How to Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You Deeply (Christian/Bible/Forgiveness)
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It’s tough when the one who hurt you thinks they did nothing and they invalidate you while continuing to think they are perfect and may treat you however they want.🥺
I am currently going through the same thing. What is helping me (not totally there because it's a process) is meditating on GOD'S w WORD regarding peace.
I truly believe if we do not have GOD'S peace (contentment, composure, rest, calm, quiet, comfort,etc.), we cannot grow in faith, love, patience, endurance, etc. Not having peace means we're focused on worldly things. Remember the parable of the sower and the seed? The cares if this world can choke one up if not at spiritual peace. If interested, here are a few of the peace scriptures I am meditating on. If there is anything to keep in mind is that Jesus left us with a precious gift -peace of mind and heart, therefore do not be TROUBLED or AFRAID (John 14:27) :
John 14:27
John 16:33
2 Thessalonians 3:16
Isaiah 26:3
Matthew 5:9
Proverbs 3:24
1 Timothy 2:1-2
Galatians 5:22-23
Psalm 119:165
Job 22:21
Romans 8:6
James 3:17-18
Matthew 11:28-30
Romans 16:20
Romans 12:19-21
1 Peter 3:10
Proverbs 20:3
Hebrews 12:11
I want to clarify that when I said I'm not totally there yet:
I have my moments where I replay what was done to me, but once I meditate on the scriptures and talk to/listen to GOD I feel so much better. I'm just hoping to get to the point where I do not allow such thoughts to fester in my head; and, as a result I get angry. Once a negative thought enters my mind I want to be so sensitive to the HOLY SPIRIT that I can quickly repel such thoughts. We will always have negative thoughts enter our heads due to the list of the flesh and the tactics of the enemy. It is what we do with it that matters to the HOLY FATHER. Do we fight it off, or do we entertain it!
ooooooh I know what you mean because I am going through that with the MIL.
I was afraid to have fun without them, afraid that they would find ANYTHING to be upset about…and low and behold…. Again, I went with a pure heart and intentions and STILL ended up apologizing AGAIN! I am tired of this. I wish God would open this persons heart, make them face themselves and stop treating me like this, practically just having me apologize for just being alive at this point
Yeah it truly hurts
Brothers, sisters, please pray for me. My dad has committed unimaginable abuse against me and i’m struggling so much to forgive him. Please pray for me to have the strength to do this.
Jesus is the only one that can help you get over this trauma, through his spirit. Use his word to help you heal. Like if I don't forgive Christ, how will Christ forgive me.
I pray that his spirit come upon you right now and heal your heart in Jesus name amen
I am going thru the same thing. I am 60 but I just cant forgive my father. People dont realize what pain it causes to be harmed by the one that is supposed to protect. I couldn't tell anyone because I didn't want to hurt my family or my grandmother. I ran away at 13 but people thought I was a spoiled troubled child and still do. I want to speak up but what good would it do? He has been dead 18 years but my pain lives on. I want to know how to actively forgive. I do not trust people because of my father's pervertions.
@@SheResellsSeashells😢 💔 keep asking Jesus for help and seeking His counsel is all I can say. I am struggling to forgive my mum ATM. She wounded me deeply last night by telling me I can't move back in with her when if I needed to even if I can't get a place to rent which here in Australia are insanely expensive for a an absolute dump and that's IF I would even be able to land a place with my job being casual. The amount of stress I was already under to have her not care broke my heart and has made me sooo extremely wounded and angry I'm finding it so hard to let go of it. And I don't want to say sorry for my angry reaction as though I'm always the one apologising for an emotional outburst because of ill treatment without their acknowledgement of mistreating me. I'm rambling but hoping this might help get things off my chest so I can get some clarity.
@@SheResellsSeashellsheart goes out to you big time my issues are so insignificant to the abuse you suffered. I pray God helps you to forgive as we know we must and I know He will help you and give you the revelation you need to move on. Sending you a big hug in the spirit. God bless you Sally Seashells. 😉 😊
@@SheResellsSeashells🤗💜🙏🏽🤲🏽
People that have hurt me ,I forgive them and I pray for them,Then I stay my distance ,and I make sure I never get too close again........
Amen...God bless you
That sounds like me
Guys tell me it's not crazy that the Lord's Prayer has changed in your Bibles! Literally pick your Bible up and read this verse after I tell you...
I think it's Mark 6: 9 - 13... The part where it says "forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us". *IT'S NO LONGER TRESPASS* . Now it's "forgive is our DEBTS, and those DEBTORS against us"! If you deny this, pick your Bible up now! And confirm! It's in ALL Bibles! If you want to know what the hell this phenomenon is called, just ask. Again, this is not a joke! I wouldn't have written all this for a stupid joke.
John Kennedy what is the significance of the passage changing? Doesn’t it mean the same thing?
Me too
“Forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same thing.” 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 powerful !!! I really needed to hear that.
So glad it was helpful to you!
Yes me too
Me to!! I wish u all peace n love friend
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger what if it is my husband who deeply hurt me?
@@babyziax3667 it is so difficult when it is someone we love and i don't really know what to tell u but i would urge u to take yr heartache, fear and uncertainty to God. I've learnt that we can honor God by doing what we can't / don't want to because we love Him. I am divorced and even though i know God forgave me i wish i had yearned for obedience to His Word rather than my personal joy.
Forgive them. Not for them but for yourself. I’ve held a grudge against a woman for 13 years. It nearly broke me. It’s not worth it. All the bitterness and hatred does is hinder your spirit. Not theirs. Don’t let them have that power over you.
But did you like call them and told them that, or write a message ?
@@elleon9895 Well the person I forgave is a narcissist. So no. But I do not harbor any more anger towards her. Some people just don't deserve face to face forgiveness
People say that but it's still not the heart of God. I've been hurt too and you need to forgive them for their sake as well so. It doesn't matter if you think they are a narcissist. I'm tired of people saying they have forgiven and yet still.hold.deep hurt. By you saying they don't deserve face to face forgiveness shows that you don't know God in this area yet. If they don't deserve that kind of forgiveness then you don't deserve it from God, which by the way He gives you despite that fact
@@ShadowKing1993the person I need to forgive is also a narcissist. Imagine that. I have tried but the hate returns. I have to do it though. The ruminating is killing me.
