I'm meeting up with the dumper this weekend. I've improved volumes, and realize he was more of the problem. I am not afraid to walk out. He will see how different I am. I am evolved and have options. Talking with him is out of curiosity more than anything.
@@christybyrne9844 he responded to my goodbye letter. A nice kind letter where I apologized for anything I'd done wrong and wished him well in his journey.
@@cloudylie I hope you will too. Update: after spending 2 weeks back with my ex (he asked to get back), he's taking space because he 'doesn't want to hurt me," In the past 2 weeks, I've opened up to him and encouraged him to do the same. I have been using my knowledge to bring this DA out of his shell and hopefully model a healthy relationship. It may not seem like it, but from my point of view, the relationship was actually better this time around. DAs fear intimacy and at least he had the heart this time to say he needed space. I would've been left in the dark in the past. I have a hunch he likes what he sees but scared of commitment. Whether he stays or leaves, it's ok.
It's been really hard. I almost broke NC just today. Reminiscing about past and unresolved feelings hit me hard today. But I kept myself control and did not let win my feelings over what I should do.Hope's been fading day by day. But in the bottom of my heart, I know that it's gonna be okay. Coach your videos have been really encouraging and a lot of helpful to me. Thank you so much and keep up good work.
Yes..my goal has been to become the best version of my self and I'm here to say Coach Blac is 100% correct!!! It has made me more attractive in my ex's eyes..almost makes them see what made them fall in love with you in the first place!! Once I told myself he doesn't walk on water and started loving myself more! I am still not contacting him-I wait till he reaches out to me via phone or text-text messages I intentionally don't answer right away to look desperate! We are almost 2 months in and have had 3 date nights as well. I'm taking all your advice and I thank you bigtime!! Kathy
Great content....since no contact I am a totally different person..... stronger....it works.....do not put them before you....know yr a king or queen.....yr important...I have bought a new property...focused on God,self,working out,making money....Coach BLAC is a Boss
After 23 years my love Broke up with me, i was lost i was Not myself anymore i forgott myself i cried i begged and then i found your voice your smartness, your Power and your wisdom now with 43 i am back to the Grind, daily workout daily swiming daily studying, true love is freedom anyhow. THANK YOU Brother
It’s all very helpful advice to focus on improving yourself instead of begging for approval or attention. I am working through these issues myself after a very painful breakup.
My fiance left me 6 weeks ago, I thought I was going to die, and I made all the mistakes you taught us to not do, I was begging her, crying, txt, sending her emails and last Friday I made the most mistake, I went to her mum where she is staying and I was begging her to come back home with her mum watching everything. I didn't know your UA-cam channel before last Friday. If I knew it, I'd make those mistakes. It's a lesson to be learned. I'm off of her life since then. Let's see what the future is going to bring for both of us.
If u have to beg somone to stay with u tht person doesn't deserve u.alwys remember one thing nevr love anyone more thn urself. I loved my wife her EVRYTHING bt she brok up cz she wanted to stay with her family. I mean really. I realise she nevr loved me.i felt disgusting 🫣 within myself.one question I asked her u want to live or go.she left I close the door I ll nevr let her com bk.person I loved she was in my head not in reality.so brother hav som self respect and dnt allow her to disrespect u ever u love urself
What you said is correct and for the simple fact that I have new expectations and standards that must be met in order for us to be together. While I wouldn't mind her coming back (barring a few things), my heart is no longer in the driving seat when it comes to making decisions. If she's not giving what I want, then we're not going to have a relationship.
Improving one self is always the best thing anyone can do. Like with me, I found two different relationships sense my ex girlfriend, her name is wendy. Love her to death however, I found two relationships sense her and it has opened my eyes in those two relationships one was needy and the other one was always asking me for me money so I kicked both of them to the curb. Yes wendy is the person that God said he would bring back into my life, however, ever sense wendy and i broke up I've been working out and I've made great strides and still going, eating healthy, removing any and all negative emotions and toxic things from my life. I am a better person now then what I was when I was with wendy. I feel great and now I'm always positive and giving myself pep talks to keep the positivity going and I've been talking to God even more then what I normally do so I'm making a big change in my life
Yes, absolutely but you have to be real careful. This could be very dangerous for you and his current girlfriend because your ex could use you as an option when things aren’t going well in their current relationship. && sometimes your ex relationship could be a distraction just to get over you fast etc. so it depends on the person .
