THE POWER OF INDIFFERENCE WITH NARCISSIST by RC BLAKES
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These are the most evil people you will ever deal with. If u encounter one RUN 🏃
YES LORD.... DEMONIC SADISTIC
Evil monsters. Very dark people. Run run run.
Melinated Carmel. NOT only 🏃 but you have to know how to stay alive and protect yourself around a nars. the key is not to provoke a narc but by all means have a plan and don't tell anyone and once your plan is able to be put in effect, leave and never look back
RUN AND DO NOT LOOK BACK...KEEP RUNNING AND LISTEN TO GOD!!
Sick twisted & sadistic!!! (Watch your back & front)👀👀👀
The easiest way to understand npd is these people are emotionally arrested toddlers in adult bodies. They never grew up emotionally so they learn tactics to cover up the fact “ they are not adults “ if you pay close attention and observe their behaviors are very childlike. The trap is you will find yourself trying to parent these people , narcissism is formed in the formative years , those days are long gone. You will never have an adult relationship with them . Walk away walk away and let god deal with them .
Angelique Grace perfectly stated....so true!!!
Amen to that!
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That is exactly what my psychologist said.
I agree they are child like. and some what bipolar...but if I learn to deal and respond indifferently can I stay in the relationship.. I actually love him~
U cut them off when they’re abusive but once u leave beware the slander gets worse
Absolutely.. but I didn't care
it almost becomes a joke then sometimes I feel this person won't stop until I am dead or she is incarcerated.
That & the obsessive stalking ❤️🙏🏽
@@elizabethjames6949 yes they are emotional vampires they will suck the life right out of you & literally, emotionally, spiritually & physically until you are dead & then they will be satisfied & then on to the next supply because they don't have a heart PERIOD 💔 And it's sad but God has the last word on your life not them DO NOT GIVE THEM THE SATISFACTION TO WRITE YOU BOOK TIL THE END it's your life so live it without those demonic spirits continuing to ruin your life & living theirs with others by lying to them & to you & they are so good at lying so they THINK👀 they are NOT TRUTHFULLY HONEST WITH YOU NOR THEMSELVES SO NO CONTACT IS GOOD BUT WHEN YOU HAVE KIDS ITS HARD 😪🙏🏽 so I pray everyday that my Narc don't turn on my baby because my oldest son where he has been in his life since he was 5yrs he is 26yrs now said that in has seen his rage 😢💔.....20yrs in 7yrs married & 7mths out separated🙏🏽.....I will pray for you & me too Elizabeth take care🙏🏽
Lotus Unicirn Inc really?!😳😱- what if your married to one?
So the narcissist gets BORED....however, I’ve observed that an overriding aspect of their character is they are bonafide BORES. It’s a breath of fresh air when they are out of the picture🌹
Amen
Amen
so true
This is absolutely true
Amen
These ppl have been around forever we just called them CRAZY!!!
Lori emmanuel, precisely. There was never a definitive title for their poor behavior. So we just swept them all under the same rug.
Lori emmanuel Or just a terrible person
Your teachings are wayyyyyy better and more informative than for any therapist!!! No!! You are not just a Pastor!! You are anoited and you have the wisdom of Christ. I can not have enough of your videos. Keep the good work and may Christ Jesus use you greatly.
Anointed. That's what's up.
Pastor Blake's is the best! He puts it in a way you can understand. When I left my narc, I had to go immediately to his videos for healing. He truly is God sent!!!
AMEN.
Yes, because I regain myself after each video. When I begin to feel myself give in by wanting to make contact, I come here for Therapy.
I completely agree! His videos have been a lifesaver!
I ended a ten year relationship with one and the number one thing is not to show any emotion and don’t speak to them so they don’t know where your head is and after a while they move on to the next victim!!!
I did that (last few weeks of being there) it enraged him, he put me through sleep deprivation (more consistently than the 7 yrs ) escalate hitting, and then he crossed an unforgivable act against me... that's why one of my comments, was warning greyrock, as evil as I knew my narc to be, I had still a belief that he had boundaries
J Richards but what if u love them I feel stuck
This is the strategy that I used & it does work very effectively.
Amen ...if they cant steal ur soul from God's Kingdom they will move on to the next, easier target they can find
Devil works overtime in these end times
@@MI-tk8yq we think we love them because they and most of humanity has taught us that. But actually what it is, is addiction 0n our part. That is really hard to take! But actually it is very freeing. That's why they love bomb in the 1st place and then keep up the cycle of hoovering it all comes down to the 5 chemicals oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin, cortisone, adrenaline and noraprinapine our brains are hooked on those. Dr Carolyn Leaf a world leading well respected Christian Neuroscientist who studies the brain said we actually have 2 brains, 1 in our mind and 1 in our heart and they have to be taught by us how to work in our favour, because they don't unless trained properly by ourselves. Narcissists know all about those chemicals and that is what gets us addicted to them. That's why they then ghost, breadcrumb, gaslight, triangulate, grey rock. It actually is FUN when you know all this information and don't tell anyone else because your ahead of their plans now!. Healthy relationships won't love bomb you so they take longer to establish and seem a bit boring but you don't get addicted to them. Now that is real love. God bless you and your family love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia
16:20 it’s scary manipulation wolf in sheeps clothing pretending it’s “love” to get their needs met .
