is to be able to overcome fear.
nice,, thanks coach !
Fantastic
Thank you
Brliant, as always.
Thank you, Fran.
You're welcome Gabriel. Love your avatar by the way, Sergeant Barnes: "I don't need it, I am reality" :-)
Thanks, and you got it! Platoon. Such an awesome film.
Brilliant and inspiring 🙏🏾
What an inspiring story.
From my earliest memory as a child I was beaten mercilessly. So much horrible pain was inflicted on me as a defenseless child I was terrified of being hit. PTSD from the start. As I grew up my terror of being hurt never left me. I hated myself for a coward. It took most of my life to get past it. Today it's too late for me to ever box, but I learned to stand my ground and fight and give an accounting for myself. I wish so much that I had come to this at a younger age. But alas today I content myself studying the art of boxing and learning about the great boxers. Too bad I never met someone like Mr. Sands when I was younger.
Hi Richard. It sounds to me like you've come to terms with those early life bad experience that conditioned you in such a way. You have turned things around, and we all still experience fear, but functioning in the face of that fear is what counts...so great credit to you sir 👍
Thank you.
Very welcome
One of my favorite stories.And you tell it so well.
Fantastic! Thank you for all your videos. I watch you almost every day. // Dan from Sweden.
Thank you pal, that's really encouraging for me
Great story Fran, always nice to hear cool boxing stories, keep them coming.
Absolutely inspiring!!!!!
Thanks a bunch Fran, I get terrified before each sparring session.
Cool, glad it helped
Thsnk you coach. Very inspiring story with a lot of wisdoms. I will remember those words in this video. Thank you again.
About as good as a boxing story using PowerPoint slides could be- Way to go Coach. Way to go Jay !
I cared about the result until near the end, when it's true the result didn't really matter, the win had already happen by getting up and facing that fear, it's unbelievably hard, you are trying to overridden your survival instinct, that's such an incredibly difficult thing to do, jay was a champ that night!
Indeed he was, nice comment, thanks
Took everything in me to keep my eyes from sweating. Good on you J.
Loved that, thanks.
this story touched me. appropriately
Fran Sands touched you lol
Like Cus said boxing is 90% mental 10% physical. Thank you for sharing this valuable lesson.
Thank you👍
Thanks for sharing, true courage is when you face fear in the eyes and everything you learn you put it in action. I can still remember my first day sparring I spelt blood on the floor sparring someone more talented then me, I went and got tidy up and put toilet paper inside my nose and carry on, my mind was playing games of doubt but I refocus and refuse to give in. After my sparring session I got respected for not giving up. Thanks true inspire.
That's it, you got it. It's all relative. Great comment, thanks.
Thank you Coach for this inspiring story. One thing I've learned from my coach is to always fade the fight head on. I find a lot of similarities in your teachings. Keep up the good work.
Very nice story telling mr. Sands - love the accent by the way!
Amazing story. Inspiring
Cool, it absolutely is!
great story fran never had the courage myself
Well done Jay...absolute inspiring story and one I will share with my son, who I am considering taking to Sefton ABC. Thanks again, your videos are all fantastic and have helped me with my white collar bouts 👍
Cheers Ben. Might see you in the gym
Great story
Love this story, I have been watching a few of your videos lately. Fantastic coaching 😀
Thanks for the feedback Lee, great stuff :-)
Really good video. It makes me very happy to see that more and more videos dealing with the mental side of combat sports/martial arts, fear most of all. I have been involved in martial arts for the last 20 years or so. I remember fear almost being a taboo subject in gyms/dojo's. Few would admit to it or were prepared to discuss it, much less given advice or examples of how to deal with the second opponent., that being yourself and negative feelings. It is also very easy to mistake fear for the effects of adrenaline in a fight/spar.
Excellent contribution Druss - thank you very much
Honestly such a encouraging video 🙏
I’d love to train under you !
My favorite Coach from across the pond having a great Teddy Atlas Moment with his fighter ! Cool stuff
scott johnson .
NICE ONE
No worries mate.
