How I Met Your Mother: Everything Ted Got Wrong About Love
Вставка
- Опубліковано 28 чер 2024
- At this point, it’s no secret that How I Met Your Mother’s Ted Mosby has a pretty delusional outlook on life - he’s the definition of a toxic Nice Guy and also not a great friend. But what is it, specifically, about his way of looking at the world (and the people in it) that was so wrong? And what can we learn from it, even if he didn’t? Let’s take a closer look at what Ted got wrong about life, love, and finding happiness.
Join our Patreon to unlock the members-only series “Total Take," vote on what we cover next, and more: / thetake
Read articles on film, TV and culture: www.the-take.com
Follow our socials: linktr.ee/thisisthetake
CHAPTERS
00:00 Intro
00:25 The world revolves around him
03:14 His bad behavior is always justified
05:48 He knows what's best for everyone else
06:55 Love should be instant (...and painful)
09:47 Never growing as a person is... good?
11:12 The most important things we learn from Ted
The Take was created by Debra Minoff & Susannah McCullough
This video was narrated by Charly Bivona, written/produced by Jessica Babineaux, & edited by John Tod - Фільми й анімація
Thanks for watching! Up next, check out our video breaking down why How I Met Your Mother's disappointing finale didn't work: ua-cam.com/video/dgj16KSgtIE/v-deo.html
Or watch through all of our HIMYM videos in our playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLY8-JHLY9yDO3OuJ3owL1mVts1vZVOX1A.html
Thing you hard on Ted I mean love is something you have to work on. And some of those girls are crazy
And peop!e need to stop acting like it was just Ted chaseing Robin. She was also cheseing him
Let's be honest. We don't watch it for Ted. Everyone else carries the show
honestly if they had removed ted from the show, it would have been so much better.
Marshall needed those broad, Midwestern shoulders to carry the show
Yeah, it's kinda telling that Josh Radnor is the only one out of the main cast who didn't find some success elsewhere.
Ted was not a good person and a bland protagonist. Some argue Barney is worse as a person (which might be true), but he's definitely better as a character. He actually has a reason why he is the way he is, Ted just is the classic Nice Guy because that's who he is. Barney is also so over the top that everyone knows he's not to be taken seriously, while Ted gets portrayed as being reasonable. It also helps that Barney is charismatic and Ted is a wet blanket. Barney is a lovable rogue and the main instigator/catalyst of their adventures, Lily is the heart of the group and her character is the most expressive, Robin arguably has the best overall character arc as well as recurring joke with her teenage pop idol past, and Marshall is just a MVP all around. What does Ted contribute both to the group dynamic and as a character? Well, he's... present.
I mean, I liked Ted sometimes.
personally i love ted, he kind of reminds of myself in ways which is kind of scary sometimes especially because a lot of the stuff between him and robin remind me of stuff between me and one of my friends, even the part where she gets taken by one of my best friends😢
Even though the show tries to be self aware and have Ted’s friends call him out on his bad behavior, how he ended up meeting and marrying The Mother reinforced all his delusions. While Ted spent the entire showing dating and sleeping with countless women, The Mother only ever dated 2 people so she can remain pure and perfect. She also just happened to love all the weird quirky things Ted does, which is telegraphed as “They’re meant to be.” But there is no reason for The Mother to have fallen in love with him other than just to serve has Ted’s happy ending.
Framing and aesthetic supersedes text.
Ted never deserved the Mom . Irl , people like her would stay away from Ted .
@@subratanandy2142 If this was a drama, it should've ended with Ted old and still single, finally learning that immaturity and whining won't give you a happy ending.
Yeah I can't see why such a charismatic, talented and compassionate woman married such a codependent nightmare like Ted
@@subratanandy2142 he's narcissist and neurotic
I will never forgive how they character assassinated Robin in particular, and how they broke up Robin and Barney. For reasons that made NO sense whatsoever. They were perfect together and Ted should've ended up single after his wife died realizing he had a rich life with his family (which included his friends).
The mother shouldn't die
She didn't need to die. That way everyone ends up happy.
Robin was meant to be in a couple, but not with kids.
Barney was meant to be a father, but not in a couple.
People saying that they were "perfect together" need to rethink the show.
@@zebedeebalistique7791 Robin WAS in a couple with no kids. She ended up in a relationship with kids, TED's kids weren't so old she wouldn't have to be any type of caregiver for them ever. People who don't want kids don't just mean they don't like changing diapers. Hooking up with a guy with two teenagers means you will have a caregiver role in their lives as stepmom.
Not once did I get the feeling Barney had kids in his future. Not until the deux ex machina ending they came up with for him because Ted and Robin just absolutely under no circumstances could ever NOT end up together because they had already taped the ending, but then didn't bother writing the actual show so it would FIT that ending.
I'm tempted to write a "whoever disagrees with me needs to rethink things" here, but I'm not that patronizing.