Very true, and when you reject their love advances all hell breaks loose, the simple act of saying no to them, injures their fragile ego. God deliver us from these people in Jesus name.
Amen
Yes.
Narcissists Feel Entitled To Be Catered To
They Place Countless Unreasonable
Demands.To The Point Of Exhaustion No Matter How
Much You Give And Provide For Them It
Will Never Be Enough.Freedom From This
Person And Going No Contact
Saved My Life.!!
Demetria Gaines I exhausted myself trying to please him and fix my marriage, when I came to myself!! It was a nightmare!
Sammmmmeeee!!!😩😩👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾
MAC MAC They
Are Very Dangerous
Ppl.
Worshipper * 😢😢
I'm glad you got out too!!! God bless you ❤️
I stayed too long with a mean, soulless person who never cared for me.
M R 🙏🏽 for you
Me too I finally said I am done.....he didn't care for me and treated me unkind.....divorcing now....
Dawn Ravenel I know u may feel like no one understands you’re pain but once u realize many of us are hurting too, you will find the will to keep moving forward. Don’t get left behind, they all reap what they sow. It’s energy and once u let go it will return to sender ❤️❤️❤️
@@AngelAngela thanks for your kind words and I know others have it worst than I had it I share my story as a way of being transparent....I forgive him in fact I pity him because of what he lost and didn't have to....life is to short to hold onto hatred......my focus now us on living my best life and fulfilling my destiny......I pray that we all realize we deserve the best....thanks sending blessings and love ❤❤❤
Dawn Ravenel yes, just don’t ever go back. They’ll even come years later. I know. I ended up alone pregnant scared to be a single parent only for my daughter to die at birth. His off to the new supply with no care in the world of all the pain his caused & he doesn’t care. I think it’s very important for EVERYONE to learn from others and really see how soulless these people are.
I have been married 20 years to my narcissistic husband. You have described this perfectly! It wasn’t until I was 15 years into this nightmare that I started studying narcissism. I have mastered indifference. It has made my life with him much more tolerable and has given me a lot of confidence in the mastery of my own emotions. I am plotting my escape by untying one knot at a time.
Are you my twin?
Amen in Jesus mighty name
Did you get out?
I hear you and understand. At year fifteen I went through the Dark Night Of The Soul. This man almost killed me with multiple discards.
Took 10 years to renew my mind through the word of God. The last 5 years was total reintegration of my authentic self. Lastly I became indifferent and set hard boundaries. I warned him and he didn’t listen.
I left finally after he gaslighted me when I saw a picture of his girlfriend on my daughters phone. To this
I thank God it happened the way it did. I left and I am taking one day at a time. Do not play games with your life
@@JoyLady-1966 thank you for your comment. I’m still here and very unhappy. I’ve never felt so lonely. I’m so afraid to leave. Inflation in this horrible economy has made me so afraid. It’s pathetic. He told me that if I try to divorce him all his assets will disappear. Well, there is still the house and I’m on the deed. All threats. I don’t have a relationship. I have a situationship. It seems that he would be happier without me because he puts no effort into connecting with me. It’s as if he’s my blind and deaf roommate.
So happy im gone from a abusive narc ,Never Look Back !
Everyone loves to talk about narcissists. There actually IS an EXPLOSION of them. There really is. Help somebody. Spread this crisp wisdom.
Yes to exposing Narcs!!! There Is an explosion of them. But also women need to send them packing asap! (Or men)
London Bridge is falling down every other person in the US is either psychopath/sociopath/overt/covert narcissist....
Yes I completely agree that our current culture is creating and has created a narcissist explosion. God have us 10 commandments to follow. It's simple.
@Life lessons what's cool is that after having had to deal with a couple of these, and I mean deal, I really got into this subject myself for a long time. By the time I discovered the pastor, he put the final spit shine on my understanding of these entities (including JEZEBEL spirit. They are everywhere, work, community, everywhere!) Now I recognize them right away. My mind starts telling me about them before I realized I was even paying attention. I hear words like principalities, Vex my spirit, clown smile, Etc. Before I even realize it, I'm strategizing how not to have to speak to them. I start analyzing they're bullying behavior and I can tell that they want to pick a fight, and I specifically never give it to them because I can see them coming now. We are not made of the same stuff, coming from the same place, or going to the same place. I am exactly clear on that, and so grateful to have reached that level of discernment. There are so many of them, and I know immediately when they Vex my spirit (got that term from the pastor). It is so exciting to be able/willing to identify them before it even gets started. What's even more fascinating is that I don't think they know that you know what they are. They are completely oblivious. They think they are omniscient. It's so crazy. They mistake you being a gray rock for being dumb. I think that's perfect. Like the pastor says (in effect/substance), "yeah, think that. I'm dumb, Super Dumb! God bless you. Have a nice life! Bye!"
