Behind The Looking Glass - FIRST EVER Documentary about the Wives & Children of Trans-Identified Men

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  • Опубліковано 22 гру 2024

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  • @limesodafilmsVS
    @limesodafilmsVS  3 місяці тому +210

    For subtitles, go to Settings -> caption -> language -> English
    The film has subtitles in more than 5 languages. Lots more to come. Turn on English if you want subtitles for non English parts!

    • @prunabluepepper
      @prunabluepepper 3 місяці тому +6

      Sadly the topic didn't address the epidemic of lonely men, who desperately try to get a woman, but don't. Their longing is so strong they are so deprived of touch, that they turn to medicine to get what they want on their own bodies.
      This comment will certainly get censored, but I'm try anyway.
      Good documentary! ❤

    • @Parmesito
      @Parmesito 3 місяці тому +64

      ​@@prunabluepepperthat has nothing to do with women. This film is about women, not men. Someone else can make a film about that. In fact, why don't you???

    • @oizzepizze
      @oizzepizze 3 місяці тому

      That problem is created by men and they should be responsible to resolve the issues they’ve created for themselves in society. A snake that eats itself they built their own prisons how they treat each other sad then gang up on how they treat women.

    • @johnnywalker9856
      @johnnywalker9856 3 місяці тому +28

      ​@@prunabluepepper slow clapping at great deflection

    • @Helgamarie46
      @Helgamarie46 3 місяці тому +17

      @@prunabluepepper Dieses Thema hat mit deinem nichts zu tun. Es ist so typisch, dass derart wichtige Frauenthemen - insbesondere bei diesem Thema, bei dem es um verbale, seelische und körperliche Manipulation/Gewalt/Narzissmus gegen Frauen geht - von Männern immer benutzt werden nach dem Motto: "Aber wir Männer leiden noch so viel mehr als Frauen" Hast du die Dokumentation überhaupt (komplett) angeschaut und dir wenigstens ansatzweise ein paar Gedanken dazu gemacht, bevor du vom Thema abgelenkt hast?

  • @Stabm
    @Stabm 3 місяці тому +838

    I just discovered that I am transphobic. In a literal sense. I am scared of these men and scared of these developments. Women's rights get crashed all around the globe... Protect women's rights, protect our children! Thank you for this film!

    • @angieb8941
      @angieb8941 3 місяці тому +4

      Actually, you aren’t transphobic because it is rational to be afraid of these men. Someone else pointed this out on X. Phobia is an irrational fear of something. Fear of these men is self preservation. They are dangerous as they often prove when they protest when women speak. They use very violent language in their protests.

    • @faithburns8379
      @faithburns8379 3 місяці тому +77

      Many trans men/women(?) are still quite physically strong and even w/female hormones they can be very strong and aggressive. They are scary so ok to be "phobic" perhaps.......

    • @fantuswitt9063
      @fantuswitt9063 3 місяці тому

      Womans rights and priviliges are stronger than ever

    • @Sn0wShepherd
      @Sn0wShepherd 3 місяці тому +77

      @@Stabm exactly but you see it's not an irrational fear therefore it is not a phobia. It is very rational to be afraid of these horrible men. They are violent unpredictable and very oftentimes will werewolf they even refer to themselves as wolves loon wolves werewolves always the predator hiding in the bushes waiting to snatch up somebody's babies

    • @tiasara5967
      @tiasara5967 3 місяці тому +12

  • @oldbird-zm8qt
    @oldbird-zm8qt 3 місяці тому +517

    I am a detransitioner. I like to think I wasn't as overtly, aggressively narcissistic as the trans folks depicted in this film.
    Guess what! Every tranner thinks that they were the truly feminine one; the one pure daisy in the field of weeds. I had that stupid surgery, and it didn't "make me a woman". No surgery can. I needed good therapy, probing questions about psychological and physical abuse in childhood. Instead I got my **** cut off, my body mutilated.
    Surgery just made more loneliness. It is a fool's paradise.
    Kudos to these brave women for speaking out. They truly deserve the title "Stunning and brave". Blessings to you ladies.

    • @HekateSelini
      @HekateSelini 3 місяці тому +76

      & brave of you to speak out so honestly. Best wishes to you

    • @iconodule3938
      @iconodule3938 3 місяці тому +37

      I pray you find true healing and peace! ☦️ You’ve certainly had a hard time of it, as well!

    • @jenniferheale2485
      @jenniferheale2485 3 місяці тому +36

      You've got a hard road ahead but I wish you inner peace. Hope things get easier. We all have regrets but there are better days around the bend. Be well

    • @rainyfeathers9148
      @rainyfeathers9148 3 місяці тому +8

      @oldbird-zm8qt Stay great🫂

    • @redmercury1159
      @redmercury1159 3 місяці тому

      i am truly sorry you had to go through this. i know there are so many men just like you who are being lead to the slaughter of SRS and it isnt your fault. it is progressive societys fault. it is the greedy doctors and surgeons fault. im disgusted by this. these people EVERYONE involved in persuading you into transitioning should be put in prison for life. they destroy so many men. and so many women have paved the way for it. we wouldnt have this problem if it wasnt for modern feminists welcoming the transwoman with open arms. they show how much they hate biological women by just how much more they love the transwoman. they hold transwomen in higher regard than actual women. so i blame them for enabling this ideology.

  • @NOPENOBODYSPECIAL-ro3xb
    @NOPENOBODYSPECIAL-ro3xb 3 місяці тому +589

    My father was an autogynophelic transvestite who sexually abused myself and my sister. Thank you for sharing this documentary, especially in these troubling times where our side of the story is all too often ignored

    • @freakyrettstar
      @freakyrettstar 3 місяці тому

      I am so sorry, sending you love - I'm a transwidow. Make sure you look at the resources for Children of Trans and best of luck on your healing journey.

    • @rak4357
      @rak4357 3 місяці тому +42

      So sorry you had to endure that. I hope you are in a safer place now. ❤

    • @AmberMcAvey
      @AmberMcAvey 3 місяці тому +23

      I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Praying that God brings grace and healing to your precious soul 💜

    • @EllaArmstrong25
      @EllaArmstrong25 3 місяці тому +15

      Oh my gosh I’m so sorry

    • @LB-uo7xy
      @LB-uo7xy 3 місяці тому

      Most trans, especially closeted trans adults are child abusers.
      Just look up the guy that propelled trabs identify to the influence it has now- Dr. John Money.

  • @TheArchiveofEvidence
    @TheArchiveofEvidence 3 місяці тому +802

    I have a Trans identified father. We 4 kids were grown when he came out (as cross dresser 20 years ago). I love him but there are some complex feelings that are hard to unpack. And so much goes unsaid. Especially cuz he has evolved into a public Trans advocate who is invited to international women’s day events. Recently family reminded me that unsaid is best. I cry a lot at the moment.
    Thank you for gathering these testimonies. Very valuable resource.

    • @mmacarty701
      @mmacarty701 3 місяці тому +167

      Don’t allow yourself to be silenced. Your experience is as valid as anyone else. Speak out and speak loud. Your father is wrong if he made you feel like you can’t express your pain. It’s even better if he is a public figure it will make your voice important in the debate. Your experience will allow others to feel they can speak out too.

    • @gammasmash1924
      @gammasmash1924 3 місяці тому +46

      I can't imagine. The relationship between parents and their adult offspring can already be so complicated, even under the best of circumstances.

    • @teresamartin6989
      @teresamartin6989 3 місяці тому +16

      🫂

    • @TheArchiveofEvidence
      @TheArchiveofEvidence 3 місяці тому +160

      @@mmacarty701 I think you’re right. It’s a fresh wound. Family reminded me not to speak thru eye rolls, ridicule, ghosting, ‘why can’t you just be kind’. It’s isolating. Oh.. And I didn’t mention, my Queer daughter, her Trans man partner (originally a lesbian couple), all their friends and my 4yr old Granddaughter, who sometimes identifies as They/Them. I’m swamped by trans and have exactly ZERO people who will even converse with me about the concerns I have. I’ve been quiet too long. They’re not used to me pushing back. But it’s just gone too far. That’s why I cry. It’s not just my dad. It’s bigger than that. Anyway. Hearing others share is both helpful and haunting. Sorry if overshare

    • @frankgradus9474
      @frankgradus9474 3 місяці тому +7

      a sorry fellow;
      that's how I would think about myself if I were in his place;
      but that's just me.

