3 Surprising Traits That Make You Likely To Succeed | Alex Hormozi
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- Опубліковано 16 лип 2024
- Alex Hormozi breaks down the 3 most common traits of hyper-successful people. Why do we admire high achievers? What key concept allows high achievers stand out from the average person? What are the two forces that drives high achievers in the first place?
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Are you sure bout the rat thing? I've heard it, but don't recall the details. But I would think, that the cat alone results in max pull, bcz fear over rules desire. I have a hard time imagining an unconsious mouse mind saying "Dang, I'm scared - and I'm hungry" at the same time. I expect cheese or not the cat pull motivation would be the same. Am I wrong?
1. superiority complex (high standards) 2. insecurity (fear of failure) 3. impulse control (focus)
Big cheese, big tiger, relentless pursuit. : )
Brilliant
Missing impulse control. Lol
I have 2 of these I just lack the discipline.
1. Superiority Complex (high standards) 2. Insecurity (fear of failure) 3. Impulse Control (focus) I had to regurgitate your comment so thank you
1. Superiority complex (I’m better than everyone and I deserve more).
2. Massive insecurity and the fear that I’ll never be enough.
3. Impulse control.
Essentially, find that one thing that wakes you up in the morning and focus all your energy on that. It’s not enough to just pursue one thing, you also need to ignore every other thing in choosing that one thing.
Why mj is the goat
I always said, "Take a negative and make it drive you." And take a positive and ride that wave too. Both are in the vicinity at all times. It's helped me tremendously.
Whoa I like that, Chief
Negative should be feedback like sensors on the car. Much of it you need to ignore because you already know the information. Occasionally Negative responses mean you're going in the right direction.
I like that I’m remember that
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@@okeythegoat2332 Haters get hooping and hollering and up in a ruckus it's usually a good sign... Keep doing that.
what a gem, really profound. this is how i look at it:
i admire the feats, not the people behind it. the people will always let you down because they are as flawed and limited as you are (broadly speaking). that is why you should not seek for idols, you should seek for inspiration in great achievements, they are what really matter, the people are just vessels for their realization, and usually its usually a lottery game so to speak (right place, right time. or wrong depends on your perspective)
Impulse control is the most difficult for me. Currently practicing mindfulness, we will see how it goes.
Do you REALLY have a goal?
GREAT question!
Having a superiority complex is fun and the most easy
None of your efforts will work. You don’t need to believe me.
Impulse control is nothing more than understanding reality and your falsehoods and beliefs of the world.
It is not something to do, its something to understand
Read Dandapani’s book The Power of Unwavering Focus. Great book, changed the way I viewed mindfulness and my own head.
Impulse control for me is from learned ability to channel pain and suffering into something constructive. Romans 5:3 “Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.”
Bravo 👏. Thanks for that scripture
Mj did that and why he is the goat
Brilliant clip. As a society, we're mostly ascribing value to external achievements. We are not ascribing much value to the other two value realms: the internal, and the moral. An actual ideal way of being has all three value realms working in harmony and balance with one another. That's what you guys touched on (at least the harmony of internal and external) in the last portion of the video.
I think the point of the clip was that everyone doesn't want nor need that balance in order to be happy and fulfilled. There's people who are perfectly happy and fulfilled maximizing one while neglecting the other two entirely. These are the people at the "Top". You can't be at the "top" of you're "balanced". Balanced means "center" which boils down to being at the middle or average. I agree There's not many Balanced people in the world... but those people aren't unbalanced because they're optimizing one thing ... they're unbalanced because they're entirely unaware that a state of balance exists. People like Alex are fullt aware of the state of balance ... but his mind doesn't work like most peoples minds. His fullfilment and happiness comes from being entirely unbalanced and optimizing on one thing ... which is work. Anyone looking in who does not share his values will see him as unfulfilled... but he doesn't see it that way ... and at that point it really comes down to wether you care more about society's opinion on your state of happiness... or what you really feel inside... He has chosen the latter.
@@501Labs I think there's a lot of truth to what you said. But you also miss part of my point. If he's actually doing what he's doing based on what's authentically inside, then that is harmonizing with the internal realm. There's nothing wrong with that. That's how you ought to be. Which is harmonizing with the moral realm. The question, though, becomes, "is he actually doing what he wants based on a genuine internal drive? Or is it based on an externally sourced drive (i.e., ego, other peoples' opinions of him, status, etc.)?" If it's the latter, that is actually unhealthy, and will lead to a problematic place. His soul will not be heading in the right direction.
