Jealous sisters taking over the wedding - REACTION
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He wasn't fussing over paying her. He was fussing because they agreed that he would pay at a later date, and she suddenly ignored it and asked for the money upfront.
And her lack of professionalism (arriving late, not staying for the whole thing, not making sure OP and Wife made a list of photos they wanted). I'd leave a negative comment about her, and ask friends to as well, along with backing up OP and Wife when ex-Sis responds to say it wasn't like that.
I think Charlotte was saying that the crappy sister was the one fussing
@@lizthedisjointedzebra692 she mentioned he was fussing over the money too, but IMO he wasn't, he was just upset that she blindsided him and wanted the money before the agreed date
And she didn't even do the job she was paid for!
And she ignored his reasonable request to not post the pics on to her social media. Funny how she had no problem using them to promote her business only to say she’ll delete them and act like she never took them.
Only reason why brother expected free services from the sister is because he busted his butt making her wedding work by providing all the food, dj, and had friends that helped with performing. Plus she offered free services to her friend. Its insane that anyone considered him the asshole for the sister basically causing all sorts of problems. Lets not forget agreeing on a later date for payment and her blackmailing him to pay sooner or shell destroy the pictures.
OP is not the a hole
Exactly this! If I worked my butt off at my sisters wedding, helped paid for food and got her a free DJ along with doing the clean up. Yeah, I think it’s fair that I would expect her to help me out too. But forget all about that - to leave your brother’s wedding to go cheat on your husband and leave him hanging. - No I can’t even. She is the AH.
I totally agree!
EXACTLY.
Yeah, he also never says anything about ever actually telling her that he was surprised she wouldn't extend the same generosity to him(her actual family) as she extended to one of her friends-it sounded to me like that was more an internal thought/feeling, but he kept it to himself at least until bringing the issue to reddit(to try and explain his standpoint/feelings and why he was even there wondering aita at all and kinda personally not feeling like he was yet acknowledging how he could see that he maybe might have been) and at every other turn simply agreed to pay her, just asked if he could do so at a future date after he actually had that much money on hand to give to her(like he can't pay anyone money he doesn't have - and if you can't turn to family to ask for a little helping out when you really can't manage all on your own then who else can you turn to in pinch? Instead, he had to turn to another family member to help pay her after she breached like all of their agreed upon terms, not him).
wasn't the original agreement was for him to pay at a later date?
The older sister sounds super jealous to me. Like, God forbid there’s a day and event that’s NOT ABOUT HER!?!?! That’s the vibe I’m getting.
That is exactly what a narcissist would do. My oldest sister is exactly like this.
Yep. She is selfish. She knew for months when this wedding was. She planned a "camping" trip with her boss for the same day and insisted on giving her husband divorce papers before that day. She doesn't care at all about her brother. She wanted to serve her husband and go do her boss. That was all she cared about. There was no reason in the world that she had to plan that camping trip on that specific day.
Exactly what I thought! She is selfish!!
Yep. Sadly, both women and men in sibling relationships who experience sibling jealousy for one family member cannot find it in their heart to celebrate their family's joys. IT HAS to be about them. :((
@@professionalcommentermine too! Ruins everything if it’s not about her.
No excuse for the sister in the first story. She agreed to be there as the photographer so her behavior is completely unprofessional.
And she had the choice many times to opt out and I think even if OP paid her either before or soon after the wedding, she would’ve been just as inconsiderate. Only difference would be there would be no water mark in the pics she posted without OPs consent on her platform
Plus they had written statements saying how the brother would pay at a later date. I wonder if they could've sued, since she created so much drama over $300, and was trying to go against the original agreement placed.
She's not a sister, she's an enemy.
@@vanovasmith9586 That's what I was thinking. Sue her for the job that she did not do.
She gave him the $300 price. She should have just said no. She too caught up in her own cheating life to care.
Imagine severing a relationship with your brother over $300, being one hour late to said job, then leaving early to go be with the guy you’ve been cheating on your husband with. Then threatening to delete the photos of your brother doesn’t pay you immediately and posting the photos without their permission. Also serving the divorce papers the day before your brothers wedding seems like a dick move.
I get the feeling she did that because the soon to be ex might find out about the affair and a divorce attorney would clean her clock.
I’d leave a review on her professional business page 🤷🏻♀️
This guy probably also calls dating 19yr olds pedophilia.
