“Hurt people hurt people” and yea “judging someone or oneself doesn’t add any meaning into my life” I relate with you. You are inspiring me. And this sweetest potatoes community. 🍠🍠🍠🍠🍠
How to build habit that sticks: 1. Start with incredibly easy habit 2. Break the chunks 3. If you slip, it okay. Get on track quickly 4. BE PATIENT it will take some time and progress I hope this helped, thank for the video Loved it
3 sessions in with my psychologist and I'm two weeks into learning how to love myself and teach myself that not everyone hates me. Two weeks ago i started with the big picture- the 'I'm gonna exercise, eat healthy and do what I love' but after two weeks of waves of anxiety and depression I talked to the psych and I came to the realisation that it's good to set a big picture goal- but what are the smaller steps to getting there? Now I'm here, researching how other people love themselves, mindfulness and compassion in order to implement smaller things into my life
Rowena, you continue to amaze me with your wisdom. These lessons are like hard pills to swallow because it's so difficult to start, but these are steps to starting a better life. And it's just another great reminder that the path to self-discovery/care/love is a rough journey, but also wonderful when we do get to a better place. Thanks again!
Since everything has been feeling quite chaotic lately- you making this video is a sign. I absolutely loved it and the part 'only we know where our hearts truly lie' has resonated with me so much! Thanks for this. Love, always
My spirituality and beliefs are just, Rowena now. Girl u r literally so smart, and its so great to see you share your experiences and lessons learned in life with all of us. Thanks for making these amazing videos 🖤
this is a really relatable video especially the hard-learned lessons. I went from outgoing people pleaser to a judgemental narcissist, in college, which stemmed from not knowing how to handle failures of early adulthood and resulting in projecting insecurities. Even when I find solutions to these insecurities I find myself wanting to project these thoughts to my friends who are going through similar struggles and was confused why it worked for me and not for them. In the end, the notion of wanting people to act the way you like or create things you like only ends with you wanting to isolate yourself or others removing themselves from you, leaving you stuck with your own thoughts for a long period of time is a tricky thing to be in.
I have always been so judgemental about everyone including myself, doesn't mean that I look down on people, contrary to that I tend to see that people/others do it better, know better while i keep assuming that i need constant validation and reassurance from them to know that I am good enough. till this day, I am hard on myself, I keep having negative self talk which sucks and makes me so sad and anxious... especially in these times where I am looking for a job and I need to value myself and stay confident....love your videos they help rethink and reorganize my thoughts
omg rowena u hit it right on the head. I have such a hard time trying to focus on people’s intentions instead of reacting to their delivery, but ive seen ppl do it and they live much lighter lives
I am in this weird phase where I am constantly judging everyone and looking for ways to sabotage my relationships. Thinking how I am an awful person who has no empathy. It is so difficult to navigate through life when you yourself don't have a solid ground. Watching your videos really help me stop for a moment and try to look at everything with positivity. Thank you so much!
Oh my god the fifth point has shocked me so much, it’s a really good to quote to help someone get up and begin doing things right away, loved this video a lot!
Just wanted to send you a sweet short reminder than you are incredibly valuable and warm my heart every time I listen. Appreciate your sweet soul and impression muahhh😘
Rowena, thank you for this much needed video💖 The entire world needed to see but most importantly really LISTEN and understand this empowering, real and inspiring video! I resonate with all the tips! If anyone reads my message, focus on yourself, always believe in yourself because you got this💜
Thank you Rowena, I believe each of us has a part to play in this unlimited world drama. I appreciate the attitude you have to whose Charing in lovely spontaneous and honest way. Big hug.
Omg that quote tho you hurt because you're hurting that's so true and so deep. Only once we start looking inward we start realizing such things. I loved the video btw
Thank you, Rowena for this video! I have always struggled with my own mind and its pattern of finding and being fixated on things I do not like in people or things. In the end, being this self aware on my pattern, I then brought judgement and harsh criticism onto myself. Tbh it is really a struggle as it connects back to ego and sense of self and I questioned myself so much to a point of a vicious cycle of anxieties. As for the gratification bit, thank you for talking about cancel culture! There is a Vox video talking about how people are more divided with cancelling each other or trying to humiliate the other side into joining their side. Slowly though, I do see a shift in from cancel culture as people are starting to realize its countereffects instead.
