Hello everyone - as I mentioned in our last video, things were going really well during the last few months of 2023 and January of this year started off good as well. However, the last few weeks have been really hard. Theresa is showing a noticeable decline, increased agitation and often is refusing to take her medication, shower, and change clothes. Her Neurologist prescribed Klonopin for her agitation and that seems to help with her mood and willingness to cooperate with me, as I provide care. Her demeanor during this video is pleasant partly due to that brownie with ice cream and hot fudge, and also partly due to her prescribed dose of Klonopin taken about an hour before filming. Her Primary Care Doctor ordered a Hospice Evaluation. I was surprised by this as I don't believe Theresa is at the EOL Stage of Alzheimer's. But it is just an evaluation at this point. Perhaps Hospice offers different levels of care before EOL or maybe her doctor just wants to get her into the system for if/when EOL care if needed. If approved for Hospice, they can offer respite care during my working hours. After she wakes up each day, It becomes a real tug of war between working my job and caring for her. Fortunately, my job is very understanding. I will do a 1:1 video in the near future to discuss things as a new care plan takes shape. As always, thank you all for your support - Much love and God Bless.
Dearest Trey, you certainly need all the support you can get. Please take advantage of it, as much as you can. It’s heartbreaking to see how difficult it’s becoming. ❤
I am so so sorry that it is getting harder Trey,, such an awful thing to watch loved ones turning into someone else,,, Trey please understand I don’t mean to be invasive,, but old nurses tend to be a little forward! I am concerned about YOU,, you have had dark circles around your eyes for a long time and it seems to be getting more noticeable,, Hope it is nothing more than lack of sleep etc,, but I think it may be good if you went and had a thorough physical,, we as subscribers care about you, as well as Theresa❤
You don't realize how many lives you have touched doing these YT videos. I have been binge-watching and learned some new things about this horrible disease.
A support system (such as hospice) will contribute to your well-being as well as Theresa's. Wishing you both a measure of peace and comfort through this journey.
my mom was sent home for a 2 day hospital stay with hospice at 86 after not being able to swallow, they brought morphine and a few other crazy meds, my mom didn't take anything ever except a low blood pressure pill, 2 days after forcing morphine down her throat, she wasn't in pain or anything, she was in a coma and next day dead, it was so fast that i couldn't believe it
Thank you for the update, and that was a very clever way to tell us what has been happening. Sorry to hear that Theresa has declined. It is so hard to watch our loved ones go through this. The blessing is that they don't realize it at a certain point, and it seems Theresa is probably there. You're both in our thoughts and prayers.
Hi S Bee - Yes, Theresa lost awareness that she has Alzheimer's a few years back. I never remind her or talk about it in front of her anymore. She also cant read or write anymore so that is why I put the note up on the screen. Thank you for support and prayers - God Bless.
You have done everything possible for her. You have to work, you cannot take care of her without an income. There is nothing wrong with her going back into a caring, loving memory care facility.
Trey I hope you are ok since Thesas passing I no you Miss her a lot I hope everything turns out ok for you you were the best husband!!Take care of yourself May God be with you!❤❤
I pray she is approved for hospice so you can receive help with her care that they can provide. And also that she will receptive to it. Prayers for both of you ❤❤🙏🙏
Please keep in mind as startling as the word HOSPICE can be, an evaluation gets you in system for much needed assistance. Palliative is under that umbrella too. It doesn’t always mean the end is near❤
@@shellylavigne5913 correct it doesn’t, but it also takes away care. At the end of my mother‘s life when she had an infection, she could not get antibiotics. Do be careful before putting a person on hospice to really understand what that means because life-saving measures will not be permitted..
@@WisepatiYes, we have a friend who had a double lung transplant. He thought about hospice because he thought he’d get more care but that wasn’t the case. He didn’t do it because they would have cut out some of his medications that he needs for his lungs and it would have hastened his death.
Rest in peace Theresa. Trey, please take care of yourself in this difficult time. I am praying for you. Theresa was so sweet and complex. She was too young to have such a terrible disease hit. You are a wonderful man and I hope to see you on UA-cam again when you are ready to talk. Bless you.
I just happened upon this video but I have to say how wonderful it is that you put the notes up rather than talking about it right in front of her. A lot of people wouldn’t think to do that. 🙏
Oh, Trey my heart breaks for you and Theresa! I pray she will be approved for Hospice, that will be such help for you! Being a nurse I have worked with Alzheimer’s patients and the family/caregivers need an abundance of support and encouragement! You are wonderful for having her at home. God bless and give you the strength and patience you need on a minute by minute basis❤
I appreciate your comment Lana and your kind words and support. Thank you as well for the support you have provided others with Alzheimer's and their families. God Bless
Trey, thank you for the update. I’m saddened by Theresa’s decline and I pray you get some assistance. I think you’re doing great and amazing. Praying you find strength to hang in there. I know you must get frustrated at times as anyone would. Theresa is so delightful and still finds ways to be funny on the videos. Love you two very much.
Hospice care is not only for the patient but also very helpful for the caregiver. You need that support as well as Theresa. I so admire your commitment and honesty. 🙏
You and Theresa have been in my thoughts and prayers. Glad to see an update, but so sorry to hear of Theresa’s decline. I found your channel while trying to learn more about this disease and came across a doctor who is a specialist in dementia. Her name is Dr. Tam Cummings. I mention this because Theresa didn’t seem to see the cards you were trying to show her and I learned from some of the talks that Dr does online that as dementia progresses, field of vision is lost. The example given was that a patient may have food in front of them but take food that is across from them (another person’s) because that is all they can see. Looking forward to your future one on one chat. I hope you can get some respite care. Prayers to you and Theresa.
Hi Kathy - Yes, Theresa's vision, spacial awareness and depth perception have been deteriorating. She often does not understand where to sit at the table or which utensils are hers or which food items on her plate are hers. I often have to place the utensil in her hand and tell her it is ok to eat. She also has similar troubles with brushing her teeth, she does not know how to pickup the toothbrush and put it in her mouth. I usually help her get started. In this video, she took to the brownie pretty well but I give her that same bowl every day with ice cream in it. She is eager to dig in! Thanks for your comment, prayers and support.
