just fought with my girl and i searched this up 😭 Edit: Wow this was 3 years ago and for the people who were asking, we just didn’t work out.. it happens and it’s normal. Fellas, if you feel that’s she’s stressing you out and it’s messing you up on a daily basis, it’s not worth the arguments and time. Someone will come to you, don’t overthink it and be grateful on what you have in life now. That special someone will walk or already walked into your life, it’s just a matter of time and patience. Patience is key.
I love how woman expect their man to take accountability for their bad behaviour and then reward it. All the while punishing us for our reaction to said disrespect. That’s female nature 101. Never underestimate a woman’s ability to justify poor behaviour and then take zero accountability. Stay strong men and send her back where she came from. Surround yourself with woman who compliment your life and not complicate it.
Perfectly correct. Been with a toxic girl before, never says an honest sorry. Never takes accountability. Even when she has to say sorry, you don’t see an honest remorse. I mean never takes any accountability. Always quick to get angry for something that I do unintentionally which she does intentionally but I take normally. I definitely understand your statement.
Marni is creating a void herself here and then requires her man, who just had a moment for himself, the assure her there is no void, make a fuss about it and then continue making fuss about it, too see how he solved it and handled it. get rid of these woman. It’s no compliment to your life
Marni, I don't get your motives. Your guy were stressed out and dealing with lot of stuff(including dateing you). While acknowledging the stress of your man, you still choose to get mad at him for stressing out, instead of supporting him and later for getting frustrated he has to be the one who has to apologize for upsetting your feelings
She’s not angry at him for being stressed she’s upset because he’s shutting her out and isn’t handling the situation. Once he becomes aware of that he shouldn’t apologies but take ownership and show her that things are okay and he’s moving forward (strength)
@@danielhyam9913 how can you expect him to handle the situation in that mood???? He cannot always control his emotions too . If the girl was more understanding there wouldn't have been a fight
@@danielhyam9913 he didnt shut her out...she said he told her why he was all stressed. And she got mad because she said herself he didnt "compliment her" ...I mean really...???
@Dark zero Apparently you havent had enough experience with women. You can make her happy and they will still find a way to piss on it. Have you never seen it? Have you mever had guu friends telling you they have no bloody idea how ridiculous their women are?
Women want men to be saints but they have no idea how hard it is to be a man nowadays with constant temptation, underappreciation, being underpaid, overworked, etc. It's not realistic and discipline takes time to cultivate, when they want it RIGHT NOW. It is overwhelming to deal with this shit and honestly, it is just easier to be alone.
I offered her to come and meet my friends at a restaurant and she asked if the crop top was too revealing and I said “a little but it’s not enough to change your outfit” and she changed despite me telling her that it was okay. She’s upset now and I actually don’t know what to do. I told her that I didn’t want my friends to think badly of her and for her to feel excluded. She says she’s no longer upset but I can tell that there are some feelings about the situation she has kept inside. Wish me luck!
When is the part where she acknowledges when she messed up and recognizes is not about her and then has remorse and asks for forgiveness and tries to mend what she ruined?
Parts of this did have some good advice in there.. but I have to say, this lady really comes across as someone who could be hard work to deal with in a relationship. Definitely has a sign of strength picture in her living room & cries after the act of love
Showing emotions has helped me in very strange situations, plus I was being completely honest which was great feeling, you let go. My girlfriend at the time ( we propably broke up fr this time - that's why I'm here ), from "I don't want to talk to you" was all ears and full of emotions, once she saw me vulnerable, expressing how much I really loved her. That was all she wanted to see. And that was the best, straight-forward, free-est move I could have done. No arguments, no logic, no head. Pure emotion. That's their language. And to be fair, it's a very real language that us men need to take notice.
There is one solution to find peace & harmony, get rid of any girl getting too close to u (= never merry, never ever live together, u inviting the devil into ur life !) .
As a guy, we try hard to be good guys. But I think everyone has their breaking point. From a guy's perspective, if we are ever not keeping our cool, its actually the girl who comforts the guy and gets the guy back on track.
Ashes of the Phoenix I don't know how to feel about this lack of boundaries, she could have at least pretended it was her friend or client or hypothetical situation. If I were her husband I would be livid.
The fact someone wants to use their own life experiences to illustrate a point is a good teaching moment. This is what good teachers do and a great way to connect with others. Very savy and highly professional move!
For all the young men who have come to this video looking for a how-to guide for relationships, I'm sure you don't need me to tell you that this is not it. Every relationship is unique, and complicated. I am glad at least that Ms Wing Girl is clear about this being her opinion, because that's all this is. My advice to you is never compromise your dignity or self-respect for a relationship. Women will come and go, but self-esteem runs through and around everything you do, and has the greatest power to make you feel good (way better than pussy ;).
Bro why do girls fight over the dumbest things my girl got mad because I said a bad word and we just started arguing I don’t even say it to her we have been distant from each other literally stopped talking for more than a week honestly ima just let her go I tried to tell her to stop playing games but she just ignored me so fuck it ima just let her go
Couples argue all the time, i told her this. But she’s only 21. So guess i was her first boyfriend. Yeah, I yelled at her. But she hurt me. I told her sorry, things just been tough. We both always got along. I’ll miss her smile and soft touch.
I agree with what you are saying here. I do this in my own relationship. But I think you neglected to mention what you can do in the relationship to make him attracted to you again. It’s a two way situation , not one sided. The relationship takes these types of actions on both sides. Don’t be unaware of that.