Thank you Ro. I've been watching you for a year and 1 month and I'm really feeling myself getting more mature along the way, living and thinking in healthy ways. Also I let go of redundant things, relationships and people ("trim the fat"). As Fel puts on her IG bio, we're outgrowing things to grow more from within. Just so you know. Love you guys!!!
Dude. So much relatability here. I love how you expressed your take on the two wolves. My take on it has been that everything is a practice, and to choose our practices with what's in line with our values. I'm going to have to watch this again. That first one definitely stood out the most to me 😊
“the person who is gonna help you the most and the person you've been waiting for your whole life, is actually, yourself." i needed to hear this today. idk why i’ve been waiting for someone to come along and "help" me make things alright, in my life. Even though, i do take full responsibility and accountability of my life and for myself, i still was waiting for someone to make things alright. Putting this comment out there, so that maybe in a few months of time when i come back to this video and read my comment again, i would've changed than who i am now.
10:00 I totally relate but when I realized that wasn't gonna happen I fell into a depressive state thinking I'd be lonely forever.. It took a while (and therapy) for me to learn to find joy in life by myself for myself
Do you think in the future you could share your thoughts on dealing with toxic people in a spiritual way? I always resonate with your messages of love, kindness and compassion but sometimes I wonder how best to extend that to people who prey off the kind and compassionate.
7:23 What you said makes a lot of sense and it reminds me of this thing I watch somewhere about the art and skill of zen that we need to keep our mind empty so that those thoughts wouldn't get some kind of stress and removing them will show the even better opportunities on how we can look at things in a better way and not think of the negative side of things. I can't emphasize this enough but it's just life changing tbh. And also, every time that I feel down, feel like I'm just not good enough or that I'm not getting work done I always come to your channel. I always feel happy when I watch your videos and they inspire me to do more and turn my life into something I would not regret. Lots of love to you sis
Here I am again saying I love your sweater. And these mindset habits are really a good foundation to really really keep us on living the life we want without getting pressured with the noise we have right now 💜
Regarding number 5: I somehow learnt that lesson from Harry Potter - he saves himself with his own patronus in year 3, but he only realizes he has to once Hermione says nobody’s coming 😱😱😱
This video really resonated with me in a lot of ways... I’ve always had a hard time with friendships and a lot of it came from being judgmental and I’m doing my best to improve that part of myself.
Rowena thank you for your advice and the book by James clear I’ve read it a number of times. i’m 66 years old grandchildren and I work in my office during the day fell into a major slump and by reading that book and listening to your videos I now belong to a gym I work out daily I’m very active I keep a journal I’m feeling better and once again thank you from a 66-year-old who can still learn from anybody and everybody no matter what the age.
I loved when you said that the only person whose judgment matters is our Creator’s and I agree 💯! I have started a wonderful relationship with Christ and it’s hard to find videos that don’t focus on: “Be there for you!!” “You matter most” “Get rid of people!! You don’t need them!!” I love your videos the best bc you don’t have a main focus on yourself! You focus on relationships with others❤️ You focus on being a kind potato❤️ I have benefited a lot from your channel and it has actually deepened my relationships with others, myself, and Christ❤️ Idk if you’ll ever see this comment but I love you and your channel so much! You’re so real with us! You are such a sweet potato🥔🥔 and I hope to become a sweet tater-tot some day❤️
Rowena, I'd be super interested in your thoughts about the differences between 'cancel culture' and 'holding people accountable for their actions'. Most of the people I've heard railing against cancel culture (and I'm totally NOT saying you're railing - but most people I've heard use the term up until this video have been), seem to use it to cover situations where a popular figure has said or done something racist, transphobic or otherwise hurtful to a group of people, and then, when members of that community have said, "Hey, that thing you've done is hurtful. Please don't!" the person involved has doubled down, insisted that whatever they did or said was OK, or 'apologised' in a way that implies the problem was with the person who was hurt being too sensitive, not with what they said or did. And then, when members of that community have said, "OK, fine: you've made it clear that your values are opposed to ours, so continuing to buy your stuff/follow your content/support you make us feel like we're supporting your stance that it's OK to hurt people, and that's not OK with us", supporters of that person call that accountability "cancel culture". I'm pretty sure that's not the kind of situation you're thinking of when you talk about cancel culture as a problem - but I'm curious about where you see the line being between "cancel culture" and choosing to stop supporting someone who's shown by their actions and subsequent reactions that their values are opposed to yours?