Trey, this happened with my mom. We were at the table and she kept staring, and I asked what was wrong. My mom said "What must I do" and I picked up my fork and showed her. But it came to a point we had to feed her. I lived over an hour a way, and sometimes I would cry all the way home. She was diagnosed at 63 and was almost 75 when she went home to be with Jesus. Teresa is so young. A beautiful woman😊
As usual, it's a pleasure seeing both of you. It seems she's not as focused as before. I'm so happy she has you for a husband. You are truly an amazing husband and person. Keep up the wonderful work you are doing with her, and I hope all goes well with the hospice program ❤
Theresa's spacial awareness, depth perception and vision is noticeably deteriorating. She is easily distracted, but I partly blame it on the brownie and ice cream in front of her this time ! Thanks for your comment and support.
May God Bless you and Theresa. Im a full time caretaker and caregiver to my husband. It can be tiring and demanding but like you Im so thankful I still have my husband with me! .
I also am my husbands caregiver. He had cancer an also has nite terrors. Like u I’m so great full we still have each other. It’s been 56 yrs. In January. Don’t forget to take care if ur self.
Im so sorry things are tougher right now. It's amazing how positive you always are. Care taking takes a toll but you always seem to handle it effortlessly. Hospice is an absolute god send. Their help and care for patient and caregiver is above and beyond. Be well Trey.
It has taken a toll but I try to never show her a spec of impatience, frustration or that I'm feeling overwhelmed. I seem to have become more patient over time as I accept the circumstances and learn what methods work to continue providing her care and alleviate my own stress. I do realize that the time has come when I need help here at home. The tug of war between working my job and caring for her at the same time is too much on my own now. Thanks for your comment and support.
@@tpippen75 Hospice isn't just EOL. It's a progressive or terminal illness with 6 months or less left but Hospice also offers palliative care. I don't see why you would not be accepted and it will be a welcome relive for you. Hospice and palliative workers are true angels on earth..
It was so very nice to see you both. I am right by your side with the struggles your experiencing. You are not alone! I saw Theresa's unfocus on the cards. It is sad to see and heartbreaking. Thanks so much for your content.
Yes, very unfortunately, Theresa's spacial awareness, depth perception and vision is noticeably deteriorating. As always Dana, thank you for your comment and support- Much love.
It’s good to hear from you and Theresa again. So sorry your household has experienced some upheavals as of late. Hopefully, these struggles have settled, and thing will once again be smooth sailing. All the best to you both. Be well, and I look forward to your next video! 😊
Wishing you both the very best in your journey. You are such a beautiful loving couple. Trey you are the best husband ever ,I admire your love an devotion to your wife . Keep her smiling . Hugs an prayers to you both .❤
My dear 61 yo husband has dementia (Lewy body) and loves his ice cream nightly. He was never a dessert person, but ice cream brings him memories of when he was a boy. Recently he developed a reluctance to shower, and constantly disrobe. He wasn’t sleeping & hallucinating. No UTI. Currently in the hospital - praying they can adjust his meds so he can come home. He can’t be in Klonapine. Caregiving is exhausting.
I'm glad you are getting hospice involved with Theresa's care. You need the extra support and assistance. And I'm sorry that Theresa is declining. Much love and prayers 🙏 ❤.
Hello Trey, it was so good to see you and Theresa tonight. I love hearing her giggle and smile. I’m sorry that things have not been going well. This disease is heartbreaking. You and Theresa will be in my prayers. I will be praying that hospice will be approved so you are able to do the things you need to do such as work and take care of yourself too. You have to work and take good care of yourself to be able to care of Theresa. Sending love and prayers for you both.
Thank you for the update. I know it’s tough. My husband has recently had more issues as well. Today I realized he actually ate all the dog treats. Guess I’m going to have to hide them now. He has also had more problems with incontinence issues. Lots of dental work needed too. This July will be year fourteen. Blessings to you both❤
You are just amazing. I know you’re glad to be able to take care of your wife, but remembering how she used to be must make these days incredibly sad for you. I’m feeling so sad just watching you two beautiful people just trying to get through each day. May God bless you and keep you. 🙏🙏
Oh trey, I have been worried to death about you and Theresa. I started to text earlier this week but just had a really bad feeling that she was starting a major decline from the last few videos. I am so sorry. Your love and care for your wife is unparalleled. Please take care and don't neglect your own needs. Praying for you both. Pam
Thank you Pam for your prayers and support. I will keep everyone updated on what transpires next with her care. I've seen her decline and bounce back in the past so I am not sure what twist and turns are coming next. Her doctor wanted Hospice to evaluate and get her into the system. I don't think she is EOL yet but maybe Hospice offers different levels of care / respite. Not sure what to expect but will share what I learn.
🌻what joy it was to watch this video! I just discovered your UA-cam channel. And it touches a cord... ...as I am very much in awe of your respect for your beautiful wife and for how your protect her and shield her from harm, by writting notes for the viewers (thus me) eyes only. Thus preserving your wifes dignity by doing that. This way of doing, is quite telling of your character. I can tell how you value her discretion. You touched me and I thank you for that! Your love in action for your beloved, speaks volumes. Love is kind...💝
This is so heartbreaking to watch but you're giving us viewers a real glimpse into being a caretaker of someone with Alzheimer's. You try so hard to get her to interact but she's a hundred miles away 😢😢. Theresa is so Blessed with a Wonderful Husband but you can also feel his pain and sadness. I heard she passed away March 3 2024 and she is finally free of this horrible disease. God Bless You Trey as you now learn to navigate life without your beautiful Theresa. You educated so many others who must deal with Alzheimer's. You are a very Special Person. 🙏😢❤
Klonopin could be the lifeline drug Theresa needed! Hope you can continue to give to her to help with the baths and medication anxiety. Thanks for the update and that brownie and ice cream sounds so good!😁❤❤❤❤❤ God bless your heart, Trey! You are doing a 10 star job on Theresa’s care.
Thanks for the update and I am so sorry to see Theresa's decline. It is obvious that she is having trouble focusing on things especially while trying to look at the cards. I hope that hospice will be a good thing for her and that she is accepting of the help and new people around her. Ice cream and brownies always make things better and she seems to really enjoy it. Sending my prayers to you both.
