I am an Aunty too, and deeply and wholeheartedly I appreciate your honesty, because through this, I got to understand the side of my daughters and their perspective. Keep up the good work because you are getting through to those who want to understand.
I have a suggestion you can do a new series, in which you give reply to people’s emails, they will be more longer, juicier and fun! Btw Love your podcast!❤
Omg the people pleasing.. a family of 7 came uninvited at my house at 11pm on a school day. we were all wraped up for the day. I didn't have any snacks at home so I have to serve them just juice.. for last 3days I am like ashamed at myself for not serving them properly and I am so disturbed that omg wo Pakistan mein sab ko batayein gy kya batein karein gy.. our generation wants to take a stand for our mental health and boundaries, but the stand is not standing 😂
@Muffin tops the show was Seinfeld and Elaine said it won’t be the same if we just bake the tops. The show was on the struggle of getting rid of the stem
Who told you aunties don’t like you , I love you both and look forward for new episode, feel like my daughters are discussing about desi community btw this is what they do 😂
I'm all for helping your spouse with work around the house and working a job. That includes cooking, laundry, kids, etc. With feminine and masculine energy, I'd say I'm in the middle and I can tap into either side. But as soon as someone has those expectations and those conservative values and expects me to act a certain way, then I'll move on to another woman. I'd never date a conservative woman.
47:10 i hate having to get all the 89 different things "hindi food" has to have to be made. hate it. we need to remove these unecessary things from our lives. onoin and garlic is also referred as inferior food in Quran. we need to reposition ourselves away from "indian food" - its the food of conquered ones.
This is something that I had to learn because I didn’t grow up Muslim, but because life is a test, even if we are to choose our own partner, they are not going to be perfect, and there are times where they do take advantage of us, yes; however, Working for the sake of having leverage over a man isn’t the right motivation because as women we are not supposed to be competing with men, but rather working together with our husbands and submitting when it’s appropriate, as it does not go against religion. Will man be abusive and take advantage? Unfortunately, that is the case for people at times but Then it becomes a different issue and you should not be fighting fire with fire and negotiating with somebody who is being abusive because the rules do not apply with people like that and at that point there needs to be a different sort of intervention whatever that may be Allahu allum… I am not saying, that woman should not work, the first wife of the profit, peace be upon him, had her own business so it’s not about woman not working… She even had children, I and I’m not sure if she was managing both of those endeavors at the same time but what I do know is that she did not use her money as a form of leverage and I just don’t think that it’s wise for anyone to do that, especially with men who are known to take advantage. The best thing to do with people who take advantage is to not play their game at all, to put down the rope and stop playing the tug-of-war, especially with a man. Please forgive me, I am not trying to come off rash, I just want to remind ourselves of an aspect of marriage from a woman’s perspective and femininity overall. To say that one will get a job for the sake of not being taken advantage of is not a feminine trait, it is a competitive and masculine sort of spirit or mentality rather. We are going to have women from all life with different personalities, so I understand that this device may not completely work in vacuum, but if a woman is in a traditional marriage, it is often better for her to have this mentality when it comes to marriage and finances so she doesn’t end up wearing herself thin, taking on the man’s responsibility so he doesn’t take advantage of her… It’s just not a good marriage and if a woman is caught in a situation like that, like I said, she needs to get some help or he needs to get some help… Things need to change, but I just don’t think that that is the best solution because it will keep her in that situation now, depending on herself to bring in money rather than how to communicate more effectively with her husband or perhaps her husband learn to communicate more effectively with her and negotiate better. But at the end of the day, sometimes we just don’t get what we want and sometimes our husbands are there to, make those tough decisions
I am an Aunty too, and deeply and wholeheartedly I appreciate your honesty, because through this, I got to understand the side of my daughters and their perspective. Keep up the good work because you are getting through to those who want to understand.
Thank you for your honesty❤️❤️ and for the support
The working with family anecdote, too real!! I’ve heard it from family and in laws, but I got married during law school and bar exams.
The dawat rant is spot on!!! You girls left no stone unturned 😂😂😂
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You guys are so much fun to watch!
Thanks for watching 👌
❤❤ i love how determined you guys are and there are no late uploads and no wednesday skips. Better then pakistani dramas😂😂😂
I started loving myself after i moved out. Until then i didn’t know it existed
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Omg this dawat rant is so relatable..becharay kids are so ignored on the day of dawat and also few days before..huh
Yes lol
I have a suggestion you can do a new series, in which you give reply to people’s emails, they will be more longer, juicier and fun! Btw Love your podcast!❤
Ay u guys are at 10 k hope one day ull get ur silver button at 100k! maybe even gold some day!
