I'm glad to share some hope but I'm so sorry you're feeling down and overwhelmed. If you're like me, where it's easy to think you have to do 1,034 things in order to get "caught up," I just encourage you to focus on one small thing at a time. My perfectionism has always led to me being stuck and unable to make progress, but just doing something small and refusing to worry about the rest enables progress to be made:) Hugs!
@SarahMcGloryHome I decided to only make lists of 3 or 5 things that need to be done. Sadly, today, the list has closer to 12 things. Half or more done will count as success❣️❣️ On some other days, I plan on count success when 1 thing gets done. I need the wins for my mental health because I just can't control my physical health issues.
Thank you, this is so helpful! I have been using the "bit by bit" approach for a couple years now, and it definitely is working, but I still get overwhelmed sometimes and that's when the negative self-talk starts up. Your video is such a grounding reminder that, yes, it takes longer than we want, but slow progress is still progress.
You're so right! I've come really far with more positive self-talk, but when I'm tired, dysregulated, etc., the negative voice comes through. Love that we can encourage each other!
I love what you are doing to make cleaning and even obeying more convenient for your children. Many moms either hold their kids to a standard that’s simply too high or just give up and begrudgingly do everything themselves. Also, I’m always surprised when I revisit a “later” pile how much more clarity I have about what to do what those items. Sometimes it seems obvious just a few weeks later.
Thank you for saying that! I make many mistakes, but I'm really trying to give them tools mixed with patience. :) Same! Making a "later" pile settles down the emotional (& rebellious) part of me that DOES NOT want to make the decision. Once that settles down, I am better at making logical decisions.
Thank you. I needed this today. I am in the middle of the worst disorganized mess that I've had in a long time, feeling so overwhelmed. One chunk at a time, I'll get out of this.
I'm so glad I finally learned that the all or nothing thinking is what was holding me back! My kids are 17 and almost 15 and I try not to beat myself up over how chaotic their childhood has been. Thank you for helping to normalize outside the box thinking ❤
@@dinabertrand9113 I feel the same way! I have a 25-yr old, and I taught her as I was learning, much of it after she moved out. It’s never too late to impart tools that will help :)
Great solution for the hair care supplies! It's always more effective to organize for the way you live than for the way you THINK you should live. I find that it helps me to have a designated box or bag to toss items for donation throughout the year as I run across them. When it's full, I take it to the donation center. It doesn't have to mean blocking off hours on my calendar, and the items still leave my house, which is the goal.
Ok, found you through the Minimal Mom podcast, didn’t even finish watching it and headed over to your channel. This was my first video….I’m thinking, where have you been this whole time?? I get sicker and sicker and my caretaking for many is outside of my house so the drain is real. Thanks for REAL solutions that resonate! I’ve always struggled (ADD dx @ 25 y.o.), but perimenopause and 4.5 years of shingles on top of lupus that all came together in March of 2020 really changed things. 5 surgeries and subsequent recovery caretaking among 3 women we care for in our family within 8 months this year almost took me out. I’m starting to see some hope in my health, so this is right on time instead of the shame spiral I’ve been on. 🎉 🙌 ❤
I'm so glad you're here! Wow, you've had a lot on your plate. I'm so glad that you're seeing hope for your health! I'm post-menopause, and wow, it changes everything! I hope you're able to kick shame out. I lived with it for so long and it makes life so dreary.
Thank you so much Sarah, you have given me "permission" to put things in areas where they are not typically kept, to make my life easier and tidier. Kim. xxx🥰
I'm so glad! I felt so much pressure lifted off when I stopped thinking I had to keep my home aesthetic or keep items where I see other people keeping them.
I think this is the absolutely most meaningful video from you for me! Even if you have so many really good videos this is the best one so far! Thank you!