Know that I spend too much time lately posting places, mostly life been interested in others opinions on stuff, but as owl, to decide for myself, usually just interested in an opinion more than the person, but I have to say that even though empathetic towards person (whoever) having some problem in their life, this particular one is giving me the "gay friend flashback nightmare" again, even though I have friend zoned the other person forever the very first moment I set eyes on them, and all I can say is that over the course of my life, I don't need any more help with simpness than I've apparently done to myself (some of that existing only in the eyes of others). I do feel bad for you, and anyone else in your situation, but looks like to me that your advice to others on how to fix this problem is just that you want someone to comfort you for your current bump in the road, feelings hurt, not a one size fits all solution for a man to fix this issue all by himself (apparently). Hate to be so crass, but every time somebody else's issue like this winds up spilling into my world and I do anything ar all, even just listen, somehow I always come away looking like a chump in the eyes of others (most importantly, females). And also your explanation is way too complicated and convoluted for me to understand, jusr looks like you are (rightfully) distraught and need someone to listen to your distressfulness, because you've really been emotionally hurt by this disagreement and are concerned that it looks too difficult to get past this issue and also considering the level of commitment and time invested. Believe me, I am no kind of expert at this, been spending a lot of time gathering information on the subject for awhile now, mostly fir academic reasons at this point in my life, and what I did wrong and why, and bottom line is that really I am no less confused than I have always been, but one thing I know is thar whenever I try to help someone, for whatever reason, maybe only just listen to them, it only just reinforced others perception of me as some nice guy pushover simp, and some of these females in my past, after many years have passed, after I only thought that they were cool for awhile that never really went any further, somehow think that I have been waiting all my life for them to finally settle for me, or that they have finally grown up and and are finally willing to put up with me for a price or something, and it only makes me really really angry, no matter the cost, destroying any favorable impression that I once did have of them but never again, just on the same level of the average nutjob fatal attraction bizarro lunatic that I don't know and have never introduced themselves, don't know their name, married someone else in my family tree and is a walking nightmare for them, so dump on me, etc, besides. Feel bad for you, feel bad for telling jokes, just how I cope with my pain until I can see another way, have no opinion on your guy, don't know him, have nothing bad to say about him, probably okay guy even though don't know him, can't help you blame or find fault with him to provide comfort, just hope it all works out for you, stuff that baffles me, and many other things besides, have no answers, I was just looking for them myself, and not much better off from where I started, just hope things work out for everyone most of the time, no opinion otherwise.
You do understand that you are asking for two different males? As a man one either executes regardless of situation or, in case of failure, you hold until you are away from others and you confide in your significant other. There is no in between. As a couple social judgement falls on both of you.
My girl’s pissed off at me extremely pissed to the point where i’m scared of losing her… she needs time but im scared that she wont forgive me and will leave me
@@bruhhub7489 We were able to clear the situation up thankfully and so far so good a couple ups and downs here and there ya know the typical relationship stuff but I aint gonna lie sometimes I do overthink and still feel that she might leave me and it scares me, but thankfully everything got fixed 🙏🙏
Really need your opinion on my girlfriend venting to her ex over a small problem we had? Please advise...I'm very torn on leaving or not as I would never disrespect her in this way...
Not controlling you own emotions is your problem, not his. Why is it that only her happiness matters, but not his? Why should your happiness out weigh his? You have equal responsibility with dealing with situations just as much as him. I bet you're one of them girls that do the "you're not having sex tonight". Acting like a child
Yes, but you don't tuck your tail with a woman. Apologize, yes. Men shouldn't tuck their tail with anyone; that leads to being unattractive. When I was independent, and my woman noticed, and strong, things went well. Praying for marriage soon, but God will see.
Marni great advice and making your content simple , and also effective! I appreciate your story as well ! Now ima go make up with my lady. You are the best cheat sheet lol
Thank you for sharing that Marni. You didn't have to, but you did anyway. Both of you are only human and feelings will overboil sometimes, it's only natural. You showed some vulnerability in this video too and how you dealt with it, but, how your husband also dealt with it. I think you Both did a Great Job in resolving that issue....
Bolivar Morales No shi-t my cell phone from two years ago shoots 4K. That said, give her a break, she needs support, even in DVD quality. ;) All kidding aside, it's awesome that she's sharing so everyone should be appreciative.
tbh i learned a lesson form this video cause yesterday i had argument you know i get heated up really fast sometimes she gets heated but at the end we sit and talk about it and we apologize but the main issue i have is i get angry very fast and when im angry i have misunderstood
Very open congrats you didn't have to share. Glad you both rebuilt the bridge. Nice and facts on Point. Sometimes men do need to go to apologize valley too say sorry to our Queen, and as a man we need to vent anxiety and tension talk,sport, mediate,
Dan Bacon's description of women and men is exactly this. I get upset and frustrated at the fact that I am expected to be emotionally strong while the woman is emotionally vulnerable. But, it seems this is only natural for most women with men. Most women literally lose sexual and romantic attraction when a man is overwhelmed by his emotions. Seen in this light, it could be interpreted that it is not a personal attack from women to want men to not be "overly" emotional. It's literally a turn off to women because they are naturally that way, it's not a choice they have to be turned off by a man being so emotional. I guess to me that means my woman will not be seeing my overly emotional part and I'll have to share that part with other people like a therapist, family, friendly people. There's nothing wrong with women being turned off by men who behave in this way as it's only a natural response for them. Similarly, there's nothing wrong with men being emotional, just you can experience that away from the woman. That's what seems to be the solution.