@@501Labs also, your supposition about balanced meaning middle or average is not necessarily true. It can be that way. But it doesn't have to be. Think of it like this. You can place between 0 and 10 weights on each of three different categories (the internal, the external, and the moral). If you have 1 weight on each, then you're "balanced." And if you have 10 weights on each, then you're also balanced. Now, in the first, you might have equal amounts in each realm; but you also suck at all three realms. In the latter, you are maximized on all three realms, and are balanced. That's why it's more than just "balance." That's part of it. But I actually said balance and harmony. Which gets you closer to the reality. But it's really more complex than just one or two words can depict. You need to have an understanding of the whole system (i.e, Reality). But yeah, if you're 10 on external, and 2 on internal, and 1 on moral, you might achieve a lot in the external realm. But that doesn't mean your soul will actually end up in a good place. There are countless stories of people like this who end up killing themselves when they're "at the top." If you're 10 on external, and 10 on internal, and 1 on moral. That's more or less something like the Anti-Christ (I'm not religious). There are legitimate questions whether that particular balance is really attainable. But it might be. And it would be a scary person. Basically a psychopath. In that case, their "judgment" would be left to God / the Universe. They would achieve what they want on this Earth at a high level, but it would be either amoral or immoral (probably the latter - amoral would probably be higher than a 1 on that dimension).
Bro. Alex Hormozi is so intelligent and ripped. He knows more about life and business than other people and we should respect him and also idolize capitism. So much value.
I appreciate the time and effort you put into creating such valuable content, and I wanted to personally thank you for sharing it with the world.
I take notes if all these videos. From Chris and people that think similar. It’s truly a golden opportunity that we have access to such incredible individuals and their advice. Take notes, don’t take it the advice for granted or listen to it haphazardly.
I like Alex because he is blunt and honest,no sugarcoating. Chris you're asking how to deal with that cognitive dissonance of "negative" traits common in successful people. It's simple. Stop giving the terms "performers" and "high achievers" which are plaguing so many podcast positive meaning. It's just neutral, another aim in life ,no better or worse compared to no-achievers who just want to raise family. And if you go extreme in anything,if you get a lot, you have to pay the the price,so you have to lose a lot.Somehow. It's physics,thermodynamics, balance,laws of the universe. Survival and family is only meaningful thing after all because it's hardwired, all the other s1it is human mind creation because we are not busy surviving as our water comes by tubes and food is somehow created and delivered to us so we are bored and constantly creating new religions like productivity,...So we should really ask hard questions and be honest about it. Am I driven by feeling I'm not enough? if yes am I pursuing right goal and don't I live in some story I created for myself where achievement will supposedly make me feel good about myself? I'm not saying it's bad to pursue such goals but I don't like that success,performance,achievement = good thing equation,it's much more complicated.Clarity and honesty towards myself without sugarcoating and stories gives me peace and power to say "ok I'm driven by "miserable" traits. so what ,that's my way,my engine ,let's do it, I'm curious what price I will have to pay if I will not change that". Also I think that what is worth of exploring is that "miserable" traits being negative is questionable 🙂 anxiety is what allowed our species to survive, feeling not enough and effort to impress others is our hardwired social instinct cause we need our peers to survive. So it's our heratage and we need them. So why not to be driven by them? 😁
Great stuff in here! Love Alex's way of simplifying so much of what overs can make complicated (both for himself personally, and in his insights here)
Success to me is being the most authentic me I can be at any given time
Money , fame , championship belts …
All dust in the end
Arnold Schwarzenegger when he was going for Mr Olypia he was hitting the gym hard.
He said something like. People come up to me and ask why am i smiling in the gym all day?
He asked them why aren't they smiling and having a good time?
He was there working on a goal and seeing the fruits of his labor. Smiling was second nature since everything was going as it should.
This is superb. Smiling makes sense when you realize the affect on your mind.
The love of the game- Kobe
That dork also said "screw your freedoms" during the great flu outbreak. Everything he says goes in the trash.
Legitimately the most insightful, meaningfull and teaching video I've seen on youtube, amazing!
1. To Think that you deserve better.
2. Insecure and fearful about failing.
3. Focused entirely on the process.
Be Grateful for wherever you are at right now and have a healthy sense of active urgency towards improving.
Both of these guys' speaking abilities and the art of fabricating thoughts into words are just so fineee!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is gold 100% can relate ❤
I friggin’ love this podcast. Raising the bar for all people, in all dimensions of life.
Good stuff
Thanks for sharing
If you’ve reconciled the loss and you’ve made a cognitive choice to not live a balanced life then there’s no regret. Do whatever you wanna do and don’t do whatever you don’t wanna do. 🤷🏻♂️
That advice fails miserably as MANY people's pursuits will directly harm other people's interests.