Decision fatigue! I am so happy to have stumbled onto this video, and just want to thank you. My situation is bad. Through grief and loss (along with ADD), I’ve allowed my home to become about a level three hoard. But what you said that really resonated with me is regarding clothes. I have an endless access to free designer clothes. I’m a part of an organization that actually has a boutique, which is insane. So I have all of these gorgeous clothes, jewelry, bags, and even cosmetics (a separate connection), many of which have never been worn or used. Because I have very little income, I need to sell them, but I’m so disorganized. I have no storage and the clothing racks I have are horrible. I am looking at a kitchen that is cluttered from floor to ceiling, and I can’t seem to make a dent. And I know, when I go upstairs to my bedroom, it’s twice as bad. I sleep in a bed with 100 things on top of it, and my dresser is unspeakable. Some woman wanted to charge me $1000 just to organize my bedroom. That kind of puts it into perspective.
Sometimes, there's a perfect storm where chaos just seems to take over! I've experienced it multiple times. I'm so sorry you've been going through such a difficult time. I know you can reclaim your spaces, and I hope you're able to take your time and be compassionate with yourself. Hugs to you!
I love this. I’m a neurodivergent parent of young most likely also neurodivergent children and our house is chaos!!! Perfectionism and all-or-nothing thinking have been huge issues for me along with the unhelpful belief that my housekeeping skills deficiency is a moral failing. I struggle with greatly varying energy levels and frequent mental/emotional burnout, so an inflexible routine cleaning schedule is not something I can stick with- I can’t just make a schedule and do it. I love the convenience piles idea. We may start with convenience trashcans, cause we seem unable to even take things to the trashcan 🤣. Thank you thank you! I really needed the reminder that housekeeping is just logistics.
I just did a video about how I keep a bowl on my kitchen island to put little bits of trash, even though the trashcan is like 5 feet away. Whatever little shortcuts help you are what you should employ! It's not laziness to see patterns and find solutions for them, it's efficiency! And I hear you on the inflexible cleaning routine. I failed so many "systems" because I just couldn't keep the same level of productivity happening!
One of my problems with my Category 3- stuff that doesn't have a home is that it has often outgrown its usual home or its usual home is so messy I don't want to bring it back into the normal space until it is more cleaned up. I use these things all the time and tend to move around with them to various places but they end up on every usable flat surface 😞. By the end of the week or whenever I'm panic-cleaning, they get thrown into a basket or box that gets taken to be hidden somewhere else and that's how things get lost and I become agitated when I don't know where my things got stashed
I recently heard someone talk about having a "house purse". The idea was that you use a bag or purse to keep stuff that you like to move around with so none of it gets lost. I do that with my camera, planner, computer and stuff, because I work from home but often have to move around when I'm working. I've added chap stick, my morning meds, hair ties, etc. I don't know if that applies to you, but hoping it might help a bit!
I had lost about 25 pounds over the last year, and it’s all I really needed to lose. Because I am so overwhelmed, depressed, and can barely find a clear spot to do Pilates (or anything else), I’ve gained it all back the last few months.
I have an accordion file for each of my kids where they can keep school papers or art that feels very special to them, and we look through it together when it can't hold anymore. Some stuff they'll let go of, some we take pictures of, and the rest they keep. I also have a file for each kid where I keep special things they've made. I have all the unfinished projects going on over here, too! I have a big bin of the random projects and artwork, and when the kids can't decide what to do (and I have the bandwidth for pulling out the messy stuff), they can get in the bin and pick up on projects where they left off. We often find old slime, clay, oobleck, and if it's crusty, that's our cue to toss.
Thank you ❣️
Right now, I am overwhelmed and down. Your videos give me so much hope 💕 Thank you again for being vulnerable and in that helping me.
I'm glad to share some hope but I'm so sorry you're feeling down and overwhelmed. If you're like me, where it's easy to think you have to do 1,034 things in order to get "caught up," I just encourage you to focus on one small thing at a time. My perfectionism has always led to me being stuck and unable to make progress, but just doing something small and refusing to worry about the rest enables progress to be made:) Hugs!
