Man, when I was 12 I thought I was genderfluid and was experimenting with my gender. Then I found Kalvin Garrah. After that, I went back into the closet and said it was super cringey and carried all his beliefs. Now I'm out as a trans man!! I would've realized it a lot sooner if I didn't find his content, but it is what it is 😔
There were a lot of Kalvin's fans trying to claim that he doesn't really bully anyone, he's simply "calling them out" yeah, these people think that misgendering someone on purpose and body shaming them is the same as calling someone out. I don't even understand WHY would Kalvin and his fans care so much how some people represent themselves? Like, how does that affect them? I'm genuinely curious. I myself do not care if someone likes to use neopronouns or something. As long as you don't hurt anyone, you can do whatever you wan't with your life.
I mean, tbh neo pronouns just make things more complicated than they need to be. That's the actual issue. They us enough. Do a lot treat this as a social treat like he said? Yeah, he isn't completely wrong. Hes entitled to his opinion, just like you. Does it effect others? Yes. Social communication isn't one person. Other people have to use the others neo pronoun which means it effects others. Idk if this is an NT thing and they take social communication for granted or what I dont fo outside so none of this exists for me
It's for several reasons. My reasoning at the time was that Kalvin was my introduction to the gender part of LGBT. I got caught up in the oddities I saw in the victims and didn't stop to think critically about how inhumane it was to judge their gender by that standard. Part of that was me being immature and part was my own struggles with identity. Another reason I see a lot is internalized transphobia. Trans people feel more valid if they can "other" GNC people that they think cis people will lump them in with. Some are actually GNC or trans/nonbinary themselves and they project their insecurities onto others. It's a way to affirm their gender, either as being a "normal" trans person or staying in the closet. Then there's the cis people. I don't really know why they get on board with it. I think it's because their exposure to the trans experience is limited, they're detached from the community it affects, and/or they've had the binary drilled into them to the point of feeling righteous.
I'm not a fan at all. But seeing how bullied he's been for ten months now I see how I was part of cancel culture and we have become what we were against. If you all can't see how toxic holding others accountable can be, wait until it's you. Bc none of us are perfect and we have created an environment which there's no mistakes allowed and no room for growth. Who decides you're sincere enough or have changed?
Woo for him leaving 🥳 When I was in the process of figuring out that I was non-binary his videos were so harmful for me in my journey and were very upsetting for me. I’m so glad to see him gone.
Re: your question at the end - what about taking it in the other direction? Making videos highlighting creators who are building beneficial communities and fostering empathy and kindness? Might be a good way to get the best of both worlds. :) Thanks for taking the time to talk about this, I must confess I didn't know much about the situation before but I'm glad it's being discussed.
I’ve definitely been thinking about doing that. I’ve already got one in the works for Ash Hardell because they’re thinking about coming back to UA-cam and I want them to know how much good they’ve done in helping the community☺️
@@lynnsaga1397 Yes absolutely! I have such respect for Ash, they're a big reason why I was able to figure out I was asexual, thanks to the ABC's of LGBT+ series! I really appreciate the kindness and thoughtfulness you're putting out there with your videos. Keep up the great work, Lynn! 😊
@@lynnsaga1397 i miss ash so much I'd love to see them come back they personally helped me at explaining my sexuality and people questioned the validity of it I love their book and i hope their okay
@@lynnsaga1397 If you would like some good trans creators check out Jammidodger and Sam Collins. They helped me so much and are the lest problematic people out there.
I saw some of Kalvin's videos and there was a certain point where I felt negativity rolling off of him. It made me super uncomfortable. I stopped after that. I'm a transmasculine person, and when I saw his video where he basically said that trans people are binary and that we have to be within the binary when it came to dressing, pronouns, roles, etc. I'll admit that that sh*t hurt me. I'm transmasculine, not a transman *because* I refuse to conform to gender roles. Yes, I want to be perceived male when people see me, but I never want people to expect me to conform to boxes.