This LEGEND really fights with her mans on SATURDAY goes one full day NOT speaking to her mans about what's bothering her. Then MONDAY, proceeded to put our poor mans on blast on her public youtube channel offering advice to fix a situation, that she herself, has STILL not resolved. She fought with him on Saturday, June 16th, DOES NOT resolve the issue, and then posts about it in public on June 18th. What a legend. Gentleman, look elsewhere, this... is not it. And honestly, giving advice to people about something you haven't even dealt with yet, is like putting out a complex cookie recipe, having NEVER ACTUALLY MADE THEM. I hope she got back together, however, if I was her man's I'd be the one feeling betrayed and breaking it off with her since all of our personal business is public to her apparently.
...we fought on 11th sept and we r in no contact since then I tried to apologise but she's not ready to talk to me Yesterday i came to know that she went to a club with her friends how can women do this??? Like if the fight is impacting me then why not her she's enjoying herself and I don't knoq what other things she must be doing
bruh my gf said im different now and i asked how am i different? and she said she will tell me later and i got mad and yelled at her "how did i change i love you and will still love you the same" and she hung up im just like wtf
Literally just fought and she absolutely does not want to talk to me. Which makes me go fucking crazy, I'm trying my best to not text her or call her. Ugh this fucking sucks I wanna go to her place and talk but I know we'll just end up fighting more. How do i figure out why I'm like this, so I can explain and talk things out with her?
If you texted or called her then she will say I told you not to do that, and if you didn't text or call her, then she will definitely say that you don't care about me if you do you would have texted me... Just women things 😂
Hi marni I love your videos and I’m a subscriber too, this advice is all good I like it a lot except one part, u wanted your guy to be strong again which is understandable but sometimes if we fall down we need a little longer to get back up instead of a 1/2 or 3 days it might take 5/6 or the week to get ourselves back on track, as men usually don’t fall to much so when we do we are sort of learning about ourselves and dealing with whatever it is we are going through. Anyway that’s just my opinion. Enjoy your day
Had a big fight last night. My gf was showing me some kind of snack that I have never heard of so I asked what is that but apparently the way I said that upset her and she got pissed because I didn’t sense that and apologize. I got pissed because it’s like wtf. I just asked what it is not like I’m uninterested or anything. She gets upset too often, like once a week and I’m getting tired of worrying about stepping on a mine all the time. Sometimes it’s my fault but often the way she communicates her disapproval of something is really toxic (like suddenly physically distancing herself or leave me behind when we’re walking to some place) and escalates things. I mean she could have just said the way I said that doesn’t sound nice and she would appreciate it if I said it another way. She said she always says it but she never did. Pretty sure not this time. Guess it was another one of those “hinting a message” thing. Fine, I guess I should be more attentive to those hints but at least stop getting pissed at every little stupid thing. Why do you have to get pissed at something every freakin week. I let so many things go and never complain about something to you unless we fight and I let it out because you get pissed whenever I point out something. Even in a fight you never listen and turn the table around to focus on you.
Dunno what your situation is, since it was 6 months ago, but something similar happened to me, I was busy with work and took care of to mechanic so wasn’t on my phone most of the day, so I text her late and she exploded like tf, saying I don’t care enough wouldn’t listen to my pov, all I can say women are headaches sometimes
I do what she says and I'm the problem, because I did exactly what she said. Daily. In response to this video, seems like you are the problem. Just because she's mad at me now doesn't mean she doesn't love me nor love her.
Weve had fights about this period in our relationship where we arent having sex and its because its on my mind souch i ask her if we could try and she flips because we argue about it so much. I dont know what to do. I want that spark we had a year ago but now i feel like she doesnt even want to touch me.
I think your approach is all wrong Marni, which is fine, you're still so young and have much to mature. As we age, there come a point where we face and test our vulnerabilities on a daily basis in relationships. Such as caring for an ill spouse, being there to hold their hands and give them our love and support in their time of need. It could be a diagnosis for stage IV cancer or anything else that is life threatening. That's where unconditional love needs to be present, in the absence of all power loss. You're not truly in love with someone if you're only attracted and with them for certain periods or things that they are for most of the time, and when they cease being that is when your feelings for them cease. Once you have been there for someone in their greatest need, sacrifice your happiness for theirs, it makes all the other fights seem petty and insignificant. That is where we really need to evaluate ourselves and how we truly love and accept people.
I disagree. There's a difference between love and co-dependence. "Stage 4 cancer" is not very romantic. I prefer to live with someone not wish for her death. If sickness comes, as a Christian, I don't necessarily watch their life ebb from them, but pray--ah, yes, that's popular these days! Yes, a man may cry, that's natural--but desperation, in this case seemingly longed for--is not attractive in men or women.
To be honest both have a good point, you cannot be co-dependent but also you cannot turn your back on someone who needs you. Love is not only about attraction, it’s also about caring and protecting others. If people let simple things destroy relationships then they were nothing to them. Also a man is allowed to freak out a bit, life is hard and sometimes that happens, now if it is like that all the time then that is a problem.
The first 18 seconds of this video is why there are problems in the frist place once a man decides he likes you it doenst change on a damn daily basis... oh wow she's not even resolved her own damn shit..
Hi Marni. I'm from South Africa, I'm a fan of your videos and this is my first comment 😁listing I have tried everything to get my baby mama back. It's almost a month from now since we fought and yesterday I made a romantic dinner at my place. Honestly speaking I feel like that made things worse. Any tips Marni.?
