A lot of narcs used to be into hard drugs Ive noticed. I am really starting to think these people's original born mind gets replaced by a demon if they do that for long.
Wow, I've been there. Almost married her. Thankfully, she cheated and saved me from getting into a financially devastating marriage contract with her. Met the love of my life a few years later. Been married now for 35 years.
That’s all they do. Cheat and lie. They want you to catch them. They are never so happy as when they destroy people who care about them. It’s deeply pathological from childhood. Check out Sam vaknin if you want to know more. 99.9999 % can not change. Ever.
I almost married the bisch too! 😂🎉 Thank God it was obvious enough she was a narcissist psychopath but it took time of course:; the almost was frighteningly close!
@bradlloyd6261 I'm glad you got out. As I did being a survey of a narcissist, it does get better in time, but the triggers will always be there . Narcissists wear many masks, and you'll never know which one their wearing. It is very frightening.
She describes it so perfectly. It's the hardest thing to accept that ideal person you're in love with was never real. You can ever go back to the way it was in the beginning and you'll never feel so loved and wanted again. It's the hardest thing.
it is because they are good at idolizing someone for a short time and you like yourself of course- so therefore you like that they idolize you for that time
It is the greatest love you never had. I went round in circles for years then , one day, the truth hit me. I was 'in love' with a Chameleon, an actor and a phantom ALL ROLLED IN ONE!
You know when we are young we say- if we say if a kid hurts you tell the teacher. The problem is that there a long list if other social cuts we encounter for which we have little preparation. I totally agree here as confusion is a key ingredient in abuse.
Knowing your need, the Narc offers just enuff to pull you in. Leaves you chasing once again that original high. Then like any addict jonesing in his prison, he slowly reveals himself for the viper he always was. Taking all he can, givng very little. The withdrawal... of his teeth... may be quick or prolonged. (So Ive heard.)
Any mature and healthy adult can counter narcissistic behavior in a matter of few words. If you fall for their bullshit start by looking at yourself instead of blaming the whole world.
In relationships, narcissists don't act that way in the beginning. Instead, they agree with everything you say, laugh at all your jokes, go out of their way to prove they can be trusted and relied on, and it's all part of the love bomb package. When that is happening, would you know you were dealing with a narcissist or, as the human heart yearns, your soulmate? Best example is Amber Heard. If you look for pics of the couple when they first started dating, she dressed just like him and that's a very unique look! She really sucked him in and then when she went off the rails, Depp thought the relationship was worth saving because of the beginning when things were good and she was his "soulmate." Narcys are some tricky, sneaky effers; like the devil pretending he is Jesus and lures you for damnation not salvation.
I would say a mature and smart person can spot a narc but there are many situations where people can't easily avoid them. For example, a person might work directly with them and depend on them or a person, at first, might have fallen in love with a facade and have invested a lot of time and resources into a relationship so it's very gut wrenching to let go of that relationship.
You are grammatically correct but it is permissible to bend rules of grammar to make a point, as here. Classical literature abounds with examples. Dickens and Wilde were experts at it.
She must know my mother! Never realised until after she died how profoundly unmaternal she was. One example, I come home with the week's groceries. She screams at me because the tomatoes are frozen, so she can't have a BLT sandwich. Gee, mother, it's forty below, there's a blizzard on, it's twelve blocks to the grocery store, took me an hour to schlep everything back, YES THE TOMATOES FROZE!
I know the feeling. My mother was unpleasable about everything I did for her. Never good enough. Always had something for me to do,nonstop like a fucking slave.
My narc woman and I had lunch together one day, she asked, and came to my house to talk. We had a great time and four hours later she left. Three days later I was checking on the next meeting as she had promised. What she said in the message was, "Our meeting was unfortunate!" I could hardly believe what she said. It's ok to say no but it isn't ok to nuke a person.
As horrible as this is, it can only happen once or you may give them a chance years later but as soon as you realize they haven't changed and that's who they are you will shut down, mirror them get them out of your life forever, mourn them leave it with god, and find real not fear fake and hurt, you deserve much more😇💓🙏
This is my baby mama in a nutshell. The second she got pregnant and knew she had my loyalty to my daughter, she’s made my life an absolute living hell for 12 years. What’s funny is the amount of times I’ve had people (mostly females) tell me, “well have you tried talking to her??” LOL as if I was so stupid for not trying that all this time. 😂 Every time we did talk to try and sort out anything it was EXACTLY like how this lady describes. She would be so vague and confusing and no matter how hard I tried to reason and get to why she was upset or disagreeable I could NEVER get a straight answer. EVER. It was crazy and made me almost go insane. My relationship with my daughter has suffered tremendously because of it. Not to mention my peace and well being for years.