To watch the love of my life slip away like this would break my heart and I might not survive it. You are a kind, loving and righteous man and you renew my faith in humanity. I'm so sorry for your loss. Be well and rest now.
Trey, you and Theresa have been on my mind so much over the last month. I totally understand the struggles you have been going through. The way you did this video was well thought out. Trust me, I understand the struggles you have been experiencing! My mother is getting more difficult to care for by the day, too. What you and I can do is stay calm and guide our loved ones, one moment at a time. Honestly my nephew and I are exhausted today. It's so tough to stay calm and kind most days here. Yet fortunately today has been a good day. Tomorrow I get the day off, and am going out for the day. I thank God every day for my nephew. I'd be a mess without him! I'll be lifting you and Theresa up in prayer, hoping you get the help you need. It's a tough road you are on, and I hope you know you are not alone. Till next time be as well as you can be under these circumstances. You, and your health matter too!
Thank you Therese - it is good to hear from you. I have been thinking about you and your mom as well. We are in it together. I'm grateful for when Theresa's friend Cher comes over and also her Aunt and Uncle. They are a great help and lift Theresa's spirts while giving me a break. Hope you have a great day off with some great weather and nature to enjoy. God Bless
Hi guys I just happened to come across your vlogs . It’s lovely to see you both . I believe I told you my friends husband was diagnosed with Picks disease . Is this what your wife has ? The Dr told her it’s much worse than Alzheimer’s disease . He used to do the same thing as Teresa . He has a million dollar business at one time . Unfortunately he ended up in a nursing home . He was only 54 when he passed . Prayers for your wife .🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Trey, you are so patient and loving. I have visited a few friend and their parents with Alzheimer’s and taken care of a few as well. It’s so heartbreaking to see these ppl struggle and decline. Hang in there
Hi Trey, it’s a positive move to accept Hospice to help with Theresa. It doesn’t mean that she is at the final stage of her life. It’s a transition that will help you immensely, both physically, mentally and emotionally. I know from experience with my mom, it doesn’t get easier, so please stay positive and strong. Prayers are with you both. 🙏❤️
Hospice is wonderful! My husband declined quickly with his dementia and also refused his meds, became agitated, didn’t sleep well at night….. hospice came to help with changing clothes, and bathing. His decline was fast…. I pray for you both as you journey this path. You don’t walk alone….🙏🏻🙏🏻💕
Thank you for sharing Cheryl. I was a bit confused when her doctor ordered a hospice evaluation. I thought that was only for EOL care - perhaps her doctor speculates a quick decline could be on the horizon or maybe Hospice offered different levels of care before EOL. This part of the journey is new to me. I appreciate your prayers and support.
I have been following your journey for awhile. I took care of my MIL for 4 years. During Covid her dementia ramped up quickly. But she was in her 90’s. When she stopped being able to participate in her daily care I called Hospice. It is an amazing support! They actually take over all the expenses through her medical coverage. The support is amazing. God bless
Lovely to see you both. I don't think I could concentrate on the cards if there was a big bowl of brownies and ice cream in front of me. It's lovely to see Theresa smile. Wishing you lots of good memories for the year
Thank you for this video. It is so nice to see the love you have for each other. Theresa, that brownie looks so yummy. I have to get me a brownie mix to make some.❤❤❤
Thank you Trey and Theresa. Theresa made me lol this morning. With her brownie and ice cream with her hell yeah! God Bless you both you are in my prayers. Trey I’m sorry Theresa is having some difficulties. I do notice. You take care of yourself Trey. I know this is very difficult. God bless and much love. 🙏❤️
Sending you both my love as always. I think of you both daily. Hospice is more than EOL care I believe. Hang in there Trey. Sorry to hear about the black eye. Ouch. ❤. Much love Christine
Aww, Trey, so sorry to learn things have been rough. I am sure this is so difficult for you. My heart goes out to you both! Nice to see her enjoy her brownie and ice cream. The cards you showed are so nice and thoughtfully selected. Sending much love to you both. 🤗🥰
You definitely need assistance. I notice, Theresa is not as focused as on the day of the last vlogg. You are doing your best. Take care and blessings of strength, courage and good health. The ice cream definitely kept her smiling♥️
Hi Frances- her vision and spacial awareness is declining. She cannot focus on things I try and show her and gets lost in the house trying to find the bathroom. Normally, she just finds me and I help her to the toilet. However, she then gets upsets when I get her to the bathroom saying "I can do it myself" But she still needs help undressing and finding the toilet paper. So I just stay patient and help her...knowing it is just the disease talking. As always, thanks for your comment and support.
I hope Theresa can qualify for Hospice so you can get some assistance while you work. You have been so proactive with all her care. It shows us all how much you love her. I can see the saddness in your eyes and know this is breaking your heart, too. It just breaks mine. 💔 Prayers for strength and comfort from our Heavenly Father. He knows your pain. 🙏 🙏
Thank you Trey for the update regarding Theresa. The way you transmitted the information was so well thought out. You are wise & respectful. It saddens me knowing of Theresa's decline; however in saying that, Theresa's gorgeous smile and sense of humor are the testimony of how she is comfortable being at home and you being her caregiver. I pray Theresa will be approved for hospice care at home. That would be helpful to her, and to you when you are working. Your unconditional love, compassion and caring for your beautiful wife Theresa is very touching. Although we don't see you "behind the scenes", there is no doubt the Trey we see in your videos is the same Trey in private life. God has given you a special mission, and He has equipped you for this. To both you & Theresa, I pray you are sustained by God's mighty hand. May His Divine love fill you both. May His peace and calm fill you and comfort you. 🙏❤️🙏
God bless you Trey and Theresa. I am praying for y'all. We as viewers can see the difficulties you've faced this past month. Trey you're putting on a brave face, but you look exhausted. ❤❤
I've been worn out lately but staying positive. I can never show any frustration around her - nothing but patience and kindness towards her. I am looking to get some help at home, at least during her waking hours, so I can get my work done. Thanks for your prayers and support buddy.
I m so glad you did an update, I was wondering about you two. I started to cry, when you said things took a turn. Just remember, many are supportive and praying for you and sweet Theresa. God bless you.