I'm so grateful that people like you are speaking out against Kalvin Garrah. His "transtrender" video about Brennan came out just before I realised I'm nonbinary and that video and others have hurt me so much. It's been super hard to accept myself and understand my own gender because he said those things when I was young, questioning and really looked up to him. I'm relieved that at least he's not making harmful content now
I can't believe I used to support Kalvin. I'm honestly happy the victims of his bullying came forward. It was a really brave thing to do and I'm ashamed I used to agree with him, so I'm happy to support ALL trans people and understand all trans people better
Used to like him, now I’m finally able to realize I’m a NB Genderfluid person who uses multiple pronouns including neoprounouns who presents fem most of the time. I probably would have realized it sooner but I was scared back into the closet because I didn’t want to be seen as a “”transtrender”” 😐
For the last 5 or so years I have especially felt discomfort towards being afab and I keep telling myself "Youre just trans" but I still like some of the femininity I have and because of the community he has caused I have tried to not be feminine at all. I didn't realize until just a month or two ago how hard I was trying to be what I'm not. I've never fully felt female and even when I was trying to convince myself I was trans it felt wrong. Because I watched him for so long and partook in the transmed part of instagram flop accounts I now have internalized hatred towards being non-binary. I had a friend group, I just realized this stuff today, and one person was agender/trans male (they were still figuring it out) and one who was trans male, I had hated that they supported non-binary genders although I never said it to anyone. I feel that had partly lead to the reason none of us talk anymore, I didn't want to be around someone who I didn't agree with. But now I realize that I was just trying to hate myself and I feel bad. I still look at my wardrobe and feel like its not masculine enough because I have been wearing leggings for the last two weeks and I own clothes from the womens department. I do have a lot of dysphoria with my chest but I appreciate the way the rest of my body is for the most part. I feel dysphoria at being called She but am mostly okay with He, I much prefer they/them. I've also repressed trying to have a name I like, I've always felt more comfortable with names of objects or non-names. I've just come to terms with the fact I prefer to be called Ink rather than what I had told everyone I wanted to be called, although I am not gonna change that because of confusion. I wish I could not have this internalized hatred for who I am but I don't think I can. I don't have any community to talk to to lessen my hatred but watching all these videos coming out on kalvin has helped me a little bit. Tldr: I hate myself because of Kalvins rederick.
This makes me content. I'm happy he's leaving, I feel like it's something everyone needs (yes, him as well). I wish he'd delete the harmful videos he's posted where he's bullied people as well, though I don't hold out much hope, unfortunately ;-; I don't want to take away from the video, but I have a request? If that's okay?^^; I was wondering if you could start captioning your videos? It'd be really helpful for deaf/hoh viewers, people whose first language isn't English (like myself), people that have auditory processing issues (like myself again lol), etc. It'd be a way to make your channel more inclusive and your videos more enjoyable!^^ (I hope this comment doesn't come across as a "You MUST do this because I say so mwa ha ha," it's just a suggestion!^^ Don't feel pressured to reply)
I’ve been trying to look into different apps that could add captions. If you know of any good ones let me know!! The only reason I haven’t been adding them before is because I work a full time job and putting them in manually takes a lot of time. But I completely understand and I’ll be looking to see what I can do!☺️
It seems like he’s running from his own actions, rather than try to change his views. It just seems rather suspicious to see him flee everything as soon as everything he’s done has come to light.. there have been people who addressed him privately and tried to reason with him, but he just kept being the same, regardless. Him leaving was most likely him running from his own damage. If he can avoid it, then he is no longer responsible, so to speak.
I do not support kalvin and never have. That being said, university is expensive, there are times I have supported contacting someones school(when a known scammer/youtuber who literally tried to ruin a mans life with horrific lies and lied about all their medical conditions. It makes sense to warn the school, as every student is a potential target for them. Even that backfired though, the school simply told the literal scammer and they got a restraining order on the person who reported to the school) I know Kalvins views are harmful, toxic, have hurt people but sadly, the reality is we cant stop them by preventing their education. If anything its possible that higher education could help teach tolerance and if not, sadly far too many people in and out of our classrooms, at every level, think like Kalvin or even worse. As nice as it would be to only allow open minded, respectful, kind humans to have the right to a education, taking away his education would only further validate his hate for the people he has attacked in the past. He would simply double down on his awful views because in his mind. I also know how expensive school is and i cant imagine being kicked out after paying so much, or your parents paying so much Years ago, my former professor came out as trans and was kicked out and fired from her job. She was outed by someone and the college didnt want her representing them. Its so tragic
did you see RGR's response? I was so galled to see her act like a parent and poke her head into Brennan's business just to make prescriptive statements of how he should have acted to get "good" or "efficient" responses out of Kalvin.
@@lynnsaga1397 ua-cam.com/video/roKTz7bhrnQ/v-deo.html Xanderhal starts his stream talking about his relationship with Kalvin, then invites RGR to speculate with him around the 1 hour mark. (Brennan on live stream commented how Xan was playing a video game while talking about their trauma--this is what they were referencing.) Idk i was just amazed that these two adult "Allies" just barging in like they owned the place
@@toericabaker RGR is a trans woman, not an ally?? I think her response has been trash too, but let's not start acting like that makes her suddenly not trans.
