Your face has even changed. From horribly stressed and guilty to some sense of calmness and well being. I’m so proud of you and happy that she’s adjusting well to her surroundings. Continued love and support to you both 😊❤😊
I’m happy to hear you say you realize this was the best decision for her care. You are an incredibly loving husband. You treat her and speak of her with the utmost respect. Others that chronicle the painful journey of dementia/Alzheimer’s on their channel seem to exploit their loved one. Life is not fair, but you have handled this difficult situation with dignity and grace. Thank you for the update.
As a Director of Long Term Care facility I always kept plastic numbers 2 and 4 on my desk and gave them to families who were so torn about placing loved ones in care. Told them give your “two” and I will give you a “four” as you are not doing this “2” them but “4” them. Gentle care helps everyone.
It’s lovely to see you, Trey. Life can be really hard at times. None of us know what’s around the corner but, you know what, it’s not so scary when we have you sharing your journey with us. Thank you.
Trey you are one in a million. Honestly. When I was a care-giver to my late husband Doctors told me I should place him in a facility. Also, I was told most people in my position would have left their spouse. I stuck it out until he was a danger to himself and me. This is the most difficult disease, they refer to it as the long goodbye. Thank you for sharing your journey.
Hello ! I was a RN and worked 1 year in a dementia care locked unit. Your story is so very appreciated. When I began I saw a patient, severely affected, I remembered her , as I had worked with her 20 years ago. As I continued, in that capacity, I got to know the family, they were thrilled to hear my memories of her when she was well, we bonded, they knew I would give her love and care for her, after 1 year, I went into another field that I really specialized in. But, during that year I asked to see pictures of her prior to her illness, the family then brought in and displayed her pictures. Can I suggest that you talk about your lives prior to illness, and see pictures of her and the two of you. As a professional caregiver I always loved to see what their lives in happier times, it also creates a whole capsule of time when before illness. Bless your heart ❤ and Theresa
I hope you write a book about all of this… her story is so important to tell but also… Trey your story of caregiving is so inspirational, moving, gut wrenching, and beautiful that I know everyone will be inspired but also led to love like you love Theresa. I really hope to one day buy 10 of your books and gift them to my while close knit family. You have changed my life. ❤
It seems the time you spend with her now is filled with peace and love and you can both cherish those hours. It’s a beautiful and rare thing to have such a great love for one another.
You made me cry. “All my love till the very end” God has put you and Theresa together for a reason. Thank You for continuing on with videos for us! I feel like years from now when you look back on this time, on the videos, not only will it be memories for you to cherish forever but I feel like maybe it’ll help you as much as you’re helping all of us that continue to watch…. Keep on keepin on…give Theresa hugs for me….❤
I couldn’t help but tear up while watching this. You are a great man and husband and very strong making this very difficult decision, but I agree with you that it was in her best interest to be cared for in a facility where they can give her round the clock care and you can still visit her everyday
In my opinion…for what it’s worth….I know you have done the right thing. She is getting best of both worlds. Most of all she is happy there and content. You are doing great! A friend from Canada 🇨🇦😊
You are an awesome husband Trey.. I can tell you really want the best for Theresa. I had to place both of my parents in a memory care.. at the same time. I relate to how hard it is.. although I'm sure its even harder with a spouse...and you guys are so young. I hope you get some rest and some peace now.. glad to hear its working out as well as it is!
You are by far the most wonderful human being I've ever had the pleasure to listen to. God bless you for everything you have done and continue to do for your beautiful Theresa. Sending you both lots of love and hugs and wishing I lived near you so I could visit Theresa and give you both a real life hug ...
My sister just went into a memory care facility from assisted living. She is pretty far into the disease process, and so far, she hasn't even noticed she's somewhere else. I had a hard time when I learned she had progressed to needing memory care, but it is what it is. I have posted here before, and know I seem to have a lot of stories: I lost my grandmother, mother, brother, and sister to dementia, and I am at the approximate age where they all started to show symptoms. Therapy has really helped me. My sister is blissfully unaware, but the rest of us are suffering. I wish you continued strength in this journey. Try not to second-guess your decisions: you made them with the information you had at the time. Bless your kind heart.
Thank you Mary for sharing your story. I'm sorry to learn how dementia has taken a toll on so much of your family. Much love and support to you and your family.
A wonderful blessing for Theresa! Guilt keeps us in place when the mind knows when the time comes to place our loved ones. Perfectly normal to go above and beyond. Hard to give the care over to someone else, a loss of what wee bit of "control" we think we have. Isn't it wonderful that Theresa is happy and content. With her safe it has to be nice to have an evening routine that you both enjoy. Thank you for taking the time to keep us up to date. Blessings to you both.