I don’t have to imagine, unfortunately. I have brothers like this. It’s abhorrent behavior and I hope Karma finds that sister.
@@raeclair1373k
I met a client when i worked at a pickup counter for a courrier service. She was picking up her wedding album over a year after her wedding. Her photog got in a car accident and the photos of her wedding/reception were destroyed. So she had no photos of her wedding at all. So on her first anniversary, her friends and family re-staged her wedding. There was a professional photog there but also the guests were encouraged to take photos. She said it was magical. It still warms my heart.
I love this!
Restores one's faith in the goodness of most people.
Unfortunately, the person described by OP sounds like she has significant mental health issues.🤨
My mom and dad had no pictures of their wedding because they asked a friend of theirs to do it and would have had a lot of great shots if he had remembered to take the lens cap off.
Also that first anniversary idea sounds really sweet for that bride.
That's so cute! I love that!
Personally, I'm gonna go with NTA for the first story. They negotiated a price and a payment plan, which she agreed to. Not only that, but he'd worked HER wedding prior, even helping her plan entertainment and catering which he paid for himself. He never expected her to work for free. Not only could she have said no, she was unprofessional and downright bratty from the start (to him and the husband she was cheating on).
JMO, but I think that the $300 was the balance due, not the total ⁉️
Yeah, I'm surprised Charlotte doesn't seem to put any store by the fact that he worked his ass off for his sister's wedding. There's such a thing as reciprocation, and it's an adult thing, too. The sister sounds like a spoilt brat who thinks the world revolves around her.
@@marshawargo7238 either way, she changed the terms of the contract after the fact.
@@Serai3
Yeah, I was like, didn’t you just say he paid for her wedding entertainment and cleaned up afterwards?!!!!
As someone who used to work as a wedding photographer (assistant and on my own) but also had a band and worked some weddings. Performing at someone's wedding is a different kind of work than shooting someone's wedding. As a band, we still get to mingle as guests and all the set-up and clean-up is done afterwards... yes, it is still absolutely hard work though and, as a family, it would've been nice for her to take that into account.
But I agree he is not the asshole! She not only walked back on the specific date he's supposed to pay, she's asking her to pay her the full amount negotiated even if she didn't even shoot the whole wedding. She's late and left early, out of the important "shots" photographers are supposed to shoot, she only did two: ceremony and group shots.
She missed: getting ready, reception - couple/entourage entrance, first dance, dance with parents, speeches/toasts, cake cutting, boquet throwing, couple exit.
If I missed any of those, I would feel so awful asking for full price ngl.
The brother gave the sister the option to not take the job from the beginning... she caused all of this by agreeing to take the job that she wasn't even interested in!!!
I think that the $300 was the balance, not the total! I'm sorry but I yelled at Charlotte when she said that was a low price for photo's😢!!! Of course that's just the way I interpreted it😮
Right, and it seems like everyone missed what he said he did for her wedding. He did so much for her and this is how she's repayed him? I don't think he's an AH at all tbh. He gave her an out and they agreed on a payment date and she couldn't be bothered to stick to anything they agreed on.. AND she's cheating on her husband. Everything that went wrong started with her but people are trying to put it on him.
And besides, the DH and groom made all these plans before she served him papers so how is he getting bashed for having yhe sistes soon to be ex in the wedding?? I'm so confused lol, it seems like there's lots of people who would try to justify bad behavior at someone else's expense :(
I hope he and his new wife can afford a re do ceremony one day. ❤
@@soldier371exactly. Some of the comments Charlotte read and even she herself added, I don't agree with where they blame OP and say he sucks. All of that could had been avoided if the sister refused. Seems to me she and her boss will get divorced, then she will go to her brother for help. All of her moves, her behaviour was terrible and non-excusable.
@ladyaphrodite379 absolutely! The sister was trying to distract from all the horrible crap she was doing that day.
And now she is continuously dragging their name through the mud so that people don't focus on the fact that she's a horrible human.
He needs to grow a damn spine and either threaten to sue her for all of the lines she's been posting and telling people.......OR he needs to actually do it and go to the police about how she was trying a whole extortion angle.......
They are in the states and they have evidence, public pages, and witnesses to legitimately illegal activities. 🙄🙄
Not to mention depending upon what state they are in, both her and her boss could be in legal trouble for cheating!!