Kalvin’s content was toxic and prevented me from coming to terms with my gender identity for many years. I stopped watching Kalvin’s content about a month ago and afterwards came to terms with being non-binary.
Thanks for your video. I've been following this on a few other channels and what you are describing here strikes me as a microcosm of what is sweeping the United States right now - a return to civility, common kindness and decency, and a rebuke of the hateful bullying that's been going on. Although I am far too old (almost 66) to jump into this discussion actively on UA-cam, I've pointed out a couple things that I have ascertained about this person based on my own observation and knowledge of human behavior. I suspect they suffer from internalized transphobia and self-loathing as well as one of the Cluster B personality disorders which are characterized by dramatic, overly emotional, or unpredictable thinking or behavior. These include - antisocial personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder. I further suspect they have an active drug and/or alcohol addiction. My advice to everyone is - stop feeding them with attention - their hunger for attention and being in the spotlight will never be satiated. Move on with your own fabulous lives, leave this one to sink into the dung-heap of history where his kind belongs, and let's all go forward to create more positive role models for our community.
glad to see the outpouring of videos criticizing him and his content. not expecting any kind of apology or attempts to make amends from him, but glad that awareness of the harm he does is spreading
I like to come back to the Kalvin Garrah criticism very often. I used to be a fan of his when I was young which pushed me into the closet as I decided I must have been misunderstanding what I was feeling because I trusted and believed him when he said he spoke for the “real” community. Even after I stopped supporting him I still doubted myself, and even after Moe’s video when I truly understood why he was so very extremely wrong, I was scared to know myself and my own gender because of the ideas he and others like him put into my head. In many ways, I still struggle, but what’s helped me the most is being around other queer people that exist for themselves instead of for the people who think they’re weird. The lead of one of my favorite bands, of Montreal, is genderqueer and their concerts are so alive and real, and their gender is directly tied to that. It’s impossible for me to look at them and see their ethereal gender and their total freedom from the cissies and think that gender is wrong and has to be a certain way or that it isn’t worth living life authentically, no matter the consequences. So yeah, if anyone else out there still struggles from Kalvin’s ideology, even though you know he’s wrong, you’ll make progress and eventually you’ll grow into a beautiful butterfly and be as queer as you’re meant to be. Find others like you who are who they want to be, and suddenly it won’t be so scary to be who you want to be
I feel so much regret that I quietly agreed with Kalvin’s views for a little bit. I’m a 27 year old man, and there’s no excuse for that. There’s no reason to support an immature bully who picks on children, especially when most of the people he picks on are just existing. If he’s gonna dish it out he better be ready to take it
I mostly agree with what you said and also think it would be fine for a university to be informed about the views of their students, but the way you said it made it kinda not sit right with me. I'm not really the most educated or smart person so I cant really articulate it well, but I still wanted to share. I think the way people are approaching the issue is not helpful really. Those who are reporting him are obviously angry, which is understandable but anger usually makes us remember things more extreme than they actually were which can make us twist a situation in our favor when it isn't actually that black or white. I'm not saying he didn't do anything wrong, but the things said about him let's the staff, which aren't necessarily checking the truth of the claims in-depth, interpret his deeds much differently and harsher than they might if they were just generally informed in a more objective way because they now already have a certain image of him in their heads. Like I said im not the most articulate or smart person so maybe I am wrong. if someone disagrees I'd love to hear your assessment of that part. Sorry for the stupidly long text.
I agree with you wholeheartedly. People are not helping the situation at all, and are actually making things way worse. I follow Kalvin on Instagram (has since made it private) he actually made several post already about it but someone DOXXED him!!! I’m so appalled and shocked that hardly no one is talking about it. The hate for him has gotten too far in my eyes.
@@pikopokopoki9225 exactly! I think it is always fine to dislike someone's opinions, but ruining their lives is not going to help anyone. He sure has to take responsibility for what harm he has done, but the way it is treated makes me think we still live in medieval times where a false is made right by paying an eye for an eye....
It's wild. I used to watch him quite often was would consider myself a fan of him at the time, I stopped watching him as I just grew a distaste for his videos, I later came out as nonbinary as well. I looked him up a few days ago after not hearing anything about him for ages, only to see him cancelled. ☠️☠️ ~Leelah
The fact I use to watch him and I never really noticed how bad he was / affected me till I started watching alot of videos about how toxic he was and stuff like that and then I realized after maybe thats why my dysphoria is so much worse than it was before 😂🙂
Yeeeeeah my dysphoria got better after I stopped watching him too. I got a lot more comfortable in myself and who I am and didn't base it off some trans meds on youtube
I think you need some sort of dysphoria to be trans. But I’m not going to make it a point 24/7 to tell people. Instead of having conversations he doesn’t understand that when you release that sort of negativity out in the community it just makes us all look bad. Bullying people isn’t a way to make yourself feel like “you’re the most trans” and anyone different is just faking. We all figure ourselves in our own way. Not everyone’s transition is the same and we all need time to support and help each other.
