🇵🇭 Is it Really Philippines Culture for Foreigners to do THIS? (REAL TRUTH E❌POSED)
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- Опубліковано 2 лип 2024
- An American expat in his 40’s living in Manila & Boracay for 2 years breaks down if it’s the “culture” for foreigners to do THIS…
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I support me, me and me. Didnt serve 23yrs in the military to carry another load. I'm 6'3" 225lbs of hot chocolate living here in Bicol. ✌️ My man Jasper.
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The funny thing is, most guys 'd probably volunteer help if it weren't for the games, schemes, incredible lies, scams, set-ups, blatant/disrespectful skin tax and the audacity of nonsense at some level.
YOU MUST lose yourself completely and fully immersed in my nonsense in the name of culture.
I don't mean to be harsh.
I believe in a collective effort in the growth of humanity.
Taking advantage of people despite perception of wealth and discrimination in any form is ugly and a backward step against growth.
You might not be black but you feel discriminated against.
I hate it just the same when it also happenes in Costa Rica, DR, Nicaragua, Colombia, etc .. etc...
So true
Maybe i got lucky, but my chick is smoking hot the nicest, purest human I've ever met. Her family is golden! Beautiful people, have never asked me for a dime. They are poor, no doubt about it, but happy. I don't give anyone money, but i buy them things they need, if they can't. I've been absolutely humbled by the gratitude!
Very nice
From what I’ve known of life I would say that most of the cases of men that, let’s say, got very disappointed later on, they always said that before. So… Maybe or maybe not. Time will tell. 🤷🏻♂️
@frgv4060 it's been a year, and she still thanks me when I buy groceries... she makes efforts to save money at every opportunity, to the point its almost annoying. I been around a bit, I understand what a long con looks like. I'm here because I won't deal with that shit in the states. I'm not here for pussy... that's what gets dudes in trouble. I'm here because my keesh goes farther and my quality of life is better. I won't lie and say women aren't in my top 5 reasons, but it's not my entire reason for living abroad.
I will say, yes, you are right... simps get duped by mediocre chicks all day long. Don't come here thinking that will change.
@@18Charlie 👍
Where is the best place to live in your opinion there ?
I am wealthy & always provide well for my woman as well as my children. I WILL NOT support her family. No one helped me build my wealth so I don’t need anyone helping me spend my wealth. May sound harsh but I live by my rules in Asia as well as my home country. Personally, I see it as a form of prostitution if a woman is only with a man because he financially supports her family. I’m also not a foreigner that “preys on” or dates women living in extreme poverty. Nothing personal, just my preference.
Same thoughts.
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Ditto rather give it to the homeless hopeless
Lol
@@mitch1161
This is what I preach!
That's the way it is Mitch.
Word for word.
Simple as that.
But, there're a lot of foreigners who are actively telling guys to be vulnerable and do the opposite. They're creating monsters for the rest of us and are too desperate to care.
'Their culture' my balls. Anyone can make up any bs that benefits themselves; I could say something like- 'my culture says that your family should give 1/2 of their income to bless the great and wonderful foreigner'. Yeah, right. You know what they all can do
Lol
Funny as shit...
Ha ha
I think it is in individual's preference and choice like you if you're willing to adjust the local's tradition and system(like PAKIKISAMA/GETTING ALONG)just to cope up with your culture shock state but if there are some traditions and system looks unreasonable to you(like being obliged to someone unfamiliar to you, attempt to scam/rip-off you by someone in a business etc), it's your discretion to not adjust into it and to vindicate yourself for a good reason. Just relax brother, it's not mandatory for everyone to adjust in another's culture or tradition of someone👍👍👍
Ha ha. All good. 👍
It's not my culture that's all bullshit anyway, I was taught to share I don't have a problem with sharing but I will decide what, when, where, and how that sharing will take place, as far as what in their culture that has nothing to do with me! I'm an American in Makati but an American all the same.
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hello Jasper I'm new to your channel. watching here
Salamat
No. I have my own rules
Likewise
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If you're old, you cant set your own rules.
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If I'm not mistaken I could be I want to say that Mike Philippines journey once said that Filipina will tell foreign it's always been culture for foreign to support family and he said no it is not tradition they make that stuff up
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Not sure bro
Sounds about right
$1000 a month in SE Asia is quite an ask.
My girl does multiples of that. But you’re correct.
I do nothing a Filipino doesn't do
Same
You nailed it, young Jedi. Generally, when you hear the "it's our culture" line, 2 words need to immediately come to mind: BULL and SHIT. 😂😂😂😂
Buddy I saw you in my hate channel talking s***
Didn’t you book a consultation with me after that or do I have the wrong person? 😂😂😂😂😂
@@JasperinthePhilippines Little Bro, hate channel? WHAT??? And nope to consult.
Oh. Wrong guy.
Thought we did a consult.
Jasper, I enjoy your channel. However, I believe you should adjust your microphone to a consistent level. At times your audio drifts in and out and I have noticed this on many of your episodes.