Dope content!! Y’all dropped a few jewels on this one! 🙌🏿 💎
This was fascinating.
My life…honestly. I’m not better than anybody but I sure as hell deserve more. I’ve survived too much not to have more
Research suggests that Gen Z struggles with impulse control due to the need for instant feedback and gratification. The other two factors without impulse control will create a problem for society.
excellent questions
Excellent video
brilliant Chris
Fear of Failure Drives me each and every day ..i have come to the point where unless i do wat i love each and every day ,i feel like i am lost and a failure and that makes me focus at a very high level and when result come out of that i feel superior than others cause others dont do things that i do....
I've heard it said, don't meet your heroes. I never understood that until I met mine. Singularity of focus and hard work is the main way to become successful at something but unfortunately, those are revered are actually obsessive compulsive at what they do. We "lesser" people need to remember that obsessive compulsiveness is a disorder. I met the widow of another one of my heroes. In his field, he is one of the most respected in the world. She was extremely respectful of him but she shared a lot because I wanted to understand the business side of things as I want to pursue this same passion.
I found out, he was never there when he was there. He was so compulsive about his passions, he had to file bankruptcy twice because he wasn't good at the business side of things but at his known creative side. He neglected relationships with his wife and children. He wasn't a bad person mind you, everyone loved him, yet, for what he became known and idolized for in one area, meant that he was a sluggard others. I realized I would never be as good as him in the one area because I will never give up my time with my wife and kids and I'm fine with that.
Damn, this is a good discussion
seems instinctual running from something has bigger motivation than running to something. its the discipline to remain focused to task at hand that is the most difficult. We are all capable of self discipline, so the moral of the story is "how bad do you want it?"
“Fear of failure” (which is the 1/3rd part of crippling insecurities he cites) has been known for 40+ years to be a massive driver of the successful.
Succesfull? That's something else!
Ego, Insecurity and Discipline
To regret one's own experience is to arrest one's own development. To deny one's own experience is to put a lie into the lips of one's own life. It is no less than a denial of the soul.
“I the Preacher have been king over Israel in Jerusalem. And I applied my heart to seek and to search out by wisdom all that is done under heaven. It is an unhappy business that God has given to the children of man to be busy with. I have seen everything that is done under the sun, and behold, all is vanity and a striving after wind.”
Ecclesiastes 1:12-14
Just pick what you like and do that
I feel called out.
Neat.
Dooope content... this is why I love being second;not first but not last
I have 1 & 3.
Bad guy in Neal Stephenson's Snow Crash had "Poor Impulse Control" tattooed on his forehead.
How did you capture? Load box?
Does anyone know the study he is referring to?
WHAT IS the source for this. Cant find it anywhere...
Just some constructive criticism of your style. We’re watching this to see the guest talk. The host should just listen for the most part. This is why JRE is so popular because Joe for the most part doesn’t say much. Otherwise the content is very clean and audio is great and well edited.
The best performers in any endeavor is that they've cut out EVERYTHING that isn't your craft. Politicians that don't have a personal life and who's hobbies are all for show, every breath and every thought is conjured to project the proper image to maximize power and control. Elite athletes forgo their family and friends to get more time for recovery and training, treating the sport as though their lives depend on it almost like winning and losing is an existential threat to all of humanity.
Take what you can from the bleeding edge elite but you'll never want to actually be like them. They're ill, because if you aren't, you'll be pushed out by someone else that is.
When does he talk about taking TRT?
Of course we have to factor in survival bias:
We simply dont know how many people with all those 3 traits do NOT make it!
Most likely most do not.
If you try to acquire these attributes you are likely moving yourself away from the average, but probably in the vast majority of cases towards the lower end.
A very important point of view
Bro I think the ability to delay gratification is what makes the whole trio complete. I think that makes it more likely to go to the higher end
@@trentward2725 Persistence is a double edged sword.
Sure, it can drive you on and on to push through barriers.
But if you are going in completely the wrong direction, then endless persistence means you never get back onto the right track.
Having all these traits means you win big or you lose big - unlikely to be in between.
"knitting" 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I remember learning it from my mom. A skill that might come in handy once AI takes over the world and we find ourselves bored out of our minds.
True. AI can not knit a sweater or a scarf.
@@khagindratri6781 are you sure about that? :P
AI reading...loading Kni knitting
Where can i read the results of this study?
For example - Michael Jordan had hideous impulse control. He was a known gambling addict
Dude you give off vibes like you’re envious of Alex’s accomplishments, the quotes you mentioned came through snarky af 😂
Hey Chris I just visited your channel homepage. Nice pic up front and center, you dick. Lol I have to give you grief, but seriously, love your channel. Very insightful and I always enjoy your content. I almost have an ab too, no big deal.