@@ms0824 I could live with that too
Also, Robin is not alone and miserable. She is struggling because she’s independent and feels excluded when she sees her friends. She has a happy life. But it’s tough to pursue your dreams and move away from your friends. But she’s always wanted what she can’t have either.
Right ?? People act like having a life and moving away from your friend is a situation like " Hah !! She is miserable!! That's what you get from choosing your career over a nice guy " . Usually these people find their own happiness instead of depending on others .
i think people sees others not having children as miserable...
@@cheesecake4648 Yes, and that's pretty sad actually. From my perspective at least, as a childree and lover of the animals, of all shapes and forms hahaha. Never wanted kids, won't ever have some! I have the best niece and nephew ever (+ a lovely boyfriend who has a lovely young kid I really like), and I'm super happy. Not having kids is more than okay. I feel sad for the people who have them when they don't actually want to but do it anyway because that's the norm, and they don't question it internally. Also sad when you want kids and can't have them; it's a big mess.. But not having kids may also be a very happy choice :)
@@LuaBloe i happen to have a similar experience like Robin. I didn't discovered i has not fertile, but more like.. life. Years passed and I didn't have everything a child would need.... And I think it was a selfless act from my part (and my boyfriend). This year I will be 47 and I KNOW no child will be made. Not many could say they consider what a child should need and what can you give to a child.
But i got my furry too.
And I feel somewhat sad because approaching my old age I will need assistance and I don't know if my boyfriend would stay with me or I will stay alone. That scares me. In other times, a community was the one taking care of old people.
I feel that's how the writers WANTED us to see her and it backfired on them 😂
I'm not saying I disagree, but it is objectively funny to complain that the main character of the show suffers from "main character syndrome."
To quote a better show: Abed we're all on your side. So if you're also on your side, it's petty
COMMUNITY MENTIONEDDD🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 WHAT THE HELL IS A FORTH SEASON🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥@@VinBuenaagua
Barney and Robin’s relationship was just pure tragedy. They had the best chemistry, Barney supported her and even tossed his toxic habits aside and changed all for Robin. Ted tried to force her to conform for him and he never wanted to change for her. He made her get rid of her dogs since it was from her exes, but he couldn’t get rid of the things he kept from his exes. Hollywood habitually gets romance wrong by thinking guys like Ted are the “good guys”.
Plot with gave dogs it’s only becuase Josh had allergy for dogs
Plot with gave dogs was only because Josh have allergy for dogs
New litmus test for future partners: how do they feel about Ted Mosby?
I went on a date with someone who said HIMYM was one of her favorite shows. I had to hold back what an entitled ass Ted Mosby was. Should’ve taken that as a warning to run away.
Sounds like you are just like Ted.
@@Sayid-al-Furat I am nothing like Ted! I dont idealize relationships.
My sister tried to justify the ending while, I didn't even watch the whole show and still call it BS.
I think having the *male* lead of a romantic sitcom be the hopeless romantic who believes in love and "the one" above all else was a novel idea at the time, and a big hook for the show in the beginning. but, like a lot of things in this series, the longer it went on the less appealing it became. saying "i love you to robin" in episode one is interesting, subverts gender expectations etc etc, but the way he CONTINUES behaviour like that (alongside all the other creepy bullshit mentioned in this video) made him very quickly deeply unlikeable. when one of your other leads is a huge and unapologetic misogynist but HE'S the one with the wholesome character growth that everyone ends up loving the most, you've got a real problem with your Male Romantic Lead. basically i think the idea of a guy like ted in this sort of show in this era was great, but it was executed more and more poorly as the series went on. throw him in a 19th century gothic novel though and he'd be fantastic.
It's a perfect example of a show that was done dirty by being kept alive for too long. It kept doing numbers, so the network kept renewing it long after it had outgrown its premise. It would probably have been significantly improved if it had ended after four or five seasons.
@@BALTHAZAAR58 couldn't agree more. and it's a HUGE reason the finale is so awful - it's the plan from the beginning. i can imagine a world where after a couple of seasons ted and robin end up together, she is the mother that's the ending. but TOO MUCH character growth (and amount of times showing how they DONT work) had happened in 9 seasons for it to work anymore. absolutely no excuse for knowing it would be tedxrobin and still having barneyxrobin and then nuking it. insane choices.
a lot of other shows avoid this trap by becoming fully an ensemble with no main protagonist, but the title, the voice over/future ted narrative device made that impossible.
also side note cristin milioti is an angel and the only good thing about the final season. actually finding the perfect mother character and still ruining it my god.
Let's be real though, Ted totally sees himself as the main character in a 19th century Gothic novel😂
It probably was a novel idea at the time, but it became less original as the show went on. I am not sure how many of the women who were hopeless romantics had all of Ted's problems. How does Ted compare to the female hopeless romantics at the time of this show? I am not sure they had "Nice Guy" syndrome or main character syndrome or expected The One. It would have been funny of a female lead dumped a man on his birthday and went home wearing his spaghetti.😂
@@BALTHAZAAR58 Agreed, I alwyas say that no show should go over 5 seasons.