I love this so much! Love learning new things or being refreshed to a certain thought, through your videos. Thank you Rowena for being the big sister I wish I had! 💕
Your incredible... you are quickly becoming my go to for introspection, self growth, and healthy habits and thoughts. Thank you so much! Don’t stop!! ❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️
Rowena being so relatable 1:08 I laughed so loud because I thought I was the only one and I low key feel like fixating on your S.O makes you less attractive subconsciously and they pull away by choice or the Universe pushes them away from you
I just came across your videos and I’ve only watched a couple so far but I’m incredibly grateful that I’ve made it here. Your videos are inspiring and the way you explain things is very helpful and easy to follow.
Conscious decisions and being true to yourself really resonates with me. I've been reading How to do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera and it has opened my eyes on how I think about how I've been going through life. A lot of times, due to traumas I didn't even know I had or pushed far away, I've just been auto piloting even though I thought I was doing what was best for me and everyone else. Because of that I've been feeding the Evil Wolf way more than the Good wolf. After changing the way I think, I've been loving myself more and bounce back much faster from negative experiences, but I still have times where I potato. Today actually I spent a long time in bed with out motivation, but I allowed myself time and kindness (rather than "yelling" at myself for reasons I should be up), even some gross sobbing. I've learned painful moments are temporary even if they feel like "forever" but the best part is feeling better and going back to the things I want to do. Anyway, I hope anyone who has read through this or even glanced at it has a lovely day and to remember to be kind to yourself always and to be present. 💛
in a nutshell . . . . . i love the outro! 💗 kidding aside, i'm truly moved by how truthfulness, compassion, and tolerance/forbearance should always come together. i'll certainly put a big space for this in my heart to remember. 😭
We have different insecurities and I understand what you feel. Mine is having dentures, flat nose, big face , small eyes. I have no money I’m such unlucky person. But I’m still thankful for whatever I have right now.
Hello Rowena! I have been watching your content for quite some time. This video really made me ponder about the way I think and judge other people. I do think my judgmental thoughts about other people come from my own insecurities. It's been quite hard as I am trying to reframe my mindset and the way I think about myself. I'm trying to take small steps to becoming true to myself. I also want to avoid making negative assumptions and jumping into conclusions about other people. Thank you for your thought-provoking video
Hey Rowena can you start a site where u put quotes and worksheets up? Ur content is amazing and has helped my mind in ways I can't explain. I'm a visual learner and trying to figure out some of ur brilliant idea isn't easy. Not sure who else would enjoy stuff like this? I think it's a wonderful idea!!
These are excellent, I definitely agree about people being here for a reason, a season or a lifetime! Very balancing thought when stressing about relationships 🙌🏻🧡
These videos are literally such a bless, it feels like having a deep coffee conversation with you and on a personal level. I just adore it and I adore you hihi Thank you for the amazing Video and for the thoughtful content. XO
I love you, Rowena! Watching your content evolve and grow with you has been such a great pleasure/honor over the years. Your videos always come at just the right time and I'm so grateful for you!
on the topic of cancelling: i think it's important to acknowledge that there's a big difference between trying to de-platform powerful people who have abused their power and bullying random people on social media for saying an ignorant thing once. i totally agree though that we too often hate on others just to make ourselves feel better by comparison.
omg thank you for this, i needed this sm! it has now been a while since i found your channel and honestly your tips and mindset overall helped me a lot these last months with my mental health and confidence. i tried a lot of hobbies including filming and i realized i love to make videos as well and even started a channel of my own. so honestly thank you, you have no idea how much you helped me! 🥺
So much wisdom packed into this video! It truly is amazing how much we are impacted by the perspectives we choose to take as we navigate through our lives.