Great explanations, Marni!! I think women don't want a man who sulks from a weak position. Yes, women want to ADMIRE men. That means standing up and taking the blame...or accepting an apology. I've noticed that in women. They don't want a man WITHOUT STRENGTH. Strength is masculine after all--not being impervious, as that's impossible and undesirable. Men have two emotions: "I feel good," "I don't feel good." Being martian, it's not the easiest for us to talk about our feelings, they're simpler but harder for us to communicate. Kindness and strength.
Skip directly to the part that makes sense: 9:25. So the guy loses attractiveness and emasculate him for "not showing strength," and the solution is for him talk to you and express volunerability and show weakness? Sure!
You missed her point. It's not the argument, it's the fact that he couldn't handle his emotions because of his work stress which made him look weak to her which killed the attraction she had for him.
Why do I as a man need to be strong all the time some times i just want to cry and explain my emotions but nope cause then my girlfriends gonna dump me:/
I get it completely but my prob is different. Me and my girl have been arguing a lot because she’s always in a bad mood and she’s been blowing up on me constantly and saying things she promise would never say. One day I really got mad and said how I was feeling but it didn’t come out how I’d expect or wanted we were gonna take a brake and go out and stuff. One day I go to her and I ask how she is and gives me Attitude and says “You know I’m good” and I said “I haven’t heard from you for a week” and she says “your nothing of me so that’s not your problem” everything just kept going down and haven’t talked to her for 2 whole weeks. What should I do?
Hmm. Nice advice and communication is really the key. I think sometimes men need their alone time too, don't women have those moments too? And the partner does not always have the answer or is being sought for. It's maddening when you want to help and reach out but i think it happens to both.
This advice only applies to a specific kind of fight, but it's a great example of how men should ALWAYS refrain from acting. It would take multiple paragraphs to fully summarize all the ways hubby here displayed unspeakable weakness, but basic points can be hammered out quickly. He didn't just crumble and demonstrate a complete absence of frame, he took out his frustration and negatively impacted someone uninvolved with source of his issue. Furthermore, his woman had to drag the problem out of him. Instead of being direct like a man, he was essentially pouting. This is all avoided if he see's Marni here dressed to the nines and simply says, "You look great, wish I wasn't so stressed so I could really enjoy the scenery." (This would open communication and illicit a much more favorable response.) He then basically doubled down on his lack of strength by dragging out the behavioral pattern, and entering a qualifying mode by "being over the top friendly." It's an act of avoidance, which men should never, ever adopt. Take not boys, control yourself and you'll control your life.
just fought with my girl and i searched this up 😭
Edit: Wow this was 3 years ago and for the people who were asking, we just didn’t work out.. it happens and it’s normal. Fellas, if you feel that’s she’s stressing you out and it’s messing you up on a daily basis, it’s not worth the arguments and time. Someone will come to you, don’t overthink it and be grateful on what you have in life now. That special someone will walk or already walked into your life, it’s just a matter of time and patience. Patience is key.
Same😭. How did it go?
@@mxgeru343 How did it go for you? Im struggling with it
Mann fr
@@lakaioates4060 one month later and its all good here
bruh this shit sucks
If attraction for a woman is that easy to ruin, then it really isn't all that real in the first place.
it is that easy with EVERY woman ever... so... welcome to real life friend
Man u got it on point
@tripelon no it isn't... Waiting for you in the real world
It makes sense why men go gay.
No the fuck it is not. There isn’t a reason to be gay, lesbian, or any of that other crazy stuff. Work on yourself.
I love how woman expect their man to take accountability for their bad behaviour and then reward it. All the while punishing us for our reaction to said disrespect.
That’s female nature 101. Never underestimate a woman’s ability to justify poor behaviour and then take zero accountability.
Stay strong men and send her back where she came from. Surround yourself with woman who compliment your life and not complicate it.
This
🔥🔥🔥
Perfectly correct. Been with a toxic girl before, never says an honest sorry. Never takes accountability. Even when she has to say sorry, you don’t see an honest remorse. I mean never takes any accountability. Always quick to get angry for something that I do unintentionally which she does intentionally but I take normally. I definitely understand your statement.
Can’t handle conflict ? You sound immature lol grow up
Marni is creating a void herself here and then requires her man, who just had a moment for himself, the assure her there is no void, make a fuss about it and then continue making fuss about it, too see how he solved it and handled it. get rid of these woman. It’s no compliment to your life
Connection(s) should not be lost after a petty argument. That’s really shallow, and almost shows a lack of love all together. Just my opinion
True but many petty arguments over time adds up.
@@ElHombretheman many yes, can’t disagree there.
Exactly...never listen to women on arguments. They don't come from logic, but emotion.
Agree
That’s what I thought
Starts in 5:12 for any one watching . Have a good day.
Nice
Ty
The bitch wouldnt shut up about her fight
@@horse-4598 hahaha
Ty brother 😢
Marni, I don't get your motives. Your guy were stressed out and dealing with lot of stuff(including dateing you). While acknowledging the stress of your man, you still choose to get mad at him for stressing out, instead of supporting him and later for getting frustrated he has to be the one who has to apologize for upsetting your feelings
11Jublu99 it’s women’s hypocrisy
She’s not angry at him for being stressed she’s upset because he’s shutting her out and isn’t handling the situation. Once he becomes aware of that he shouldn’t apologies but take ownership and show her that things are okay and he’s moving forward (strength)
@@danielhyam9913 how can you expect him to handle the situation in that mood???? He cannot always control his emotions too . If the girl was more understanding there wouldn't have been a fight
@@sudeepbasnet2264 right
@@danielhyam9913 he didnt shut her out...she said he told her why he was all stressed. And she got mad because she said herself he didnt "compliment her" ...I mean really...???
