HERE IS THE GAME LADIES- Sit And Let Me Teach RC Blakes
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- Опубліковано 12 сер 2020
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If we as women can close our legs, stop chasing marriage and live our lives fully we wouldn't be falling for all of this destruction.
PREACH SIS! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Amen
Things is a branch of women these days are passing up on marriage during their 20s. So I don’t think that majority the issue vs mental health, co dependent issues
I never opened them willing, they were forced opened at a very early age, and I've tried to recovery and live and I keep running into all of this.
A mouthful!
"BUMS will IMPRESS you that they are your knight in shining armour, but if you get close and INVESTIGATE that Armour you'll find out it's aluminum foil." That part...♥️😂🙌🏾😂🙌🏾♥️
🤣😂😂
Fammmmmm!!!!!!! more like polythene😭😭
HONEY CHILE SISTAH FRIEND‼‼‼‼‼ "PRAISE HANDS"
It is a facade " Aluminum Foil" rofl, sooo true
Right.
“Everything that your chasing is within you.” -R.C.Blakes
♥️
Amen ☀️
N n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n nn n n n n n n n n nnn n n n n n n n nnn n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n nn n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n nn n n n n n n n n n n n n n n nnnnn n n n n n n n n n n n nnnn n n n n n n n nn nnnn n n n nnnn n n n nn n n nnnnnn n n n n n n n n n n nn n n nnnn n n n n nn n nnn n n nnnnn n nn n n n nnnnnn n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n nnn nnnnnnnn n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n n nnn n nn n n n nn n n n n n nnnnn n n nnnn n nnnnnnnn n n nnn n n nnn n n n nnnnnnn n n n n n n n nn n nnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnn n nnnn n n n n n n n n n nnn n n n n nnnnnnn n nnnn n n n n n n n n n nnn n n n n n n nnnnn n n n n n n n nn n n nnnnnnn n n n nn n n n n nnn nn n nnn n n n n n nnn n n n n n nnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n n n n n nnnnnnn n n nnnnnn n n n nnnn n nnnnnnnn n nnnn n nnnnnnn n n nnnnnnn n nnn n nnnn n n n n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n n nn nn n n n nnnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n nn n n nn n n nnn n nnnnnnnnn n n n n n n nnnnnnn n nnnnnn n nnnnnn n nnnnnn n nnnn n n n n nnnnnnnn n n nnnnnnnnnnn nnn n nnnnn n n n n nnnnnnnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n n nn n n n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n n nnnnnn nnnnnnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnn n n n nnn n n n n nnnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnn n n n nnnnnnnnnnnnnn n n n n nnnnnnnnnnnn n nnn n n n n nnnnnnnnn n n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnn nnnn n n nn nnnnnnnnnnn n n n nnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnnn n n nnn n nn n nnnnnnnnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n n nnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n nnnnnn n nn n nnnnnnnn n nnnnnnn n nnnnnn n nnnnnnnn nnnnnnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n n n n nnnnnnnnn n nnnnn n nnnnnnnn nnnnnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnn n n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n n n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n nnnn nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn nnnnnnnnnnnnnnn nnnnnn nnnnnnnn n n nnnnn nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn n nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn
Aww yes. I'm a daughter of God. In Jesus name, I'm healed and all the things that I'm searching exist within me.
In Jesus name, I'll triumph
Halleluja ❤
"I have to traumatize you so that I can manage you". I FELT THAT ALL IN MY SPIRIT.
It hit me...
Me to sis!!!!
Chills - was with a narc for 13
Years that did just that.. and alienated our daughters from me:(
✅💥
This is awakening its Holy Spirit awakening his own.
Sometimes it’s hard to realize there are evil people out there... when you think everyone is as kind as you.
So true
*NARCISSIST*
*VERY DANGEROUS*
*DEMONIC SPIRIT'S*
Right
I've been the girl that thought that everyone was like me you don't do to people's what you don't went done to you you! But have been taught from this life not everyone is that way in my mindeye so its been a very hard lesson to learn but thats the way life goes because God have a reason for lessons learned.too God be the Glory never had a father but learned That I did have a Father in heavenly places very grateful now for lessons learned.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@caroltaylor205
*This WAS me too* 😣
*I Agree with*
*ABSOLUTELY*
*LESSON LEARNED* ⏪
"That ain't no Knight and Shinning Armour, that's a clown wrapped up in aluminum foil" 😂
😂 he throw shades so well heheheh
lol
Love it…😂
✌🏾🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
SNAP!
1. He penetrates the woman's defenses through calculated conversation
2. The man works to become the woman's emotional addiction
3. He avoids making any commitment
In that order ✅
TOME I DONT CARE HE CALL ME AND CRYING AND HES SAY CAN YOU SAY FORGIVE HIM I SAY NO YOU CAN GOO WHEN HIS STOPLIES STOP WHAT HE DOING I OPEY HIM HIS NOT HE CAN GOOO BUT I AM NOT SENT MONEY EVER 1000 LOOK FOR FOR YOUR LOVER S I DONT CARE
I don't know about that cause I had one that committed to me but nothing else was in place. So I'm saying that there are some slick ones out here now days so be careful when dating don't jump into it to fast.
A u n I.
WOWWW
You’re like a father I never had. I’m so grateful I found your UA-cam 🥺
Yeap, I feel the same Way…
thqnks
🙏🏽
As a fatherless daughter, I am beyond grateful for you pastor.
Right.