When I was taking care of my mother, I felt like I was alone. Just know that you have folks following along with you and hoping for the best for both you and Theresa. It's hard to ask for help sometimes because we feel like we're failing but that's what these respite care workers are there for, to help us out. Take all the help you can get.
It’s ok Trey , Hang in there my thoughts and prayers are with you guys ❤🙏🙌 Thingz Are what they are just keep strong keep praying Trey such a beautiful lady God is right in your midst give all your pain to him to him be the glory 🙌🥹❤️🙏
I've worked with persons with Alzheimer's for years. What a difficult journey in life and there is no one better than you Trey to be by her side. Many people are alone. My prayers are with your family and for you to kept up your mental strength Trey. I really don't think that Theresa is going to share her dessert.🥰🥰🥰
Hello Trey and Theresa! It was a nice surprise to see the two of you after watching the game. Our family have always been Chiefs fans so we were pretty happy they won, what a game and so so close! Theresa's ice cream and brownie looked so delicious, I am going to have some hot chocolate before I go to bed to get my chocolate "fix" after seeing Theresa eating her dessert!! I pray that you will get some assistance from hospice, I was a caregiver for a friend after she had a stroke, and noticed when the physical therapist came she would listen to them more than me when it came time to exercise and eat. I hope that it works out that you get that help. God bless you both! Much love from Arizona💙
Hi Lori - Glad your family enjoyed the game! Whenever Theresa isn't cooperating with me on taking her meds, I put her on FaceTime with her friend Cher - that normally does the trick. Thanks commenting and for your support. God Bless
Trey, you're such a wonderful Carer. I have been there before & respite is so important for you both. Hospice would give you both some 'time out' that does wonders. Hope all goes well? God Bless you both 🙏💜🇦🇨💐🦋🌻🌷🩷
So sorry to hear of her decline. I hope she can get into hospice care so you can also get some respite time. I can't imagine how hard it is for both of you. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.❤
I worked as a hospice CNA for many years and they are such wonderful wonderful people!! They will be such a great help for both of you. I'm so sorry for Theresa decline. My mom had Alzheimer's as well and it's such a heart breaking disease 💔 You are both in my prayers. I love her giggles and smiles! Love to you both from Idaho ❤
Hi Trey and Theresa. I love brownies and ice cream too. What a great combination. I think it is wonderful that Theresa can feed herself. This is something so important to well-being and independence. I spend a fair amount of time on UA-cam and I wonder if you have done any research on reversing inflammation in the body through diet? I enjoy your videos and I can tell that Theresa is very wonderful person who has so much love in her heart. You are a strong warrior too. Everyone has their limits but when it comes to love, there are no limits.
Hi Julia - yes I have done a little research and I understand that sugar (very unfortunately) may not be so good for inflammation. However, who could deny her that fudge brownie with ice cream lol !! It makes her so happy - I just want her to enjoy life. I do try and feed her healthy otherwise. Theresa does not eat any meat or fish so I do my best to fill her up with lentils, nuts, seeds, dark green veggies, hummus , fruits, cheese, egg whites etc... Appreciate your question and thanks for your kind words and support.
Thank you for the discreet update Trey. It's always nice to see Theresa, but I am sad about her decline. Of course we all know that is coming, but it doesn't make it any easier on you. You are doing a great job, far better than most! One day at a time. I hope hospice can help.
Hi Trey. Thanks for the update - you did that very well. I had checked a few times thinking maybe I missed a video. Sorry for the decline in Theresa! :(
Hello everyone - as I mentioned in our last video, things were going really well during the last few months of 2023 and January of this year started off good as well. However, the last few weeks have been really hard. Theresa is showing a noticeable decline, increased agitation and often is refusing to take her medication, shower, and change clothes. Her Neurologist prescribed Klonopin for her agitation and that seems to help with her mood and willingness to cooperate with me, as I provide care. Her demeanor during this video is pleasant partly due to that brownie with ice cream and hot fudge, and also partly due to her prescribed dose of Klonopin taken about an hour before filming. Her Primary Care Doctor ordered a Hospice Evaluation. I was surprised by this as I don't believe Theresa is at the EOL Stage of Alzheimer's. But it is just an evaluation at this point. Perhaps Hospice offers different levels of care before EOL or maybe her doctor just wants to get her into the system for if/when EOL care if needed. If approved for Hospice, they can offer respite care during my working hours. After she wakes up each day, It becomes a real tug of war between working my job and caring for her. Fortunately, my job is very understanding. I will do a 1:1 video in the near future to discuss things as a new care plan takes shape. As always, thank you all for your support - Much love and God Bless.
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I'm sorry to hear how challenging things are getting for you guys Trey. Nice to see you guys tho as always.
I'll be keeping you all in my thoughts. Sounds really rough. It'd be great if you could get some respite care via hospice.
Dearest Trey, you certainly need all the support you can get. Please take advantage of it, as much as you can. It’s heartbreaking to see how difficult it’s becoming. ❤
I am so so sorry that it is getting harder Trey,, such an awful thing to watch loved ones turning into someone else,,, Trey please understand I don’t mean to be invasive,, but old nurses tend to be a little forward! I am concerned about YOU,, you have had dark circles around your eyes for a long time and it seems to be getting more noticeable,, Hope it is nothing more than lack of sleep etc,, but I think it may be good if you went and had a thorough physical,, we as subscribers care about you, as well as Theresa❤
I was sorry to hear that you lost her. You’ve been a wonderful husband & friend to her. Stay strong
You don't realize how many lives you have touched doing these YT videos. I have been binge-watching and learned some new things about this horrible disease.
A support system (such as hospice) will contribute to your well-being as well as Theresa's. Wishing you both a measure of peace and comfort through this journey.
my mom was sent home for a 2 day hospital stay with hospice at 86 after not being able to swallow, they brought morphine and a few other crazy meds, my mom didn't take anything ever except a low blood pressure pill, 2 days after forcing morphine down her throat, she wasn't in pain or anything, she was in a coma and next day dead, it was so fast that i couldn't believe it
Thank you for the update, and that was a very clever way to tell us what has been happening.
