Thank you so much, My husband of 30 yrs died 3/6/22. My heart is breaking as I try to pick up the pieces of my life. We had no children so I have very little support in my journey. Thank so much as this video has truly helped. I plan on reviewing the rest of your channel. PS. Love your accent. Iam in the USA in Indiana.
Hello Angela, thank you so much for your message and i'm so glad you found this video helpful, though I am so sorry you need it. I have a free Facebook Support group that you can come and join us in of you'd like, everyone is lovely. It's called Widowed and Rising, i'll send a link. 💛
I am sorry to hear about your husband. My husband of 30 years died in March 2019. We had no children . I , like you , have had little support. I am alone most of the time. Channels like this help me. It gives me company. It's unbelievable how my life has changed.
Karen thank you so much for this video. My husband died by suicide 3 months ago after being in so much pain from neurological issues that never could be diagnosed. Your videos have been such a comfort to me…honestly better than the therapist I’ve been seeing. I often wonder when should I stop wearing my ring, when should I get rid of his things? Your video has helped me realize that it’s whenever or if ever I feel like doing it, and not putting this pressure on myself. Or feeling guilty. Thank you so much ❤
Excellent session, I love that you said my husbands love is with me all the time. I kept personal things, but the clothes meant little to me as they did to him. I donated them to a community charity that shares with many parts of our community and if his jacket can keep someone else warm, that makes me feel like he is sharing his clothes. I enjoy all your messages. Thank you
For me, memories are attached to his clothes, shoes, and toothbrush, and for now, I am unable to let things go for fear that I will forget those memories. My husband died of COVID-19, right in front of me, in the middle of the night. No warning, nothing, just here and then gone. He died on August 9, 2022, and now I live in a bubble. I searched husband died, now what, and thankfully your channel presented itself to me. I appreciate what you are creating here. For 30 days, I've felt lost, ill, tired, and shattered. Thank you.
Thanks for this channel Karen. I live in Colorado Springs and my husband passed the day before Thanksgiving. I’ve just been so heartbroken and lost. Nothing is right and no one gets it. I know I will carry on, but I know I’ll never be the same. Listening to you and the conversation helps. Glad you’re doing this.
It's only been 10 weeks for me and I'm not ready his toothbrush and little bits I have put in a box I had made , it's all just so confusing ,sad, and my heart aches , your videos give me comfort and you speak much sense thankyou Karen
Such early days, be gentle with yourself and i'm so glad the videos are helping. Sending love and strength. Karen xx PS I have a free facebook support group, Widowed and Rising, if you wanted to come and join us. xxx
I discovered your channel a couple of months ago and I am very thankful I did. It's been 3+ yrs since my husband passed and frankly this last month has been really hard. I know I have done a lot of processing over time and don't feel stuck in grief but have had some tough spots here and there and acknowledge it's all part of healing. You're right they are still with us in our heart, and mind. Our lives are better because they were and are still a part of it. I still have his dresser drawer of his undies and socks. I can't seem to move them out and I know that's ok. Hearing that you struggled with the undergarments made me chuckle a little bit for I have felt similarly. Thank you for sharing your journey with us! I wrote the below about 6 months out post loss as a encouraging note to myself for myself. Maybe it will help others? One Season of Many Loss is but one season of many in life. Singularly or in multiples it has no preference or predictability of timing, place or person and spares its wrath on no one. Eclipsed by the shadow, living does not end in the veil. It stands still for a time in the void until a nudge comes from within bringing strength, perspective and courage to move forward. Breathe in and something unexplainable and unexpected occurs, an awakening as living pours back into life. Unfamiliar in many ways there is beauty within it waiting to be explored. Each moment forged tempers the core and in resilience makes a stronger, better and wiser person than before. Loss is but one season of many in life. None can escape it yet all can learn from it.
My husband of 33 years died last month after an illness. There are days I do alright and then like today it hits me. It helps to know there are others going through the same situation.
Ah Nancy i'm so sorry, it's so very hard. If you'd like to be in a community of people who get it please do come and join my free facebook support group, Widowed and Rising. 💛
Wow! This was so, so helpful, especially the part that my husband will always be with me and parting with his items does not mean I am throwing him away. I am not ready to part with his items yet, but this is encouraging and gives me more strength to move forward.
Karen, this has come at just the right time for me. Six months in and I had a gut feeling that the time was right to be moving my person’s possessions out. Some bits were harder than other things and there are still things I haven’t got rid of, but I am taking a break from it as that feels right. Thank you so much - these podcasts are really helping me so much.