Fingers crossed! ❤️❤️🙏
The dawat preparation part was absolutely true 😂. kids have to eat hawa 😂
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Omg the people pleasing.. a family of 7 came uninvited at my house at 11pm on a school day. we were all wraped up for the day. I didn't have any snacks at home so I have to serve them just juice.. for last 3days I am like ashamed at myself for not serving them properly and I am so disturbed that omg wo Pakistan mein sab ko batayein gy kya batein karein gy.. our generation wants to take a stand for our mental health and boundaries, but the stand is not standing 😂
How would you bring up a prenuptial agreement during the initial rishta phase?
Just bring it up
just bring it up, but also, might want to consider if you're getting a Nikah, it should be standard, it was for my parents.
@Muffin tops the show was Seinfeld and Elaine said it won’t be the same if we just bake the tops. The show was on the struggle of getting rid of the stem
Not even kidding i put on my airpodes and started the podcast FIRST then i went to make chai
We love that!
Ya as an aunt I’m like my value is to my family not my job
Who told you aunties don’t like you , I love you both and look forward for new episode, feel like my daughters are discussing about desi community btw this is what they do 😂
hey im a big fan of your pod. you two have bari baji/aapi energy. i just shared this link to my elder sis.
I'm all for helping your spouse with work around the house and working a job. That includes cooking, laundry, kids, etc. With feminine and masculine energy, I'd say I'm in the middle and I can tap into either side. But as soon as someone has those expectations and those conservative values and expects me to act a certain way, then I'll move on to another woman. I'd never date a conservative woman.
They way you guys laugh❤❤❤❤
I'm listening to your podcast while frying pakoray for kari 😂😂
Make us some too👌😂
47:10 i hate having to get all the 89 different things "hindi food" has to have to be made. hate it. we need to remove these unecessary things from our lives. onoin and garlic is also referred as inferior food in Quran. we need to reposition ourselves away from "indian food" - its the food of conquered ones.
This is something that I had to learn because I didn’t grow up Muslim, but because life is a test, even if we are to choose our own partner, they are not going to be perfect, and there are times where they do take advantage of us, yes; however, Working for the sake of having leverage over a man isn’t the right motivation because as women we are not supposed to be competing with men, but rather working together with our husbands and submitting when it’s appropriate, as it does not go against religion. Will man be abusive and take advantage? Unfortunately, that is the case for people at times but Then it becomes a different issue and you should not be fighting fire with fire and negotiating with somebody who is being abusive because the rules do not apply with people like that and at that point there needs to be a different sort of intervention whatever that may be Allahu allum… I am not saying, that woman should not work, the first wife of the profit, peace be upon him, had her own business so it’s not about woman not working… She even had children, I and I’m not sure if she was managing both of those endeavors at the same time but what I do know is that she did not use her money as a form of leverage and I just don’t think that it’s wise for anyone to do that, especially with men who are known to take advantage. The best thing to do with people who take advantage is to not play their game at all, to put down the rope and stop playing the tug-of-war, especially with a man. Please forgive me, I am not trying to come off rash, I just want to remind ourselves of an aspect of marriage from a woman’s perspective and femininity overall. To say that one will get a job for the sake of not being taken advantage of is not a feminine trait, it is a competitive and masculine sort of spirit or mentality rather. We are going to have women from all life with different personalities, so I understand that this device may not completely work in vacuum, but if a woman is in a traditional marriage, it is often better for her to have this mentality when it comes to marriage and finances so she doesn’t end up wearing herself thin, taking on the man’s responsibility so he doesn’t take advantage of her… It’s just not a good marriage and if a woman is caught in a situation like that, like I said, she needs to get some help or he needs to get some help… Things need to change, but I just don’t think that that is the best solution because it will keep her in that situation now, depending on herself to bring in money rather than how to communicate more effectively with her husband or perhaps her husband learn to communicate more effectively with her and negotiate better. But at the end of the day, sometimes we just don’t get what we want and sometimes our husbands are there to, make those tough decisions
Smelly food made me crack up while packing chapli kebab in my daughte’s lunch who is in year 11 😂😂😂