I'm so happy Teresa is adjusting, she seems happy and she is absolutely beautiful. I know it is hard, I can see the love you have for her. Thanks for updating.
I can only imagine the process you and her are going through as I haven't had to walk in those shoes myself. I appreciate you sharing to help people like me understand better and to help those that know exactly what you're dealing with feeling that they are not alone or whatever else they need and want. Continue to take one day at a time. I'm still praying for everyone in involved. And yes, keep us posted when you can. No pressure.
Wonderful visit for the both of you! Putting your loved one first, no matter how difficult, is a precious gift and your wife is blessed to have you. Be easy on yourself and take comfort in knowing that she is safe and being well cared for.
This is the first video I've watched from your channel but having lived with my mom caring for my grandfather after his Alzheimer's diagnosis, I can fully relate to what you're telling. As heartbreaking as it is, at some point it becomes too exhausting and often dangerous to deal with this terrible disease within your family. I'm so glad your wife is adapting well and I admire the way you still care about her. I'm sure she feels your love. I'm sending you strength for your journey. You've made the right decision.
I cannot imagine how hard the past years of your life must have been. I've never experienced anything remotely like this, but would like to express my admiration and support for you
Thank you for the update! I’m so glad to know that your wife is adapting well and that you are able to get a little more rest. I’m not currently dealing with this in my family but I feel more prepared if this becomes a challenge in our lives. It really helps to understand what others are facing and maybe how I can help support them. Thanks again for sharing!!
Trey, you are a wonderful husband and human being. May god wrap his arms around both you and Theresa, giving you the strength, love, and guidance needed as you continue loving and caring for Theresa. ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
THANK YOU, DEAR GOD 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🥲 I had tears for you both - mostly happy tears - just seeing Theresa smile 💝! And hearing her say how wonderful it was sitting with you enjoying nature. Omg - I’m crying again just writing that. For now, Trey, just take these gifts as they come - I know you are. And it’s REALLY good to see you looking more rested and feeling more at peace with what had to be done, as painful as it was (and I’m sure so often still is). God bless you both 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 … and I just have to say it : Theresa is sooo beautiful- but you already know that 🥰. Supportive & loving hugs to you and your precious Theresa.
Your evening routine sounds lovely. I imagine having a consistent routine and activities during the day is very beneficial for Theresa's mental state. I'm glad you're at a point where the guilt has eased, and you can see that you made the best decision for yourself and Theresa. Best wishes from Aotearoa/ New Zealand.
I wish we all could be blessed with someone as devoted as you are. I’ve dealt with the situation peripherally six times in my life so far and I knew that your “new normal“ would come and finally be a relief. It’s obvious on your face and your demeanor. Your energy seems to be coming back and you do not look exhausted or nearly as stressed. You made the perfect choice for her and for you at this point. It sounds like things are going extremely well, considering. Hugs from New York.
It was lovely to see you both together and she looked as happy as she can be but I was also happy to see a change in you as well Trey because I believe you’re a very loving husband to Teresa and you only want the best for her and to know that she is safe while you have to go to work. Everyone on here is supporting you and keeping you both in our prayers. God Bless you both 🙏🏿
What a BLESSING you are to share your story. I love reading all the comments and I just saw only 8 hours online, over 9,000 people have watched your video already! It warms my heart to see how many others are helped by your words and what you are experiencing. Take care of yourself!
Hi Trey….so thankful you guys are ok….please don’t feel bad for doing things that need to be done…you’re an awesome hubby….stay strong Trey…sending love and hugs xx
I'm so glad that she is adjusting to her new home, and that she still remembers who you are. Take care and may God continue to bless you and give you strength.
I simply lost it at, "One More Kiss"♡♡~We should all know such a pure LOVE as this one:) Blessings and PRAYERS from the Southwest Desert of Arizona...Holly!!
I think you made the perfect decision. She looked great in the video. But I am sure others in your place have felt the same way. It’s hard to place our love ones in anywhere other than our home. You are a loving husband and if it matters, I am very proud of you.
You are being a wonderful, devoted husband and I admire you so much. A lot of men would not be able to handle what you are doing. We had to put my in-laws in an Assisted Living Facility and they were so angry at us. It was a very sad, difficult time but they were a big danger to themselves on their small ranch. But we knew it was best for them to be somewhere they could be taken care of when we could not do it anymore. My very best to you and your wife. You are doing the right thing for you both. 🙏🙏🙏
It's so strong and kind of you to make these videos. Time is all we have to heal, nurture, and contain yourselves in making it the best. Your home is beautiful, now she has adapted to her new home. Stay strong. Many blessings sent to you both. I care for a lady two or three times a week that has memory loss from mini strokes. She only knows of the present day. I told her don't worry about tomorrow. And yesterday has past.