Sorry to hear that Theresa has declined. It is so hard to watch our loved ones go through this. The blessing is that they don't realize it at a certain point, and it seems Theresa is probably there.
You're both in our thoughts and prayers.
Hi S Bee - Yes, Theresa lost awareness that she has Alzheimer's a few years back. I never remind her or talk about it in front of her anymore. She also cant read or write anymore so that is why I put the note up on the screen. Thank you for support and prayers - God Bless.
Thanks for the update. Sorry for Theresa's decline. It sounds like the doctors have a plan, which will hopefully help you out.
You have done everything possible for her. You have to work, you cannot take care of her without an income. There is nothing wrong with her going back into a caring, loving memory care facility.
Trey I hope you are ok since Thesas passing I no you Miss her a lot I hope everything turns out ok for you you were the best husband!!Take care of yourself May God be with you!❤❤
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I pray she is approved for hospice so you can receive help with her care that they can provide. And also that she will receptive to it.
Prayers for both of you ❤❤🙏🙏
How wise of you to not speak about her in front of her! This is not done by so many. Great caretaking!
Please keep in mind as startling as the word HOSPICE can be, an evaluation gets you in system for much needed assistance. Palliative is under that umbrella too. It doesn’t always mean the end is near❤
@@shellylavigne5913exactly and provides amazing support!
@@shellylavigne5913 correct it doesn’t, but it also takes away care. At the end of my mother‘s life when she had an infection, she could not get antibiotics. Do be careful before putting a person on hospice to really understand what that means because life-saving measures will not be permitted..
@@WisepatiYes, we have a friend who had a double lung transplant. He thought about hospice because he thought he’d get more care but that wasn’t the case. He didn’t do it because they would have cut out some of his medications that he needs for his lungs and it would have hastened his death.
Rest in peace Theresa. Trey, please take care of yourself in this difficult time. I am praying for you. Theresa was so sweet and complex. She was too young to have such a terrible disease hit. You are a wonderful man and I hope to see you on UA-cam again when you are ready to talk. Bless you.
I just happened upon this video but I have to say how wonderful it is that you put the notes up rather than talking about it right in front of her. A lot of people wouldn’t think to do that. 🙏
Oh, Trey my heart breaks for you and Theresa! I pray she will be approved for Hospice, that will be such help for you! Being a nurse I have worked with Alzheimer’s patients and the family/caregivers need an abundance of support and encouragement! You are wonderful for having her at home. God bless and give you the strength and patience you need on a minute by minute basis❤
I appreciate your comment Lana and your kind words and support. Thank you as well for the support you have provided others with Alzheimer's and their families. God Bless
Ditto. My heart truly goes out to you Trey.
I love how you've handled the tender care of your wife. You are full of love.
Trey, thank you for the update. I’m saddened by Theresa’s decline and I pray you get some assistance. I think you’re doing great and amazing. Praying you find strength to hang in there. I know you must get frustrated at times as anyone would.
Theresa is so delightful and still finds ways to be funny on the videos. Love you two very much.
Thank you as always for your kind words, prayers and support Gloriann. Much love!
Brownie and ice-cream makes me happy too. :-) Peace and strength to you both
It was nice to see you both again hopefully she can get some in home care and her new meds help regulate her moods keeping you both in my prayers
Hospice care is not only for the patient but also very helpful for the caregiver. You need that support as well as Theresa. I so admire your commitment and honesty. 🙏
Hang in there! Sending prayers, patience and strength to get through this difficult time. 🤗
It was so wonderful watching Theresa enjoy her ice cream! Thank you so much for sharing this with us Trey.🥰
Trey, you are so helpful and patient with your wife. You are a role model
You and Theresa have been in my thoughts and prayers. Glad to see an update, but so sorry to hear of Theresa’s decline. I found your channel while trying to learn more about this disease and came across a doctor who is a specialist in dementia. Her name is Dr. Tam Cummings. I mention this because Theresa didn’t seem to see the cards you were trying to show her and I learned from some of the talks that Dr does online that as dementia progresses, field of vision is lost. The example given was that a patient may have food in front of them but take food that is across from them (another person’s) because that is all they can see.
Looking forward to your future one on one chat. I hope you can get some respite care. Prayers to you and Theresa.
Hi Kathy - Yes, Theresa's vision, spacial awareness and depth perception have been deteriorating. She often does not understand where to sit at the table or which utensils are hers or which food items on her plate are hers. I often have to place the utensil in her hand and tell her it is ok to eat. She also has similar troubles with brushing her teeth, she does not know how to pickup the toothbrush and put it in her mouth. I usually help her get started. In this video, she took to the brownie pretty well but I give her that same bowl every day with ice cream in it. She is eager to dig in! Thanks for your comment, prayers and support.
Trey, this happened with my mom. We were at the table and she kept staring, and I asked what was wrong. My mom said "What must I do" and I picked up my fork and showed her. But it came to a point we had to feed her. I lived over an hour a way, and sometimes I would cry all the way home. She was diagnosed at 63 and was almost 75 when she went home to be with Jesus. Teresa is so young. A beautiful woman😊
As usual, it's a pleasure seeing both of you. It seems she's not as focused as before. I'm so happy she has you for a husband. You are truly an amazing husband and person. Keep up the wonderful work you are doing with her, and I hope all goes well with the hospice program ❤
Theresa's spacial awareness, depth perception and vision is noticeably deteriorating. She is easily distracted, but I partly blame it on the brownie and ice cream in front of her this time ! Thanks for your comment and support.
May God Bless you and Theresa. Im a full time caretaker and caregiver to my husband. It can be tiring and demanding but like you Im so thankful I still have my husband with me! .
I also am my husbands caregiver. He had cancer an also has nite terrors. Like u I’m so great full we still have each other. It’s been 56 yrs. In January. Don’t forget to take care if ur self.
Thank you Kiki - I'm glad your husband has you by his side. God Bless!
Im so sorry things are tougher right now. It's amazing how positive you always are. Care taking takes a toll but you always seem to handle it effortlessly. Hospice is an absolute god send. Their help and care for patient and caregiver is above and beyond. Be well Trey.
