Eight Radically Simple Principles To Follow To Heal CPTSD and Change Your Life
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- Опубліковано 21 вер 2024
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If you're working to heal from abuse and neglect in childhood, you've probably tried dozens of remedies, and chances are, you weren't really helped. In my work, I teach a radically simple approach that helped me heal trauma symptoms, that involves simple techniques and a set of principles that help explain why many treatments may not have worked for you, and how you can find what DOES work. In this video I describe the eight principles on which all my videos, courses and programs are based.
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I have 21 days of Daily Practice. I noticed a shift! I smiled. Others saw me smile. I am happy you are writing a book and glad I didn't have to wait to learn to heal myself before it was too late. Yes, I have amends to make for how I was acting. I get it now. There is hope.
That's amazing! Thank you for taking the time to comment, I'll make sure Anna reads this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
The eight principles:
1. Trauma is an injury, not an identity 9:09
2. Dysregulation is an almost universal symptom among traumatized people 13:03
3. Triggers drive virtually all symptoms of CPTSD 16:02
4. Learning to calm triggers is the starting place to break the cycle 19:35
5. Conventional methods for treating dysregulation haven't worked very well 23:34
6. Conventional beliefs about trauma have disempowered CPTSD survivors 34:19
7. Healing CPTSD requires you to take your power back 37:53
8. Character development is essential to healing 40:35
The point of healing is to be the version we were born to be 45:04
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Ah. When you spoke of going into a bathroom if necessary to re-regulate, get back on track, rejoin a gathering and be yourself again, my breath caught very suddenly and I welled up with tears. I realized in that very moment that I really don’t know who “myself” is. I think I’ve always pretended that I did, but that behavior has been a protective shield. You are helping me figure out what CPTSD really is, how it manifests and how to recognize the triggers and calm them. I’m so very thankful for your work, true understanding and presence and guidance here. At 63, it’s high time I learn to take a really deep breath and truly understand that I am not that victim of the past, that I’m not ruined, and that I’m OK.
Great insight, and this course helps a LOT with getting back to who we are. It's free :) bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
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@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you so much I'm dealing with a lot, I'm 26 my traumas came back to torment me after divorce from abusive marriage
Awareness is the first step in changing anything, so you are well on the right track! ❤...The universe/God loves you and is waiting to connect with you and heal you..all you need do is, BE STILL AND KNOW, my dear soul! Breath deep slowly. In all the way and out all the way, slowly..all your answers will be found here..uncomfortable feelings WILL come up when being still and breathig. to the extent that you can sit and breath through the feelings, allowing them to be there judgement free untill the energy pattern plays out is the extent of pure GOLD that you receive on the other side of processed emotion.
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So many of us are in the same position, in our adult lives, starting to be aware and starting to heal. We deserve it ❤️
This lady might be the key to saving my life after almost 50 years of straight trauma. WOW, somebody GETS ME
Anna, you are my girl. Spitting facts.
what helped me a lot are psychedelics and ayahuasca. Ayahausca told me that I don't have to identify with my experiences and that the past is the past. I don't have to carry what happened in my past with me all my life. I always believed I was a broken person and no one could ever love me if they saw my real me. Nothing could be further from the truth, the more authentic you are, if you are honest about your situation and no longer keep the shame about a situation to yourself because that is what is most toxic. Accept what happened, don't identify with it, don't blame yourself for it. Let it go. We live now and try not to get stuck in your past.
I understand what you are talking about, I tried plant medicine too, but I’d be wary of suggesting this to other people with childhood trauma. If they feel the need to search for it themselves, they’ll find this type of healing. But plant medicine could be also used irresponsibly, and could lead to substance abuse/magical thinking and/or otherwise thinking that the solution is outside of us, ie not taking responsibility, but rather letting an external force “heal you” while one remains passive.
The solutions she suggests, on the other hand, ie writing twice daily and meditation, have no risks I could think of.
I say this as someone who’s experimented with aya, iboga, mushrooms, and other plant medicines. They did help, but not as effectively as actually doing the daily practice and meditating. Just my two cents, and also what I consider to be an important disclaimer for people recovering from childhood trauma.
@@LalulaPsydefinetly! You need to have a calling and a purpose
I have been drawn to plant medicine just for this reason. Still trying to locate a reputable source !
❤this.
I also have been working with ancestral plant medicine and I can tell that it has helped me a lot. But still the daily tools are much necessary.
Thank you Anna for giving me a name for my “craziness” and a path to healing from my CPTSD! I have hope again!
Your not crazy....❤
Definitely not crazy! But I understand. I was calling myself crazy too. And I legit felt like I was going crazy there for a while.
I so very much appreciate you putting the responsibility of our behaviors back on us. Yes,we were victims,but learning how to live well,is our job. It's HARD! and painful at times....I'll forever be a work in progress..but that's ok. So grateful to have found you ❤
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Yes the damage is done and we can change and try to heal and we have that power - that feels good - but it’s hard work I guess - I just began 😂
@@INUIT1234 Blessings and good wishes on your journey, Cat!
Having the autonomy and being the one in the driver seat when it comes to my own healing is so empowering. The main component of trauma is a feeling of helplessness so having the first and last say is healing in itself!