"On the outside is being judgemental, but on the inside it could be jealousy, it could be insecurities, it could be projecting insecurities..." Brene Brown mentions in one of her lectures that if you're judging yourself, you do judge others as well.
This really resonated with me and I thought I was being openly mindful up until now and going with the flow. Taking a deep breath and re-realizing my concept of mindfulness and going with the flow!
I wish I learnt these things quicker in life - this should be a compulsory school curriculum in the modern, uncertain age... Thank you so much as always, love your videos!
I took notes and will definitely refer back to these points to reflect! Thank you for teaching us these lessons you've learned. :) I have been decluttering youtube channels that don't bring value to my life, so I totally understand the point you made about why people watch specific channels with various contents! It almost seems like we get to see what people of the UA-cam world desire the most.
As you spoke about systems put into place in the beginning it reminded me of Bronfenbrenner's ecological system theory. It mentions micro, macro, chrono, etc. systems which shape who we are. Think you would like the theory.
To your point about cancel culture, I agree that the time it takes to look for nuance isn’t part of lots of people’s social media practices, since social media is def focused on short vs delayed gratification. But, I have a hard time arguing about cancel culture because I don’t think it functions as a valid tool of accountability. There’s been so many situations where people dismiss people’s accusations/allegations that are coming out of a place meant to show how people are hurt and how they wanna find solutions. Aaand from what I’ve seen mostly right-wing commentators attacking “cancel culture” and purposefully misinterpreting its ugliness while not talking about what perpetuates it (and how they might be culpable of encouraging it 👀). All the parts that keep cancel culture alive and direct attention away from real accountability aren’t easy to unlearn because these flaws are built into our social media systems, like you said-lack of nuance from quick interactions, thinking we know more about someone than we really do, etc. Still, I always wanna call attention to making sure to contrast cancel culture with internet accountability, since the latter has worked when there’s a community that cares about its members!
Welp I definitely spend a lot of time just in my own head and I catastrophize things all the time
Same here..at this moment if I remember ( haha) I say to myself that not all I think is true. I am not omniscient. Or I say out loud ' Stop'.
Same here 😬😪
Fear likes to exaggerate. It is the ultimate drama queen.
@@creepywallet I will try this out, thank you!!!
That’s what I have been during for school and I have to just sit there and tell myself to stop 💀
“Hurt people hurt people” and yea “judging someone or oneself doesn’t add any meaning into my life” I relate with you. You are inspiring me. And this sweetest potatoes community. 🍠🍠🍠🍠🍠
GANG GANG!!!!! shoutout to all my Potato family.
How to build habit that sticks:
1. Start with incredibly easy habit
2. Break the chunks
3. If you slip, it okay. Get on track quickly
4. BE PATIENT it will take some time and progress
I hope this helped, thank for the video
Loved it
New video idea? How about the fear of rejection (breaking up, being alone, person you like not liking you back, etc.)?
I'd really like to see 7 mindset habits for : Inner strength// growth // handling rejection(by friends, in love or at job) // inner peace
3 sessions in with my psychologist and I'm two weeks into learning how to love myself and teach myself that not everyone hates me. Two weeks ago i started with the big picture- the 'I'm gonna exercise, eat healthy and do what I love' but after two weeks of waves of anxiety and depression I talked to the psych and I came to the realisation that it's good to set a big picture goal- but what are the smaller steps to getting there? Now I'm here, researching how other people love themselves, mindfulness and compassion in order to implement smaller things into my life
Rowena, you continue to amaze me with your wisdom. These lessons are like hard pills to swallow because it's so difficult to start, but these are steps to starting a better life. And it's just another great reminder that the path to self-discovery/care/love is a rough journey, but also wonderful when we do get to a better place. Thanks again!
“Every day may not be good... but there’s something good in every day.”