Ted is the Carry Bradshaw of HIMYM
Or the Ross.
Imagine a show where the friend group was Ted, Carrie, and Ross..
The thing I don't get is why the showrunners went out of their way to show how Ted and Robin didn't work in season 9, even making that scene where she goes away to the sky and he lets her go, to then retrieve all that in the finale. It just doesn't make sense. If your idea was to make them end up together, don't show us that they don't work for a whole season. That's what really vexes me.
The only difference between Ted and Barney is that Ted has an ego about how he is in relationships and Barney is honest about being a bad person who used women. However, Barney was actually capable of changing for the better.
Please please. Make a video on Jake paralta and loveable hero trope.... Also make a video on Terry jeffords and healthy masculinity these characters really are great examples of male role model and they deserve place on this channel i request you to make a video on them✨✨✨
Yes I’d love this!!
Nine nine!
Captain Holt, a gay character who happens to be gay, not a stereotype where that's his only personality trait.
I literally knew at least two people who swore by the way relationships were portrayed in this show.
The 1st one developed a skewed view of love which led them to constantly envy their friends who were in stable relationships. They would pine for being in a relationship, and would often focus on recreating the grand gestures displayed by Ted in the show. Every person they crushed on would eventually learn of their obsession of finding "the one" and would therefore avoid them. Last I heard of them, they‘re still single.
The 2nd one literally quoted a line from the show as a reason for them breaking up with a friend of mine. This person never wanted to work on the relationship and expected that my friend fulfill a certain "checklist" in their head of how their relationship should be. One of the silliest things they‘ve said according to my friend: "Well… you should like the same video games I do, like Mario Kart." This person went on saying that "the relationship should be effortless", yet maintaining in their head a near impossible checklist that, which they measured my friends‘ worth against.
You mean figuratively.
@@ms0824oh I wish! Unfortunately, these two I knew used HIMYM as their "love bible", letting the show quite *literally* dictate the way they approached romantic and interpersonal relationships, as they (without fail) quoted the characters especially Ted lots of times, while trying to mirror the story beats in their own lives.
@@markb1170 wow
I have an uncle like number 2. It never occurs to him other people have checklists too. He's very rules for thee, not for me and I think emotional maturity peaked at age 19.
Ok so while I hate the way himym ended, I mostly hate it because they failed to show us the development. The reason he tells the story with the shadow of robin so strong is because he at the moment of telling the story is in love again with robin. That’s why he is an unreliable narrator. If we heard the story while his wife was still alive it would have been a very different story I think. The shoemakers failed to show that nuance and so ted became an even bigger dick with how the story ended
In my early 20s, I used to be just like Ted. Thank God reality slapped me in the face (REALLY hard) and made me grow the hell up!
The more I live, the less I respect the notion of "The One". Sure we've been lied to by movies and shows all our lives, but sooner or later we have to realize how life works
I disagree, not only do I believe in the one even more, I also believe that love can transcend life times.
The reason Ted comes off as so awful to viewers is because most of his bad traits are completely by accident on the writers part
Huh. Can you elaborate
His bad traits are not an accident. None of their bad traits are. The group is objectively messed up, except for Marshall and even then, meh. Ted is meant to be awful. That is the point. He had serious emotional problems during that part of his life. I didn't mind, Ted seemed fine. Not my favorite character, but y'all are acting like he was the Devil.
@@Sayid-al-FuratHe’s not the devil, he’s just a bad main character
@@Sayid-al-Furatexactly, like I keep telling people there is nothing wrong with wanting to find true love.
@@scifinerd17No, he's not. He was perfect for the story they wanted to tell, he's not meant to be a healthy person for most of the story, this is why he only met the mother when he realized his mistakes and overcame them
'How I Met Your Mother' is the internal monologue of Ross from 'Friends'. They are the same, because they cannot see anyone else how they understand themselves, but only in relation to him. Such a person doesn't understand the sweet pain of sacrificing your own wants and wishes for the happiness of others - the ones you care for and want them to care for you - and how acquiescing to become 'the secondary character' instedad of a protagonist of their lives, you are giving them the most profund gift of true, selfless love.
yeah but at least ted's friends don't pretend to fall asleep when he talks about architecture. ross is a mess of a man but can he not love dinosaurs
HIMYM is an imitation of Friends; wasn't surprised that Ted ended up with Robin aka Rachel; she at least had a chance to have a career and didn't end up up with Ted's child. Robin deserved so much better, like Penny in Big Bang Theory. Leonard's is nice but Penny should have ended up with someone better, same with Amy Bernadette and Raj.