So glad you have such a nice routine after work, it sounds very special and must be lovely for you both. Well done for being so caring and brave for your Wife...you are a Good Man and Husband.
Trey, I cannot imagine the pain you feel of saying “the long goodbye” as Nancy Reagan said Of President rReagen..I have had to walk that journey with my mother and my sister and believe me Trey, Theresa needs you whole and healthy and visiting her instead of become sick yourself trying to take care of her. I know becuase it is what happened to my sister when she took care of my momma..I’m praying for you..Hugs
Thank you for the update. It was probably the hardest decision you've ever had to make to put your wife in someone else's care. I'm glad to hear that she's adapting well to her new surroundings. I'm sincerely wishing you both the best.
Please continue with making these videos. I used to work in an assisted living facility. One of the best jobs I have ever had. These residents are being taken care of so well (Not saying there aren’t some bad apple communities out there) Best advice to those looking to take this level of care, do your research and get recommendations from other families. Trey you and Theresa are both doing better because of the decision you made for her care and your care❤
You're a wonderful husband Trey. Theresa surely feels safe & well taken care of at the memory care facility. As difficult as the decision was for you to take regarding placing Theresa, you now see & know you made the right decision for her. God bless you both 🙏
Those extra kisses say a lot😉Such a soft, sweet voice that she has and a lovely Lady. You keep taking care. You know that she is safe and that you can visit. Life is too short to not focus on our blessings. Thank you for sharing your and her story.
You’re doing wonderful. Your choice was a selfless one. You keep making as many videos as you need. Even several a day. You need to take care of yourself as well. Your still needed by your wife. Always and forever.
After watching numerous near death experiences and each relaying that we come here with a plan for reaching certain milestones. These goals seem to be how we handle life's hardships along the way. You shouldn't feel at all guilty because you have given your wife safety and the intense care she now requires. One person alone cannot give her this kind of care. I am sure you have done the right thing. It was my mother that my husband and I cared for and I can relate to your uncertainty and feelings of guilt. You have done the right thing.
Thank you Tray, for generously and courageously sharing your and Theresa’s experience living and loving one another within the journey of dementia. I was/am so happy for you both; smiling, lovingly enjoying time together in the beautiful garden gazebo, surrounded by the sweet, calming sights and sounds of nature. It was clearly wonderful time together for you both-very healing and joyous. It was also very good to hear the focus of your work life is returning, fortifying you and that Theresa also is thriving within her new home environment and structured daily routines. You both are maintaining your lives together as husband and wife in nurturing ways, creating happiness and fulfillment as the days continue. There clearly is much to be grateful for, each day and each step of the way. I thank you Theresa, as well, for graciously sharing your time and attention with us, and commend you both for your courage, strength and devotion to one another and the love you share.🌷🐿️🌷
You did the right thing nothing to be ashamed of I remember when my Grandma had to place my grandpa and memory care it was a sense of relief knowing that she didn't have to look after him and that burden was lifted she goes and visits him almost everyday❤❤
The peace on your face says it all! She has you, she is being taken care of and you as a caregiver have needed peace! Your courage amazes everyday! Love you and Teresa! God bless you both! ❤❤❤
You have been a wonderful and still are, husband- how many are put in facilities and just left - you cared for her till it wasn’t feasible, and still do so much., - this is best for you and her. Thank you for the update and don’t feel like you have to explain yourself - we are all behind and pray for you both!
Thank you for sharing this personal journey . I find myself in the beginning of a similar situation. I am the other person in the story and while I am still able to communicate with much concentration, I worry about my husband having to care for me. Your thoughts, fears and decisions have been a great insight for me. I hope to share with my husband. Don't be so hard on yourself, we all can only do our best. Life reminds us to enjoy every moment. My thoughts are with you both.
You have made a most thoughtful and compassionate decision. I know it is hard, but you don’t need to be wracked with guilt about it. She is happy and doing well.
So glad to hear that she is adjusting well. I worked in LTC for many years & there is a reason they exist. You touched on something with the time you spend with her is quality time. As hard a decision that I know it is (having had to put my own Dad in a facility) it can relieve so much stress off families that can go on with their own daily lives knowing that their loved ones are being cared for & they can visit with them. Take care.