Don’t forget that narcissists can play the victim so if he comes off looking like a nerd do not for one second think he won’t break your heart.
Exactly...acting as a nerd is the tactics the Narc uses to pull in the well round good looking gainfully employed educated entrepreneurial type woman...being a nerd will be more effective than the thug no moral no character type man
Agreed! I just came out of that experience and the healing process was tough ... But God!
I fell for that before
The victim n nerd
Covert narc..
I've been there
@Rachel Zamstein im going through it now.
Truth!!! Tried dating someone “not my type “ lord smh. God will send the right one 🙌🏽
No woman wants a wasted life
👏👏👏 I’m trying to tell ya!
Amen!!
I don't think anything is wasted if you learned a lesson from it.
That's the truth
@@Broadwayma facts Michelle
It's not only toxic women that attract toxic men! It's also highly empathetic women and also co-dependent women! 👀👀
Well, codependency is toxic🤷🏽♀️
it s too funny sept)iles auebec cqnqdq
I guess those examples would be considered toxic to. Overly empathetic women are toxic to themselves. I'm one of them. I'm learning though.
The latter two describe toxicity too
Self reflection of your to be. Your soul requires you to get closer to God! Not toy boys not faking the game. We as woman our mindsets needs changing about our to be. Traditional mindsets in having a Man isn't a fact today. Woman in marriages isn't old school days when grandparents married for 65 years today folks can't do 5 days. Traumatized, childhood father is also a trigger needs healing prayers 🙏❤️.
A real man, a high caliber man would never ask you to do theses things, his first quality is to protect your virtue. And honor
Lots of men are walking around wounded. They fail to deal with their emotions because they believe it makes them look weak. Unfortunately in doing this, they leave trails of hurt behind. Whatever they touch, they destroy. It's a sad reality.
This is so true. They transfer their negative energy to good wife material woman. Put God first. Ive had to learn the hard way. I'm 38 yrs old and never been married or engaged. I have a great career, and I love myself. Ive worked for years to gain love for myself. I refuse to let any man to take my peace and love of myself away because they're sucked of their energy
Yess!! 💯
Truth
I agree...
Agreed. If they don't know they get that mess all over women, I'd like to inform everyone that it does happen. Deceived people don't know they're deceived. It's perfectly healthy and mature to do what's best for their own good and not bleed all over a woman/man. (It works both ways). Take the time to heal first. It's not a given, you have to TAKE the time. I mean if we as women can and should work, not only to know but to truly heal emotional damage from relationships, then men aren't exempt. Happiness is free.
Ladies this is straight wisdom and truth. Please- the moment you sense foolishness or red flags - leave! Even if you been dating a while- leave! Thanks for sharing Bishop ❤️
Absolutely true!
yep learned that the hard way!
I agree I learned the hard way as well.... never again...
Nail on the head
Very true.... im currently dealing with a married man that I have no business with smh , I need the lord back in my life
I’m 56, single, child free and happy! I travel, have great friends and I’m growing closer to God and enjoying my life. If and when God wants to bring me my King, I’ll keep living life fully and not ever consider myself less for not having a man. I, in myself, am enough! Thank you, Pastor for your wisdom and may God’s blessings always be on you! 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
At 47 I am finally learning and I just thank God for opening my eyes.
❣💕
Me too! 46 will be 47 in a few months. It's never too late.
It's sad.. I'm 40 and just realized that I've spent my entire adult life in relationships.. and now finally understanding how to date I no longer want to. I want to enjoy my 40's a single woman building and growing.
Yes, God is so good. He is seeing me through this❤
ListeN to the gospel l song by the Clefs called , "Father, Open Our Eyes, and the song ," I Won't Complain."
Boyyyyyyyyy, when I was a little girl my grand mother used to tell me “a piece of man is better than no man!”
I never told my daughters that mess!
I recall being told by older women in my family this as well! It's really ingrained in our heads.
😂😂right
Allen Carletta. I would never tell my daughter that. I grew up heading that through other associates and media. I'm mid 30's and just had a daughter by a grown boy. So toxic since fir almost 10 years. It took until after I had my daughter to see him for who he is and the sexual stopped but good brought Toby Gaskins to my attention first and then I came across Blake's. It's funny to know I was always right but the saddest is the women, the older women who were blinded app they never or couldn't help me realize and confirm what these two men have. God was always telling me but the manipulations, condescending, and gas lighting and all other toxicity was just outdoing God's work and that's ashame. What I can say it's God never left me because I never let go of him to get lost. Once you fall face down and plead and praise to God to save you, he will!! For me he did it when I was genuinely tired and after I went celibate on my own. Do the work ladies and pray daily and God will do the miracles
These words 'Get what you're given or have none' is a demonic scripts that was placed in my conscious from the start. It is a battle always for me to believe that I could spurn or turn away from something.....there is nothing to replace. I am sorry it took me so long to hear someone explaining the rules. I hope my life changes because of hearing this video. It's OK to feel empty, second best is never right.
Many women still believe this today
“Just because a man pulls up in a Ferrari doesn’t mean he can afford it” whew that was a word right there!
🙌👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Deep!!!!!
I sure wish I had a dad that talked to me like this...his daughter's a very fortunate ... hopefully they listen
Truth! Often that only means that he is broke at a different level.
I was told the same thing. The car could be stolen, or he is sleeping in the car., with pass due notes.
Being a single mom is hard. I feel so much pressure to find a husband to help me in the parenthood journey for my kids but also to feel better and more fulfilled and live the marriage calling. I just feel like I have to relearn so much.