@SarahMcGloryHome I decided to only make lists of 3 or 5 things that need to be done. Sadly, today, the list has closer to 12 things. Half or more done will count as success❣️❣️ On some other days, I plan on count success when 1 thing gets done. I need the wins for my mental health because I just can't control my physical health issues.
Thank you, this is so helpful! I have been using the "bit by bit" approach for a couple years now, and it definitely is working, but I still get overwhelmed sometimes and that's when the negative self-talk starts up. Your video is such a grounding reminder that, yes, it takes longer than we want, but slow progress is still progress.
You're so right! I've come really far with more positive self-talk, but when I'm tired, dysregulated, etc., the negative voice comes through. Love that we can encourage each other!
I love what you are doing to make cleaning and even obeying more convenient for your children. Many moms either hold their kids to a standard that’s simply too high or just give up and begrudgingly do everything themselves.
Also, I’m always surprised when I revisit a “later” pile how much more clarity I have about what to do what those items. Sometimes it seems obvious just a few weeks later.
Thank you for saying that! I make many mistakes, but I'm really trying to give them tools mixed with patience. :)
Same! Making a "later" pile settles down the emotional (& rebellious) part of me that DOES NOT want to make the decision. Once that settles down, I am better at making logical decisions.
Thank you. I needed this today. I am in the middle of the worst disorganized mess that I've had in a long time, feeling so overwhelmed.
One chunk at a time, I'll get out of this.
I've felt too overwhelmed to start so many times. I hope this offers some hope and a plan for bite-sized chunks! You WILL make progress!
I'm so glad I finally learned that the all or nothing thinking is what was holding me back! My kids are 17 and almost 15 and I try not to beat myself up over how chaotic their childhood has been. Thank you for helping to normalize outside the box thinking ❤
@@dinabertrand9113 I feel the same way! I have a 25-yr old, and I taught her as I was learning, much of it after she moved out. It’s never too late to impart tools that will help :)
Great solution for the hair care supplies! It's always more effective to organize for the way you live than for the way you THINK you should live.
I find that it helps me to have a designated box or bag to toss items for donation throughout the year as I run across them. When it's full, I take it to the donation center. It doesn't have to mean blocking off hours on my calendar, and the items still leave my house, which is the goal.
@@RadCenter so true! I think I’ll get to that point soon, but I do always have a bag ready for donations!
Ok, found you through the Minimal Mom podcast, didn’t even finish watching it and headed over to your channel. This was my first video….I’m thinking, where have you been this whole time?? I get sicker and sicker and my caretaking for many is outside of my house so the drain is real. Thanks for REAL solutions that resonate! I’ve always struggled (ADD dx @ 25 y.o.), but perimenopause and 4.5 years of shingles on top of lupus that all came together in March of 2020 really changed things. 5 surgeries and subsequent recovery caretaking among 3 women we care for in our family within 8 months this year almost took me out. I’m starting to see some hope in my health, so this is right on time instead of the shame spiral I’ve been on. 🎉 🙌 ❤
I'm so glad you're here! Wow, you've had a lot on your plate. I'm so glad that you're seeing hope for your health! I'm post-menopause, and wow, it changes everything! I hope you're able to kick shame out. I lived with it for so long and it makes life so dreary.
Thank you so much Sarah, you have given me "permission" to put things in areas where they are not typically kept, to make my life easier and tidier. Kim. xxx🥰
I'm so glad! I felt so much pressure lifted off when I stopped thinking I had to keep my home aesthetic or keep items where I see other people keeping them.
I think this is the absolutely most meaningful video from you for me! Even if you have so many really good videos this is the best one so far! Thank you!
@@catharinamansnerus4341 I’m so glad to hear that!
