Off The Record: Should Couples Who Constantly Fight Just Get Divorced?

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  • Опубліковано 18 гру 2024

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  • @bethnichols2875
    @bethnichols2875 Рік тому +41

    Thank you, Nick for opening up so much.

  • @magnumbrahms5339
    @magnumbrahms5339 Рік тому +105

    Going from talking and showing butts to talking about serious stuff. You guys are special 😊

  • @CristineTot
    @CristineTot Рік тому +30

    I can relate in so many levels. My parents did not have a good marriage at all. Half of the time they're fighting and the rest of the time pretending that the other doesn't exist. Then my mother emotionally burdening you with "I only stay in this marriage because of you." Can you imagine what that does to a child? Thinking it's your fault that your parents are fighting? There's no divorce in my country so that wasn't an option for them. Separating also means shame to the family back in the day so that wasn't a choice for them either.
    Unfortunately, my dad died 10 years ago and my mother, instead of calming down and putting all her resentments to rest, developed a more narcissistic personality. Now me and her are the ones constantly arguing. Good thing she backs down when she sees that I won't budge. Yeah... we have a complicated relationship. I love my mom, but I don't like her very much. Lol.

  • @supergriffin844
    @supergriffin844 Рік тому +109

    I experienced fights and cops called during to my parents fighting. I wished they just divorced sooner to save the trauma it caused

  • @EdisonChau
    @EdisonChau Рік тому +11

    Cans story is beautiful. thanks for sharing.

  • @ginngerhearth7136
    @ginngerhearth7136 Рік тому +18

    My parents only stayed together long enough for me to receive a kidney transplant when I was 6. My father was the donor. My mother loves to remind me constantly that that was the "only" good thing he did for me. I always had the hope they would get back together but end the end I saw it was for the best.

  • @patrickoloteo4
    @patrickoloteo4 Рік тому +17

    very emotional watching this episode & topic… Nice to hear from Nick (and he didn’t deflect…lol) & Can… currently going thru some marital issues and also wondering if divorce is the answer. definitely communication is the key which we try to keep civil and no yelling or flare ups. you guys rock! keeping topics 💯

  • @roho18
    @roho18 Рік тому +13

    Careful Boyz!

  • @kiablis4371
    @kiablis4371 Рік тому +10

    I'm a big advocate for telling people to not be together if their relationship is toxic. If they argue over stupid stuff, then it's not my place to say anything. I know people who pops up kids and can't take care of these kids. I know this kid and when she got older, she told her dad to divorce her mom. As kids, we see so much shit our parents do. Arguing everyday and mental abuse is something I never wish for my parents. It's better to separate then risking the chance of one of them going to jail.

  • @Ntsej_Muag
    @Ntsej_Muag Рік тому +31

    It's a good thing I've never experienced any fights between my parents. They got a divorced when I was just a baby. My dad wanted to be on his own at the time and he was a drug addict too. My mom hated him for it. It's a good thing they got a divorced. It was the right thing to do from both end.

  • @V1CT0RY
    @V1CT0RY Рік тому +4

    Harder for Asian culture because divorce brings dishonor and my parents couldn’t handle it so they are still in their toxic marriage, it sucks

  • @jay1jayf
    @jay1jayf Рік тому +10

    Bro i just stopped mean girls to watch this video
    start this video and they're talking about "anfernee"
    Mean girls's opening has one teacher complaining about his sister calling his nephew anfernee instead of Anthony, lmao. That's exactly where I stopped the movie.
    Kinda funny, lmao.

  • @gaymer-j
    @gaymer-j Рік тому +4

    2 happy homes is better than one miserable one. I'm glad my parents divorced (which is a no-no in Mexican culture), but luckily, out of many other cultures, it's not so dishonorable. But I was made fun of and had the comments. Of course. But looking hindsight, they are doing much better as people now that they chosen who truly fits them in relationships (vs having to be married at 17 yrs old cuz they had me). Now my mother is a lead nurse supervisor at the hospital and a real estate and business investor. My father is also a nurse practitioner at a different hospital and owns several mechanic shops. They did better separately than together.

  • @oeisuj
    @oeisuj Рік тому +13

    Nic parents relationship mustve really affected him. He talking alot in this ep. ❤ 😂😢

    • @jt3.
      @jt3. Рік тому +4

      Apparently the youngest gets the most affected by parents splitting up.
      Source: trust me bro

  • @thedouglaspodcast
    @thedouglaspodcast Рік тому +2

    19:53 yes!!! I heard this quote. “You never stop maturing” or some shit like that 🤣 as a kid, you think your parents are just who they are. I’ve seen my dad change a ton too 🥺 it’s the most wild thing to see when someone is totally stuck in there ways. People never stop growing and changing! No matter the age.