To make matters worse, those toxic boys seem to prey on single moms :(. Holy Spirit please help and protect us single moms, please grant us your wisdom, strength, patience and fortitude! Thank you God for bringing us to this inspired channel! Amen!
Amen! It’s a red flag if they’re always going after single moms
Amen. I totally get this
I started to get comfortable with being single. 😂 my mom is wondering if I’m ok. But point is when u meet the right guy , u will know.
I feel the same
"A real man is not one that will ever break a woman down intentionally. A real man is one that will protect a woman. Even if a woman doesn't have respect for herself, he will respect her enough to separate himself from her presence." -12:05
WOW! It's scary how many men do the exact opposite and comfortably too.
This hit me too. Glad you noted the time
I need more clarity on this.
@@DeeplyJenny I think it means he will not add to her disrespect of herself, but he will walk away and not get in the way of her improvement of herself.
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@@DeeplyJenny Another example: A woman with low self esteem. A real man wouldn't take advantage of her. He would either help her or walk away. Horrible men will stick around to exploit/abuse her and then blame her/say she let them do it. Fact is, they could have just walked away (or helped her). They *_chose_* to stay and exploit her low self esteem. I highly recommend Deborrah Cooper's YT channel. She talks a lot about this. My above example is inspired by her perspective on things. This is why this RC Blake comment really stood out to me. The universe was using them both to share this message.
Every woman who father didn't talk to them needs to get this book asap
You are absolutely right! I didi and it was the best investment I have made in myself!
I'ol.
My late husband was raised by men BROKE DOWN men So thats worse
"He slides in, and withholds your desire." Wow, it's messed up but true.
20 years married having to walk away I want my peace, my dignity, my passion, my hair, my health back.
Yes ma'am
Yes! Real men naturally desire to protect and love women! 💯
Right! Your beautiful btw❤️
amen
true true true
ua-cam.com/video/VOvaI3m5NTQ/v-deo.html
FACTS OVER FEELINGS
Please share this very important message for all Black Men. Only 14 minutes. Important to share to our youth.
AMEN!!!
“It’s better to have a piece of man than no man at all.”- Betty Wright. This statement gave women the green light to allow destruction in their beds, homes and hearts.
So true. They used her words and lyrics as an accuse to want a little something that means nothing at all
So true, I remember listening to that song and it just didn’t sit right to be ok with sharing a man.
right? that song is so wack. the guy, mr charlie or mr joe, whatever his name is, he's a bum. but she's singing about taking him back time & again & never letting him go. please. that message is the extra worst 🤣
Simply Quintessa Yes ma’am!
@Pq M 🤣🤣🤣 Barbra said we can share him.. Aunt Betty said, deal!👍🏽🤣
I wish I had this teaching in my. 20’s even in my 30’s🙏
If only.
Same here 💯
Same here
It’s a shocking reality to wake up to accept that the men I’ve been with sought to break me. I truly had no idea but can see, looking back, this is 100% accurate.
Its the most accurate thing. When you are with the clown, its shocking how your eyes are closed until you are out
Pastor Blake needs his own show...I would run red lights to get home to watch..lol...
Lol!😄 Me too! #Glory🙌🏾
Definitely agree
Gurl calm down, catch it on UA-cam when you get home.
This IS his own show. Novi a t watches TV anymore for the most part. This is hit platform. What are you talking about? Expand your thinking. He has created content and is delivering on UA-cam which is seen all over the world by MILLIONS. Reaching more than TV because it's becoming obsolete.
This is it 🎉
Wow. I like this guy. He’s doesn’t pander and holds both parties accountable.
He is awesome and so real ....🙏👍
Pastor is the TRUTH!
I wish I could clone him for myself
Exactly
I agree
So glad I clicked on this. Never been so excited to b a single cat lady
Powerful! This was my marriage of 22 years. I stayed so long because I wanted to believe that it would get better - it didn't. I had to walk away from the toxicity. "Choose your pain".🙏
Mine too for 19 years.
I am in a twenty-four years old marriage and all that pastor listed is the exact things going on. Still struggling to find somewhere to leave and courage
Pastor Black is a father indeed
@@elianamingo1522 just learning of this after last holidays what a narcissist is and when I started watching these videos my eyes were opened by Holy Spirit. We’re always giving chances but I’m ready for change. Building my self up while even listening to them in his presence. I’m watching and praying but no more playing around. My boys asked me to leave recently and that heart my heart because I know how much they love him but I’m getting my finances by building my biz, and credit together
Praying for you too!
again before leaving
@@socol76 18 here as of the Sunday
Most people have no idea that they were even toxic its through knowledge we are becoming aware of that
Yep
and it is a bitter pill. But the little bit of sugar is that we are starting to realise that we are ALL toxic in some way to someone. Wherever they are, guess what, you are there too. No one is above another. You are either an enabler or an instigator, both are toxic. People also look and wish for and need drama, not toxic but definitely dysfunctional. This pastor sets a nice straight line for us all to measure ourselves upon.
Facts
xena tron 💡well put!!!!
Mayana Charles it stems from the child hood. A lot of those mothers are co dependent. And co dependents are probably an easier victim than a empath.
I must admit...I once was had a unconscious mindset only dated the thug type...but once I realized I was getting nowhere fast...I put away childish things and became what God intended me to be a spiritual morally conscious woman etc
👏🏽👏🏽👌🏾
Can’t wait till I get there....