Toolbox Evolution Amen, their loose out here...
I’m not dealing with any of it! When you know, you go! When you see, you flee. This is exactly what I did. Life is too short to be playing mind games, or be unhappy and miserable. Find someone where you both meet each other where you’re both at, and on the same vibrational level.
Yessssss!👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Love it..when you know you go..when you see..you flee!! That is acting in Wisdom...get back to His peace that passes understanding..get back into love and high vibrations...there is a demonic spirit in these empty people
Amen to this !
I used Gray Rock method on my ex and it worked. The devil absolutely did flee... In fact, he couldn’t run fast enough. 😆😂 He found me to be boring and went on to someone more exciting and responsive. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED. 😂😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
mobus1471 hi what as the gray rock method? Thank you
A. Quick Gray Rock is when you show absolutely no reaction to their nonsense or do not react in any way to the games that they play and the things that they say, that may have triggered a reaction from you in the past. You just “YES” them to death, remain expressionless/emotionless, uninteresting and boring (like a plain old GRAY ROCK) and ignore what they say. Act indifferent to them and their nonsense. Believe me, it works. They will quickly remove themselves from your life and move on to someone who is giving them the reaction that they crave and seek. They don’t care about us. It’s all about feeding an internal void because they are emotionally empty and emotionally insecure. They “NEED”and seek validation from outside sources in order to function and in order to “FEEL” relevant. The reaction that we provide, fills that void and gives them what they are lacking, TEMPORARILY ( Emotional Security-which btw, will never be enough to satisfy them bcz that emotional void is sooooo deep and bottomless) NEVER REACT...
yup... I did the same and he was feverish in sourcing the new victim. and off he went....thank the Lord
Ben Inthefield 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
mobus1471
Great explanation
It's easy to want indifference, getting to that is difficult, especially if you are an empath. I needed this today, I pray everyday for strength and wisdom . Thank you pastor, please do more of these, you are helping so many people. I agree it's demonic, and makes you feel like your losing your mind. One of the most painful empty feelings.
Jean Marie Rock as an empath i can relate to you. What works for me, is that i became aware of how narcissists drain others especially empaths. So i learned to cut and energetically block whatever tentacle they try to attach to me in the form of words, actions and behavior in an effort to become relevant or to get a reaction. Be prepared to be ridiculed and accused of not being friendly or a team player if in a work setting. Whatever they say, do or launch a smear campaign, do not engage or explain your behavior and continue to be pleasant and happy.
Switch your thoughts to what you want in your life you are the boss of your life which God gave you make yourself very determined you want a nice life for yourself take your power back these people play mind games educate youself about narcissists its a long process to get back to normal bit by bit you will feel better get your determination going you are stronger than you thinkxxx
I'm an empath, I've found it's better to not even respond to them, just shrug the shoulders, however much you're hurting inside. It works to get rid of them.
Jean i can relate 100 percent.
I ran away at age 15....my parents kept calling.....I moved and changed my phone number.thats when God gave me the gift of indifference...God kept taking care of me...it was hard but I became a successful citizen......TRUST GOD
2 yrs of highs and lows of my ex NARC. I was manipulated into thinking all relationships are like. Just because he thought he wasn't physical he felt like it was normal behavior. Everything is a joke with these creatures. Glad im 6 months out. Still healing the beginning was tough mentally.
Jermetra Brown omggg I thought I was the only one who see that everything is a joke with them they love to joke smh
I’ve been healing for years from the physical & emotional abuse!! It’s so tough!!!
@@SONAAwareness keep going there's no stopping in healing. Release daily you will feel liberating.
SONA Awareness U can do it. Never go back bc it gets worst. Stay strong.💪🏾
Ross Rosenberg has a video on UA-cam that helped me with the indifference. Just like you said, they want that emotional reaction from you. He said to put on your “lab coat” and observe the narcissist’s behavior as if you were studying them. It’s called the “observe don’t absorb” technique. You are right ! You have to be indifferent to their toxic behavior. So glad you are concentrating on this. I changed my ex-husband’s name in my phone to “observe don’t absorb” so that I am reminded (if I ever hear from him) of the technique right away.
Changing their name on your phone helps a lot. It gives you a reminder of the kind of person that is coming against you. I changed my narc contact info to "Lucifer"
My x has the Star Wars Darth Vader march song... it was cute at time but nope warning
Wonder Woman I changed mine to jerk
Rhonda I like that one I might steal it from you🤗 they sure do act like it.
