Leave the Someday Isle and Start Before You’re Ready | Leslie M. Bosserman | TEDxEustis
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- Many people have great ideas, but stay stuck in their coulds, shoulds, and somedays. With a mixture of wit and whimsy, Leslie M. Bosserman, M.Ed., CPCC shares how to leave the Someday Isle and activate three tools to start before you’re ready. Fueled by local coffee and big dreams, this dynamic mom of three is on a mission to help you get unstuck! After working in higher education, she launched Lead With Intention® and has researched, coached, and trained teams around the world on the science of Emotional Endurance to enhance their fulfillment. Leslie has served on the leadership team for TEDxSacramento and volunteered in Jordan teaching leadership in local schools. After becoming a parent, she created The Makers Place™, Sacramento’s first coworking space with onsite childcare offering flexible solutions for local families. Leslie graduated from UCLA with her Bachelor’s in Mass Communications and a Master's of Education and is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach. She is a novice pickleball player and an expert bargain shopper! Leslie lives in Northern California with her family, and travels internationally for coaching, organizational trainings, and retreat facilitation. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
From a dreamer to a doer was incredibly motivational. I agree that our biggest obstacles are often our own fears and hesitations.
I love “dreamer to a doer” 🎉 So glad this resonates with you!
definitely, and once we overcome them we're pretty unstoppable 💪🏼💪🏼
Great topic to bring to the group, thank you.
I'm not stuck, I am just resting, lol
I've been trying to message you, are you getting them?
I feel like I've been on the someday isle my whole life... seriously my ability to slip in and out of complete disassociation is unrivalled.
This is more common than we think and it’s nice to vacation there…sometimes… 🏝️
me too, always not here.
Good share, thanks for sending to me Jackie!!!
Love this, and yes I agree I do the same thing
She delivers a powerful talk - good share girl.
I feel like my mental endurance is holding me back. At my last sport, I quit - no excuse, and I frankly didn't want an excuse. I just flat out quit. I kept having negative thoughts until it became to much that I stopped. Since then I have been really disappointed in myself. It was a really depressing moment to be completely honest.
Find a way to turn the negative thoughts into helping thoughts. For me, it's digging to the root of the negative voices and realizing that I was trying to protect myself with them.
Sometimes you don't know that you can do something until you do it. But once you've done it before, it suddenly seems very much within reach.
It takes a lot of courage to share what you have here and just naming the issue can be the start of your breakthrough. Next time you want to quit, visualize what your life will look and feel like in ONE year if you don’t quit. Then decide today is not the day for quitting…
Then you know the answer - don't quit, keep going. You will get there.
Listen to this ted, thats a step forward....
I couldn't help but nod along when she described the lands of Could and Should. Story of my life!
So much respect for her for turning personal struggles into motivation for positive change. That's real resilience right there. Makes me want to look at my own challenges in a new light.
Thanks you and I’m glad you found this talk inspirational! 🎉
Never too late to plant that tree. No use dwelling on missed opportunities from the past. This talk is a good kick in the pants to start working towards those long-term goals now
Yes! Take those seeds and get to work!
the story about creating The Maker's Place out of a personal need is so relatable and I think it shows how we can turn our struggles into successes. Sometimes the best solutions come from our own challenges.
Thanks so much and creating a business from a real community need had been one of the greatest gifts and learning opportunities!!
It's so easy to get caught up in perfectionism and never actually start but action beats perfection every time!
Love the saying “action beats perfection” 🎉
I found the Chinese proverb about planting a tree particularly powerful. It’s never too late to start something meaningful.
So true! Now go plant some seeds 🌱
Love her energy! So positive and contagious, she's got me feeling pumped to tackle some projects I've been procrastinating on for a loooong time
Love hearing this!!! 🎉 Keep me posted on what you create and accomplish!
I've got to remember what she said about having it all just not all at once! Such solid advice.
Yea indeed! I still live by that advice!
"Build with what you have" - such a simple yet profound advice. Powerful even.