@@ayana188 keep praying and stay connected to God it will come...Satan won't be able to hang on for long
My first sexual encounter with my narc was the worst sex of my life
@@mellowyellowbaby72 yes they do have terrible intimacy issues...it's all based on porn because they watch porn all day long immature emotionally unavailable to connect with a woman bc they were never taught love as a child thus never loving themselves first sooo loving back is null and void....
Women should stop the “I can change him challenge “. Pls learn to let go
"Chose your pain" Once you chose to love you then you see through all the lies and also see the real love that is there for you.
This is true!
Sisters don’t let toxic women persuade you that the direction God is taking you is wrong or not for you! Keep going!
Shout that from the rooftop
I'm 38 years old and have been in various committed relationships. In my 20's most of the relationships I sabbatoged because I didn't love myself. At 38 yrs old I'm realizing that God has to come first. I'm leaving a 4 yr relationship that lead nowhere. He cooked for me provided for me and drew me in. Marriage was not in the plan for him so I walked away. In the beginning of the relationship we talked about marriage. There are good men out here. I'm not bitter at all because I love myself
Hey Sis, I'm 38 too. We seem to have experienced something similar. I appluad you for still standing and still being humble to reboot yourself. God still has more in store for you of His perfect blessings. You are already victorious! Praise God and I celebrate your victories set for you! Stay encouraged 😃😃😃👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@@nicolegreene2208 yes we have to be honest about our situations and love God first, then ourselves. That makes up a resilient woman. Be blessed Sis.😁
I'm 46, Seek ye first the Kingdom and ALL your desires will be added unto you. I just finally figured that out. I'm so grateful for Pastor Blake! Keep at it, trust me we're ahead of the game! Stay blessed Queen!
@Sunny Maples AMEN!! You can be victorious over sexual tempation. www.evangelicaloutreach.org/sexualtemptation.htm
Remember, sister keep in mind men know exactly what they want. After having been on dating sites myself. I have analyzed and studied men profiles ,they indeed know what they want some say I want marriage others say either friends, casually dating you get the point. Date marriage minded men . Believe me when I tell you they know exactly what they want. Be blessed 🙏
I’d be a different person in a different place if I head this 20 years ago.
it s non sense; hurt people hurt people
same with me. I wish i had this videos to learn from.
All my life I date only nice guys. Yet the results I get from them are insecurity, belittling, jealousy, emotional laziness, passive aggression, lack of affection. Every single one of them was a bait and switch situation. I've never been with a violent man, or attracted to one of the men you describe. So I am forever lost why even the nice guys are crap. Many times I would ask them why they treated me that way and I got answers like 'you're as loyal as a dog no matter what I'll do to you you will never leave me'.. So I left. But the message was always the same; I need to be cruel, cold and abusive to keep a ''man'' in check. It's tiring. So I've been single for at least a decade. I'm depressingly lonely but not going to be in a relationship with yet another depressing ''nice guy''. I do everything on my own without waiting for someone to come along and be with me. I feel I live in an emotional desert.
OMG I FEEL THE EXACT SAME WAY. But I think they are narcissists too. I'm not gonna generalize though. I gotta keep giving people chances. I feel you on the acting cold and unemotional just to keep then in check that's not me I'm loving. Just gotta find one who deserves it
You shouldn’t have to play games :(
The guys you have dated are NOT nice guys. This is an opportunity to reset definitions. To analyze our labels as he said, what is it about me that attracts men like that? Men who appear nice, and reveal that they are insecure, belittling, jealous, passive aggressive and so on. We have to ask the tough questions, how is it that the same man shows up again and again?
@@sharondianne3190 I've heard all this a million times. It's an eloquent way of blaming ''the victim''. I don't attract the same guy. I attract a hundred different types of actors masquerading as nice guys. So my only two options are either to start dating men who don't seem to be nice (aka good men) from the get go, or treat everyone as a potential liar every time he does or says something. All that said, I must admit I am somewhat naïve in taking things at face value.
@@oneofyou6773 Men are interesting creatures. In the dating game, you will strike out. View dating as vetting, investigating, and affirming. Men without pure intent typically lose interest within 30-90 days, lesser if you are intimate with them. View these rejects not as nice men, but men who misrepresented their intentions. You aren't what you attract, but you are what you keep, store, and feed. It's harder out here for some of us women because we are nice. Create a constitution, break it for no one. The goal is to vet and dispense of those who don't meet your expectations. Do not internalize their weakness. You a wonderfully made. It's about quality not quantity.
When you said 'A real man will respect a woman even if she has no respect for herself'... oh boy that was some REALLY real manliness that the world needs to hear yesterday morning. Thanks be to Jesus for your presence - I lift you up!
The majority of the times, women meet the representative in men. Some men wear these mask and when the real individual emerges women are in shock. It's disgraceful and speaks volume of men character. I have opted to be single and happy within myself.
I agree 💯...most Narcissists do this.😩😩
@@achiengcaroline5920
Meaning narcissistic women as well? I'm sure they protray a fake persona as well, but not to the extent the everyday player does.
Kensi Gregory thanks, you took the thoughts out of my mind.
We have to start walking in the Spirit more...you're then able to test their spirit, discerning their speech and intentions...once they're annoyed by your Spirit testing theirs then BOOM no time wasted. A lot of women walk in their FLESH, biggest mistake.
Me too...I’d rather be “single” then put up with that BS. I value the peaceful life I’ve built for myself- drama & chaos is not my Jam..