@@z.poindexter7921 mine used his family members, (so far) I have been no contact since July... they can even use friends /friends of friends / it can come from anywhere
wish I was educated 5 years ago on the narcissistic man.. had to learn the hard way
I wish I was educated from birth about these types of people psycho narcissist/sociopath/psychopath/overt/covert....!
Try 9 years ago. I learned the hard way too!😑
Me too....but now I know
@Ai Love Yeshua yes they do
We all did, better late than never
Reading the Bible has really helped me everyday with people, places, and things! No response! God is Wonderful and Working on me😍 Thank You for this Truth
Because of God using you, I left my narcissistic husband after 11 years of marriage, I barely made it out with my life. Pastor you saved my life, thank you so much and with applying what you told me to do, I am so much happier.
no narcissist is entitled to my blood pressure!! 😂😂👍👌
CORRECT!!
Well said
Exactly!
Ain't that the truth!!!
Period!!!
I was only with my ex narc for 6 months but GOD began showing me signs of narcissism. It's still a struggle because I really cared for him but now I know why he behaved the way he did. Your videos are helping me to heal and move on. You are always on point. He is textbook! Thank you for your wisdom!
Lakeshia Kimes what are some of the early signs you saw? I ignore all the red flags and feel some dumb that it took me 3 years to pick up on it and actually leave
@@dainty_des Dont feel that way. We as women will ignore red flags because of several reasons. I ignored them because he had a sad story (grew up in a foster home) and I felt bad for him. I thought I could "love" him through his pain. I was wrong. If I look back on it now, the devaluing started early on. The ghosting after only a month of dating and popping back up. Using me for my money, controlling. My self- esteem took a big hit but then out of nowhere, I started getting emails from a site called "Quora" that talked about narcissism. I had no idea about the subject. I know in my heart that was GOD showing me what I was dealing with. It all made sense after reading those emails and I began to search for more answers. That's how I ended up on this youtube channel. I have made several attempts to go no contact and have slipped a few times. It's a battle but each day I get better. I pray for your peace and happiness and im happy to answer any other questions or just to listen to you. Believe me, I understand❤.
Dainty Des thank God it was only 3 it took me 11 years and I have all sorts of mental issues.
A. Quick that’s a long time. I packed up and left after 3 and just as i thought he showed his true colors and conformed everything I thought he was. Jumped in a relationship with his friends ex girlfriend who she was “supposed” to be a friend of mine. They both lack morals
Lakeshia Kimes He used to tell me all the time that I loved to argue a lot and I noticed there was always an argument before, during or after events.I started to feel like I was very toxic and dysfunctional. When i left him and started watching the video and would engage in communication I started to realize that he would always say something to trigger me or accuse something that’s way off and feel my pressure get high. He makes me feel like I’m the narcissist now I’m questioning my behavior etc
My ex narc claimed to be a god. Felt used me financially for 6yrs. Got tired of used and disrespect i had to leave. I am blessed to have come across your videos.
Mine was an alien 🤨👽
@@cathy_clarinet wow. I dont understand how some people can believe stuff like this. Mine said he has lived multiple past lives. Etc
@@loridodson9104 My husband said that too. He would joke and say" I was doing that back in 1592". Etc.
I am glad for you.....you deserve better......blessings
One time I said Thank God and my narc said, "What's God got to do with it?" 😳
Good word, pastor!! You are right! It took me going to counseling after I got a divorce from him because he was so confusing to me. These people are kids in adult bodies and selfish and they lack empathy. I appreciate you being a man of God and telling people especially women to get out of situations like this. I had some church people condemn me for divorcing my ex. I was told by my ex and other church people that I had no biblical grounds for leaving him. He was verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive before I left him. He started getting physical, pushing me and telling me I owed him and I wasnt going anywhere, God doesnt want me leaving him. I found out he was a porn addict and host of other things. It angers me when church folks condemn and tell people especially women to stay with nut jobs like this. I am glad and happy I got divorced. It was the first step to loving myself again.
Don’t feel guilty; read the article below. Yah would not want any of his beautiful daughters to live in abuse.
www.restoredrelationships.org/news/2016/01/11/domestic-abuse-divorce/
I dont know you, but I am so happy you got out! God bless!
Thank you for sharing your story. I am currently going through the same thing and it is confusing when their is no support in the church for women or men who have to separate themselves from people like this
Amen!
This very fatherly advice.