Usually it's a rebound if got into it within months of breakup... most men and women are not emotionally ready for a serious relationship that fast or it will end fast because they'll have to face the fact theyre not ready.
My ex girlfriend and I were together a year and half. We've been broken up for 15 months. During our relationship I never meet her adult sons. However I did meet her brother and close friends. She has been with her new boyfriend for a year and he has meet her adult sons and the rest of her immediate family. I'm so angry and hurt!!
@blacademic hey Coach what keeps happening to your videos? I saw you posted video on difference between men and women in no contact and I flagged to Watch Later but now it's gone. And I thought I got notify about a live last night but it's not on here either. I value your videos they have really been helping me!!
Not necessarily, if u two are both growing in power etc etc, u two are growing apart....growing towards OTHER relationships....no contact means outta sight outta mind... If they wanted no contact 2 begin with, they wont KNOW if u have changed, they're basically NOT checking 4 u
Narcissist 101: So my Ex wants to come back, but with exceptions and stipulations. He Monkeybranched into a Relationship about 7 months ago. He reached out and is willing to Talk, but wants me to treat him nicely. Basically, not express my pain to him. He says I should Apologize to him for calling him a name. I called him a "Snake." Seriously? What game is he playing here? 🤨 Need advice. Should I let this go or try to work it out?
He can’t just come into your life and apply stipulations, you’re no longer together. Keep living your life the way you want to live it because it seems to me he still wants a sense of control over you. Don’t express pain don’t express yourself at all, be casual at all times and keep things light. Just act like you’re meeting someone new for the first time
You are the best Coach fr. You only speak in truth. I already believe all those things f.e. I am more attractive then my ex etc. And i already improved my physique in the gym. All there is left to do for me is to break up with my past insecurities. But i dont know how i should approach her. Could u pls help me out voach?
He told, he needs space. His life is his own. Not to text him often. He is not interested. But when I got into a problem, he helped me to the extent of even risking his job. He often says to move away. But drunk calls me and says he loves me a lot. This was hurting, confusing and doubtful. So I went into no contact. But I m 24..7 thinking of him. I'm not able to move away. This is really hurting. Don't know if he comes back or not.
There is no beating around the bush with this content, love it. Trying to apply this day by day, it’s tough but knowing your self worth is key. And no games, that needs to be said again.
I left my ex last week he didn't trust me he believed his friends over me so I didn't want to do it anymore so I lost 7years of friendship and lost a 4month relationship 💔
If there is no resolution of the conflict then nothing will change.. it’s not love it’s just an emotional attachment. Don’t fall for the lies that he or she changed…. Please don’t go go back to the same toxic relationships. Be very self aware of why you are wanting to go back to them. I literally went across the country to get away from this guy… just to let him know where I was and let him back in… I’m so disgusted with myself about it. What your ex did has nothing to do with you. You deserve the best. Don’t pretend you have any power to make someone want to be better. Work on you and let go of these bums.. ❤
Well…I can’t be younger, I can’t force him to love me, I can’t compete with a young girl who got into his personal space while his guard was down, because she was just a friend. It’s not insecurity. It’s a fact. She’s young and he wants a young girl. I was not the person he wanted a relationship with. I was just sex and chemistry. Attraction. If he never let me into his personal space, his emotional space, then I was nothing but meat.