Trey, It’s Sheila & Darren from Atlanta! We are so happy we found your channel. Receiving these updates make my husband less stressed. The way you speak is comforting, and after watching one site, he felt as if he had witnessed trajectory into hell. He retired from a large news organization in Atlanta, only to be slammed with the loss of his wife and eternal love. (He calls me that.)😊We’ve been together 33 years! We have perused UA-cam for support videos, but as you probably already know, most are people caring for elders with Alzheimers and the differences can be quite significant. Finding someone in the same age range makes us feel less alone on my journey with FTD at 56. I finally spoke with my primary partner at the clinic by phone. (I took sabbatical immediately following dx.) He was shocked to say the least because at this time, I’m still able to appear cognizant for short periods of time. It’s becoming shorter. The medical board did not offer a peer review for me to continue practicing in a non-surgical setting. I’m considered unfit for duty even considered stage 1 mild-moderate. I performed my last pelvic reconstruction in late December with excellent outcome. I’m meeting with my neuro team next Tuesday and feel more comfortable preparing a memo for the staff of my departure immediately. Dr. Mohammad said he could deliver the news at the monthly conference, however, I’m dealing with anger, still some denial and maximum frustration. To me, I feel as if I am going to have the scarlet letter of I. (Insanity) stamped on my forehead. I do not want to exit this way. I’ve spoken to others in my family about moving on and forgetting the stigmatization of dementia. My niece is a cardiologist in Gainesville and I was hoping to receive more support from her. However, she told me to "make good memories for the next 24-36 months." This is the new generation of medical professionals - apathetic, especially when it comes to dementia or any of its subtypes. Sorry this is long, but I don’t feel comfortable talking to my associates yet. It’s been 27 years of me being the comedic force to Urogynecology to have to trade it in for a flat affect. Pray for us, Trey. We are praying for you and Theresa. She made my day yesterday with her smile. 🙏 💜👩🏼⚕️
Sending you hugs and prayers. My cousin has early onset and aphasia. She is blessed to have her grown children and husband care for her but very sad for us all to see her like this. Her kids and husband are the best with her and she did remember her husband's birthday but other than that she really don't remember. Dementia is a hard disease. My great aunt died from it and she was a music teacher and was in Broadway plays. It was amazing all she went through and was still able to sing and remember the words. Sending love
Thank you for sharing your heart and experience. I cannot imagine how difficult it is. I have gone through major tragedy in my life over the past 5 years and prayer and hope in God have been my only relief. I will pray for your peace and grace!
I'm so blessed to read your comment Sheila and Darren. Thank you for continuing to share your story and thank you for your prayers, you both are in mine as well.
Hi Sheila and Darren, my husband Adam was diagnosed with Early onset Alzheimers disease and PCA at age 54, he us 56 now. I search on you tube for support also.
My mom passed away from Alzheimer's almost 5 yrs ago. And watching your video and seeing your love for her makes me happy! You did the right thing and you do look more rested and less stressful.
I hope you had (and do have) your own support system to help you through those beyond difficult situations. It’s still important to take care of you. You are also adjusting.
She is blessed to have you by her side. ❤️
This is what our Wedding Vows are supposed to mean, God will bless you for being Faithfull
,,@@bonniebrown1112 I absolutely agree with this. His love and faithfulness are extraordinary.
Your face has even changed. From horribly stressed and guilty to some sense of calmness and well being. I’m so proud of you and happy that she’s adjusting well to her surroundings. Continued love and support to you both 😊❤😊
I’m happy to hear you say you realize this was the best decision for her care. You are an incredibly loving husband. You treat her and speak of her with the utmost respect. Others that chronicle the painful journey of dementia/Alzheimer’s on their channel seem to exploit their loved one. Life is not fair, but you have handled this difficult situation with dignity and grace. Thank you for the update.
As a Director of Long Term Care facility I always kept plastic numbers 2 and 4 on my desk
and gave them to families who were so torn about placing loved ones in care. Told them give your “two” and I will give you a “four” as you are not doing this “2” them but “4” them. Gentle care helps everyone.
Thank you Jane - I will remember that one! Also, thank you for caring for those in need of LTC and their families.
It’s lovely to see you, Trey. Life can be really hard at times. None of us know what’s around the corner but, you know what, it’s not so scary when we have you sharing your journey with us. Thank you.
So true we never know how life can change so quickly.Embrace what you have and be thankful.x❤
Trey you are one in a million. Honestly. When I was a care-giver to my late husband Doctors told me I should place him in a facility. Also, I was told most people in my position would have left their spouse. I stuck it out until he was a danger to himself and me. This is the most difficult disease, they refer to it as the long goodbye. Thank you for sharing your journey.