After all these years still hate the ending and what they did to character of Robin
Yes she really annyoed me in final. And she became worse in 7 season
I'd describe this more as a trial of Ted's character than as a genuine critique or analysis - it feels much more interested in making sure we dislike him than learn anything from him. The fact that the video doesn't even bring up the juxtaposition between Barney and Ted - one pursuing sex and the other pursuing romance - is pretty instructive here I'd say. It's a shame because the critique of expecting one's romantic life to unfold like a love story is itself more interesting, and something the show itself is already clearly interested in exploring by contrasting Ted's efforts to force relationships to work with the mother, who comes into his life completely by chance in the end and who, notably, he never has to "fight for" at all (even if the forced twist ending undermines this somewhat). But I'd say the video is afraid that working through those complexities would leave us with equally complex feelings about Ted, which it is not interested in having.
The one thing that I liked about the final season was how Future Ted wrapped up the stories of several recurring characters, not just the main group. A lot of long running shows seem to solely wrap up the main characters' arcs, while neglecting to mention the secondary characters. Young Sheldon did this, especially to Paige and Veronica.
The kids cheering Ted on to date Robin was less realistic has been anything that happened in Star Wars. It’s not wrong to date after your spouse passes away, when healing and appropriate time has passed. But the framing was atrocious. These young teenagers are like “Thank God our loving sweet mom died so dad can go fulfill his creepy obsession with aunt Robin!!”
Realistically, the boy would’ve called Ted an a$$hole, and the daughter would’ve started crying and then called him an a$$hole.
The kids are part Ted, yes. But they are part Tracy too, so they both are probably emotionally mature teenagers.
So realistically, they would both start crying(in disbelief over their father's predicament), then leave to take some time off to cool their heads before walking back into the room and calling out their dad on his creepy behaviour.
Happy ending.
😊
It annoyed me that Ted basically wanted his soulmate to be a clone of him. Like yeah I love that my husband likes Dumb and Dumber since I do, but we also grew together and ye got me into Lord of the Rings, for instance! But Ted isn’t as annoying as Lily.
I have never dated someone that likes Dumb and Dumber and LOTR. I'm looking for that though.
I've always felt like Lily was the worst character on the show (if you don't count Barney, who was basically an absurd level of shitty for laughs,) but we'll see if the Take ever makes a video about her. Throughout the course of the show she....
-Breaks up with Marshall to pursue her dream of being a professional painter.
-Leaves Ted stranded on the side of the road (happens twice.)
-Sabotages any relationship Ted has with a girl she doesn't like.
-Almost gets Ted fired by messing with his dick boss.
-Hides her credit card debt from Marshall, and tries to push him into a job he'll hate for the money. (Also then gives Marshall shit at one point for selling out.)
-Cancels Christmas because she overheard an old voicemail where Ted called her a bitch for dumping Marshall, and abandoning them both to pursue her dream. (The Take video shows a clip of Ted saying he won't apologize to make him look bad. He was refusing to apologize for trying to help his friend move on after having his heart broken.)
-Claims that Marshall is being selfish for accepting the judgeship, claiming that they had competing dream jobs on the line. When in reality, being an art consultant was never her dream job; it was being a painter. Being a judge was actually in line with Marshall's dream, which was protecting the environment. Also, Lily's gig in Italy was for a year, the judgeship was a lifetime appointment.
-Trying to Manipulate Ted to win her side of the Ted/Robin bet with Marshall (Marshall also guilty of this.)
-Overall giving terrible advice and being a hypocrite at times, but the show always portrayed her as the wise one in the group for some reason.
This list is not exhaustive.....
@@rizerek I love this show and I cannot disagree with you.
The sad thing is Ted was hurt by someone with main character syndrome. Tony, the guy who stole his fiancée and wrote a movie about it. But like with every other potential learning opportunity Ted learned nothing.
I’ve been rewatching the show lately and man my distaste of Ted has just grown and grown. His whole view on love, life, treating people and most importantly Robin was 100% wrong.
And seeing him just go on and on and on and ON about Robin who never shared his views or wants on life while at the same screwing over so many other women by his narrow views is just INSANELY frustrating. You would think that the arc of Ted would be to FINALLY let go of Robin and this maddening and stalkerish obsession he has with her but nope. We have Ted admit to his kids he was emotionally cheating on their mother for years with Robin, and then the writers use Tracy as a surrogate for the kids he wanted before they get them back together even though it makes NO SENSE.
Ted is one of those characters that make you insanely frustrated because of their destructive and never ending stupidity.
I feel the same way about Lily.
I can sit through a playlist of the Take's HIMYM videos over and over. I watched this show as it was airing as a kid and was SO invested. I especially loved Robin, I got really attached to her. The ending left me furious; it made NO sense. I didn't need a happily ever after, but how they tried to end things was genuinely bad writing. Videos like this are still so cathartic for my lack of closure, thank you.
There are no good realtionships on HIMYM.
Barney is a manipulative sex hound.
Robin is emotionally unstable due to her issues with her father.
Marshall and Lily are a co-dependant nightmare.
Ted's worst crime is that he idealizes love to the point of perfectionism. He can never truly be happy because nothing can live up to the idealized fantasy in his head. Even Tracy doesn't work out the way he wanted so he eventually just circles back around to Robin.
