Drs Doug Lisle & Jen Howk Answer Your Questions on Jealousy, Depression, Dissing Your Parents & More

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  • Опубліковано 2 чер 2024
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    Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk are the co-stars of the Beat YourGenes Podcast which you can listen to here: beatyourgenes.org/
    Douglas J. Lisle, PhD, received his PhD in Psychology from the University of Virginia. He was appointed Lecturer in Psychology at Stanford University, and is the psychologist for The McDougall Wellness Program. He is the Director of Research for the TrueNorth Health Center, and lectures nationally on topics including evolutionary psychology, cognitive therapy, and lifestyle modification. He is in private practice. He is co-author of the groundbreaking book, The Pleasure Trap.
    Dr. Jennifer Howk is an author, researcher, and interdisciplinary social scientist. She earned her PhD from Harvard University. Her graduate work and ongoing academic research explore questions at the intersection of social vulnerability, resilience, and well-being.
    In her coaching work, Dr. Howk follows an approach that draws upon core insights from powerful research in evolutionary psychology, specifically the "Esteem Dynamics" framework pioneered by TrueNorth's staff psychologist, Dr. Doug Lisle. Her clinical interests are wide-ranging, but she is especially interested in helping clients through problems of esteem processes, addiction and recovery, and mastering the pathways of human motivation.
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    VIDEO CHAPTERS
    00:00 Guest intros and viewer Q & A including jealousy, and dissing your parents
    0:36:48 Continued viewer Q & A on depression
    1:07:40 Continued viewer Q & A on body hair and more
    1:13:55 Final thoughts and show wrap
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  • @maryloulongenbaugh7069
    @maryloulongenbaugh7069 Рік тому +12

    Relationships with adult children are eye opening. I see them for about 2 hours every 2 months, or 12 hours a year. I've moved on. I remind myself they are happy, functional, and supporting themselves.

  • @elizabethmaedavenport
    @elizabethmaedavenport Рік тому +13

    “Feelings are a prescription for action”. Love this!!

  • @Godisgood173
    @Godisgood173 Рік тому +11

    I agree totally with what he said and it’s always been my belief that you can’t make yourself love someone or make them love you. I stayed in a very unhappy marriage for 20 years trying to make myself love a man I didn’t love and felt guilty for not reciprocating the emotion. I felt responsible for his happiness, but he was so selfish, he didn’t care that I was so unhappy being with him. When I got sick and started to gain weight, suddenly, he didn’t love me anymore and left me for, quoting his words, “ a size 10, drop dead gorgeous model, and I was built like a brick shithouse!” I then lived with bitterness and resentment for having wasted the best years of my life, with a horrible man, I didn’t love, just because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings!! How stupid was I.

    • @abbygailhavel3655
      @abbygailhavel3655 Рік тому +3

      He’s gone, Start rebuilding your life with joy, hugs🌷

  • @maryloulongenbaugh7069
    @maryloulongenbaugh7069 Рік тому +2

    Jealousy is a death knell to a relationship. Assuming both partners are behaving and adult, when one person has an unrealistic or irrational jealousy, it something that needs immediate attention. A sign can be when dating. If one person curtails your old friends and social life, be aware.

  • @musicnotes4755
    @musicnotes4755 3 місяці тому +1

    When is Dr Lisle's new book going to come out?

  • @robyniaea5172
    @robyniaea5172 Рік тому +1

    Optimal overlap at minute 31 and the Cheap Trick reference is so rich. And Dr. Howk is brilliant as always! Amazing.

    • @CHEFAJ
      @CHEFAJ  Рік тому +2

      Glad you liked it!

  • @HeyYall398
    @HeyYall398 Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much Chef AJ for making this happen. You are awesome.

  • @inhale3384
    @inhale3384 Рік тому +6

    Thanks for the “chop liver” question. I could totally relate! It was nice hearing the Doctors’ opinion. Thank you so much! Bless your heart Chef AJ, I liked your common sense suggestions too.

  • @robyniaea5172
    @robyniaea5172 Рік тому +6

    my two favorite doctors! love them :)

  • @VeganKids1
    @VeganKids1 Рік тому +1

    Hi Chef AJ! Love your content!

  • @mchagawa1615
    @mchagawa1615 Рік тому +1

    Always interesting :) thank you so much

  • @raquelcoco5101
    @raquelcoco5101 Рік тому

    Love this, thank you Chef AJ!

  • @maryloulongenbaugh7069
    @maryloulongenbaugh7069 Рік тому

    Love your colorful top. Very flattering.

  • @elizabethheiland5632
    @elizabethheiland5632 Рік тому +4

    I'm so thankful Dr. Lisle has opened my mind to the problem with pharmaceutical drugs for the brain. Love hearing their take on depression, so enlightening

  • @samjones7038
    @samjones7038 4 місяці тому +1

    I have tremendous respect for Dr Lisle but I am confused about his answer to what causes depression. He says it is competitive stress. Naomi Judd disclosed that she was a survivor of childhood sexual abuse . I would have thought that that would cause depression, it must change how you feel about yourself and others. Wouldnt that lead to depression?

  • @calengr1
    @calengr1 Рік тому +2

    19:55 "psychology is a subset of biology..."

  • @peter5.056
    @peter5.056 Рік тому +3

    pass. After Lisle's stance on what schizophrenia is, I now doubt him. He's spot on when it comes to why eat the way we do, but his opinions on topics outside of that will be ignored by me.

    • @joanowens7941
      @joanowens7941 Рік тому +1

      I disagree with him a LOT but when he's not offending me, he's so damn perfect.

    • @peter5.056
      @peter5.056 Рік тому +2

      @@joanowens7941 Lisle is FAR from a great psychologist. He is THE EXPERT at food psychology, but elsewhere? Mmm....it's a no from me. The thing that gets me is that he's SO confident on points that I know he's wrong. Frankly, he would do much better to stick to food and it's effects on the human mind.

    • @peter5.056
      @peter5.056 Рік тому +3

      @@joanowens7941 I have a degree in psychology myself, and some of the things he comes out with leave me speechless....in a bad way!

    • @michaelwiddis5997
      @michaelwiddis5997 Рік тому

      His answer to jealousy was stumbling, fumbling and unacceptable.

    • @JC-ct4yc
      @JC-ct4yc Рік тому +1

      Relieved to see others with doubts about this approach to psychology. I also think the "pleasure trap" is spot on. However, I cannot believe nurture has no part to play in who we become. Lisle appears to put our problems solely down to our personality traits. I look forward to reading the new book and seeing how this is justified.

  • @AmaiJanice
    @AmaiJanice Рік тому +2

    Jyotish Vedic Astrology is way more precise and accounts for a lot
    Psychology as Jen describes the initial portion of segment cannot compare in my experience

  • @michaelwiddis5997
    @michaelwiddis5997 Рік тому +2

    It was difficult trying to listen to Lisle stumble and fumble trying to answer a question in relation to how to handle jealousy. Stories about pianos, dogs, being in the forrest were part of the answer merry go round. Finally he gave 2 answers >> he said he did not know how to handle jealous, the other answer was to become more competitive. When he defined jealousy he actually gave the definition of being envious instead of that for jealousy, I could not watch the remainder of this video. We really have to be careful whom we make our gurus.

    • @Nina-hk7ub
      @Nina-hk7ub Рік тому

      What would your answer be?