My ex gf loves me, care for me but following out of sight out of mind method.( Basically trying to forget Me) Can you make a video on this ? What if my ex is following out of sight out of mind during no contact
I really so much hurt broke after meeting my Ex asking for the second chance and said no and I asked him if he moved on and said yes , I am really so much hurt
My Ex and I were together 15yrs years, we split up a year ago, she got into a new relationship right away, they're broken up now, they've been broken up 3weeks now and it lasted a year. She's coming back around again, calling, texting, we've gone out a had drinks and ate dinner a couple times and everything had gone great each time we've talked or hung out. My question is. She's messed up from her breakup with her other ex, she still talks to them, has slept there a couple times in the first week, but she always seems to come back to me. How do I go about it, with her still dealing with her breakup and talking to her ex? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks
She doesn’t respect you and you shouldn’t tolerate that type disrespect. She will continue to do that with other men if you take her back. Stay strong and walk away
You could change your life in 90 days saying f* that b*, starting a business or endeavor you love, travel & see what other women look like, & level up so much that you look back and don’t feel the need to put her on a pedestal anymore! Then, and only then, will they come back talking about how much they liked you. He literally keeps repeating this too now that I think about it.
I'm meeting up with the dumper this weekend. I've improved volumes, and realize he was more of the problem. I am not afraid to walk out. He will see how different I am. I am evolved and have options. Talking with him is out of curiosity more than anything.
Who initiated meeting up?
@@christybyrne9844 he responded to my goodbye letter. A nice kind letter where I apologized for anything I'd done wrong and wished him well in his journey.
I’m really happy for your personal growth and admire your improvement. I hope that I’ll be able to feel like this and be in this mindset soon :,)
@@cloudylie I hope you will too. Update: after spending 2 weeks back with my ex (he asked to get back), he's taking space because he 'doesn't want to hurt me," In the past 2 weeks, I've opened up to him and encouraged him to do the same. I have been using my knowledge to bring this DA out of his shell and hopefully model a healthy relationship. It may not seem like it, but from my point of view, the relationship was actually better this time around. DAs fear intimacy and at least he had the heart this time to say he needed space. I would've been left in the dark in the past. I have a hunch he likes what he sees but scared of commitment. Whether he stays or leaves, it's ok.
@@a.d.b535 Best of luck to you! I hope everything works out this time around.
It's been really hard. I almost broke NC just today. Reminiscing about past and unresolved feelings hit me hard today. But I kept myself control and did not let win my feelings over what I should do.Hope's been fading day by day. But in the bottom of my heart, I know that it's gonna be okay. Coach your videos have been really encouraging and a lot of helpful to me. Thank you so much and keep up good work.
Stay strong San. Don't break NC. It's so hard. You got this!
One thing that helped me was going to parties, Caribbean carnivals & the club lol you just need some fun. You deserve to be happy
@@STARSENMT thanks man
Yes..my goal has been to become the best version of my self and I'm here to say Coach Blac is 100% correct!!! It has made me more attractive in my ex's eyes..almost makes them see what made them fall in love with you in the first place!! Once I told myself he doesn't walk on water and started loving myself more! I am still not contacting him-I wait till he reaches out to me via phone or text-text messages I intentionally don't answer right away to look desperate! We are almost 2 months in and have had 3 date nights as well. I'm taking all your advice and I thank you bigtime!!
Kathy
Great content....since no contact I am a totally different person..... stronger....it works.....do not put them before you....know yr a king or queen.....yr important...I have bought a new property...focused on God,self,working out,making money....Coach BLAC is a Boss
Your video really helped me. I'm cope with it better. No contact helped me it's been 3 months .self-love. Thanks for your videos!!!!!
After 23 years my love Broke up with me, i was lost i was Not myself anymore i forgott myself i cried i begged and then i found your voice your smartness, your Power and your wisdom now with 43 i am back to the Grind, daily workout daily swiming daily studying, true love is freedom anyhow. THANK YOU Brother
It’s all very helpful advice to focus on improving yourself instead of begging for approval or attention. I am working through these issues myself after a very painful breakup.
Thank you, thank you!
My fiance left me 6 weeks ago, I thought I was going to die, and I made all the mistakes you taught us to not do, I was begging her, crying, txt, sending her emails and last Friday I made the most mistake, I went to her mum where she is staying and I was begging her to come back home with her mum watching everything. I didn't know your UA-cam channel before last Friday. If I knew it, I'd make those mistakes. It's a lesson to be learned. I'm off of her life since then. Let's see what the future is going to bring for both of us.