Because the writers wanted a funny cast but also wanted to actually give them happy life's and relationships. The cast is fucked and so, their relationships are all terrible.
Has anyone ever counted the amount of times a female-character has made a guy quit his career or persuing his passions to be with her cause I dunno if there's even nearly as many as women doing the same thing when men expect a woman to prioritize a not-so-perfect-or-even-nice guy over whatever other meaningful things they have or can have in their lives. No one's perfect and sometimes the only thing convincing someone in this society to compromise one's entire life for just one person they've barely known for a full year is FOMO. Ted is one of those heavily red-flagged men people should far stay away from unless hopefully he eventually learned his lesson when he got older.
I don't have a count. but that is the ending to "what woman want" starring Mel Gibson of all people. He gives up his career to go be in a relationship with Meryl Streep. It's just as dumb when the guy does it..
@@xiaogao5159 To be fair he was stealing her ideas and sabotaging her.
Also watch any Hallmark or Lifetime Christmas movie.
Your analysis videos are always so good.
Could we please take a sek and remember how he made Robin give up her dogs... because they reminded him of her exes... ? 😅 I mean...
Ted was really out in NYC wildin’
Maturity is realizing that Ted and Barney were equally toxic, just in very different ways.
The narrator's ire for Ted is obvious
This video could easily be 9 seasons long.
Rewatching this show, it's hard to like any of the main characters, except for possibly Marshall. But even then, he's really codependent with Lily, and even gives up his long term dream for her and their growing family.
I feel like once the show ran for too long and character arcs wrapped up, the jogging in place regressed a bunch of characters. I remember feeling it when Marshall and Lily were in the suburbs.
Rewatching HIMYM shows how toxic Ted is.
I’m rewatching it right now and I want to throw him out the window with how toxically obsessed with Robin. It’s exhausting to just have him force her into liking him despite her being clear she doesn’t share his views on life or family.
He wanted true love, he's not bad for wanting that. He just wants to skip to the end of the story and be happy, it's hard to have to constantly be forced to watch your college roomate be happy with the women he met freshman year.
Criticizing Ted Mosby for having all these flaws is like dissing The Boys because Billy Butcher wants to desperately murder Homelander above anything else, jeapordizing the well-being of his "friends". THE FLAWS ARE THE REASON WHY THE CHARACTER IS SO INTERESTING.
Yes but the issue is the show doesn't see the flaws and the show acts like he's a great guy. If in the end of the show ted learned that he was stupid earlier ro something then it would be fine.
I despise this show for ruining itself. I was always 100% aware of Ted's toxic, unhealthy traits, and that he was not the down trodden, down on his luck, good guy the show wanted the audience to see him as mostly because Ted is based on the creator's own life and no one ever sees them as the bad guy in their own life story but this show still had the potential to be excellent if it had stuck to its guns because it was in Barney (and his relationship with Robin) that you saw actual character growth, a man bettering himself for the woman he loves, and two people accepting each other as is and made the show worth watching for 9 seasons only for it to turn out like a long con.
Run on sentence. -2 marks :)
I feel like when they were developing the show, they came up with Ted Mosby as "Lloyd Dobler with the boombox, but that's his entire character....and the girl is arbitrary"
That's not the ending at all. The ending is important because Ted and Robin did get to do everything they wanted and everything that was an obstacle to their relationship when they were younger. And after having had all the life experiences that they had dreamed of, they were finally mature enough and in a good place to finally make that relationship work. The thing is, it was rushed. We needed at least one season more to make this work, especially because the whole of the last season was focused on Barney and Robin's wedding. I agree that Barney and Robin should've been endgame, but I understand the choice that was made, although I hate the way it was executed. I remember I LOVED the end and I didn't get why everyone was so upset about it.
I don't think somebody as good looking as Robin spent 6 years miserable and alone. It is just that she never talked about her PRIVATE life with Ted or the kids. Or at least I believed that is what happened from 2024 to 2030.
Ted is pretty bad, but Lilly is the most morally abhorrent friend on the show, she is really awful to all of them and very selfish.
The way she played god with their relationships
@@unicornsprinkles8964 am hoping am on the same page but I agree Marshall and Lily act so in your face to the other characters because they are the only hally couple of the group.
Man, Lily was an actual sociopath.
Lily treated her supposed love of the life so poorly ... When she broke up because she was going to another city . How hard was it , not breaking up ?? They could've talked less , sure , but breaking up and then crawling back ?? Ugh . If her career took a flight , she would've never wanted to get back with Marshall.
