The Unheard Flipside of the Deadbeat Dad Story
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- Опубліковано 18 вер 2024
- Welcome to The Onyx Report's Daily Black Masculinist News, where we Black Male Justice Advocates uplift Black men and boys using critical analysis in today's video, "The Unheard Flipside of the Deadbeat Dad Story."
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As a former Police Officer, I never believed the woman when I arrived to an alleged Domestic Violence call. Having seen how women in my own family would act towards men, I knew that with patience and letting the woman talk while I'm assessing the scene, that the woman would give me all that I need in time to take her to jail. From Experience, I can tell you that on at least 5X, A woman has told me that she was unaware that Domestic Violence laws apply to women too! They actually thought they can just hit a man and get away with it. I lost a male family member to Domestic Violence when his wife hit him the face with a gun repeatedly until it went off and shot him in the face. All because he didn't to stay with her anymore because she was attacking him physically. As an Officer on a call, women would admit to hitting the man, prevent him from leaving the home, and when he had reached his limit and hit or push her in self defense... she would call the Police to have him removed from the home. When I would talk to both parties, I would find they both came from single mother households, and suffered some form of abuse or verbal neglect from their mothers. The family court system along with societal law has had some serious ramifications on the so called Black Community. Add to the fact that the Democrat Party has made so called Black women gatekeepers of so called Black men, it's no wonder why so called Black men have a hard time in America or life in general.
Thanks for this comment bro.
@@thescepterofjudah12 Thank you for this reply. A friend of mine didn't like the way his wife was talking to him. I told him to get out of there. They had an argument, she called the cops, and he died in police custody. He didn't threaten her or put his hands on her, but he's still dead.
@@OneEyedLion That is horrible, and it’s one of the many reasons why I left being a Police Officer. I found out my Cousin died by reading the Investigation summaries from all the major crimes in the city. My cousin didn’t call the Police, because he felt he wasn’t doing anything wrong, and it still cost him his life. So when Black women tell me how hard it is in this country, I laugh at them, because Black men have it worse.
@@JEGHETTO Thank you brotha! 👍🏽
Drop the Mic 🎤!!!
The other elephant is the room dynamic is the Deadbeat Mom, raising kids to be the worst.
Careful!!! Thou shalt not snitch!
And the deadbeat mom that is absent.
The unfit mom is also the elephant in the room
The deadbeat mother who gives her kids to the grandmother and takes credit for raising them
I attended a cookout about 14 years ago where 30 BW were bragging about filing false DV claims to get even with their ex's. After I left my ex, she did the exact same things her family members bragged about doing to their ex's. Now imagine how many how other women those 30 women influenced.
Did you get arrested what happened?
@@leobramlett5118 An arrest is only part of the issue, a woman can go directly to family court and get a restraining order WITHOUT a police report or prove. In my case, I thought quickly and told the officers to watch the security footage at my job. I was not arrested but she was charged with beach of peace. She then went to court and filed for a restraining order. If the person has children, the court usually grant one. It can hurt a person's employment! I spent 2 years dealing with that issue. I was blessed to get 2 black male judges during my last 2 appearances that understood. The other judges (WW, WM) only saw a black man and did not care.
The next time you go to a cookout, get someone to record their bragging, so they can get some time.😮
Dam shame
@@southpaw2k1the courts encourage parent alienation. They also profit from it.
Nobody talks how single fathers do well more than single moms statistically
I lived with my father since 2008 , when my mom felt i had to let a man raise me when i was growing,my father showed me how to be a hard worker, discipline and patience as a man ,he taught me skills and make sure order was placed in the household, without my dad i wouldn't be shit as a young man myself
It's just anecdotal evidence but, my Brother and I both graduated college and my Brother retired from the USAF as a Master Sgt. His influence as a single Dad was monumental, I only really lived with him for about 6 years. The time living with my Mother was raggedy AF, I'm 57 and she's still tumbling out of control. We have not spoken in 2 years because I'm sick of her lying BS, she just uses me for money.
@@MTXSHO9732vV8SHOYikes.
I always thought it was strange how sistas claimed black men were deadbeat dads. Yet those women shamed those same men into being stepfathers. This is another dynamic that isn't often discussed.
They're always claiming there are no good men, but they keep getting pregnant by pookies.
Yet the rapper Future is still getting many of them knocked up.
They are like Simba when he roared at the hyenas and they cowered not realizing that Mufasa was behind him. That's how the modern woman is with the government. They don't realize they are only scary because of who is standing behind them.
It's not just the government, but simp enforcers, too
I got one better for you Dr T. When my ex-wife found out I remarried. She filed a suit to reopen our divorce and get it tossed out. During the original divorce proceedings she failed to show up for court. So everything was ruled in my favor and the divorce was effective 30 days later. A few years after that she found out I got remarried and then she started filing all kinds of paperwork .Ultimately was tossed out and then she ramped up the child support system. She also alienated me from my kids haven't seen them in 8 years.
@@noknewspodcast WTF!?!?
@@DrTHasanJohnson I can't make this up. Apparently you can file whatever kind of suit you want.
She wants to break you. Stay strong brother.
Trifling
Wow
In my 30 years ive NEVER seen a situation in real life where i can say the man was a "deadbeat". Its a myth
Good point, it’s always a one-sided story.
You need to get out more than.