You’ve opened my eyes. I finally blocked a man that has been so toxic I literally felt mentally sick every day. I finally feel free of it now. Instead of trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong for the last 2 years, he broke me.
The conditioning starts in the home when we we're very young. We watched and saw as young girls our fathers mistreatment and abuse of our mothers. We watched our mothers stay and accept, excuse, and normalize bad behavior and disrespect. Whether knowingly or unknowingly they subconsciously conditioned us , their daughters, to do the same. Our mothers were unconscious Queens who modeled unconscious to their daughters. So although daughter may desire a good man, she will subconsciously seek a man with characteristics of her father. She is doomed to repeat this never ending cycle unless she calls on God to change her and direct her!
We need more fathers like this in the home. Ladies please listen before your life is wasted as well. I’m buying that book so that my daughter and I can read it together and she will succeed in choosing a mate. God bless you Dr. Blake, we love you and your wife! Thank you so much for helping us.
You are such a blessing!!!!
True, we don't have time to remain as sleeping queens. At one time, I was a sleeping queen. When I awoke, I despised what I saw!!
Life coach Rebecca Pope stated on her UA-cam channel the reason she closed her matchmaking Services was because women really didn't want a good man they were addicted to the swag the unavailable men and she could not get through to them so she closed down her business. Bishop we are addicted to the unavailability of a man because it turned some of us on. These type of men turn that crazy switch on that keeps us going that push/pull relationship. When we meet a good man he's just too normal we call him boring. I've been KNOWING this a long time I just couldn't put my finger on what was it.
a lot of ppl are trauma bonded. They grew up in situations and this type of unavailability and abandonment is normal. In many women's mind, they know that the man is not good for them. But when you are a wounded little girl inside or bonded to trauma-you naturally navigate to what you are used to. And some ppl look for hurt wounded women and play games on purpose. Manipulated! they look for prey.
@Vfree you are so correct,I am guilty, of that.
The biggest part thought is that women don't want to do the work needed .....the man is not going to heal us ...we have to heal ourselves
Because we think we can change them or they will change for us. Truth is the way he came is the way he is. God doesn't send you a project. God may send someone that needs a little dusting off but that's about it, not someone that needs to be redone from scratch. That's God job not a woman's.
Speak for yourself and don't say we. U like those type of men. I recognise these types and I try so much to push them off and run for my dear life
Queen's this king is telling the truth an nothing but. I have lived this 4 16years. I am free. I see the Game a Mile away. A few Miles away. I am now free an i have self love. Self worth. I don't allow no man to waist my time or play no mind games with me. Period.
I've been binge watching your videos on my cell for the last 2 days. You have really opened my eyes and have helped me begin the healing process. It's been 1 month No Contact. The holy spirit is definitely working through you. Thank you. You're messages are so enlightening. Thank you so much for helping us who are struggling. Much love to you and your wife. Stay Blessed Pastor.
Me too I’m so happy I came across his channel
You sound like a counselor or a therapist You have a very kind, understanding, and knowledgeable way of delivering a message.
The people who have the licenses and degrees to do "therapy" often hurt more than help because they are caught in a bureaucracy. The Holy Spirit cannot move in that atmosphere. This man is a true counselor just like our Lord was and is.
thqnks
I've closed my legs and he is so confused but I'm trusting God to get me out and im going to write my book
Confused fir what?
“You gotta choose your pain” This will resonate with me forever. I refuse to spend the rest of my life with toxic men. I appreciate you so much. God bless you!
Now, this is love ladies😊this gentleman is guiding us all to understanding and wise decisions. Thank you 🧡
Amen!!!
Really glad i found RC Blakes, no nonsense advice, brilliant
I'm a 38 and divorced.
I've just started my journey on self-discovery and I am dedicating the rest of my life to myself.
How brave🙏🏽
All the best on your new journey, I wish you well! Love yourself, workout, live your fully.💕
I was 38 with a one year old baby girl, and had to leave my husband. Deal breakers. Do not be desperate, and do not love anyone, who does not love you more. Never shack!!
yep it s funny
You've been selfish be for now 🤔😳
"Choose your pain.." Wow! That's a WORD.
Like drinking : choose your poison.
it s the truth
it s non sense; qnd funny
i , not qddicted to non sense
The man's willingness and desire to protect womanhood!!!! Beautiful 🌺
My Queen conscience is awakening; all I could do was cry! Wow, he truly ministered to my spirit with this message.
That reminded me of Beyonce in Cadillac Records singing Etta James song all I could was cry We are truly blessed to have the counsel of this Pastor even though I know he dosen't see himself as a counselor 🤗
A real man protects a woman that is a powerful truth in a relationship.
We protect each other.
it s too funny
The 2 men thumbing down this video are sad and need healing.Yall big mad that Pastor doing the work of the Lord? Get some help broken men.
@Kheri Billy WOW!!! 💛
Yes wounded soldiers get some healing
Thumbs ☝ Men and womens need to accept the truth from pastor blake. And Men and Womens need to be healed. We heal and wait on god to find us a mate and stop having sexs which is a waste of time with the wrong mate. Take it from me i been there.
"The Mind that you are is the mind that you attract."
I was in a relationship (situation ship) with a man for 4yrs that didn't even like me. I overheard him on the phone saying "she thinks she's all that". The week before your calling me wifey. Confronted him... He then says... I really don't want you, but I don't want no one else to have you. SMH. At least he told me... Right?
