@@jtom3552 I'm a guy with mild autism but I have two houses paid off in cash, buying my third now and I;m not even 30, make well over average salary, have my own car, have a decent education an I'm on the road to being a millionaire. Compare that with an overweight, unemployed woman with no car and kids from some other guy. Hmmmmm... I think I'm the prize personally and the onus is on the woman to keep ME happy and not me to keep her happy.
@zadose women are not a prize. This be the reason why many of you guys get dumped and cheated on. You focus on your own goals its more to life than chicks. You are a prize because you are on this earth for a purpose. A girl is the cherry on top. She will fall in place some time in the future.
@@cromlaughsatyourfourwinds8333 The only sucker here is yourself. You probably don’t even take care of your own kids, so why bother with another woman that has kids.
@@kwamewilliams5608 I agree with jazz, you owe it to yourself for a better life, especially if you don't have kids. It's pretty standard women can still have the good life catered to them by society (from simps, sugar daddies, to the government). But life never cater to us men. If we want anything grant in life we'll have to work and make sacrifices for them. I've tried dating single moms in my 20s and learned it didn't help me in any way.
Guys I am there, I have proposed and I have realised that, I have never wanted to date some1 with kids. She is an outstanding woman but my heart is not at peace, worse we have tried to have kids for over 7 months now and it's not happening. She has 2 kids! I was so stressed and tried dating some1 else to my surprised she got pregnant the first time! Sadly she had a miscarriage. Even yesterday I didn't even sleep, sm not happy!
@@wisemanmdlalosemdlalose8298 Are you unhappy because you haven't fathered any children of your own? Why not get married first of all? I don't understand the logic behind men who don't want to date single mothers, but they, themselves try to create single mothers.
No. Have done that. Here's what I think. Men and women with children should date men and women with children. I dont want to prematurely jump into a role that I haven't taken on yet. If I had kids and become a single parent, I would definitely date men with kids as well.
I dated more than one women with a child or children and I WILL never do it again...the dynamics are too complex and they the woman tend to be implacable.
@Some Guy Hey Some Guy, I agree with you about the quality of selflessness of Love and in all its forms too. A child can come first in a mother's life...But to be implacable concerning self development, aims and moving forward and using children to justify it is not good.
@Some Guy My daughter is first...its a area of life that requires compromise and mature (out of the bedroom) planning and commitment to make things work. The dynamics of all involved are to be equally considered.
I dodged a bullet. Three years ago I began dating a chick who wanted to move in with me almost immediately. It seemed very strange to me because it was unusual for a woman to suggest something like that. To cut a long story short I found out she was already pregnant and who the baby daddy was. So I ended the relationship.
Horrible advice! He can’t be serious.. why would you raise another mans child? That’s not your dna, if she breaks up with you, you’ll never see the kid again.. you have zero rights. You won’t be able discipline that child and raise it like your own... you tripping man, there’s so many women in the world and you’ll settle for a single mom? Some guys be so thirsty to get laid, that they’ll settle for anything...🤦🏻♂️ Single moms should only date single dads. Period.
Charles Gerety Then you have to accept the consequences that come with that. And pray that it works for the best, if not then you’ll learn from it and choose wisely next time. But the idea is not to put yourself in that situation in the first place! Good luck 👍
Sam Cam So you mean I only have to date with single dads too? Ohhh.. but what about I am dating a man who even can’t have an own baby with any other woman because of his health problem? Duh it’s depend on the situation as long as both of you helping each other with no regrets
Not entirely true. Depends on the type of person the mother is... whether she allow or disallow contact after the fact. Also depends on the amount of bonding between kids & significant other at the time. Where there is substance, it won't matter who says what. Love prevails.
Have been very careful not to help bring any children into this world, nor do I want someone else's... I don't think that's a such crime to stay away from all that!
I will never take care of something that isn't mine point blank because you never know if the father to those kids eventually is going to want his family back.
@@JayLawson you feel like a third wheel because you weren’t alpha enough of a man to tell her how things are going to go if you are being there as a father figure. she needs YOU not the other way around
@@venomforhonor i did tell her how it was going to be. That does not negate feeling like its not your own legacy you are building. Its a bad deal in most cases, has nothing to do with being alpha or beta. You are automatically in a beta role if you take care of my seed for me.
F - No. Single mothers are always focused on the kids first, her job second and you fall in line somewhere after that. I have ZERO interest in that. Can’t even go out unless she can find a baby sitter, even then she has to be home at a specific time because of that, and eventually, you end up paying for the kids directly or indirectly. I don’t date women with kids.
Of course they are focused on the kids first. That's there kids. What you need 100% attention 24/7? My girl has 2 kids. I'm not going to leave her because most of her attention is on her kids. I honestly don't have any problems dating women who have kids. I don't mind buying food and her kids eating some of the food. My girl doesn't ask me to pay for everything that her kids want. I don't need 100% attention all the time. I'm not a little kid. I'm a man I can occupy myself. Yes I like going out and watching a movie with my girl. It's not hard for her to find someone to watch her kids. How late do you really need to be out with her? What you really need to be out till 4am? I think having dinner together and watching a movie together is enough time. Usually she could get a babysitter for that amount of time or even a little longer.
If her kids come first, and you're the real dad, then that's much better. Plus, you gotta hear about this kids dad? If he's a solid dead beat dad, then she's gonna wanna complain to you about him, most likely more than you care to hear.
@@denimlether5812 I get what you are saying. But honestly I really do love my girlfriend. I guess to me it doesn't matter whether she has kids or not. We met online. Yes I actually met her in person. I met her in person last June I traveled to the Philippines just to meet her. We went to Bangkok for 5days without her kids. Next we are going to Singapore without her kids. So for her it's really not that hard for her to find a babysitter. I have had other relationships with girls that have kids and the relationship never ended because of the kids. I guess some people have a different outlook on this. Everyone feels different about this. I don't think it's necessary or fair to talk down to people who are in relationships with girls that have kids. If someone chooses to be with a girl that has kids that is there choice.
@@xgamerunknown6414 Her kids come first yes. The problem is that someone ELSE'S kids are more of a priority on her life than you are. No man wants to be 3rd priority to some other guys kids.
Ladies with kids.....should date dudes with kids. Brady Bunch status. That way they can understand each other more. As for me, nope. Been there, done that. I don't want kids period. Why should I take care of kids that don't belong to me?
True. It's not a single person's job to fix a single parent's mistakes. They chose to lay down with the wrong person, not me. Single parents should date single parents.
@@donblackwell5564 Nobody is looking for a person to fix mistakes... Most single moms would prefer to date single dads because they have something in common... I wanted to date single dads myself, but the man I ended up marrying doesn't have kids, and might not be able to give me anymore children, but he is a great stepdad to my son. To God be the glory ❤
Some STDs can't be rinsed though just saying. Do you let the "single moms" know what you're REALLY after and your current health status PRIOR to what you give them? Do you ask for the same from them for your own peace of mind? That whole informed consent stuff...also, do you get regular checkups in-between the smashes and dashes? Just wondering...