@@subratanandy2142 What? Watch that scene again. It was Marshall who gave her a ultimatum. Being an artist was always her dream, but she gave up and support Marshall's dream of being a lawyer for years. When she gets this opportunity all she asks is to postpone the wedding for a few months, just to enjoy this experience. But Marshall refuses, he was the one to give the ultimatum. Lily never wanted to break up with him
So glad people are criticise Ted now, I remember when tge show came out he was always described as just a romantic. By the end of the show I hated him, Marshall on the other hand ❤❤❤
Suggestions for upcoming videos:
SHOSHANNA WAS RIGHT (GIRLS)
MARNI WAS WRONG (GIRLS)
MOLLY WAS WRONG (INSECURE)
MIKE WAS RIGHT (BREAKING BAD)
OVERTON AND SINCLAIR AS COUPLES GOALS (LIVING SINGLE)
TERI WAS RIGHT (SOUL FOOD MOVIE)
AVA IS RIGHT (ABBOTT ELEMENTARY)
CHARMAINE BUCCO WAS RIGHT (THE SOPRANOS)
I agree with everything except that Ted thinks everything revolves around him. There are some times when he understands that the woman he loves is in a true romantic relationship with someone else and he accepts it (Stella and Maggie).
Ted Mosby was a lot like Tom Hansen from 500 Days of Summer. Tom was also an unreliable narrator with a bad case of Main Character Syndrome. Tom was also wrong about romance completely and wanted a woman to be "The One." We only see from Tom's point of view and we see how he ignores Summer.
You made us snap back to reality with this characterisation of the main character
Id love to see you guys cover some of the Scrubs characters. I feel like they would be interesting charcter studies and although I love the show, JD is quite similar to Ted 😂
I love this show. I don't know why, but I do. And it's SO NICE to see a video that says everything I've been saying in my head about Ted since day one! Ted is almost a worse person than Barney.
Didn't get past the first episode of HIMYM this is probably one of the reasons why...
he radiates "spoiled only child" energy (everything is always about him) so much, that the fact he has a sister seems like a mistake of the writers
Guys, even if you’re making a good point, it’s no fun as a viewer to have to listen you speak in an overly judgmental tone in order to hear that point
Most basic take of all time that Ted is evil and the villain of HIMYM. Pretty Reddit
So this is one of my favorite shows, and the more I think about it due to videos like this, the more I am confused.
Somewhere here on UA-cam is the alternative ending still available, where Barney and Robin stay together. I always combine the show‘s final season with this one unofficial episode. Makes so much more sense
You guys cover HIMYM, SATC, and Gilmore Girls a lot. Can you talk about Desperate Housewives? There's so much to talk about...
The further removed I get from this show the more I hate it. It was clever, but overall, what a bunch of terrible people. Same with Scrubs and Friends.
i probably watched it around 2018 and started to like it. It was running for a long time I guess. So I happened to notice the name before. I started to know all the characters and started liking them kinda I mean whatever friend adventures they had. I was surprised to figure out that the show is named" How I Met Your Mother "while the mother character was barely present. The idea was nice telling your kids about earlier days but would have been nice if we could know more about Tracy, " the mother". I wish Tracy was introduced before and she was the one for Ted only. It would have been nice to see Ted still loving her after her passing . I was young when I watched it and on some days it felt like Ted and Barney were doing the same thing in different ways. I was like why is Barney a womanizer but I am also seeing Ted with multiple women. It felt like both of them dated or slept with the whole New York. I didn't know how sitcoms work then that was my take on it. I really liked Robin with Barney . I was really happy when they got married. I could see the chemistry between them. I also could see the chemistry between Ted and Tracy. So, the ending made me sad. But I can't actually hate wholly Ted because it was also the writer's fault.
I mean he’s a pretty awful person. All the characters are deeply flawed people (but so are we all in real life, these are just exaggerated versions) but at the end of the day, that’s why it’s funny and this is what matters in a comedy, not any deeper meaning or moral education….
Ted is like a member of the Gang from "It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia", but in this show from the very first episide we knew, that those people are assholes. In "HIMYM", Ted is portrayed as the good guy. :D
Ted Mosby or bear?
The way he treated the woman who he thought was a prostitute tells you a lot
I just started rewatching the show this afternoon to procrastinate but now the reality check of this video is too harsh and I don’t think I can stand it now. Time to try something else, fresh prince perhaps?
i just realised how similar ted and charlotte from SAC are and both exactly got what they wanted just that one of them grew up and learned from their mistakes and the other didn’t
Is this channel intentionally changing it's narrative style? I don't normally feel real hatred for a fictional character on this channel but that tone slipped from professional to bitchy a few times there.
Thank you.The video seems to be narrated by a woman who really hates men
Ted would say that you’re a grinch
I have always been convinced that Ted is the most unreliable narrator and is highly embellishing most of what he is telling in the story and that he is projecting most of his character flaws onto Barney as a way to make himself look good. Like Robin is a smart woman right. She is clever and witty and sharp. Do you really think someone like her would get with someone as disgustingly misogynistic and gross and often times racist as Barney? They were well suited because they were compatible and that tells me that he was actually not as gross as he is made out to be. Maybe a little cocky but is really just charming and charismatic and comfortable in his sense of self unlike Ted. Ted was basically jealous of how cool and popular and suave Barney was and how he was a better match for Robin so in his story he basically does some character assassination and makes Barney out to be awful when really it's him. Ted wanted a way to justify getting with Robin in the end so he makes Barney out to be just the worst kind of guy when the likely truth is the Barney is quite good. I have often wondered how different the story would have been if we had seen it through the eyes of Robin or Barney or just anyone else cus I feel like the truth about Ted would be exposed.