Hello ! I was a RN and worked 1 year in a dementia care locked unit. Your story is so very appreciated. When I began I saw a patient, severely affected, I remembered her , as I had worked with her 20 years ago. As I continued, in that capacity, I got to know the family, they were thrilled to hear my memories of her when she was well, we bonded, they knew I would give her love and care for her, after 1 year, I went into another field that I really specialized in. But, during that year I asked to see pictures of her prior to her illness, the family then brought in and displayed her pictures. Can I suggest that you talk about your lives prior to illness, and see pictures of her and the two of you. As a professional caregiver I always loved to see what their lives in happier times, it also creates a whole capsule of time when before illness. Bless your heart ❤ and Theresa
I hope you write a book about all of this… her story is so important to tell but also… Trey your story of caregiving is so inspirational, moving, gut wrenching, and beautiful that I know everyone will be inspired but also led to love like you love Theresa. I really hope to one day buy 10 of your books and gift them to my while close knit family. You have changed my life. ❤
I'm so blessed to read your comment. Thank you so much for your support.
It seems the time you spend with her now is filled with peace and love and you can both cherish those hours. It’s a beautiful and rare thing to have such a great love for one another.
You are an amazing person! Theresa is blessed to have you! I will keep you both in my prayers!
It is refreshing to know you are still devoted to your wife. It's great to know!
You made me cry. “All my love till the very end”
God has put you and Theresa together for a reason.
Thank You for continuing on with videos for us!
I feel like years from now when you look back on this time, on the videos, not only will it be memories for you to cherish forever but I feel like maybe it’ll help you as much as you’re helping all of us that continue to watch….
Keep on keepin on…give Theresa hugs for me….❤
Please don’t beat yourself up, your a wonderful man.
This just breaks my heart. What a cruel disease. God bless you two!
I couldn’t help but tear up while watching this. You are a great man and husband and very strong making this very difficult decision, but I agree with you that it was in her best interest to be cared for in a facility where they can give her round the clock care and you can still visit her everyday
In my opinion…for what it’s worth….I know you have done the right thing. She is getting best of both worlds. Most of all she is happy there and content. You are doing great! A friend from Canada 🇨🇦😊
You’re as dedicated as the husband was in the movie the notebook God bless you.
Thank you Denise!! I am going to have to watch that movie - I don't believe I have seen it yet.
Thank you for sharing the moment yesterday. She had a smile on her face. I continue to pray for both of you on this journey.
You are an awesome husband Trey.. I can tell you really want the best for Theresa. I had to place both of my parents in a memory care.. at the same time. I relate to how hard it is.. although I'm sure its even harder with a spouse...and you guys are so young. I hope you get some rest and some peace now.. glad to hear its working out as well as it is!
Alzheimers is such a thief. I am proud of you both for finding joy and peace in the midst of grief.
You are by far the most wonderful human being I've ever had the pleasure to listen to. God bless you for everything you have done and continue to do for your beautiful Theresa. Sending you both lots of love and hugs and wishing I lived near you so I could visit Theresa and give you both a real life hug ...
My sister just went into a memory care facility from assisted living. She is pretty far into the disease process, and so far, she hasn't even noticed she's somewhere else. I had a hard time when I learned she had progressed to needing memory care, but it is what it is. I have posted here before, and know I seem to have a lot of stories: I lost my grandmother, mother, brother, and sister to dementia, and I am at the approximate age where they all started to show symptoms. Therapy has really helped me. My sister is blissfully unaware, but the rest of us are suffering. I wish you continued strength in this journey. Try not to second-guess your decisions: you made them with the information you had at the time. Bless your kind heart.
Thank you Mary for sharing your story. I'm sorry to learn how dementia has taken a toll on so much of your family. Much love and support to you and your family.
A wonderful blessing for Theresa! Guilt keeps us in place when the mind knows when the time comes to place our loved ones. Perfectly normal to go above and beyond. Hard to give the care over to someone else, a loss of what wee bit of "control" we think we have. Isn't it wonderful that Theresa is happy and content. With her safe it has to be nice to have an evening routine that you both enjoy. Thank you for taking the time to keep us up to date. Blessings to you both.
I'm so happy Teresa is adjusting, she seems happy and she is absolutely beautiful. I know it is hard, I can see the love you have for her. Thanks for updating.
I can only imagine the process you and her are going through as I haven't had to walk in those shoes myself. I appreciate you sharing to help people like me understand better and to help those that know exactly what you're dealing with feeling that they are not alone or whatever else they need and want. Continue to take one day at a time. I'm still praying for everyone in involved. And yes, keep us posted when you can. No pressure.
You are a wonderful husband and your wife knows she is loved by you.
I can relate to your feelings, hardest thing I’ve ever faced.
Indeed very difficult. Much love and support to you.
Wonderful visit for the both of you! Putting your loved one first, no matter how difficult, is a precious gift and your wife is blessed to have you. Be easy on yourself and take comfort in knowing that she is safe and being well cared for.
What a relief this must be for you. I can’t imagine how hard that was for you. This definitely sounds like a win-win. So happy for you both❤️
You look more rested and less stressed.