It has taken a toll but I try to never show her a spec of impatience, frustration or that I'm feeling overwhelmed. I seem to have become more patient over time as I accept the circumstances and learn what methods work to continue providing her care and alleviate my own stress. I do realize that the time has come when I need help here at home. The tug of war between working my job and caring for her at the same time is too much on my own now. Thanks for your comment and support.
@@tpippen75 Hospice isn't just EOL. It's a progressive or terminal illness with 6 months or less left but Hospice also offers palliative care. I don't see why you would not be accepted and it will be a welcome relive for you. Hospice and palliative workers are true angels on earth..
That looked like a never ending bowl of goodness, she had a fun time there, Wonderful cards and im sorry about your loss, sending my condolences 💯😽
I am so glad that you had those good weeks and months after bringing her home again! Praying for you both as you enter another chapter 💚
Sorry to hear you are having a difficult time. Sending prayers to you and Theresa.🙏🏻
I’m so sorry things are not doing as well as everyone had hoped. Once again I am in awe as I watch you take care of Teresa. God bless you both.
It was so very nice to see you both. I am right by your side with the struggles your experiencing. You are not alone! I saw Theresa's unfocus on the cards. It is sad to see and heartbreaking. Thanks so much for your content.
Yes, very unfortunately, Theresa's spacial awareness, depth perception and vision is noticeably deteriorating. As always Dana, thank you for your comment and support- Much love.
It’s good to hear from you and Theresa again. So sorry your household has experienced some upheavals as of late. Hopefully, these struggles have settled, and thing will once again be smooth sailing. All the best to you both. Be well, and I look forward to your next video! 😊
You were thoughtful in your presentation, to us the viewers, of information; respectful of Theresa.
Ice cream and chocolate brownie~what a good treat!
So sorry Trey. Prayers to you both.
Wishing you both the very best in your journey. You are such a beautiful loving couple. Trey you are the best husband ever ,I admire your love an devotion to your wife . Keep her smiling . Hugs an prayers to you both .❤
Thank you for the kind words, support and prayers! Much love to you
As always a special treat to see you both. Extra prayers and love to you Trey in the new changes. Stand with you.
My dear 61 yo husband has dementia (Lewy body) and loves his ice cream nightly. He was never a dessert person, but ice cream brings him memories of when he was a boy. Recently he developed a reluctance to shower, and constantly disrobe. He wasn’t sleeping & hallucinating. No UTI. Currently in the hospital - praying they can adjust his meds so he can come home. He can’t be in Klonapine. Caregiving is exhausting.
I'm glad you are getting hospice involved with Theresa's care. You need the extra support and assistance. And I'm sorry that Theresa is declining.
Much love and prayers 🙏 ❤.
So nice to see you both, wishing you all the help and support you deserve!❤
Hello Trey, it was so good to see you and Theresa tonight. I love hearing her giggle and smile. I’m sorry that things have not been going well. This disease is heartbreaking. You and Theresa will be in my prayers. I will be praying that hospice will be approved so you are able to do the things you need to do such as work and take care of yourself too. You have to work and take good care of yourself to be able to care of Theresa. Sending love and prayers for you both.
Trey, may God bless you with continued patience. 🙏
Thank you for the update. I know it’s tough. My husband has recently had more issues as well. Today I realized he actually ate all the dog treats. Guess I’m going to have to hide them now. He has also had more problems with incontinence issues. Lots of dental work needed too. This July will be year fourteen. Blessings to you both❤
Please accept my warm Hugs and strength and blessings to you
14 years is a long road. Much love and support to you both. I'm glad your husband has you by his side. God Bless.
You are just amazing. I know you’re glad to be able to take care of your wife, but remembering how she used to be must make these days incredibly sad for you. I’m feeling so sad just watching you two beautiful people just trying to get through each day. May God bless you and keep you. 🙏🙏
Thank you for sharing your videos. This helps those of us struggling to understand dementia for a multitude of reasons.
Oh trey, I have been worried to death about you and Theresa. I started to text earlier this week but just had a really bad feeling that she was starting a major decline from the last few videos. I am so sorry. Your love and care for your wife is unparalleled. Please take care and don't neglect your own needs. Praying for you both. Pam
Thank you Pam for your prayers and support. I will keep everyone updated on what transpires next with her care. I've seen her decline and bounce back in the past so I am not sure what twist and turns are coming next. Her doctor wanted Hospice to evaluate and get her into the system. I don't think she is EOL yet but maybe Hospice offers different levels of care / respite. Not sure what to expect but will share what I learn.
Trey, you're always so respectful of Theresa. You're blessed to have one another.
Praying For Y'all 🙏
...thank you for the written updates.... I was wondering where you were....it's so good to hear from you....❤
🌻what joy it was to watch this video! I just discovered your UA-cam channel. And it touches a cord...
...as I am very much in awe of your respect for your beautiful wife and for how your protect her and shield her from harm, by writting notes for the viewers (thus me) eyes only. Thus preserving your wifes dignity by doing that. This way of doing, is quite telling of your character. I can tell how you value her discretion. You touched me and I thank you for that! Your love in action for your beloved, speaks volumes.
Love is kind...💝
This is so heartbreaking to watch but you're giving us viewers a real glimpse into being a caretaker of someone with Alzheimer's. You try so hard to get her to interact but she's a hundred miles away 😢😢. Theresa is so Blessed with a Wonderful Husband but you can also feel his pain and sadness. I heard she passed away March 3 2024 and she is finally free of this horrible disease. God Bless You Trey as you now learn to navigate life without your beautiful Theresa. You educated so many others who must deal with Alzheimer's. You are a very Special Person. 🙏😢❤
Klonopin could be the lifeline drug Theresa needed! Hope you can continue to give to her to help with the baths and medication anxiety.
Thanks for the update and that brownie and ice cream sounds so good!😁❤❤❤❤❤
God bless your heart, Trey! You are doing a 10 star job on Theresa’s care.
Thank you for your kind words and support. God Bless!
This makes me sad. I see a big difference since I was on a month or so ago. She is so sweet snd you are so good to her. Makes my heart hurt. Prayers.❤
Happy Belated Birthday Teresa!🎉❤
Thanks for the update and I am so sorry to see Theresa's decline. It is obvious that she is having trouble focusing on things especially while trying to look at the cards. I hope that hospice will be a good thing for her and that she is accepting of the help and new people around her. Ice cream and brownies always make things better and she seems to really enjoy it. Sending my prayers to you both.
