BTT #37 - The "Training a Good Woman" Debate w/Aaron Clarey

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  • @sccroobyj4024
    @sccroobyj4024 5 років тому +81

    "So.. umm err.. I was wondering... yeah I wanted to ask umm.. well there's this umm yeah so you said about women".
    Do us all a favour, guys - write the question out and get to the point in two sentences max. Then have direct one sentence follow up questions ready. Be able to articulate your problem. In real life people actually prepare.

    • @Catholic-Redpilled-Spaniard
      @Catholic-Redpilled-Spaniard 5 років тому +8

      Well fucking said.

    • @theguy9067
      @theguy9067 5 років тому

      Nah I don't mind. I prefer unprepared off the cuff. I don't notice the ums

    • @Sisterlisk
      @Sisterlisk 5 років тому +6

      @@theguy9067 It doesn't have to be fully scripted, but holy crap take some notes for when you get stage fright

    • @liberator9248
      @liberator9248 2 роки тому

      @@Sisterlisk I agree

  • @jaredmello
    @jaredmello 5 років тому +13

    Instead of training women, know the difference between controlling behaviors and boundaries. Controlling is when you try to fix and manage others behaviors to feel internal peace. Boundaries are when you lay down your boundary, and you divorce yourself from the outcome. You give others the freedom to choose to either respect your boundary or not.

  • @chibblywubbly
    @chibblywubbly 5 років тому +27

    I don't see how a man chasing excellence would even have the time to "train" a woman, let alone have the desire to. Either she's fit to have along for the ride or not. Simple as.

    • @dinolover
      @dinolover 5 років тому +2

      Pretty fucking this. Unless I want sex, I dont give women a second thought, much less waste time training them

    • @TheGreatest727
      @TheGreatest727 5 років тому

      Good point

    • @paulstaples6590
      @paulstaples6590 5 років тому +2

      Great point ,these guys got some good content but their not 100 percent accurate with all their points of view. As far as that goes nobody is .

    • @4Mikes4Mindset4
      @4Mikes4Mindset4 5 років тому

      @@dinolover I think I agree with that. Situation and time will tell. Though training I'd say should be like training a mature man to dress. Easy and natural af

    • @DeadPool-qb6qf
      @DeadPool-qb6qf 3 роки тому

      Definitely support this idea

  • @kronos1505
    @kronos1505 5 років тому +48

    You can't train women. You'll have better luck training a dog, cat, or even a goldfish. Don't even bother wasting your time.

    • @atheplummer
      @atheplummer 5 років тому +4

      You can train women. When a man is a strong, unbreakable 'vessel', a women becomes the 'fluid' that she chooses to pour herself into, and he contains her.
      However, she MUST be totally into YOU. Like Rollo says, "women make rules for beta's and break rules for alpha's". If she doesn't view YOU as her alpha, there really is no point in pursuing.

    • @ThebigGLRams
      @ThebigGLRams 5 років тому +1

      Yes. Don't waste your time trying to train us. Coz men cant be trained by women either.
      Where does this concept even come from

  • @_gongster2835
    @_gongster2835 5 років тому +25

    Hey Rich, good topic. To expand on Aaron's view that women could get better with age, I think change could either be significant or not at all. For the most part, people do not change to a great degree after high school, unless they are alone, amd working on themselves. If a guy or girl is ALWAYS in the same ol' reckless relationship, with new partners, but the same drama, that guy or girl never changes.
    Do you ever encounter the druggy from high school, say 10 years later, and he became a total stud, freshened up, married, and has beautiful kids? Well, that's one in a million, and unlikely, but it DOES happen, and could happen.
    This is not to conclude that women cannot be trained. It is rare, but it does happen. At the root of it all, a woman must want to be a better, caring, kind, loving person for herself, and on her own. So when a man comes by her way, or if she attracts a guy, they love each other as they already are (with room to grow together), rather than the guy expending his energy "fixing/training" her. If she gets tamed because it's her way of "getting" with a man, then that's manipulative, and it's not a real change.
    At 19, I thought I was the shit, but having matured, and gained a better understanding of how people work amd do not work, I recognize that I was very naive then. At 19, I was very independent, a slim prick, university undergrad, haven't had my first kiss (lol, but it's true), and thought that guys and gals could be friends.
    Having matured now (and aged), I never thought I'd be into cars, lifting, psychology, politics...yeah, sorry, Rich, I was watching the leadership debate, so I missed the first bit of this session. Anyway, women could be trained. Not all, but some! It's called maturity and empathy.

  • @lukedavis6711
    @lukedavis6711 5 років тому +8

    I've been a chef for 15 years and I can confirm that there is no money in restaurants; more stressful and complex than anything you could do that makes money though.