I think that a lot of dysphoria can be repressed. I hope my experience could make you understand other trans people who claim to have no dysphoria, which they actually do most of the time but it’s just very ignored through distraction. I have had very very repressed dysphoria most of my life. I never paid attention to my body, I wasn’t in my body ever and this still happens but since I’m more connected from discovering I might be trans although I never felt the very intense dysphoria from repression I actually am feeling pretty intense dysphoria now which I still try to ignore. Sometimes I have a hard time figuring out what makes me uncomfortable because I’m so out of my body but one thing I’ll tell you for sure is that although my dysphoria was not very visible most of my life it exists it’s just heavily ignored. I think a lot of other people in the community are like this and do not realise they’re trans because they don’t « feel » dysphoric from constantly ignoring their issues. I’m at a point where throughout the years I have developed social anxiety, very bad anxiety from ignoring my bouts of wants to be a man. It has slowly made me very self destructive and socially isolated. I don’t wish this to anyone else in the community, please know that spreading the misconception that you need to *feel* constant dysphoria to be trans could be damaging to the young repressed trans kids who won’t admit to themselves they are. It’s very easy to educate your brain into ignoring your bodily senses, everything around you and just go into mental space mode. I agree with you but I also disagree with the misconception that you actually need to directly feel it when most trans people are out of their bodies. When you’re not living in the right body you don’t actually feel alive enough to feel everything emotionally and physically. Every brain is different, every human develops different coping mechanisms throughout the years to cope with difficult situations. Repression and distraction is a pretty good way to live safely in a judgmental world.
You've become what you were against. I have been sick over the cancel culture in the entire community. We don't allow for anyone who has a different opinion than the group and we have to hold ppl accountable when none of us are perfect. If you can say you have never hurt another person with your words or actions you're lying to yourself and everyone else.
I understand if no one wants to explain what probably seems like common sense to y'all but I'm very confused. . . . I think I've watched every video against Kalvin and why his views are wrong, but I still don't get why viewing being trans as a medical condition is trans. What other people do is their business, but I don't think people without dysphoria are in the same group as me (FTM). I don't think you need to medically transition to be transgender but for me it is medical condition and it isn't something I tell people who don't absolutely need to know, I don't identify with basically anyone in the trans community except for Kalvin, (but he's gone for now.) As for the bullying thing, I'm of the opinion that anything publicly up for anyone to see is okay to give your opinion on, whether your a minor or not isn't relevant. Also I know that the fans of his that went and harassed the people he's talked about are in the wrong but I don't see how it's his responsibility to control other people. This is kind of jumbled, but I just don't understand why someone without dysphoria can be trans, there isn't any reason I can think of people who don't have dysphoria to be trans. To me it's like saying you're a lesbian but exclusively dating and having sex with men.
Who cares. Its already over, he's leaving. He admitted he was wrong and you're just keeping this going. Move on. I've heard his stuff. Many of you can be just as toxic. Just move on. Like, is this just for views because it's hot right now?
Man, when I was 12 I thought I was genderfluid and was experimenting with my gender. Then I found Kalvin Garrah. After that, I went back into the closet and said it was super cringey and carried all his beliefs.
Now I'm out as a trans man!! I would've realized it a lot sooner if I didn't find his content, but it is what it is 😔
we rlly had the same life huh 😭🤚
Same but now I’m non-binary.
There were a lot of Kalvin's fans trying to claim that he doesn't really bully anyone, he's simply "calling them out" yeah, these people think that misgendering someone on purpose and body shaming them is the same as calling someone out. I don't even understand WHY would Kalvin and his fans care so much how some people represent themselves? Like, how does that affect them? I'm genuinely curious. I myself do not care if someone likes to use neopronouns or something. As long as you don't hurt anyone, you can do whatever you wan't with your life.
I mean, tbh neo pronouns just make things more complicated than they need to be. That's the actual issue. They us enough.
Do a lot treat this as a social treat like he said? Yeah, he isn't completely wrong. Hes entitled to his opinion, just like you. Does it effect others? Yes. Social communication isn't one person. Other people have to use the others neo pronoun which means it effects others.