I think what these people lack is the ability to experience the peace of contentment that can be felt by someone who knows what enough means, achieves it, and then maintains and enjoys it. The constant scramble for more, more, and more indicates a pathological state of mind in my opinion. However, for these people it is obviously necessary.
So whatever works. Personally I’ve always found that sector of humanity extremely obnoxious and unpleasant to be around.
They made a great example in the clip. The thing that makes normal people relax like music, games etc. For them it's business and thier work. So when someone says you need to stop and rest..its what they would do when they were resting to relax because they enjoy it. You don't have to love people like that, but understanding them helps
@@usuallysalty4018 Frankly I really don’t have a dog in the fight. I simply said I find people who are driven to that extent generally unpleasant to be around. I have no interest in trying to “understand” them beyond what I’ve already said.
@@zarlok5294 all your choice.
Billyboy Gaytz - why????? Gotta be a lot wrong upstairs there...
@@CONEHEADDK Why what?
From caption I thought this is Jesse from ATHLEAN-X.
This is from “winning” yeah?
I had everything except impulse control
If you close your eyes hormozi sounds like Seth Rogen on Test
Seriously you would thought Chris would of read his book
michael jordan isnt happy. his induction speech into the hall of fame is an example of this. hes not really thanking people, hes proving to people who didnt believe in him that he succeeded. he doesnt so much thank people as say, they added fuel to the fire. he brought the guy who made the highschool team instead of him to his induction and proceeds to say he still sucks at basketball. a huge middle finger. dean smith didnt put him on the sports illustrated cover, but he deserved to be and hes still bitter about it. he does nothing but dog on people.
Power
Most hyper successful people aren't happy because in order to get there you have to go through a ton of BS. Too bad we live in a world that tends to try to crush people.
That's why he is who he is and that's why we're still talking about Last Dance three years later. He's not normal and he doesn't want to or need to be. His happiness comes from winning and success. He still wants it all at 60 even though every single basketball authority recognizes him as the best ever. He doesn't just want to beat you one on one, he wants to do it in pool, table tennis, cards. It's incomprehensible to us normal people. He performed on the biggest stage when billions were watching and always delivered, hitting game winning shots from the time he was 18 years of age. All alphas have big egos, and his is the biggest one in the world. You can't be humble and perform at that level, with that amount of pressure. It's a war out there and the opponent wants to chop your head off and humiliate you in front of everyone on live TV.
@@romanmesic you’re pointing at one person and saying this is how it has to be. There are examples of others who are humble and kind and are GOATs in their respective areas
His flaw , an abnormal competitiveness, was actually his gift . His fans got to see him defy the odds and defy gravity. I’m so thankful that I got to see him play; truly inspiring.
There is a book that is based on these this topic and these 3 traits...what was it? Oh yeah Gatsby!
I have superiority complex, insecurities but no impulse control.
Lmao
Dude, I feel that’s most of the population
I'm better than you in probably almost every way.
JRE for ppl without spotify premium
They got the from helping people
Superiority complex: 😃
Massive insecurity: 😃
Impulse control: ☹
Saame bruv😂
And you also forgot “controlling asshole with no real relationships”
I want to place well in the race, I don’t want to be so far ahead I can’t talk to any one.
Michael Jordan can’t go an afternoon without gambling or challenging people all day long. No one counts him as a chill friend.
Doesn’t really sound appealing.
Did you watch his master class basketball video for point guard?
That perfectly describe a gold digger. Wanting more, insecure and staying focused.
Even if you don’t have something pushing you, a true achiever will make something push them
Damn highly successful people are toxic AF😅
i have all three + not the money.
It says they will probably burn out and die earlier than they should
Man, let Alex talk
John D Rockefeller had NO hint of paralyzing fear. Neither did JP Morgan, George Washington, Bonaparte etc. You don't need to fear something, other than failure, perhaps. The GOAL/Opportunity/Obstacle should be a powerful enough magnet. And this can be accessed by anyone. You don't need to be Michael Jordan to tap into his Mindset.
Facts
In short: narcissism with impulse control.
Rocky Bhai spiting facts😂
I feel like to be successful, you have to be a massive asshole. I mean, I've worked for several of them, especially when I lived in NYC. I worked in the photography industry and that seemed to be the norm. Step on a bunch of toes to get ahead. Treat your assistants and teammates like they're below you.
When you get the chance, will you become like them? Or will you make choices that alight with your morals and philosophy?
JERRY RICE,BILL RUSSEL LEBRON JAMES yes they all the same.