    • @recyclespinning9839
      @recyclespinning9839 5 років тому +1

      I know a few people that would say you can make millions , even a small pizzeria. Yes long hours..uo to you ...

  • @ggrthemostgodless8713
    @ggrthemostgodless8713 5 років тому +7

    You can train a woman only if you are NOT in love with her, if you care too much you cannot do what is needed and her hypergamy will win over you, meaning she knows you re not willing to leave her, regardless of what you say.

  • @vincentlume6717
    @vincentlume6717 4 роки тому +1

    No,..... being with a room mate or room mates is not the same. Most men or women have never lived as a fully functioning inpapendant adult for any significant period of time. Therefore, they remain co dependent babies, demanding that either the other become responsible for their happiness, or becoming a placating door mat for the other, in an effort to avoid being alone at any cost.

  • @awhs5435
    @awhs5435 5 років тому +8

    No man who knows his worth is going to waste his time training a female. There is better shit to do then try to train a rabid dog.

  • @CommonSensePhilosophy
    @CommonSensePhilosophy 5 років тому +5

    Aaron is my spirit animal

  • @martyhafermann938
    @martyhafermann938 4 роки тому +1

    My ex didn't load dishwasher for optimal cleaning either Mr. Cooper...I get that one...
    Love your video s

  • @Tarock_x
    @Tarock_x 5 років тому +15

    For a German 19 year old his English is good! 💪

    • @oof36969
      @oof36969 5 років тому +3

      Thankyou, I appreciate it.

    • @MrBirgerB
      @MrBirgerB 5 років тому

      Video games?

    • @CEWIII9873
      @CEWIII9873 3 роки тому +1

      He heard "Tiger tank" and appeared

  • @HumanistAggressor
    @HumanistAggressor 5 років тому +3

    This guy Capt. Crunch... Just like almost every dude who calls into this show. He already knew the right answer before Rich or Aaron even began talking. Half these guys, you can see the "light" come on in their eyes as they begin to explain their own situation.

  • @CoachatCole
    @CoachatCole 5 років тому +8

    Why would you want to join lives with someone that needs training

  • @vincentlume6717
    @vincentlume6717 4 роки тому +1

    There is a huge difference between self concern and self care, and being selfish

  • @vincentlume6717
    @vincentlume6717 4 роки тому +1

    If your not having kids, then why even entertain, or consider anyone who wants to get married? Most women over the age of 45 or 50 that are seeking marriage, are hunting for resources to obtain the security and resources that they couldn't, or wouldn't obtain for themselves.

  • @RichardJennings1234
    @RichardJennings1234 5 років тому +8

    You guys are a good duo. Different vibe than you & Shawn. Keep up the great work!

  • @tomburroughes9834
    @tomburroughes9834 5 років тому +7

    You know this is a guy's programme because we are now talking about Mustang fighter planes and Tiger tanks. Awesome.

  • @BasedBrothers
    @BasedBrothers 5 років тому +2

    To my man Gary; he was on to some oneitis.. The cure is 1. Get rid of disney world thinking - your building up a image in your head of ”the one soul mate”. There is no soul mate only good and bad women (and there are many of them) 2. Abundance mindset - she is the one who missed out on a great opportunity, because YOU are the price, not her. You should have a life so good that you can’t do more than shrug your shoulders when a girl goes cold or what ever. Your PURPOSE is your girlfriend always and shes your soul mate. 3. This behaviour is what will attract chicks including the ones that pull away.. Don’t ever be needy. Think: How would a rich stud behave in this situation? He would not give a damn, and neither should you! Great show guys Im going to read the bacherlor pad economics for sure

    • @CEWIII9873
      @CEWIII9873 3 роки тому +1

      Paragraphs should be your friend

  • @psychedelictales2518
    @psychedelictales2518 5 років тому +2

    Screening at the beginning is the most important step. If done incorrectly, you will have management problems in the future.

  • @CoachatCole
    @CoachatCole 5 років тому +3

    Why would you want to join lives with someone that needs training ? Just walk away.

  • @vaughanlockett658
    @vaughanlockett658 4 роки тому +2

    When your wife complains to her friends and family that you’re preventing her career progression .when she has two young children to bond with and had them before she hit the wall. But you never stopped her career, or n fact you encourage her but now you are to blame. Train wreck mine is a 50 kiloton nuke .

  • @samwhisky2374
    @samwhisky2374 5 років тому +2

    Women do meet you at the finish line, but that’s not the only finish line they will be at.

  • @benfrankog6111
    @benfrankog6111 5 років тому +12

    Women completely conform to the societal norms of the culture they reside in so training a woman for a LTR is extremely difficult. You are also in a relationship with her childhood upbringing (was her father present? or cucked?), her professors, her feminist girlfriends, anti-male Hollywood, anti-male mainstream media etc.