Don't go to bed angry it will ruin your relationship.
I agree!
F me huh
Yea but you might need to cool off.
@@hosangyang1468 give it time
Hey that dialogue was in The Big Bang Theory!
We all here cause we just fought with our women 😂😢
😂 even still here at 2023
I'm actually wrong this time😞
Bruh we together in this😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂your comment sent me to ICU🤣
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it will happen again again again throughout your life until you die - feeling of love changes over time .. this is an imperfect, real world
A man is responsible for her emotions, he has to take responsibility and keep her happy and not get off center, nobody ever said being a man was easy
Being responsible for a woman’s “happiness” is like being responsible for directions the wind blows. Absolute nonsense to assert that
This is what women
u cant be responsible for anyone emotion
@Dark zero
Apparently you havent had enough experience with women.
You can make her happy and they will still find a way to piss on it. Have you never seen it? Have you mever had guu friends telling you they have no bloody idea how ridiculous their women are?
you're responsible for your own emotions. if you rely on someone else for happiness, you're setting yourself up to be hurt big time
This is the dumbest fucking comment 😂
just had a fight than saw this 😂
This lady is saying about what she wantt from herr man.
Bt this iss shittt
Bruuhh
😂😂😂
Lol my bae is mad at me so here I am
Yep in fight myself
Women want men to be saints but they have no idea how hard it is to be a man nowadays with constant temptation, underappreciation, being underpaid, overworked, etc. It's not realistic and discipline takes time to cultivate, when they want it RIGHT NOW. It is overwhelming to deal with this shit and honestly, it is just easier to be alone.
I believe that relationships are like war you never have control only the illusion
Bro what movies are you watching? 😂
I offered her to come and meet my friends at a restaurant and she asked if the crop top was too revealing and I said “a little but it’s not enough to change your outfit” and she changed despite me telling her that it was okay. She’s upset now and I actually don’t know what to do. I told her that I didn’t want my friends to think badly of her and for her to feel excluded. She says she’s no longer upset but I can tell that there are some feelings about the situation she has kept inside. Wish me luck!
When is the part where she acknowledges when she messed up and recognizes is not about her and then has remorse and asks for forgiveness and tries to mend what she ruined?
lmao
I woke up today to find out that this doesn't actually happen, even if you accept all of your mistakes. lol, sad.
Parts of this did have some good advice in there.. but I have to say, this lady really comes across as someone who could be hard work to deal with in a relationship. Definitely has a sign of strength picture in her living room & cries after the act of love
I hate the fact that men can’t show emotion and have to be strong and emotionless
Showing emotions has helped me in very strange situations, plus I was being completely honest which was great feeling, you let go.
My girlfriend at the time ( we propably broke up fr this time - that's why I'm here ), from "I don't want to talk to you" was all ears and full of emotions, once she saw me vulnerable, expressing how much I really loved her. That was all she wanted to see. And that was the best, straight-forward, free-est move I could have done.
No arguments, no logic, no head. Pure emotion. That's their language. And to be fair, it's a very real language that us men need to take notice.
I got the wrong kind of pizza for my girlfriend and now I’m watching this video
I appreciate the vulnerability you displayed on this video about your relationship. Thanks for that, Marni.
Translation: I wanted to go out and have fun. He ruined it. I'll show him by calling him a weak idiot on youtube.
There is one solution to find peace & harmony, get rid of any girl getting too close to u (= never merry, never ever live together, u inviting the devil into ur life !) .
Lawl
average virgo advice
I'd rather be a player than have a ball n chain trying to bring me down with her endless gossip and drama.
How old are you?
As a guy, we try hard to be good guys. But I think everyone has their breaking point.
From a guy's perspective, if we are ever not keeping our cool, its actually the girl who comforts the guy and gets the guy back on track.
if you reached here searching this
you are a good spouse
Is this a Video for us? Or for your Husband?
Ashes of the Phoenix I don't know how to feel about this lack of boundaries, she could have at least pretended it was her friend or client or hypothetical situation. If I were her husband I would be livid.
The fact someone wants to use their own life experiences to illustrate a point is a good teaching moment. This is what good teachers do and a great way to connect with others. Very savy and highly professional move!
I DON'T understand either
Hearing her say "So for me instantly the attraction and connection went away" just feels manipulative.
For all the young men who have come to this video looking for a how-to guide for relationships, I'm sure you don't need me to tell you that this is not it.
Every relationship is unique, and complicated. I am glad at least that Ms Wing Girl is clear about this being her opinion, because that's all this is.
My advice to you is never compromise your dignity or self-respect for a relationship. Women will come and go, but self-esteem runs through and around everything you do, and has the greatest power to make you feel good (way better than pussy ;).
Bro why do girls fight over the dumbest things my girl got mad because I said a bad word and we just started arguing I don’t even say it to her we have been distant from each other literally stopped talking for more than a week honestly ima just let her go I tried to tell her to stop playing games but she just ignored me so fuck it ima just let her go
Super helpful. As a man, I already admit when I am wrong but it is good to hear that it works😁
Couples argue all the time, i told her this. But she’s only 21. So guess i was her first boyfriend. Yeah, I yelled at her. But she hurt me. I told her sorry, things just been tough. We both always got along. I’ll miss her smile and soft touch.
Did you brake up after all?
I agree with what you are saying here. I do this in my own relationship. But I think you neglected to mention what you can do in the relationship to make him attracted to you again. It’s a two way situation , not one sided. The relationship takes these types of actions on both sides. Don’t be unaware of that.
