Great interview. The bit from 11:42 where Peter talks young people pretending to be normal against the evidence particularly resonates with me. I had a phase where I was resistant to admit to having Asperger's - on one hand, I pushed myself to interact with others and live a life as a 'normal' person whilst at 6th form, uni and beyond, but I was resistant to seeking assistance which may have led me to be more successful at uni etc. For example, I was great at essay and dissertation writing etc., but I struggled with things, such as important dissertation lab work. In hindsight, being much more open about myself may have led to me having a better relationship with lecturers, uni staff, fellow students etc. I'm not looking for pity, I just want to say to anyone in their late teens/early 20s who is reluctant to admit having Asperger's/autism - I understand how you feel, but consider what hiding your condition may have for you, and for other people. I basically blocked it out and tried to ignore it - I would say to my 15 year old self - please don't do that. I like that you started being open about your ASD whilst at uni Tom, it definitely is the attitude us Aspies should have - it at least allows us to accept ourselves.
Honestly I've taken a lot from talking to Peter, he's not the most friendly on the outside, but he's incredibly well educated, smart and kind at heart. I think there's a lot to be said about autistic people refusing help. I guess since we are constantly seen as being immature and our negative early life experiences with people... we can become very stubborn and incredibly independent in nature. Thank you for sharing your experiences with me, I empathise a lot with what you've been saying. In some ways it was very beneficial for me to live abroad as it brought me out of my shell a lot more, so I'm sure I'd continue to isolate myself for entirety of uni life if it wasn't for that. No worries at all my friend, although it wasn't my nature to get out there and talk about the common problems... comments like these really tell me I'm doing the right thing. Much love, Tom :)
Julian James Aspergers denail at that age I know. 15 to 16. You read the book on aspergers there a lot of parts that are me. But I rather just that is more personality description that a syndrome. So the denail is that is just being me. So my view point, Gary had his behaviour while label it with Asperger's syndrome. When I'm happy for me still me known as me. The character Mark in A word series 3. Talking in the car, do you think I'm autistic? You come across more autistic than most. The actor was diagnosed with aspergers who played Mark. So going against your own autism I heard it called on you tube. Or autism denail from yourself.
Hi, 10:45 into the video, genetic condition from parents, get from your parents, pass on to your kids, no debate about this, may I ask where this information comes from please? Myself being Autistic, none of my parents are Autistic, I know several other people this being the case for as well. So not sure how accurate this is. Me simply wanting people to have accurate information, which of course am sure is only understandable. None of my grandparents were Autistic either. The aspect of ball games and the time put in. With myself, I had something similar with driving, at my 20th attempt I stopped. So I kept going and it made no difference. So not always being the case. With my views, lies wise, no, but I found so often, I wasn't listened to or taken seriously. The final 5 minutes of Peter's finishing words, wonderful, so lovely. The only concerns were the what looks like glass of wine and the buy us a pint at the end.
Passing it on to your parent my dad has trait of aspergers. But he doesn't have aspergers. Because he has no anxiety and need for routine. I have a great aunt who has autism. So probably autism gene jumped a generation. So he wrong, Attwood say that aspergers can be passed on from father to father. But the gene can skip a generation great relative to grand relative. Majority of cases passed on from generation. But there are cases like mine the autism gene jump a generation.
'There is nothing to be proud of, and there is nothing to be ashamed of either.' Love it!
90 views aint enough for this mans invaluable wisdom.
Great interview. The bit from 11:42 where Peter talks young people pretending to be normal against the evidence particularly resonates with me. I had a phase where I was resistant to admit to having Asperger's - on one hand, I pushed myself to interact with others and live a life as a 'normal' person whilst at 6th form, uni and beyond, but I was resistant to seeking assistance which may have led me to be more successful at uni etc. For example, I was great at essay and dissertation writing etc., but I struggled with things, such as important dissertation lab work.
In hindsight, being much more open about myself may have led to me having a better relationship with lecturers, uni staff, fellow students etc. I'm not looking for pity, I just want to say to anyone in their late teens/early 20s who is reluctant to admit having Asperger's/autism - I understand how you feel, but consider what hiding your condition may have for you, and for other people. I basically blocked it out and tried to ignore it - I would say to my 15 year old self - please don't do that. I like that you started being open about your ASD whilst at uni Tom, it definitely is the attitude us Aspies should have - it at least allows us to accept ourselves.
Honestly I've taken a lot from talking to Peter, he's not the most friendly on the outside, but he's incredibly well educated, smart and kind at heart.
I think there's a lot to be said about autistic people refusing help. I guess since we are constantly seen as being immature and our negative early life experiences with people... we can become very stubborn and incredibly independent in nature.
Thank you for sharing your experiences with me, I empathise a lot with what you've been saying. In some ways it was very beneficial for me to live abroad as it brought me out of my shell a lot more, so I'm sure I'd continue to isolate myself for entirety of uni life if it wasn't for that.
No worries at all my friend, although it wasn't my nature to get out there and talk about the common problems... comments like these really tell me I'm doing the right thing.
Much love,
Tom :)
Julian James Aspergers denail at that age I know.
15 to 16.
You read the book on aspergers there a lot of parts that are me.
But I rather just that is more personality description that a syndrome.
So the denail is that is just being me.
So my view point, Gary had his behaviour while label it with Asperger's syndrome.
When I'm happy for me still me known as me.
The character Mark in A word series 3.
Talking in the car, do you think I'm autistic?
You come across more autistic than most.
The actor was diagnosed with aspergers who played Mark.
So going against your own autism I heard it called on you tube.
Or autism denail from yourself.
Hi,
10:45 into the video, genetic condition from parents, get from your parents, pass on to your kids, no debate about this, may I ask where this information comes from please?
Myself being Autistic, none of my parents are Autistic, I know several other people this being the case for as well. So not sure how accurate this is. Me simply wanting people to have accurate information, which of course am sure is only understandable. None of my grandparents were Autistic either.
The aspect of ball games and the time put in. With myself, I had something similar with driving, at my 20th attempt I stopped. So I kept going and it made no difference. So not always being the case.
With my views, lies wise, no, but I found so often, I wasn't listened to or taken seriously.
The final 5 minutes of Peter's finishing words, wonderful, so lovely.
The only concerns were the what looks like glass of wine and the buy us a pint at the end.
Passing it on to your parent my dad has trait of aspergers.
But he doesn't have aspergers.
Because he has no anxiety and need for routine.
I have a great aunt who has autism.
So probably autism gene jumped a generation.
So he wrong, Attwood say that aspergers can be passed on from father to father.
But the gene can skip a generation great relative to grand relative.
Majority of cases passed on from generation.
But there are cases like mine the autism gene jump a generation.