Wow! I had a similar encounter.
@ Michelle Run. Can anything good come from that mentality?
Wowwww. I hope you’re okay honey ❤️
wow... SMH
Wow I thought I was the only one that experience a man saying that I think you are that!! But are really hating on the inside temale traits competition waiting for me to fall 50 year old still wasn’t going to commit and no kids !! Even worse putting me down in front of other racist
Satan comes with smiles and charm, he hides who he is dressed up in the finest clothes smelling good, then out of know where you can smell and see the stench of that dark cloud that's about to cloak you in their darkness, they are good @ what they do they've been doing it way before we came on the scene, they leave behind carnage if we saw how many victims they left behind we would be picking our jaws up off the floor!
You said it Shar, the,"carnage" The GRIEF they leave behind and doesn't look back.
@@zurigee6 yep they leave us for dead!
Exactly! I had one to trick me into thinking he was a Romeo! Then all of a sudden he flipped.
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Thank God for God! I felt like I was loosing my mind. Started questioning everything. If I was wrong about him then my judgement is flawed and I must be wrong about everything. What is my identity, what is the purpose of life, and why am I even here? I kept on spiraling down, until God extended a hand and pulled me out. My light in the middle of a seemingly unending tunnel and all He did was pull my head out of my mind and into his word :)
"Your Knight and shining armor wearing aluminum foil"? 🤣🤣🤣☝🏾👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾That woke me up!!! on a whole other level, my God!🤣
“ The more I built you up to hope for it and then withhold it from you, I make your soul sick, the sicker you become in your soul the more capable I am of manipulating you and pushing you further down.
I have to traumatise you so I can manage you”
Spot on explanation of Narcissistic abuse
and to every game, here is the end game.
Love 💘 It!
@Notamemberof Theharem im " notamemberoftheharem either"
I don't want a no Goodman,but I want to date with purpose godly way.
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Love you for this I am healed through your Godly work❤❤Amen
It is 2:45 am over here in South Africa, but I'm up and waiting to here the Lord speak through you. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Wow sis
Dumela sisi🙋🏾♀️
@@keikei1943Dumela le wena ka koo ausi.
Watching all the way from Namibia,
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I think the problem is that women are wanting to be loved however we do not know what exactly that looks and feels like. Many of our fathers we not only out of the home but unknown. Meaning he never was around. The family doesn't provide that love neither does the community. So we try to mimic what we see in entertainment and confuse that with love. Some of our mothers become so jealous of us as teen girls, we're forced out of the home at a very young age. Our homes can be so toxic that we actually seek a better way. It's sad buy it is a reality. Many of us fall into these traps as young women why? Where is the family influence? The uncles, brothers, male cousins, father's, grandfather's? Where are these men whom are to protect us from these predators?
This is so correct, a real man doesn't belittle and break her Amen.
I was a victim of belittling and breaking for so long. He was just using me and I just couldn't see it. What an evil man. I'm still trying to heal.
My Godly man approached me via messenger in Dec 2019. We went on 1st date Jan 4. I didn't tell him what I was looking for or my expectations. I let him talk and I listened to see if he was speaking like a Godly man and watched to see if his actions line up with his words. He said what I needed to hear without me saying a word. He's everything I prayed for and more. (Ephesians 3:2) He told me months later how women were messaging him about what all they would do for him. Yet I was minding my own business living my life and he had been watching my social media and sought me out.
Wow...so you guys are still strong together?
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We have to be careful of the right words being said as well. If you have ever spoke to anyone or written about what you want in a man, trust the devil heard & saw that and will play off of your words and manipulate & deceive. Hopefully he sought you out with a sincere heart and not out of the fact that he know he can have the others and he knows what type of females they already are and sought you said out for reasons you would never imagine. I too was going about my business & enjoying a good life and never even saw the guy I ended up marrying on any social media platform (hid himself until he wanted to be seen) and out of nowhere I got some messages in my inbox. Face to face he was charming and he said everything he thought any female would want to hear, "you're different, nothing like the others he has met," "you have your own this and that" "you're what i have been looking for" or even later into the relationship or which ever "ship" is rowing "I knew you were my wife the first time I saw you" "you are too real to be true" "I cannot find nothing bad or negative about you" "you're the best thing that has ever happened to me" "you're so beautiful and I love this and that about you" and etc. Tells his family at first she the best at everything and she make me better. He even told my dad when he asked him for my hand in marriage (after asking me to marry him red 🏳 & I had to talk him into doing it) four yrs later that he did good raising me but all the while he still had a hidden agenda to hurt me on levels I never knew existed. After the wedding, my dad told him "alright she's yours now and dont let me down" his response " I got her and she nor you have anything to worry about." There were signs along the way but I did not act accordingly as I should have. Which u took responsibility and accountability for my part in allowing the relationship to get as far as it did. This demon's mask came off after marriage and after a few years of emotional, a few minor physical tries (a few military moves he said he was teaching me how to defend myself, a wash cloth drenched with water against my closed mouth and nose, hands & arms held, and a gun up against the side of my neck), mental, and verbal abuse and retirement we moved back to a home I owned when I met him and that joker carried out the rest of his plan and started more chaos, disruption, and everything else narcs do and left me with an eight month old baby. He started another life as a married man with someone he always runs to when he cannot control the current female and of course made her think I was a mistake and blah blah blah. In the midst of the abuse the joker admitted to knowing he was jacked up mentally and emotionally. It was like he was out on a mission to make women feel like he did/do inside because of what his father did to his mother and abandoned him and his mother ended up not being a good mother to him afterwards... The switch was turned on and he was trying now to make people think I was the problem, and all his negative, toxic, drama filled, manipulating behavior he tried to project it all on me. So be careful being sought out amongst those that are always telling him what they will do for him because he could still be entertaining them and telling them what he's saying they are saying to him. He sought you because he definitely sees what the others aren't hiding but maybe you are. Its like some of these males have demons whispering right in their ears or minds on exactly who we really are inside (empathetic) without us having to tell them much of anything. Be careful beautiful and make sure GOD is within every move you make dealing with him. I pray he does turn out to be what he presents to you whole heartedly. Blessings & Love.