One of my ballet teachers told us that ballet dancers have the lowest rates of dementia, according to studies. It's because of the intensive eye/brain/body coordination required, the movement of one's body in geometrical patterns with a group of others, the aerobic exercise, the balancing of everything on the right with the left, the rapidity of some of the movements, the strength training, the musical attention required, the balance and grounding required to give the appearance of flight, and more. This particular teacher is almost 80 and still teaching and demonstrating. And she's not the only one I know like that.
BALLET CLASS AGAIN!!! left/right sides of body, in synch with other people, in synch with classical music, rhythmic intense exercise, and on and on and on. This is how & why Ballet Class literally saved my life a hundred times over, it reduces ALL my CPTSD symptoms and when I don't take class they all come back.
You have become my guide whenever an iffy thought crosses my mind. I imagine you and what you would say to me if you knew what was happening. I truly admire you Anna. Thank you for all that you do💕
I've been out of work for about 2 years now because of intense pain and nausea. I've learned about c-ptsd about a year ago and haven't really come across a ton of info that has been helpful for healing and truly appreciate your videos. I feel like my complex part of the PTSD tends to be a bit more complex than many others but appreciate any steps like this I can get. Thanks again for your videos.
Loving that you are motivated to get better!❤...this is a great place to start!
@@WhatsMarlyUpTo Pain is a heavy infuencer! Thanks for the support!
There is so much more to trauma in my opinion than people realize. If no one has experienced trauma, they would just never understand what it’s like. It isn’t just the horrific memories that haunt you. It isn’t just the fact that the people who were supposed to love you were abusive and cruel and they gaslight you and you lived in this world of utter confusion and it just went on and on and on and on. It isn’t just the bullying that occurred every single day not only from your family, but of course, from the kids in the school where you grew up because you have siblings that trashed you to their friends and so the scapegoating just was endless. The problem that people don’t understand is that all of that not only is something that is a tangible memory, but it’s imprinted into your central nervous system. Each time you were humiliated or hit or gaslit or smeared your body had a physical reaction of humiliation or shame etc all those hormones from adrenaline to epinephrine etc tensed up and or felt sick or felt fear or felt shame or felt the urge to run, but there was nowhere to go. That’s the part of trauma that is so hard to deal with because it gets triggered by a current nothing event. Decades later you could be doing something so simple and a glass gets knocked over and makes a loud noise and shatters just like it did when you were three and got the shit beat out of you because you accidentally broke a glass and if you fast forward to five decades and a glass breaks you jump out of your chair with rage and anger mimicking what you saw so many decades ago. It is not behavior that you want to engage in and you know with every fiber of your body that that isn’t who you are it’s as if some demon from the past has jumped into your body and taken over the remote control. That’s the hardest part to heal from and I believe that part that we fight against is the root cause of chronic pain and physical symptoms. Our body wants to let go of it all so desperately yet it’s so difficult to do but it can be done. It takes a lot of work and a lot of conscious fighting of that trigger that turns our body into these reactive bombs of rage or anger. It’s so unfair what happened to scapegoats and those who were abused by their own families. I really hope one day it’s a crime. Rape is a retroactive crime, murder is a retroactive crime and scapegoating and childhood abuse should be as well. The symptoms are so obvious so a well educated trauma specialist would absolutely know who’s telling the truth and could support them in court. Until people start to be held accountable lives will be ruined or definitely sidetracked due to healing.
@@JustNotEverybody_ I’m a very “complex” CPTSD too 😊… I have severe scoliosis so I’m in chronic pain which causes me some extra complexity’s. I’m also getting a lot of help from this channel. God Bless Anna for caring enough to offer us all a safe place to learn how to help ourselves become who we really want to be. 🙏🙏🙏hang in there … we got this friend.❤
@@thirstonhowellthebird I have never read a more descriptive accounting of trauma, EVER! Different traumas for me but every scenario hit home and had me nodding my fool head off. I have to save your carefully chosen words to read each time I hit a trigger. 🙌
PS - on a much lighter note, I just had to say I love your handle/name! 😜 Spent many hours trapped on that island with Gilligan and his gang as a child parked in front of the TV.
I had a math teacher show me marching with opposite sides of the body...right foot and left hand come up, then left foot and right hand come up. He said it joins both sides of the brain to work together. It works!
Yes! Good math teacher!
My trauma issues are coming to the surface more and more daily now. I feel like a terrified teenager constantly. I’m scared of the world and feel numb. Can’t even cry now.
Yes, when I worked through steps in Al-Anon the first time (took me a year decades ago), I wrote and wrote - then read what I'd written to my sponsor and heard her experience - did it that way with each step using the step as my guideline - spending months on each step with more than one reading with each step. I couldn't have done regular talk therapy at that point, although have done talk therapy twice three months each for specific life changes. One of these therapists told me that it sounded to her as if I'd worked through PTSD over my years in Al-Anon. No medications. I got so much healing at step nine when I got to make amends to others, to myself, and to God by changing myself and my actions. Took awhile though.
me too
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I was Dx with C-PTSD about a year ago, but my doctor doesn't seem to understand what is really what I am going through & therapy hasn't helped like it once did. Thank you, Anna, because it seems the professionals don't really understand what we went through as children and/or adults.