Back when I was single and childless kids were a definite deal breaker simply because if the relationship ever got to the point of marriage and kids I wanted to share that for the first time with someone that's also experiencing those moments for the first time
Great advice but no, and no. Sorry, just my opinion. I can see divorced people joining families but, I'm not looking for that extra baggage. No matter how good it may seem in the beginning, there's all sorts of realities that will come into play later. Is the child's biological parent going to cause trouble? The financial entanglements with the child's parent? What type of emotional pitfalls are you facing? Nothing personal, but where's the upside? And I also have trouble with this thought process, particularly in the black community, that the "good men" have some social obligation to "step up to the plate" for these single mothers and raise some dead beat's child. How about we get back to teaching women and girls to lock it down? It's one thing to choose to be a single parent, but "baby mama" is not a protected status, something to aspire to, nor something good single men should have to settle for because society is afraid to dish out some tough love.
I rather date a woman that older and her kids are grown and out of her home. I don't want to deal with the baby daddy drama!! I want peace of mind and not look over my shoulders.
I dated a single mother for a while when I was 22 other than a smash and dash; no thanks never again.. When after you invest time, money, energy, and emotions developing a relationship with her and the kid/s as well as the drama with the ex/baby daddy she breaks it off.. No matter how much you contribute and care for the kids YOU WILL NEVER SEE THEM AGAIN; the pain is exponential compared to a female with no baggage.
22 years ago, I married a man with no kids when I was a divorced mother of two. When my youngest son got married this summer, he wanted his stepdad there but his father wasn't even invited. I think that pretty much sums it up.
@@jjwalidjj2410 I'm a single mom. You know why? Because the one who left is the dad. Not the mother. When the child is growing up all that the kid see was his mom, all the good things, such as taking care of the kid while growing up, the one who picks up and drops of to school, the one who buys what kid needs. Bc it's only the mom who raises her kid not the dad. Its just makes the dad look bad bc he wasn't there through all these years.. got it? Not bc we, single moms tells them that they are bad.. it's common sense.. would see your dad good too even though you don't really feel that he's there? It's common sense right? It's called parenting.. if the dad is not a parent then he doesn't recognized as one by the kid
@@hello_its_sara 70 % of divorces are initiated by females in usa ,i don't live there i live in an islamic country where the mom take care of the children until 7 yo then the father take care of the rest ,but in the USA i see that they give full custody to the mom 99 % of the time,so the father can't see children that often even if he want to ,so do u think this is fair?
@@jjwalidjj2410 hmm... If I were to ask, I'm not gonna be just a "housewife" who takes care of kids.. I want me and my husband to take turns of responsibility.. For me, I want to do the things I want in life, especially to work and financially support myself (lol.. I don't want to ask him money that I didn't worked hard for) because the husband is just a husband. He can love and support you throughout but it will never give you what you want.. when it comes to divorce it depends on a family if they want to see the dad. Sometimes it depends on kids. When you go to court, children and moms are their priority bc that's the way the law works unless the moms are abusive or drug addict then you can fight with the custody of the child.
Wonder why his "Previous" relationship with those "wonderful" ones didnt work out.. Would love to hear that story... cause at the end of the day he did not marry her... She expected you to put her and her kids at the top of your list but she can't... It's not equal.. no where near..... listen to him if you like being like 5th on her list.... below the dog.
I understand where you’re coming from but without getting into much detail I would say most women with kids are looking for stability and financial guidance. They usually can’t support themselves or support themselves well enough and they begin to rely on you and that puts a strain on the relationship balancing your finances with her’s even though you’re not married yet (just dating) but in your best interest try to accommodate what she and the kids need. After personal experience, I highly recommended caution when thinking about dating someone with kids, especially if you can’t even support yourself, how do you think it’s going to be in the relationship? Bad.
Most normal women in general are looking for security... Do you understand the nature of a woman? Men are supposed to provide for their wife and kids...
The problem is that single mothers expect you to put in all the work and spend all your money while you aren't even first priority. Relationship is supposed to be a win win situation on both sides. The only one winning is the single mom draining all your finance. If you are going to date a single mom then at least make sure she can handle herself without government assistance. That is the very least you should do before jumping in so you can be sure you're not just some atm.
So if it wasn’t about money then it would be ok I’m a single mother and work problem was he didn’t want to commit because he wanted that first child experience and yet stayed with me for a year …. I was financially taking care of him and my child so I beg to differ completely some moms expect at not every mother expects financial assistance
@@PhoenixK23assuming you’re a good person, you’re prob the only type of single mom a guy would date. most single moms literally care about just what you can pay for. sometimes the man is left feeling like he’s just an atm and not a human.
@@PhoenixK23I would date a single mom if the kid was rarely around and I didn’t have to pay for his expenses. small stuff here and there might be ok but that woman would have to be something special to me
I'm sorry but with my woman it just breaks my heart as her 8 year old son is a constant reminder that she was with some guy who is way gone outta the picture
I never had problems with it until i dated 3 single moms for long term and omg . No no no i want my own kid with someone who has no kids no friends with an ex and enemies with the other and all that drama .
AO you're financial advise is on point but, I'm going to have to disagree with you on this one. I'm speaking from personal experience on this issue. Never date a single mother. The only time I'd consider jumping down that rabbit hole is if the kids are over 18 and have a good head on their shoulders. I fortunately will never have that problem of choice again as I've made it a rule to not date any woman over the age of 25 and a big no no if they have kids. You're a great advice giver and I love & value your videos but, dating a single mom has to be one of the worst pieces of advice to give young men and old.
I went the widow route (she didn't have kids) and she was emotionally crippled, even after 3 years. She couldn't commit because she assumed she had closure, but it just wasn't there. It's too bad too, because we would have been awesome together. 😕
Confused by all these negative comments. I have a 3yr old daughter. Unfortunately 4 months after birthing her, me and her father just didn’t work out, mutually agreed it would be best if we coparent and stay friends. We have an amazing friendship and my little girl is very well taken care of. He has had a gf of two years and we all get along so well. I just find it weird that some of these men automatically think we “single mothers ” want a “father” for our child. Sometimes that isn’t the case...my daughter has a active very involved dad! So a man with no kids shouldn’t date me because I have a daughter and because her father and I made the ADULT decision not raise her in a home that would eventually turn toxic?
Thats nice advice, but a huge undertaking just to date someone. Dating her AND the kids? Plus, you won't be number one in your own relationship? Who would sign up for that willingly? By the way, you didnt mention that you also have to deal with the baby mama or daddy. That's a lot of drama when you can just date someone without kids.
Date yes ! Marry NO! ....... I want biological children most women with children don’t want more.... And yes, The child is number 1 Date with a purpose, Smash
NOT IN THESE TIMES!! Maybe back in the 60s, 70s, 80s and 90s. As a man with no kids, you cannot build anything with them. LET THEM FIND THEIR OWN WAY. Had a close friend marry one who had just one 1 son and that fell apart after 2 years. They married because they needed an apartment and he SIMPED for her and he ended up losing his job because of her. You will get arrested like the baby's daddy and past boyfriends if you don't follow her commands. You are not selfish for not wanting to deal with them. You can only tell their children that the mother has to play victim to get by. But not all single mothers are the same. Some are widowed.
Love is love . You can really control that so I wouldn’t cancel someone just because they have kids , you could easily go marry someone who doesn’t have kids & they end up being a terrible parent/husband/wife. Don’t put rules on love & relationships & miss your blessings .