  • @CamberRockerCamber
    @CamberRockerCamber Рік тому +3

    I have two different groups of friends who's parents are divorced. For both of them, the parents got divorced when they were in college/high school. With both of them, it's the same sentiment. While it was sad and it hurt to see their parents separate, they were glad the parents did because the household was so toxic that as kids they were afraid to go home after school. Honestly, both of them wished their parents had gotten divorced earlier to save them from the trauma.

  • @kaybee2411
    @kaybee2411 Рік тому +3

    Nope... I told my mom and dad to get a divorce. They did not do anything physical... but They were unhappy and I saw that. 2parent home are not always the best when a kid knows and dnt see the love it's actually more damaging..

    • @kaybee2411
      @kaybee2411 Рік тому +1

      I meant right... not nope... but yall get it... lol... and my mom got rid of my dad's name... but me and dad are cool ...but they were not good together.. and its crazy bcuz now she just passed... and he was very caring and have been there for me and actually saw... she was a good woman they just ddnt work at the time

  • @fellyf89
    @fellyf89 Рік тому +18

    I understand what Bart is trying to do but shielding your child from all fights is creating an unrealistic idea of what a loving relationship is. A child should see that there are fights but also how they are resolved and never become nasty or disrespectful

    • @katwilliams2950
      @katwilliams2950 Рік тому +1

      But I think that is the biggest issue because most couples don't just have disagreements or low key "fights"
      I knew my parents had times where they weren't happy with each other but the stress that doing in it front of them is not good. Dont lie and say everything is perfect, but most don't have the communication skills or emotional maturity to do so

  • @sheFEISTY.43110
    @sheFEISTY.43110 Рік тому +3

    Bart's tattoo story still hecka funny everytime I think about it. 😂

  • @qitze
    @qitze Рік тому +2

    My parents was constantly fighting when I was in high school. I told my mom it is alright if she and my dad wanna get a divorce. Do whatever that makes them happy.

  • @Zatisfy49
    @Zatisfy49 Рік тому +3

    My mom was driving while 5 of the kids including me was in the car with my dad. My mom n dad got into an argument so my mom drove onto incoming traffic saying my dad had to apologize or else she won’t turn back onto the ride side of the road. I remember us kids yelling and forcing my mom to move back to the right lane. And telling my dad to apologize. Luckily my dad apologized while cars were coming from oncoming traffic.

    • @psoozan9648
      @psoozan9648 Рік тому +3

      Damn that’s wild, sorry you had to experience that

  • @HH_Julius
    @HH_Julius Рік тому +4

    I mean social media was a big help with awareness of these issues. I didn't know what adhd was exactly until I watched YT videos about it 🤷🏾‍♂️

  • @kiniean
    @kiniean Рік тому +1

    I never knew my parents argued thought out my youth. In 2018, I was 23 and my brother was 18 when our parents divorced. I was so mad, since I was the last person they told. They broke my heart and I don’t think I would ever forgive my dad. And I assumed my mom would never talk to him again. 2022 came around and all of a sudden my parents made up. They talk like friends but not lovers. I understand now why they divorced, they were both at fault for the failed marriage. But I’m glad my parents are still friends. Sometimes I think their divorce messed me up. I now think what if my husband does the same? It’s kinda scary. ;-;

  • @thedouglaspodcast
    @thedouglaspodcast Рік тому +2

    17:19 I think Bart’s story is a perfect example of that 🥺💔 even tho it didn’t work out for his parents.. it still always blows my mind that they came back together after all those years. And tbh, idk if like.. it was meant to be from his dad’s passing. Like his mom basically got to say goodbye ina way. It also could’ve pushed him to pass as well also tho 😔
    I wish I could sit down with Bart’s mom actually! She seems like such an interesting lady and so many times throughout the years, Bart has talked about her and I think, _”damn! I just wanna talk to this lady and pick her brain”_ lmaoo. Idk what it is. I feel like her and I would get along in a weird ass way 🤣 I see a lot of myself in her, the way he talks about her 💀
    But more-so I just wanna ask what his dad was like the days/weeks leading up to his passing 🥺 truly seemed like an outta-left-field situation. My heart still hurts for his family 😭 I’m sure you won’t see this but - hope you’re hangin in there Bart! You’re an awesome papa to lil cutie (cuuuhniiii) Tika!