I think C-PTSD is a new diagnosis. Talk therapy does not help much
What you say at 17:00 about it being us that needs to be kinder is something I have recently explored myself as well. There is real science that shows the release of serotonin when we offer praise to others. I think praise is really just an act of selfless and kindness. What I'd really like to try is to be a better person to others without the expectation for the feelings to be reciprocated. In that case, I don't have this huge disappointment when the feeling isn't returned. It's like charity and volunteering.
You just helped me paraphrase a scripture in the Bible... Acts 20:35... "There is more happiness in giving than in receiving" will now forever in my mind read "There is more serotonin in giving than in receiving". 😜
Im definitely trying to work on this myself personally. I don't want to change my loving and caring nature. I love that part about me but when it wasn't reciprocated when I needed it myself from that special person to me it would hurt alot. So I end up pushing them away, making me feel like they just use me to fill themselves up but then they'd get upset when im not there for them...also for me when they are not there for me as well and not feeling more than disappointed.
@@luna84_ This makes me so sad to read. Some people just haven't had the realization yet that they are being selfish and ungrateful. Don't let the quid pro quo viewpoint rob you of the joy of giving!
@@WhatsMarlyUpTo this is true perhaps..i don't want to think wrong of this person bc he wasn't like this to me in the beginning but things got hazy and messed up..he got hurt i suppose and changed with me..i felt his cold shoulder..but yes its unfortunate that they don't want to realize or realize but don't care it seems..all i know is that i want to still show up for people..regardless how they show up for me..even if its temporary for however long they allow me to show up 😌
FINALLY someone tells the truth. Everywhere they say “at this point you should talk to a mental health professional” but a) it’s very expensive, including Better Help, and b) I spent thousands on a psychologist who just “listened” and I talked. It was such a waste of time to keep reliving the everything and get no tools. He gave me no tools, I saw him once a month because it was expensive, and “talking” didn’t help. I’d already ranted to friends. Now, whenever someone says “if you’re feeling like this you really should talk to a mental health professional” I get triggered. It’s a stupid solution that has no meaning at all. Even if you can get funded counselling, they’re booked up and available slots are like 6 months in advance and you spend you free session “explaining” what’s wrong. The only thing the psychologist told me was he drew a pictures of a diagram with the “inner circle of friends and family” and “outer circle.” I felt like I’d done more researching and learning on UA-cam than he’d done in his entire professional career. I think I was hoping something would come about after months had past, but each session I used my 50 min to catch him up on what happened that month and the session was over. Not to mention he never said anything so I had to fill in the silence. Sorry for the rant but “mental health professionals” are not the solution because they aren’t properly trained
Grateful 🙏 I'm still here at 51. By accident. Lol so glad to be here and having my tenacious drive to take the best care of me. ❤peace ✌️ ☮️ 🕊
Bless you Anna. I don't have anyone in my life to help me, or the funds to seek professional help, and I just wanted to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for providing so much valuable free content. Knowledge really is power with this, and you explain everything so clearly, gently and succinctly.
You are so welcome. If you haven't tried it yet, the free course The Daily Practice is the core of my teaching. It's always linked in the description section under my videos.
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy signed up yesterday, am going to get in to it asap, thanks!
The best therapists have been through crap and are constantly working on themselves ! Thank you for your guidance 😊✨
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Your beautiful work is just a God sent gift for me! Been really working hard on healing through spirituality & reading lots and truly working on it, but I’ve never felt as connected with the teachings as I did watching 2,3 of your amazing videos , thank you , thank you !!!
Can’t wait to try the free course and I wanted to thank you from the deeps of my heart for providing them for free to everyone , a beautiful way to serve and uplift humanity 🙏🏻☺️
Simply, life-changing. I have a lot of gratitude for Anna Runkle. She is doing the work this world needs right now. I need this message. I’ve never felt more seen than on this channel. Thank you.
1:12 Been trying to find this video to listen to again & glad I found it!
I have been in therapy most of my adult life and for a number of years I was also on medication for anxiety and depression. I went off my meds back in October. For the past of couple of years I have been working with a therapist who knows and understands what CPSTD is. She is helpful but I can testify - the fact is this, the daily practice has done more for me in the last three weeks than all of the years I was in therapy. And it has helped me to calm my anxiety. Drug free. I am more in touch with my feelings than I have ever been. I have serenity now and I am learning to love my new life alone (solitude - not loneliness). Taking time to heal and treat my symptoms is where it is at, thanks to you Anna. I cannot say thank you enough! It is all about empowerment! I am so grateful to be part of your journey: i hope you don't mind that I tag along so I can learn, grow and share with others.
Please do tag along, I'm so happy to hear how much the Daily Practice has helped!
-Cara@TeamFairy
A few weeks ago I was panicking thinking I needed a therapist. But, I couldn't face telling all the crap all over again. I'm so done talking about it. I decided to search stuff on UA-cam to validate my feelings. It's been more helpful listening than talking. Thank you.