Thank you! I'm glad this resonated with you!
Absolutely, this made so much sense to me!
Shout out to my folks for making my mental endurance strong enough to run back-to-back metaphorical marathons 🤘🏼
Yes 🎉🎉🎉
LMAO
Totally relate to that tension between dreaming about the future versus the present obligations. balance is key!
Imma have to watch this one again, she dropped so many gems about intentional living that I need to fully take in.
Thank you!! And yes, please re-watch and share 🎉
her story is proof that we don't need to have it all figured out to make a difference. We just need to start with what we see in front of us.
Yes indeed! One step at a time!
I think this talk does a great job of showing how important it is to align our daily actions with our long-term goals. Otherwise it gets too easy to lose sight of what we're working towards
Yes indeed! You have to be intentional with your vision to know where to start now!
@@LeslieMBosserman absolutely! ✨
Her journey of going from an ambitious 20-something to building multiple businesses and raising 3 kids is just... amazing and it's really assuring to hear her advice knowing that she was able to do all of it that way
Lots of faith, focus, and fortitude ❤
Thanks for the reminder that we can start before being ready! This talk is definitely going down as one of my all-time favorites.
You’re most welcome and hearing this made my day! Please share it with those that need to hear the message ❤
It's pretty awesome, so full of memorable take aways!
Building with what you have, enhancing emotional endurance, and leading with intention. These tools are game-changers.
Thank you and I’m glad my talk resonated with you!!
is that from the talk or just your message? lol
"The only limit is the one you set for yourself." 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Yeah this quote slaps
her point about putting conditions on our present happiness is spot on and in my experience even if we do achieve that condition (mine was losing weight) we're still not the perfect happy versions of ourselves we thought we'd be
Self-acceptance AND motivation for growth are so important to look at together!
Emotional endurance is a phrase I’ve never heard before and it makes SO MUCH SENSE!!! So many people give up and it’s strategy and fortitude that makes it happen!
Thank you, Katie!
Yeah that's going straight into everyday use
This makes me want to work on being the kind of person I actually see myself as and want to be instead of just focusing on achievements.
I LOVE hearing this and hope that it continues to inspire you!
Her journey from dreaming to actualizing her vision was motivating but I wonder how realistic it is for those of us without a strong support system.
That is such a great point and the core of my message was to hopefully anyone to start where they are with what they have, rather than remaining stuck as a victim to what they don't. Equity and access to support systems vary so much, but we all have agency to do what we can!
"You can have it all, just not all at once." Daaaamn okay this really struck me as something profound and yes, it is 100% correct because some of the things even cancel each other out!
Yes!!! I'm glad this resonated with you, too!
Leslie just flipped a switch in my brain! No more excuses about not having enough.
Same, we can make do with what we have!
Fantastic to hear! Keep taking the next step…and then the next…
Could definitely relate to the "having more ideas than time" part. And when you finally get time to act on one of those ideas it's like all the excitement you had for it has already worn away
Me too, never enough hours in the day
Good motivation, isn't it?
Great talk, needed this, thanks for sharing it.
Oh wow yeah I definitely know that feeling
Hahaha yes! This was me all throughout my life but now that I'm retired strangely I just want to enjoy doing very little
Love the juxtaposition of the shoulds vs. could and starting with the information and skills you have right now.
Thanks for the push, Leslie.
You're welcome!
I like what she said around the 7:16 mark, never heard the time before but what she said about it definitely rings true
Emotional Endurance is such a key quality to learning how to lead with intention!
I know I'm gonna face challenges and setbacks on the road to my dreams, but the idea of building emotional endurance gives me hope that I can work up to doing those hard things.
This is wonderful to hear and EXACTLY why I’m writing a book about this!!
This is a great talk in terms of motivating people to get going with their goals... obviously there are some harsher realities in terms of the actual achieving them but for those who have that thing where starting is half the battle, this is really valuable encouragement.
Thank you so much ❤
This talk is absolutely spot-on-- and I love the metaphors!
Thank you, Lauren!