@@LadyCmac98 such a horrible experience and thanks for your words of warning. The enemy has counterfeits. I've been through enough deception to know when someone is faking. They usually can't keep it up without slipping up relatively quickly and in my experience I would overlook red flags. Trust me I'm using discernment and willing to walk away in dignity if need be. I know I can be by myself and I'm not desperate. I'm too old for drama and will not tolerate my peace being disturbed at my age of 59. I was living before I met him and I will continue to live after him or any other man. God is my be all end all. Not a man. This isn't my first rodeo. I wish you well.
@EnJoy Life And Smile i follow Tony Gaskins as well. I listen to Derrick Jaxn, Dr Tony Evans, TD Jakes, my own Pastor and otherd. I also watch crime shows and movies where women are preyed upon and victimized. I'm not bragging or uplifting him I was simply giving an example. I have a relationship with my heavenly Father and I'm quite capable of making an informed informed decision and my walk away game is quite strong. Thanks for your sincere concern but I'm not lonely and gullible. My life was filled to the brim when I met him and still is. There was a particular context in which he made that statement and I won't divulge on this forum. I don't know if you read my 2nd response but I'm willing to walk away from him and any man if I detect something is out of order. My God is #1 & not him, my family or anyone.
I am buying this book for my granddaughters. So they will be smarter than I was.
That’s amazing 😉
If the man didnt have a father or a godly male presence in his life be very cautious set some boundaries from the beginning...your treading very close to toxicity and narcissism
Ex. If the man your dating both of his parents were married and divorced 3xs or more you may need to stay away.
If you love God and he doesn't know God at all..no exposure to things of God as a child no generational service to God RUN FAST..
A relative (uncle in-law) shared with me that my family member 50 plus years ago were going through a seperation divorce and her mother was pulling her away from a church going man..her mom kept telling her that the man wasn't out singing with his group but meeting women..because she didn't have any exposure to things of God destroyed the marriage so she started dating a new man who was married to another lady..she was the mistress that man ended up killing his wife because he wanted to leave his wife for the mistress..please be careful out there...there are some seriously broken people in the world.
I want to say you're so right I had this happen to me and I'm not ashamed I will no longer indulge in this game with men anymore I'm now evaluating things that dont belong in my life
Majority of women who attract emotionally unavailable men do so cause their dad was always emotionally unavailable their entire childhood! 😢😥 I read this somewhere!
FACTS.
@@ttramm3014 yep
Boy I wish I had this teaching 26 years ago. Starting my life over again. Lessons learned🙏🏾☺️
Proud of you, Fam! God is blessing you with new opportunities each breath He allows you to breathe 😁
Me too!! Growing up and GLOWING up- Glory to God the Most High!!💖
Me too!
Girl, me too.
Me too!!
Some men don’t even bother to play the game... they just offer little and women accept it. Lucky r those whose man does not turn to monster.
Wow. I’m responsible over what pain I choose. 🙌🏾🙏🏾 I choose to heal forward.
I wish I knew about you when I was younger. I went through two hard marriages, not just their fault but mine too. Before I found my husband that taught me what I deserve and how to act right in return. I truly appreciate your messages.
The problems start when you find yourself needing anything from a man. I can provide for myself. Anything he brings is extra.
Whewwww broken consciousness!!! This is a strong word!!
Very strong
OMG THIS MAN IS GETTING ME TOGETHER IM SO GRATEFUL
First of all!! This is JUST on time! & not the “he’s not a night in shining armor because if you get closer that’s just aluminum foil” 🤣🤣AHHHH! Pastor!!
Please hurt somebody's feeling. We need to hear the truth. I'm so tired of my friends justifying and making excuses for dealing with cheating and unavailable men. These women need standards. I'm sick of this foolishness. Keep teaching Pastor.🙏👑
Yes and amen to all of what you just said stop making excuses for some of these trifling men and hold them accountable!
Ouch! I fell for this as a teenager. Now we've been married for 21 years. My soul is so sick. I have many health problems. He is a covert narcissist.
1 800 621 HOPE
We need more ministers like this!❤️
thqnks xoxoxo
Yes we do thank God for Him
The truth will set us all free! Thank God for this man of GOD telling Women the truth! Many men have demons that are working against WOMEN! Thank God for this powerful teaching!!!
Choose your pain, i chose my pain, the pain of clarity, the pain of purification, i am healing, sometimes and some days are hard but the focus is on the price which is to be whole from within, i was so broken i allowed emotional abuse and conditioned myself to think that its normal, i then started listenining to pastor RC Blakes, i am now awake, i am awoke queen, bless you Pastor, my father that i never had, thank u for ur teachings, those people disliking the video, something is wrong with u....