Possibly marrying the wrong person, is not as risky as going along with someone who already has a downside. Using the word 'love' has been overdone. Reality shouldn't be ignored because love is supposed to be some word with superior powers.
The big question is: when you get past dating and say, get married, are the kids the number one priority still? If a couple that is not divorced makes their kids a priority and not their spouse isn’t that one reason they are divorced? I understand when dating. But when it goes past that? It seems to me you make your relationship a priority for the kids. Who, wants to always be third or fourth when you share half of the responsibilities. Parents need to be on the same page in dealing with kids. There needs to be a lot of communication. And stop being kids friends! Kids need parents to be parents. And to do that the parents need to stick together. Even if they might not always agree. Disagree behind closed doors. And communicate. Kids will take a mile especially in a blended family. The big difference here is what ages are the kids? Studies show bonding with a child becomes very difficult past 6 years of age. The next thing is what the relationship with the biological? How well does everyone communicate? There are many issues that can, that will change me up dating a woman with kids. If you don’t take it slow, understand what you are getting into, communication often, discuss parenting styles, boundaries, discipline styles. You will have a ton of problems. Remember, every adult with problems, their problems stemmed in childhood. So, unless you are emotionally mature, financially ready, and willing to be unselfish for someone else’s kids it probably won’t work. It is a huge endeavor to undertake. A life commitment.
The only difference is, when men have kids the kid is rarely around so it's almost like they're living the life as if they don't have a child. That makes it easier for the person that they're dating which is the woman. When a woman has a child, the man has to deal with her children. Because she is a primary caregiver. It's better to enter the child's life when they are a baby so you can build a relationship from the beginning. Watch the child reaches four or five years old, it's over. They knows you're not then father will have no problem telling you that. Not all but most kids... no matter how much you do for the child, when a child turns 18, all your hard work hope to be thrown out the window. The child May respect you but that's it, no real love for you though. Then you will never be a priority in the woman's life. She will always choose her children over you which is okay but I believe everybody wants to be a priority and somebody else's life. The family tree hierarchy doesn't involve kids being first. If the mom dad, husband and wife supposed to be first then Kids come after. And if you don't put me first while we are dating, what makes me think putting a ring on the finger she will put me first. The only way you will be a priority is if you are the father of her kids but if you are a new person coming around, hang it up
It’s never easier dating a single dad as a childless woman ! Single dads are on time and financial restraints that don’t benefit a stable relationship! Too much past baggage and drama especially with the ex ! I don’t understand why single dads think they’re more entitled?
@@MelaniaRose I had a bad experience , he had to see his daughters (2 Lil girls) in the mother's house, he invited me to go somewhere later as soon the mother arrives, guess what ? She came late and he only texted me the other day lol Thank God, I never opened my heart to him because I knew it was not worth it at all besides he is very womanizer, I quit and never said the reasons, I prefer let the next victim to do my part haha. I left and just feeling sorry for his next girlfriends, baby mama drama+ kids+his actions.
When I was dating I dated a guy with a daughter and I quickly realized that I came third after his baby and after his job. And the DRAMA with his ex was constant. There was no room for me. Even as I tried to adjust and bond with both him and his daughter, I ended up feeling like I was being taken advantage of. There was very little to gain from that situation. So we stayed homies until I started dating someone in my own lifestage. My advice to people with children is to date other single people with children and for women especially to be very careful with men around your kids. Men are dangerous, not evil, but dangerous. Just like God created fire which is useful and good, but dangerous, men were created just like that. So be careful.
@2 Finger Stinger I think your comment has merit. But it's not at all relevant to what I was talking about. ....I think you just have a problem with the Bible....
My beliefs on dating someone with children are: I wouldn't date them because I don't have kids and if wanted kids I would have made my own instead of taking care of someone else's.
@@ellitestar thanks bro. The guy making the video had a bad childhood, bad parent's and was calling some stranger dad but yet still has the nerve to give advice. Don't listen people and avoid single mom's.
@@mcali-reviews5585 Sometimes we already know what to do, but we still don't do it and I believe that sometimes we just need to hear it again out loud in order for it to ingrained in our thick head of ours. I'm glad I was reminded again by your wise & valuable comment! good advice.👍
Thank you for this comment! I was a single mom with 2 little kids. I left an abusive husband. Then God brought me my husband now and he is a wonderful step parent and husband... so many mean comments on this video. Nice to see a positive one. 😊
@@josiesmith4711 God bless you, dear. The mean comments are from foolish, simple-minded people who will reap what they sow. My ex cheated on me and God gave me a man who genuinely loves me and my son. I have never felt so loved by a man. God is good. ❤
my gf who ive been dating 2 years has 5 kids 2 of them 16 other 10 8 and 5 they are old enough to know im not there dad and not trying to replace him her ex is still around i try stay out of that not my place to interfere between him seeing his kids. i try to help her best i can shes a strong interdependent woman who gets too proud to ask for help sometimes her youngest told her before he wished that i was his daddy it did bring a tear to my eye my advise is obviously do bond with the children try not get too attached at first and dont rush it its going to take time be there friend not there dad when its all said and done if they call you daddy its up to them.
Man that kid didnt say that, thats her tryna get you in your feeling to slick around long term or to step up and adopt. Your life your choices but you're better than me. 😭💀
So, I agree with be respectful but know what you want and be honest. I am not interested in a blended family or raising someone else’s children. But I don’t need to, one can have a great relationship based on your disposable time together.
This is a heated topic that needed more time and details. I appreciate your view on the subject but there are other elements that need to be considered.
Most single parents are horrible at creating balance in their life. If the person coming into the relationship doesn’t have kids, you need to make sure that having a family is something you want or would consider. Stop trying ready-made-families on “for size”. Don’t waste people’s time. Date a single parent with the intent of eventually getting married. Not because the mom has a hot body or whatever the shallow reason may be. Single parents...your kid’s NEEDS come first, that goes without saying. NOT everything in their life is a NEED. Learn how to better plan and prioritize their schedules and life happenings (outside of illness and emergencies of course) that doesn’t impact your ability to make time for your significant other. Being placed on the back burner by a single parent is the worst!! Exclusively dating single parents as a single parent is NOT necessarily a match made in heaven. If you can’t figure out how to make that person a priority in your life it won’t work. Periodt!
If her kids are her number 1 priority, and I (someone with no kids) date her, why would I make her my number 1 priority? I am asking seriously, for those ppl who do date women with kids.
Trust me! Never marry a woman with children!!!! It’s not worth taking the chance that it will go well. I’ve been married 14 years and its been the worst decision I’ve ever made in my life.
Speaking as a single mother: Its unfortunate that us single moms have such a bad rep. I mean understandably so given the dynamic of today's society and how, especially after reading the comments, there have been several bad experiences with dating single parents. I would like to pose; however, that single people with no kids come with drama, hurdles, and faults as well....it just looks different. For those who state " single parents should date other single parents because they will have more understanding"...ummm... who says I want to deal with that either! Not every single parent household looks the same. I'm not saying that my single parenting life is gold; but, I DONT have baby daddy drama, I RAISE my kid on all levels, and my kid is pretty got dang AWESOME. All I'm saying, dont shut a single parent down because they are a single parent. Dont shut a single parent down because of a bad experience. I challenge you to actually look at that person and their kid(s) for who they are and the goals that parent has for the household....you might be missing out on a BLESSING of a lifetime bc I know that my kid and I are!!! # SINGLE MOMS ROCK! # SINGLE PEOPLE WITH NO KIDS HAVE ISSUES TOO! 🤷♀️....I personally think he had some good points in the video. STAY SAFE peeps!