- Alice Morse Earle
Have a wonderful week everyone :)
my anxious brain really needed this today
4:00 a wise woman once said, "i dont want friends, they d i s s a p o i n t me"
ahh I see you are also enrolled in Stampede University
Just a few mins ago, I was literally quite upset and anxious about things, then got recommended this. Thank you. 💖
Idk every time i watch rowena's video, i always be ready with my notes, because i feel she's giving me a lecture about life
Since everything has been feeling quite chaotic lately- you making this video is a sign. I absolutely loved it and the part 'only we know where our hearts truly lie' has resonated with me so much! Thanks for this. Love, always
My spirituality and beliefs are just, Rowena now. Girl u r literally so smart, and its so great to see you share your experiences and lessons learned in life with all of us. Thanks for making these amazing videos 🖤
this is a really relatable video especially the hard-learned lessons. I went from outgoing people pleaser to a judgemental narcissist, in college, which stemmed from not knowing how to handle failures of early adulthood and resulting in projecting insecurities. Even when I find solutions to these insecurities I find myself wanting to project these thoughts to my friends who are going through similar struggles and was confused why it worked for me and not for them. In the end, the notion of wanting people to act the way you like or create things you like only ends with you wanting to isolate yourself or others removing themselves from you, leaving you stuck with your own thoughts for a long period of time is a tricky thing to be in.
omg this is so me right now
I was being afraid of silence till 2 years ago... now I strive for calm and reconnecting with myself.... these are priceless ^^ thank you Rowena ^^
You are awesome. A truth teller for sure. As a 64 year old, you already teach everything I've needed a lifetime to learn Thank you.
I *adore* Rowena, she's so genuine and sweet☺
May you always have so much peace and happiness in your life
I have always been so judgemental about everyone including myself, doesn't mean that I look down on people, contrary to that I tend to see that people/others do it better, know better while i keep assuming that i need constant validation and reassurance from them to know that I am good enough. till this day, I am hard on myself, I keep having negative self talk which sucks and makes me so sad and anxious... especially in these times where I am looking for a job and I need to value myself and stay confident....love your videos they help rethink and reorganize my thoughts
Your transparency is magic. Thank you so much for this.
omg rowena u hit it right on the head. I have such a hard time trying to focus on people’s intentions instead of reacting to their delivery, but ive seen ppl do it and they live much lighter lives
I am in this weird phase where I am constantly judging everyone and looking for ways to sabotage my relationships. Thinking how I am an awful person who has no empathy. It is so difficult to navigate through life when you yourself don't have a solid ground. Watching your videos really help me stop for a moment and try to look at everything with positivity. Thank you so much!
Oh my god the fifth point has shocked me so much, it’s a really good to quote to help someone get up and begin doing things right away, loved this video a lot!
Just wanted to send you a sweet short reminder than you are incredibly valuable and warm my heart every time I listen. Appreciate your sweet soul and impression muahhh😘
Rowena, thank you for this much needed video💖 The entire world needed to see but most importantly really LISTEN and understand this empowering, real and inspiring video! I resonate with all the tips! If anyone reads my message, focus on yourself, always believe in yourself because you got this💜
So true....resonates with me
You are putting things I don't know how to say or ashamed to do into words, thank you.
Thank you Rowena, I believe each of us has a part to play in this unlimited world drama. I appreciate the attitude you have to whose Charing in lovely spontaneous and honest way. Big hug.
You are glowing😍 Love your content as always.✨
Omg that quote tho you hurt because you're hurting that's so true and so deep. Only once we start looking inward we start realizing such things. I loved the video btw
The first person on the internet I've heard talking about friendship struggles. Honestly, I'm overwhelmed in the best way 💛
Am I the only one or was that a really warm hug?!
you're not the only one TT - TT
Thank you, Rowena for this video!
I have always struggled with my own mind and its pattern of finding and being fixated on things I do not like in people or things. In the end, being this self aware on my pattern, I then brought judgement and harsh criticism onto myself. Tbh it is really a struggle as it connects back to ego and sense of self and I questioned myself so much to a point of a vicious cycle of anxieties.
As for the gratification bit, thank you for talking about cancel culture! There is a Vox video talking about how people are more divided with cancelling each other or trying to humiliate the other side into joining their side. Slowly though, I do see a shift in from cancel culture as people are starting to realize its countereffects instead.
Thank you Ro. I've been watching you for a year and 1 month and I'm really feeling myself getting more mature along the way, living and thinking in healthy ways. Also I let go of redundant things, relationships and people ("trim the fat"). As Fel puts on her IG bio, we're outgrowing things to grow more from within. Just so you know. Love you guys!!!