Wow, I was on a date tonight and though I've done the DP for 2 years and was pretty regulated, I didn't use the bathroom for a quick write and handwash. I'm doing it next time! I know the best time to use my tools is when im feeling pretty regulated and they can fortify that regulation. Thank you for the reminder 🙏
I have multiple sclerosis and severe cptsd and my wife also has severe ptsd classic trauma bond relationships major issues and your channel is saving my life and our marriage!!! Thank you so much I tell everyone about this channel because they are moving to slow to educate the doctors about this stuff therapist and psychologist are sadly uneducated about these issues and dangerously because society desperately needs a healing trend we are in crisis every one covid really tipped the scale and you are seeing the effects deaths of despair drug addiction obesity so many people suffering symptoms of trauma and no healing going on and I don’t feel like they even want us to heal it would destroy alcohol companies and so many aspects of society I love you fairy team and community we’re doing great!!!❤❤❤❤
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How does Misophonia factor into your studies on CPTSD? I have that disorder and am an identical triplet...so many years of triggers and depression and anxiety with no relief. I have a bachelors degree and at least 15 years of watching medications, counseling and varied interventions and procedures that have failed to relieve patients misery related to childhood trauma. So impressed with your unique perception to the problem and your expertise in this area of therapy.
So glad I ran into this channel! ❤
Wow. BRILLIANT
I love your straight forward communication approach, your ability to deliver truth in a clear and factual yet loving way is really inspiring! I really appreciate you and the work you put into spreading the techniques and knowledge that has worked for you because even though I am a very new subscriber the knowledge has already started to make a difference in my life. It is obvious to me that your mission to help people comes from a genuine place and that you want people to live a happier and more fulfilled life not just for their own sake but for everyone around them. And for that I am thankful ❤️
I'm so glad I found this channel. You are definitely doing the lord's work ❤❤
since I learned I have c.p.t,s.d , I have also learned how my family have been taking about me all these years , and my sister said when I was a young child I changed when I was about six , and became withdrawn , looking back now after telling my story to my councillor , I coped in life by burying my past trauma , but it still effected me in certain situations around people , I know I am still not healed , when I told my story I cried my heart out , and don't wish to go through that again , i have tried writing my story down , it just bought the pain back for me and I wasn't comfortable with that feeling , so I am still searching , for my coping mechanism , thanks for vids
Glad you are here. Daily Practice is a great way to process fears and resentment. You can try it free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
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You're videos are helping me sooo much! Thank you ❤
I am so happy to have found you. You are doing great work.
DBT Therapy was my go to…until Anna came along and brought my healing to a WHOLE new level!Thank you Anna!❤
OMG Anna, this video is so encouraging! It's like you are connecting with my mind from hundreds of miles away. You are one of the few people who prompt me to keep paying for UA-cam premium. With that subscription I can download your vitally helpful videos and am able to listen to over and over, even when the internet is down! Thank you for your dedication to helping us heal! 🤗🤗🤗. PS, looking forward to your book!!!!
Thank you for your kind words! I'll make sure Anna reads this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Totally agree!
Hi, Anna. My first time writing in since I was introduced to you two months ago. It was a God nudge that lead me to you, and I am grateful! This video confirms why I stopped seeing therapists because the ones I saw were "trauma informed" and only skated around trauma instead of helping me heal from the trauma. Like you, I was exhausted on talking and it only made me feel worse. I had to detox after sessions from all the talking that did not heal me. It was getting into Alanon that DRASTICALLY improved my life. And now with ACA and your videos and the daily practice my life is SO MUCH BETTER!
I'm SO happy to hear this. I really appreciate that you shared here, because your success story lifts spirts of everyone here, and points to a way forward. Big hugs!
T S , sorry I didn’t understand what is getting into Alanon mean ?
I stepped into a major project today. I didn't want to give up my DREAM. I was willing to forgo repairing my house to keep a building that is in need of major repairs.My inner child wanted to hang on no matter what. I decided I needed to pick and choose, what I keep, move quickly, no tears, pick it up, decide, MOVE ON!!!!
I love change. It's fresh, new, sometimes scary, and it's liberating!!!
Many years ago, I would never have stepped forward and purchased a building for less than a used car. I did it with very few blessings and a major illness, I will succeed!!!
I experienced it, I loved it, it scared me, I DID IT!!!!
It's time to move on, clear my nest, and set up a work area. Everything in its place is labeled, so I can create what I want to.
I need to take care of ME, just the basics, I feel good when I do.
What does it mean when the ONLY way you feel any sense of peace is when you are not only alone and isolated but also far removed from people? Basically a hermit? I see on here that some people feel lonely and that isolation is an issue. I don't. I feel that isolation is the only way that I can survive.
The title of your video attracted me. The thing is l always felt l had to be able to tell my story ( verbally) to some one who knew how to listen in order to find healing. But l was unable to tell it to any one. ( just snippets here and there). No psy or councillor ever helped. My childhood trauma left me with very low self estime all my life, ( l am now in my eighties). It was only while participating in a Shamanic energy healing course that l realised that it was possible to shed the past as a serpent sheds its skin. It was a liberating realisation. I felt free to pursue a better more creative future. But then started a new period of intense trauma which has lasted 3 years and is still going on. It almost seems ancester-related. But the difference is that now l avoid thinking about my childhood trauma and the negative and toxic situations that l attracted throughout my life because of poor self estime. Every time l catch myself thinking those thoughts l snap out of it, change the tune and get into a happier place. It’s a constant effort to let go of stress and anxiety but l feel l will get there in the end!