Good Lord just study something over and over again looking for the answers and someone just can say it in a way and highlight aspects that you've never heard before and it just all comes together and you understand.....thank you
Even worse than narcissistic behaviour is people trying to label one another narcissistic and manipulating situations and conversations to align with their objective
Maybe that's some people. The victims of narcissist abuse would not say what they experience if it were not true. Don't minimalize abuse. Educate yourself first.
@@tinyvr7036 I didn’t take anything away from them and I would not doubt the validity of their experience I’m referring to the trend of unqualified people labeling one another using psycho babble clinical terms they are unqualified in using. I’m sorry for your experience, I hope you have found resolve and peace ✌️
@@tinyvr7036 how am I minimizing abuse? I’m not referring to the actual victims of abuse or de validating their experiences Im referring to the explosion of the overuse of the term narcissistic personality disorder to anyone anytime they disagree A diagnose takes a long time even for a trained psychologist to determine
This is the start of devalue, having you walking on eggshells, having to select words more carefully and which you feel may be somehow more appropriate, the point were you cease to be yourself and if you let it continue you become someone else. Walk away and never look back.
Well, then there’s the people I meet who don’t believe I am who I am and that they can “mold” me into something more pleasing to them. I get called lots of things because I don’t change. Also … I rarely give direct answers to open ended or vague questions. If a question is open to interpretation, I have to consider the many interpretations before a arrive at an answer.
Very interesting . Those kind sure put a lot of effort into decieving. Then again , maybe no effort at all. That's just who they are. Don't need that kind in my life , though I suspect I know someone very close to me. I've recognized these traits for quite awhile.
The bad part about all of that is if your a narcissist to yourself and never get help to get past your fake self to being your better real genuine self ,loving and changeable and working to a better honest being.
If you are confused as to why your partner says and does things that you wouldn't say and do to them, then you are living with a narcissist who is in love with the control, not with you. It might be very upsetting but get out, you are the better person.
Wow …. Great… simple and easy to understand but remember this is the true fact Read it with your heart painfully close and time to jump up the situation…. U can do it 🪷✨✨✨🦋♥️
Demons in meat suits..
I think this is more true than most people think or want to admit
well said!
They are.... Truly the most evil people you can face
100%
A lot of narcs used to be into hard drugs Ive noticed. I am really starting to think these people's original born mind gets replaced by a demon if they do that for long.
The only way you deal with a narcissist is to walk away and never speak with them
Yes. Even though you may feel very tempted to tell them off. Don't play their game. They love to argue.
@@davidsalo8397Actually she did not “love to argue” really, though manipulation, etc, yes.
Yep they are draining AF
Wow, I've been there. Almost married her. Thankfully, she cheated and saved me from getting into a financially devastating marriage contract with her. Met the love of my life a few years later. Been married now for 35 years.
I am free from this curse for more than one year so far b
I was in a relationship with a narcissist. I almost married her, but she was cheating lying. I left her 3 years ago .
That’s all they do. Cheat and lie. They want you to catch them. They are never so happy as when they destroy people who care about them. It’s deeply pathological from childhood. Check out Sam vaknin if you want to know more. 99.9999 % can not change. Ever.
I almost married the bisch too! 😂🎉 Thank God it was obvious enough she was a narcissist psychopath but it took time of course:; the almost was frighteningly close!
@bradlloyd6261 I'm glad you got out. As I did being a survey of a narcissist, it does get better in time, but the triggers will always be there .
Narcissists wear many masks, and you'll never know which one their wearing. It is very frightening.
She describes it so perfectly. It's the hardest thing to accept that ideal person you're in love with was never real. You can ever go back to the way it was in the beginning and you'll never feel so loved and wanted again. It's the hardest thing.
Sounds like my first "love".
I would accept it, if I knew it was the truth?
it is because they are good at idolizing someone for a short time and you like yourself of course- so therefore you like that they idolize you for that time
It is the greatest love you never had. I went round in circles for years then , one day, the truth hit me.
I was 'in love' with a Chameleon, an actor and a phantom ALL ROLLED IN ONE!
The perfect description of a politician.
🙌🏼💯💥🎓🏆
Perfect description of the entire system as a whole.
Camelah Harris
@@lilblackduc7312 Deplorable Donny.
@@fredfox3851 paid illiterate troll
Yeah I had a woman do that to me. Faking friendship. Very evil.
I am free from this curse for more than one year so far
That's why I stay alone.
Same here.
Sounds like almost every mainstream newsperson.
you are right
I am free from this curse for more than one year so far
I totally agree with this title.
This is the truth. Been there, done that.