@@soldier371 I am so confused as well... I worked as a wedding photographer/editor so I tend to agree that, out of all the services, you can gift a family... this should not be it. Unless it's a small and relaxed wedding, it would've been impossible to enjoy the wedding as a guest/photographer.
BUT she had time to say no. I don't think he's an asshole for being a little taken aback that her sister wanted to talk about payment upfront but it wasn't like he threw a hissy fit over it and they agreed on a payment plan. Whether $300 is appropriate or not, we don't know because 1) its been years 2) we don't know the quality of her photos. Again, I worked as an assistant photographer/editor for someone charging $5000 as base price back in 2010. At the same time, as I was building my portfolio on my own, I charged $350 for a civil ceremony + small reception (think 4 hours, 20 people).
ANYWAY, also she's fussing over payment when im sure she only shot ceremony and group pictures. She was late so she most likely missed getting ready shots and she left early so no reception -- no first dance, dance with mom/dad, cake cutting, couple leaving the ceremony and driving off or something, and most importantly no photos of guests having fun and mingling which honestly takes the bulk of the photographs! So we apparently okay about photographers holding our photos over our heads and asking for the discussed amount even if they didn't even manage to hold up the end of their bargain.
I used to have a strained relationship with my twin sister. Despite this, I asked her to be maid of honor at my wedding. She said she didn't want to wear a stupid dress and said no. So I then asked her to sing a song during our entrance. She started the song as we walked down the aisle and when we got to the front of the aisle, she stopped singing, walked over and stopped the music halfway through the song. Just stopped it and walked off to an empty seat. She did not want to be in any pictures and just wore a plain denim dress. I never said anything about it to her, but it really upset me at the time.
That was nearly 30 years ago, and when she went through her divorce, she changed. She realized she acted like a brat at my wedding and we are now closer than we ever were. We are 50 now and still have sleepovers with our friends and support each other when life gets difficult. So there is hope sister will turn it around one day and grow up.
Oh gosh, that story took an unexpected wholesome twist! I'm so glad you've ended up having a good relationship with her! 💞
happy for you : )
I'm glad she changed because wow that behavior is so rude
The second story raised my blood pressure.
She should just go full no contact with her entire family because they are absolutely horrible to her. She deserves so much better.
It's the only way to go. Family dynamics don't change unless the offenders want to change. I got bullied for the last time and cut off my sister and aunt. I felt so much relief. Don't have a relationship with someone just because "they're family"! I have my chosen family, who love and support me. 🥰
Right?! My anxiety was through the freaking roof with that one big yikes
100%. When she says her parent's side with her sister because she has the grandbabies, I am like, 'you will have grandbabies too, I am sure, and your parents will not have any contact with them'. Their loss. I am going through the same issue with my family, but after hearing this story, I am fully prepared for the no contact.
her family sucks no wonder she let all of that bs slip time and time again, it's because she has no support
@@lylagray9669Yeah, that detail put everything else in perspective for me. I’m guessing the sister has always been the parents’ favorite and OP is bending over backward for her because she knows if she doesn’t, her entire family will punish her for it. I kept muttering to myself “just elope, just f-ing elope.”
My cousin didn't hire a photographer, he told us all to whip out the phones any chance we got, WE provided the wedding pics and honestly they were amazing. All of them were organic and in the moment with only a few being posed for, so we captured every moment of natural joy, affection and fun. His photos are still my favourite wedding pictures I've seen ❤
That's great but I would never do that with my family. I'll end up with photos with half my head and random blurred pics of shoes and curtains or something. They're a mess.
Someone I know did the same, and the photos were great.
However, when using them for a visa application, it was assumed they were fake and staged.
Thank God for social media - some of the photos were uploaded at the time and so screenshots were provided with the uploaded/published date
We had disposable cameras at the reception for the guests to use. In addition to the photographer. Some candid shots were great, many were blurry or oddly framed. Would do the same again.
Glad it turned out well for you but it is risky and I've know a couple who regretted going that route.
Funny enough, one of my absolute favourite photos from my wedding was taken by my husband's great aunt. It was a hobby she took up when her doctor advised her to get an outside interest to help reduce her stress. So having guests take pics might be the way of the future!