@@ranbutch7544 I would date whomever has the qualities and character that my daughter and I need to thrive and create a cool life with....single father or not. Now, personally...and this is where some people give me the side eye...but, I would like to date someone without kids because I do understand, as a single parent, your children are first priority. Because of this, dating a single father would require me to share his attention, love, etc....now dont get me wrong...stay with me lol....I understand that this is what I would require from a single person dating me; however, it would just be nice for my daughter and I to experience being put first and solely doted upon lol (you would have to know our story). But to my initial comment: I'm not going to shut a person down because they are a single parent...I'm a single parent! You have to look at EVERYTHING is all I was trying to say. I get it, we come with a lot...BUT...not every single parent situation is doom bound and that is what the comments, in my opinion, implied.
What a lot of women don’t realize is that men with no children do not want to be put second place. I noticed one thing about your post. You mentioned how awesome YOUR KIDS are. This seems to be the problem with most single mothers. They constantly talk about their children and how excellent their children are. When it comes to disagreements within the household most women would have an issue with their newfound stepfather disciplining the children. In my opinion a man should not have to ask a woman to discipline children. This wouldn’t even be a concern if a man had kids of his own. Many people haven’t just had a few bad experiences with single parents, many people have had many bad experiences with single parents. There’s a reason why most people don’t want single parents.
Your presence is in the way of their time and engagement with their biological parents, and their biological parents' engagement between themselves. It makes zero sense to barge on in and think you can have it your way because it's not going to work--after years of investment in something not yours, you just end up last and expendable.
I would never ever ever ever ever ever ever date a single mom. No thanks I have a excellent career job a masters degree and a home all I had was single moms that liked my page and I refuse to take care of a child that’s not mines and waste my money on him or her no thanks.
look guys don't put your self's in a position to have a kid that's not yours tell you " you ant my daddy " but yet using your resources. look if you are going to date a single mom make sure the kids are grow and gone. i'm sure the guy on the screen hart is in a good place but he has got to get off the blue pill milk shake but give him some time women are not going to change in fact i see them getting worst.
Men, have some standards. YOU are the prize. Know your worth, King.
Luminous Arrogance
@@jtom3552 I'm a guy with mild autism but I have two houses paid off in cash, buying my third now and I;m not even 30, make well over average salary, have my own car, have a decent education an I'm on the road to being a millionaire.
Compare that with an overweight, unemployed woman with no car and kids from some other guy.
Hmmmmm... I think I'm the prize personally and the onus is on the woman to keep ME happy and not me to keep her happy.
Lol no
@@jtom3552 This guy is a globalist shill for jet magazine.
@zadose women are not a prize. This be the reason why many of you guys get dumped and cheated on. You focus on your own goals its more to life than chicks. You are a prize because you are on this earth for a purpose. A girl is the cherry on top. She will fall in place some time in the future.
NEVER in a million years!!!!!!!
Why😂
@@royalchampsquad35gang37 Being responsible for another man's child is a suckers bet.
True its like playing another man's saved game and giving him all the credit
@@cromlaughsatyourfourwinds8333
The only sucker here is yourself. You probably don’t even take care of your own kids, so why bother with another woman that has kids.
@@raaspiderNot so. You take all the credit as you raised them. Any man can be a father
Can't do it,Very different...
1)baby dad issue
2)kids are always first
3)I have to take care of some other guys kids...had to end it
I going thru that right now it's not working for me
@@kwamewilliams5608 I agree with jazz, you owe it to yourself for a better life, especially if you don't have kids. It's pretty standard women can still have the good life catered to them by society (from simps, sugar daddies, to the government). But life never cater to us men. If we want anything grant in life we'll have to work and make sacrifices for them. I've tried dating single moms in my 20s and learned it didn't help me in any way.
i have dated a woman with kids it was the worst decision of my life! never again!!!
SO she was a bisexual mom?
Glad to hear it from a woman for a change.
😂😂😂
Lol
Specially if you’re in your early 20s🤦🏾♂️
Been there done that don’t wanna try ever again
Amen
Exactly been there it's not worth it I learned a hard financial lesson among other things
What happened bro
Guys I am there, I have proposed and I have realised that, I have never wanted to date some1 with kids.
She is an outstanding woman but my heart is not at peace, worse we have tried to have kids for over 7 months now and it's not happening.
She has 2 kids!
I was so stressed and tried dating some1 else to my surprised she got pregnant the first time!
Sadly she had a miscarriage.
Even yesterday I didn't even sleep, sm not happy!
@@wisemanmdlalosemdlalose8298 Are you unhappy because you haven't fathered any children of your own? Why not get married first of all? I don't understand the logic behind men who don't want to date single mothers, but they, themselves try to create single mothers.
No. Have done that. Here's what I think. Men and women with children should date men and women with children. I dont want to prematurely jump into a role that I haven't taken on yet. If I had kids and become a single parent, I would definitely date men with kids as well.
Good for you 🥰
Wow, a modern woman that's reasonable.
Exactly
I dated more than one women with a child or children and I WILL never do it again...the dynamics are too complex and they the woman tend to be implacable.
There's a reason why they're divorced or separated...
We can also be widowed - so be kind please
@@FA6682 Sure we can be..but here is the thing kindness goes both ways a selfless thing. Implacability is one way.
@Some Guy Hey Some Guy, I agree with you about the quality of selflessness of Love and in all its forms too. A child can come first in a mother's life...But to be implacable concerning self development, aims and moving forward and using children to justify it is not good.
@Some Guy My daughter is first...its a area of life that requires compromise and mature (out of the bedroom) planning and commitment to make things work. The dynamics of all involved are to be equally considered.
Men, create your own kingdom. Don't go into another man's! ✌️
Realest ever
That's the part I can't bypass, why would I accept the dream another man rejected, when I can dream my own dream.
I dodged a bullet. Three years ago I began dating a chick who wanted to move in with me almost immediately. It seemed very strange to me because it was unusual for a woman to suggest something like that. To cut a long story short I found out she was already pregnant and who the baby daddy was. So I ended the relationship.
Lol.
Smart move.
She was such a sweet girl though. She loved you and wanted you more than any man to be her child's father.
Well done man.
No. I would not. Ever. No. Nope. Couldn't do it. Won't do it.
😂
Horrible advice! He can’t be serious.. why would you raise another mans child? That’s not your dna, if she breaks up with you, you’ll never see the kid again.. you have zero rights. You won’t be able discipline that child and raise it like your own... you tripping man, there’s so many women in the world and you’ll settle for a single mom? Some guys be so thirsty to get laid, that they’ll settle for anything...🤦🏻♂️
Single moms should only date single dads. Period.
Truth however what if the man falls on love?
Charles Gerety Then you have to accept the consequences that come with that. And pray that it works for the best, if not then you’ll learn from it and choose wisely next time. But the idea is not to put yourself in that situation in the first place! Good luck 👍
Sam Cam So you mean I only have to date with single dads too? Ohhh.. but what about I am dating a man who even can’t have an own baby with any other woman because of his health problem? Duh it’s depend on the situation as long as both of you helping each other with no regrets
@@Introvertwoman1989
Illogical lol
Not entirely true. Depends on the type of person the mother is... whether she allow or disallow contact after the fact. Also depends on the amount of bonding between kids & significant other at the time. Where there is substance, it won't matter who says what. Love prevails.