  • @annabizaro-doo-dah
    @annabizaro-doo-dah 3 місяці тому +420

    Finally. An honest talk about this whole misogynist mess. Many women have experienced some form of this gaslighting from pornified, fetish saturated men.

    • @tiasara5967
      @tiasara5967 3 місяці тому +15

      AMEN!!!!❤

    • @JoZiggy
      @JoZiggy Місяць тому +2

      Ohh. Perfectly written. May I quote you please?❤

  • @anonanon1344
    @anonanon1344 3 місяці тому +600

    I ended a relationship with my (very straight, very male) abusive ex when he went on yet another resentful rant about how no one understood him. He had been saying for a few months that he was queer, but this was the first time he said ‘I am trans’. I just knew in a really profound intuitive way that he had hit upon the ultimate stick to beat me with emotionally. He had found something that was unanswerable and unchallengeable, with which he could require me to cater to him and his ‘needs’ and his fetishes, and claim that I was ‘phobic’ or ‘narrow-minded’ or ‘discriminatory’ if I refused or questioned. It just felt so clear to me that this was the beginning of an absolute campaign of control and coercion. Just as the film highlighted, this happened at a time when he was no longer the focus of my attention because we had broken up and got back together, and he was no longer living in my house, and I think he could tell I was starting to really question his control move away from him emotionally.

    • @sarahthebowintherain
      @sarahthebowintherain 3 місяці тому +2

      I'm so glad you listened to your intuition, and he is now your ex. It's not easy for us women to choose ourselves, even when our sanity and lives are at stake. You got out. You chose safety. You chose healing over hurting. You chose you. I'm so happy for you 🥲🤝❤️‍🩹❤️.

    • @Thomas-zx2yt
      @Thomas-zx2yt 3 місяці тому +76

      congratulations for getting out of that relationship

    • @weirdloverwilde
      @weirdloverwilde 3 місяці тому +33

      You did the right thing ❤

    • @mskerrykemp
      @mskerrykemp 3 місяці тому

      Nailed it.. I had an abusive x. Years later .. he became an ally to trans.
      It basically excused his behaviour because I was a bigot now.

    • @Momthra1121
      @Momthra1121 3 місяці тому +22

      Hugs, sister. Hope you continue to heal

  • @rubykittyruby
    @rubykittyruby 3 місяці тому +651

    I wish a mainstream TV station would have the guts to show this. It's disturbing, but a superb documentary and needs the widest possible audience. Thank you to everyone involved in making this film.

    • @faceless3433
      @faceless3433 3 місяці тому

      The ideological institutional capture is off the charts. There are very serious and well-financed agendas at work here.
      Another film that all must see: ua-cam.com/video/qyazHbrbEMY/v-deo.html

    • @Catmom-gl5nt
      @Catmom-gl5nt 3 місяці тому

      I was in Ottawa on business last week, and while picking up dinner, a trans woman was in front of me. That person had an ill fitting, too short dress, and clown makeup and I had to struggle not to stare. Not because it was a trans woman, but because the outfit looked like drunk pantomime. That’s what I think I resent the most, not even that we’re supposed to accept them as women, but they can present in a manner that would incur strange looks if a woman did it, but because there trans we’re supposed to ignore they look bizarre. If an actual woman presented as this person did, I would have assumed some sort of untreated mental illness.

    • @kathyh4804
      @kathyh4804 3 місяці тому

      This would NEVER be shown mainstream! They don’t want anyone to hear FACTS about the trauma to women or children, it contradicts their agenda! Mainstream now is the biggest propaganda machine ever!

    • @hydraxisfrimon9785
      @hydraxisfrimon9785 3 місяці тому +42

      Agreed. But as one contributor pointed out, a man in a dress is a far easier sell to a public hungry for salacious content, than a woman battling for the rights of herself and her children. And yes, it definitely needs showing if any balance is to be restored...here's hoping!

    • @fitgiddlin21
      @fitgiddlin21 3 місяці тому

      Mainstream media is paid large sums of money to push this gender ideology. There are incentives to support it and consequences for speaking out against it

  • @InternationalClare
    @InternationalClare 3 місяці тому +174

    Trans widows we hear you, we stand by you, and we will add our voice to yours

  • @mmacarty701
    @mmacarty701 3 місяці тому +421

    No one should ever validate this madness of trans identifying abusers. Our children need us to stand up for women’s rights because it protects our children at the same time.

    • @meganbaker9116
      @meganbaker9116 3 місяці тому +21

      Children have a hard enough time living in a world that has as as much contempt for them as this one does. Adults need to advocate for themselves. We do, after all, have all the power we deny children.

  • @281992pdr
    @281992pdr 3 місяці тому +335

    Helen Joyce: "There is a lie at the centre of it." 100% correct.

    • @yomamma4823
      @yomamma4823 2 місяці тому +4

      That goes for many delusions of our postmodern age.

    • @letamorgan6819
      @letamorgan6819 2 місяці тому +9

      Helene Joyce is always spot on!

  • @grace-xb8ve
    @grace-xb8ve 3 місяці тому +340

    I am not a trans widow, but listening to the stories of trans widows helped me immensely immediately after I fled my abusive AGP college roommate, immediately after my 19th birthday. I was so alone, confused as to what had happened to me and why, and these women helped me see that I was not crazy, I was not evil, I was not alone in this. Their experiences, while more extreme, reflect so much of my own in that tiny dorm room. I tried to speak out last year and was silenced, bullied, and essentially forced to leave my university campus forever. I'm hoping to find my voice in the coming year as I restart my undergrad at a reputable university with a reasonable freedom of speech policy. Thank you for this documentary. I hope more sisters stand with me next time than did before.

    • @HekateSelini
      @HekateSelini 3 місяці тому +37

      I'm sorry you had to go through that! In your generation, the gaslighting and bullying is insane... know you're not alone. And I wish you best of luck to find a better place to get the education you deserve.

    • @alibrown6268
      @alibrown6268 3 місяці тому +35

      There are groups on FB/Meta and Twitter/X that are full of people who stand together against this. You are not alone. Please reach out when needed and don't let the bullies, virtue signalling trans cultists get you down

    • @bastetowl3258
      @bastetowl3258 3 місяці тому +34

      i'm sorry you were expected to share living quarters with a male. just terrible

    • @JulieG1897
      @JulieG1897 3 місяці тому +8

      You were so brave speaking up. I wish you well for the future.

    • @jamiejones8508
      @jamiejones8508 3 місяці тому +21

      I lived in a women only residence at uni in the UK. It was great - but back then we knew exactly what a woman was without question. I’m so sorry you were forced to share your space with a man :-(

  • @jjsays
    @jjsays Місяць тому +21

    I'm thrilled we're collectively finally mustering up the courage to talk about AGP. Women have been shamed and silenced long enough.

  • @sue.F
    @sue.F 3 місяці тому +1017

    This is the darkest thing I’ve ever watched, it’s about erasing women altogether: it’s the absolute epitome of misogyny.

    • @valleyvox
      @valleyvox 3 місяці тому +71

      Yes! We're in it NOW. It's happening

    • @lancewalker2595
      @lancewalker2595 3 місяці тому +2

      They call fathers “sperm donors”, so unless I’m being unreasonable in asserting that manhood and fatherhood are more complex and inherently significant than the term “sperm donor” implies, I feel at liberty to point out that this kind of dehumanization is hardly exclusively directed at women. Every objectionable thing that this ideology is doing to women and girls was already being done to men and boys prior to 2015 when the gender insanity begun, it might appear that women and girls are under a disparate degree of attack, but frankly that’s only because: on the one hand, women and girls and the essence of femininity is far less vulnerable to subversion than men and boys and the essence of masculinity are, which makes them a FAR more difficult target; and on the other hand, the attack upon men and boys and masculine identity has been going on for so long that we don’t even notice it as an aberration. The progressive mission to supplant masculinity with misandry has been institutionally and culturally achieved already, what we are now observing is the pursuit to achieve the next item on the progressive agenda: to supplant femininity with misogyny. I will admit that I lament the lack of concern for men and boys, who have been suffering silently in a milieu of misandry for decades now, compared to the much greater and more immediate concern in responding to the same sort of subversion directed at girls and women; but I have some hope that by attacking women and girls the progressive scourge will become necessarily more apparent to people who are (generally) instinctively inclined to notice and respond to the suffering of women and girls. Progressivism is nothing more than the political practice of nihilism, it would benefit humanity greatly to recognize the fact that misogyny and misandry are simply two sides of the same misanthropic coin.