Lovely and inspiring talk. I enjoyed listening to Leslie speak.
Thanks so much!! 🎉
Thank you so much!!
I've never heard of emotional endurance before but it's a cool concept, and makes a lot of sense.
Haha! "Pace my passion" - that Leslie is a genius! I never thought about it that way, but it totally explains why I burn out so easily.
Why thank you!! 😂 And finding your life rhythm in each season is essential! I like to think of it as “what soundtrack is my life pacing at now?” 🎶
Loved the story about the two kingdoms! Such a creative way to illustrate the point.
Thank you! I wrote it years ago and thought it was a perfect intro for these three points! 🎉
"Plant your tree now" - such a motivational metaphor.
Absolutely!! 🌱☀️🌳
I gotta learn more about this! Building emotional endurance sounds like a superpower I need.
I’m working on writing my first book about this exact topic! Stay tuned and follow me for more updates!
Awesome!
Watched your youtube video, and left feeling equipped, empowered and motivated to step out and achieve more goals in my life.
Thank you.
That’s wonderful to hear!! 🎉 Pass it along!
Interesting take on inside-out leadership. Makes sense that who we are shapes what we do.
Isn't that term great? I'm glad it resonates with you, too!
@@LeslieMBosserman agree 100%
Simple yet so hard to stick to. It’s about making that choice daily.
So true! Every day choices lead to habits which builds our character ❤
It's incredible what can be achieved when you decide to take action, no matter the circumstances.
Indeed! And it’s that moment of decision that is the launchpad forward!
Good way to start the day hearing this.
Loads of solutions, yeah I get it.
Well shared, I like this a lot.
Emotional Endurance is the key takeaway for me.
Oh man this absolutely speaks to me... I get so caught up in ideas and inspiration for all these creative projects and hobbies that I think I can turn into businesses and then.... ??? It's like it all just disappears because I don't act on it straight away but I never feel like I'm organised enough to act on it... like I have to wait for the right time and space or something but obviously that's never going to happen...
Yes!! And you’re not alone! What’s your next FIRST step forward?
I could totally relate to having too many ideas and not enough time. learning to pace my passion is def something I struggle with
Same here! Glad it was relatable!
@@LeslieMBosserman very, good ted thanks
I find it challenging to start something new, I think because I often feel unequipped or just fearful in general... This talk has definitely given me a bit of a push to reconsider how I approach things and I hope I remember it when it's time to start something new haha 😅
Awesome to hear! Just take the first step...
What an amazing perspective and helpful and practical tools from someone who has done the work! 🎉 Thank you!!
You’re welcome!! Thanks for sharing!
Someone told me that when you're about to start a project or a hobby, the more you tell people about it, the less likely you are to actually do it. See your brain doesn't know the difference between actually doing the thing and just thinking about doing it or imagining that you've done it. So the more people you tell and the more positive reinforcement you get back from them it's like your brain thinks you've already done it so eventually you just run out of enthusiasm to do it. I don't know if this is true for other people but it's definitely real for me so now I just have to do things without telling anyone until I've actually done it!
What an interesting idea and it just goes to show that taking that first step into action makes all the difference!
@@LeslieMBosserman thanks, lovely talk Leslie
Watching TED talks at 2am instead of sleeping. Peak productivity right here 😅😂
Love that you watched!
I really liked the point about having it all but not all at once... I think just building up one thing at a time is the best way to go about things and then once you're handling it well add in another thing... like who are we overwhelming ourselves for?
So true!🎉
This was am inspiring talk!
Thank you for watching! I’m glad it resonated with you!
Great tips on starting before you are ready!
Thanks Rey!
This talk reminds me that even small steps can lead to big things. Maybe someday I can write a children's book, but for now, reading bedtime stories with silly voices will have to do. And that's okay!
As a mom of three young kids, the bedtime stories are the building blocks to everything else ❤
definitely, those small things add up
Ugh, this 'Someday Isle' sounds tempting. No more laundry or endless emails? Sign me up! But then I remember my little ones, and I know I can't just check out
I knew you would like this....