    • @EmeraldEdge72
      @EmeraldEdge72 5 років тому

      @@Johnathan Myers You are correct sir! I was analyzing the ISIS brides who wanted to come back to the UK. What the group thinks or group conversion is a thing. Whether the woman thinks for herself and ignores the group because the man has delivered and will deliver is one thing entirely. With the ISIS girl she was sold a *better group* narrative. Women are easily swayed because they chase ideals or think with them. Once ISIS was defeated she no longer has a group. Women need groups for safety etc. as to them the group provides hence their herd mentality and way of thinking. With no group she cannot have a proper life that she desires.
      So even if a man is seeking a woman she will also vet him based on what part of group he is in or with. If his group fails, which a lot of people tend to only see as lost their job, she will leave.

  • @Rayquesto
    @Rayquesto 5 років тому +1

    1:02:40 "I was thinking Rob because you have the same beard" Hahaha

  • @mensaswede4028
    @mensaswede4028 5 років тому +2

    Only a few women are trainable. Of the few that are, some are more trainable than others. Very trainable women are very rare. Good luck with that

  • @recyclespinning9839
    @recyclespinning9839 5 років тому +2

    Women are taught by their parents, before the age of 11 . After that too late....>>>>>>>
    One thing I got to say, if she paying for her Masters, she can go for it.

  • @jmw1982blue
    @jmw1982blue 5 років тому +1

    Since I'm posting this on Veteran's Day, shout out to Jodi!

  • @walkerskii
    @walkerskii 5 років тому +1

    To Aaron Cleary's point at 44 minutes: I'm glad he's being positive instead of simply, but even if you're able to train a woman to be marriage material (a "June Cleaver") society around her we'll be battling against you, with commercialism, social media & peer pressure... You'd definitely have to keep a tight leash on her.

  • @randyrandall2148
    @randyrandall2148 2 місяці тому

    The funny thing is that the friend restaurant dude is probably a multi-millionaire now because his real estate likely doubled over the past 4 years. Or something like that. Roy Croc of McDonalds was once asked about being in the burger business. He said, "what do you mean? I'm in the real estate business. I just sell burgers to support the real estate."

  • @edenbreckhouse
    @edenbreckhouse 4 роки тому +1

    If the cross a boundary you do not pull back and let them do bullshit guessing games. You tell them straight that they crossed a boundary and that you're angry.

    • @CEWIII9873
      @CEWIII9873 3 роки тому

      Angry enough for cops to be called?

  • @ModelJames13
    @ModelJames13 Рік тому +1

    Yeah but how do I make a million dollars?💰

  • @cvaria
    @cvaria 5 років тому

    The "no" to the guy wanting to move in with the woman.. I totally agree

  • @thecommentmonster
    @thecommentmonster 5 років тому +1

    Gary was so focused on why she meets his criteria, but had no ability to assess why height not meet her criteria

  • @keeperofknowledge4120
    @keeperofknowledge4120 5 років тому +4

    For Gary: the truth is, there is probably another guy in the picture. Also, there's almost 15 years of an age difference. To some women, things like that don't matter. But to others, especially the ones that worry about what their friends will say and how their social circle is set up, it can be a deal breaker. I can tell you, being in academia myself, that women in the research world, while they are intelligent, are still susceptible to the same, irrational decision making when it comes to men, as a high school drop out.

    • @mensaswede4028
      @mensaswede4028 5 років тому +2

      Women who come to the table with a FWB guy on the side are nearly impenetrable regarding an LTR. You, as a stranger, simply cannot compete with some alpha guy that she already knows will deliver the butterflies.

  • @Corneliaa
    @Corneliaa 5 років тому +3

    I think Suzanne Venker would be a great guest for your show. She talks a lot about training yourself to be a better partner /wife from a female point of view. She was also in the Red Pill movie.

  • @GameBuilder15
    @GameBuilder15 5 років тому +4

    Lets hear more about tanks, you can do a whole show on them and I'll listen

  • @davidrodgers9558
    @davidrodgers9558 5 років тому +4

    They train easy at first .. They are all into your world tell they see its not all perfect and all about them ... Then they flake on you .. You never know who a women really is out of the box do to the con job to land a man they do...

  • @duncanmacleod4602
    @duncanmacleod4602 5 років тому +2

    Question, do you guys think its better to be a BIG FISH in a small pond, or a SMALL FISH in a large pond for meeting women? For example, financially I am doing well, but in NYC I feel like women just don't notice me and are not that friendly. I would hate to go live in a smaller dating pool, but maybe that would be way better than living in NYC. What do you all think? Thanks.