My Grandpa offered to take our wedding photos for free. He had a great camera and did a lot of the photos for my younger sisters’ cheerleading competitions. We did not have a ton of money and our wedding was at my grandparents’ house (a log cabin on acres of land so it was beautiful) so I was really appreciative. My older sister was a freelance photographer and saw that my grandpa had no idea what he was doing for wedding shots (I didn’t mind I was happy to have any pictures 😊). She jumped in and took over for free and they turned out beautiful! I am forever grateful for both of them and all they did for us. Sometimes, family is amazing. I tried to pay and they wouldn’t have it. I wish more people could be as awesome as my family was that day.
Thus nature balances itself.❤
Couple things that got overlooked in the 1st Story:
1.) Brother literally went out of his way to assist the sister during her wedding. He secured the DJ and the equipment as well as got his band mates to assist w/ setup and tear down and clean up, these things normally would cost a good amount ($1500 minimum) she didn't have to pay a thing. The sister gave away a wedding package to friends, which as a professional is her right, but wouldn't consider doing the same to her brother who literally shelled out a good chunk of change to help her during her own wedding.
2.) She entered into a contract w/ the brother and then violated the terms at every turn. She was far from professional, did bare minimum, and yet expected full payment AHEAD of the agreed upon date of payment. OP SHOULD write a negative review as this was a business arrangement and does not need this toxic individual in their personal life anyway. (Bombs Away)
3.) She had been having an affair for 3 months. She had 3 months to decide that she was no longer interested in maintaining her marriage yet CHOSE to decide on divorce 2 days prior to the ceremony, and served the papers the day before. This was an intentional move on her part, particularly as she was there so she could shack up w/ her boss at the camp ground.
4.) OP asking her to behave cordially and to be civil during his wedding is NOT a big ask. It is the bare minimum. She should already be trying to avoid drama, not only because she is a PAID 'PROFESSIONAL' at the event but because that is something that should be a gimme from a well intentioning member of the family.
5.) The plans made for the ceremony that involved the sisters ex-husband were made MONTHS in advance and if there was an issue on the sister's part, she neither voiced them to OP nor did she attempt to find responsible resolution, so I don't buy that argument at all. Sister's ex does not get a pass either, his was equally an ass-hat move.
This right here
I didn't see anything that the OP did wrong.
Anyone saying he was being this or that negatively is just wrong.
For every reason you listed!
Wonder if that last comment that called brother out was made by the sister.
@@aya_nz Damn yeah it could be. Because everything sister did was unreasonable and that commenter still found an excuse.
Don't forget she's still telling lies and slandering her brother years after the wedding
Completely agree with all of your assessments.
My ex and I had been invited to a wedding of a close friend as a couple, but we were in the process of our divorce at the time of said wedding. We still went together and were cordial and respectful, because we were there for our friends. Their wedding had nothing to do with us and our issues.
My MIL folded all my laundry wrong during postpartum. To this day, she didn’t know it was wrong. They couldn’t even fit in my drawer that way, but I was so grateful. Because how amazing that someone cares enough to leave their laundry pile to fold yours.
Same! My husband and I joked about my family being house elves. They’d magically fix the house for us but would do it all wrong 😂 but it’s invaluable postpartum.
I aspire to be this chill about laundry. I just can't rn.
@stadot1427 this comment took me out 😂🤣 cuz fr im crazy about my laundry
My husband constantly folds my clothes in such a way that they don’t fit in the drawers well. Do I say anything? Yes!! I say “THANKS, SWEETIE.” Your MIL sounds like a gem and so do you.😊
BOOM!!! And that's what so many people don't get!!! Be grateful that ANYONE cares about you enough to do anything for you ahead of themselves, I'm a nut job about my towels, pants, certain shirts and EVERYTHING has a place but geez Louise people have just stopped appreciating things if they aren't done just perfectly🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
As someone who has gone no contact with my toxic sister and a low contact with my parents. It sucks at first but has made my life significantly better.
That first story made me do a double take. I just got married a couple of months ago, and my photographer never asked for a shot list. He picked the poses and the shots (family, ceremony, getting ready, solos, staged items etc...) And took me and my husband to locations he thought looked spectacular for our couple's photos. A professional wedding photographer knows exactly what to photograph and does not need a shot list.
P.S. CONGRATS CHARLOTTE AND MIKE!!! SO happy for you both! ❤🍾
I think it depends on experience, instinct, the couples preferences, and trusting your photographer to do your photos justice.
A professional photographer also doesn't miss the reception. They gave no cake cutting photos or first dance photos. No toasts from MO or BM. She acted unprofessionally and was an unsupportive, selfish sister. Unbelievable
My oldest daughter's photographer asked for a photo list which was the first time we'd heard of such a thing. We tried to come up w some stuff but I was very disappointed in what we got.