Accountability is not a women's thing
Good times come and go, but love stays with intent.
Just got into a fight with my girl I can’t take this pain
Know that I spend too much time lately posting places, mostly life been interested in others opinions on stuff, but as owl, to decide for myself, usually just interested in an opinion more than the person, but I have to say that even though empathetic towards person (whoever) having some problem in their life, this particular one is giving me the "gay friend flashback nightmare" again, even though I have friend zoned the other person forever the very first moment I set eyes on them, and all I can say is that over the course of my life, I don't need any more help with simpness than I've apparently done to myself (some of that existing only in the eyes of others). I do feel bad for you, and anyone else in your situation, but looks like to me that your advice to others on how to fix this problem is just that you want someone to comfort you for your current bump in the road, feelings hurt, not a one size fits all solution for a man to fix this issue all by himself (apparently). Hate to be so crass, but every time somebody else's issue like this winds up spilling into my world and I do anything ar all, even just listen, somehow I always come away looking like a chump in the eyes of others (most importantly, females).
And also your explanation is way too complicated and convoluted for me to understand, jusr looks like you are (rightfully) distraught and need someone to listen to your distressfulness, because you've really been emotionally hurt by this disagreement and are concerned that it looks too difficult to get past this issue and also considering the level of commitment and time invested.
Believe me, I am no kind of expert at this, been spending a lot of time gathering information on the subject for awhile now, mostly fir academic reasons at this point in my life, and what I did wrong and why, and bottom line is that really I am no less confused than I have always been, but one thing I know is thar whenever I try to help someone, for whatever reason, maybe only just listen to them, it only just reinforced others perception of me as some nice guy pushover simp, and some of these females in my past, after many years have passed, after I only thought that they were cool for awhile that never really went any further, somehow think that I have been waiting all my life for them to finally settle for me, or that they have finally grown up and and are finally willing to put up with me for a price or something, and it only makes me really really angry, no matter the cost, destroying any favorable impression that I once did have of them but never again, just on the same level of the average nutjob fatal attraction bizarro lunatic that I don't know and have never introduced themselves, don't know their name, married someone else in my family tree and is a walking nightmare for them, so dump on me, etc, besides.
Feel bad for you, feel bad for telling jokes, just how I cope with my pain until I can see another way, have no opinion on your guy, don't know him, have nothing bad to say about him, probably okay guy even though don't know him, can't help you blame or find fault with him to provide comfort, just hope it all works out for you, stuff that baffles me, and many other things besides, have no answers, I was just looking for them myself, and not much better off from where I started, just hope things work out for everyone most of the time, no opinion otherwise.
You do understand that you are asking for two different males? As a man one either executes regardless of situation or, in case of failure, you hold until you are away from others and you confide in your significant other.
There is no in between.
As a couple social judgement falls on both of you.
The girl I have like for a year and a half is mad at me and I don’t think I’ll ever go out with her!😭
Quarantine fights sent me here😂
I just watched this and took you’re advice and it worked were talking things out. Thank you so much.
My girl’s pissed off at me extremely pissed to the point where i’m scared of losing her… she needs time but im scared that she wont forgive me and will leave me
I know it’s none of my business but what ended up happening?
@@bruhhub7489 We were able to clear the situation up thankfully and so far so good a couple ups and downs here and there ya know the typical relationship stuff but I aint gonna lie sometimes I do overthink and still feel that she might leave me and it scares me, but thankfully everything got fixed 🙏🙏
Great video
Thank you for sharing this really resonated good points
Really need your opinion on my girlfriend venting to her ex over a small problem we had? Please advise...I'm very torn on leaving or not as I would never disrespect her in this way...
Not controlling you own emotions is your problem, not his. Why is it that only her happiness matters, but not his? Why should your happiness out weigh his? You have equal responsibility with dealing with situations just as much as him. I bet you're one of them girls that do the "you're not having sex tonight". Acting like a child
Thanks marni, had a argument with my partner this is first thing I looked up to try fix things with my partner.
A great idea is to give her a sincere apology and let her know you made a mistake and are actively trying to avoid the mistakes you made last time
Yes, but you don't tuck your tail with a woman. Apologize, yes. Men shouldn't tuck their tail with anyone; that leads to being unattractive. When I was independent, and my woman noticed, and strong, things went well. Praying for marriage soon, but God will see.
I find myself in almost the exact situation Marni. This video has been more helpful than I can explain in less than a paragraph.
cuck alert
I used to fight alot with my gf.When she is losing interest chating with me.What do yiu think I should do?
Marni great advice and making your content simple , and also effective! I appreciate your story as well ! Now ima go make up with my lady. You are the best cheat sheet lol
Sorry you got into a fight. Hope you guys can work this out. Very well handled Marni. If your husband doesn’t want you, I’ll take you off his hands ;)
Thank you for sharing that Marni. You didn't have to, but you did anyway. Both of you are only human and feelings will overboil sometimes, it's only natural. You showed some vulnerability in this video too and how you dealt with it, but, how your husband also dealt with it. I think you Both did a Great Job in resolving that issue....
Thanks for the perspective
Helped a lot! Thankyou!
The fact that Everyone who searched this has a fight with his girl is hahaha.
is 2018 why are your videos not full HD
Bolivar Morales most of them were...
Bolivar Morales No shi-t my cell phone from two years ago shoots 4K. That said, give her a break, she needs support, even in DVD quality. ;) All kidding aside, it's awesome that she's sharing so everyone should be appreciative.