  • @stellahaynesworth5833
    @stellahaynesworth5833 Рік тому +2

    Anthony and Ryan have naturally wavy hair? Really nice 👌

  • @jt3.
    @jt3. Рік тому +3

    I get the understanding that our parents didn't have resources like we do. But to what extent is it our responsibility to help out full grown adults to mature and realize new perspectives in life? Seems too big of a burden to raise your own parents.. especially closed-minded ones.

  • @paranoidpanda
    @paranoidpanda Рік тому +5

    Hearing joe talk about his last name really hit me. My step dad has been in my life but not my real dad. Me and him fight but we love each other and I did think about taking his last name but I dk

  • @CuongChanster
    @CuongChanster Рік тому +1

    The worst is when couples stay together by getting pregnant. Now the kids are involved, and years later, they're divorced

  • @jcruz2255
    @jcruz2255 Рік тому +1

    I guess it depends since it's different for each family. But personally, I value my peace so I think it's worth it.

  • @ImmrtlKeew
    @ImmrtlKeew Рік тому

    Love you Nick!!!!!!!!!!! These s boys are always there for you!!

  • @MHello_
    @MHello_ Рік тому +1

    Definitely feel the notion about parents being good parents but not good partners. My parents are phenomenal to their kids, honestly the best mom and dad one could ask for, but to each other, it's often between war and peace.

  • @Leoxlim81
    @Leoxlim81 Рік тому +1

    thanks JKnews, i actually needed to hear this

  • @Vincisomething
    @Vincisomething Рік тому +1

    My parents used to fight when I was a kid, but they don't anymore. Don't know when the switch happened or how they resolved it. I just noticed one day when i was older that they used to fight. I think mine was similar to Can's

  • @Jocarla5
    @Jocarla5 Рік тому

    I'm 48 and hubby 60 and have 3 daughters& Mexican.. I've changed and hubby too alot over the years. We want to be in our daughters lives 😊. We both grew up family bullying and therapy helped a lot 😢

  • @potassiumlover3991
    @potassiumlover3991 Рік тому +1

    This is the most we’ve seen Nick open up genuinely

  • @JoseHernandez-rk8zm
    @JoseHernandez-rk8zm Рік тому

    Great video fellas

  • @HasanPikerIsADouche
    @HasanPikerIsADouche Рік тому +5

    I never understood parents that bad mouth their partners to their kids, it's only bringing negativity/stress to their lives... as parents it's our job to shelter them from your problems, they shouldn't be your sounding boards

    • @psoozan9648
      @psoozan9648 Рік тому +3

      Unfortunately a lot of people do this because they’re acting on their own emotions at the time, they don’t even think about what it can do to a kid. My mother used to threaten to k*ll herself just to get me to convince my dad to apologize to her (often for issues that she was the problem of). It’s crazy to think parents do this stuff for their own selfish reasons.

  • @NathanV02
    @NathanV02 Рік тому

    what a great conversation.

  • @briansanchez5475
    @briansanchez5475 Рік тому

    You guys are the shit 🤙🤙

  • @Antigonex
    @Antigonex Рік тому +1

    my parents would argue and fight eachother with their hands. for yeeeears every day. we would tell my mom to divorce him but they never did. he would leave for weekends or weeks on end it was bad

  • @nateniemi
    @nateniemi Рік тому +2

    My foolish dad is on his 5th marriage.... He doesn't learn. I am not willing to go to his weddings anymore. I can't support him in his choices. He is a fool.

  • @katwilliams2950
    @katwilliams2950 Рік тому +1

    I think if both people want to put in the work and communicate you can work it out. Marriage is not easy and shouldn't be taken lightly. I'm hoping younger generations will be better and healthier relationship wise due to information being available.

  • @GYSMelanie5
    @GYSMelanie5 Рік тому +5

    My parents fought all the time, but I never ever wanted them to get divorced. None of my friends' parents were so divorced. None of my aunts and uncles were divorced,so it wasn't something I really knew about.

  • @ruthpenaflorida8441
    @ruthpenaflorida8441 Рік тому

    Nick has good insights.

  • @negiihimanshu
    @negiihimanshu Рік тому

    I really like this video❤️

  • @nickjack1696
    @nickjack1696 Рік тому +2

    Can is great, he should be on more

  • @PengxueYG
    @PengxueYG Рік тому +1

    Nick "What if i wanna leave it inside?!?!" LOLOL. yeah alot of asian parents gave us all trauma that nobody talks about.

