I know Amygdala is responsible for our emotions, sometimes I tend to freeze during a fight, I think the emotions and fear has been fed to me in my case, but I am trying to overcome it
You can overcome this Manas! Yes, some people freeze, I certainly have as well. This is a conditioned response and since your were conditioned this way, you can re-condition yourself as well. Of course it takes great self-control and emotional intelligence to not engage in a fight. Therefore I would not look at this as a negative. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you, this so helpful. We all fall prey to the amygdala hijack. Once we are aware and willing to take steps towards getting control and managing our emotions. I believe it gets better
I try to breath and re-center my mind from a meditation stand point. I've found that the deeper and more drawn out my breath the longer I have to regroup my thoughts in a calm state of mind. Deep breathing is an easy thing to edit out. Rushed speech, fluttered eyes, and constant umms after every topic switch not so much.
I constantly sabotage myself while trading forex, I will string 15-20 successful days in a row, only to lose it all in 3 days. I notice I become "possessed" while trading. I thank you for the information in this video. I am also looking to strengthen my prefrontal cortex. Thanks again.
👏 Excellent Phil! Clear, concise and best explanation I've come across so far...and I've come across many. As a Clinical Pharmacist, I get fed up of everyone using the SAME example of a tiger (even a sabre toothed tiger!) that they've all read in the 'medical' texts, when there are plenty of 'every day' examples to use that would be more logical, and appropriate, just as you have. Very good indeed...I shall watch more!
I have bpd and this happend for me all weekend and i ended up spitting out such awful things. feel nice to have someone understand in ways i dont that it wasnt my intention to be such a monster. even tho it feels awful! and lonley! that i have to clean up this awful mess iv put my self in. 💥
Don't beat yourself up over this Amber. Learn and grow from it. This was a great signal to redirect you. Just being aware is such a great thing. Most people blow up and don't even realize the damage they've done. You have. Now learn, grow and make something positive from it. 😊
What about the example of being very unexpectedly amygdala hijacked in public, like being cut off in traffic, unexpectedly (verbally) attacked...etc. That's a completely different scenario to dealing with people you know. I thought of an idea of keeping 'thank you' cards in my pocket and going out into the public or for walks in the city, and whenever i (inevitably) experience triggers, like rude or unfriendly people in public, i would (imaginatively) hand them a 'thank you' card, until I've confused my amygdala enough to stay calm in unexpectedly triggering situations. I wonder if that would work.
Isaac, I really like your idea. When we are hijacked like that, we go into the fight, flight or freeze mode. We don't know which will happen. Once we are in it, it is challenging to come out of it. A few deep connecting breaths can get you grounded and bring your prefrontal cortex back online so you can rationally work your way through the situation. Using your idea I feel can work, if you can get yourself there before being taken over by the hijack. The other thing I would work on, is not getting hijacked in the first place. Realize that everything that happens outside of you, like getting cut off in traffic, just is until you give it a story. The story you give it is what generates the emotion and anxiety. The anxiety is from time traveling into the future with a negative outcome. It is difficult, but being able to stay in the present will help you think and respond and help get you out of the situation better. Let me know how your idea works, I believe it can! Thanks for reaching out.
The real question is how do "people" know when to attack verbally from other side of the wall? How do they know about me? How do they know that I am inside my room and working on my desk? How do they know my reaction when they start attacking me? #help
They may not know any of these questions. The most important thing is that you understand what you have control of. You can't control them, you CAN control you!
Hello, do you do online coaching? This is my biggest challenge (now that OCD and misophonia have been addressed) - Im a management consultant, every day is a big risk that I get hijacked ... cheers
My issue is trading in the futures market where I close my position early because I get scared out of my position. Or I'll close early when it hasn't hit my Profit target yet because I'm afraid of losing my gains
I'm not an expert on trading, however trading scared may be from investing money you are afraid of losing. When risking something you don't want to lose, your brain perceives this as a threat and you go into the hijack. When your in the amygdala hijack, it is difficult to reason and think. You are operating from your emotional mind not logical mind. When investing, I would want to be using logic. Maybe try trading next time witha small amount of money you can afford to lose without it having a significant impact on you financially. Take note of how you think and make decisions with this trade that is less threatening. I'd bet you will make more logical decisions. Of course trading is risky and you could still lose your money, the difference is that you will understand and learn since you made those decisions logically and not while being emotionally hijacked! Hope this helps and thanks for watching!