@@JusticeMan456i disagree. A person can do what they are capable of doing. God does not call us to be doormats. Forgive the best I can then be willing to forgive more by the unction and timing of the Holy Spirit.
Forgiveness is a one way street. Reconciliation takes two.
I thought I had forgiven up until I seen the person I was so upset at.. I've stayed away from them for about 2 years but today I was forced to see this person and it all went out the window. God help me let this go!! Pls pray for me
Remember when Joseph saw his brothers after years he cried. That didn’t mean he didn’t forgive them. One thing you have to realise is that forgiving doesn’t make what the person did okay, we are humans and forgiving will never change the past but changes how you look at it. Hold onto God’s word, He will give you strength, do not hold onto what the person did.
I pray the same happens to me. I really don’t wanna leave my parents house with hate in my heart towards them
I am praying for you!
I pray for u
Some of the most evil people I have met were from church. People pretend to be genuine, but behind backs they have knives. That makes me so sad. Many times I could only turn to prayer and the scriptures. I will always be willing to forgive someone, because God has always forgiven me. Praise the Lord! 🙌🏽
Hope we all can learn to forgive. The comments section on news media channels like Inside Edition can play with people's emotions. I mean whenever a news about crime shows up, people seems to not wanting to forgive the criminals and kept using the "if it was you" argument.
Ive learned three additional things i havent seen written anywhere
● I look at their hyrtfulness as a disability...something theyve been unable so far to overcome and get rid of
● Forgiving isnt saying the hurter is right, or that we are weak; its telling Jesus and others that His cross is enough
● Not everyone who thinks they are ssved is a real CHRISRian...they might only know Bible facts and say and do "the right things" but their soul may not truly be saved ... Is he/she really a "new creature in Christ"? Are the 'fruits of the Spirit" evident in him/her?
Galatians 5:22, 23
"love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control"
Only GOD can know, but we can see these qualities ... or not
If not, they desperately need Him. ASAP. And prayer. And people to lovingly (caring about their eternity) go to them...even if their religious pride might be offended. There is no such thing as Purgatory in His Bible and no more 'chances' once we're dead. Praying
Unforgivness is so hard for two reasons: 1.) When the other person doesn't apologize and acts like they did nothing wrong. They instead justify their wrong doings.
2. You might get depression from someone who hurt you and you end up making bad decisions that affect your life based on the pain that this person put you through, increasing the animosity and bitterness. Yes, you made those bad decisions but that person had a major influence that affected your thinking so you think that they should be held somewhat responsible.
Amen!
No one makes you do anything. Your choices aren't related to what anyone did to you, regardless of what they did. Take accountability for your own actions as being your own
@@joshdidittwe can all say one thing until something happens some people have been raped and became hyper sexual as children some people may had money stolen from them and probably stolen a pack of food to eat until the next day you never know not justifying any of this but sometimes life can make things spiral out of control
Or continuing..hurting you.while you are trying to forgive
You are responsible for your own actions. Whether that person had an influence of some sort on you, you are the only one accountable for your own actions. Not them. They may have led you to feel terrible, but at the end of the day, your choices are your own, not theirs.
Dear God I sincerely forgive and forget all those that have used,humiliated, falsely accused, spread false rumours and hurt me deeply I forgive and forget them all. I want to be a Godly woman help me become one by manifesting forgiveness in me. I forgive Lord as you ordered me to, I will no longer be bitter, think of revenge or hold grudges towards them I forgive and let go completely. I will keep my distance and fixate my eyes on you Lord. Thank you Lord Jesus, Amen🙏
Don't forget this,and Jesus loves you so much!!!
Bless you ❤️
Wow 🙏...ders nothing hurts more than being hurt and false things about yourself being spread by ppl you loved the most...I'm still finding hard to leg go certain things that have happened to me💔
I really like how you are dedicated to near God.. to love Jesus
God bless you Flora...my marriage is in shambles we've hurt each other, I filed for divorce I still love him he still hasn't given me forgiveness or maybe he just doesn't want to reconcile I tried and prayed for years I also need to forgive myself. I still have love for him but maybe it all had to happen idk I know I am hungry for God and long to keep him 1st in my life
The media teaches us that we can move on in life without forgiveness but I beg to differ. I want to forgive. It’s not bOut being comfortable but being obedient to God. Tell God and pray about it.
That's right 👌.
Bless you Abby.aman.agreed.
May God bless you in every way hun.🙏🙏🙏
I needed that today
I really want to forgive but it feels soo heavy
Jesus please help me
Edit: hallelujah... I have long forgiven... I thank God
Pray for me to follow your path! I am struggling with my situation with my wife!!! The heaviness is real 😞
@@godsarmy8813 : How are you doing now? I prayed for you.
Cynthia E. Thank you 🙏🏾!!! Honestly not too many people Have reached out or even took the time to pray for me!! I am in a way better place now God has healed me and helped me to move on me! Thank you Cynthia May God bless you my friend 😊
@@godsarmy8813 HalleluYah brother.
I'm glad to see Gods done a new work in you. Trusting He will finish the work for you.
@ meg music What did you do? please help me i want to forgive too but its very hard for me
To the person who changed my life, who hurt me a lot, who gives me lastly and remarkable pain in my mind and in my heart, who traumatized me. It's really hard,, but I will do all I can and all my best to forgive you. I swear, I'm doin my best 😭
Me also i struggle to forgive this « animal » who changed my life, turned all of my « friends » and everything i did against me and took « the one for me », didn’t helped her And, prohibited me to help her with lies and rumors when i knew she was at her worst at the point of « maybe » failing my exams (empathetic torture). if he may just smoked away my all dreams and future projects just for his image and his own selfish pride its very hard to forgive. And me knowing that i can’t help them and/or make her repent and teach her the truth because of him and the bad influence he has on her « the one » so she will probably die in hell because because i know she did some « inappropriate » misbehavior called « sin » because of her bad old surroundings and, is left with trauma that he is now using for his own selfish advantage and let her unhealed.