  • @kayla9891
    @kayla9891 Рік тому +1

    oh my god my parents' relationship a carbon copy, shit u not, of nicks parents
    I've never felt so compelled to send a jk video to my therapist LMAO but damn is it incredibly comforting to know im not the only one whos endured those experiences. i think a huge reason why jk is part of my daily ritual is because i relate to sm of the asian shtuff and how it be growing up w immigrant parents

  • @nadinelgarza1161
    @nadinelgarza1161 Рік тому

    Been watching for many years now and a big fan, I love watching. I was just wondering, why my favorite joe has let his grooming go?

  • @flockaventurawoo185
    @flockaventurawoo185 Рік тому +1

    do the girls do jk news any more? sorry guys i havent watched in years

  • @MartyD
    @MartyD Рік тому +2

    is marriage worth it?

  • @Abreenie
    @Abreenie Рік тому

    in my opinion, I think marriage is too easily approved of by the partners/their families & that same ease translates to divorce. the build to marriage should include prenuptial agreements, now more so than ever. treat your spouse as imperative to your life as your career, finances, and the body of your family. these precautions will show the importance of being involved throughout your relationship, especially if you decide to call it quits. it’s okay to divorce if the situation calls for it, view it seriously as it has lasting effects for everyone

  • @edithmedina8987
    @edithmedina8987 Рік тому

    Such a good topic I wish I was there to talk about my experience how I grew up

  • @sympul
    @sympul 8 місяців тому

    Wrong last name or fear everyone aged well 😂

  • @jrippinger
    @jrippinger Рік тому

    YES.

  • @yetieeee8962
    @yetieeee8962 Рік тому

    Joe looks pretty with the bucket head😂

  • @healmeimhurt-.-
    @healmeimhurt-.- Рік тому

    Love!!!!

  • @pecosR0B
    @pecosR0B Рік тому

    just saw the thumbnail from another video I was wathing - I don't even have to watch the episode, divorce is totally worth it, even if you have kids. fortunately for me I am able to co-parent so it's not too bad, but man my life is better now than it was when I was married.

  • @maximustitan8171
    @maximustitan8171 Рік тому

    If Geon is a stay home mom. You guy needs at least one more for Taika.

  • @05nautilus
    @05nautilus Рік тому +1

    You guys need to be more like al bundy in your marriage lol

  • @legitbtx8232
    @legitbtx8232 Рік тому

    Sugar you, you go. Sugar me, me go

  • @atc562002
    @atc562002 Рік тому +4

    first! aloha guys!

  • @weweweLit
    @weweweLit Рік тому

    never knew nick's parent were divorced too

  • @wengzkrizzei
    @wengzkrizzei Рік тому

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @Zatisfy49
    @Zatisfy49 Рік тому +1

    I don’t think we understand the parents who ran from the Vietnam war. They ran down the hills while villages down there were massacred. Running through a forest full of bombs being implanted through the side of the dirt roads which is all they had. Splitting away from friends n family n now after 20yrs they finally meet. It goes to show why they are so tough to know their parents were forced to stay behind with a risk of dying.

  • @pkruez2089
    @pkruez2089 Рік тому

    Is Joe part of the Ito-En tea dynasty?

  • @lerrojcv3987
    @lerrojcv3987 Рік тому

    😂😂😂😅

  • @NathanRomue
    @NathanRomue Рік тому

    1.94m subs ayooooo

  • @ItsLGLOVER
    @ItsLGLOVER Рік тому +5

    :D

  • @jnm2088
    @jnm2088 Рік тому +2

    My parents are way, way the fuck happier apart. If it wasn't for their divorce, I wouldn't have met my stepfather, a real man, and I would still be living in the ghetto in the East bay.

  • @rastachandolo9766
    @rastachandolo9766 Рік тому +3

    Love your sons…..you don’t want them to turn into Joe …. Lol

  • @Zatisfy49
    @Zatisfy49 Рік тому

    I don’t think kids here understand why my mom was so fucken ok to go head on collision. She ran from her country through war. Her mom n dad was left behind in the war. She saw many deaths while escaping a war. So being the first FOB generation, she didn’t know any better.

  • @kennynguyen5910
    @kennynguyen5910 Рік тому

    if im rich no, if she's rich yes

  • @psp785
    @psp785 Рік тому

    Yeah divorce lose access to your kids and be forced to pay money every month

  • @jemmrich
    @jemmrich Рік тому +1

    The older i get the more I think divorces should be illegal, it shouldn't even be an option no matter how bad things get.

    • @psoozan9648
      @psoozan9648 Рік тому +1

      So even if one partner is extremely abusive, beating up the other one and threatening to kill them (and or the kids), they still shouldn’t have that choice?

  • @minatonamikaze9393
    @minatonamikaze9393 Рік тому

    It’s definitely not worth divorcing because from what I read it’s fckn expensive and paperwork to do so and come find a balance ground

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