You know when we are young we say- if we say if a kid hurts you tell the teacher. The problem is that there a long list if other social cuts we encounter for which we have little preparation. I totally agree here as confusion is a key ingredient in abuse.
You just described my husband.
Thank you for this.
To the rest of the world, I say "Pay attention ", this lady is spot on.
Take enough time to really get to know the person you consider marrying. Six months is pretty risky. Most narcissists can fake it that long.
@@davidsalo8397 Yeahh.. I wasn’t “abusive” till the last yr or so of over 5 yrs, so I’m not a narcissist, my ex gf has BPD.
Knowing your need, the Narc offers just enuff to pull you in. Leaves you chasing once again that original high. Then like any addict jonesing in his prison, he slowly reveals himself for the viper he always was. Taking all he can, givng very little.
The withdrawal... of his teeth... may be quick or prolonged. (So Ive heard.)
Any mature and healthy adult can counter narcissistic behavior in a matter of few words. If you fall for their bullshit start by looking at yourself instead of blaming the whole world.
In relationships, narcissists don't act that way in the beginning. Instead, they agree with everything you say, laugh at all your jokes, go out of their way to prove they can be trusted and relied on, and it's all part of the love bomb package. When that is happening, would you know you were dealing with a narcissist or, as the human heart yearns, your soulmate? Best example is Amber Heard. If you look for pics of the couple when they first started dating, she dressed just like him and that's a very unique look! She really sucked him in and then when she went off the rails, Depp thought the relationship was worth saving because of the beginning when things were good and she was his "soulmate." Narcys are some tricky, sneaky effers; like the devil pretending he is Jesus and lures you for damnation not salvation.
I would say a mature and smart person can spot a narc but there are many situations where people can't easily avoid them. For example, a person might work directly with them and depend on them or a person, at first, might have fallen in love with a facade and have invested a lot of time and resources into a relationship so it's very gut wrenching to let go of that relationship.
@@JeremyBardot when they are family This is an special hell
Oh,,that is absolutely the truth,,it's being done to me,,,
Most filthy or filthiest. Not, most filthiest.😂
Maybe she meant it sardonically
You are grammatically correct but it is permissible to bend rules of grammar to make a point, as here. Classical literature abounds with examples. Dickens and Wilde were experts at it.
The narcissists are never trust worthy
They are god awful . Its akways about themself. Its just a huge oainful game. I know i dud nothing wrong utbwas all lies.im just grateful to be alive
She must know my ex.
She must know my mother! Never realised until after she died how profoundly unmaternal she was.
One example, I come home with the week's groceries. She screams at me because the tomatoes are frozen, so she can't have a BLT sandwich.
Gee, mother, it's forty below, there's a blizzard on, it's twelve blocks to the grocery store, took me an hour to schlep everything back, YES THE TOMATOES FROZE!
I know the feeling. My mother was unpleasable about everything I did for her. Never good enough. Always had something for me to do,nonstop like a fucking slave.
I'm sorry you experienced this cruelty. I'm happy you see it clearly.
I hope you find simple nourishing Love, and are able to trust it.
My narc woman and I had lunch together one day, she asked, and came to my house to talk. We had a great time and four hours later she left. Three days later I was checking on the next meeting as she had promised. What she said in the message was, "Our meeting was unfortunate!" I could hardly believe what she said. It's ok to say no but it isn't ok to nuke a person.
As horrible as this is, it can only happen once or you may give them a chance years later but as soon as you realize they haven't changed and that's who they are you will shut down, mirror them get them out of your life forever, mourn them leave it with god, and find real not fear fake and hurt, you deserve much more😇💓🙏
Very deceptive. Accurately stated...
Very well defined. Sometimes you have to let go what you thought was a real relationship.
This is my baby mama in a nutshell. The second she got pregnant and knew she had my loyalty to my daughter, she’s made my life an absolute living hell for 12 years.
What’s funny is the amount of times I’ve had people (mostly females) tell me, “well have you tried talking to her??” LOL as if I was so stupid for not trying that all this time. 😂
Every time we did talk to try and sort out anything it was EXACTLY like how this lady describes. She would be so vague and confusing and no matter how hard I tried to reason and get to why she was upset or disagreeable I could NEVER get a straight answer. EVER. It was crazy and made me almost go insane.
My relationship with my daughter has suffered tremendously because of it. Not to mention my peace and well being for years.
Sounds like what happens at a typical congressional hearing when they are questioning a gov official.
Perfect explanation
Great example. It’s amazing that their behaviours are so universal and that we can all relate. It’s obviously a function of their disorder.