I recently discarded a narc, and if I have to describe the experience I would say it was like a horror movie on repeat and the credits would never come signifying the end. This woman was so manipulative that she almost made me override what I felt in my spirit by trying to use fear to make me believe the person she pretended to be... I went with it for a little while but I just couldn’t take the torture anymore feeling like I was being deceive... I lost sleep didn’t eat much etc, anytime I would express how I felt she would lash out, she would begin to devalue me, but when I said enough is enough I discard her, and then the threats came, saying if I didn’t return everything she bought me on special occasions that this and that would happen... so I mailed everything back and in my mind I’m thinking everything is over... then 2 days later I get a call then a text saying “I called by mistake” I didn’t respond then 7 hours after that I got another text that she won a prize at a theme park we was suppose to attend then she saids sorry didn’t mean to text you that.... but I realized the more I ignored the more she would try different tactics... I use to GO COMPLETELY OFF and she knew which buttons to press but now I no longer respond and it’s injuring her.. it’s hard for me because I have a big heart and care so much for people I feel sorry for her... but after enduring the hell i truly understand the saying “if loving you is wrong then leaving you is right”.....pray for me I’m in the healing phase now
Thank you so much for focusing your talks on narcs !! You’ve helped me so much !! I left my Narc of 10 years 5 months ago and I feel like a teenager living my life for the first time !!
I am studying to make sure I don’t get myself involved with another narcissist and I have come to see the signs of people with this trait .. male and female . So far I’ve let go of not just one (ex husband) but 2 (my “best friend”) and I feel so free !! Not walking on egg shells !!
Crystal Lopez signed divorce papers last week! Married only four years and it seemed like 40!
Congratulations!
Wonder Woman Thank you🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽!
Crystal Lopez I can relate...I was married to one for 17 years...divorced him almost 3 years ago...best decision ever!!! My life has improved 100%...all glory goes to God for opening my eyes and rescuing me! Your best days are ahead...GROW forward!! 😊
I'm glad you got out! I pray you never encounter another.
God bless ❤️
YES!!!! it is not like any other relationship. Glad to see that you too think demons are involved. you must reprogram your mind to be able to separate from your entanglement with the devil. I like the checkers to chess
There is an old movie called Gaslighting. It shows how a narcissist manuevers and intentionally does things to drive people crazy. Excellent Teaching Pastor
I love your use of the bible in dealing with narcissism,Thank you, ...am healing after 6 months in a relationship with a narc,am even beginning to see their face ,(which I once admired as handsome)...as very evil. My bitterness has turned into self love and much pity for the narc,who I laugh at sometimes after seeing him trying to attract new supply on social media. Much Love from Kenya Africa. God bless you Pastor Blake's and keep praying for us to recover fully from this terrible abuse.
Amen resist the devil and he shall flee...the devil flee emotionally detached myself and divorced GOD held my hand through everything!
I have a child with a Narcissist its been hell with him having custody of my daughter please pray for me and my daughter Alana its been mental and emotional abuse he lies etc. This is so true God almighty help me in Jesus Immanuel name amen
My prayers are with you and your daughter. May God bless you
Immanuel God is with me hi I completely understand it’s hell co parenting with these demons!!! May God keep you and your daughter you’ll be in my prayers. Keep the faith and strength and stay in prayer don’t give in to him or his wickedness!!!! 💐
Amen! I pray protection over your child in Jesus name!
@@girlynerds611 Amen
There is no escape if you have kids. You escape if the narc let's the kids go too but they hold on to them even though they know they are not emotionally equipped with the character or personality or tools to raise emotionally healthy kids.
2 Timothy3: 2 in the last days men will be lovers of themselves... it is so true for society today an explosion of Narcissim and loneliness. It is an epidemic. Critical times and very hard for people of God to deal with and accept
Hi am really confused about my self coz I think am dealing with a narc, he is too silent in the house, come to bed past 1pm, if I denie him sex, wen I tell him we shud go for counseling he refused, I suspected him with a house gal, wen I told him I wanna leave he took my baby, so I could not go without my baby, I have a small source of income so I dnt know where to start from, I hv been praying God to guide me, bt I feel am not happy, am not comfortable with him nd also my mother in law coz we stay at the same compound, we deed a church wedding, so am confused, plz help
God warned us in that scripture to turn away from narcissists and what we are experiencing is why he said that. They are evil and not of God.
A wise man once said, "You gotta care, but not that much".
I bumped into one of your messages when i couldnt figure out why i was depressrd etc and God literally showed me that one of the reasons was my narscistic ex and he shoerd me that he literally had me "chained" for 4years.I was literally set free ...keep doing what you are doing .God is def using you
It's a Manipulationship. The word is Gray Rock when dealing with these types. Be as boring as a gray rock. Do not feed the narcissist by reacting to them.
Thank you for the message!
For anyone who puts your advice into action....I can tell you from experience the narc will discard you.
God moves these people out of our lives. Yes, the devil will flee....
Be prepared for an abrupt quick break up. But once the narc realizes they can no longer control they will completey move on SUPER FAST.