If u have to beg somone to stay with u tht person doesn't deserve u.alwys remember one thing nevr love anyone more thn urself. I loved my wife her EVRYTHING bt she brok up cz she wanted to stay with her family. I mean really. I realise she nevr loved me.i felt disgusting 🫣 within myself.one question I asked her u want to live or go.she left I close the door I ll nevr let her com bk.person I loved she was in my head not in reality.so brother hav som self respect and dnt allow her to disrespect u ever u love urself
What you said is correct and for the simple fact that I have new expectations and standards that must be met in order for us to be together. While I wouldn't mind her coming back (barring a few things), my heart is no longer in the driving seat when it comes to making decisions. If she's not giving what I want, then we're not going to have a relationship.
Very very interesting, I feel this isn’t bullshit. Gave me lots of inspiration to get my dream job in the fitness indistryn
You’re really helping me cope with everything I’m currently going through and I’m very grateful for your content. 🙏🏾❤️
Improving one self is always the best thing anyone can do. Like with me, I found two different relationships sense my ex girlfriend, her name is wendy. Love her to death however, I found two relationships sense her and it has opened my eyes in those two relationships one was needy and the other one was always asking me for me money so I kicked both of them to the curb. Yes wendy is the person that God said he would bring back into my life, however, ever sense wendy and i broke up I've been working out and I've made great strides and still going, eating healthy, removing any and all negative emotions and toxic things from my life. I am a better person now then what I was when I was with wendy. I feel great and now I'm always positive and giving myself pep talks to keep the positivity going and I've been talking to God even more then what I normally do so I'm making a big change in my life
real shit man. 🙏🏾
4.5 weeks no contact so far. Miss her more and more everyday
Weeks 6 to 8 is when separation anxiety is highest for the ex so stay strong.
@@basicinfo2022good to know! I’m coming up on week 2 and it’s still hard for me 😢
@xannecorinnex I'm on week 8. So happy I got this far cause it's my 4th round of doing no contact. The first 2 months are the hardest. Keep going!
I wish you didn't charge so much for 30 minutes I would hit you up
Respectfully. I'm not hating on you I'm just expressing my thoughts.
Today has been 30 days NC on the female dumper. First 3 weeks were killing me but yesterday she bearley crossed my mind
Thanks coach your words are really helping me navigate through this break up,
If the ex is seeing another lady.. can he still come back to me ??
Yes, absolutely but you have to be real careful. This could be very dangerous for you and his current girlfriend because your ex could use you as an option when things aren’t going well in their current relationship. && sometimes your ex relationship could be a distraction just to get over you fast etc. so it depends on the person .
Usually it's a rebound if got into it within months of breakup... most men and women are not emotionally ready for a serious relationship that fast or it will end fast because they'll have to face the fact theyre not ready.
My ex girlfriend and I were together a year and half. We've been broken up for 15 months. During our relationship I never meet her adult sons. However I did meet her brother and close friends.
She has been with her new boyfriend for a year and he has meet her adult sons and the rest of her immediate family.
I'm so angry and hurt!!
Thank you so much, coach. Your words are so wonderful ❤
@blacademic hey Coach what keeps happening to your videos? I saw you posted video on difference between men and women in no contact and I flagged to Watch Later but now it's gone. And I thought I got notify about a live last night but it's not on here either. I value your videos they have really been helping me!!
Not necessarily, if u two are both growing in power etc etc, u two are growing apart....growing towards OTHER relationships....no contact means outta sight outta mind...
If they wanted no contact 2 begin with, they wont KNOW if u have changed, they're basically NOT checking 4 u
Narcissist 101: So my Ex wants to come back, but with exceptions and stipulations. He Monkeybranched into a Relationship about 7 months ago. He reached out and is willing to Talk, but wants me to treat him nicely. Basically, not express my pain to him. He says I should Apologize to him for calling him a name. I called him a "Snake." Seriously? What game is he playing here? 🤨
Need advice. Should I let this go or try to work it out?