You have good information but please address this issue. Thank you
I was in a public space and turning around cause I thought someone walked in. I’ll take that under consideration but this channel is 100% free.
I’m sure there’s plenty of better audio but my channel is the the realest. It’s an iPhone 14 Pro Max. No mic.
educated and financially well off filipinas will not marry an old foreigner only those poor educated and desperate will go for this kind of relationship the problem is these foreigners really believe that this filipinas are inlove but the truth is its only for the money
I’m with an extremely educated very well off Filipina. But I’m not a regular guy and I’m in my 40s
I was told the best type of Filipina to meet would have been an orphan...makes sense...
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Yup
Nothing is part of our culture like that. It is someone's choice or decision to do that. I personally doesn't agree to that kind of thinking. Maybe a good thing to say is share your blessings if you have more than enough.
Ok fair enough
It may not be culture, but when I was in the military, many Filipino men had an allotment to send to their family,🤔🤔🤔🤔☺☺☺☺
Gotcha
Giving support/money is the giver's decision and any type of manipulation to give is a certain no relationship.
Ok
My GF is a typical province Filipina, she never asks for money. When I am there I feel uncomfortable when I see her and her family spend money I am certain they don't really have to spare. When I have queried her about this her response has been it is not my obligation and that it is OK for them to splash out occasionally. So I guess it depends on the family and the circumstances. I will note that her and her siblings are very entrepreneurial running their own businesses/hustles and trying to move forward financially irrespective of what the people around them are doing. Hopefully when I move there in a few weeks this situation doesn't change too much as I amnot a big fan of being coerced into sponsoring an entire family and it would lead to me walking away. Having said that, if there was a real need, say the parents died and the young children needed somewhere safe to go, my door would be immediately open to them. At the end of the day it all depends on the circumstances. Cheers Aussie John
Very nice bro
Sounds reasonable & I agree
I don’t mind emergencies if I choose and gifts if I choose.
It's not the culture, that's why they are trying to make it law that once married, you have to take care of the family also.... culture means the norm, it wouldn't need a law.
Ok
I've known a Filipina for 4+ years and we have stayed in touch over this time and she has never asked or hinted to send her money. And so i was happy to recently to purchase a nicely featured Motorola android for $129 on Amazon and send it from the states $79 today by DHL to her as she hasn't been online lately as her old phone doesn't hold a charge. I like to help someone like her....
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Let's look at the Pacific Isander/Filipina culture before the Spanish and Catholics took over. The cultural standard was a man would have multiple women, public nudity wasn't shameful, public sex happened regularly, and they lived in small tribes just to name a few things.....
Ok
I pay 2100 wife pays 900. Japanese wife She has 100k cash buys her own clothes gas. Do I look like an ATM?
Nope
@mrbHanoi
The Organization of Man Preservation thanks you for your efforts.
@@VENEMPASTOR at this point in my life, I would rather spend less and give way 5 to 10 dollars a day to taxi drivers, waitresses and street vendors I dont mind paying 100 baht for a 70 baht shwarma or 30 for a 20 baht coffee. The top 10% should help the bottom 30% because they can. My father died with 3 mil My uncle 6mil I want too die with 100k and give 98% to the poor before I die.
Nice
@@mrbHanoi
I respect your approach but my philosophy is different when it comes to giving money away.
I think that's rewarding bad behavior or bad choice.
I'd rather invest in people who are actively helping themselves and the gift that keeps on giving.
In my view, giving people free money doesn't guarantee their growth.
Well, this isn't only in the Phils .... seems to me it is all across Asia ...
Gotcha
Its not our culture to obligate your partners for your parent or siblings,i say let your partner work so they can support her own family and make sure only give the extra money not the whole salary 😂
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True
Good advice here. I've dated a few Filipinas who were working and had good incomes and was never given the culture stories of supporting every pinsan and lazy kuya's. Some foreigners date low value women and get scammed for everything before realizing they are being played. Its mostly the same games all over the world. Guys when going anywhere in the world. Know yourself and what you abilities are when dating women. You have to be in shape and be at the top of your game.
Yes facts.
Actually there is a law that requires Philopenas to support all family members that need help... if they can afford to do so.
When is that law enforced. ?
@@JasperinthePhilippines when someone complains
lol. As in never
It’s like the law about when the separated Filipinas husband catches in the act and can delete you with no consequences
Relax sir, there is no really such a law regarding that as a citizen of the Philippines. If you encountered that kind of family tradition from the locals, it's not mandatory for you to follow or adjust into it. You do have your own right reason not to get along with it just avoiding yourself to be gullible or stupid to someone✌✌✌
Jaspar, have you thought that it is always the ladies that seem to want to tell us what the culture is, and I am sure there is an evolved culture when a foreigner is in the family. Have you ever asked any Filipinos (men) about their view. My impression from talking to Filipinos was that the family was your wife, the parents, anything else depended on you. However if you are seen as a cash cow, expect rocky times.
I think it’s different for AFAMS VS Filipino expectations
@@JasperinthePhilippines That's the word expectations, if it is culture then shouldn't the expectation be the same? The issue is this urban myth that all foreigners are rich?