Have a support system in place for yourself because you will be left. God will protect and give you strength 🙏❣️
I needed to hear this. Im experiencing this with a young co-work who happens to be in a leadship role. Due to my not responding like she thought I would, the little petty tactics are increasing.. If God before me who can be against me. SMH...saying to my self she doesn't even realize how Satan is using her, make herself look foolish. Hurt people, hurt people
I'm going through this with a young person at my job. She has managed to pull in multiple people and built an alliance against me, this has been going on for almost a year next month. It is absolutely disgusting
What has happened in these situations? Universe Guru did a video about mean girls at work.
it"t time to change the game!!!! From checkers to chess Thanks pastor
It's so hard when it's your mom! I've accepted it and tbh, I don't want anything to do with her unless she changes (which I doubt). It's too much dealing with her and my siblings, nieces/nephews (the entire family operates under her system). I'm family scapegoat and I've always felt so alone even in the family as if I'm in the wrong family. So I know this stuff first hand from experience. Most therapist don't understand. It's hard to find a good one.
You’re not alone. Me too. Both parents narcissists and work together to sabotage neglect and control me, cause chaos. I pray to God I will be free from them in 2022 🙏🏻 they drove me to seek emotional help in a few rehabs, the nerve looking back that they were visiting ME when it was their abuse that drove me there in the first place.
They are dangerous..static eyes, you can see the demons in their eyes following you. When the demons act out, you can feel a humming sensation coming from them, it's mechanical . YIKES!
You have helped me with my narcissistic father. He wasn't an absentee father but an abusive narc. I'm slowly creating movement from just defining to healing completely. Please continue to pray for me and my family! Could you please, please do a vid on narcissistic parents, the effect on the adult children and HOW to heal completely? Please. They provoke their children to wrath and fear but coming out of that is truly a journey.
I Thank You For This Pastor Blakes.
The scriptures that is.
The Holy Spirit kept giving me 2 Timothy 3 before my ex and I got married, I didn’t wake up until 8 years later to realize what I was being warned of it.
I have More Peace Than I Have Had In Years After Divorcing This Toxic Demonic Person In Need Of Being Indifferent, I Only Seem to lose that peace when having to interact with him. Learning To Be Indifferent Though As We Have A Child Together.
I’m learning what it really means that You sometimes have to lose to win.
You are by far my favorite narcissist expert. It amazes me how deeply you understand it. These pearls of wisdom are life changing. Thank you pastor Blakes.
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If you knew that situation was going on in my work place , it would blow your mind . I had been looking for ways to handle this situation and low and behold..... here it is 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭 !!! Pastor cracks me up , playing crazy. Love it .
I'm here as well because a narc feels insecure in my presence and has literally created a group of people to come against me that I don't even know. They have done so much to me. At some point I cried but I'm at the point where I just watch them in disbelief of how they move. The first move against me was humiliation that didn't work so they tried getting me removed while I was a temp. That didn't work so they tried hiding checks I processed and sealed in envelope that she snuck and took out. All the while gossiping about me in my face and behind my back. I've never seen anything to this degree in a workplace
@@KapQueen fast and pray about it. Pray before you go to work and after you leave work. Ask God to heal you of all wounds and give you wisdom and direction to pray against them for they are being used by the enemy
The argument IS the win...man...cold lesson right there. Not about right vs. wrong.
If any relationship does not present you in the best way-it is best to leave! Through any dishonesty, you are compromising who God has made you-LEAVE!
Good morning from Australia. Love your program and ministry
First i want to say your videos/teachings have really helped me! I dated a narc, he was crazy. The manipulation was something i was surprised abt bit he was so comfortable i couldnt believe i allowed myself to become involved with this person. Then i syarted observing his behavior and stopped reacting and one day he disappeared. Today its been a full year, no contact blocked from everything. Now im seeing the missed calls again. Its like he just won't accept that it's over. But IT is over. Remaining in no contact. I just say Thank you Jesus, you saved me once again from myself
Thank You Dad! Your teachings are something like AMAZING! 🙏🏼
Yes when you do not care anymore that means you are healed from their demonic spirit I believe. You have to let you and when you do you are free. Yes your words are wise Pastor Blake’s .
Bishop, this is EXACTLY WHERE I m and it is so unbelievably so hard for ppl to comprehend! It is so draining & misunderstood by many! Tks for shedding light👍
You are tripping tonight. "Play crazy". I like that. You are so spot on though. Those actions right there (playing crazy) tells you you're not dealing with a sane person because you wouldn't even feel right doing that type of stuff to a same person. But because the are crazy so now you have to play crazy too SMH.
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Look like I go from on to another. Sometimes people draw you in because of your compassion
I was involved for a short period of time. But got out. Thank You Lord.
This lesson on narcissism is brilliantly accurate. I loved the scriptures the you gave us to back up the science.
Thank you for this, I am literally bawling.... the hurt is so extreme... I need to toughen up and realize it is not a real marriage. Listening to you on the Island of Trinidad and Tobago.
Hope you got free 💜
I watch you everyday!
Thank you, for the insight and wisdom!