Have been very careful not to help bring any children into this world, nor do I want someone else's... I don't think that's a such crime to stay away from all that!
I will never take care of something that isn't mine point blank because you never know if the father to those kids eventually is going to want his family back.
but you as the man shouldn’t let that happen
My step dad was the best dad I could ever of hoped to have.
What are his honest thoughts of you though?
@@denimlether5812 there are alot of guys who except other people's kids and treat them as there own.
@@xgamerunknown6414 Those guys are simps
Single mother looking for a beta provider alert!!!
@WHY YOU ARE AN IDIOT ungrateful
AS A MAN, why add stress to your life if you don't have to.
Amen to that
If you're going to stress over kids then they should be your blood not someone else's.
Great point
Walking guys into trap
I tried it once and felt like a third wheel. And why am I buying a kid that's not mine, stuff and getting zero credit for it? Makes zero sense to me.
@@JayLawson you feel like a third wheel because you weren’t alpha enough of a man to tell her how things are going to go if you are being there as a father figure. she needs YOU not the other way around
@@venomforhonor i did tell her how it was going to be. That does not negate feeling like its not your own legacy you are building. Its a bad deal in most cases, has nothing to do with being alpha or beta. You are automatically in a beta role if you take care of my seed for me.
F - No. Single mothers are always focused on the kids first, her job second and you fall in line somewhere after that. I have ZERO interest in that. Can’t even go out unless she can find a baby sitter, even then she has to be home at a specific time because of that, and eventually, you end up paying for the kids directly or indirectly. I don’t date women with kids.
Of course they are focused on the kids first. That's there kids. What you need 100% attention 24/7? My girl has 2 kids. I'm not going to leave her because most of her attention is on her kids. I honestly don't have any problems dating women who have kids. I don't mind buying food and her kids eating some of the food. My girl doesn't ask me to pay for everything that her kids want. I don't need 100% attention all the time. I'm not a little kid. I'm a man
I can occupy myself. Yes I like going out and watching a movie with my girl. It's not hard for her to find someone to watch her kids. How late do you really need to be out with her? What you really need to be out till 4am? I think having dinner together and watching a movie together is enough time. Usually she could get a babysitter for that amount of time or even a little longer.
If her kids come first, and you're the real dad, then that's much better. Plus, you gotta hear about this kids dad? If he's a solid dead beat dad, then she's gonna wanna complain to you about him, most likely more than you care to hear.
@@denimlether5812 I get what you are saying. But honestly I really do love my girlfriend. I guess to me it doesn't matter whether she has kids or not. We met online. Yes I actually met her in person. I met her in person last June I traveled to the Philippines just to meet her. We went to Bangkok for 5days without her kids. Next we are going to Singapore without her kids. So for her it's really not that hard for her to find a babysitter. I have had other relationships with girls that have kids and the relationship never ended because of the kids. I guess some people have a different outlook on this. Everyone feels different about this. I don't think it's necessary or fair to talk down to people who are in relationships with girls that have kids. If someone chooses to be with a girl that has kids that is there choice.
@@xgamerunknown6414 Her kids come first yes. The problem is that someone ELSE'S kids are more of a priority on her life than you are. No man wants to be 3rd priority to some other guys kids.
@@xgamerunknown6414 you're a definition of the beta male provider
Ladies with kids.....should date dudes with kids. Brady Bunch status. That way they can understand each other more.
As for me, nope. Been there, done that. I don't want kids period. Why should I take care of kids that don't belong to me?
True. It's not a single person's job to fix a single parent's mistakes. They chose to lay down with the wrong person, not me. Single parents should date single parents.
@@donblackwell5564 Nobody is looking for a person to fix mistakes... Most single moms would prefer to date single dads because they have something in common... I wanted to date single dads myself, but the man I ended up marrying doesn't have kids, and might not be able to give me anymore children, but he is a great stepdad to my son. To God be the glory ❤
@darkmanjeff , who is going to take care of you when/if you get old?? Nursing home staff?? 😂 May God have mercy on your soul.
Absolutely bro all I heard was kids come number one kids kids kids kids kids why do I want to get into that mix?
@@mobrule5934 You must be very needy and clingy 😖
"Date with a purpose" he says!
My Purpose: Pump and dump!
...Rinse and repeat.
Smash and dash 🏃
Crash and flash
1:10 advice from his single mom. The guy has no clue
Crush and dust
Some STDs can't be rinsed though just saying. Do you let the "single moms" know what you're REALLY after and your current health status PRIOR to what you give them? Do you ask for the same from them for your own peace of mind? That whole informed consent stuff...also, do you get regular checkups in-between the smashes and dashes? Just wondering...
Back when I was single and childless kids were a definite deal breaker simply because if the relationship ever got to the point of marriage and kids I wanted to share that for the first time with someone that's also experiencing those moments for the first time
My ex stayed with me for a year but had this mentality I wish he wouldn’t have wasted my time smh
Put your money, time and resources into another man's kid who will NEVER respect you? No self respecting man would do that.
Say it again!
You give respect to get respect
@@Strawberrieshortcakes you not my daddy sounds familiar
Mi Kay & Kai Atchison Sounds like he’s giving a lot more than respect. He’d be Better off leaving that broken family where he found it.
my dad raised me me whole life and he isnt my biological. im 25 now and respect him more than anyone else
Sorry man. I have to be number one with my woman as she will be with me. A single mom had another man’s child come out of her and I can’t accept that.
Great advice but no, and no. Sorry, just my opinion. I can see divorced people joining families but, I'm not looking for that extra baggage.
No matter how good it may seem in the beginning, there's all sorts of realities that will come into play later. Is the child's biological parent going to cause trouble? The financial entanglements with the child's parent? What type of emotional pitfalls are you facing? Nothing personal, but where's the upside?
And I also have trouble with this thought process, particularly in the black community, that the "good men" have some social obligation to "step up to the plate" for these single mothers and raise some dead beat's child.
How about we get back to teaching women and girls to lock it down? It's one thing to choose to be a single parent, but "baby mama" is not a protected status, something to aspire to, nor something good single men should have to settle for because society is afraid to dish out some tough love.
Said so beautiful!
Very true!
Facts!!!!!
This needed to be said....! I don't have children but I know of individuals who struggle to date because of their children or someone else's.
I rather date a woman that older and her kids are grown and out of her home. I don't want to deal with the baby daddy drama!! I want peace of mind and not look over my shoulders.
Jermaine Smith just make sure she wasn’t married 2-3 times before you.
Nope nope nope. I been there done that. Call me selfish but I gotta #1 priority.
how to humiliate and destroy every inch of your being? just cohabit with a woman with kids
If you don't Have Your Own Children why help Raise someone Else's Don't be A CHUMP .
I dated a single mother for a while when I was 22 other than a smash and dash; no thanks never again.. When after you invest time, money, energy, and emotions developing a relationship with her and the kid/s as well as the drama with the ex/baby daddy she breaks it off.. No matter how much you contribute and care for the kids YOU WILL NEVER SEE THEM AGAIN; the pain is exponential compared to a female with no baggage.
that sounds terrible
@@mike619
It was. Te upside I won a much better woman a couple years later. Life experiences even painful ones are what makes us who we are.