They wrote the ending ahead of time, so why would it be so hard to have Ted change to be a better partner for Robin? Would that really have been so hard to write?
I’m currently rewatching this show on Netflix. I was starting to dislike Ted as a character for being entitled, selfish, insensitive, and kinda delulu expectations and obsessed with the idea of true love. I really don’t like him and robin together. Robin has her own problems too. Everyone has their own problems, But it’s mostly Ted I’m having issues with.
Never forget Robin's dogs
I've tried several times to watch HIMYM and could never finish it until recently, even though it was funny. I just hated Ted. At first I thought it was because he reminded me of a toxic ex, but also because he's the least funny character. And maybe it's true, but in my current rewatch with a friend I just notice he does the same things over and over again. Any negative or positive growth is just temporary and with no consequences, and then he's off doing the same things, making the same jokes, and dumping what are essentially the same woman for 100s of episodes. Like if you're gonna have a toxic MC at least lean into it and make it good television. That's the reason Barney as a character outshines Ted in every way, they lean into his character unapologetically and even manage to give him some growth that sticks (until they decided to throw that out the window for Ted's pasty ass).
Y'all should talk about the upgraded Disney prince writing
As much as I had fun watching HIMYM back in HS for what it was, a funny sitcom, I really regret that later I showed this show to a very susceptible friend who ended up becoming a mega fan. He already had some... Issues, with his perception of what are relationships, but after watching and obsessing over the show, and trying to relate EVERYTHING to it and use it to justify his nonsense, he became really insufferable most of the time, not only as a friend, but also with all of his partners that I've met, and in the end is what made me put some very wide distance between us
The following examples are things he already had before, but after watching the series, he felt like he had the perfect justification while trying to act as either Ted or Barney, depending on what was convenient at the time
He started to try to justify some pretty toxic behaviors in our friendship with "the bro code"
Over-idealizes every woman who is nice to him, or finds attractive to the point a single name could mean 3 different people at one time and he would have to put a number besides their name so that it would be less confusing, and when eventually because of that he became a cheater and womanizer, trying to justify all his behaviors with the idea of him "trying to find the one"
Tried to present himself as a relationships expert because he has watched the series more than it's humanly healthy and considering he never has had a healthy relationship it sounds so hypocritical and annoying
Would not shut up about how me and my girlfriend are Marshall and Lily all the time, because he idealized our relationship and wanted something like it, not to mention before he used to call both my gf and my ex my "Tracy and Robin" which... No, just no
Ad he really started to show up proudly more and more insecurities as "good guy green flags" to prove he is "worthy to women"
He ruined this show for me, I was able to separate reality from fiction, and laugh about people worse adjusted than me in ridiculous situations, laugh about NPH deliveries, laugh about all the cameos, watch actors like Coby Smoulders and Cristin Milioti at the start of their careers being funny, but he took it so seriously that it's just hell watching a single episode without remembering him trying his best to force himself into the alternate reality of the show
Damn, that guy is out there somewhere, probably sucked into an alpha or sigma male rabbit hole and super into fitness now. 💀
@@stephanieok5365 funny enough... Not quite, he is too deep in his HIMYM delusion
He's had moments of using fitness, or extreme formality as "personality" traits (or should I say, "Barney style plays"), but only momentarily when he's trying to impress a woman, but he always snaps back, he has a moderately successful career in the cooking scene of my city because he's a pretty good chef, but he's held back because of his immaturity, mostly he's the same dude I met in HS, just, like I said, trapped in a sitcom delusion
@@alejandroreyes8878 all that life experience and no emotional development is peak Ted. 🤔
I hope the food scene keeps him too busy for UA-cam algorithms. I get that stuff pushed to me from my weightlifting hobby and it's so brutal I'm sure it'd make the existing problems much worse. 💀
Do ted the series or inside out 2 please
Ted? …😳come back Ross! All is forgiven!! And yes you uh probably were on a break!!!😆
Ted would have gone red pill in real life.
Facts. I def think like him at times lol
I reckon it hit at the time there was a catharsis to it rightly or wrongly
Ted does not know what love is. Hes seen way too many movies
Why a pineapple?
This is a great analysis. but Ted is supposed to be a messed up but attractive John Cusack type. The actor literally references John Cusack multiple times in the show as his inspiration. He's playing a stereotype. Just like Barney is Neil Patrick Harris a gay man playing a heterosexual stereotype. You're totally correct in your objective assessment of him but most female friends I had while I was watching the show loved Ted. I feel like the John Cusack version of Ted was much more straightforward in how dysfunctional the character was. But if he was not messed up I don't think people would watch it. The show refuses character growth for Ted. But I also think that's kinda of the appeal of the character. If he didn't act like an idiot there would be no drama basically.