    • @bellabuilder4160
      @bellabuilder4160 3 місяці тому +3

      @@lancewalker2595 no, misandry and misogyny is not two sides of the same coin. Nowhere in the world are men being raped, murdered, stalked, having their rights taken away because they are men. Men who hate women, hurt women, women who hate men, avoid men.

    • @anonanon1344
      @anonanon1344 3 місяці тому +113

      Yes. The hatred of women at the centre of this behaviour just strikes me so so clearly in this.

    • @ALT-vz3jn
      @ALT-vz3jn 3 місяці тому +99

      Yes. And if we talk we get called terfs

  • @samezidrovibes
    @samezidrovibes 3 місяці тому +334

    Grateful to the women who participated in this important film.

  • @charlotteschnook1351
    @charlotteschnook1351 3 місяці тому +68

    Im a trans widow, my ex's autogynephillia was an offsoot of his extreme selfishness. Narcisisus fell in love with own image. My ex was more in love with himself in women's clothing, and his drugs. and his infantile hobbies like comic book collecting, than he could ever muster feelings for anyone, including his kids.
    He was rabidly jealous of me despite my only wanting decent treatment and never doing anything to earn his wrath. He treated our children horribly and tried to trap me economically so i couldn't leave. He was very sexist and treated our daughter poorly yet ŵas jealous of her too. He STILL tries to mess witb us despite divorcing him 20 years ago.
    I hate him, i will always hate him for the damage he did. I still go to therapy. All the people i know who have had trans people in their life have similar stories. It killed my support for their movement

  • @thejables
    @thejables 3 місяці тому +213

    Watching this before it gets censored, taken down, age-restricted or otherwise effectively banned at least in the USA. Powerful and well made. This is a men 's sexual rights movement and that's why it's given such a place of importance in law and academia.

    • @una-janewinfield1667
      @una-janewinfield1667 3 місяці тому +25

      See Professor Sheila Jeffreys, who has written a lot on gender-critical feminism as an academic, including "Penile Imperialism" in 2022. What a title!

    • @UteHeggenTranswidowHeals
      @UteHeggenTranswidowHeals 3 місяці тому +15

      I honestly believe they won't take it down because Vaishnavi crafted it so well. And, 30k views in a day!

    • @bastetowl3258
      @bastetowl3258 3 місяці тому

      more like a male privilege movement. it's like a MRA's wet dream

    • @barbarakauppi9915
      @barbarakauppi9915 3 місяці тому +5

      @@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals Truth is, the filmmaker's ethnicity greatly helps to protect their work.. at least from the powers at YT. The misogynistic powers that be in India, however, may be another story...

    • @FocusedFighter777
      @FocusedFighter777 3 місяці тому +4

      This
      The truth always gets silenced.

  • @hcrone
    @hcrone 3 місяці тому +343

    Right on Exulansic.
    Right on Derrick Jensen.
    Right on Helen Joyce.
    Right on Genevieve Gluck.
    Right on to everyone in this film and elsewhere, willing to speak publicly.

    • @Sn0wShepherd
      @Sn0wShepherd 3 місяці тому +28

      I wondered if I was the only one who recognized all of the experts in this wonderful documentary. I absolutely love Exculancic. When I lost my wife she was the only person who gave me just the right amount of advice to be able to continue forward at all. And yes I'm a TERF, got to wear it with honor I suppose just simply because I don't believe that biological males can magically transform into rainbow unicorns or something. I even have her shirt and bought one of her shirts and beautiful artwork beautiful woman just beautiful and precious. And I know all the other names too. And I know all the names of the monsters who are performing these unforgivable surgeries on our poor little babies.

    • @cantilena-22
      @cantilena-22 3 місяці тому +23

      Right on Ute Heggen

    • @susannet-b9734
      @susannet-b9734 3 місяці тому +6

      @@Sn0wShepherd I know most of them, too - and I live in Germany. Our community is bigger than we think it is!

  • @Sarah-ss9pe
    @Sarah-ss9pe 3 місяці тому +285

    "Women have a right to need things. Women don't have to set themselves aside in a relationship for any man, no matter what his circumstances. It's important to be reminded of that because, unfortunately, the culture has been doing a pretty good job of telling women otherwise."

    • @michaelmcgee335
      @michaelmcgee335 3 місяці тому +25

      There are women who feel sorry for trans-women they refuse to see the narcissism. Tried to talk sense into someone of this mindset they just dug their heels in.

    • @JaneA544
      @JaneA544 3 місяці тому +1

      There are not women of any sort since you cannot trans a body to something that was never there,, they will always be male with a vicious need to break women into accepting and affirming their lies ​@michaelmcgee335

    • @JaniceDove-tt1jz
      @JaniceDove-tt1jz 3 місяці тому +3

      @@michaelmcgee335they will say you are phobic.

    • @DariaZainabTdad
      @DariaZainabTdad 3 місяці тому +1

      Yesssss

    • @barbarakauppi9915
      @barbarakauppi9915 3 місяці тому

      @@JaniceDove-tt1jz So what?? Cowering and kowtowing to sophomoric ad hominem fallacy attacks will guarantee both your loss and all of civilized humanity's.

  • @laurawarman6695
    @laurawarman6695 3 місяці тому +268

    As someone who has been widowed, I can assure you that the term 'trans widow' is not the least bit disrespectful.

    • @UteHeggenTranswidowHeals
      @UteHeggenTranswidowHeals 3 місяці тому +12

      Thanks so much. I've dealt with this many times. I'd love to have a different term but this one evolved.

    • @Glenda-px4we
      @Glenda-px4we 3 місяці тому +28

      Also aren't they the ones that refer to there male name as a dead name??

    • @v.c.de-beaupre2855
      @v.c.de-beaupre2855 3 місяці тому +11

      Right, we say 'golf widow' and talk about 'the death of a relationship'.

    • @andrews6952
      @andrews6952 3 місяці тому

      i have a feeling that many of those who have a problem with the phrase trans widow may be consumed by the trans ideology. But I don't know.

    • @ASMRyouVEGANyet
      @ASMRyouVEGANyet 3 місяці тому +14

      They literally call it "dead name" because that person is dead to them. So "widow" is the correct term for this.

  • @frusia123
    @frusia123 3 місяці тому +143

    We have to stop telling girls romantic stories, and start teaching them the truth of how vulnerable and dependent motherhood makes a woman. So that they choose fathers for their children so carefully, as if it was a matter of life and death. Because it is.

    • @kirst77
      @kirst77 3 місяці тому +21

      And not just motherhood. Being in a marriage also makes you financially and emotionally vulnerable. There's nothing romantic about having the threat of having nowhere to live used to keep you in that relationship.

    • @TheresFuckeryAfoot
      @TheresFuckeryAfoot 3 місяці тому +4

      Women have been telling other women for centuries about the derangement of men in all manner of ways. In the age of social media it’s increased 100 fold. In many cases, it’s the proverbial “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink.”
      Presenting the truth only works if critical thinking and emotional/psychological maturity are being cultivated within society. Currently we have masses of people who hear facts/truth and quite literally deny them or do mental gymnastics to justify them because they have not cultivated the level of maturity & critical thinking required to respond appropriately.
      We’re going to see the kind of upside down world and not only of the likes of the issues in this documentary, for a while. We have two generations of adults who grew up with the ideology that they are always right, only their desires matter, claiming victimization while simultaneously harming others, anyone who disagrees with them are “evil” or bigots and “acceptance” means that everything and anything should be normalized and if you don’t agree, you are the enemy & “fascist”.
      So we’re not merely dealing with lack of information or women not sharing important life experiences with other women. We’re dealing with people who quite literally REFUSE to acknowledge the information being presented. That’s a foundational deficit that’s going to take awhile to remedy.