Idk if this is an NT thing and they take social communication for granted or what
I dont fo outside so none of this exists for me
It's for several reasons. My reasoning at the time was that Kalvin was my introduction to the gender part of LGBT. I got caught up in the oddities I saw in the victims and didn't stop to think critically about how inhumane it was to judge their gender by that standard. Part of that was me being immature and part was my own struggles with identity.
Another reason I see a lot is internalized transphobia. Trans people feel more valid if they can "other" GNC people that they think cis people will lump them in with. Some are actually GNC or trans/nonbinary themselves and they project their insecurities onto others. It's a way to affirm their gender, either as being a "normal" trans person or staying in the closet.
Then there's the cis people. I don't really know why they get on board with it. I think it's because their exposure to the trans experience is limited, they're detached from the community it affects, and/or they've had the binary drilled into them to the point of feeling righteous.
I'm not a fan at all. But seeing how bullied he's been for ten months now I see how I was part of cancel culture and we have become what we were against. If you all can't see how toxic holding others accountable can be, wait until it's you. Bc none of us are perfect and we have created an environment which there's no mistakes allowed and no room for growth. Who decides you're sincere enough or have changed?
Woo for him leaving 🥳
When I was in the process of figuring out that I was non-binary his videos were so harmful for me in my journey and were very upsetting for me. I’m so glad to see him gone.
Ex Kalvin Garrah supporter here - I'm a demigirl now!
Ex Kalvin fan here as well, these days I identify as nonbinary 💛💜🖤
Why is that important he supports Demi and nb
@@AnimeGuy221 Not 4 years ago
@@jacketfr who cares? People change
@@AnimeGuy221 he hasn’t changed.
Two things:
1) I have never heard of Kalvin before and by the sounds of it I’m lucky
2) No ones going to say how pretty their hair is
Memento Mori friend 😔
Re: your question at the end - what about taking it in the other direction? Making videos highlighting creators who are building beneficial communities and fostering empathy and kindness? Might be a good way to get the best of both worlds. :) Thanks for taking the time to talk about this, I must confess I didn't know much about the situation before but I'm glad it's being discussed.
I’ve definitely been thinking about doing that. I’ve already got one in the works for Ash Hardell because they’re thinking about coming back to UA-cam and I want them to know how much good they’ve done in helping the community☺️
@@lynnsaga1397 Yes absolutely! I have such respect for Ash, they're a big reason why I was able to figure out I was asexual, thanks to the ABC's of LGBT+ series! I really appreciate the kindness and thoughtfulness you're putting out there with your videos. Keep up the great work, Lynn! 😊
@@lynnsaga1397 i miss ash so much I'd love to see them come back they personally helped me at explaining my sexuality and people questioned the validity of it I love their book and i hope their okay
@@lynnsaga1397 If you would like some good trans creators check out Jammidodger and Sam Collins. They helped me so much and are the lest problematic people out there.
I saw some of Kalvin's videos and there was a certain point where I felt negativity rolling off of him. It made me super uncomfortable. I stopped after that. I'm a transmasculine person, and when I saw his video where he basically said that trans people are binary and that we have to be within the binary when it came to dressing, pronouns, roles, etc. I'll admit that that sh*t hurt me. I'm transmasculine, not a transman *because* I refuse to conform to gender roles. Yes, I want to be perceived male when people see me, but I never want people to expect me to conform to boxes.
I'm so grateful that people like you are speaking out against Kalvin Garrah.
His "transtrender" video about Brennan came out just before I realised I'm nonbinary and that video and others have hurt me so much. It's been super hard to accept myself and understand my own gender because he said those things when I was young, questioning and really looked up to him.