Tom Leykis is the goto guy for that question.
"no no no no no"
He flat out says no.
@@grandmastergyorogyoro532 no no no no no
22 years ago, I married a man with no kids when I was a divorced mother of two. When my youngest son got married this summer, he wanted his stepdad there but his father wasn't even invited. I think that pretty much sums it up.
Doesn't sum up anything. It's one particular case that has no real explanation. Even if it did, it doesn't represent the anyone else.
You single moms always make the fathers look horrible when its all your fault u make your sons believe that and they grew up with this idea
@@jjwalidjj2410 I'm a single mom. You know why? Because the one who left is the dad. Not the mother. When the child is growing up all that the kid see was his mom, all the good things, such as taking care of the kid while growing up, the one who picks up and drops of to school, the one who buys what kid needs. Bc it's only the mom who raises her kid not the dad. Its just makes the dad look bad bc he wasn't there through all these years.. got it? Not bc we, single moms tells them that they are bad.. it's common sense.. would see your dad good too even though you don't really feel that he's there? It's common sense right? It's called parenting.. if the dad is not a parent then he doesn't recognized as one by the kid
@@hello_its_sara 70 % of divorces are initiated by females in usa ,i don't live there i live in an islamic country where the mom take care of the children until 7 yo then the father take care of the rest ,but in the USA i see that they give full custody to the mom 99 % of the time,so the father can't see children that often even if he want to ,so do u think this is fair?
@@jjwalidjj2410 hmm... If I were to ask, I'm not gonna be just a "housewife" who takes care of kids.. I want me and my husband to take turns of responsibility.. For me, I want to do the things I want in life, especially to work and financially support myself (lol.. I don't want to ask him money that I didn't worked hard for) because the husband is just a husband. He can love and support you throughout but it will never give you what you want.. when it comes to divorce it depends on a family if they want to see the dad. Sometimes it depends on kids. When you go to court, children and moms are their priority bc that's the way the law works unless the moms are abusive or drug addict then you can fight with the custody of the child.
The front of his shirt says LEGENDARY, the back should say SIMP.
😂😂😂
hahaha yeah
Wonder why his "Previous" relationship with those "wonderful" ones didnt work out.. Would love to hear that story... cause at the end of the day he did not marry her... She expected you to put her and her kids at the top of your list but she can't... It's not equal.. no where near..... listen to him if you like being like 5th on her list.... below the dog.
I understand where you’re coming from but without getting into much detail I would say most women with kids are looking for stability and financial guidance. They usually can’t support themselves or support themselves well enough and they begin to rely on you and that puts a strain on the relationship balancing your finances with her’s even though you’re not married yet (just dating) but in your best interest try to accommodate what she and the kids need. After personal experience, I highly recommended caution when thinking about dating someone with kids, especially if you can’t even support yourself, how do you think it’s going to be in the relationship? Bad.
Most normal women in general are looking for security... Do you understand the nature of a woman? Men are supposed to provide for their wife and kids...
Don't do it! Been there.
The problem is that single mothers expect you to put in all the work and spend all your money while you aren't even first priority. Relationship is supposed to be a win win situation on both sides. The only one winning is the single mom draining all your finance. If you are going to date a single mom then at least make sure she can handle herself without government assistance. That is the very least you should do before jumping in so you can be sure you're not just some atm.
So if it wasn’t about money then it would be ok I’m a single mother and work problem was he didn’t want to commit because he wanted that first child experience and yet stayed with me for a year …. I was financially taking care of him and my child so I beg to differ completely some moms expect at not every mother expects financial assistance
@@PhoenixK23assuming you’re a good person, you’re prob the only type of single mom a guy would date. most single moms literally care about just what you can pay for. sometimes the man is left feeling like he’s just an atm and not a human.
Disagree. Don’t broad brush Single Mothers sir, some definitely want to work and just want the companionship and company to raise the children…
Well that's is why she supposed to marry to guy be making that decision soon
Keeping single moms, single. Im doing my part. To all my guys, never date a single mom
Never play a game on another man's memory card!! Dats law!!
😂🔥💯straight like that
Been dating and started feeling down about myself that the men I attract are not okay with kids. Thank you for this video!
Good
Nobody is okay with kids only the lowest of the lowest do that out of desperation/blue balls
Smh it’s ok I’m here with you 😒
@@PhoenixK23I would date a single mom if the kid was rarely around and I didn’t have to pay for his expenses. small stuff here and there might be ok but that woman would have to be something special to me
@@piraat070facts. No single competitive driven man wants to walk into a situation where there are kids!
I'm sorry but with my woman it just breaks my heart as her 8 year old son is a constant reminder that she was with some guy who is way gone outta the picture
I never had problems with it until i dated 3 single moms for long term and omg . No no no i want my own kid with someone who has no kids no friends with an ex and enemies with the other and all that drama .
I read some comments... It's shocking how self centred some of you guys are...
Self centered ??? Or protecting ourselves from unnecessary drama
@G. C. who ??
AO you're financial advise is on point but, I'm going to have to disagree with you on this one. I'm speaking from personal experience on this issue. Never date a single mother. The only time I'd consider jumping down that rabbit hole is if the kids are over 18 and have a good head on their shoulders. I fortunately will never have that problem of choice again as I've made it a rule to not date any woman over the age of 25 and a big no no if they have kids. You're a great advice giver and I love & value your videos but, dating a single mom has to be one of the worst pieces of advice to give young men and old.
You are right, there are several coaches who have warned us. I need some private advice from u. U have an email address?
My lady has a daughter and i treat her like she’s mines...it’s a beautiful situation 💯💕
@@MrGetYaAss You are just bitter and want people to be as miserable as you are..
It's Ya Girl, Jesus' Wife he’s just honest... it’s true. The same women without a child is way more valuable.
@@kevinszhere1 Okay...
My step dad made my childhood great
@Omillo Adam beautiful comment. I think some people just want to project their personal insecurities on to others.
If the person is widowed, maybe. I don't want a pre-owned husband though....
I went the widow route (she didn't have kids) and she was emotionally crippled, even after 3 years. She couldn't commit because she assumed she had closure, but it just wasn't there. It's too bad too, because we would have been awesome together. 😕
How old are you? Because most people are "pre-owned" after a certain age.
If she died and their situation was good at the time. How much are you willing to hear about her? How great she was, etc when you didn't ask.
@WHY YOU ARE AN IDIOT You are so lame.. 😑
I did it and I'm never doing it again
Confused by all these negative comments. I have a 3yr old daughter. Unfortunately 4 months after birthing her, me and her father just didn’t work out, mutually agreed it would be best if we coparent and stay friends. We have an amazing friendship and my little girl is very well taken care of. He has had a gf of two years and we all get along so well. I just find it weird that some of these men automatically think we “single mothers ” want a “father” for our child. Sometimes that isn’t the case...my daughter has a active very involved dad! So a man with no kids shouldn’t date me because I have a daughter and because her father and I made the ADULT decision not raise her in a home that would eventually turn toxic?
👏👏👏👏👏👏
Exactly, a man without any kids would have to be stupid to want a commited relationship with a single mom.