Same here, Randi! And I've found that checking IN is better anyway :) Good luck with the laundry (I'm currently on my 12th load with three young kids!!)
Amazing and yes to no laundry
I love this; she's entertaining, too.
Yeah agreed, this is why TEDs are so good, great shares great info
Definitely some great advice here but a lot of people struggle to start tasks because of their brain chemistry
This is awesome advice! Especially for my over-thinking procrastinating self lol 😅
Thank you! I'm so glad you enjoyed it!
This talk is the kick in the pants I needed to stop dreaming and start doing lol
Awesome to hear!! Now let's make it happen!!
Hahaha yes! Sometimes we all need a kick in the pants
A TEDx Talk will NEVER be in our "Someday I'll..." WAY TO GO, Leslie!
Thank you so much, Amy!!
LOL @ the 3:30 mark! That's weirdly sassy for a proverb but I like it.
The 'to be' list exercise is something I’m definitely going to try. Reflecting on who I want to be sounds like a great way to align my actions with my values.
Nice 👍
Thank you!
Love this so much. Also being a mother of 3 I always feel like I get stuck in should or could land. Thanks Leslie for this beautifully delivered speech!
Thank you, Amber!
What a great way to start my day today. Thank you for your beautiful story and key insights! You should write a book!
Thank you so much and the book is in the works!! 📚
Loved the story of the two kingdoms and the Someday Isle. Very clever storytelling.
I had fun writing it! ❤
What great points! As a procrastinator, this helps me find ways to get started before i'm ready. So proud of you and thank you for spreading such valuable information
Thank you so much!! I’m so glad my message resonated with you ❤
“Movement.
Action.
Curiosity.
Discovery.
Sometimes being stuck means
going deep
and deep discoveries are made there,
but sometimes stuck is just
stuck
and some kind of movement is required
to get things going.”
― Shellen Lubin
Love this! And that's a great start to a "to be" list!!
Emotional endurance is absolutely life-changing once you've mastered it!
Absolutely! And even once you’ve started practicing it!!
Emphasizing values and intentions over just productivity is a really refreshing approach! I'm into it.
Awesome!! So good to hear!🎉
I'm kinda shook by her point about knowing your values before pursuing achievements. We really are conditioned backwards
I was really moved by how candidly she spoke about her struggles, and how she turned them into opportunities. Really cool stuff.
Thank you❤
her journey from college grad to entrepreneur and parent is pretty inspiring. shows what's possible when you're willing to take risks and adapt to life's curveballs!
Thank you! It's been a blessed and BUSY life!
trading efficiency for sufficiency... that's a mindset shift I need to work on. Always felt like I had to do everything perfectly, but maybe it's more important to just get things done.
“Done is better than perfect” and it’s also important to define what “success” looks and feels like as you’re working toward a goal 🎉
I’m skeptical about the idea that starting before you're ready is always a good strategy. Sometimes, preparation is key to success.
I agree! As a strategic planner AND do-er, I think life requires a balance. My message was geared to those who don't start at all unless they already can guarantee the outcome...
Such a good perspective fix! Definitely going to start building with what I have instead of waiting for the "perfect" moment
Thank you! And I love the phrase “perspective fix!!”
The thought of just going for it and seeing what happens is weirdly liberating and makes me want to launch my side hustle! No more excuses or waiting for everything to be in place.
I love this and hope you take the next step forward!
@@LeslieMBosserman Thank you!! Loved your talk!
Challenging the idea of putting conditions on present happiness is a game-changer. Always thought I'd be happy "when" something happened, but maybe it's about finding joy in the journey.
So true! I'm glad this resonated with you, too!
It's refreshing to hear a talk that acknowledges the pressure of daily obligations and offers realistic ways to navigate them, thank you.
You're most welcome!
The story about creating the Maker's Place was inspiring. It shows that big dreams can start from simple, honest needs and of course just having the courage to voice them!