Decision fatigue! I am so happy to have stumbled onto this video, and just want to thank you. My situation is bad. Through grief and loss (along with ADD), I’ve allowed my home to become about a level three hoard. But what you said that really resonated with me is regarding clothes. I have an endless access to free designer clothes. I’m a part of an organization that actually has a boutique, which is insane. So I have all of these gorgeous clothes, jewelry, bags, and even cosmetics (a separate connection), many of which have never been worn or used. Because I have very little income, I need to sell them, but I’m so disorganized. I have no storage and the clothing racks I have are horrible. I am looking at a kitchen that is cluttered from floor to ceiling, and I can’t seem to make a dent. And I know, when I go upstairs to my bedroom, it’s twice as bad. I sleep in a bed with 100 things on top of it, and my dresser is unspeakable. Some woman wanted to charge me $1000 just to organize my bedroom. That kind of puts it into perspective.
Sometimes, there's a perfect storm where chaos just seems to take over! I've experienced it multiple times. I'm so sorry you've been going through such a difficult time. I know you can reclaim your spaces, and I hope you're able to take your time and be compassionate with yourself. Hugs to you!
I love this. I’m a neurodivergent parent of young most likely also neurodivergent children and our house is chaos!!! Perfectionism and all-or-nothing thinking have been huge issues for me along with the unhelpful belief that my housekeeping skills deficiency is a moral failing. I struggle with greatly varying energy levels and frequent mental/emotional burnout, so an inflexible routine cleaning schedule is not something I can stick with- I can’t just make a schedule and do it. I love the convenience piles idea. We may start with convenience trashcans, cause we seem unable to even take things to the trashcan 🤣. Thank you thank you! I really needed the reminder that housekeeping is just logistics.
I just did a video about how I keep a bowl on my kitchen island to put little bits of trash, even though the trashcan is like 5 feet away. Whatever little shortcuts help you are what you should employ! It's not laziness to see patterns and find solutions for them, it's efficiency! And I hear you on the inflexible cleaning routine. I failed so many "systems" because I just couldn't keep the same level of productivity happening!
I truly appreciate the relateability of your content ❤
Thank you so much for saying that!
One of my problems with my Category 3- stuff that doesn't have a home is that it has often outgrown its usual home or its usual home is so messy I don't want to bring it back into the normal space until it is more cleaned up. I use these things all the time and tend to move around with them to various places but they end up on every usable flat surface 😞. By the end of the week or whenever I'm panic-cleaning, they get thrown into a basket or box that gets taken to be hidden somewhere else and that's how things get lost and I become agitated when I don't know where my things got stashed
I recently heard someone talk about having a "house purse". The idea was that you use a bag or purse to keep stuff that you like to move around with so none of it gets lost. I do that with my camera, planner, computer and stuff, because I work from home but often have to move around when I'm working. I've added chap stick, my morning meds, hair ties, etc. I don't know if that applies to you, but hoping it might help a bit!
Thanks Sarah 👏 great video 🌸
I appreciate that!
Just thank you!
Of course, my friend! 😘
I had lost about 25 pounds over the last year, and it’s all I really needed to lose. Because I am so overwhelmed, depressed, and can barely find a clear spot to do Pilates (or anything else), I’ve gained it all back the last few months.
I hope you're able to gather enough items that can be donated that you're able to get a spot for yourself to exercise. You deserve it, my friend!
What do we do with all the school papers and crafts and awesome unfinished art projects, and multiple jars of home made slime etc etc etc?
I have an accordion file for each of my kids where they can keep school papers or art that feels very special to them, and we look through it together when it can't hold anymore. Some stuff they'll let go of, some we take pictures of, and the rest they keep. I also have a file for each kid where I keep special things they've made.
I have all the unfinished projects going on over here, too! I have a big bin of the random projects and artwork, and when the kids can't decide what to do (and I have the bandwidth for pulling out the messy stuff), they can get in the bin and pick up on projects where they left off. We often find old slime, clay, oobleck, and if it's crusty, that's our cue to toss.
You have completely won me over with "crotchal area" because I secretly thought I was the only person who used that phrase.
@@chloroformity that’s amazing! 😂 I thought I was the only one too!