Todae' M Thank you 🙏🏽
Brother You Said Your A Preacher, But I Just Know Im Feeling A Natural Medicine Man Of Healing. If I Go To Church Pastor, This Is The Kind Of Message I Would Need! Brother Thank You, Thank You, Thank You So Much!
Hi Paster Blake's Thank you for continuing discussing and teaching about the narcissist. I have learned so much about this individual, may God continue to bless you and family.
Amen Pastor ......
.2 Timothy saved my soul by showing me which side of Spiritual Warfare I resonate with & belong to ...Thanks Be to God !!!
Devil knows if we are busy trying to figure out the Natcissists we r not focused on seeking God !!! Explained the confusion they create to me & the devils stronghold diminished & his power over my heart, soul & mind no longer existed !!!
Gods peace & pure love can now be known... break that soul tie; stay close to God
The Narcissist couldn't stand me, every time they were negative, I turned the situation into a positive, I was very calm and unemotional, it drove her Crazyyyyy... lol... #worksituation #Iwon
Sir, your understanding of this topic transcends and supersedes the understanding of many others who are YouTubing on this subject. Your application of Biblical principles and godly wisdom makes your teachings that much better. I think you’ll help many because of this approach versus a purely clinical one.
Thank you. It means a lot.
I believe via these videos, healing, deliverance and even salvation will take place for those listening and watching 🙏🏾
That is true. Thank you for the first time I found scriptures regarding this subject.
Narc children's father of two....left me (empath) for another female (co-depend / 10 years younger). Primarily because I told him NO about claiming either child on his tax return. I may be nice but I am not a rug to be walked on and manipulated. Keep bringing the vids....they definitely help. Now trusting God to severe soul tie.
LACHICA SPENCER wow I just told my ex narcissist he’s not claiming our kids this year boy did that piss him off. Told me I’m never get child support again..I said good riddance my mental health is slowly going anyway dealing with that demon! God bless you and your kids
These narc men are CRAZY. I do not know why in the world they feel so ENTITLED. Be blessed. We will continue to make it!!!
Love this. Thank you .. i actually became indifferent n i got accused of cheating..i got tired of the Jekyll n hyde n i shut down n he left. Im finally at peace
He would always accuse me of cheating when I wouldn't contact him why would I contact a demon sent to destroy me just WOW
I have had to learn how to ignore text, and not respond to certain comments and these methods definitely work. Ive had to pray and ask God what to do.
Thank you so much for this video.I had to get far away from a Narcissist that was trying to drain and suck me out of my energy.I do believe an entity was working thru this person's body.They are at a very low vibration and I work to stay in a high vibration and they didn't like that.I am far away from that person.God bless you!
Thought i was crazy when i didn't understand what i was dealing with the verbal abuse,emotional abuse But Thank God who saw it fit to deliver me from that marriage of 8 years i now have peace and am keeping it,thank God for Pastor Blakes who has allowed God to use him to deliver many relationship from this Narcississts People.and when free stay free peace.
I do believe you are spot on with level of narcism today. Love the scripture provided and how to untie, and no respond, it freeing, God Bless You, you are helping people stand, heal and love
😂😂 I just came out of this and that's what I did played crazy
You're not alone 😉 Dee Dee I too was there for 25 years. Healing daily. Proverbs 29:11*(Truth)!
Play crazy! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Yeah, I heard that noise! Omg....Hilarious sir! I LOVE IT
Yea I 💀💀🤔😂😂😂😂on that too
Pastor Blakes, God is using you to heal people. I am one. Your videos have given me the strength to walk away. I never thought I could after 8 years and 2 kids. It was PURE HELL!!!! Mine used scriptures to beat me down verbally with. The devil definitely used him.
I left my ministries, my church my calling. I literally lost myself. Trust God if you desire to get away. I had to lean on God to keep my sanity and restore me. Prayer is key....God always hears you....and he is FOR you! Understand these people are demonic! THEY WILL NEVER Change! You can think more love, understanding and compassion will change them....sorry to say unless they completely surrender to the Lord Jesus Christ, which is hard for them because they dont ever want to surrender that control which is what they feed off of....I am a witness God will help you if you ask. You are not alone!!!!
This is the best exposition I have heard. So deep, rich and solid! Thank you Sir!
Play crazy Y’all !! Preach RC BLAKES.You are the best! I feel the anointing from every word that proceeds from your tongue comes the Holy Spirit !!! AMEN
You all have a beautiful home.
GREAT to hear God's word applied to dealing with a Narcissist.. thank you.. even 2 years later God's word thru your obedience in this message still heals
Thank you and we all love you and your messages. I think I’ve reached this stage, to be indifferent to the narc. Thank you!! 🙏🏻👍😀
Amazing video! I'm no contact over a year and divorced, but it really helps me understand what was happening to me. Be blessed forever!❤🙏🏽
Thank you for this message. I’m learning that I was married to a narcissist and I’m trying to heal. I finally found someone who can help me understand what I’ve been through. Blessings to you!