I'm relieved that at least he's not making harmful content now
I can't believe I used to support Kalvin. I'm honestly happy the victims of his bullying came forward. It was a really brave thing to do and I'm ashamed I used to agree with him, so I'm happy to support ALL trans people and understand all trans people better
Used to like him, now I’m finally able to realize I’m a NB Genderfluid person who uses multiple pronouns including neoprounouns who presents fem most of the time. I probably would have realized it sooner but I was scared back into the closet because I didn’t want to be seen as a “”transtrender”” 😐
For the last 5 or so years I have especially felt discomfort towards being afab and I keep telling myself "Youre just trans" but I still like some of the femininity I have and because of the community he has caused I have tried to not be feminine at all. I didn't realize until just a month or two ago how hard I was trying to be what I'm not. I've never fully felt female and even when I was trying to convince myself I was trans it felt wrong. Because I watched him for so long and partook in the transmed part of instagram flop accounts I now have internalized hatred towards being non-binary. I had a friend group, I just realized this stuff today, and one person was agender/trans male (they were still figuring it out) and one who was trans male, I had hated that they supported non-binary genders although I never said it to anyone. I feel that had partly lead to the reason none of us talk anymore, I didn't want to be around someone who I didn't agree with. But now I realize that I was just trying to hate myself and I feel bad. I still look at my wardrobe and feel like its not masculine enough because I have been wearing leggings for the last two weeks and I own clothes from the womens department. I do have a lot of dysphoria with my chest but I appreciate the way the rest of my body is for the most part. I feel dysphoria at being called She but am mostly okay with He, I much prefer they/them. I've also repressed trying to have a name I like, I've always felt more comfortable with names of objects or non-names. I've just come to terms with the fact I prefer to be called Ink rather than what I had told everyone I wanted to be called, although I am not gonna change that because of confusion.
I wish I could not have this internalized hatred for who I am but I don't think I can. I don't have any community to talk to to lessen my hatred but watching all these videos coming out on kalvin has helped me a little bit.
Tldr: I hate myself because of Kalvins rederick.
This makes me content. I'm happy he's leaving, I feel like it's something everyone needs (yes, him as well). I wish he'd delete the harmful videos he's posted where he's bullied people as well, though I don't hold out much hope, unfortunately ;-;
I don't want to take away from the video, but I have a request? If that's okay?^^; I was wondering if you could start captioning your videos? It'd be really helpful for deaf/hoh viewers, people whose first language isn't English (like myself), people that have auditory processing issues (like myself again lol), etc. It'd be a way to make your channel more inclusive and your videos more enjoyable!^^ (I hope this comment doesn't come across as a "You MUST do this because I say so mwa ha ha," it's just a suggestion!^^ Don't feel pressured to reply)
I’ve been trying to look into different apps that could add captions. If you know of any good ones let me know!! The only reason I haven’t been adding them before is because I work a full time job and putting them in manually takes a lot of time. But I completely understand and I’ll be looking to see what I can do!☺️
i love your hair whats ya pronouns
Thanks😅 when I was editing all I could think is it looked so bad lol. And my pronouns are they/them☺️
It seems like he’s running from his own actions, rather than try to change his views. It just seems rather suspicious to see him flee everything as soon as everything he’s done has come to light.. there have been people who addressed him privately and tried to reason with him, but he just kept being the same, regardless. Him leaving was most likely him running from his own damage. If he can avoid it, then he is no longer responsible, so to speak.
Good vid overall I'm not as optimistic cuz he needs to delete all of his toxic videos 🤷🏿♀️
I do not support kalvin and never have. That being said, university is expensive, there are times I have supported contacting someones school(when a known scammer/youtuber who literally tried to ruin a mans life with horrific lies and lied about all their medical conditions. It makes sense to warn the school, as every student is a potential target for them. Even that backfired though, the school simply told the literal scammer and they got a restraining order on the person who reported to the school) I know Kalvins views are harmful, toxic, have hurt people but sadly, the reality is we cant stop them by preventing their education. If anything its possible that higher education could help teach tolerance and if not, sadly far too many people in and out of our classrooms, at every level, think like Kalvin or even worse. As nice as it would be to only allow open minded, respectful, kind humans to have the right to a education, taking away his education would only further validate his hate for the people he has attacked in the past. He would simply double down on his awful views because in his mind. I also know how expensive school is and i cant imagine being kicked out after paying so much, or your parents paying so much
Years ago, my former professor came out as trans and was kicked out and fired from her job. She was outed by someone and the college didnt want her representing them. Its so tragic
did you see RGR's response? I was so galled to see her act like a parent and poke her head into Brennan's business just to make prescriptive statements of how he should have acted to get "good" or "efficient" responses out of Kalvin.
I actually didn’t. If you wanna drop a link I’d like to see that
@@lynnsaga1397 ua-cam.com/video/roKTz7bhrnQ/v-deo.html Xanderhal starts his stream talking about his relationship with Kalvin, then invites RGR to speculate with him around the 1 hour mark. (Brennan on live stream commented how Xan was playing a video game while talking about their trauma--this is what they were referencing.) Idk i was just amazed that these two adult "Allies" just barging in like they owned the place
@@toericabaker RGR is a trans woman, not an ally?? I think her response has been trash too, but let's not start acting like that makes her suddenly not trans.
Kalvin’s content was toxic and prevented me from coming to terms with my gender identity for many years. I stopped watching Kalvin’s content about a month ago and afterwards came to terms with being non-binary.