Watched all ad's. Thinking of yall. ❤
To watch the love of my life slip away like this would break my heart and I might not survive it. You are a kind, loving and righteous man and you renew my faith in humanity. I'm so sorry for your loss. Be well and rest now.
Trey, you and Theresa have been on my mind so much over the last month. I totally understand the struggles you have been going through. The way you did this video was well thought out. Trust me, I understand the struggles you have been experiencing! My mother is getting more difficult to care for by the day, too.
What you and I can do is stay calm and guide our loved ones, one moment at a time. Honestly my nephew and I are exhausted today. It's so tough to stay calm and kind most days here. Yet fortunately today has been a good day. Tomorrow I get the day off, and am going out for the day. I thank God every day for my nephew. I'd be a mess without him!
I'll be lifting you and Theresa up in prayer, hoping you get the help you need. It's a tough road you are on, and I hope you know you are not alone.
Till next time be as well as you can be under these circumstances. You, and your health matter too!
Thank you Therese - it is good to hear from you. I have been thinking about you and your mom as well. We are in it together. I'm grateful for when Theresa's friend Cher comes over and also her Aunt and Uncle. They are a great help and lift Theresa's spirts while giving me a break. Hope you have a great day off with some great weather and nature to enjoy. God Bless
@@tpippen75 Thank you for your kind words.
So sorry for the challenges. My prayers for both of you.
Wow. Its amazing how carefully she eats. 😊
Thanks!
Thanks so much Gloriann!
@@tpippen75 you’re so welcome, Trey.
Bless you sir. You are a wonderful person.
I am thinking of you and lifting you both up in prayers Trey & Theresa.
My mom loved ice cream and chocolate bars as well. Teresa reminds me so much of her. God help and bless you both.
Hi guys I just happened to come across your vlogs . It’s lovely to see you both . I believe I told you my friends husband was diagnosed with Picks disease . Is this what your wife has ? The Dr told her it’s much worse than Alzheimer’s disease . He used to do the same thing as Teresa . He has a million dollar business at one time . Unfortunately he ended up in a nursing home . He was only 54 when he passed . Prayers for your wife .🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Trey, you are so patient and loving. I have visited a few friend and their parents with Alzheimer’s and taken care of a few as well. It’s so heartbreaking to see these ppl struggle and decline. Hang in there
You both look healthy. What a wonderful job you are doing as a caregiver. Bless you both.
Hi Trey, it’s a positive move to accept Hospice to help with Theresa. It doesn’t mean that she is at the final stage of her life. It’s a transition that will help you immensely, both physically, mentally and emotionally. I know from experience with my mom, it doesn’t get easier, so please stay positive and strong. Prayers are with you both. 🙏❤️
I appreciate your comment and support and will be sure to share the outcome of the evaluation.
Hospice is wonderful! My husband declined quickly with his dementia and also refused his meds, became agitated, didn’t sleep well at night….. hospice came to help with changing clothes, and bathing. His decline was fast…. I pray for you both as you journey this path. You don’t walk alone….🙏🏻🙏🏻💕
Thank you for sharing Cheryl. I was a bit confused when her doctor ordered a hospice evaluation. I thought that was only for EOL care - perhaps her doctor speculates a quick decline could be on the horizon or maybe Hospice offered different levels of care before EOL. This part of the journey is new to me. I appreciate your prayers and support.
@@tpippen75 certain criteria must be met for hospice to approve care. They will evaluate at your home with you both and then let you know.🙏🏻
Praying you get approved and get the help you need. Hugs, love, and prayers.
I have been following your journey for awhile. I took care of my MIL for 4 years. During Covid her dementia ramped up quickly. But she was in her 90’s. When she stopped being able to participate in her daily care I called Hospice. It is an amazing support! They actually take over all the expenses through her medical coverage. The support is amazing. God bless
Thank you for sharing Dana - I will be keeping everyone updated on how the evaluation goes. God Bless
Oh Trey, my heart goes out to you. I hope it works out for hospice to come. Thank God for good days! Much love to you and Theresa.
Lovely to see you both. I don't think I could concentrate on the cards if there was a big bowl of brownies and ice cream in front of me. It's lovely to see Theresa smile. Wishing you lots of good memories for the year
Thank you for this video. It is so nice to see the love you have for each other.
Theresa, that brownie looks so yummy. I have to get me a brownie mix to make some.❤❤❤
Thank you Trey and Theresa. Theresa made me lol this morning. With her brownie and ice cream with her hell yeah! God Bless you both you are in my prayers. Trey I’m sorry Theresa is having some difficulties. I do notice. You take care of yourself Trey. I know this is very difficult. God bless and much love. 🙏❤️
Thank you as always for your support Diane! I thought it was pretty funny that she said that as well. God Bless
Trey you are beyond amazing!! Praying you are able to obtain approval for hospice care. Sending love to you both ❤
Sending you both my love as always. I think of you both daily. Hospice is more than EOL care I believe. Hang in there Trey. Sorry to hear about the black eye. Ouch. ❤. Much love Christine
Aww, Trey, so sorry to learn things have been rough. I am sure this is so difficult for you. My heart goes out to you both! Nice to see her enjoy her brownie and ice cream. The cards you showed are so nice and thoughtfully selected. Sending much love to you both. 🤗🥰
You definitely need assistance. I notice, Theresa is not as focused as on the day of the last vlogg. You are doing your best. Take care and blessings of strength, courage and good health. The ice cream definitely kept her smiling♥️
Hi Frances- her vision and spacial awareness is declining. She cannot focus on things I try and show her and gets lost in the house trying to find the bathroom. Normally, she just finds me and I help her to the toilet. However, she then gets upsets when I get her to the bathroom saying "I can do it myself" But she still needs help undressing and finding the toilet paper. So I just stay patient and help her...knowing it is just the disease talking. As always, thanks for your comment and support.
that's me and my husbands favorite desert I make for us, God Bless you,
I hope Theresa can qualify for Hospice so you can get some assistance while you work. You have been so proactive with all her care. It shows us all how much you love her. I can see the saddness in your eyes and know this is breaking your heart, too. It just breaks mine. 💔 Prayers for strength and comfort from our Heavenly Father. He knows your pain. 🙏 🙏
She’s so silly with her love for ice cream!!! So nice to hear her laugh. Sorry it’s been tough. You are doing such a good job
Thank you Trey for the update regarding Theresa. The way you transmitted the information was so well thought out. You are wise & respectful.