Good Lord just study something over and over again looking for the answers and someone just can say it in a way and highlight aspects that you've never heard before and it just all comes together and you understand.....thank you
However they do all this sick staff just for pur impression😂😂😂 what a slave😂😂
Even worse than narcissistic behaviour is people trying to label one another narcissistic and manipulating situations and conversations to align with their objective
That’s gaslighting and classic narcissist.
Run very far away and never look back.
This. Calling everyone a narc to deflect from criticisms seems to be the norm
Maybe that's some people. The victims of narcissist abuse would not say what they experience if it were not true.
Don't minimalize abuse.
Educate yourself first.
@@tinyvr7036 I didn’t take anything away from them and I would not doubt the validity of their experience
I’m referring to the trend of unqualified people labeling one another using psycho babble clinical terms they are unqualified in using.
I’m sorry for your experience, I hope you have found resolve and peace ✌️
@@tinyvr7036 how am I minimizing abuse?
I’m not referring to the actual victims of abuse or de validating their experiences
Im referring to the explosion of the overuse of the term narcissistic personality disorder to anyone anytime they disagree
A diagnose takes a long time even for a trained psychologist to determine
Best explanation so far
TRUTH
Thank you for that clarity. I have been trying to work that out for myself.
I was confused at first since the title Narcs I was thinking undercover narcotics 🤔
Me, too. Then I realized she was talking about a couple of people who have been in my life.
Narcissists love to get you addicted to their brand of narcotics.
This is the start of devalue, having you walking on eggshells, having to select words more carefully and which you feel may be somehow more appropriate, the point were you cease to be yourself and if you let it continue you become someone else. Walk away and never look back.
Sounds more like a sociopath?
Well, then there’s the people I meet who don’t believe I am who I am and that they can “mold” me into something more pleasing to them.
I get called lots of things because I don’t change.
Also … I rarely give direct answers to open ended or vague questions. If a question is open to interpretation, I have to consider the many interpretations before a arrive at an answer.
a narcissist is like a doctor in an asylum where he has to stay sane in a crazy surroundings 😉
Oh, those 'Narcs". Thought this was about undercover narcotics cops. Oh wait, the title works for them too!
The worst are narcissistic narcs. They will plant drugs over and over again just to get a promotion. They don't care how many lives they ruin.
Transcend this type of thinking
Well said, u conveyed it in a very nice way.
Once you realize someone is a narcissist walk away and never look back. Don’t ask for explanations, don’t try to fix anything. Just walk away.
Very interesting . Those kind sure put a lot of effort into decieving. Then again , maybe no effort at all. That's just who they are. Don't need that kind in my life , though I suspect I know someone very close to me. I've recognized these traits for quite awhile.
She’s gorgeous. Looks like Yennefer from the Witcher series. And she nails the description perfectly!
Shes got that right.😢
Maybe they also don't know the answer because they are so superficial
Jezebels and succubus. 🙏
You're describing Cameluh! Spread the truth...🇺🇸 👍☕
It's called fractionation. Almost impossible to undue. Absolutely a fight for your life like addiction.
OMG that was my ex-husband of 20 horrible, soul crushing years.
Sound like politicians 😂
😢😢😢😢😢
Gavin Newsom fits the bill...
Camelah Harris
The bad part about all of that is if your a narcissist to yourself and never get help to get past your fake self to being your better real genuine self ,loving and changeable and working to a better honest being.
Just demons
Each word as if I’m talking to myself 😢
Truth!
could you be so kind to tell what's the name of the piano melody playing in the video?
Sounds like witchcraft black magic.
He makes signs to make you wonder if he is a lord
OMG ...
Crores of thumps up....
Experienced since 14 years....
So.. what you are saying, is that I love someone that “does not, and never existed” ? 😓
She gets it
OOOPS...not the kinda Narc I was expecting..
❤️🔥🌞✨🌻
Most filthiest??
True
Absofuckinglutely ❤❤❤
If you are confused as to why your partner says and does things that you wouldn't say and do to them, then you are living with a narcissist who is in love with the control, not with you. It might be very upsetting but get out, you are the better person.
Menopausal maniacs are worse
Help
Men be like:
So you are saying politicians are narcissists
This lady is one.
Fake
This describes tRump perfectly.
Get help.
@@louk6196
Thank you for your concern Buttercup.
@@tomlavelle2333Trump still living in your head rent free after all these years! You’ll never recover!
🔼 here we go….
The loser sheep bot of the post,
Trump just ATE his mind.
Astonishing.
Grow up.
His followers are addicted to his BS. But are unable to recognize it.
Wow …. Great… simple and easy to understand but remember this is the true fact
Read it with your heart painfully close and time to jump up the situation…. U can do it 🪷✨✨✨🦋♥️
This is the truth. Been there, done that.