    • @urthboundmisfit
      @urthboundmisfit 3 місяці тому

      Or, I would propose we stop insisting that women with children lean on the fathers of their children at all. Matrilineal clans are a thing and I honestly believe we should go back to them as much as we can. (Recognizing that some mothers are abusive -- but not so many that *no one* could possibly do this.) Men have had ten thousand years to live up to the responsibility they wanted to claim, and all they've done is ruin our lives trying. Enough.

    • @ASMRyouVEGANyet
      @ASMRyouVEGANyet 3 місяці тому +6

      You can tell both! If you never see a healthy romantic relationship and never see an unhealthy ones than you won't know it when you're in one.

    • @GangstarComputerGod
      @GangstarComputerGod Місяць тому

      That doesn’t protect you. Predators will always exist. Becoming a mother will always make you vulnerable. Saying “we have to teach women to choose better” is putting ALL THE RESPONSIBILITY on women to somehow manage to avoid predators no one else saw. No. What needs to happen is these men need to be ruthlessly shut down and shunned from all of society.

  • @abunchofcatsstuffedinatren5288
    @abunchofcatsstuffedinatren5288 3 місяці тому +152

    Thank you for acknowledging this. My ex transitioned after 16 years of marriage and 22 years together. My child and I are still recovering from this experience. Lots of therapy ahead. It almost destroyed me.

    • @limesodafilmsVS
      @limesodafilmsVS  3 місяці тому +13

      😢

    • @jillturner8680
      @jillturner8680 3 місяці тому +11

      I’m so sorry! Genuinely really sad you had to experience that and I hope you and your child are well on the road to recovery.

    • @vrijbuiterspartei2715
      @vrijbuiterspartei2715 3 місяці тому +5

      Crazy times 😐

  • @Chris-qv5gv
    @Chris-qv5gv 3 місяці тому +230

    One thing struck me very forcibly watching this, and that is that AGP is a serious and dangerous mental disorder that is being enabled, applauded and encouraged instead of being recognised and treated before it gets to the horrific levels shown in this film. These women are very brave to talk about their experiences, and I hope it gives more women caught up in this nightmare the courage to leave. I have some sympathy for the men caught up in the escalating obsessive disorder of AGP, but I reserve nothing but total contempt for the medical and psychiatric professionals who refuse to see it for what it is and who enable this behaviour to progress. And we need men to stand up and say to these AGP men, this is not normal masculine behaviour. You need help.

    • @scooter-wy3qs
      @scooter-wy3qs 3 місяці тому +31

      The medical professionals who enable this don't get enough blame. If they didn't give these men access to hormones none of these women would have had to go through this nightmare.

    • @starstorm1267
      @starstorm1267 3 місяці тому +17

      I still believe men can participate in femininity in a healthy way (much like some gay men do), and shouldn’t be confined into just masculine behavior. It becomes a problem when men get sexual pleasure from being feminine.

    • @paintsilj
      @paintsilj 3 місяці тому +12

      Why on earth would you have any sympathy for obsessive, unhealthy and disrespectful behaviour?

    • @Rholenor
      @Rholenor 3 місяці тому +6

      @@paintsilj AGP isn't just a set of behaviors, it's desires that we didn't choose, and they're _huge_ burdens to us. There are many of us - mostly invisible - who haven't given in and who do fight it, but we're fighting against desires that can never be fulfilled and will never go away.

    • @altnarrative
      @altnarrative 3 місяці тому

      Well said

  • @Atluca96
    @Atluca96 3 місяці тому +64

    I am not a trans widow, but I am a woman. I am scared for us. These men have really brought to light the depth of misogyny in our society.
    I am young enough to have benefited from rights won by strong women in the past. I see now that the fight is ongoing and I want to thank all the wonderful trans widows who are speaking out, and other women enabling them to speak.

  • @cjlsawyer4399
    @cjlsawyer4399 3 місяці тому +331

    That was hard to watch, sitting safely in my house without any abusive AGPs in my life, so God alone knows how hard it was for all the women in the film to live with those men, as well as thousands of others still suffering in silence. Well done to the film makers and to the intelligent people interviewed, and a HUGE thank you to actual subjects of the film, the widows and children of those wicked men. I'll be sending this out now to the reluctant GenZs in my life as yet another educational opportunity. The tide continues to turn.

    • @TheRisky9
      @TheRisky9 3 місяці тому +45

      This is why I'm keeping a close eye on a friend of mine. She's dating a trans-woman right now whom I suspect is an AGP. (She's a lesbian and has been conned into thinking "transwomen are women" rhetoric.) I don't know how our other mutual friends will react if crap hits the fan. They worship her "girlfriend" (whose really a boyfriend) and so entrenched in this ideology. But I will be there.

    • @midnightchannel111
      @midnightchannel111 3 місяці тому +14

      The silence needs to stop.

    • @GaiaBD
      @GaiaBD 3 місяці тому +20

      @@TheRisky9 Has your friend heard about the cotton ceiling, transmaxxing and AGPs? Is she going into this situation informed or ignorant?

    • @clovis2240
      @clovis2240 3 місяці тому +1

      ​@@TheRisky9
      He's a heterosexual or bisexual transvestite man. "TW" is merely rebranding for marketing purposes that I think is best ignored by the reality-based..
      Regarding you "suspect", what straight or bi male transvestite is not an AGP?
      As they're all selfish, manipulative, draining narcissists, maybe you will be able to get your friend away from him by questioning the inevitable examples of his narc abuse over time, ignoring the fictional 'trans' topic entirely.
      Good luck supporting your friend!

    • @TheRisky9
      @TheRisky9 3 місяці тому +7

      ​@@GaiaBD I think she's ignorant.

  • @sunshinemuldoon
    @sunshinemuldoon 3 місяці тому +141

    "He's in love with himself."
    I never thought of it that way; lots to consider here - thank you, ladies.💚

    • @monicaperez2843
      @monicaperez2843 3 місяці тому +4

      He can't find his ideal woman (to marry), thus he becomes her.

    • @aquaabundance4077
      @aquaabundance4077 2 місяці тому

      But these men are married. They used their wives as their case studies to observe and thought they could mimic them smh. Creepy​@@monicaperez2843

  • @MartianGirl347
    @MartianGirl347 3 місяці тому +74

    UA-cam seems to know that my ex-husband is getting bottom surgery this week with this recommendation… even though we are no longer together, I am still devastated.

    • @serendipityblooming1244
      @serendipityblooming1244 3 місяці тому +11

      Sending loving vibes your way. I can only imagine the pain you must feel, but i am so happy to hear he is an ex. You deserve so much better and your heart will heal! One day at a time 💓🙏🌹🫂

    • @Happyzebra-sb1vz
      @Happyzebra-sb1vz 3 місяці тому +1

      Don't use their language. He's getting castrated and his p*nis mutilated.

    • @megsley
      @megsley 3 місяці тому

      I'm sorry you're going thru this - unfortunately he won't figure it out until he's already permanently mutilated himself. the sx drive will disappear with no testosterone, which means he'll have nothing to fuel his fet!sh.

    • @jmlorenzo3639
      @jmlorenzo3639 2 місяці тому +2

      I'm so sorry 💔

  • @starlingswallow
    @starlingswallow 3 місяці тому +104

    My ex husband was abused by a girl cousin when he was 13, after his dad died. She dressed him up in girls clothes and did things to him.
    After we married, he started off with wearing pantyhose. Claimed he liked how it felt on his legs. I thought it was a little strange but I wasn't vanilla so I figured it was a kink. No biggy. Over the years it ramped up to women's underwear, him wearing makeup, heels, nail polish, etc. Then it was things being put up his "back package" which I tried once but then couldn't continue. It all degraded into him being humiliated to get gratification.
    It was never intimacy, he ignored my pleasure completely. I was used as a prop to degrade him so he could get off. 😢 I've been out 6 years and still healing.
    He hated women but wanted to be one? He never touched my V in 14 years but wanted to have one? I was in competition with my _husband._ It was so twisted and horrifying for me. I felt lied to, tricked.....because I was.
    Trauma therapy helped a lot and having a healthy & loving husband that's walked alongside me as I've healed has helped me as well~ big time. ❤
    I'm so sorry for all the women who have gone through this, it's very difficult and destructive. 😢

    • @starlingswallow
      @starlingswallow 3 місяці тому +13

      13:09
      Yes! It kept ramping up. It kept getting worse and more disgusting. His porn use took over and he neglected me altogether. Part of me was relieved and part of me was absolutely _crushed._

    • @amicableenmity9820
      @amicableenmity9820 3 місяці тому +1

      Exactly like my boss, he's a crossdresser but degrades women at every turn.