Thank you for that... I'm not ready, but I think about it. It's only 5 months for me. I think I'll know when it will be the right time. I plan to start with things that carry no sentimental value at all. But I drag my feet about even that. It's not easy, is it.
My husband passed just after this Christmas. We were living in Mexico. I had to return home 3 weeks later. So I didn't have an opportunity to procrastinate and donated Nigel's clothes before I left. It was so difficult, but at the same time, it felt right. Thank you so much for your vlogs.
I have a container I keep all of my husbands special personal items in such as his belt, wallet, coffee cup,etc. I also keep items there I wanted to keep. I still wear my rings and my husbands resized band. His clothing I gave items to his sons they wanted to keep. The remainder of his clothing I gave to a gentleman I knew needed them. I kept a few items of his clothing for myself. It was so hard doing all this.
Paul died March 18, 2022. I still can’t throw his toothbrush out. I wear his wedding ring. I keep his glasses, his driver’s license, etc. in a tray on my desk. Love seeing it.
I had to laugh when you talked about tossing out the socks and underwear of your husband. I had a difficult time doing this as well. It makes you feel like you are throwing away the person. I was able to place them in a bag but then only managed to place the bag in the garage. I couldn't take them all the way to the trash can. They remained in the garage for a few days before I could finally put them in the trash. Something so minimal to labor over but that worked for me.
I deeply regret getting rid of so many of his clothes but most of all, I regret disconnecting his phone. I still wear my wedding ring but I also wear his. Oh the underwear! Ok. Full confession here. I have the underwear. A bag full stuffed under a bed. I'm not sure why.... 😕
Thank you so much, My husband of 30 yrs died 3/6/22. My heart is breaking as I try to pick up the pieces of my life. We had no children so I have very little support in my journey. Thank so much as this video has truly helped. I plan on reviewing the rest of your channel. PS. Love your accent. Iam in the USA in Indiana.
Hello Angela, thank you so much for your message and i'm so glad you found this video helpful, though I am so sorry you need it. I have a free Facebook Support group that you can come and join us in of you'd like, everyone is lovely. It's called Widowed and Rising, i'll send a link. 💛
facebook.com/groups/widowsrising1/
I am sorry to hear about your husband. My husband of 30 years died in March 2019. We had no children . I , like you , have had little support. I am alone most of the time. Channels like this help me. It gives me company. It's unbelievable how my life has changed.
Karen thank you so much for this video. My husband died by suicide 3 months ago after being in so much pain from neurological issues that never could be diagnosed. Your videos have been such a comfort to me…honestly better than the therapist I’ve been seeing. I often wonder when should I stop wearing my ring, when should I get rid of his things? Your video has helped me realize that it’s whenever or if ever I feel like doing it, and not putting this pressure on myself. Or feeling guilty. Thank you so much ❤
Excellent session, I love that you said my husbands love is with me all the time. I kept personal things, but the clothes meant little to me as they did to him. I donated them to a community charity that shares with many parts of our community and if his jacket can keep someone else warm, that makes me feel like he is sharing his clothes. I enjoy all your messages. Thank you
Ah thank you for listening, sending love 💛
For me, memories are attached to his clothes, shoes, and toothbrush, and for now, I am unable to let things go for fear that I will forget those memories. My husband died of COVID-19, right in front of me, in the middle of the night. No warning, nothing, just here and then gone. He died on August 9, 2022, and now I live in a bubble. I searched husband died, now what, and thankfully your channel presented itself to me. I appreciate what you are creating here. For 30 days, I've felt lost, ill, tired, and shattered. Thank you.
Thanks for this channel Karen. I live in Colorado Springs and my husband passed the day before Thanksgiving. I’ve just been so heartbroken and lost. Nothing is right and no one gets it. I know I will carry on, but I know I’ll never be the same. Listening to you and the conversation helps. Glad you’re doing this.
I'm so sorry for your loss Sherri, I have a free facebook support group Widows Rising if you'd like to come and join us. 💛
It's only been 10 weeks for me and I'm not ready his toothbrush and little bits I have put in a box I had made , it's all just so confusing ,sad, and my heart aches , your videos give me comfort and you speak much sense thankyou Karen
Such early days, be gentle with yourself and i'm so glad the videos are helping. Sending love and strength. Karen xx PS I have a free facebook support group, Widowed and Rising, if you wanted to come and join us. xxx
I discovered your channel a couple of months ago and I am very thankful I did. It's been 3+ yrs since my husband passed and frankly this last month has been really hard. I know I have done a lot of processing over time and don't feel stuck in grief but have had some tough spots here and there and acknowledge it's all part of healing. You're right they are still with us in our heart, and mind. Our lives are better because they were and are still a part of it.