It saddens me knowing of Theresa's decline; however in saying that, Theresa's gorgeous smile and sense of humor are the testimony of how she is comfortable being at home and you being her caregiver. I pray Theresa will be approved for hospice care at home. That would be helpful to her, and to you when you are working.
Your unconditional love, compassion and caring for your beautiful wife Theresa is very touching. Although we don't see you "behind the scenes", there is no doubt the Trey we see in your videos is the same Trey in private life. God has given you a special mission, and He has equipped you for this.
To both you & Theresa, I pray you are sustained by God's mighty hand. May His Divine love fill you both. May His peace and calm fill you and comfort you. 🙏❤️🙏
Thanks so much Roberta - I always appreciate your kind and supportive words and thank you for the beautiful prayer. God Bless
@@tpippen75 🙏🙏
God bless u both. I know it has to be so hard for u both. Hope u can get more help for u both.
God bless you Trey and Theresa. I am praying for y'all. We as viewers can see the difficulties you've faced this past month. Trey you're putting on a brave face, but you look exhausted. ❤❤
I've been worn out lately but staying positive. I can never show any frustration around her - nothing but patience and kindness towards her. I am looking to get some help at home, at least during her waking hours, so I can get my work done. Thanks for your prayers and support buddy.
I m so glad you did an update, I was wondering about you two. I started to cry, when you said things took a turn. Just remember, many are supportive and praying for you and sweet Theresa. God bless you.
Thank you Kathy - always appreciate your support! God Bless
When I was taking care of my mother, I felt like I was alone. Just know that you have folks following along with you and hoping for the best for both you and Theresa. It's hard to ask for help sometimes because we feel like we're failing but that's what these respite care workers are there for, to help us out. Take all the help you can get.
Thank you for your insight and support Sherry
It’s ok Trey , Hang in there my thoughts and prayers are with you guys ❤🙏🙌 Thingz Are what they are just keep strong keep praying Trey such a beautiful lady God is right in your midst give all your pain to him to him be the glory 🙌🥹❤️🙏
Praying for you both and for hospice approval.
I've worked with persons with Alzheimer's for years. What a difficult journey in life and there is no one better than you Trey to be by her side. Many people are alone. My prayers are with your family and for you to kept up your mental strength Trey. I really don't think that Theresa is going to share her dessert.🥰🥰🥰
Trey you are doing an amazing job.
Sending you love and strength and prayers♥️🙏🏻
So sorry it's hard. My husband has PVA and EOAD. His mood changes often. Hugs
Thanks for sharing - much love and support to you both.
Prayers & blessings sent from Maine❤️💕
Hello Trey and Theresa! It was a nice surprise to see the two of you after watching the game. Our family have always been Chiefs fans so we were pretty happy they won, what a game and so so close! Theresa's ice cream and brownie looked so delicious, I am going to have some hot chocolate before I go to bed to get my chocolate "fix" after seeing Theresa eating her dessert!! I pray that you will get some assistance from hospice, I was a caregiver for a friend after she had a stroke, and noticed when the physical therapist came she would listen to them more than me when it came time to exercise and eat. I hope that it works out that you get that help. God bless you both! Much love from Arizona💙
Hi Lori - Glad your family enjoyed the game! Whenever Theresa isn't cooperating with me on taking her meds, I put her on FaceTime with her friend Cher - that normally does the trick. Thanks commenting and for your support. God Bless
That is a wonderful friendship those two have, I am so glad it works on the FaceTime!
Trey, you're such a wonderful Carer. I have been there before & respite is so important for you both. Hospice would give you both some 'time out' that does wonders. Hope all goes well? God Bless you both 🙏💜🇦🇨💐🦋🌻🌷🩷
Appreciate you support Tess - God Bless
Much love and prayers to you both, from a you tube friend in Michigan ❤
Praying for you both. Much love to you from TX🤍
So sorry to hear of her decline. I hope she can get into hospice care so you can also get some respite time. I can't imagine how hard it is for both of you. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.❤
I worked as a hospice CNA for many years and they are such wonderful wonderful people!! They will be such a great help for both of you. I'm so sorry for Theresa decline. My mom had Alzheimer's as well and it's such a heart breaking disease 💔 You are both in my prayers. I love her giggles and smiles! Love to you both from Idaho ❤
Thank you for comment Carol and for sharing about mom. I appreciate your prayers and support.
Hi Trey and Theresa. I love brownies and ice cream too. What a great combination. I think it is wonderful that Theresa can feed herself. This is something so important to well-being and independence. I spend a fair amount of time on UA-cam and I wonder if you have done any research on reversing inflammation in the body through diet? I enjoy your videos and I can tell that Theresa is very wonderful person who has so much love in her heart. You are a strong warrior too. Everyone has their limits but when it comes to love, there are no limits.
Hi Julia - yes I have done a little research and I understand that sugar (very unfortunately) may not be so good for inflammation. However, who could deny her that fudge brownie with ice cream lol !! It makes her so happy - I just want her to enjoy life. I do try and feed her healthy otherwise. Theresa does not eat any meat or fish so I do my best to fill her up with lentils, nuts, seeds, dark green veggies, hummus , fruits, cheese, egg whites etc... Appreciate your question and thanks for your kind words and support.
Bless you both!
Thank you for the discreet update Trey. It's always nice to see Theresa, but I am sad about her decline. Of course we all know that is coming, but it doesn't make it any easier on you. You are doing a great job, far better than most! One day at a time. I hope hospice can help.
Thanks Kim - Appreciate your support and will do another update about what Hospice says.
Hi Trey. Thanks for the update - you did that very well. I had checked a few times thinking maybe I missed a video. Sorry for the decline in Theresa! :(