    • @TheMissKizmet
      @TheMissKizmet 3 місяці тому +5

      Fuckinghell! I’m so glad you are safe, loved by a good man, and healing. Thanks for sharing, God bless! 🙏🏼

    • @HerWanderlust
      @HerWanderlust 3 місяці тому +6

      I worked with agp men for a long while- abuse by a mother who didn’t want a son (dressing him up as a girl, saying she wished he was a girl) or abuse by mother or father humiliating him by forcing him to wear women’s things-both of these were common origin stories. Another common one was simply wearing sister or moms clothing secretly when they were not in the house. Of course, ones own abuse does not excuse abusing others.

    • @starlingswallow
      @starlingswallow Місяць тому

      @@TheMissKizmet thank you! This healing journey has been wild. Beautiful, long, wonderful, freeing, exciting, depressing, eye opening, crazy, so MANY things!

  • @alimac8312
    @alimac8312 3 місяці тому +269

    A big thank you Lime Soda Films. This film needs to be shown to MP's.

  • @suedynamic
    @suedynamic 3 місяці тому +188

    In Regards to pornography. “It’s hard to get enough of something that is almost enough.” Sexual stimulation without another human doesn’t close the loop, and leaves us feeling like it’s not quiet enough. A very important documentary. Well done

    • @truerosie
      @truerosie 3 місяці тому +8

      It's like the old saying about addiction: You can never get enough of what you don't really want. Hard to break from that obfuscating loop.

    • @barbarakauppi9915
      @barbarakauppi9915 3 місяці тому

      That's how addiction works..

  • @SarahDavis-d2d
    @SarahDavis-d2d 3 місяці тому +807

    Thank you for acknowledging the pain we trans widows have experienced and continue to experience.

    • @TheRisky9
      @TheRisky9 3 місяці тому +100

      This is impeccable timing, because the general narrative right now is that "it doesn't hurt anyone." In fact a friend of mine posted a very misleading meme that said "If we let people choose their gender then what's next? Something else that's none of my business and won't harm me in the slightest. I mean, where does it end?"
      And this just isn't true! It does harm people.

    • @michaelmcgee335
      @michaelmcgee335 3 місяці тому +28

      @@TheRisky9 So many are blind.

    • @Qrtuop
      @Qrtuop 3 місяці тому +17

      Hugs if you want them, Sarah

    • @SarahDavis-d2d
      @SarahDavis-d2d 3 місяці тому +21

      @@Qrtuop I appreciate your hugs! I'm still standing but I truly doubted I would when this started.

    • @alisonwren3624
      @alisonwren3624 3 місяці тому +24

      @@TheRisky9Lying harms everyone who hears it, and those gaslit by the changes in societal structure to accommodate these reality-deniers.

  • @beccywilson1349
    @beccywilson1349 3 місяці тому +164

    i am a trans widow . Im so pleased this film has been made . I still am in shock , feeling broken , and am coming back to "myself" and to reality , slowly . Iv had terrible experience of therapy around this . Iv become afraid to seek support , for fears of being labelled transphobic , controlling , not kind enough etc etc . I now really see i need to a support group of women who understand the incredibly strange situation , or to speak with other women about this . Dose anyone know of how to find support in this situation ?.

    • @ellisdunegan
      @ellisdunegan 3 місяці тому +12

      There are links at 1:34:57

    • @lmn-3927
      @lmn-3927 3 місяці тому +14

      Look for Trans Widows threads on internet forums. Look for forums that are for straight spouses only (or women only) because most L G B T support groups offer little to no support to the straight spouse (if gaslighting women into letting their boundaries be crossed can be called "support" at all).

    • @YochevedDesigns
      @YochevedDesigns 3 місяці тому +2

      You may find more support in a faith based person, like a pastor or a rabbi.

    • @dawnatkinson7704
      @dawnatkinson7704 3 місяці тому +8

      ​@@YochevedDesignsPersonally I don't think advising someone to seek support in a faith based system which is also misogynistic is wise.

    • @pollyparrot9447
      @pollyparrot9447 2 місяці тому

      @@dawnatkinson7704 Agree. Faith based advisers tend to put pressure on the woman to preserve the marriage no matter what it costs her.

  • @atsymbolhashtag2335
    @atsymbolhashtag2335 3 місяці тому +177

    A lot of familiar faces in this documentary. Well done. The societal acceptance of this delusion is bewildering. It is so obviously a sexual fetish and not an "orientation" or medical condition.

    • @Stumpybear7640
      @Stumpybear7640 3 місяці тому +4

      Do you not think gender Disphoria is not a psychological disregulation? And transitioning eases that Disphoria? No disrespect btw x

    • @alisonwren3624
      @alisonwren3624 3 місяці тому +1

      Yes its a refusal to accept reality and should be treated in the same way as those delusional folks who think they're Napoleon....not celebrated! I wish they'd all just go back to dressing up in private on the weekends and leave women and children alone!

    • @CM-hp5nk
      @CM-hp5nk 3 місяці тому +1

      Have to disagree here. It is an orientation. The fetishistic aspect comes from it being supressed most of the time. It is an orientation in the sense that it can't be changed. However, I do believe for some it is a competing orientation with typical heterosexuality.

    • @CG-uh5nw
      @CG-uh5nw 3 місяці тому +5

      I think tg dysphoria is a disorder. Many western countries do now not recognise it as such but still pay for all the medical treatment. I think it is way over diagnosed and many people do not profit from hormones/surgeries. The only reliable studies on this show, that surgeries tend to rise the risk of suicide… here in this movie they are also talking about all the other reasons to crossdress (its not only gd). Autogynophilia f.e. I would be highly alert if a middle aged man states that he now wants to be a woman, because then he is most likely not a person with gf. For me the most important thing would be to declare it absolutely illigal to transition children/teenagers and to stop holding the whole society hostage to take part in somebodys delusion.

    • @carolmoore83
      @carolmoore83 3 місяці тому +3

      It isn't all that accepted. People are just afraid to speak up. The more the merrier.

  • @nickgreen4731
    @nickgreen4731 3 місяці тому +78

    So far I see nothing but positive comments for this film. That in itself is a very good and revealing sign. This movement is the Emperor's New Clothes.

  • @BellaCarmezia
    @BellaCarmezia 3 місяці тому +144

    The road the world is heading down frightens me. Women are being erased and silenced. Thank you for this film 🙏

    • @snu3877
      @snu3877 3 місяці тому

      And it sickens me to my core to see how many fawning women are supporting their own erasure. I said recently in another post: it ain't men buying "Be Kind" lawn signs. Women have this misguided notion that it is loving to "accept" everyone, not playing out all of the consequences of that generic platitude.

  • @Aomame77
    @Aomame77 3 місяці тому +229

    I once heard a woman complaining about trans widows saying that adopting the word “widow” was not recognizing the pain “real widows” face. Everyone loses someone very close to them and most people face betrayal of some sort. It seems reasonable to me that a deceased spouse is less painful than one that betrays. This documentary proves it.

    • @TheRisky9
      @TheRisky9 3 місяці тому +69

      This is from the same group that uses the term "Dead Name" to represent the "death" of their old self...
      Just thought that was interesting is all.

    • @goldenrochelle888
      @goldenrochelle888 3 місяці тому +62

      As an actual widow, and a mother of a trans-ID’ing daughter who’s now cut contact, both are painful but in vastly different ways. One I could grieve with support, while the other I can’t speak about. Also, society continues to openly celebrate trans ideology and the destruction of the family unit.
      I accept the term ‘trans widow’ as it conveys much, incl the pain and suffering, but please don’t elevate it above the actual loss (death) of a loved one. This isn’t more oppression Olympics. We can all suffer and be compassionate to each other’s pain and needs.

    • @pollyparrot9447
      @pollyparrot9447 3 місяці тому +31

      @@TheRisky9 I think it has to do with the thinking that language control is only allowed on their side. Any hyperbolic term they come up with to describe their circumstances is fine, but let someone who is affected by their actions try to describe his/her feelings about them - unacceptable.