This is why all of the comments from work life balance / 4 day work week people fall on deaf ears. We DO NOT envy your life one bit. On the contrary, we find it repulsive. Like lint on my black suit or a fly inside my penthouse.
I want both at the same time. I'd love to be one of the most skilled people in my field, the one that always gets called out to do cool challenging projects because they know I can handle it and will happily accept it. But I also just want to fking relax and do nothing sometimes and enjoy a three day weekend. Not always work 65 hours a week, even though I do love the work I do. Idk I guess I'll try actually getting good at it first and then see how I feel at that point
What in the 1970s cocaine hotel room….
So basically unhappy miserable people
I tell everyone this: you dont need to win everything nor have the best of everything. That leads to a life not well-lived. If you do you're broken.
When Im in a new group, those who always want to achieve and never stop are the one I avoid and people tend to avoid. They would try and win every non-sensical conversation there is.
How do i find something that I am good at, love to do and what i can be paid for??
The two first questions should be obvious for you. Then "just" look around for others, who live by doing those things well. Probl solved - that will be 1200 dollars for coaching, please. :)
buy my course and find out
Up to you to figure it out. Stay curious and be bold.
The likelihood that you're one of these people is very small.
They were both describing themselves in this video make no mistake.
It's "fun" to them because something in their brain likely due to trauma tells them fun is being successful compared to everyone else monetarily.
And they have the drive to do it.
They also are tall attractive men and the world open up the door for them. The Halo effect is very real.
@@seemlesslies Nah I dont believe that, I think that there is fun in it, just not in the sense of fun you would have like playing a video game. Fun might not be the right word, how about something that just pulls your attention?
1. Daddy didn’t love me. 2. Daddy was wealthy 3. I don’t make friends easily
What's a dad?
To put it short - "MOTIVATION".
No, CONSISTENCY
@@manolo_ai Where would that come from without motivation?
The word you're looking for is insanity.
These people are insane.
@@seemlesslies :D
Elite performing is meaningless.
Ya momma
He's got a work/ life balance. He's just found work that he enjoys so much that he also able to let it be the biggest part of his life and joy. That's where you want to be. You love and enjoy your work so much that it's not work for you.
Essentially what he described is a psychopath who can control themselves which makes sense when you think about the all time greats in sports such as Kobe, Mike, and Tom Brady
And bill Russel and lebron and kareem. And jerry rice and Mayweather. THEY ALL THE SAME.
Bron, mj, Kobe etc 🐐🐐🐐
Why tf do they do that to rats, fuck is wrong with humans 🤦🏻♂️
What are you running from Chris? With ALL this content done and being done - it never stops. What is it that is going to catch you if you stop?
BUT. But I do love what you do. How can I _know_ that you are doing fine when I can't trust your word because it is like the drug addict? Do I have to follow and stalk you? Or do I develop some kind of small device that you carry with you all times and it maps your body? :P
Chris, please. Tell us how you feel. And use those RAW words. No sugarcoating. So bare sentences that they want some fat and animal fur between them and the Ice Age winds that is the RAW talk. Give us your RAW.. eee.. You do you, man. Im outta here. Right after that RAW one.
Honestly, I think you're asking some great questions with that first section. Really insightful.
But, after that....
...are you good, my guy?
The point is that people who want those things dont want the normal things in life. YOU want a family and friends. They DONT care about those things and find no happiness in them. Everyone doesn't have to find happiness in the same things you do in order to be ok. They're only broken by your standardss and values. They're happy based on the things they value.... i.e ... people considered sociopaths and psychopaths.
Bro, what does this dude do? He talks a lot about “the game” but doesn’t talk about what are his damn companies
Sounds like Andrew Tate.
Essentially a narcissist with impulse control.
Well I have 2 out of 3. Lacking supirorty complex, which I can live without.
So you have insecurity without the thing that will balance it out in a positive direction? Doesn't sound very appealing, might as well be a permanent pothead instead.
@@Leonhart_93 Wow, so you really think only people who match all three of these characteristics can achieve anything other than being a pothead. You know, there may be other characteristics that people have that lead to a more balanced personality type, it is a wild idea.
@@joshua1822 Probably there are. But does it apply to you? Are you that level of successful or well on your way there, with the traits you currently have?
Trait #4 they're all divorced!
you speak about things - to help people. I assume.. who knows you might be working for secret societies... and I don't judge if you guys are. The fundamental underlying purpose behind your efforts in these videos is the bottom line.. money. Influence, audience, capitalization. Money has disrupted the infinity of our planet. And "evil" or the most powerful, richest, most desensitized souls is about to implode upon itself as money evolves into technology. Find your self. Good luck.
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