P.S. After making this comment, l have started the writing and meditation method. (I’ve been a Vedic meditator since the age of 20) but you have motivated me to continue with more motivation and in a less ‘ disciplined’ fashion. Thankyou Anna for that. I had been looking for an easier method of manifesting than working with the law of attraction because it was getting so hard. I think l may have found it ! 💝
The truth will set me/us free. Thank you. It's clear the daily practice works otherwise you wouldn't be so incredibly clear, focused, honest and actually quite brilliant. You are shining the light on the darkness of trauma and providing real life tools to me and so many. I appreciate your courage and kindness.
Thank you Maggie.
What a mouth full of complete, wonderful, effective helpful, straightforward loving FACTS. They say “it’s more blessed to give than receive” I bet, while you received healing and experienced a wonderful blessing( happiness) from it I’m sure you giving to all us is a more wonderful experience of feeling blessed (happy)!!
I want what you have, I wanna be a sister of yours!! My will, my want is my agency and ima use it, day by day, moment by moment. I choose to be empowered with the help of you Anna and all the wonderful ppl here! Goodly gosh, this feels sooooo good to hear EVERYTHING you have said here ❤
Resonance!!! Thank you for sharing this with me. This is the first time I laid it all out it and yes, it is a joyful thing to heal, work and share with others-- especially when a person really hears it and feels it with me!
I don’t know where to start….when I discovered you and I kept listening you …. I finally felt like I found a way to really “heal”.
When I was visiting a psychiatrist while back(10 years ago), it was a help in a way but I still felt like I was going nowhere, struggling to breath, didn’t feel nor see a hope to really be better. The meds didn’t help, the “talk” was more painful than relief……
So I stopped going, I left and just kept my only option “ exercise”.
Still, exercising is just enough to go by, not enough to really solve or heal, the panic attacks are still happening, all other symptoms are still here….
I was close to just accept “broken me” and just exist till I can’t take it anymore.
Only reason why I’m still here is because I have kids….
But I think I can give it a try here, maybe it’s ok to “hope”….
Thank you so much.
Hey Team Fairy! I would super 🧚🏽♂️ appreciate Anna’s videos. It would be lovely to include a time stamp in the comments of each video. I hope my suggestion is implemented. Keep being fantastic. Your efforts & contributions are tremendously valued!
There's usually a commenter that does leave timestamps for you
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I took a TRE course a while ago and I wonder if you have looked into that? For those who don't know, it's Trauma Release Exercises which a neurological approach with specific exercises. I was excited about it and I saw it working on other people in the course but it didn't make me feel any different. The instructor talked about different levels of emotions and being in a high level meant you are feeling very bad and then the exercises wouldn't work, so I guess that was it for me. Maybe might work in concord with the daily practice.
Ragnaice, good luck to you!
Thanks very much for this. I've been in talk therapy for most of my adult life and while some of it has helped mostly it has just been re-activating my trauma, over and over again, for years and years. I'm 63 now 😢. My therapists haven't been "bad" at what they do, and have almost always been very kind and well meaning and well trained but they've been doing the WRONG things. You really helped me understand more clearly than ever something I have suspected for a very long time. I wish I had been able to have the clarity and discipline you clearly did. I have also been on meds, done ECT (shock therapy), learned about CBT, DBT, ACT, IFS, mindfulness, etc. Some of these have helped but not much, most haven't at all. I probably haven't worked at things as hard as I should have or maybe my genetic make-up made me more susceptible to the trauma, which was never horrific but was relentless. And many other reasons. I'm pretty hopeless about my chances now and at 63 even if I really commit to working at it I have to gigure out what the best approach is for me and hope I can find someone intellectually sophisticated enough to let me out argue them if you know what I mean. Sorry, this is getting too long. I'll look into your free course and see if I can get myself to give it a chance but I don't think you're offering any guarantees and while I'm not actively considering deleting myself I hate my life and don't know how to accept that it is what it is and I can't change the reality that it's gonna take a tremendous amount of blood sweat and tears that I'm mostly out of and I am unlikely to get nearly as far as I so deeply long to and Ivbeen doing a lot of the things you suggest albeit sometimes not as disciplined or directed as might be most effective. Anyways despite all that thank you
Thank you 🤍
She makes it seem so clear; so treatable...changeable, possible. Brings a guy like me a tiny bit of hope, Maybe - just maybe.
Thank you for these videos. I have started the daily practice. I am still destructive and it always goes around alcohol. Not remembering the night or the people i was with. I keep putting myself in a dangerous position. I truly hope to heal and to stop drinking forever.
I'm Highly thankful for your content
Would love to see this too
THANK YOU! 🙏 Such truth and honesty you shared here! May God's grace and glory continue to shine in your experience of life, dear soul!
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I just tried her fears and resentment exercise and it’s the truth!
I've been so stressed trying to keep all the balls in the air, if one dropped I couldn't handle it. I just froze in fear, couldn't think and there was a risk of losing my sense of control, and would become very emotional and cry under pressure. I think I could have PTSD. This sounds helpful. I'll keep listening to your channel. Thanks.
Anna, you are an absolute gift ❤ Thank you so much for everything!