I still have his dresser drawer of his undies and socks. I can't seem to move them out and I know that's ok. Hearing that you struggled with the undergarments made me chuckle a little bit for I have felt similarly.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us!
I wrote the below about 6 months out post loss as a encouraging note to myself for myself.
Maybe it will help others?
One Season of Many
Loss is but one season of many in life.
Singularly or in multiples it has no preference or predictability of timing, place or person and spares its wrath on no one.
Eclipsed by the shadow, living does not end in the veil.
It stands still for a time in the void until a nudge comes from within bringing strength, perspective and courage to move forward.
Breathe in and something unexplainable and unexpected occurs, an awakening as living pours back into life.
Unfamiliar in many ways there is beauty within it waiting to be explored.
Each moment forged tempers the core and in resilience makes a stronger, better and wiser person than before.
Loss is but one season of many in life. None can escape it yet all can learn from it.
Ah thank you so much for sharing this, that is so beautiful and so true. You have a talent. sending love 💛
My husband of 33 years died last month after an illness. There are days I do alright and then like today it hits me. It helps to know there are others going through the same situation.
Ah Nancy i'm so sorry, it's so very hard. If you'd like to be in a community of people who get it please do come and join my free facebook support group, Widowed and Rising. 💛
@@karensuttonwidowcoach I have stopped being on Facebook many years ago. Thanks for the offer
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Wow! This was so, so helpful, especially the part that my husband will always be with me and parting with his items does not mean I am throwing him away. I am not ready to part with his items yet, but this is encouraging and gives me more strength to move forward.
I am so pleased you found this helpful, sending you much love. Karen xx
Karen, this has come at just the right time for me. Six months in and I had a gut feeling that the time was right to be moving my person’s possessions out. Some bits were harder than other things and there are still things I haven’t got rid of, but I am taking a break from it as that feels right. Thank you so much - these podcasts are really helping me so much.
I am so glad they are helping, and so glad to hear you are only doing what feels right when it feels right. Huge love 💛
Thank you ver y much Karen, you are helping me so much!
Thank you for that... I'm not ready, but I think about it. It's only 5 months for me. I think I'll know when it will be the right time. I plan to start with things that carry no sentimental value at all. But I drag my feet about even that. It's not easy, is it.
It's not easy, but you will know when the time is right. Huge love. 💛
My husband passed just after this Christmas. We were living in Mexico. I had to return home 3 weeks later. So I didn't have an opportunity to procrastinate and donated Nigel's clothes before I left. It was so difficult, but at the same time, it felt right. Thank you so much for your vlogs.
Ah Vivian, that must have been so hard. You show such courage, sending huge love. 💛
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At this time in my grief I can't even think of getting rid of my husband's stuff.The pain is unbearable.
There's no rush, you will know when the time is right, until then just do what you need to do. Sending huge love. xx
I have a container I keep all of my husbands special personal items in such as his belt, wallet, coffee cup,etc. I also keep items there I wanted to keep. I still wear my rings and my husbands resized band. His clothing I gave items to his sons they wanted to keep. The remainder of his clothing I gave to a gentleman I knew needed them. I kept a few items of his clothing for myself. It was so hard doing all this.
Paul died March 18, 2022. I still can’t throw his toothbrush out. I wear his wedding ring. I keep his glasses, his driver’s license, etc. in a tray on my desk. Love seeing it.
I had to laugh when you talked about tossing out the socks and underwear of your husband. I had a difficult time doing this as well. It makes you feel like you are throwing away the person. I was able to place them in a bag but then only managed to place the bag in the garage. I couldn't take them all the way to the trash can. They remained in the garage for a few days before I could finally put them in the trash. Something so minimal to labor over but that worked for me.
It's funny isn't it, the things that suddenly become so significant that we didn't care much for before. xx
I deeply regret getting rid of so many of his clothes but most of all, I regret disconnecting his phone. I still wear my wedding ring but I also wear his.
Oh the underwear! Ok. Full confession here. I have the underwear. A bag full stuffed under a bed. I'm not sure why.... 😕