Curious. Am i supposed to give in without fault?
tbh i learned a lesson form this video cause yesterday i had argument you know i get heated up really fast sometimes she gets heated but at the end we sit and talk about it and we apologize but the main issue i have is i get angry very fast and when im angry i have misunderstood
Thank you
What if he doesn’t think he’s wrong?
Thank you so much for those tips I'll talk to her right away 💓
Wise and Powerful words.
Thanks ! I think i got a perspective.
You are saying so much about yourself, it’s like we are listening your story
Very open congrats you didn't have to share. Glad you both rebuilt the bridge. Nice and facts on Point. Sometimes men do need to go to apologize valley too say sorry to our Queen, and as a man we need to vent anxiety and tension talk,sport, mediate,
i saw your video on my home screen i guess its how strange a problem telling us how to fix problem😂
Thank you so much this helped a lot😄
Dan Bacon's description of women and men is exactly this. I get upset and frustrated at the fact that I am expected to be emotionally strong while the woman is emotionally vulnerable. But, it seems this is only natural for most women with men. Most women literally lose sexual and romantic attraction when a man is overwhelmed by his emotions. Seen in this light, it could be interpreted that it is not a personal attack from women to want men to not be "overly" emotional. It's literally a turn off to women because they are naturally that way, it's not a choice they have to be turned off by a man being so emotional. I guess to me that means my woman will not be seeing my overly emotional part and I'll have to share that part with other people like a therapist, family, friendly people. There's nothing wrong with women being turned off by men who behave in this way as it's only a natural response for them. Similarly, there's nothing wrong with men being emotional, just you can experience that away from the woman. That's what seems to be the solution.
This LEGEND really fights with her mans on SATURDAY goes one full day NOT speaking to her mans about what's bothering her. Then MONDAY, proceeded to put our poor mans on blast on her public youtube channel offering advice to fix a situation, that she herself, has STILL not resolved. She fought with him on Saturday, June 16th, DOES NOT resolve the issue, and then posts about it in public on June 18th.
What a legend.
Gentleman, look elsewhere, this... is not it.
And honestly, giving advice to people about something you haven't even dealt with yet, is like putting out a complex cookie recipe, having NEVER ACTUALLY MADE THEM.
I hope she got back together, however, if I was her man's I'd be the one feeling betrayed and breaking it off with her since all of our personal business is public to her apparently.
We just had our first fight, and I'm really scared that she might leave me or look at me diffrently
Control isn't bad. The opposite is out of control
Thank you so much
Thank you it worked
she said i was breathing the same air as some girl
...we fought on 11th sept and we r in no contact since then
I tried to apologise but she's not ready to talk to me
Yesterday i came to know that she went to a club with her friends how can women do this???
Like if the fight is impacting me then why not her she's enjoying herself and I don't knoq what other things she must be doing
bruh my gf said im different now and i asked how am i different? and she said she will tell me later and i got mad and yelled at her "how did i change i love you and will still love you the same" and she hung up im just like wtf
Literally just fought and she absolutely does not want to talk to me. Which makes me go fucking crazy, I'm trying my best to not text her or call her. Ugh this fucking sucks I wanna go to her place and talk but I know we'll just end up fighting more.
How do i figure out why I'm like this, so I can explain and talk things out with her?
If you texted or called her then she will say I told you not to do that, and if you didn't text or call her, then she will definitely say that you don't care about me if you do you would have texted me...
Just women things 😂
Hi marni I love your videos and I’m a subscriber too, this advice is all good I like it a lot except one part, u wanted your guy to be strong again which is understandable but sometimes if we fall down we need a little longer to get back up instead of a 1/2 or 3 days it might take 5/6 or the week to get ourselves back on track, as men usually don’t fall to much so when we do we are sort of learning about ourselves and dealing with whatever it is we are going through. Anyway that’s just my opinion. Enjoy your day
Why is it always the man's responsibility to fix things?? Where's your own strength?
Hope you two can Patch it up and get back to Love ❤😊
Daggum I needed this
i tried to appologize for it but she just dismissed it bc i have an over apologizing problem. how do i fix this.
Had a big fight last night. My gf was showing me some kind of snack that I have never heard of so I asked what is that but apparently the way I said that upset her and she got pissed because I didn’t sense that and apologize. I got pissed because it’s like wtf. I just asked what it is not like I’m uninterested or anything. She gets upset too often, like once a week and I’m getting tired of worrying about stepping on a mine all the time. Sometimes it’s my fault but often the way she communicates her disapproval of something is really toxic (like suddenly physically distancing herself or leave me behind when we’re walking to some place) and escalates things. I mean she could have just said the way I said that doesn’t sound nice and she would appreciate it if I said it another way. She said she always says it but she never did. Pretty sure not this time. Guess it was another one of those “hinting a message” thing. Fine, I guess I should be more attentive to those hints but at least stop getting pissed at every little stupid thing. Why do you have to get pissed at something every freakin week. I let so many things go and never complain about something to you unless we fight and I let it out because you get pissed whenever I point out something. Even in a fight you never listen and turn the table around to focus on you.
Dunno what your situation is, since it was 6 months ago, but something similar happened to me, I was busy with work and took care of to mechanic so wasn’t on my phone most of the day, so I text her late and she exploded like tf, saying I don’t care enough wouldn’t listen to my pov, all I can say women are headaches sometimes
I do what she says and I'm the problem, because I did exactly what she said. Daily.
In response to this video, seems like you are the problem. Just because she's mad at me now doesn't mean she doesn't love me nor love her.