I'm in love with that teal sweater
your smile at every opening video just makes me smile for some reason too!❤️❤️✨
whenever I watch your videos, I feel truly hugged by your words. your content is so warm and comforting. thank you so much Rowena!!
Dude. So much relatability here. I love how you expressed your take on the two wolves. My take on it has been that everything is a practice, and to choose our practices with what's in line with our values. I'm going to have to watch this again. That first one definitely stood out the most to me 😊
“the person who is gonna help you the most and the person you've been waiting for your whole life, is actually, yourself."
i needed to hear this today.
idk why i’ve been waiting for someone to come along and "help" me make things alright, in my life.
Even though, i do take full responsibility and accountability of my life and for myself, i still was waiting for someone to make things alright.
Putting this comment out there, so that maybe in a few months of time when i come back to this video and read my comment again, i would've changed than who i am now.
10:00 I totally relate but when I realized that wasn't gonna happen I fell into a depressive state thinking I'd be lonely forever.. It took a while (and therapy) for me to learn to find joy in life by myself for myself
Do you think in the future you could share your thoughts on dealing with toxic people in a spiritual way? I always resonate with your messages of love, kindness and compassion but sometimes I wonder how best to extend that to people who prey off the kind and compassionate.
1 year of watching your vlogs. Thank you ✨
7:23
What you said makes a lot of sense
and it reminds me of this thing I watch somewhere about the art and skill of zen
that we need to keep our mind empty so that those thoughts wouldn't get some kind of stress
and removing them will show the even better opportunities on how we can look at things in a better way and not think of the negative side of things. I can't emphasize this enough but it's just life changing tbh.
And also, every time that I feel down, feel like I'm just not good enough or that I'm not getting work done I always come to your channel. I always feel happy when I watch your videos and they inspire me to do more and turn my life into something I would not regret.
Lots of love to you sis
Here I am again saying I love your sweater. And these mindset habits are really a good foundation to really really keep us on living the life we want without getting pressured with the noise we have right now 💜
Regarding number 5: I somehow learnt that lesson from Harry Potter - he saves himself with his own patronus in year 3, but he only realizes he has to once Hermione says nobody’s coming 😱😱😱
This video really resonated with me in a lot of ways... I’ve always had a hard time with friendships and a lot of it came from being judgmental and I’m doing my best to improve that part of myself.
Rowena thank you for your advice and the book by James clear I’ve read it a number of times. i’m 66 years old grandchildren and I work in my office during the day fell into a major slump and by reading that book and listening to your videos I now belong to a gym I work out daily I’m very active I keep a journal I’m feeling better and once again thank you from a 66-year-old who can still learn from anybody and everybody no matter what the age.
I loved when you said that the only person whose judgment matters is our Creator’s and I agree 💯! I have started a wonderful relationship with Christ and it’s hard to find videos that don’t focus on:
“Be there for you!!”
“You matter most”
“Get rid of people!! You don’t need them!!”
I love your videos the best bc you don’t have a main focus on yourself! You focus on relationships with others❤️ You focus on being a kind potato❤️ I have benefited a lot from your channel and it has actually deepened my relationships with others, myself, and Christ❤️
Idk if you’ll ever see this comment but I love you and your channel so much! You’re so real with us! You are such a sweet potato🥔🥔 and I hope to become a sweet tater-tot some day❤️
I comeback to this video, and still again thank you for sharing Rowena~~ blessed for you
Thank you.
This saves me from myself lately.
Tbh, I should ENGRAVE the lines in this video in my face or something. I needed SOOOOOOOO MUCH this video. Thank you so much again Rowena 🌞🌞🌞🌞
I have been feeling so anxious recently so this video came at the perfect timing! Thank you Rowena! ❤️
Rowena, I'd be super interested in your thoughts about the differences between 'cancel culture' and 'holding people accountable for their actions'.