@@Charlie2timez you need to open your eyes
Dr. T I thought you were Kimbo Slice for a minute there with that Kufe on😂.. but your work is impeccable 👌🏾
@@Freedomcomfort880 It was just a bandana. 😂
My own mother did some of those things & my ex did some of those things that was mentioned. As black men we are very involved fathers when we're not blocked by the mother from doing so. It's interesting that a study was conducted and concluded that but if you pay attention to people in public you'll notice in real time too. Often we're pushing strollers & carrying babies and openly showing affection to our children very often.
It’s true. My mom did it to my dad. Now we all suffer
I cannot tell you ONE POSITIVE story about a friend that has a good relationship with the mother of his kids after the disintegration of their relationship. I can tell you stories of kids becoming McDonald's All Americans, getting Law Degree(s) from Georgetown, Ivy League, becoming published authors, finishing college etc etc etc etc when the family unit remains intact. This whole discussion is pretty much remedial for anyone that's willing to BE HONEST. However, it's almost guaranteed EVERYONE WILL SUFFER and the CHILDREN will suffer the most.
The BW's ego is more important than anything.
The pendulum is swinging 🦾💯
Anytime men say that these things are happening he’s shamed As being soft or gay or nowadays sassy.
Thank goodness for these short videos🙏🏿, because my adhd wouldn't allow me to watch the long live replays.
You know I think the reason the conscious community doesn't address these subjects because the easiest fix is to date out of the race. We can tell by the tone of the comments who the black women are and the difference is night and day.
The "Conscious Community" are also ultimately concu-serfs, and grifters. Their "power" lies ultimately with centering and being the lapdogs of BW so they will never be completely honest about BW and the part they play in all this.
I fully confess that as of this morning I started asking myself if I've done myself an injustice by NOT dating outside of my race. Black Women are just too dayum much trouble and it's hard to WANT to take care of and for them when they get Black Woman comfortable...living in expectation fantasy.
Black First I'm just saying thank you my brother for this evening true powerful video commentary is indeed in my opinion truth be told the truth and food. for thought. And just one more thing I am just waiting to watch this important information I'm just saying..............
Salute brother Dr. Hassan.
Corruption. We need a serious change of policy Sir. SF
I’m wanted them people who got manipulated like that. It’s hard to endure, but you have to make sure you got a child grow up with a good mental state of mind.
Awesome topic and show ❤
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Gentlemen, don't soften your stance!
The want us gone, leave!!!
Our problem is that the definition of deadbeat is not clearly defined and mostly agreed on. It's subject to change depending on the materialistic standard of the individual.
No, it's clearly defined...it's a parent that's behind on child support. Keishas have changed the definition and BM let them.
@KtotheG that has never been the definition 😅. And it's more like what the OP said, it really comes down to the woman
@@brandonburns5365 Yes, it is.. That's what it means. Anybody who owes money and is in arrears is called that. Then there is "absentee father," which is different... some fathers are absent because the mothers are promiscuous and can't name them, or because there was a split or a divorce. There is no such thing as "abandonment" unless there was a marriage and the parent left during the marriage with no trace. They've twisted all those terms up.
@KtotheG no one have ever been called a deadbeat for not paying child support. It's for not being active in their child's life. Paying child support never had no bearing on how a man is as a parent.
These replies are proving my point, it's not clearly defined and changes between people.
Another reason to go overseas for a better life and build your family!!
Real Talk Doc T
A power you did not build is a power you cannot properly wield.
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13:20 -14:40 - Indeed, well said brother
Rip Kevin Samuels
Finally, some content that matters, and is impacting.🤔
I want to commend you on your work. Taking a child away from a father for no OBJECTIVE reason should be a crime. We must suspect that not unrelated is all of the dollars being exchanged for this purpose. Outrageous but true, we are treated as if we're chattel slaves. How?
The state, with the private sectors e.g., those who practice family law; auxiliary agents, social workers, and psychologists, take children away from fathers with taxpayer incentives.
For over 35 years I've been denied freedom of association and contact with all of my family members, including my son and granddaughters. Why? Because the mother has the backing of society and the millions of dollars from her family members for support notwithstanding. Where's the Constitution when you need it? Hahaha.
That no one sees the direct relationship between those who are well-educated doing anything for money and societal problems is beyond me. Think of what's happening with the Supreme Court? Where's the justice?
I'm in Berkeley and I have every intention to assist with the work as things become better. These videos exposing the truth are outstanding, Doctor. I had to say something. Thank you for all the sharing you do.
The truth is inevitable, the myth of the deadbeat dad cannot be enforced for long and power is governmentally granted and not a biological ontology regarding the parental alienation.
I just got done having a brief discussion with two cousins of mine about the value of men versus women. I didn't force my views but I had to say that low self esteem is what makes women select improper men and then conflate that improperness universally.
@@igormendoncacanga2569 Or it’s a power move. Choose men for sperm by picking men you know you can control or leave and force them to pay you for 18 years. And you retain control of the kids and the household.
#SYSBM
Leave them to whatever fate has in store.
Or how you already resented him because she was doing things for him... and the baby was going to make him marry you so that she can stop doing anything for him as soon as possible.... that's why they charge up so quickly after the wedding.... they NEVER wanted to do it.... now you have to pay 5:27
He don't get to reject her and hurt her feeling without being attacked as harshly as possible..... because they are better than men... wtf are men to reject them
Excellent topics but it's all pointless. There's simply too much money involved.
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How come men won't help BW? How come men won't protect BW? How come men won't take care of their mothers? Here's your answer.
Because they're strong and independent and equal to men and don't need no man 💪
Both of y’all hurt 😂. Get a grip.
@@Charlie2timez begone Keisha
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So many family court judges that have to deal with the sexual dissatisfaction bomb 😂
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