So glad I found this UA-cam channel. I broke up with my therapist 3 months ago.(3rd therapist) I just felt like talking about the trauma every session was paralyzing me for days or several weeks afterwards. My plan was to EMDR but I was told by my therapists that due to my trauma it may be more harmful! I was so confused because talking about the trauma was more harmful! I would ask questions based off books dealing with CPTSD that they recommend I read, when I would ask questions regarding topics that I wanted to heal, I was told I didn’t understand the medical terminology. I think my therapist didn’t know some of the knowledge so instead of saying they didn’t know or needed to do more research I was gaslit. So I just was tired of being gaslit by my therapist.
Jesus Christ can heal childhood trauma. It's about stepping out of the darkness into his light. He gives you beauty for ashes. Psalm 27 from the Bible says, " Even though my mother and father forsake me, the Lord will receive me."
Blessings to everyone today 🙏
Do you know just the titles alone - have helped me... more than any Doctor, Family member, Pastor or Friend 😵
Thank God I found you but why isn't there more of you & if there is, WHERE? I'll pay for a session or get a package... lots to unload & I cant find nobody in London🇬🇧
💐🙏🏾Seriously GOD BLESS YOU🤗😇💝
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Peaceful Greeting. I am an ND and thankyou sooo much for this video and all the work you’ve done. This is such beneficial knowledge
Thank you! This might be cultural/ demographic differences. My psychotherapist number three helped me greatly- the two others quitting incapable of even dealing with my trauma. Love did help, as well as self- awareness and friends. I healed. I listen to you with great interest, you inspire me. Part of my healing is to help children in particular, I see trauma very clearly. Especial thanks for the notion of trauma not being a trait, but a state. It is like having an alien in your body! Keep the spirit!
I just left mid class because i fehlt overwhelmed and got Home and you just calmed me down and gave me the right direction again😊 thank you so much💕
Really one of the best "self help" informationals I've heard or read. Thank you CCF.
It wasn't until I was an adult that I learned I had CPTSD. I just always thought I was wrong and broken because I had been made wrong for everything in my family and society around me: the identified patient. I was born blind and my mom didn't want a blind child. I was punished for not being able to see. I was treated as a liar. And I was sexually abused as well as beaten. I was ostracized in my family and society. By the time I graduated highschool I was an it. There were a few things that were interventions including a psychologist who found me in college and got me from the it-hood to being a person. Still, like what you say, even when I learn of a new abuse that occurred in my life I am looking for the solution. I think it is absolutely necessary when a past event comes to the surface to be able to feel the emotions that were repressed back then. I do think having the trauma "witnessed" by others is also necessary -- to know what was done is wrong but that I am still OK. And I have not found therapists that get this. The ostracism has left me with many developmental holes and I don't know how to heal them. But no therapist I've ever met seems to understand that -- because I am academically "smart." And they don't get that doesn't mean you know how to be around people. Lynne Mctaggert has said that the worst thing people can do to another person is ostracize them -- which me occurred from the age of 2 to 22. I gained physical vision when I was 30, and even that has not helped me understand everything so that I can feel like I can live and thrive.
You have been though a lot, and you have survived which is impressive. Glad you are here now.
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I just love you! I started watching earlier this year during a stay in a partial hospitalization program, an intense outpatient program and weekly trauma therapy. My therapist at the outpatient center had us watch one of your videos, and I’ve been watching them ever since. I was diagnosed this year with major depressive disorder and complex PTSD. I have felt so powerful and in control of my life lately, probably for the first time ever. It is such a relief to have these good positive feelings again. I really didn’t think I was going to make it earlier this year! Let alone be able to get back to work (to a new role- was promoted 3 months before I went on medical leave for 12 weeks), since beginning of April. Me getting help has improved every aspect of my life.
You’re very kind. I’ll make sure Anna reads your note.
-Cara@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy awe yay, thank you! That would mean so much to me for her to see my comment! 🥰🥰🥰 I have started to write a memoir.
These videos are helping me to get through the day, i watch them every day. ❤
I want to introduce a friend of mine to your channel who I think is suffering from symptoms of CPTSD, similar to how you have described in other videos. What would be a soft way to do so with offending them. I haven't yet spoken to them regarding CPTSD. Thank you for the guidance I can use, to avoid worsening the symptoms, subtly.
One of my favorite youtube channels of all time now.
I can't wait for your book! Can you address (somewhere or even in the book) how alexythymia might make it necessary to adjust treatment? It's hard to work out feelings when you're not sure what those feelings are. I don't behave reactively but I do have somatic symptoms and shut down /don't say what needs to be said and had worked hard to convince myself I am ok and everything around me I was fine until I couldn't function anymore (my body's cortisol levels measurably spike and my systolic blood pressure drops below 50 so I get dizzy). To avoid this rollercoaster I isolate and avoid.. Thank you so much! ❤
A healthy low carb/ketogenic way of eating and kundalini yoga have seriously helped me in a powerful way. And having alternate therapy with someone who helped me through the worst part of my healing. Now I’ve become someone I love and cherish. I’m kind to myself and I’ve become good at self regulation. It’s very true though, it’s maintenance. And I still have things to work on. But I’ve learned what it means to love myself, and it’s a powerful thing to gain. I recently became a certified kundalini yoga teacher and now teach a class at a rehabilitation center. I’m so proud of myself. My old self would have told me “ who do you think you are, you can never do that.” The woman I am today would never say such a thing. I’ve come to treat myself the way I would treat my own child if I had one, with kindness, compassion understanding, patience and loving discipline. You’re videos are so important, thank you for everything Anna. You are an angel. 💗
Anna... you've really helped me so much so.....words are one thing ...results are another...I just got an offer from a great band in Laguna hills CA...plus another solo opportunity as well...