You were made for each other and it shows
It really sounds like you made the right decision at the right time, for both of you. Wishing you increasing peace of mind.
Bless your heart. ❤
This is the first video I've watched from your channel but having lived with my mom caring for my grandfather after his Alzheimer's diagnosis, I can fully relate to what you're telling. As heartbreaking as it is, at some point it becomes too exhausting and often dangerous to deal with this terrible disease within your family. I'm so glad your wife is adapting well and I admire the way you still care about her. I'm sure she feels your love. I'm sending you strength for your journey. You've made the right decision.
you are a star you are doing the very best for your wife , rember theresa loves you
💕 you are such a sweet man 💕
To be the best caregiver you can be for your wife is to take care of yourself too❤❤❤
I cannot imagine how hard the past years of your life must have been. I've never experienced anything remotely like this, but would like to express my admiration and support for you
You did right for your wife !!! She seems happy and this can give you peace of mind.Your a good Husband.
Thank you for the update! I’m so glad to know that your wife is adapting well and that you are able to get a little more rest. I’m not currently dealing with this in my family but I feel more prepared if this becomes a challenge in our lives. It really helps to understand what others are facing and maybe how I can help support them. Thanks again for sharing!!
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Trey, you are a wonderful husband and human being. May god wrap his arms around both you and Theresa, giving you the strength, love, and guidance needed as you continue loving and caring for Theresa. ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
THANK YOU, DEAR GOD 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🥲
I had tears for you both - mostly happy tears - just seeing Theresa smile 💝! And hearing her say how wonderful it was sitting with you enjoying nature. Omg - I’m crying again just writing that. For now, Trey, just take these gifts as they come - I know you are. And it’s REALLY good to see you looking more rested and feeling more at peace with what had to be done, as painful as it was (and I’m sure so often still is). God bless you both 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 … and I just have to say it : Theresa is sooo beautiful- but you already know that 🥰. Supportive & loving hugs to you and your precious Theresa.
Thank You so much Kathy for your comment and support
Your evening routine sounds lovely. I imagine having a consistent routine and activities during the day is very beneficial for Theresa's mental state. I'm glad you're at a point where the guilt has eased, and you can see that you made the best decision for yourself and Theresa. Best wishes from Aotearoa/ New Zealand.
Thank you Trey, for continuing to share the journey.
I’m glad Theresa is adjusting so well. You are a great husband. I hope to one day find someone who loves me unconditionally the way you love Theresa
I wish we all could be blessed with someone as devoted as you are. I’ve dealt with the situation peripherally six times in my life so far and I knew that your “new normal“ would come and finally be a relief. It’s obvious on your face and your demeanor. Your energy seems to be coming back and you do not look exhausted or nearly as stressed. You made the perfect choice for her and for you at this point. It sounds like things are going extremely well, considering. Hugs from New York.
It was lovely to see you both together and she looked as happy as she can be but I was also happy to see a change in you as well Trey because I believe you’re a very loving husband to Teresa and you only want the best for her and to know that she is safe while you have to go to work.
Everyone on here is supporting you and keeping you both in our prayers.
God Bless you both 🙏🏿
What a BLESSING you are to share your story. I love reading all the comments and I just saw only 8 hours online, over 9,000 people have watched your video already! It warms my heart to see how many others are helped by your words and what you are experiencing. Take care of yourself!
Don’t forget to take care of yourself
Hi Trey….so thankful you guys are ok….please don’t feel bad for doing things that need to be done…you’re an awesome hubby….stay strong Trey…sending love and hugs xx
You are a good man, very loyal husband! Hope things go well for you and your family.
Thank you for another update and sharing your journey with us.😊
I'm so glad that she is adjusting to her new home, and that she still remembers who you are. Take care and may God continue to bless you and give you strength.
I simply lost it at, "One More Kiss"♡♡~We should all know such a pure LOVE as this one:) Blessings and PRAYERS from the Southwest Desert of Arizona...Holly!!
You are an Angel. A loving and dedicated husband. Stay strong. Thankyou for sharing your heartfelt story.
You did the right thing for her. And being recharged and rested will help you be the best for her instead of all the stress from carrying this alone.
I think you made the perfect decision. She looked great in the video. But I am sure others in your place have felt the same way. It’s hard to place our love ones in anywhere other than our home. You are a loving husband and if it matters, I am very proud of you.
Glad your wife has settled well x
You are being a wonderful, devoted husband and I admire you so much. A lot of men would not be able to handle what you are doing. We had to put my in-laws in an Assisted Living Facility and they were so angry at us. It was a very sad, difficult time but they were a big danger to themselves on their small ranch. But we knew it was best for them to be somewhere they could be taken care of when we could not do it anymore. My very best to you and your wife. You are doing the right thing for you both. 🙏🙏🙏
Aww. Bless you sir ❤❤❤❤❤
You are such a strong, loving husband! Prayers for you and Theresa, may Yahuah be with you all ❤
It's so strong and kind of you to make these videos. Time is all we have to heal, nurture, and contain yourselves in making it the best.