    • @CEWIII9873
      @CEWIII9873 3 роки тому

      Don't make major life decisions based on women.
      Your matrix should be where are opportunities, cost of living and quality of life

    • @cooperpayne
      @cooperpayne 2 роки тому

      Get out of the city if you haven't already

  • @joec1212
    @joec1212 5 років тому +1

    Yes if she respects you, and especially if you're a quote 'high value' male. You can only really train her how you want to be treated to a degree. If shes a promiscuous skank no you cant train her. You cant keep her from being a skank. The best thing is not to care about an outcome. Eventually you always figure out who people are good or bad. Enjoy the ride gents, and dont put up with bad behavior.

  • @paulstaples6590
    @paulstaples6590 5 років тому +4

    Do a vibeo on sleeping with a woman on the first date if it's a mutual idea or if the women wants to or if the guy wants to, and what it means .I have my opinion but quite interested in what you guys say about it .

    • @VoiceOfThe
      @VoiceOfThe 5 років тому

      Look up 9 Iron Rules Of (Rollo) Tomassi on here. He goes into great detail about this! He discusses the differences in what makes women feel attraction and what makes them feel arousal. Your question is tied in to what he talks about. It’s very, very interesting.
      Also, read his book - The Rational Male.

  • @juliethompson4899
    @juliethompson4899 3 роки тому +1

    Can you stop allowing people who can't speak English or are too quiet

  • @MarvelousMusicmmusic
    @MarvelousMusicmmusic 5 років тому +5

    Patrice O'Neal says yes

    • @MarvelousMusicmmusic
      @MarvelousMusicmmusic 5 років тому +1

      @@roas2 bs they can't. Famous or not he's a severely overweight dude. But when you understand women and know how to communicate with them dating becomes sooo much easier

    • @robzombie5928
      @robzombie5928 5 років тому +5

      Patrice in this day and age would be having a field day

    • @EvolianTiger
      @EvolianTiger 5 років тому

      @@roas2
      How was he a sociopath?

  • @LaserGuidedLoogie
    @LaserGuidedLoogie 5 років тому +3

    We need cult deprogrammers.

  • @RemcoStoutjesdijk
    @RemcoStoutjesdijk 5 років тому +1

    Barely half way through and this one is epic. You can Cappy jive well.

  • @blahmayne910
    @blahmayne910 5 років тому +1

    This episode suck.... Dr Shaun was missed 💯

    • @4Mikes4Mindset4
      @4Mikes4Mindset4 5 років тому +1

      Change is good for the mind even if for comparison change. I'll say you most likely suck to hang out with live.

  • @juliannacalifornia
    @juliannacalifornia 5 років тому +1

    Just curious, what would happen if YOU wanted to get your Masters in English (or whatever interests you). Seriously, I'm curious!

    • @mensaswede4028
      @mensaswede4028 5 років тому +7

      A Masters degree is a massive investment of time and money. Therefore high-value men don't bother with Masters degrees that aren't useful. Men have the burden of performance in life and are harshly judged by said performance. A man (unless he's independently wealthy) wanting an English degree "because it interests him" is not a smart/valuable man.

    • @4Mikes4Mindset4
      @4Mikes4Mindset4 5 років тому

      @Precision penaltyshot she's under 30?

  • @thedaywalkervlog9860
    @thedaywalkervlog9860 5 років тому +2

    Donovan Sharpe has a course lol

  • @Sisterlisk
    @Sisterlisk 5 років тому +2

    Dude calling in for free financial advice lol not even talking about the topic

    • @lukedavis6711
      @lukedavis6711 5 років тому +1

      Smart guy lol

    • @4Mikes4Mindset4
      @4Mikes4Mindset4 5 років тому +1

      Let me talk on topic then... Training you to be one of the 1% unicorns...

    • @Sisterlisk
      @Sisterlisk 5 років тому

      @@4Mikes4Mindset4 Is this flirting?

  • @RazorShalom
    @RazorShalom Рік тому +1

    It is nice to know that I'm spending my last days with you guys with you rich before I turn the Wi-Fi off for permanently cuz I can't win I'm nothing like you guys I can't do what you guys want to do it's too late in the game buddy out there for me my son's mother stripped away everything about me masculating me she's taking everything from me

  • @AlexKono999
    @AlexKono999 Рік тому

    8th time? On second time she is out.

  • @CoachatCole
    @CoachatCole 5 років тому +1

    Why would you want to join lives with someone that needs training ? Just walk away.

    • @4Mikes4Mindset4
      @4Mikes4Mindset4 5 років тому

      Trick observation... They all need some level of training. Even for short term sanity