So for this, if i forgive this, and feel free of anger and bitterness, i could forget my feelings and forsake her (let her be judged because i didn’t make her repent) and give up on my big projects for every one’s best (because it included her and is irreplaceable also for psychological reasons so that it dont looks absurde), because i’ll feel satisfied and really, i really Dont want that.
BUT, i try to trust in GOD and thanks that he turns my bad into good, harsh situations unto wisdom and experience and much more rather than unhealthy trauma. GOD of justice and love, who i believe will help me and many others to find a way out with every of our deep desires accomplished. Therefore, get closer to GOD, and he will get closer to you, so if you’re far from GOD, you’re prohibiting His good for You and bad will stay bad or get worse (vengeance;hate;depression). if you dont loose anything you should be able to forgive.(i dont say its easy because i dont live others lives but… just tell yourself they they dont know what they’re doing) and also i’ll pray for you.
The thing that helped me the most is a silent prayer that humbly asks God for help in forgiveness through his Holy spirit.❤❤❤
I need to do that because I'm having a very hard time forgiving.
@@cindy7733me too Cindy.
Pray for me that the Lord gives me the heart of forgiveness !!
I did pray for you just now, 1/20/21. I see it's been a year since you made this post. How are you doing now?
Also, I want to say "to all" that what I did was just start saying out loud to the person, "I forgive you for [blank]." I didn't mean it, but I wanted to mean it so I said it. They skipped over it and wouldn't "accept" my forgiveness, not believing they did anything. Now I just say it in my spirit, and I pray for them and do good to them. Now I do mean it, I truly forgive them, but there is no reconciliation because they do not acknowledge their sin. They don't think they did anything (they lie about it and everything else, too) and in fact, they blame me for the one big lie that started everything and make up weird things about it and me and twist everything up so that it would exhaust me to unravel them and show them the truth. That's their game. They want to wear me out and shut me down and shut me up. Their life is utter chaos and confusion and they do it to keep from facing the truth about themselves, which is that they are a sinner in need of a Savior.
Since Jesus forgave me for much of the same stuff as they are doing to me, I forgive them, as I must. In my case I repented of my ways, which is why I'm saved (2 Corinthians 7:10). The person I'm speaking of hasn't repented, but I still forgive them in case they do. I do my part. I try to imagine them saved and that helps and I also would not want them or anyone to go to hell, so I keep doing what God says to do. Because God works everything together for good to those who are called according to His purpose, the situation purifies ME. It causes ME to have patience and self-control and to abide in Jesus because there's no other way to survive. Also, "...Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it abideth alone: but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit." John 12:24. The situation necessitates that I die to self. This person is literally my cross and I carry this person on my back every day.
In the meantime, if they never repent to God or me, I find a lot of comfort in this passage of scripture: "We are bound to thank God always for you, brethren, as it is meet, because that your faith groweth exceedingly, and the charity of every one of you all toward each other aboundeth; So that we ourselves glory in you in the churches of God for your patience and faith in all your persecutions and tribulations that ye endure: Which is a manifest token of the righteous judgment of God, that ye may be counted worthy of the kingdom of God, for which ye also suffer: Seeing it is a righteous thing with God to recompense tribulation to them that trouble you; And to you who are troubled rest with us, when the Lord Jesus shall be revealed from heaven with his mighty angels, In flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that obey not the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ: Who shall be punished with everlasting destruction from the presence of the Lord, and from the glory of his power; When he shall come to be glorified in his saints, and to be admired in all them that believe (because our testimony among you was believed) in that day." 2 Thessalonians 1:3-10
Yes! We do owe it to God. We need to love Him more than anything else.
Amen
Dear concetta.bless your heart.it is written.jesus name.God bless you hun.🙏🙏🙏
What about the individual who says they plan to just Claim the blood of Christ
Yes, only those who try to follow Jesus' first and foremost commandment can be truly pleasing to God.
I had a girlfriend that broke up with me after a 5 year relationship and then got engaged to a mutual friend two weeks later. She basically left her car at work one week and left to start living with her new boyfriend. She broke her families heart and mine and did absolutely everything to make the people who love her her enemies.
They’re forgiven but things won’t be the same and that’s for the best. It’s been a few months since it all went down and I’m just having trouble getting my brain out of this fog.
Dan Rhodes I had someone who I deeply loved and they used and hurt me and I’ll be honest it’s been a long time and I still am hurt and It still brings tears to me, but I pray for them every night that they will be protected and loved by Christ.
I also face the same situation....I was very depressed broken it's Jesus who healed me ....now I am fully back on track ......started my career just me with Jesus ......that boy who left me ran behind other girls .now after one year he came to me ....but I told him ...sorry I moved on I am in love with Jesus ....you are not the one whom God has made for me ....now I said forever good by .....now waiting for God to show my life partner according to his will ...where his name will be glorified in every area of my life Amen
Bro i have gone through same story ....but here my God touched me in such a way from Catholic family ....I got saved ....now mad for jesus ....
Prayer out to you
Prayer to God brother to show you the partner he will do the that......soon God will show you keep praying
1:38 Difference between reconciliation and forgiveness
3:10 Don’t force reconciliation from the offender
5:37 Keep the commandments/character of God (this is a HARD one)
6:25 God forgives US when we don’t deserve.
This is beautiful! I longed for reconciliation with my grandfather who I spoke out about as a child when he molested myself and younger cousins and siblings. I prayed for him as I was scared he would go to hell. As an adult, my husband encouraged me to go see him and talk as I so wanted to forgive and let go of the pain. He just said I'd made him a lonely old man and "the sun always shines on the righteous" in sarcasm. My husband quoted me the scripture about shaking the dust off your feet. It was painful. When my grandfather died he took it to the grave and all I could do was offer it all up to God and I got my peace from Holy Spirit and my saviour Jesus Christ. I realise I forgave and you are right Mark that reconciliation is not a command necessarily as I used to think.
Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm so glad you are following the Lord and have forgiven your grandfather even though his sins were inexcusable. And I agree with your husband, you did what you were called to do and then you were free to completely move on. Thanks again for sharing :)
I am really struggling to forgive my grandfather for what he did,I just said I forgave him because I could bear to look at him,he dasapointed so much
What an amazing testimony and absolutely ONLY through God's grace and the healing power of the Holy Spirit can we experience this. It's so amazing when we realize it's ALL about God and if we love Him how could we not yearn to do His will and forgive as we are forgiven. God bless u
"I prayed for him as I was scared he would go to hell", If I was in your place, I wouldn't care my abuser for going to hell even if that person is my grandfather.
@akhilesh Vijay Oh but He does!
Galatians 6:7
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
Acts 10:34
Then Peter began to speak: “I now truly understand that God does not show favoritism,
King James Bible
Then Peter opened his mouth, and said, Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons:
That includes His own children when we break His Commands and do not sincerely repent.
Romans 12:19
Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord.
But we Must watch out for this: That we do not rejoice in their hurt as Father is dishing out their punishment or He may just stop and have Mercy.
I cannot find the verse for that one, it is in the OT.
There are MANY Verses about the wicked being punished.
5 in the morning crying my eyes out. I need Jesus. Plz pray for me
Praying for you
I’m praying for you as well. Jesus knows your heart and how deeply you were hurt, but He also understands and sees how much you want to forgive those who hurt you. If you didn’t want to forgive, then you wouldn’t be here at 5 in the morning. Jesus loves you and cares for you ❤️🙏🏼☦️
YESSSSSSSSSSS and AMEN! I wanna be free from the bondage of my ex husband lying and manipulating our marriage and abandoning the marriage, while allowing me to take him back and pretending to be working on the marriage while creating an outlet to join someone else while we were still married and together. I divorced him claiming abandonment. And I just want to be free of this past and MEMORIES. LORD JESUS I need PEACE and prayer in my mind.
yesterday i wad mad at the Lord, because i couldnt heal from a past love. i randomely started speaking out loud today having a conversation with myself saying “you keep living in the past because you havent forgiven them yet, once you do you will be able to move on” and then it hit me! this wasnt me speaking, it was God giving me the answers!! so beautiful, i love you Lord🙏🩵
Remember How MANY Sins JESUS has forgiven YOU for!!!!
🙏🏻🙏🏻
I really want to forgive my husband who betrayed me ,its hard ,lord plz help me to forgive
@Redo B. im not very bible or teaching smart but if i was you i woukd pray for forgiveness and try pray more if possible JESUS LOVES YOU
@@sandyjames3700 Lord* just leave it in God’s hands :D and just reject every bad thoughts. ❤️ God bless u!
And I am grateful for that, but I actually care about the fact that jesus forgives me. Someone who has hurt me so many times and doesnt care if I forgive them or not... it still just.. idk
How would you forgive someone that molests your child. I still want justice for my innocent child😭!!!!!! Saints please pray for me. See I forgave this person for abusing me for years. But when he turned my innocent child a victim. It's a whole new ball game when your child has been severely damaged😔
God can heal anything. Let’s do it His way.
How could you let your kid be around someone you know is a kid molester? Why haven’t you turned this person in? You are more messed up than the molester ...
@@kayligo how can u say that u don't know her life. Maybe she was depending with money and had no place to go. Very often victim is addicted to life with this person as he usually is toxic.
@@gabigabi-yp9xo there are women shelters. I can’t believe you are making excuses. Adopt the kid out instead of letting it be molested. There are always options better than letting it happen.
@@kayligo I think she FULLY understands what she’s done wrong, no need for some random to bring up the obvious. People aren’t transparent and I don’t think ANYONE who is a child of God would let their child willingly stay with the significant other, knowing they might rape them. Let God deal with that, as he knows everything, even things herself doesn’t know. Don’t go making horrendous assumptions by people you don’t know, you’re just being pessimistic based on the already tragic situation. I understand your concerns and why you would think that, but don’t unleash your anger onto some you don’t know who could be going through the worst times of their lives. What you’re saying isn’t wrong but definitely the way you revealed was disgusting.
Agree, forgiveness and reconciliation are two different stories. When you forgive, it has nothing to do with befriending and trusting the person, and/or reconciling with them (if you were friendly with them before). That's a whole other ballgame. When you forgive, it may not change or help them. But it WILL change/help you.
I concur. I don't want to reconcile with some men who hurt me but I forgive them and let them go.
@@user-hx9sn3fy3j And you are not expected to. You don't ever have to see or even think of them again. Because the very irony of unforgiveness is that guess who suffers? It isn't the one/s who wronged you.
My partner walked out on me 3 months ago I'm hurt in ways I couldn't possibly imagine but with God's help I will get through this.
Amen, God is able
I'm going to pray for you , I'm going through my own pain ..I under stand , God bless you.
I hope you are better.
I'm sorry for your pain
Its so hard.
I'm so depressed!
tbh, i feel like a thousand knives stabbing my stomach by how my HORRIBLE 3 SISTERS treat me..maybe it's because i'm a Christian..and they're not..Seeking biical real life issue solutions..but have always prayed for them..struggling tonight...💔..I can usually self talk and connect to God....'guess it's just the times.
.. seems compounded 1,000 times.😥.
I'm with ya brother. Same here but we also deserved punishment but let look to Jesus alone as our example. He's our only hope in this fallen world! GOD have mercy on us!! We need you, LORD!! HELP!
LORD knows how deeply I've messed up!
And deserve swift judgement! Jesus forgive me! I can't see no more! My self-destructive manner blinds me!