Thats nice advice, but a huge undertaking just to date someone. Dating her AND the kids? Plus, you won't be number one in your own relationship? Who would sign up for that willingly? By the way, you didnt mention that you also have to deal with the baby mama or daddy. That's a lot of drama when you can just date someone without kids.
She take care of her own dam Kids not my problem
5 seconds in. My answer: no.
Date yes ! Marry NO! ....... I want biological children most women with children don’t want more....
And yes,
The child is number 1
Date with a purpose,
Smash
Naw!
NOT IN THESE TIMES!! Maybe back in the 60s, 70s, 80s and 90s. As a man with no kids, you cannot build anything with them. LET THEM FIND THEIR OWN WAY. Had a close friend marry one who had just one 1 son and that fell apart after 2 years. They married because they needed an apartment and he SIMPED for her and he ended up losing his job because of her. You will get arrested like the baby's daddy and past boyfriends if you don't follow her commands. You are not selfish for not wanting to deal with them. You can only tell their children that the mother has to play victim to get by. But not all single mothers are the same. Some are widowed.
Stay away from them, they not only will come with physical baggae but lots of emotional baggae . Its all bad , I talk from experience.
but thats the type of woman they attracted and got caught up with. You can find a good girl with a kid not everyone gets arrested
NO!
Love is love . You can really control that so I wouldn’t cancel someone just because they have kids , you could easily go marry someone who doesn’t have kids & they end up being a terrible parent/husband/wife. Don’t put rules on love & relationships & miss your blessings .
@Charles Pinkett why is she crazy? Everyone deserves to be loved no matter what 😡😡
@Charles Pinkett my girl has kids. Are you offended?🤣🤣🤣
@Charles Pinkett oh yeah. It pays really well. Maybe you should try it.
Possibly marrying the wrong person, is not as risky as going along with someone who already has a downside. Using the word 'love' has been overdone. Reality shouldn't be ignored because love is supposed to be some word with superior powers.
@@xgamerunknown6414 bro thats ideoligcal everybody has rules to a relationship. You not gonna just date any person are you?
Geez so many of these comments are so toxic.
The big question is: when you get past dating and say, get married, are the kids the number one priority still?
If a couple that is not divorced makes their kids a priority and not their spouse isn’t that one reason they are divorced?
I understand when dating.
But when it goes past that?
It seems to me you make your relationship a priority for the kids. Who, wants to always be third or fourth when you share half of the responsibilities.
Parents need to be on the same page in dealing with kids. There needs to be a lot of communication. And stop being kids friends! Kids need parents to be parents. And to do that the parents need to stick together. Even if they might not always agree. Disagree behind closed doors. And communicate.
Kids will take a mile especially in a blended family.
The big difference here is what ages are the kids? Studies show bonding with a child becomes very difficult past 6 years of age. The next thing is what the relationship with the biological? How well does everyone communicate?
There are many issues that can, that will change me up dating a woman with kids.
If you don’t take it slow, understand what you are getting into, communication often, discuss parenting styles, boundaries, discipline styles. You will have a ton of problems.
Remember, every adult with problems, their problems stemmed in childhood. So, unless you are emotionally mature, financially ready, and willing to be unselfish for someone else’s kids it probably won’t work.
It is a huge endeavor to undertake. A life commitment.
Right some men don't understand that they be all about themselves.
The only difference is, when men have kids the kid is rarely around so it's almost like they're living the life as if they don't have a child. That makes it easier for the person that they're dating which is the woman. When a woman has a child, the man has to deal with her children. Because she is a primary caregiver. It's better to enter the child's life when they are a baby so you can build a relationship from the beginning. Watch the child reaches four or five years old, it's over. They knows you're not then father will have no problem telling you that. Not all but most kids... no matter how much you do for the child, when a child turns 18, all your hard work hope to be thrown out the window. The child May respect you but that's it, no real love for you though. Then you will never be a priority in the woman's life. She will always choose her children over you which is okay but I believe everybody wants to be a priority and somebody else's life. The family tree hierarchy doesn't involve kids being first. If the mom dad, husband and wife supposed to be first then Kids come after. And if you don't put me first while we are dating, what makes me think putting a ring on the finger she will put me first. The only way you will be a priority is if you are the father of her kids but if you are a new person coming around, hang it up
Do u have a private email, I want some advice.
It’s never easier dating a single dad as a childless woman ! Single dads are on time and financial restraints that don’t benefit a stable relationship! Too much past baggage and drama especially with the ex ! I don’t understand why single dads think they’re more entitled?
@@MelaniaRose I had a bad experience , he had to see his daughters (2 Lil girls) in the mother's house, he invited me to go somewhere later as soon the mother arrives, guess what ? She came late and he only texted me the other day lol
Thank God, I never opened my heart to him because I knew it was not worth it at all besides he is very womanizer, I quit and never said the reasons, I prefer let the next victim to do my part haha. I left and just feeling sorry for his next girlfriends, baby mama drama+ kids+his actions.
@@MelaniaRose you definitely know thats not true and will never be the same
When I was dating I dated a guy with a daughter and I quickly realized that I came third after his baby and after his job. And the DRAMA with his ex was constant. There was no room for me. Even as I tried to adjust and bond with both him and his daughter, I ended up feeling like I was being taken advantage of. There was very little to gain from that situation. So we stayed homies until I started dating someone in my own lifestage. My advice to people with children is to date other single people with children and for women especially to be very careful with men around your kids. Men are dangerous, not evil, but dangerous. Just like God created fire which is useful and good, but dangerous, men were created just like that. So be careful.
Good words.
Aww but we didn’t ask?
@2 Finger Stinger I think your comment has merit. But it's not at all relevant to what I was talking about. ....I think you just have a problem with the Bible....
@@Vonity_ you seem salty...
Vona Syeh Your a single mom, we get it.
My beliefs on dating someone with children are: I wouldn't date them because I don't have kids and if wanted kids I would have made my own instead of taking care of someone else's.
Everyone knows "REAL MEN" have their own kid's/family or stay single if they can't find the right woman and only "WEAK MEN" go for single mom's.
good comment pal!.. Best One Ive Seen Here!!...👍👍👍
i need to write this down somewhere..
@@ellitestar thanks bro. The guy making the video had a bad childhood, bad parent's and was calling some stranger dad but yet still has the nerve to give advice. Don't listen people and avoid single mom's.
@@mcali-reviews5585
Sometimes we already know what to do, but we still don't do it
and I believe that sometimes we just need to hear it again out loud in order for it to ingrained in our thick head of ours.
I'm glad I was reminded again by your wise & valuable comment!
good advice.👍
@@ellitestar bro I forgot to mention check out the originator of all them all "Tom Leykis single mother's"
God's blessing to a man is a prudent wife. If she has kids or not your days will be blessed!
Amen
Thank you for this comment! I was a single mom with 2 little kids. I left an abusive husband. Then God brought me my husband now and he is a wonderful step parent and husband... so many mean comments on this video. Nice to see a positive one. 😊
@@josiesmith4711 God bless you, dear. The mean comments are from foolish, simple-minded people who will reap what they sow.
My ex cheated on me and God gave me a man who genuinely loves me and my son. I have never felt so loved by a man. God is good. ❤
@@TheRibofJESUS Amen darling!