Weve had fights about this period in our relationship where we arent having sex and its because its on my mind souch i ask her if we could try and she flips because we argue about it so much. I dont know what to do. I want that spark we had a year ago but now i feel like she doesnt even want to touch me.
I think your approach is all wrong Marni, which is fine, you're still so young and have much to mature. As we age, there come a point where we face and test our vulnerabilities on a daily basis in relationships. Such as caring for an ill spouse, being there to hold their hands and give them our love and support in their time of need. It could be a diagnosis for stage IV cancer or anything else that is life threatening. That's where unconditional love needs to be present, in the absence of all power loss. You're not truly in love with someone if you're only attracted and with them for certain periods or things that they are for most of the time, and when they cease being that is when your feelings for them cease. Once you have been there for someone in their greatest need, sacrifice your happiness for theirs, it makes all the other fights seem petty and insignificant. That is where we really need to evaluate ourselves and how we truly love and accept people.
I disagree. There's a difference between love and co-dependence. "Stage 4 cancer" is not very romantic. I prefer to live with someone not wish for her death. If sickness comes, as a Christian, I don't necessarily watch their life ebb from them, but pray--ah, yes, that's popular these days! Yes, a man may cry, that's natural--but desperation, in this case seemingly longed for--is not attractive in men or women.
"You're still so young and have much to mature." She's in her late 30s, you patronizing dipshit.
To be honest both have a good point, you cannot be co-dependent but also you cannot turn your back on someone who needs you. Love is not only about attraction, it’s also about caring and protecting others. If people let simple things destroy relationships then they were nothing to them. Also a man is allowed to freak out a bit, life is hard and sometimes that happens, now if it is like that all the time then that is a problem.
Thanks for this beautiful video. It helped me tons! Very clear and honest.
This video and this girl is about everything wrong with a girl in a relationship and how immaturity in a girl can easily break a relationship
Lol make sure the girl your with wants to fix it to.........she doesn't girls create these problems for drama. Ignore it
I’m in the best relationship of my life. I fucked up tonigjt completely on accident. Hoping to turn it around in a day or two
The first 18 seconds of this video is why there are problems in the frist place once a man decides he likes you it doenst change on a damn daily basis... oh wow she's not even resolved her own damn shit..
Hi Marni.
I'm from South Africa, I'm a fan of your videos and this is my first comment 😁listing I have tried everything to get my baby mama back. It's almost a month from now since we fought and yesterday I made a romantic dinner at my place. Honestly speaking I feel like that made things worse. Any tips Marni.?
It’s been a month after a no communication period. Should I reach back to her ? Let her know that I’ve regained strength?
Lmao, the regaining of strength BS. Don't listen to this women. She's manulipating men into conforming to her narritive.
Great explanations, Marni!! I think women don't want a man who sulks from a weak position. Yes, women want to ADMIRE men. That means standing up and taking the blame...or accepting an apology. I've noticed that in women. They don't want a man WITHOUT STRENGTH. Strength is masculine after all--not being impervious, as that's impossible and undesirable. Men have two emotions: "I feel good," "I don't feel good." Being martian, it's not the easiest for us to talk about our feelings, they're simpler but harder for us to communicate. Kindness and strength.
As a woman, she's right
Skip directly to the part that makes sense: 9:25.
So the guy loses attractiveness and emasculate him for "not showing strength," and the solution is for him talk to you and express volunerability and show weakness? Sure!
I did all that and it did not help.
What a childish view of relationships. One argument and attraction is gone? She’s living in a fairytale.
You missed her point. It's not the argument, it's the fact that he couldn't handle his emotions because of his work stress which made him look weak to her which killed the attraction she had for him.
Why do I as a man need to be strong all the time some times i just want to cry and explain my emotions but nope cause then my girlfriends gonna dump me:/
I get it completely but my prob is different. Me and my girl have been arguing a lot because she’s always in a bad mood and she’s been blowing up on me constantly and saying things she promise would never say. One day I really got mad and said how I was feeling but it didn’t come out how I’d expect or wanted we were gonna take a brake and go out and stuff. One day I go to her and I ask how she is and gives me
Attitude and says “You know I’m good” and I said “I haven’t heard from you for a week” and she says “your nothing of me so that’s not your problem” everything just kept going down and haven’t talked to her for 2 whole weeks. What should I do?
@@bookofrhymes225 sadly yes it completely destroyed me
Hmm. Nice advice and communication is really the key. I think sometimes men need their alone time too, don't women have those moments too? And the partner does not always have the answer or is being sought for. It's maddening when you want to help and reach out but i think it happens to both.
This advice only applies to a specific kind of fight, but it's a great example of how men should ALWAYS refrain from acting. It would take multiple paragraphs to fully summarize all the ways hubby here displayed unspeakable weakness, but basic points can be hammered out quickly. He didn't just crumble and demonstrate a complete absence of frame, he took out his frustration and negatively impacted someone uninvolved with source of his issue. Furthermore, his woman had to drag the problem out of him. Instead of being direct like a man, he was essentially pouting. This is all avoided if he see's Marni here dressed to the nines and simply says, "You look great, wish I wasn't so stressed so I could really enjoy the scenery." (This would open communication and illicit a much more favorable response.) He then basically doubled down on his lack of strength by dragging out the behavioral pattern, and entering a qualifying mode by "being over the top friendly." It's an act of avoidance, which men should never, ever adopt.
Take not boys, control yourself and you'll control your life.
I think Marni was being a selfish cunt--and he should have given her a beating.
what utter nonsense