We can try our best to forgive because God forgave us but sometimes we need more than wanting to pay it forward to forgive. Its hard to find peace in something you don't understand. When someone hurts me I try to think about why they could have done it. Pastor Rick Warren says hurt people hurt people. Once you can see why they hurt you and know that it had nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves, it makes it easier. Whats hard is knowing you can't reconcile with that person because they have a lot of work to do on themselves. That pain of not being able to reconcile because you know they wont repent can hurt more than the hurtful act.
I forgive even when they don't say sorry just so I can be at peace, but I don't forget, but after so many times having to forgive in regards to the same issue you cant reconcile with that person, but you can always forgive. I have force reconciliation at one point after bringing to church so now im guarding my heart . Because I have faith in God I have given forgiveness even through those who I think don't deserve it, and I do it because we owe to God
ua-cam.com/video/2ByYM_KKCe0b/v-deo.html Forgiveness of a True Child of God
@@seerking why are you commenting this to this person?
@Elie Mulamba I was asking the person who posted it but why on earth would you think they may need it when the person literally said in their comment that they forgave already, what about their comment hints to you that they haven't forgiven?
@Elie Mulamba she said if the same issue reoccurs with the same person she will forgive but not reconcile
@Elie Mulamba wait what do you mean by that?
Mark, I've been struggling with great unforgiveness and deep hatred for over 15 years. I've doubted my salvation because of it. I've watched countless sermons on anger, bitterness and unforgiveness and talked to many pastors with no results. It has hindered me greatly. I know this has damaged my walk with Christ in many ways. My sanctification would be light years ahead of what it is, if I could simply forgive the person that absolutely destroyed my life permanently. Your short video here is the closest I've ever come to forgiving. Thank you very much. Please pray for me.
I'm going thru something similar, it's so hard to forgive for me especially when the person who hurt me lies about doing anything wrong .man I hope we can both get thru our own problems
EXACTLY how I feel as well 🥺
I forgive every one that has hurt me,past and present, family and friends,I forgive my self for allowing it.No one from my past is allowed in my future I just freed you.If you continue to do this ,I have nothing to do with this situation any longer,I gave it to GOD!!!The past is the past stay there,but not me!!!God will take it from here!!!
ua-cam.com/video/2ByYM_KKCe0b/v-deo.html Forgiveness of a True Child of God
Thank you for showing me the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. I have had many people and friends treat me badly and betray me. I'm still trying to forgive them, but I feel better knowing that I don't have to reconcile with them.
Thx for that. After a betrayal of trust w the person I was with for 20+ years, I was so mad and revengeful that I forgot who I was as a child of the Divine. It's going to be a long road back, but I choose to access my superpower, God's Grace, and forgive.
It’s been a year and I’ve been praying everyday to forgive him but I just can’t...why, I want to but my heart and mind doesn’t want too.
Ask God to help you with this to search your heart and wash you clean of all unforgiveness.Its not easy.It has to be done by Gods power.I have had horrendous wickedness and damage done to me by a narcissist sister........i have cut ties with her 100% and have to forgive but its not easy and will keep asking for help on this.
Just say it. Say the words to him "I forgive you" and then go drink some tea. If he comes back at you with garble say "I forgive you" again. Do it 70x7. You can also say it in your spirit when saying it out loud would cause a fuss. You don't have to explain it, talk about it, feel it or want to do it. Just do it, like you would stitch up a wound without anesthesia if you had to, because you have to. Let God handle the healing. Your only responsibility is to do it: forgive others. Once you say it your prison doors open. Also consider that NOT saying it means you want to be in control of their damnation. Since that's likely not true, just say it and you will definitely gain peace.
I know it's been a year since you made your comment. How are you doing?
Same
Very good. Just what I desperately needed at this moment in time. Once I decided to forgive, I feel God's peace with the situation.
Amen!
Number 1 the person who hurt me was my father
Number 2 i came hear to learn about forgiveness yesterday .
Number 3 i have forgiven him but not for his sake for my sake snd my happiness.
Number 4 Thank you so much 😍
I was deeply hurt by a friend that stood by her actions and never really apologised for the words she said. I accept she doesn't want to apologise. I accept that she hurt me. I forgive her. I've let that relationship go. I just don't want anything to do with her. And I pray that God keeps us separated on this side of eternity.
Here's one of my favorite Bible verses on forgiveness:
Luke 17 - “If your brother or sister sins against you, Rebuke them; if they Repent, Forgive them. There are 3 phases to this process:
1. Rebuke
2. Repent
3. Forgive
Yes, you must keep forgiving them, if they repent, but most of the time, that won't be a problem because they won't.
Quote Luke 17 from the Bible, not your own words with quotations. Christians are required to forgive whether they repent or not.
Katherine Jetton - Luke 17 - Then He said to the disciples, “It is impossible that no offenses should come, but woe to him through whom they do come! 2 It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were thrown into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones. 3 Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. 4 And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a day returns to you, saying, ‘I repent,’ you shall forgive him.”
@@cjmeadors what's repent
I am from Iran and I am a moslim , but its was so helpful for me.thanks
Forgiveness is always the key to unlocking everlasting love and life 🥰
"God called us to treat people better than fair".☝🏻🙏🏻
This still applies the same way when they aren’t sorry right? As in they don’t see themselves as doing any wrong?
Yes
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger I want to write a message to my sister who hurt me deeply the day of the funeral of my significant other. I was hurt, not angry & she said "I don't think I did anything wrong". Two months have passed and I feel I need say I release you of my hurt feelings or something of that nature. I feel saying "I forgive you" doesn't apply because she doesn't feel she did anything wrong. But we haven't spoken for 2 months. That's not right. I don't know if reconciliation will occur, but it's time to extend the olive branch. How would I word something like that?
Raminakai then why would you want to reconcile with them?