Thank you and YES!! I'm glad this resonates with you, too!
It's interesting how different people have different ways of approaching things and maybe just changing up that approach can make all the difference in terms of success!
Small changes can lead to huge results! Especially when we customize them based on who we're serving!
This has given me a lot to think about. I'm 100% guilty of living on the someday isle haha and I also catch myself saying I'll do things "one day" that I actually have no intention of doing... and then I guess because I'm treating the things I actually want to do in the same way maybe I'm just confusing my brain about which things to actually focus on and work towards
I think we've all vacationed on the Someday Isle...the important part is not to stay stuck there!
Never thought about the difference between a to-do list and a to-be list. Interesting concept.
Yes it is! And so helpful to create both!
Such a good message! I think we can also surprise ourselves by how capable we actually are when we just start doing something. Sometimes less is more in terms of preparation.
So true and well put!
The idea of building with what you have really resonated with me. It's so easy to get caught up in what we lack instead of using our current resources.
I'm so glad this connects with you, too! Now keep building!
The concept of emotional endurance is intriguing. In a world full of quick fixes and instant gratification, developing that inner resilience seems more important than ever.
So true!! Stay tuned for more on this topic coming soon…
I disagree that you can't have it all at once! It might drive you crazy to the point you don't want any of it anymore LOL but you can still have it all!
That's exactly my message so I'm glad we're in alignment!
The metaphor of someday Isle is a bit cliché, but it does get the point across about the dangers of procrastination and endless dreaming.
As long as you can turn some dreams into action, you won’t stay stuck!
I like where she's coming from but I think there's a lot more to it and why people get stuck on the "Someday Isle"
Agreed...that's why I'm writing a book about it! TEDx talks have a time limit...ha!
This is something I struggle with a lot, just taking action despite being scared so the idea of just leaning into that uncertainty is kind of really empowering! Not sure how I'll go putting it into practice lol but in theory it's great!
Thanks and just start where you are and take one step forward...
loved the bit about not letting what you don't have slow you down. It's easy to focus on limitations, but there's usually a way to work with what's available if you get creative!
Absolutely! There's enough stuff out there trying to limit our impact and diminish our worth. I'm glad this inspired you!
I think life is constantly throwing challenges at us and seeing it as an opportunity to build upon our strengths is a really good reframe, thank you.
You’re welcome!
the message about having courage to step out without knowing the outcome is powerful. easier said than done, but it's a good reminder that growth often happens outside our comfort zone.
Absolutely easier said than done...and once it's done (or started), it feels pretty great to share!
I think a lot of people are just struggling with the daily grind... that's probably where the support system comes in
So true! One day at a time...
I agree not doing something at all for fear of it not being perfect is way worse than never actually doing it!
Just start where you are and keeping going!
Amazing talk - we all do it sometime - great points on how to move forward, to Be, and to Do. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and wisdom.
Thank you so much! I’m glad you connected with these points, too!
I love the way this highlighted the importance of being present and making the most of now instead of waiting for the perfect moment... because honestly, there IS no "perfect moment" it's just the moments we create.
Such a profound "take away" @brandawoodword as we only can control how we respond and act in each moment, not the circumstances around it
@@LeslieMBosserman very true
This talk made me realize how much time I waste dreaming instead of doing. It's comfortable to live in that "someday" mindset, but it doesn't get you anywhere. Time for a change!
Dreaming is great when it becomes the fuel for DOing!!
yeah I get caught in the daydreaming aspect of things too
Leslie!!! This was excellent. Congratulations. ❤️🎉
Thank you so much!! I appreciate you watching and sharing!
The part about emotional endurance really hit home for me. I agree it's crucial to develop resilience in the face of life's challenges, because they just keep on coming lol
I love sharing more on Emotional Endurance and am currently writing a book on how to develop and enhance it even more!
@@LeslieMBosserman wow cool, do you have a website?
Anyone who procrastinates NEEDS this! Sharing with my friends for sure
Thanks so much!! I’m glad it resonated with you 🎉