Did you even like the show? I don't love Ted but damn, this is just joyless.
That’s very harsh. The whole point of the show is him showing that he was immature and it was good that he didn’t meet Tracy before it all. And when Stella dumps him he does learn that they weren’t meant to be. Yes, his not taking no for an answer is problematic. But truly, there’s a massive caveat to everything else: he keeps saying that he was wrong and immature.
And to be fair, wanting what you can’t have is absolutely relatable.
People just enjoy destroying Ted. This show is about growing up, dating and making mistakes and how you sometimes mistreat women.
Suits is about winning a case every episode. Friends is about their friendships and how they spend time together and sometimes have problems.
But when How I Met Your Mother sticks to the subject matter which is love . Somehow Ted the protagonist is a psychopath😂😂😂😂. It should have been How I Got My Job. Maybe people will back off
@@azikiwesnay7718 It just kills me that the series made it painfully clear that these people were flawed. And it feels like this is not allowed anymore. I get that we should try to model good behaviour but what about the truth? And the truth is we’re all struggling to fight knee jerk reactions and our worst instincts. They call each other out on their bad behaviour which is more than most people would dare to do IRL.
@@miliesomethingdo4379 on the contrary look at how people praise Barney and Marshall. Barney is nothing but flaws and Marshall I believe suffered from a few addictions I think smoking and drinking were the addictions and people talk about them as if they are the epitome of what a good person should represent.
I love love love Ted because he wants to grow up and he is growing up. The lessons he has taught me are golden nuggets of wisdom and I was rooting for him to find the love he deserves (Tracy not Robin)
Society doesn't want people to grow up. I've noticed people who working themselves are heavily scrutinized even in the real world.
@@azikiwesnay7718 I guess Ted and Lily are in the same box. People can’t simply pathologize their behaviour so they hate on them… I don’t know…
I hate that everyone piles on HIMYM and lionizes Friends. I don’t know why everyone focuses on that final scene when it’s a freaking miracle that Tracy wasn’t a complete letdown after the build up she had.
And calling him a terrible friend its just pushing things too much, he was a great friend for fun times but also for thought moments. This is very harsh.
1:56 So he is no different to Barney. He is even more hypocrite
I can never bring myself to rewatch himym. I binged it a few years ago bc everyone was going on and on and on about how bad the ending is. I watched the show just so i possibly defend it or understand it but no. I had to take gaps on the binge bc i fr hated watching Ted decide how love works.
Him wanting robin to get rid of her dogs wasnt all of his fault.
.to side with him
.robin ask him to get rid of his things so its fair that she need to return the favor and do the same.
. I would too hallucinate some hot exes my gf date in the face of her things.
. Plus robin did start this stint
That being said
. Asking robin to get rid of her dogs is like asking her to get rid of her son that she had with her exes which is downright ridiculous
I can sympathise with Ted for not wanting to give a toast at his mother’s wedding 💒 Feeling like you haven’t met enough milestones as a man is tough to deal with. What Ted’s mother sees as a gesture of support, may feel like a humiliation to Ted 😢
Ted was sooooo annoying since episode 1
My husband thought Barny was the shows mc he's words ted was a whiney b and he's right without barney the show would have never gotten a second season
I'd be curious if there's any straight man in a sitcom that isn't "being delusional" about love.
Whatever he does or says will be criticised.
Isn’t that the way a woman thinks? In their journey of finding true love, every mistake is an “oopsy” but every guy who hurts her is a tragedy?
Seems the main issue is the Self Serving Bias
Not only was the finale bad but it harmed the career of the cast afterwards (except ironically cobie smulders)
During the entire show you are wondering how the hell Robin or even any woman in the world could possibly fall in love of this pity obsessive man, and yet they ended up together but the audience is still wondering.
3:20 The very definition of a narcissistic individual
man i could feel the passion and anger in this one haha, ted absolutely sucks you're completely right
Don't you think a video of this nature shouldn't contain anger but rather constructive analysis of a character
@@giizodamulla7492 and they do provide constructive analysis. but also, ted's actions can be super infuriating, so anger is kinda warranted too.
@@acausedes he is a shitty character but my point still stands,this seems like a woman who hates men in general
Miss when y’all were screenprism 💔
Nope these series were 100% correct aboit everything how life goes and no one can say otherwise
How I met your mother has the worst finale
Title: " Ted is wrong. "
Agreed! No need to watch the video 😂
And I'm a massive fan of how I met your mother and hated the character of Ted. Ted is boring and makes questionable decisions.
Josh Radnor did a hell of a job! Because he played the character with nuance and sometimes I found Ted hilarious or sweet right after I've rolled my eyes regarding some action the character did 😂