Just tye fact that you are aware is a great start! You have to get in front of the intense feeling as it begins to show up. When you feel it, try to ask yourself some questions. "What is the outcome I want"? " What is his/Her positive intent?" "How am I getting in my own way"? As you ask yourself these questions, you shift from your emotional mind to your rational mind. This will help.over time to keep your from your intense reactions. Hope this help!
It certainly is Emily! This is why it's so important to get in front on the onset. Being intentional and aware is so important. Thanks for your comment. I appreciate it!
I hope my video helped! We all get hijacked, trying to catch yourself as it is coming on, is important, but also recognizing you're in it and working your way out. As you increase your level of awareness, it will become easier 😊
Also grammatical issue I think in the title. I think it should read “How to stay in control in stressful situations” Feel free to delete the comment if you end up changing it...
I know Amygdala is responsible for our emotions, sometimes I tend to freeze during a fight, I think the emotions and fear has been fed to me in my case, but I am trying to overcome it
You can overcome this Manas! Yes, some people freeze, I certainly have as well. This is a conditioned response and since your were conditioned this way, you can re-condition yourself as well. Of course it takes great self-control and emotional intelligence to not engage in a fight. Therefore I would not look at this as a negative. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you, this so helpful.
We all fall prey to the amygdala hijack. Once we are aware and willing to take steps towards getting control and managing our emotions. I believe it gets better
It definitely does, you're spot on! Thanks!
Wow my mentor AWMfx sir,
How does this guy only have 715 subs?? He’s so good!!
Thanks for your kind words :) Please spread the word. I appreciate you!
I try to breath and re-center my mind from a meditation stand point. I've found that the deeper and more drawn out my breath the longer I have to regroup my thoughts in a calm state of mind. Deep breathing is an easy thing to edit out. Rushed speech, fluttered eyes, and constant umms after every topic switch not so much.
Thanks for sharing!
Lawyers need this in between arguments!
I constantly sabotage myself while trading forex, I will string 15-20 successful days in a row, only to lose it all in 3 days. I notice I become "possessed" while trading. I thank you for the information in this video. I am also looking to strengthen my prefrontal cortex. Thanks again.
My pleasure Sean. Just being aware is the biggest step! It's your time! Keep working on it, and you will overcome that feeling of being possessed!
How are u doing now brother ?
👏 Excellent Phil!
Clear, concise and best explanation I've come across so far...and I've come across many.
As a Clinical Pharmacist, I get fed up of everyone using the SAME example of a tiger (even a sabre toothed tiger!) that they've all read in the 'medical' texts, when there are plenty of 'every day' examples to use that would be more logical, and appropriate, just as you have.
Very good indeed...I shall watch more!
Thanks for your kind words. I'm glad you found value in my approach 😊
Quite good explanation.
In short control is important & seems it's the key.
Yes it is! Thanks
I have bpd and this happend for me all weekend and i ended up spitting out such awful things. feel nice to have someone understand in ways i dont that it wasnt my intention to be such a monster. even tho it feels awful! and lonley! that i have to clean up this awful mess iv put my self in. 💥
Don't beat yourself up over this Amber. Learn and grow from it. This was a great signal to redirect you. Just being aware is such a great thing. Most people blow up and don't even realize the damage they've done. You have. Now learn, grow and make something positive from it. 😊
Brilliantly and yet so simply explained. Thank you
I appreciate that Andrew!
loved ur video..
@@aash2009aash Glad you enjoyed my video. Thank you for watching and commenting!
Immensely helpful ❤
Glad it was helpful! :)
Jas 1:19 ¶ Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
Very helpful, thank you
My pleasure Juan!
Very useful information, thank you!
Glad you found value! Thank you!
Awesome explanation. Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed Adriano!
Great vid 🔥
Yeah...easier said than done. This happens so fast in your brain...only thing is breathe....reframe
Key word is exactly right! Breathe!
Thank you for this video. It's so helpful!
Glad you enjoyed it Joana 😊
I found this super and wonderful. I love it.
Glad to hear that Felix! Thanks!
Good video!
Thanks!
Great info thank you
My pleasure 😊 Thanks for your kind comment.