True. Some are poor I promise.
@@JasperinthePhilippines Isn't there a word for this 'Utang'?
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Funny how everything comes down to money, right.
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Yo these comment section with boomers is fun to read 😂😂😂😂 ffs guys
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You’re a boomer 😂
By law if you are married to a philippina if the parents need dyer help then you have to help by law, even family members, But only if they cannot provide for themselves.
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When was that enforced. ?
Umm no 😂 you may wanna do some research, that ain’t law in the PH bro.
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Somebody sold him that “law”
It's not a Filipino culture... it only became a norm when some Pinays shared that her afam is this and that showering her money gifts as well as her family... that where it started. I grew up in the 80's while growing up I heard stories like this and 1 of my auntie married an American who was very generous to her.
As a Pinay, it's not a requirement for real, if I have a serious relationship w/ AFAM 🤭 but I will take it to your character. Are you a real man? Can you provide?
If you're thinking you just like to support yourself while being in a relationship serious or not with Pinay... stay single and don't mess with good Pinays 😂
Btw, I work in a BPO company
lol I have a beautiful successful pinay. She takes care of her family needs. I’m generous with her.
@@JasperinthePhilippines Ohh relax Jasper 🤣 I was just pondering the existential nature of 'real men' in general.
hello sa kasintahan mo na maganda ✌️
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Hypergamy is very alive and well in the Philippines. Once you're into marrying one it's all about Benjamins. What does she bring to the table? Her whole family of indigents. :P
Wo
If you are Married to a Filipina; “support to family” is Philippine Law. As far as I know the law does not specify amounts, or to who. My interpretation is support the wife, her Mom and Dad--THATS IT! I am NOT doling out resources like The FOREIGNER BANK. Nor am I going to be coerced via some twisted self-serving, shifting definitions of “Philippine Culture”.
**Btw if you pay your wife a weekly gift--by cultural definition--she will pay out/help her family, which also fulfills the requirement. Check with a Philippine attorney if you have any questions and/or just download the short subsection itself.
I’m not supporting parents. If I’m not married to you or I didn’t bring you into this world I’m not obligated to support you. We all have the same 24 hours in a day. Never gonna happen.
Get a girl that makes decent money. I did.
Applying the “reasonable man” standard to demonstrable indication of willful neglect-- a relatively high legal bar which wouldn’t apply to vast majority of normal foreigners--let’s suppose a foreigners making 6000$ per month in lifelong passive income plus 75,000 savings in a Philippine bank; lives with his wife in lavish luxury in BGC or Makati while never indirectly or directly contributing a penny to the parents in 5 years who live province squalor with a leaking roof, no fans or A/C, (all fixable for less than $300 Bucks) for example. That scenario would likely be actionable in court. The practical reality-just like legal annulment of marriage--no poor person can afford the time or money to launch such a pursuit; so the bottom line is it’s rarely enforced.
@@JasperinthePhilippines…. Or just get Mom a 30$ Fan or 160$ A/C…
No time to read a novel.
Terrible audio
Lmfao
Stop settling for woman who are broke! The family broke you will always have issues.
Yup
My girl ain’t broke
@JasperinthePhilippines I'm speaking for the others. Neither is mine. Best decision I ever made. It's 2024 and too many have some type of work and resources. Everything isn't on me and we can enjoy/ she can pay for her own situations.
Yup 👍
It is a culture that certain parts of the Philippines are practiced. However, it is not expected for the foreigner to support the woman’s family. Giving in kind is acceptable. Remember, these Filipino women take care of you and your family.
All women do different things.
I don’t have a family and my girl is a career woman. But I understand your point.
No. That's not the culture of Filipinos. It is a culture of poverty and needs. When Filipino families start to earn and be middle class they support their own families only. This is more like a grave need to help one another because they do not have access to basic needs. But since Manila still isn't that rich there are still a lot of social issues where you dont have a choice but to lean to family for help. Also, this is not unique to the Philippines. It's true for every poor family around the world. Even poor communities in the US have very tight close communities. Like minorities like blacks Hispanics etc. It's just that your background of being an American made you think that basic needs are basic to everyone.. it's a luxury for a lot of people in the world.
Yup
Women (not all, but plenty) EVERYWHERE want a husband that will guarantee their children citizenship in the USA…
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I want to learn Philippine culture and to get along with people but “it’s our culture Po” doesn’t cut it, they need to realize we have a culture too. Like “dealing with Tampo” it is a manipulation tactic and a very immature one at that. I won’t condone or enable that bad behavior. The answer is to try to talk to them to work out the issue, if she doesn’t want to…. Leave. I did not work my entire life, put up with all the BS in America, had to deal with modern women, moved to the other side of the world to have a female giving me an attitude in the house I’m paying for. It’s simple fix yourself immediately or leave until you can act right. And explain that behavior will not be tolerated so if she has a desire to continue the relationship then start acting right or be replaced.
Ya. You’re age and looks realistically dictate how many rules you can make in a non transactional relationship