Jennifer Jahns the first thing you should do is pray good blessings and health for your sister and pray to see if the timing is right. We are to be fully dependent on the lord. That means following his timing not our emotions. The second thing is if you forgive someone, you dint need to bring up the offense to them. If you are attempting to be reconciled. APOLOGIZE regardless of who is right or wrong. You dint tell someone hey u did this or that but I’m going to forgive you anyways. You simply forgive. That is pride. The lord sees everything. You pray to god to forgive that person for their offense to you. Then you pray good blessings for that person and good health. You follow gods rules. Not your emotions. Remember when Jesus said god forgive them because they know not what they do. Sometimes ppl offend us and that’s just how it is. Read and study how god forgave and you will know exactly what to do but I feel anytime u tell someone you did this and that. It’s going to be very poor start to any communication. What if she write you a letter and she said that to you. Hey u offended me but I’m going to forgive you anyways and talk to you now. What kind of approach is that to anything? It’s not Christian. If you forgive someone. You do it like when u were a child. You and ur best friend could have an argument when u were 5 years old and the next day it’s like it never even happened. That is true forgiveness if you want to be reconciled with your sister.
@@Raminakai your message spoke to my heart. 🙏♥️ may God bless u. I wish to always remember that i am 1 of the 99 and the Creator, the Alpha and Omega forgives me every single day all my trespasses how can i not forgive. God help us all
I have always been close to Jesus. He reminds me to keep doing what I am doing for him. If I start to think negatively, He immediately brings me back to peace. I then listen to Christian music, which I love, and I am back and writing. Thank you for this reminder. Jesus heals us through grace and encourages our forgiveness. There are people who do not have God in their lives. I offer prayers now that they will seek Him and receive Him.
Thank you so much I really needed to hear that reconciliation and forgiving someone is different. To all who are hurt out there we are all here for u and the Lord is always going to be there for u 🙏❤️❤️
I am so glad this was helpful for you :)
And rend your hearts and not your garments.
Return to the Lord your God,
for he is gracious and merciful,
slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love,
and he relents over disaster.
My ex told me to move on with my life when I texted him Hi! This to me is a very dismissive thing to say as if I never had a life separate to him. That is ridiculous and insulted me. I feel he is the one that needs to move on. This is a person that can’t let go anyone. I’ve tried to forgive him, but I just know he said that to make me feel less than on purpose and I’m sure he’s telling lies behind my back. I pray every night to forgive him.
I hope you forgave him.
I just discovered forgiveness and I feel much happier and my heart is lighter.
I really really really need to hear this, I am deeply struggling with the thoughts of revenge against someone that has hurt me and my family.
Please pray for me so I can forgive the two people that have really hurt me in my life.
I told them “I’ve forgiven them” and distances myself but I still cry and I’m hurting over that. Does that mean I didn’t forgive?
Its the devil who brings negative thoughts in your head. The world should have all been of full happiness and we are one big family but the devil brought us all the bad in this world.
might take a bit, you are on the right path, keep going!!!
Same with me :( like repeating same story in my head and crying for same reason again and again:( feel hurt eventhough 8 months passing by
@Elie Mulamba Thanks for your comment , really nice and meaningful advice for me 😭💕
@Elie Mulamba Thank you so much Elie, that was helpful.
I really need this message. I am really having a hard time forgiving a past relationship of 6 years. God talked to me through you that only forgiveness can make me move forward and go on with my life. He does not deserve it, but Jesus Christ deserves it for He paid my sins when He died on the cross. You really are a blessing from Him. God bless you more and this channel.
In today's climate , this is Very necessary. God bless you, your family, and your future.
This video helped me with forgiveness more than anything I've ever heard. Praise Jesus, I've truly found the path to forgiveness. God Bless you. ❤
I needed this so badly and didn't know..... I need to believe with faith that I can forgive my ex for cheating on me for revenge.... it hurts even up till now because I couldn't understand it, I only did good things to her, Ik I did my wrongs too, so I probably deserve it.....
but I'll forgive her because Jesus says it's right, plus it'll help me to be at peace.
I made some horrible mistakes as a mother, and I own up that I wasn't the greatest mother. What hurts is I have my mother in law saying I'm not a good mother, and I don't deserve my children. I lost custody of my children on August 2023, and I've been feeling very low and worthless. I got a court hearing on June, and I hope this hearing goes well. I feel like everything has been falling apart, and I've been praying so much I just hope god helps me heal and overcome this tough obstacle. I needed to watch this thank you for this it's needed
Praise God brother I'm sure this message has set free ALOT of hurting Christians free....def did me.
Amen, God is good!
it’s hard to forgive someone especially when that person who hurt me really hurt me physically and mentally every day. And I’m always holding on to it for the rest of my life because i can’t do anything about it
Awesome.message and it is so true forgiveness and reconciliation are two different things. Sometimes it is better to forgive and forget toxic people.
My fear of forgiveness is… When I forgive and go around people again happy. They do something else because they see what they did didn’t break me. So it’s like I open myself up again to be mistreated and then I have to heal all over again. Especially if the offender doesn’t suffer for what they’ve previously done to me.
Im grateful for your explanation and comparison of reconciliation and forgiveness. Sometimes relationships or friendships are irretrievably broken and need to remain in the past. Especially if they keep offending over and over, and there is no real evidence of Lord Jesus' love in their life.
Forgiving her was so hard for me. Now it’s time to continue my spiritual journey and see what’s up in life. God bless y’all 🙏🏽✝️
I believe that we need to validate our pain, bring the hurt to God, He binds up ALL our wounds..
I believe that is the first step. And then realize we wrestle not with flesh and blood but against the rulers of darkness… they can and will use people to try to hurt us. Remember who the true fight is against..
then remember your own humanity and that you yourself have not walked through this life never hurting anyone. Even if unintentionally.
We are ALL flawed humans, what helps me is to understand God is the ONLY one I can fully trust with my whole heart.
People are fragile and full of trauma. Let it go and trust in the Lord, a victim mentality will only hinder your walk with God and the good things He has planned for you ❤ pray for them.. Jesus gave the best advice!
And no matter how much Christ suffered, He never had a victim mentality, no, we are more than conquers through Him that loved us! ❤
This helps a lot. Thanks for writing it down😢 Victim mentality will only hinder our walk with God. So true.