I have to move from Florida to do it so logistics will keep the positive energy flowing. Thanks so much for all the work unpaid...🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
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Always mind blowing when you hear your behaviors coming out of the mouth of another person in such a factual way. 😮😮😮
I think I have had cptsd for most of my life as well.
I suffer from complex P TSD. I'm 49 years old 2 grown boys and a 15 year old daughter. My daughter's mom and my son's mom left me because of Severely stressful childhood abuse in multiple different forms all the way up to freshman year. My attempt at taking my power back and getting my way put me in a lot of trouble. And now after finding the love of my life who made me a better person. Father passed away and she is now in crisis. My Symptoms rose to the top. And I could not be her rock because I felt I lost her. Or about more about me not enough about her.. I feel ashamed. Because I am just now Realizing CPT SD is what Is wrong with me....😢😢
You can start healing now! Try this free course out: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
-Cara@TeamFairy
Most mental health professionals don't have a current clue.
Too many fail to maintain active curiosity about peer reviewed research, the lived experience, neurobiology, nutrition, psychosocial impacting factors, and that there is no one-size fits all sovereign cure.
Most don't even know the difference between intergenerational and multi-generation trauma.
Most don't know the difference between "normal" and "typical".
Most don't know about the impact of FASD and the prevalence of PTSI in the neuro-divergent communities
Mental health has a lot of catch up to do.
-Cara@TeamFairy
I need to be a good person and I need to be myself.
Anna you are a star, i have learnt a lot from this channel.
I love your bold & authentic approach! Thank you for not giving up on yourself & now helping thousands, hopefully millions, of peeps like me. ❤ 💘 🙏
Thank you. We hope you do not give up on yourself either. Jack@TeamFairy
This whole video brings so much relief and comfort. Thank you, Anna!
This is my favorite video I've seen of yours. Therapy is not working for me and that is such an isolating experience when everyone else around me seems to just go to appointments for a little while and then drastically reroute to living their best life.
Every week I sit with a Dr who should know how to cheer me up, and I remind myself out loud why I should be scared and keep away from other people.
They're not allowed to give me advice so my rant was for nothing. We do not solve problems i just get upset and then zone out. Then she tells me how to not hurt myself before the next session.
It's like everyone else has basic human instincts on how to live that just missed me altogether.
I never had a purpose and i relate so hard to wishing I could heal by myself and interact with others if I ever get well.
If my fairy godmother turned out to actually exist maybe I have a purpose out there somewhere too
You have a purpose, there is no question. Fears can cloud it though, try Anna's free course for more clarity bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy slight update just to vouch for how incredible this is.
I've only done the practice three times, however I used to be absolutely steeped in meditative practices through a lot of my trauma and unfortunately it had become triggering for me to meditate.
Doing the writing first is an absolute game changer and a blessing. I can easily meditate for the 20 mins and you've given me back one of my dearest treasures.
Thankyou so much for sharing this for free it's incredible.
Is it better to write with ink that you can see? I'm considering taking the nib out of my pen so that I can do this in public if I need to. And also wondering if I need to make my writing legible, as I notice when I do this it's suddenly chicken scratch where normally I put a little effort into making sure my words don't look like unidentifiable hairballs lol
Is it better if you're reading while you write ideally? Or is it no difference whether I'm almost "doodling" my thoughts down
Wow, I can relate to your experience so well! Especially to: "everyone else around me seems to just go to appointments for a little while and then drastically reroute to living their best life".
I have tried a lot of things and I always felt like an idiot for being the one that is struggling all the time, getting nowhere and being the only one who does not progress in life in any directions while only my body is getting old...
@@Terapie_Lesem it's hard to feel so left behind!! Your comment has made me feel less alone so thankyou for taking the time out to say this.
It's interesting to read my own writing back now while in a calmer headspace because I see where I talked about not having survival instincts.
In hindsight I'm now feeling like my survival instincts are actually something I should feel grateful for and they really are quite incredible.
We didn't really have the option to make mistakes and find fulfilling hobbies and go easy on ourselves if things weren't perfect. Maybe our survival is actually quite highly developed and what makes sense that we just have to catch up on the nurturing ourselves and self empathy lessons.
I certainly know people who never learned to budget, repair clothes or cook cheaply and those skills are second nature to me
This channel has been such a blessing for my healing journey
You might want to check out Anna's free daily practice course. You might find it hepful. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Jack@TeamFairy
So glad i found your channel recently. Feel like I've learned from a few videos than childhood therapy sessions.
You have an amazing grasp of the issues many of my students face.