Most of the people I've heard railing against cancel culture (and I'm totally NOT saying you're railing - but most people I've heard use the term up until this video have been), seem to use it to cover situations where a popular figure has said or done something racist, transphobic or otherwise hurtful to a group of people, and then, when members of that community have said, "Hey, that thing you've done is hurtful. Please don't!" the person involved has doubled down, insisted that whatever they did or said was OK, or 'apologised' in a way that implies the problem was with the person who was hurt being too sensitive, not with what they said or did.
And then, when members of that community have said, "OK, fine: you've made it clear that your values are opposed to ours, so continuing to buy your stuff/follow your content/support you make us feel like we're supporting your stance that it's OK to hurt people, and that's not OK with us", supporters of that person call that accountability "cancel culture".
I'm pretty sure that's not the kind of situation you're thinking of when you talk about cancel culture as a problem - but I'm curious about where you see the line being between "cancel culture" and choosing to stop supporting someone who's shown by their actions and subsequent reactions that their values are opposed to yours?
I started watching her videos yesterday and I already love this bish ♥️🥺
I love this so much! Love learning new things or being refreshed to a certain thought, through your videos.
Thank you Rowena for being the big sister I wish I had! 💕
"Whatever you're not changing, you're choosing."
Your incredible... you are quickly becoming my go to for introspection, self growth, and healthy habits and thoughts. Thank you so much! Don’t stop!! ❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️
People rarely finish ths quote: "Hurt people hurt people...but mostly themselves."
Rowena being so relatable 1:08
I laughed so loud because I thought I was the only one and I low key feel like fixating on your S.O makes you less attractive subconsciously and they pull away by choice or the Universe pushes them away from you
I just came across your videos and I’ve only watched a couple so far but I’m incredibly grateful that I’ve made it here. Your videos are inspiring and the way you explain things is very helpful and easy to follow.
Rowena is my spiritual leader
Conscious decisions and being true to yourself really resonates with me. I've been reading How to do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera and it has opened my eyes on how I think about how I've been going through life.
A lot of times, due to traumas I didn't even know I had or pushed far away, I've just been auto piloting even though I thought I was doing what was best for me and everyone else. Because of that I've been feeding the Evil Wolf way more than the Good wolf. After changing the way I think, I've been loving myself more and bounce back much faster from negative experiences, but I still have times where I potato. Today actually I spent a long time in bed with out motivation, but I allowed myself time and kindness (rather than "yelling" at myself for reasons I should be up), even some gross sobbing. I've learned painful moments are temporary even if they feel like "forever" but the best part is feeling better and going back to the things I want to do. Anyway, I hope anyone who has read through this or even glanced at it has a lovely day and to remember to be kind to yourself always and to be present. 💛
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i love the outro! 💗
kidding aside, i'm truly moved by how truthfulness, compassion, and tolerance/forbearance should always come together. i'll certainly put a big space for this in my heart to remember. 😭
We have different insecurities and I understand what you feel. Mine is having dentures, flat nose, big face , small eyes. I have no money I’m such unlucky person.
But I’m still thankful for whatever I have right now.
Hello Rowena! I have been watching your content for quite some time. This video really made me ponder about the way I think and judge other people. I do think my judgmental thoughts about other people come from my own insecurities. It's been quite hard as I am trying to reframe my mindset and the way I think about myself. I'm trying to take small steps to becoming true to myself. I also want to avoid making negative assumptions and jumping into conclusions about other people. Thank you for your thought-provoking video
Hey Rowena can you start a site where u put quotes and worksheets up? Ur content is amazing and has helped my mind in ways I can't explain. I'm a visual learner and trying to figure out some of ur brilliant idea isn't easy. Not sure who else would enjoy stuff like this? I think it's a wonderful idea!!
I saw that you uploaded a video and internally I was like thank god I need this right now. love your content
These are excellent, I definitely agree about people being here for a reason, a season or a lifetime! Very balancing thought when stressing about relationships 🙌🏻🧡
@robynnnnanne would love to see more about life in nyc and BTS of shooting beauty within content! love you both!!
These videos are literally such a bless, it feels like having a deep coffee conversation with you and on a personal level. I just adore it and I adore you hihi Thank you for the amazing Video and for the thoughtful content. XO
How did you you shift your world from only being fixated on your relationship?