This. Thank you 🙏🏽
Lord help me forgive people who were supposedly members of my "family." One stole from me my prized possessions while I was sleeping and while he was in my house. The ones who pushed me around and bullied me while his parents did nothing. The ones who laughed at me and never really treated my Mother and I like real family. My brother who blamed me for doing something really serious that I did not do which was found out that I truly didn't do it. For all the bosses who harassed me, being racist, and accusing me for lazy. The people that I tried to be kind to but they disliked me for it instead. For all the people who took my kindness and punished me for it. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.
I thank God for you! This came at the right time cuz I was struggling w/ forgiving some people. God bless more !!
So glad this was helpful Josephine!
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Can we forgive them in your heart instead of directly going to them and forgiven them.
Thank you for sharing. A pastor mentioned years ago to pray blessings on the one who offends, so right because that can change an attitude to rid of bitterness.
Amen!
It’s like I forgive everyone that hurt me or I hurt them but this narcissist I can’t forgive I try but I can’t I need help.
Pray every time the hurt and pain come up and give it to God and ask Him to heal your soul. Pray for this person because they could be on the path to hell and your prayers could work for God to intervene in their life. Also you could seek deliverance.
@Louisa Yes, sister in Christ, Amen!
Me either girl, they are ruthless
@Louisa thank you, I tried to get along and forgive this person many times. Only to have her do the same thing to me over and over again. It’s affected my daughter, it’s nothing but a game to her. At some point you have to realize who people are and what their intentions are, and they will never change. They will always want opposition and turning the other cheek just makes her step it up. She has been out to destroy me for years. Has no conscience, and has done damage that is unforgivable. With intent.
@Louisa I appreciate the encouragement. I’ve been deeply betrayed by someone I have never done anything to. This person has tried to turn everyone against me. The ruthlessness of it is appalling. I find myself defending against her accusations constantly. I’m so tired of it and sickened by it. Lately I’ve been so angry, it’s causing me to have hate in my heart. I guess that’s why the Bible says guard your heart above all else. The devil is the author of lies and confusion. I don’t want to be hateful or vengeful but what am I suppose to do when I have this spiteful person that just won’t stop? Those who anger you control you and that’s the mind game going on here. She uses my child to get to me and hurt me. It’s all broken my heart because I don’t understand how someone can be so cruel and inflict so much pain on someone and get gratification from it. I need to give it to God and let vengeance be his.
My siblings have hurt me so much, but what hurts me even more is the fact that even though they’ve been abusive and horrible to me, they’re living happy lives with their significant others. They treat others (and each other) with so much kindness and I’m just always left wondering why they don’t treat me with that same kindness and respect. I’m the only one of my siblings currently following the Lord, but my life is so lonely and miserable compared to theirs. I pray for them daily, and God has blessed them with so much, but God refuses to heal me and take me out of this loneliness.
I 4 give my mom my family..and ERVIN MARSHALL....and ever one else who Hurt me🙏💓🙏💓🙏
Lord forgive my cousins and uncles and aunties who have done wrong to me
Lord forgive them for they know not what they do
God bless your grantly, I was struggling with forgiveness. But thanks to your description of the word of God, I have understood what does it mean to forgive those who had hurt me deeply.
Am really struggling to forgive, my heart is hurting, but I thank God for giving me a supportive husband who is walking with me
Amen!! Very convicting video! You explained it so clear and easy to understand. Thanks At this time in my life I have forgiven all the people and I feel like a huge mountain has fallen from my shoulders and I feel free to seek my Christian life and serve God with my heart. Thanks for the video. Mr. Mark
Amen, forgiveness is so freeing!
Lord please allow forgiveness in my hear towards those who hurt my heart
Love this ! I have a friend who over the years has hurt me deeply... every time I forgive her because I know it’s the right thing to do & i was reconciling with her only thinking because God would want me to, even if it’s at the expense of my happiness. I realized that all I need to do is forgive her. I live in a small town and I wanna be on good terms but I don’t have to be her friend again, without telling her this. What are some ways to distance yourself from people that are Christians, but drain you and keep betraying you?
Avoid communication with them.
Speak with them only when necessary. Be polite and follow biblical guidelines on dealing with enemies e.g feed them when hungry, bless them when they curse you without getting unnecessarily close to them. I find that gradually pulling away from people works best. Spend less time with them, sit further away, communicate less, don't engage them as much. I went through a season where someone I thought was my friend continuously betrayed and offended me. I was always upset and realised that the spirit of offense was becoming like a bondage in my life. There are so many ways to be nice but still keep a distance between yourself and someone who keeps hurting you. When they realise that they are losing their grip on you, they might try to turn things around on you and make you look like the bad guy. They might even spread lies about you but don't let that upset you. Stay calm and don't indulge them. Keep praying and you will be vindicated. The said person actually followed me to my house and accused me of having a " blackened heart". I guess they panicked when they realised that I finally saw through them. Christians are only human and unfortunately some can be mean and malicious. All the best, it's not easy.....
Lulu Love avoid her completely.
Thanks for your comments and I absolutely agree with all of them! I am making the effort now to distance myself from this person! I prayed for them last night, and will continue to do so, but will try to avoid them based on their fruit and how they treat people including me.
Raminakai several months ago I terminated my relationship but thank you
Heavenly Father please help me to forgive. You forgive us of our sins alot. Father please
Wow this was powerful!!! Praise God in Jesus name I needed this.
I'm so glad it was helpful :)
So inspirational! In my experience helps a lot the verse of Luke 23:34 "forgive them, because they don't know what they're doing", and "Love your enemies" it happened to me to be the one who didn't know what I was doing and I have been forgiven for my mistakes. Now that I acknowledge this wisdom on my own skin, i can see this in others and recognise my own mistakes in them, so I can easily forgive them. Also, forgiveness gives us peace and an open heart ready to receive more wisdom from the words of God and better feel the Holy Spirit in us. I also pray for them "love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you". Never forget that sometimes we are the enemies hurting people... we must look deeply inside of us and ask to be forgiven for our sins, and repent, to be a better person in the hard but beautiful journey to become godly people
Thank you for that , I really needed this message today. It opened my eyes and made me realize the error I was doing . I'm going to let go of this pain and resentment an thank God and move on . Bless His name 🙏
I'm so glad it was helpful to you Manny!