All of these things you are talking about is so very true. Since losing the most stabling person in my life im learning to look at and feel my body for what i need. My intuition on some things is still very true, but the rest im focusing on myself. I tried dating after losing my spouse, the trauma is still there, the injury happened, but by being single i can focus on the things that i need for me. I changed my job, my place of living after losing so many things and people. But my intuition is still working and showing what i can work on. By remaining single by choice, i can power myself back up. Im not part of a unit, but i am a whole person. My choices are my own, and by being single i can practice my boundaries with co workers and friends. It is important and sacred to take care of myself, and making some good choices for me.
Wonderful W.I.S.D.O.M that presents eight simple, yet so P.O.W.E.R.F.U.L principles for CPTSD survivors that want to conquer our our triggers. Following these guidelines can radically change our lives, which I've been trying to implement diligently and it's making a major difference! THANK YOU so much, sincerely. God bless you Wisdom Fairy and all of your team 🙏
Thank you Anna. This video reached me in a deeper way. I wish my life would follow my brain. I'm going to keep trying. And trying. You give me hope.
I'm so happy to hear that, thank you for taking the time to comment. Sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I’ve been stuck for over 55 years, and I’ve done everything I know how to do. My depression, hurt and anger is worse today than ever 😓
I went for years trying to find someone to help me and i was unable to ever find the help i needed and now I know why...reiterating what went on just made it WORSE!!! Writing became my salvation as a teenager and i am going to get right back to it again!!!
Well done for healing so early in your life. That I think is just phenomenal!! Such a blessing in reality!
I love how honest you are about your experiences with talking therapy. It didn't do much for me either. It didn't matter what I talked about, as long as I kept talking. With dissociation being a common symptom among those of us with CPTSD, I can't even claim to have been present for any of it. Thank goodness, no one ever noticed (sardonically kidding, of course). 😕😕😕
You are amazing. Thank God I found you. Will be watching all your videos!!!!!
I had a very traumatic childhood. It was so bad I could talk for hours about the abuse from parents, siblings, cousins, friends. I have complicated ptst . I’ve had trouble falling asleep for over 30 years now. I take Xanax to go to sleep otherwise I don’t sleep. My psychiatrist still doesn’t completely get why I just can’t fall asleep. I’ve been with him for over 10 years and they’re all the same. They know what they know and that how they operate. Never thinking outside of the box that perhaps my trauma has been so bad and persistent that my nervous system is so heightened any alert all the time that it’s impossible for me to relax on my own without medication. So I’m seeing a therapist now out of his office. I’ve told him about some my trauma after now 3 to 4 visits. Not once has he asked me “well how does that make you feel “. He seems to be content enough to just let me talk. I’ve seen many therapist in the past who seem content in letting me vent without any of them offering anyway to help me. I’m beginning to think this system is just a scam. There doesn’t seem like there is really any therapy going on to address why I’m can’t sleep, why I’m triggered or angry or anything to really help me. I would like to talk to and pay someone to really help me. I really fell like the system is rigged.
Regarding severe exercise, when/if we are in the throes of severe depression it is hard to muster up any energy. Let alone get past unalivingnthoughts to get up and dressed. The key is then to be able to recognize when we are going down that hole.
Yes, I relate to the difference between writing about trauma vs talking about it. I feel the emotional charge releasing as I write vs talking about it for the 4th time; I have often felt my spine crawl and my teeth would begin to chatter. Meditation, tapping, dancing, mirror alchemy and writing songs/poetry. I'm looking forward to learning more tools!!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH! I see my self defeating behaviors very clearly now, but I am only a couple of months in.
I have a long road ahead of me to heal, but I am finally on that road.
That's amazing! Sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Currently on the pursuit towards happiness. Cheers Anna
You got this! -Calista@TeamFairy
Wow this is one of the best videos I've seen on this channel, thank you Anna, you're doing incredible work!
Thank you for the support. Jack@TeamFairy
I am in therapy and was told I need medications
I realized last night when I felt like someone turned a light switch on everything got so bright and I felt so good
I really do not like medications
I have tried Ice packs, water, colors, texture items, and so on. These help some but not well.
I sat last night just cold air and silence and finally told myself it is not fair my mom passed so you and cried enough to let the pressure out. I then went to sleep for about 45 minutes came back outside turned my cold air and then my heart stopped pounding so hard and everything got bright.
Lady you told my tale as close to perfectly as I have ever heard and that includes the healing as well. All the principles and actions you took I also took in a quest to heal.
The wellness that I experienced created envy and actions incomprehensible to absolutely everyone that i sought justice from over criminal acts that weredone all over again to me.
I couldn't get anybody to hear my voice or my truth, as I was frozen.
Coming out of my shell now is my only aim and so far nearly impossible to do. So I'm going to try and do what you suggest again.
The most powerful thing you said was trauma is an injury not an identity.
If a UA-cam video is able to inspire my blown apart bits to come back together, well let me just say this the first time I got well enough to venture into the life i was equiped to live, I started rescuing dogs and 672 adoptions later, I found my path of action to quench the hubgrr my souls sickness needed.
From the man that shared a room previously occupied by the creator of Dbt. We shared 5150s at different times and i was inspired by The Way she reached back and created the principles that have gone on to save so many.
I'm sitting in the tenderloin of San Francisco and i see a sea of trauma in the crisis fentynal has brought to my door
I want to thank you in advance for what the possibility knowing this can do for everyone i share it with, thank you.
Ty in advance