That was great , I think Fran broke that down well , the guy had an epiphany right there in the ring , all boxers have to go through it , but to have it
right there in the ring , that’s nuts , what was key was the “two years” , so the guy knew how to box , he just had,nt conquered his fear , lmagine it was about to consume him right there at the end of the first round , but his option to quit was removed , and he had to face his fear with the only
tools left to him , his “two years” of training, remember Fran said he was a good trainer , a tall skinny dude who kept himself to himself , I can see him sticking this aggressive tattooed dude on the end of his jab , and catching him with hard backhand counters all off the back foot , if he was catching him clean , that’s going to force a count in the amateurs , which ultimately led to the stoppage I presume , nice one...
any way your foundations program can go on sale too? maybe around Christmas lol?
Sign up to the free videos here: www.myboxingcoach.com/ Always put out offers via that route, some bigguns coming over the next few weeks.
I randomly came across your channel and at first I didn't think I'd learn anything and thought you were another wanna be youtube boxing coach. I sincerely apologize because as I kept digging in your channel I not only found instructional info, I also got inspired especially from this story. I literally wake up everyday feeling like a failure and I hate confrontation of any sort. I often get picked on because a lot of people think I I can't do much because of how skinny I am and I'm honestly sick of it. I just recently started trying to teach myself how to defend myself because I want to control my fear and prove others wrong. Wish I had the money to join a boxing gym but your UA-cam videos will have to do for now. Thank you!!!
Enjoy them. Build your confidence, you need impress no-one but yourself. Remember, stick to the basics, doing them well will never let you down. Thank you for taking the time to comment
hey fran is shoulder roll technique effective in amateur ranks ?
why?
I prefer hands high Hamas as they provide solid cover, I agree with Cam. Mayweather does the shoulder roll but he has 12 rounds and to be fair he only tends to do it when he knows he can get away with it. Against a flurry it can be risky (I don't coach it).
Hi mate, this video was amazing i can relate to it in so many ways, im 20 and been boxing a year now and have had 3 contests when it comes to competitions and the adrenaline takes over i handle the fight situation very well but for some reason when i sparr in my gym im always on the back foot waiting to long and dont let my shots go as for some reason i lack the confidence and worry what is going to comeback. Im not sure if its because i know its a sparr and i cant throw punches with bad intentions or it is a confidence thing. I also struggle as the people i sparr with in my gym im quite friendly with and dont have intentions of hurting them when i throw a punch. Could you recommend anyways of dealing with this? Ive asked my coach but he just says i need to beleive in myself and let my shots go. How do i use fear as my friend?
Keith Docherty I had a similar problem, the thing is since it's a spar let it be productive . Don't throw wilds shots but if your sparring partner does catch and block the punches. If he or she does it once again without setting it up let them pay for it,that way they won't do anything reckless in a real boxing bout. Over time that sparring partner will learn,adapt and grow.
Also use your jab to control yourself and situation, it is indeed the most important punch
Hey Keith, glad you like the video. I think Diddle Diddly has it right on the money (first time this year I've agreed with someone named after a nursery rhyme :-) - he gives really good advice. In sparring you can make it competitive without trying to hurt the opponent. Sometimes shots can land harder than you wanted, sometimes lighter than you wanted. You will learn, listen to you coach and you'll be sound.
Great advice
Fran Sands thanks for the positive feedback and thanks for uploading these videos
And by the way, did Jay win with uppercuts? I think you said he gave his opponent two standing 8 counts in the second round, or something like that, so I imagine he was giving him some power punches, and you mentioned how the guy was sticking his chin out.
The final standing count was an uppercut...they make referees really nervous
Ha! Good to know that Jay not only conquered his demons, but was cool enough to take advantage of his opponent's mistakes. Very inspiring story, thank you for sharing it.
From Liverpool!?
So, is it true that in penny lane there’s a barber showing photographs?
haha. Yes indeed
discount isn't working when I want to pay. can u contact me as I'm fighting in February (first one)
Sorry Mario. If you still need the discount let me know
Cant beleve theres two other sands in the world
This was so boring, I couldn't finish it. Videos with tips, those are great.
I feel bad for your taste.