I've learned to forgive much easier than it used to be. Me pleasing God is more important. Also holding on to anger etc is unhealthy.
But an apology true from the heart or major character change is the best way to reconcile. The unequal yoke is true, and I honor it. But a prideful person who hurts me and can't see their major wrong is unacceptable. It doesn't matter what the mental or emotional issues are. Right from wrong is said sou d and binding.
I love God for forgetting and forgiving me. Thats humbles me
This was EXACTLY what I needed to hear. Thank you.
Thank you so much for making this video. It helped me forgive an abusive person in my life, and propelled my healing through forgiveness. I wish anyone reading this good graces!
I wanna say thank u listening to this made me emotional.. something happened to me and i was struggling to get over it.. now I'm gonna try harder. I don't know if I will ever trust or feel the same way about this person but I do know I'm going to try my hardest with prayers and meditation to forgive him. So thank u so much
Forgiveness is a journey. It takes time for most.
How do you know that I am dealing with this problem? I find it hard to forgive someone who hurt me deeply. Thank you so much.
Queen Devi find it hard to forgive? That’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die from it. You have to forgive in order to move forward.
Queen Devi I did too but only by the grace of God he took it over and helped me....
Wow, you are beautiful. Are you in AZ?
@@alsmith5526 what's AZ?
@@queendevi2492 Arizona is AZ
Thank you for God's word, I needed to understand stand forgiveness and respect for the lost of my marriage of 30 years. To have faith in my heart and to put it in respected so that I can move forward in life with God.
yes just as WE'VE been forgiven
Amen!
ua-cam.com/video/2ByYM_KKCe0b/v-deo.html Forgiveness of a True Child of God
Lord Jesus!
It’s hard to forget specially your own father disowned you and treated you badly! Also a woman who you married put you down because your level was below her! Lord Jesus, help me to forgive them and for those who hurts me and hated me and bullied me because of who i am! Help me to be with you that the heart is kind and loving and forgives our wrong doings! Help me to let it go the bitterness and the bad experienced into my life, and please, gives me peace of mind and set me free from all the bad things that had happened to my life! ✝️✝️✝️☮️☮️☮️🕊️🕊️🕊️
Thank you for sharing this, I now understand the difference between forgiveness and reconcilation. I will try my best to be very loving and kind to everyone.
What if that hurt is still there, but you still love that person dearly,I don't want the same relationship we had before I d like to have a better relationship I love this woman. Whether it's a friendship or more.
What did she or you do?
This is the hardest but one of the most important things i need to do.
Forgiveness is needed for a healthy life. I struggle with forgiveness.
People are so mean. People don’t care.
I agree forgiveness is needed for a heathy life but I hope this short video helps when it comes to law and grace ua-cam.com/users/shortsiAnYHOYFdSU?si=Q-Hh0Gw3foFRbexR
I come up to this video accidentally but this video hits me the most like how can I forgive someone who left me and come back like he didnt do anything to me “its my dad”😭
I forgive my family and those who took my kindness to use me. Help me to let go. Amen
Can you do a video on overcoming anger?
Yes, I've added it to my list :) thanks for the great suggestion :)
I needed to hear this really....thank you sir. God bless and I hope I can forgive them someday as God continues to forgive me. I hate how the pain twisted me into a vengeful wretch. I'm done being spiteful...
Thank you, this really helped me understand more about forgiving. I really am truly hurt, but I’m learning to forgive through God’s word.
Thank you I forgive, I am just sad and hurt. I don’t wish any ill on anyone. Most times it is everyone going through hard times, in need of healing, etc. 🙏🕊️✝️💗🙌 Thank you.
I've been struggling with forgiving my brother because he insulted my suicide attempt pray for me i need to have peace
Bro, I have to forgive my dad, how about you ask God to help you forgive your brother
I look at forgiveness a little differently, regardless of if we need to forgive others or forgive ourselves for some of the rotten things we have done... and we have all done rotten things in our lives. We don't owe it to God to forgive, we owe it to ourselves. Although very difficult at times, it is important for our own spiritual health to forgive completely and reconcile. Otherwise, you really are not forgiving and repressing that poison that is hurting you spiritually.
May God bless you.
Yeah I needed to hear that at just the right time! God Bless!
So glad it was timely for you!
This was such a good video. Thank you! It made me realize once again that we are not battling against flesh and blood, but again evel spirits and principalities. I find it easier to forgive my estranged husband when he left for my myself, but so much more difficult and painful to forgive him for what he stole from our daughter. Leaving us without money, food, water, my phone, vehicle, internet despite she was homeschooled by me, etc. It's not just this stuff he stole. He took her youth, family, sense of security, loving parental role model, Christian faith, memories, family heritage, problem resolution, etc. As I listened to this, praying to God of how despicable it was of him to steal all of this from her, me and us....that word steal took me to satan. He came to steal, kill, and destroy. He not only wants to steal this all from us, but more importantly, what Jesus did for us...sacrificing and dying on the cross for each of us being sinners. If I don't forgive my husband for wrongdoings to me and to my daughter, Jesus's suffering and sacrificial death was for nothing. For Jesus's sake, I can't comply with satan's tactics of using my husband. For my health and wellness, I can't comply. For my daughter's sanity, I can't comply. For my husband, being a so called "Christian" I can't comply. We are all guilty, including myself and I didn't pay the price that Jesus did. My suffering and my daughter's are nothing in comparison. God can restore what the demonic one stole, double. I now choose to forgive him whole heartedly. That's what forgiving of 70 x 7 means. It's not literally 490 times, but completely and with a whole heart. If not, go back again and again until you have made it completely. Then we can say as Jesus said, "it is finished".