    • @freakyrettstar
      @freakyrettstar 3 місяці тому +1

      @@goldenrochelle888 not one woman who uses the moniker transwidow has ever elevated their pain over widows. The idea that we do, is pushed by the trans community.

    • @JaneA544
      @JaneA544 3 місяці тому +24

      A deceased spouse is extremely painful, don't downgrade it ever. But the pain and betrayal these wonen feel is very real and devastating to them and their children

  • @lja000
    @lja000 3 місяці тому +247

    I knew it was bad. I did not realize how bad. My heart goes out to these women and children. How sad that some men have devolved to such dark places.

    • @kenlau457
      @kenlau457 3 місяці тому

      As usual, women will not take any form of accountability. This is of your own making. Being masculine is toxic, remember? Just angry that there is a group that is now more protected than you? Always the victim no matter how much society is set up to your advantage.

  • @cooshrocket
    @cooshrocket 3 місяці тому +211

    I’m surprised UA-cam didn’t censor this. Congrats on this brave and important piece of work! Looking forward to watching.

    • @wendymoran6759
      @wendymoran6759 3 місяці тому +41

      Me too! Im watching it now instead of later bc im worried it will be taken down.

    • @carmenmenendez9796
      @carmenmenendez9796 3 місяці тому +1

      @@wendymoran6759just finished it myself and immediately downloaded it just in case.

    • @justmy2cents652
      @justmy2cents652 3 місяці тому +23

      @@wendymoran6759 Jupp. Watched and shared it instantly bc of that.

    • @beewest5704
      @beewest5704 3 місяці тому +15

      Just wait it's early days. 😢

    • @Prafik614
      @Prafik614 3 місяці тому +24

      ”People who are ment to be about free speech, become all about silencing”. These women deserve to tell their story ❤

  • @charlottecorday8494
    @charlottecorday8494 3 місяці тому +405

    It's insane what men are allowed to get away with.

    • @Sn0wShepherd
      @Sn0wShepherd 3 місяці тому +2

      It's really nothing new is it? We carry all of life that we're treating like children like our voices don't matter. We are beautiful and elegant and our greatest attributes are considered weaknesses among men. Yeah it's nothing new. It makes it really easy for totally messed up people like me to start to think that maybe they can become men for 100 different reasons. Two years of testosterone and I'm the biggest dummy on the planet. My wife left me because of it. Yes my same sex wife. But she returned to me as a friend and later lived with me for many many years until go figure uterine cancer led to sepsis and took her away from me again. I'm very happy to have met Exculancic because she went through some of the things I did and she helped me to find a way to leave a part of myself behind with her with my beautiful Rita in order to not delete myself. I love that woman no matter what even if someday she comes to hate me I'll still love her for saving it taking the time to save me

    • @kenlau457
      @kenlau457 3 місяці тому

      No, rather what women are allowed . These men are literally allowed carte blanche behavior once they identified as women.

    • @martymcfly8731
      @martymcfly8731 3 місяці тому +33

      Oh, but they'll say they are more oppressed just because they can't get a girlfriend or a woman to look their way.

    • @briannabanks1659
      @briannabanks1659 3 місяці тому +11

      The Johnny Depp VS Amber Heard case is a huge proof of this.

    • @casey98
      @casey98 3 місяці тому

      Therein lies the problem, 99% of men do not agree with any of this.
      There is an elephant in the room !! A huge one ! The irony is that women are the ones that embraced, coddled and supported this insane behaviour, their own demise. Go to any drag show or trans activist protest. Nothing but women and some gay men. Straight men want absolutely no part of this and when you say " insane what men get away with" .... I feel like abandoning all the support I give to the brave women that are fighting this insane ideology.

  • @abigailrowland5650
    @abigailrowland5650 3 місяці тому +140

    A beautiful and very important piece of film-making, I am proud to be a part of it but, even knowing something of the process and the material, I still was blown away by the film's power. What a hero Vaishnavi is.

  • @abidenoon5133
    @abidenoon5133 3 місяці тому +101

    What an important film, trans widows voices need to be heard.
    Learning about how a child of a TIM has coped with his behaviour towards her and how that's affected her, heart breaking.
    Really well done. Thank you.
    Edit, woke up thinking about these women, AGPs are a danger to everyone around them. More acknowledgement and support for these wives and children is needed.

  • @annlouise8909
    @annlouise8909 3 місяці тому +328

    So many people involved in this creation: HEROS

    • @legaltenderradfem
      @legaltenderradfem 3 місяці тому

      SHEroes 😀

    • @Sn0wShepherd
      @Sn0wShepherd 3 місяці тому +5

      Heroines! I so totally agree! I am proud to have had conversations with some of these magnificent ladies. I wouldn't be here if it weren't for excellensic spell check me on that I'm sorry lol those trans trenders get into positions of power and then they hire other trenders to bolster their position. It's the sickest form of nepotism imaginable and it's something that dynastic China endured for centuries oscillating between governance by warlords and power cloisters of eunuchs. When you study human society holy bucket see you have to be ready for some really crazy stuff

    • @normalaming3943
      @normalaming3943 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Sn0wShepherdin Greek mythology, Hero was female

    • @Sn0wShepherd
      @Sn0wShepherd 3 місяці тому

      @@normalaming3943 That's what the boys say! herois, herone, heroina, heroissa, herys...let them keep their filssy "hero" wordses! ;)

    • @una-janewinfield1667
      @una-janewinfield1667 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Sn0wShepherd I don't think you mean "nepotism". Could you please explain further? Thank you.

  • @Nooj-o7f
    @Nooj-o7f 3 місяці тому +117

    Extraordinary film- made me cry. My children’s father married 20 years is gay and married to a man now- not exactly the same but so many areas of commonality - the gas lighting, manipulation of the children, the fury when I no longer wanted to play my part in keeping the facade going, the lack of recognition for the fact I had been in an abusive situation rather than how great it is for him finding his authentic self. Well done on getting this out there and ❤ to all women going through this

    • @rexingtonfunk
      @rexingtonfunk 2 місяці тому +4

      I am a trans widow myself and I have thought a lot about this. About how women who have suddenly gay husbands must go thru some similar things. It must be confusing, invalidating, scary, and frustrating. I'm so sorry you went thru that. I have total empathy for you.

  • @VictimPoliticized
    @VictimPoliticized 3 місяці тому +44

    A major international step back for women's rights.

  • @AlishaMiaM
    @AlishaMiaM Місяць тому +7

    Thank you for this. I have always thought I was alone in this abuse. My father was trans. He physically, mentally, and sexually abused me and countless others, including other kids and multiple wives/other women. This was so incredibly relatable. Thank you. Thank you to all the women who spoke up in this. You give me courage.

    • @yintoons7807
      @yintoons7807 28 днів тому +3

      That's horrible... I'm so sorry.
      Hope you're doing okay now ❤

  • @cycledance
    @cycledance 3 місяці тому +95

    The problem is well known now and the advice should be: Run. Immediately divorce and don't look back.

    • @lissarae
      @lissarae 3 місяці тому +10

      I agree in principle with what you're saying, however I feel it's important to acknowledge that it's overly simplistic as far as advice goes - it doesn't acknowledge all of the barriers that exist that make leaving an abusive relationship so difficult. And these relationships absolutely ARE abusive!
      Protection orders are difficult to obtain, are often simply ignored, if not worse (sometimes they enrage abusers instead). The isolation, loss of economic stability, and extreme lack of any kind of safety net, lack of access to housing and limited shelter resources leave so many survivors with nowhere to go, no support systems, and no access to external resources.
      Not to mention that leaving is actually the most dangerous time - something like 70% of domestic violence murders happen during or just after the victim has gotten out.

    • @middleofnowhere1313
      @middleofnowhere1313 3 місяці тому +3

      And gather evidence of them cheating so you can come out ahead in court

  • @india1422
    @india1422 2 місяці тому +10

    The idea that a man is going to tell me, a woman, what it is to be a woman, is just bonkers

  • @tracyshannon1991
    @tracyshannon1991 3 місяці тому +112

    So great to hear from several women whose experiences are similar to my own and to those of my children. Thanks for this film.