He can’t just come into your life and apply stipulations, you’re no longer together. Keep living your life the way you want to live it because it seems to me he still wants a sense of control over you. Don’t express pain don’t express yourself at all, be casual at all times and keep things light. Just act like you’re meeting someone new for the first time
You are the best Coach fr. You only speak in truth. I already believe all those things f.e. I am more attractive then my ex etc. And i already improved my physique in the gym. All there is left to do for me is to break up with my past insecurities. But i dont know how i should approach her. Could u pls help me out voach?
This is excellent content every time I watch a video from him i learn something new
He told, he needs space. His life is his own. Not to text him often. He is not interested. But when I got into a problem, he helped me to the extent of even risking his job. He often says to move away. But drunk calls me and says he loves me a lot. This was hurting, confusing and doubtful. So I went into no contact. But I m 24..7 thinking of him. I'm not able to move away. This is really hurting. Don't know if he comes back or not.
No!!
There is no beating around the bush with this content, love it. Trying to apply this day by day, it’s tough but knowing your self worth is key. And no games, that needs to be said again.
I left my ex last week he didn't trust me he believed his friends over me so I didn't want to do it anymore so I lost 7years of friendship and lost a 4month relationship 💔
The fact his sisters miss me and I miss them
I don't like him anymore I just wish I could be with his little sisters
He already likes another girl
Found out he never loved me and that he's in love with someone else.
If there is no resolution of the conflict then nothing will change.. it’s not love it’s just an emotional attachment. Don’t fall for the lies that he or she changed…. Please don’t go go back to the same toxic relationships. Be very self aware of why you are wanting to go back to them. I literally went across the country to get away from this guy… just to let him know where I was and let him back in… I’m so disgusted with myself about it. What your ex did has nothing to do with you. You deserve the best. Don’t pretend you have any power to make someone want to be better. Work on you and let go of these bums.. ❤
Lets go coach very good topic
Well…I can’t be younger, I can’t force him to love me, I can’t compete with a young girl who got into his personal space while his guard was down, because she was just a friend.
It’s not insecurity. It’s a fact. She’s young and he wants a young girl.
I was not the person he wanted a relationship with. I was just sex and chemistry. Attraction.
If he never let me into his personal space, his emotional space, then I was nothing but meat.
How can you get back to your ex girlfriend when she is sleeping around with multiple men?
What!!
Let go and move on heal yourself
My ex gf loves me, care for me but following out of sight out of mind method.( Basically trying to forget Me)
Can you make a video on this ? What if my ex is following out of sight out of mind during no contact
Which personal development books do you recommend?
This I'd good
Thanks!
She broke my heart and insulted me and people I care about and I'm angry at myself for still caring about her and feeling like I failed.
I really so much hurt broke after meeting my Ex asking for the second chance and said no and I asked him if he moved on and said yes , I am really so much hurt
❤❤❤
Could make a video about 3d party?
What really helps is the fact that you're so genuine in your delivery. Thank you!
Beautiful 👍🏼
THANKS 🙏👍
Thank you!
What if the brake up was a mutual agreement ?
Thank you
Well said
Great video.. absolutely right.
My Ex and I were together 15yrs years, we split up a year ago, she got into a new relationship right away, they're broken up now, they've been broken up 3weeks now and it lasted a year. She's coming back around again, calling, texting, we've gone out a had drinks and ate dinner a couple times and everything had gone great each time we've talked or hung out. My question is. She's messed up from her breakup with her other ex, she still talks to them, has slept there a couple times in the first week, but she always seems to come back to me. How do I go about it, with her still dealing with her breakup and talking to her ex? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks
She doesn’t respect you and you shouldn’t tolerate that type disrespect. She will continue to do that with other men if you take her back. Stay strong and walk away
She's just making you an option or a back up. Have your self respect. Let her go brother. Enough is enough.
Thanks man 😊
Mmmm Grape Juice baby. 😂
i hate hypergamy
You could change your life in 90 days saying f* that b*, starting a business or endeavor you love, travel & see what other women look like, & level up so much that you look back and don’t feel the need to put her on a pedestal anymore! Then, and only then, will they come back talking about how much they liked you. He literally keeps repeating this too now that I think about it.
It's logical to want the best you can get.