I learned this on my own but it's nice to get confirmation. When I began to show signs that I was emotionally removed from the situation he grabbed me and stared in my eyes for almost 30 seconds. That's when I realize he was a true narcissist.
Pastor Blakes....you can just remove that disclaimer about not being a professional therapist/psychologist, etc., etc. You are BY FAR THE MOST EFFECTIVE TEACHER of how to navigate the human condition that I have seen in media. Thank you so much; I’m praying that God continue to anoint this ministry.
The savior himself can verify the truth of this next statement:
I had no idea the comment just below mine was exactly the same!
All glory to our amazing savior -Jesus Christ.
You are a non-factor in my universe. Love it!!!
Sometimes you just gotta play crazy. 😅
My mother has always been this in my life. I went down on long road of addiction. And I truly believe the ofingial trigger of it was that unhealthy soul tie to her and her “approval”
Pastor, I am taking you as my latest mentor. You remind me of another mentor of mine - my middle school band director. I have immense respect for both of you - both caring gentlemen interested in helping others. God bless!
BTW, I learned these tactics as a small child whereby I wouldn't allow my Father to get to me no matter what. For some reason, I couldn't do so with this individual that infiltrated my life. It took INCREDIBLE cunning to release myself after he broke me down psychospiritually. I am still somewhat fearful that he will come at me again with more aggression, perhaps even abduction. He claims to this day that he is still "coming after me". Quite frightening. Thanks again!💗💋💗💋💗💋💗💋💗💋💗
Kimberly McCracken ME TOO GIRL ME TOO 💙
Thank you for your knowledge of a narcissist, and how one must be indifferent to the ideologies of a narcissist. A narcissist seeks to kill, steal and destroy their victim, that is, they seek to project their filthy and sadism behavior onto their victim. I agree totally it is a demonic spirit of a carnal minded person, who seeks to promote his/herself in your view. They are slanderous and demeaning. They seek to hurt, because they have a psychological deficiency at the pre-frontal cortex and lack reasoning, and are egocentric. Therefore, as stated one must be indifferent and act according. Indeed one must be filled with the Holy Spirit and covered in the Grace of God.
I thank God for finding your channel. Praise God for the anointing on your life to deliver the word. I was in a relationship with a narcissist for years. I was not even happy with this person, yet I stayed. Today I am free from him. Periodically, he will still text. I just don't respond. Thank you for being obedient to Holy Spirit.
Soul tie breaking prayers and relying on my faith through much prayers to Our Lord has brought on indifference i now feel towards my ex. I asked him to leave 4 weeks ago , it's been a rollercoaster , hasn't been easy but Jesus is getting me through. I've come to a place of forgiveness .Thankyou Jesus for loving me . Be blessed.
Rach Picks you are not alone! Prayers & blessings!
Thank you!!! Your words always helps me refocus. I’ll never forget when narc called me crazy. I responded “you’re right, I am crazy. Maybe you shouldn’t be with me. “. The look on his face was priceless and he was speechless. I laughed hysterical when he walked away all confused. 😂
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Thank you pastor Blakes my God you are my therapist God bless you so much.💞❤💞❤
Omgosh I needed to hear this. It’s hard when it’s your family but I have to... Thank u Pastor Blakes.
Wonderful message. I went through this. The Lord delivered me! It took many years to let go and recognize how valuable I am. I was extremely drained: emotionally, physically and spiritually.
This is so deep!! And so real. This is EXACTLY what they are doing!!. Lovers of Self non-caring!! Pastor Blake you have done it once again!!. 🙏✋
OMG you’re describing my husband to the “T” I need to get out ASAP !!! Making preparations. 🙏🏾
Hope you got out and free 💜
Thank you for speaking life
I feel so much better...
You are indeed a great teacher! God bless you Pastor RC Blakes
Good teaching! Wonderful common sense. 🎓 They thrive on positive or negative attention. No attention cuts off their oxygen supply. 👋 Felicia
As the daughter of parents with narc traits I can definitely say that learning to be indifferent has been difficult. I called my mother a few months after she kicked me out of the house Thanksgiving weekend and I was finally able to respond indifferently. It brought me so much peace and I felt like I could finally let go of any guilt or shame I had previously held on to. God is an amazing and forgiving God and can bring you through any situation! Pastor RC you’re truly a blessing!
Thank you for confirming past and present relationships. I have struggled for many years. I started following you a couple of weeks ago, God is so good!!You have such a wonderful spirit and soul, I feel it as you speak. May God always be with you God bless you your family and please don't ever ever stop doing what your doing 😄😍🗣
Seventeen years and just in the past few months have I realized. All the mysteries looking back are so clear now. It all makes sense now. YOur message is just one more confirmation to me. The Holy Spirit has been leading me in the proper way. Amen!
Thank you for these videos, God led me to find your channel.
Bishop Blakes narcissists are like toddlers .