  • @tungsten20
    @tungsten20 3 місяці тому +165

    With this important documentary, I hope every woman and children affected by this phenomenon knows that they are not alone. It breaks my heart to see them lose their husbands/fathers to this social contagion; the ones who thought they loved them only to “live” as their “authentic selves” and if you don’t validate them, you’re a bigot.

  • @katiepert7746
    @katiepert7746 3 місяці тому +229

    Well done to the brave women who told their stories & the woman who documented them. Big respect & admiration to you all. 👏 👏 👏

  • @greentree5448
    @greentree5448 3 місяці тому +191

    OMG. I know a trans widow and she's told me stories that, until now, I didn't quite believe. But, now, I believe every single word. She could have written this.

    • @freakyrettstar
      @freakyrettstar 3 місяці тому +1

      there's experiences that were shared which are common amongst all women who are transwidows or children of trans

    • @juliettejuliette-bf8df
      @juliettejuliette-bf8df 3 місяці тому +54

      Nice to know women continue to be not believed 🤨

    • @y2ksurvivor
      @y2ksurvivor 3 місяці тому

      ​@@juliettejuliette-bf8dfoh come on, you can't expect blind affirmation with any claim no matter who makes it. it's OK to have doubt. its a very TRA mindset to think we must believe anything a fellow female says without checking the veracity of her claims.

    • @xXxScrattiexXx
      @xXxScrattiexXx 3 місяці тому +33

      i hope you learn from your mistake and from now on believe women instead of men.

    • @BushidoVXX
      @BushidoVXX 3 місяці тому

      Troon ideology is wicked and evil. It must be stopped at all costs.

  • @youcel92
    @youcel92 3 місяці тому +173

    This was heartbreaking. So important, so overdue. Someone had to do it, at last these women's voices will be heard.
    YOU are stunning and brave 💚🤍💜
    Thank you, all of you.

  • @chantelibra5160
    @chantelibra5160 3 місяці тому +121

    Thank you for making this. These voices need to be heard.

  • @MariaWitlof
    @MariaWitlof 3 місяці тому +145

    One of the most important documentaries the world needs right now! Thank you to all the brave women involved and the makers! ❤

  • @mojour
    @mojour 3 місяці тому +82

    Thank you Vaishnavi Sundar for making this important documentary, at the same time heartbraking and empowering, and deep thanks to all the women who took part, told their stories, thank you to all of you! For being brave, for being human, for being resilient women telling the truth. I am deeply impressed.

  • @mhm5443
    @mhm5443 3 місяці тому +199

    This is crazy stuff. The level of abuse is just horrible. This is a dangerous movement.

    • @monicaperez2843
      @monicaperez2843 3 місяці тому +2

      This movement is from the pit of Hell!

  • @hatgrrl
    @hatgrrl Місяць тому +5

    I’m so glad you refer to these men as “trans-identified men,” which is the much more accurate term compared to “trans women.” These are heterosexual, narcissistic, selfish, abusive men with a sexual paraphilia that takes over their (and their families’ lives).
    I’m so glad I divorced my ex-husband, who was an AGP, because he had an affair, complaining I wasn’t “feminine” enough. He later revealed to me that he had talked to a doctor about possibly “transitioning.” That was 10 years ago and he has remarried and doesn’t seem to have “transitioned”, but who knows what’s going on.
    My heart goes out to all women and children who have suffered at the hands of these AGPs.

  • @beeba52
    @beeba52 3 місяці тому +94

    I can think of many people who need to watch and show this film. Congratulations for making it.

  • @ThatCurious_Cat
    @ThatCurious_Cat 3 місяці тому +60

    I can’t thank you enough for putting this together! And the brave women who shared their stories. I have been screaming the erasure of women through this trans ideology for ages, praying that all women will start screaming too. It’s never been more important. Thank you again!

  • @catherinerobilliard7662
    @catherinerobilliard7662 3 місяці тому +60

    Watched this yesterday evening and here I am again bearing witness to the forbearance of women who have sacrificed so much, suffered so much and lost so much, including being the one called mother.

  • @Cabsnkings
    @Cabsnkings 3 місяці тому +78

    That was incredible, incredibly sad, and also incredibly brave. Thank you Vaishnavi, and all the women [and man] who contributed to this incredible, historic documentary.

  • @cantilena-22
    @cantilena-22 3 місяці тому +83

    Thanks to all the courageous women who created this film.

  • @steph744
    @steph744 3 місяці тому +49

    this film needs to be seen by everyone

  • @acacia_w
    @acacia_w 3 місяці тому +73

    These cases are all clear instances which fit the definition of Domestic Abuse. It's staggering that these men are prioritised, even when children are involved. I don't see how this can possibly continue. It will just take more people to become aware of this phenomenon.
    Sending love and support to everyone involved in the making of this film. ❤

  • @madcatdad42
    @madcatdad42 3 місяці тому +21

    As a Widower, I can say the term "trans widow" is not disrespectful.

  • @BirdistheNerd
    @BirdistheNerd 3 місяці тому +45

    I can't thank you enough for this film. It's like someone out in the ether whispering "I see you." I appreciate this presentation so very much.

  • @marilynwarbis7224
    @marilynwarbis7224 3 місяці тому +40

    Thank you for giving a voice to those whose voices are silenced.

  • @AmparoDomingo
    @AmparoDomingo 3 місяці тому +321

    Vaishnavi is a trailblazer!! This was so needed!! Well done! Excellent job! 👏👏👏👏

    • @Garbeaux.
      @Garbeaux. 3 місяці тому +22

      MUCH! I am a bisexual man & this is the most important documentary I really think I’ve ever seen. Been sharing it everywhere and I never share videos. 🤷🏼‍♂️

    • @tripleyoker2049
      @tripleyoker2049 3 місяці тому +2

      Cultural WARRIOR

  • @MalaMaja1986
    @MalaMaja1986 11 днів тому +2

    Im a woman and a mom. 10 years ago I left my ex because he was abusive, but this is an extreme lvl of abuse. This is shocking, sad and dehumanizing to every woman. I stand with you ladies! Thank you for speaking up ❤

  • @aqueen3122
    @aqueen3122 3 місяці тому +37

    wow. so well put together, calmly presented and so illuminating

  • @impossibleagent3663
    @impossibleagent3663 3 місяці тому +40

    I’m left speechless. This just smacks with reality. Beautifully done.

  • @susiecoll6206
    @susiecoll6206 3 місяці тому +24

    None of this has ever washed with me. Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities. Voltaire

  • @emmawilson1157
    @emmawilson1157 3 місяці тому +32

    Brilliant film and so important. Thank you for giving these women the chance to tell their stories

  • @sarahlpw
    @sarahlpw 3 місяці тому +12

    When I tried to search for this film, the only results were trans reactions to this film. Luckily I had saved it under my watch later playlist. Thank you for making this documentary and uplifting women's voices!!

  • @voightkampff7936
    @voightkampff7936 3 місяці тому +75

    Huge thank you to everyone involved in the creation of this film. You're bravery is commendable.

  • @kimwells2695
    @kimwells2695 3 місяці тому +79

    This documentary hurt my soul.
    Sickened by the fact that in nearly every case of a real victim speaking out after being harmed by the Gender Ideology Juggernaut is harmed again by captured friends, neighbours, trans activists, media, politicians and law etc, etc. I feel suck to my stomach at the injustice.

  • @vanessamcc71
    @vanessamcc71 3 місяці тому +75

    Wishing Vaishnavi every success. Watching from Belgium XX

    • @MariaWitlof
      @MariaWitlof 3 місяці тому +11

      Watching here from the Netherlands, hello! 😅❤

  • @SatuSusanna
    @SatuSusanna 3 місяці тому +9

    This is hard to watch. It's horrendous what these women have been through. They're so brave ❤

  • @damarcohamby
    @damarcohamby 3 місяці тому +66

    Wow I’m utterly amazed and distraught at what these women have gone through and endured with these men 🙏 Thankyou for making this documentary because trans-widows voices need to be heard. I knew about AGP’s but now my understanding has fully peaked me💯

  • @ambreberiault9097
    @ambreberiault9097 3 місяці тому +80

    What a pleasure to finally see the outcome of this project, despite all the emotions these testimonies make you go through. Thank you to anyone that participated in any way to this.