Your home is beautiful, now she has adapted to her new home.
Stay strong. Many blessings sent to you both.
I care for a lady two or three times a week that has memory loss from mini strokes. She only knows of the present day. I told her don't worry about tomorrow. And yesterday has past.
You seem much more at peace.. life is about always pushing forward..,💙
So glad you have such a nice routine after work, it sounds very special and must be lovely for you both. Well done for being so caring and brave for your Wife...you are a Good Man and Husband.
Trey, I cannot imagine the pain you feel of saying “the long goodbye” as Nancy Reagan said Of President rReagen..I have had to walk that journey with my mother and my sister and believe me Trey, Theresa needs you whole and healthy and visiting her instead of become sick yourself trying to take care of her. I know becuase it is what happened to my sister when she took care of my momma..I’m praying for you..Hugs
She looks so beautiful and happy in that short video. Hugs to both of you.
Thank you for the update. It was probably the hardest decision you've ever had to make to put your wife in someone else's care. I'm glad to hear that she's adapting well to her new surroundings. I'm sincerely wishing you both the best.
Your Theresa is a very luck lady to have you in her life and your decision to place her at the center. God bless you.
What a wonderful husband you are. She is very lucky to have you
Please continue with making these videos. I used to work in an assisted living facility. One of the best jobs I have ever had. These residents are being taken care of so well (Not saying there aren’t some bad apple communities out there) Best advice to those looking to take this level of care, do your research and get recommendations from other families. Trey you and Theresa are both doing better because of the decision you made for her care and your care❤
You're a wonderful husband Trey. Theresa surely feels safe & well taken care of at the memory care facility. As difficult as the decision was for you to take regarding placing Theresa, you now see & know you made the right decision for her. God bless you both 🙏
God Bless you both🙏🏾
You’re doing the best thing and the way it’s working seems to be a blessing all the way around.
I'm so happy she settling in. Don't ever feel bad about that choice. All my love to you both. Give her extra cuddles from us all.
Those extra kisses say a lot😉Such a soft, sweet voice that she has and a lovely Lady. You keep taking care. You know that she is safe and that you can visit. Life is too short to not focus on our blessings. Thank you for sharing your and her story.
You are an Angel on earth.She is blessed to have you.God bless you both.❤
A true blessing for yourself and for your Wife. Memory Care is a true blessing God bless you. ❤
You and Theresa are in my prayers.
Thank u for posting again…realize how tough this is but it is the best for both of you ✝️
Thank you for sharing your story ❤
You’re doing wonderful. Your choice was a selfless one. You keep making as many videos as you need. Even several a day. You need to take care of yourself as well. Your still needed by your wife. Always and forever.
After watching numerous near death experiences and each relaying that we come here with a plan for reaching certain milestones. These goals seem to be how we handle life's hardships along the way. You shouldn't feel at all guilty because you have given your wife safety and the intense care she now requires. One person alone cannot give her this kind of care. I am sure you have done the right thing. It was my mother that my husband and I cared for and I can relate to your uncertainty and feelings of guilt. You have done the right thing.
You have to keep care of yourself so you can be there for her.
Thank you Tray, for generously and courageously sharing your and Theresa’s experience living and loving one another within the journey of dementia. I was/am so happy for you both; smiling, lovingly enjoying time together in the beautiful garden gazebo, surrounded by the sweet, calming sights and sounds of nature. It was clearly wonderful time together for you both-very healing and joyous. It was also very good to hear the focus of your work life is returning, fortifying you and that Theresa also is thriving within her new home environment and structured daily routines. You both are maintaining your lives together as husband and wife in nurturing ways, creating happiness and fulfillment as the days continue. There clearly is much to be grateful for, each day and each step of the way. I thank you Theresa, as well, for graciously sharing your time and attention with us, and commend you both for your courage, strength and devotion to one another and the love you share.🌷🐿️🌷
Thank you Michelle for you comment and support.
You did the right thing nothing to be ashamed of I remember when my Grandma had to place my grandpa and memory care it was a sense of relief knowing that she didn't have to look after him and that burden was lifted she goes and visits him almost everyday❤❤
The peace on your face says it all! She has you, she is being taken care of and you as a caregiver have needed peace! Your courage amazes everyday! Love you and Teresa! God bless you both! ❤❤❤
You have been a wonderful and still are, husband- how many are put in facilities and just left - you cared for her till it wasn’t feasible, and still do so much., - this is best for you and her. Thank you for the update and don’t feel like you have to explain yourself - we are all behind and pray for you both!