I disagree. Let kalvin go to a uni and get a law degree he will never be able to use because of his rhetoric. All that money wasted.
Thanks for your video. I've been following this on a few other channels and what you are describing here strikes me as a microcosm of what is sweeping the United States right now - a return to civility, common kindness and decency, and a rebuke of the hateful bullying that's been going on. Although I am far too old (almost 66) to jump into this discussion actively on UA-cam, I've pointed out a couple things that I have ascertained about this person based on my own observation and knowledge of human behavior. I suspect they suffer from internalized transphobia and self-loathing as well as one of the Cluster B personality disorders which are characterized by dramatic, overly emotional, or unpredictable thinking or behavior. These include - antisocial personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder. I further suspect they have an active drug and/or alcohol addiction. My advice to everyone is - stop feeding them with attention - their hunger for attention and being in the spotlight will never be satiated. Move on with your own fabulous lives, leave this one to sink into the dung-heap of history where his kind belongs, and let's all go forward to create more positive role models for our community.
glad to see the outpouring of videos criticizing him and his content. not expecting any kind of apology or attempts to make amends from him, but glad that awareness of the harm he does is spreading
I like to come back to the Kalvin Garrah criticism very often. I used to be a fan of his when I was young which pushed me into the closet as I decided I must have been misunderstanding what I was feeling because I trusted and believed him when he said he spoke for the “real” community. Even after I stopped supporting him I still doubted myself, and even after Moe’s video when I truly understood why he was so very extremely wrong, I was scared to know myself and my own gender because of the ideas he and others like him put into my head. In many ways, I still struggle, but what’s helped me the most is being around other queer people that exist for themselves instead of for the people who think they’re weird. The lead of one of my favorite bands, of Montreal, is genderqueer and their concerts are so alive and real, and their gender is directly tied to that. It’s impossible for me to look at them and see their ethereal gender and their total freedom from the cissies and think that gender is wrong and has to be a certain way or that it isn’t worth living life authentically, no matter the consequences. So yeah, if anyone else out there still struggles from Kalvin’s ideology, even though you know he’s wrong, you’ll make progress and eventually you’ll grow into a beautiful butterfly and be as queer as you’re meant to be. Find others like you who are who they want to be, and suddenly it won’t be so scary to be who you want to be
Kalvin: Hi everyone, its getting a bit harder so I'm gonna leave for a bit
The trans community: dont let the door hit ya on the way out 💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿
I feel so much regret that I quietly agreed with Kalvin’s views for a little bit. I’m a 27 year old man, and there’s no excuse for that. There’s no reason to support an immature bully who picks on children, especially when most of the people he picks on are just existing. If he’s gonna dish it out he better be ready to take it
This man wants to be a lawyer, that doesn't sound like a good idea.
I just wanted to say I love your energy. You are very well spoken and really easy to listen to!
I mostly agree with what you said and also think it would be fine for a university to be informed about the views of their students, but the way you said it made it kinda not sit right with me. I'm not really the most educated or smart person so I cant really articulate it well, but I still wanted to share. I think the way people are approaching the issue is not helpful really. Those who are reporting him are obviously angry, which is understandable but anger usually makes us remember things more extreme than they actually were which can make us twist a situation in our favor when it isn't actually that black or white. I'm not saying he didn't do anything wrong, but the things said about him let's the staff, which aren't necessarily checking the truth of the claims in-depth, interpret his deeds much differently and harsher than they might if they were just generally informed in a more objective way because they now already have a certain image of him in their heads. Like I said im not the most articulate or smart person so maybe I am wrong. if someone disagrees I'd love to hear your assessment of that part. Sorry for the stupidly long text.
I agree with you wholeheartedly. People are not helping the situation at all, and are actually making things way worse. I follow Kalvin on Instagram (has since made it private) he actually made several post already about it but someone DOXXED him!!! I’m so appalled and shocked that hardly no one is talking about it. The hate for him has gotten too far in my eyes.
@@pikopokopoki9225 exactly! I think it is always fine to dislike someone's opinions, but ruining their lives is not going to help anyone. He sure has to take responsibility for what harm he has done, but the way it is treated makes me think we still live in medieval times where a false is made right by paying an eye for an eye....