  • @west4Bmovement
    @west4Bmovement 3 місяці тому +168

    HAVING A HUGE TERF ZOOM WATCH PARTY FOR THIS ONE!!! CAN'T Wait.

    • @labeaulieu2465
      @labeaulieu2465 3 місяці тому +7

      How can I get in to watch?

    • @west4Bmovement
      @west4Bmovement 3 місяці тому +1

      @@labeaulieu2465 We were all on the ZOOM. I am just seeing this comment. Many apologies. We have movie night every Saturday tho at 7pm via ZOOM. We just eat and talk shit...let me know. LOL. Later

    • @RareJem85
      @RareJem85 3 місяці тому +1

      What is a terf?

    • @viciousisanerd
      @viciousisanerd 3 місяці тому +1

      ​@@RareJem85trans exclusionary radical feminist. It's a term they made up to try and shame women who speak out.

    • @deemac9263
      @deemac9263 3 місяці тому +7

      Gaslighting Mysoginist yells “having a huge terf zoom…”

  • @FallopianDismay
    @FallopianDismay 3 місяці тому +60

    Fantastic doc! Well done! I'm going to pass it along. This is an important film, and if the tide is really turning, it's going to get seen!
    All my sister solidarity and love to the women who shared their stories with us! And everyone who made the film happen.

  • @Uh_huh
    @Uh_huh 3 місяці тому +57

    Excellent documentary. The scary thing about this form of abuse is how it has become socially acceptable, normalised. The men are lauded as "stunning and brave" and their wives advised to accept the behaviour, get over it and are made to feel guilty if they leave. This needs to be shared near and far.

  • @HoldenCaulfield-w9w
    @HoldenCaulfield-w9w 3 місяці тому +13

    In a normal world this movie would be on Netflix - huge thanks to Vaishnavi and to everyone who contributed to this movie of historical and revolutionary significance.

    • @flyingpinecone
      @flyingpinecone 3 місяці тому +6

      It is rather chilling to know most of the big streaming services (if not all of them) would hesitate to even consider streaming this documentary… maybe be one day…

    • @pollyparrot9447
      @pollyparrot9447 2 місяці тому

      Instead, Netflix has Will & Harper 🙄🙄🙄

  • @lovenature7823
    @lovenature7823 3 місяці тому +35

    Thanking all of the courageous women who stood up for themselves in this video, and for your work as a documentary maker. Excellent action in support of Trans Widows, and against trans ideology.

  • @UteHeggenTranswidowHeals
    @UteHeggenTranswidowHeals 3 місяці тому +63

    I believe it will take a few days to settle in that we finally have our voices. Thank you Vaishnavi. Well worth the wait~

    • @Sn0wShepherd
      @Sn0wShepherd 3 місяці тому +6

      Ute!!❤❤❤❤

    • @UteHeggenTranswidowHeals
      @UteHeggenTranswidowHeals 3 місяці тому +2

      @@Sn0wShepherd And now, after 1 week, 88k views!

    • @twocanplay7976
      @twocanplay7976 2 місяці тому

      Many thanks to women like you who made these stories heard. I cannot believe I went so many years without knowing about this madness.

  • @Cedawood
    @Cedawood 3 місяці тому +78

    My poor mum was told to lay still as if she was some kind of corpse. Shed ring me & say " Ted is walking around in a tangerine mini skirt...sigh!"
    My step father, Ted, was a fraud for 5 years & hid all this & then just expected my mum to play along😢

    • @abigailrowland5650
      @abigailrowland5650 3 місяці тому +15

      My heart breaks for your poor mother.

    • @northstar2621
      @northstar2621 3 місяці тому +2

      Lay still...? In what context was this if I may ask?

    • @Clint52279
      @Clint52279 3 місяці тому

      As if she were no more an accouterment than the lingerie and wigs? Just another masteurbatory aid?

    • @batcactus6046
      @batcactus6046 3 місяці тому

      @@northstar2621 Imagine sex.

  • @TheRisky9
    @TheRisky9 3 місяці тому +27

    Broken down Into chapters (I think I got them all):
    0:00 - Intro
    3:15 Why does he want to be a woman?
    18:29 Sex
    22:25 Misogyny, Male Violence & Manipulation
    28:19 Men Claiming Motherhood
    36:40 Child Abuse
    44:01 Custody Battle
    46:48 Control & Isolation
    51:16 Playing the Victim & Suicide Baiting
    55:19 Why didn't you Leave?
    1:01:28 Poor therapeutic Support for the Wives
    1:17:25 A Global Phenomenon

  • @Busyhriehfjeje
    @Busyhriehfjeje 2 місяці тому +7

    I have witnessed several men “transition” from afar while their wives pretend to be happy about it. The PNW is where I witnessed this happening the most.
    These men are insanely dangerous and we need to work together to protect women and children from them.

    • @willzinc6137
      @willzinc6137 17 днів тому

      The PNW is a troubling place. Too many people stuck in a far left bubble.

  • @anonanon1344
    @anonanon1344 3 місяці тому +52

    Thank you to all the women who participated in this absolutely vital film. I’m so angry on their behalf.

  • @suffragette-uh8eq
    @suffragette-uh8eq 3 місяці тому +71

    Thank you to all who took part in this film.
    Women are being erased. We need to understand this and fight back for our daughters and granddaughters.

    • @unowen-nh9ov
      @unowen-nh9ov Місяць тому

      Why Graham Linehan is canceled.

  • @MarciaMatthews
    @MarciaMatthews 3 місяці тому +49

    I gave Vaishnavi ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️on IMDB.

  • @kerryAZ24
    @kerryAZ24 3 місяці тому +63

    That was an amazing film. It summed up a lot of the broader aspects of gender identity ideology while at the same time made it heartbreakingly personal. Well done ❤

  • @vicedetsYT
    @vicedetsYT 3 місяці тому +24

    Great doc, thanks for uploading! The focus on AGP is apreciated, I think it gets mentioned but not actually discussed enough in discourse around trans issues

  • @Cat-wi6je
    @Cat-wi6je 3 місяці тому +30

    Great documentary,thank you to all of the brave,strong and resilient women and children that have had to suffer because these selfish,autogynephillic men and the governments and services that enable them. #NoMenInFemaleSpaces.

  • @moodstock
    @moodstock 3 місяці тому +63

    Merci à toutes ces femmes qui ont témoignées, merci à la réalisatrice pour son travail. Votre parole est essentielle, ce documentaire est essentiel.

  • @daTribbleMaker
    @daTribbleMaker 3 місяці тому +50

    This is quite possibly the best documentary I have ever watched on UA-cam. And the best i have seen in recent memory. The professionalism and attention to detail shines in this. The content had depth and gave an unbiased look at those that suffer when the husband/father decides he is a "woman". Absolutely fantastic. Seeing Helen Joyce in this and all the other first hand stories along with other professionals gives this documentary the gravitas that you see in much higher costing productions. I hope you win many awards, and I am sharing this all over TwitterX and in forums. A++ 5 STARS- Tragically beautiful.

  • @ellieterf6443
    @ellieterf6443 3 місяці тому +64

    Wow! That was really powerful. Congratulations, Vaishnavi, and thank you to all the women who told their stories. The injustice must be so hard to take. Fucking self-centred narcissistic perverts!!
    I'm really glad that you have all found each other. This film is going to have a huge impact.
    Well done everyone, especially Vaishnavi, for bringing it all together.
    Vaishnavi, do you still need donations?
    Lots of Love, and sisterhood to all of you xxx

    • @justmy2cents652
      @justmy2cents652 3 місяці тому +10

      It is shocking that the mainstream, politicians, people who think of themselve as decent and on the "right side" seem to have forgotten that we're still talking about male sexuality and deviancy. As if pron, prostitution, lurkers, flashers, SA don't exist. The imagery in the video was powerful.

  • @Fraususemil
    @Fraususemil 3 місяці тому +48

    This video is something absolutely necessary. Many thanks to everybody involved in the making, epecially the brave transwidows speaking up!
    Are there plans for translations e.g. into German?

  • @RuthToddColorado
    @RuthToddColorado 3 місяці тому +20

    Thank you for bringing these stories together in such a clear and compelling documentary.