Thank you for sharing this personal journey . I find myself in the beginning of a similar situation. I am the other person in the story and while I am still able to communicate with much concentration, I worry about my husband having to care for me. Your thoughts, fears and decisions have been a great insight for me. I hope to share with my husband. Don't be so hard on yourself, we all can only do our best. Life reminds us to enjoy every moment. My thoughts are with you both.
Thank you Kathie. My thoughts are with you and your husband as well. Thank you for sharing.
You have made a most thoughtful and compassionate decision.
I know it is hard, but you don’t need to be wracked with guilt about it.
She is happy and doing well.
Your videos are a beautiful tribute to your wife and you are an amazing man ❤️❤️✝️✝️🙏🙏
God Bless you and your wife. She looked very happy sitting with you in the gazebo. I wish you and your wife much peace, love and happiness.🙏🏻🌸
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So glad to hear that she is adjusting well. I worked in LTC for many years & there is a reason they exist. You touched on something with the time you spend with her is quality time. As hard a decision that I know it is (having had to put my own Dad in a facility) it can relieve so much stress off families that can go on with their own daily lives knowing that their loved ones are being cared for & they can visit with them. Take care.
What a wonderful man you are, God bless you both. ❤
Trey, I believe that you are doing all the right things! God bless you both! From Baudette Minnesota
God bless you for faithfully taking care of your wife.
Trey, It’s Sheila & Darren from Atlanta! We are so happy we found your channel. Receiving these updates make my husband less stressed. The way you speak is comforting, and after watching one site, he felt as if he had witnessed trajectory into hell. He retired from a large news organization in Atlanta, only to be slammed with the loss of his wife and eternal love. (He calls me that.)😊We’ve been together 33 years! We have perused UA-cam for support videos, but as you probably already know, most are people caring for elders with Alzheimers and the differences can be quite significant. Finding someone in the same age range makes us feel less alone on my journey with FTD at 56. I finally spoke with my primary partner at the clinic by phone. (I took sabbatical immediately following dx.) He was shocked to say the least because at this time, I’m still able to appear cognizant for short periods of time. It’s becoming shorter. The medical board did not offer a peer review for me to continue practicing in a non-surgical setting. I’m considered unfit for duty even considered stage 1 mild-moderate. I performed my last pelvic reconstruction in late December with excellent outcome. I’m meeting with my neuro team next Tuesday and feel more comfortable preparing a memo for the staff of my departure immediately. Dr. Mohammad said he could deliver the news at the monthly conference, however, I’m dealing with anger, still some denial and maximum frustration. To me, I feel as if I am going to have the scarlet letter of I. (Insanity) stamped on my forehead. I do not want to exit this way. I’ve spoken to others in my family about moving on and forgetting the stigmatization of dementia. My niece is a cardiologist in Gainesville and I was hoping to receive more support from her. However, she told me to "make good memories for the next 24-36 months." This is the new generation of medical professionals - apathetic, especially when it comes to dementia or any of its subtypes. Sorry this is long, but I don’t feel comfortable talking to my associates yet. It’s been 27 years of me being the comedic force to Urogynecology to have to trade it in for a flat affect. Pray for us, Trey. We are praying for you and Theresa. She made my day yesterday with her smile. 🙏 💜👩🏼⚕️
Big hug to you Sheila - you sound like an amazing human being - smart and funny - I wish you all the best in this challenge.💞
Sending you hugs and prayers. My cousin has early onset and aphasia. She is blessed to have her grown children and husband care for her but very sad for us all to see her like this. Her kids and husband are the best with her and she did remember her husband's birthday but other than that she really don't remember. Dementia is a hard disease. My great aunt died from it and she was a music teacher and was in Broadway plays. It was amazing all she went through and was still able to sing and remember the words. Sending love
Thank you for sharing your heart and experience. I cannot imagine how difficult it is. I have gone through major tragedy in my life over the past 5 years and prayer and hope in God have been my only relief. I will pray for your peace and grace!
I'm so blessed to read your comment Sheila and Darren. Thank you for continuing to share your story and thank you for your prayers, you both are in mine as well.
Hi Sheila and Darren, my husband Adam was diagnosed with Early onset Alzheimers disease and PCA at age 54, he us 56 now. I search on you tube for support also.
My mom passed away from Alzheimer's almost 5 yrs ago. And watching your video and seeing your love for her makes me happy! You did the right thing and you do look more rested and less stressful.
I hope you had (and do have) your own support system to help you through those beyond difficult situations. It’s still important to take care of you. You are also adjusting.