That's not a blessing that is a beta simp mangina life. I will never date a woman with kids
What if the man falls in love with her? It just a heart breaker situation knowing you gotta be semi responsible for the kid
Exactly
0:42 ladies and gentleman when you hear the "but" that means everything he said previously has been canceled out....
my gf who ive been dating 2 years has 5 kids 2 of them 16 other 10 8 and 5 they are old enough to know im not there dad and not trying to replace him her ex is still around i try stay out of that not my place to interfere between him seeing his kids. i try to help her best i can shes a strong interdependent woman who gets too proud to ask for help sometimes her youngest told her before he wished that i was his daddy it did bring a tear to my eye my advise is obviously do bond with the children try not get too attached at first and dont rush it its going to take time be there friend not there dad when its all said and done if they call you daddy its up to them.
Man that kid didnt say that, thats her tryna get you in your feeling to slick around long term or to step up and adopt. Your life your choices but you're better than me. 😭💀
0reaver01 you are a man!!! Society needs a billion of you
FuturePro95 you are just a hater, aren’t you?
Dude you better catch some sense and run while you can.
So, I agree with be respectful but know what you want and be honest. I am not interested in a blended family or raising someone else’s children. But I don’t need to, one can have a great relationship based on your disposable time together.
I understand both sides of the argument. Just do what works for you.
Never
Interesting Topic
This is a heated topic that needed more time and details. I appreciate your view on the subject but there are other elements that need to be considered.
It's not really a heated topic. All men with self-respect know that this is not even a question. Avoid single moms no matter the circumstance period.
Only if you're desperate or have no other options, is dating a single mom a good idea.
Even if I was desperate and there were no other options I'd still rather stay single than date a single mum
but what if you fell in love with them?
This was GREAT Anthony!! Thank you!
First of all Anthony O'Neal, have you dated a single mom before? If not, don't give any advice about it.
Most single parents are horrible at creating balance in their life. If the person coming into the relationship doesn’t have kids, you need to make sure that having a family is something you want or would consider. Stop trying ready-made-families on “for size”. Don’t waste people’s time. Date a single parent with the intent of eventually getting married. Not because the mom has a hot body or whatever the shallow reason may be.
Single parents...your kid’s NEEDS come first, that goes without saying. NOT everything in their life is a NEED. Learn how to better plan and prioritize their schedules and life happenings (outside of illness and emergencies of course) that doesn’t impact your ability to make time for your significant other. Being placed on the back burner by a single parent is the worst!!
Exclusively dating single parents as a single parent is NOT necessarily a match made in heaven. If you can’t figure out how to make that person a priority in your life it won’t work. Periodt!
If you don't have kids, than its like you are playing on somebody else his saved game.......
Im just waiting for the kids to fall asleep 😂
If her kids are her number 1 priority, and I (someone with no kids) date her, why would I make her my number 1 priority? I am asking seriously, for those ppl who do date women with kids.
Good question. Following post
Well said! Thank you for developing this Anthony.
Taia Reid Agreed!
Trust me! Never marry a woman with children!!!! It’s not worth taking the chance that it will go well. I’ve been married 14 years and its been the worst decision I’ve ever made in my life.
My belief is don't do it, I did it and it was a waste of time
Speaking as a single mother:
Its unfortunate that us single moms have such a bad rep. I mean understandably so given the dynamic of today's society and how, especially after reading the comments, there have been several bad experiences with dating single parents. I would like to pose; however, that single people with no kids come with drama, hurdles, and faults as well....it just looks different. For those who state " single parents should date other single parents because they will have more understanding"...ummm... who says I want to deal with that either! Not every single parent household looks the same. I'm not saying that my single parenting life is gold; but, I DONT have baby daddy drama, I RAISE my kid on all levels, and my kid is pretty got dang AWESOME. All I'm saying, dont shut a single parent down because they are a single parent. Dont shut a single parent down because of a bad experience. I challenge you to actually look at that person and their kid(s) for who they are and the goals that parent has for the household....you might be missing out on a BLESSING of a lifetime bc I know that my kid and I are!!! # SINGLE MOMS ROCK! # SINGLE PEOPLE WITH NO KIDS HAVE ISSUES TOO! 🤷♀️....I personally think he had some good points in the video. STAY SAFE peeps!
Taylor Taylor Are you saying you wouldn’t date a single father?
@@ranbutch7544 I would date whomever has the qualities and character that my daughter and I need to thrive and create a cool life with....single father or not. Now, personally...and this is where some people give me the side eye...but, I would like to date someone without kids because I do understand, as a single parent, your children are first priority. Because of this, dating a single father would require me to share his attention, love, etc....now dont get me wrong...stay with me lol....I understand that this is what I would require from a single person dating me; however, it would just be nice for my daughter and I to experience being put first and solely doted upon lol (you would have to know our story). But to my initial comment: I'm not going to shut a person down because they are a single parent...I'm a single parent! You have to look at EVERYTHING is all I was trying to say. I get it, we come with a lot...BUT...not every single parent situation is doom bound and that is what the comments, in my opinion, implied.
Taylor Taylor thank you for your honesty.
@@ranbutch7544 no problem!
What a lot of women don’t realize is that men with no children do not want to be put second place. I noticed one thing about your post. You mentioned how awesome YOUR KIDS are. This seems to be the problem with most single mothers. They constantly talk about their children and how excellent their children are. When it comes to disagreements within the household most women would have an issue with their newfound stepfather disciplining the children. In my opinion a man should not have to ask a woman to discipline children. This wouldn’t even be a concern if a man had kids of his own. Many people haven’t just had a few bad experiences with single parents, many people have had many bad experiences with single parents. There’s a reason why most people don’t want single parents.
I already know what he’s gonna say just from the like/dislike ratio on this video lol 😂
No a man wants to create his own family he don't want to join one why would you want leftovers
kinda animalistic and uncivilized to refer to a woman with child as left overs
OMG! Finally a mature man !
That laugh at the end though 😂💙
That laugh is a problem😂😂😂😂
I do. It’s just fun. Can’t build. Recreational
Don't do it no return on you're investment lol
For those with hearts of gold
Some women can't distribute the love equally which is why single mothers Stay single.
I hope I get the opportunity to meet you one day. So much knowledge in every video.
Your presence is in the way of their time and engagement with their biological parents, and their biological parents' engagement between themselves. It makes zero sense to barge on in and think you can have it your way because it's not going to work--after years of investment in something not yours, you just end up last and expendable.
I would never ever ever ever ever ever ever date a single mom. No thanks I have a excellent career job a masters degree and a home all I had was single moms that liked my page and I refuse to take care of a child that’s not mines and waste my money on him or her no thanks.
Yup, well said 👍
If you interested dating single woman. What you are here commenting about them 😂
Real talk. Thanks for sharing this important information.
look guys don't put your self's in a position to have a kid that's not yours tell you " you ant my daddy " but yet using your resources. look if you are going to date a single mom make sure the kids are grow and gone. i'm sure the guy on the screen hart is in a good place but he has got to get off the blue pill milk shake but give him some time women are not going to change in fact i see them getting worst.
I’m a Leo. I don’t date women with kids. Period
so committing to someone whose committed to kids who aren't yours is not a problem? SMH
Tom brady took dating her and the kid way too literally
No
Who paid this guy off 😆