What about the example of being very unexpectedly amygdala hijacked in public, like being cut off in traffic, unexpectedly (verbally) attacked...etc. That's a completely different scenario to dealing with people you know. I thought of an idea of keeping 'thank you' cards in my pocket and going out into the public or for walks in the city, and whenever i (inevitably) experience triggers, like rude or unfriendly people in public, i would (imaginatively) hand them a 'thank you' card, until I've confused my amygdala enough to stay calm in unexpectedly triggering situations. I wonder if that would work.
Isaac, I really like your idea. When we are hijacked like that, we go into the fight, flight or freeze mode. We don't know which will happen. Once we are in it, it is challenging to come out of it. A few deep connecting breaths can get you grounded and bring your prefrontal cortex back online so you can rationally work your way through the situation. Using your idea I feel can work, if you can get yourself there before being taken over by the hijack. The other thing I would work on, is not getting hijacked in the first place. Realize that everything that happens outside of you, like getting cut off in traffic, just is until you give it a story. The story you give it is what generates the emotion and anxiety. The anxiety is from time traveling into the future with a negative outcome. It is difficult, but being able to stay in the present will help you think and respond and help get you out of the situation better. Let me know how your idea works, I believe it can! Thanks for reaching out.
Thank you, brother
My pleasure!
Great video thanks
Glad you liked it, thanks!
The real question is how do "people" know when to attack verbally from other side of the wall? How do they know about me? How do they know that I am inside my room and working on my desk? How do they know my reaction when they start attacking me? #help
They may not know any of these questions. The most important thing is that you understand what you have control of. You can't control them, you CAN control you!
Thanks for the explanation.
My pleasure Erika 😊
Very wonderful. I love it.
Well! Just WoW
Thank you 😊
Clear and detailed. Thanks
You're welcome!
Hello, do you do online coaching? This is my biggest challenge (now that OCD and misophonia have been addressed) - Im a management consultant, every day is a big risk that I get hijacked ... cheers
Yes, I offer coaching. Lets connect via email Phil@PhilCicio.com Talk soon!
My issue is trading in the futures market where I close my position early because I get scared out of my position. Or I'll close early when it hasn't hit my Profit target yet because I'm afraid of losing my gains
I'm not an expert on trading, however trading scared may be from investing money you are afraid of losing. When risking something you don't want to lose, your brain perceives this as a threat and you go into the hijack. When your in the amygdala hijack, it is difficult to reason and think. You are operating from your emotional mind not logical mind. When investing, I would want to be using logic. Maybe try trading next time witha small amount of money you can afford to lose without it having a significant impact on you financially. Take note of how you think and make decisions with this trade that is less threatening. I'd bet you will make more logical decisions. Of course trading is risky and you could still lose your money, the difference is that you will understand and learn since you made those decisions logically and not while being emotionally hijacked! Hope this helps and thanks for watching!
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Lwant you to explain mesial temporal sclerosis left
Sorry Zahrate, I am not qualified to explain that. I appreciate you!
it’s so hard, im like a bomb that can set off anytime. i really need to control my intense reaction
Just tye fact that you are aware is a great start! You have to get in front of the intense feeling as it begins to show up. When you feel it, try to ask yourself some questions. "What is the outcome I want"? " What is his/Her positive intent?" "How am I getting in my own way"? As you ask yourself these questions, you shift from your emotional mind to your rational mind. This will help.over time to keep your from your intense reactions. Hope this help!
Even their child knows he’s full of crap lol
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Hi sir, how could I contact you
My website is www.PhilCicio.com my email is Phil@philcicio.com
I look forward to connecting.
More self division ..this way of thinking is bad and doesn't end well
For sure!
Helpful information, however the intense, pressured affect of the speaker is very anxiety provoking for someone experiencing an amygdala hijack.
It certainly is Emily! This is why it's so important to get in front on the onset. Being intentional and aware is so important. Thanks for your comment. I appreciate it!
I'm here today because of an amygdala hijack.
I hope my video helped! We all get hijacked, trying to catch yourself as it is coming on, is important, but also recognizing you're in it and working your way out. As you increase your level of awareness, it will become easier 😊
Also grammatical issue I think in the title. I think it should read “How to stay in control in stressful situations”
Feel free to delete the comment if you end up changing it...
Thank you! I will have that changed. Glad you enjoyed my video 🙂
Spare Cash na spare tire ? 😏
Just came to tell you that that right brain cognitive bias has been long dismitify