My favorite go to channel :) THANK YOU SO MUCH
thank you for all your helpful tips and advice :)
I love you, Rowena! Watching your content evolve and grow with you has been such a great pleasure/honor over the years. Your videos always come at just the right time and I'm so grateful for you!
This couldn't be further from the point of the video but that jumper colour is BEAUTIFUL on you. It is your colour! (or one of them)!
So insightful! I'll love to hear you talk about self-reflection and growth in the future!
*subscribed*
Feels so warmth hearing her saying sweetest potatoes😊🌻💜💜💜💜💜
wooow the best video i have seen in a looong while ! thank you ❤️❤️
Could you make a video about "going with the flow" and stop obsessing over control? Thank you so much for your content!!
on the topic of cancelling: i think it's important to acknowledge that there's a big difference between trying to de-platform powerful people who have abused their power and bullying random people on social media for saying an ignorant thing once. i totally agree though that we too often hate on others just to make ourselves feel better by comparison.
我心情不好時、不知道該怎麼安排生活時、感覺壓力大時, 都看你的影片>< 謝謝你~
omg thank you for this, i needed this sm!
it has now been a while since i found your channel and honestly your tips and mindset overall helped me a lot these last months with my mental health and confidence. i tried a lot of hobbies including filming and i realized i love to make videos as well and even started a channel of my own. so honestly thank you, you have no idea how much you helped me! 🥺
wow what was the best explanation of what is wrong with cancel culture that I've ever heard 👏🏼
So much wisdom packed into this video! It truly is amazing how much we are impacted by the perspectives we choose to take as we navigate through our lives.
Found you today and have been binge-watching your videos. Love your humor and your messages
"On the outside is being judgemental, but on the inside it could be jealousy, it could be insecurities, it could be projecting insecurities..."
Brene Brown mentions in one of her lectures that if you're judging yourself, you do judge others as well.
This really resonated with me and I thought I was being openly mindful up until now and going with the flow. Taking a deep breath and re-realizing my concept of mindfulness and going with the flow!
I wish I learnt these things quicker in life - this should be a compulsory school curriculum in the modern, uncertain age... Thank you so much as always, love your videos!
The best perspective I’ve heard on cancel culture and also every other topic here Rowena you are the sweetest of potatooooooes xoxoxo
there is no way im *this* early!!
metoo 🥴
such an amazing video. your energy is so calming and the insight is outta this world. happy af youtube recommended u to me.
I love the plant smack at 0:35
I took notes and will definitely refer back to these points to reflect! Thank you for teaching us these lessons you've learned. :)
I have been decluttering youtube channels that don't bring value to my life, so I totally understand the point you made about why people watch specific channels with various contents! It almost seems like we get to see what people of the UA-cam world desire the most.
很佩服你這麼誠實的對面自己和這個世界！謝謝你幫助我這麼多！
As you spoke about systems put into place in the beginning it reminded me of Bronfenbrenner's ecological system theory. It mentions micro, macro, chrono, etc. systems which shape who we are. Think you would like the theory.
Te amo, siempre es reconfortante escuchar tu voz, siento que una amiga me da consejos, gracias 🤍
To your point about cancel culture, I agree that the time it takes to look for nuance isn’t part of lots of people’s social media practices, since social media is def focused on short vs delayed gratification. But, I have a hard time arguing about cancel culture because I don’t think it functions as a valid tool of accountability. There’s been so many situations where people dismiss people’s accusations/allegations that are coming out of a place meant to show how people are hurt and how they wanna find solutions. Aaand from what I’ve seen mostly right-wing commentators attacking “cancel culture” and purposefully misinterpreting its ugliness while not talking about what perpetuates it (and how they might be culpable of encouraging it 👀).
All the parts that keep cancel culture alive and direct attention away from real accountability aren’t easy to unlearn because these flaws are built into our social media systems, like you said-lack of nuance from quick interactions, thinking we know more about someone than we really do, etc. Still, I always wanna call attention to making sure to contrast cancel culture with internet accountability, since the latter has worked when there’s a community that cares about its members!
you have a new energy in these new videos, more in control and said with a period. more sure i think
I’ve watched you for years, Rowena, and this is my fave video of yours to date ✨❤️🤗 Thank you
loving your content💗💗💗