It's wild. I used to watch him quite often was would consider myself a fan of him at the time, I stopped watching him as I just grew a distaste for his videos, I later came out as nonbinary as well. I looked him up a few days ago after not hearing anything about him for ages, only to see him cancelled. ☠️☠️ ~Leelah
completely off topic but what books do u have in the background
It’s all my roommates books so I have no idea lol
@@lynnsaga1397 ahh aight thank you anyways lol
The dog in the background: 🤬🐕
The fact I use to watch him and I never really noticed how bad he was / affected me till I started watching alot of videos about how toxic he was and stuff like that and then I realized after
maybe thats why my dysphoria is so much worse than it was before 😂🙂
Yeeeeeah my dysphoria got better after I stopped watching him too. I got a lot more comfortable in myself and who I am and didn't base it off some trans meds on youtube
I’m ashamed to say I was kalvin garrah fan and I am now nonbinary
I think you need some sort of dysphoria to be trans. But I’m not going to make it a point 24/7 to tell people. Instead of having conversations he doesn’t understand that when you release that sort of negativity out in the community it just makes us all look bad. Bullying people isn’t a way to make yourself feel like “you’re the most trans” and anyone different is just faking. We all figure ourselves in our own way. Not everyone’s transition is the same and we all need time to support and help each other.
I hope this makes sense.
I think that a lot of dysphoria can be repressed. I hope my experience could make you understand other trans people who claim to have no dysphoria, which they actually do most of the time but it’s just very ignored through distraction. I have had very very repressed dysphoria most of my life. I never paid attention to my body, I wasn’t in my body ever and this still happens but since I’m more connected from discovering I might be trans although I never felt the very intense dysphoria from repression I actually am feeling pretty intense dysphoria now which I still try to ignore. Sometimes I have a hard time figuring out what makes me uncomfortable because I’m so out of my body but one thing I’ll tell you for sure is that although my dysphoria was not very visible most of my life it exists it’s just heavily ignored. I think a lot of other people in the community are like this and do not realise they’re trans because they don’t « feel » dysphoric from constantly ignoring their issues. I’m at a point where throughout the years I have developed social anxiety, very bad anxiety from ignoring my bouts of wants to be a man. It has slowly made me very self destructive and socially isolated. I don’t wish this to anyone else in the community, please know that spreading the misconception that you need to *feel* constant dysphoria to be trans could be damaging to the young repressed trans kids who won’t admit to themselves they are. It’s very easy to educate your brain into ignoring your bodily senses, everything around you and just go into mental space mode. I agree with you but I also disagree with the misconception that you actually need to directly feel it when most trans people are out of their bodies. When you’re not living in the right body you don’t actually feel alive enough to feel everything emotionally and physically. Every brain is different, every human develops different coping mechanisms throughout the years to cope with difficult situations. Repression and distraction is a pretty good way to live safely in a judgmental world.
And this is why I think that being trans is more about gender euphoria than gender dysphoria. If it makes you feel better and makes you happier.
You have a very nice voice friend :) I also love your sweatshirt thanks for making this vid I appreciate hearing your opinions on this!
Subbing cause this video is good and we share the same birthday!
You've become what you were against. I have been sick over the cancel culture in the entire community. We don't allow for anyone who has a different opinion than the group and we have to hold ppl accountable when none of us are perfect. If you can say you have never hurt another person with your words or actions you're lying to yourself and everyone else.
Who is Kelvin garrah
hell
I understand if no one wants to explain what probably seems like common sense to y'all but I'm very confused.
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I think I've watched every video against Kalvin and why his views are wrong, but I still don't get why viewing being trans as a medical condition is trans. What other people do is their business, but I don't think people without dysphoria are in the same group as me (FTM). I don't think you need to medically transition to be transgender but for me it is medical condition and it isn't something I tell people who don't absolutely need to know, I don't identify with basically anyone in the trans community except for Kalvin, (but he's gone for now.)
As for the bullying thing, I'm of the opinion that anything publicly up for anyone to see is okay to give your opinion on, whether your a minor or not isn't relevant. Also I know that the fans of his that went and harassed the people he's talked about are in the wrong but I don't see how it's his responsibility to control other people.
This is kind of jumbled, but I just don't understand why someone without dysphoria can be trans, there isn't any reason I can think of people who don't have dysphoria to be trans. To me it's like saying you're a lesbian but exclusively dating and having sex with men.
Hey that was great :) may I ask your pronouns and your gender ? 👉👈
My pronouns are they/them and I’m agenderflux ☺️ but I say non-binary in case folks don’t know what that is
@@lynnsaga1397 That’s awesome I googled it thank you for teaching me a new identity :)
Who cares. Its already over, he's leaving. He admitted he was wrong and you're just keeping this going. Move on.
I've heard his stuff. Many of you can be just as toxic. Just move on. Like, is this just for views because it's hot right now?
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