You
This gone be good. Where is my popcorn 🍿
No popcorn!! Shrimp and grits!!
I need my Tea ! 🍵 My Ears & My Eyeballs
Haha😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I was caught up in that toxic cycle and worked on my self-love with the help of Pastor R.C. Blakes and Shera7. I will be single until a man is worthy of space in my life. I'm so grateful for these teachings.
Astrology is not from God.
@@LizaLavolta I'm not bout that life so 🤷♀️
@@nanabell402000 Oh? your name. Scorpio caught my eye
Phew it’s the “choose your pain” for me. No one wants the regrets of a wasted life. Thank you Pastor.
Just because he pulls up in a Ferrari doesn’t mean he can afford it💯💯‼️
Helli somebody all that glitters aint gold
Dimepiece 954 Hello. so true!!
Preach!
This is deep but true
Scary to watch cause it's the truth
I like it but it makes me afraid
Men are good actors
You don't need to be scared, you need to have standards. Only desperate women fall for men like that.
@@lapeaches8006 😊😊😊😊😊....That..right there..STANDARDS...absolutely...
Standards as well as discernment.
All evil people are actors. If men or women are dogs, stop being a dog catcher.
I needed this when I was in college and I still need it at age 58! The same games appear in business and friendships, families etc! Thanks so much for your encouragement
Exactly right. We are not here just to please or gain approval of men. This most liberating thing was when I realised this influenced the way I dress and my own self worth and decisions on how I present myself to the world 🌎 so liberating to give up the chase n start living by what I care about ,like ,value and need n not give a shot what a man thinks !!! 🙌🙌🙌
God always gives a way of escape. 2 Timothy 3:5 gives us permission to
“ Turn Away” from this type of men. Great message. Thank you
At my grown age still learning, looking forward to the teachings from you cause I tired of the games .
Me too Maggie
Wish more ladies could be as interested in learning as all the darling ones here. All the best on your journey. It's never too late!♥️
Its okay Maggie, just thank God we found him and have a ear to listen, soooooo many women young and older need to be here listening. When you know better you do better, and expect better. 🙂🙂
@@elainegomillion978 , a million times, over!! You're never, too old, to learn something new, an old dog, can learn, new tricks, for the better, in making its own life, better than before! He's the man, Pastor Blake's
elaine gomillion thank you 🙏🏽
My goodness, what a lesson! It was all a game! everything was well planned out....and i didn't see it....!!! Now i know where i went all wrong, giving someone husband benefits who was non committal at all and gave in to him breaking my consciousness. I am free, i am liberated, thank you so much Bishop!
I'm just here getting all the help from you pastor,it's been a source of strength for me .now I can make wise choices and good decisions towards men
Thank you so much. Like so many women I grew up without a father in the "'hood", where toxic masculinity is celebrated.
Luckily, my mom provided some education but this is what I needed.
Yes, I'm older but as a divorced woman, it's about learning from my mistakes. And you'd be surprised how much toxic masculinity is in the older community, I know I was. A lot of older individuals are a mess, too.
BUT WHEN I SAY I FEEL A HEDGE OF PROTECTION AROUND ME and am not worried about that man's opinion or being single.
I can't express how grateful I am and wish you many blessings!!
Im sitting here so mad at myself because everything you said is true Pastor and it happened to me. Smh
But thankyou so so much.
I have been there, this too shall pass, Trust God who is the LOVER OF YOUR SOUL. in the end you will win, the guy who did this too, lost a very high paying job. lack of character. He's reaping what he sowed, it took 10 yrs but the person who knew me she saw him when he was being escorted from the company. Be Encouraged. It will pass, do not go back for any reason
My ex situation who was connected to me solely because of a piece of paper sent me divorce papers while I was deployed, moved out our house, I had to buy everything brand new and give a power of attorney to another person to basically find me and my daughter home upon my return because she was gonna start school shortly after we both returned. This is just one of the messed up situations this demon did. He’s cheated, lied, abused me and was an alcoholic, sexaholic and he knew I was coming out of a marriage and only wanted to be loved. He preyed on me being a Christian woman, knowing I would forgive and forgive and ask God to help only for him to continue to do what he wants. He’s in the navy, beware!
I'm so truly sorry to hear this. Though not all military service people aren't bad apples, I'm sorry that the one you were with was this heartless. You are more than a conqueror and God's precious jewel! Blessings of healing and strength during your new journey of progress and renewed life. You are loved 🙏🏾
@@nicolegreene2208 Your 100% correct, I'm in the military.
My dad was in the navy. He died before I was born but was the best person in the world to my mother and his immediate family. So glad I know great things of him.
Chai_luv_n_lux yikes!
Going through the same thing he has a child by me and I have another child before I met him he takes money from me and my kids knowing I don't have that much money he knows I have to two kids to take ofhe messing with a married women I'm a good woman he always asking me if I got money he knows I'm struggling praying for all the women out there
“ He withhold your desire so he can break you intentionally” - wish I knew the game sooner. Well lesson learned, next time I am not provided for, I am running for the door
Finding a man with true integrity is like finding a black unicorn. Thats why my standards are '"too high". Why I will end up alone....and much happier. 💅🏾✨🙏🏾
Pastor, there are women who know their value and would never settle for this type of man. Thank God I got validated. by my father when I was a child. All I got to say ladies is known your worth.
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I was never validated by a father and STILL know better than to entertain this kind of mess. Plenty of people from 2 parent homes with no common sense.