If there are shots that you really want to be included it makes sense to have a list for the photographer but if they have done many weddings before they would have a list of shots in mind already.
My daughter’s photographer during her wedding didn’t asked for a shot list. She and her partner(the photographer) took absolutely perfect pictures and a video of the whole wedding and reception. The photographer was very professional.
The first guy is NTA ..payment plan was in place . His sister was late for a job that she agreed to do and agreed to the payment plan..giving the divorce papers the day before her brothers wedding is a total shit move ..and leaveing her brothers wedding to sleep with her boss makes her the A-hole
OP in the first story: is your whole family dysfunctional?
And on top of that, husband was in the ceremony because he's on good terms with the couple. That could've been planned before the issues really started to rise between the sister and him, and that was 100% before the divorce thing because the sister said that…right before the wedding. So like, yeah no. Total NTA. Maybe could've handled some things better in hindsight, but like…? Kinda not really?
Eh but the context in the beginning...he didn't set aside money for a photographer, was surprised she was charging him, and then said he'd pay later, but expected to get photos before he paid? If she didn't agree to so the photos, what would he have done? No other photographer would do a layaway for photos. He also brought up all the things he did for her...he budgeted for free photos
@@shellytacomedy Counterpoint, context given at the end, he was likely thinking it'd be a favor for a favor, because he did a job for her wedding for free.
It is still weird that he doesn't have all the funds for a wedding. That part of the video did raise my brow a bit, because… Why have a wedding when you can't afford $300 currently?
I agree. Every siblings relationship is different and I am a professional singer, and I have actually given that as the gift to several of my friends as their wedding gift if they had a closer or different type relationship, perhaps the sister might’ve considered giving the gift of Photography as a wedding gift to her brother and the bride. It sounds like they just don’t have that kind of relationship, personally I think the first guy was not the asshole and the sister was totally in the wrong. She sounded horribly terribly selfish. I would never leave my siblings wedding day. In fact I had both my siblings in my weddings yet neither of them had me in theirs. My sister ran away to get married, and it crushed me horribly that I could not be in hers and my brother got married a few months after I had him in my wedding and, he did not choose me to be a part of his. It sounds like the sister was very jealous of the brothers happiness and it sounded like money was more important to her than their relationship
My husband’s relative is a very fancy and famous make up artist in our area. They’re not super close. He was doing my hair and makeup with a $400 discount. His services are very expensive so he made it affordable. I was so happy with the job he’s done! He of course was also invited to the wedding. I was 100% sure that the discount is a gift itself (again I was extremely happy! I never looked so good in my entire life)
I was shocked when I learned that he also gifted us money for the wedding. Such a nice person!
That first story! I immediately knew the sister was going to a campsite to meet up with an affair partner. I just didn't guess it would be her boss 😂
Right?! Same. 😂
Same :D
For the first story, I am still on the side of the groom, even if he may not have been the best brother. As you say,
A] She has aaaall the time to say "No, I won't do it", if she wanted to be just a guest, or if it was too cheap
B] She has already done a wedding for a friend for free ; and her brother has done A LOT of things for her own wedding for free, so I understand why it would be expected to have the favor returned.
C] She doesn't have to serve the divorce papers the day before. She could have waited until after the wedding, or serve them 2 weeks before, and avoid having the divorce planning as much on the wedding ; so that's totally on her, there is not "putting her life on hold" for that. She chooses to do it the more obnoxious timing concerning her brother's wedding
D] She accepts a job and a timetable for payment, and manage to not do the job, by not working on the planning of the photoshoot, and by coming late and leaving early ; and not respecting the previously agreed upon paiement timetable.
E] He should not have to sever all relationship with his BIL because they are divorcing, unless he was abusive.
Agree, 100%. And OP mentioned he was really close to BIL. and all we know is that SHE cheated. So why should he uninvite a good BIL from the wedding
I’m sorry, but if you’re married to someone for more than like six months, even if you divorce, you’re still kinda sorta related. I still call my cousins dad my uncle, even though he and my aunt divorced 25 years ago. He was my uncle throughout my childhood. Those memories don’t disappear, because I’m technically related to him.
Was there a contract signed about her doing the photography, stipulating when she would be there, how long and payment details? If there was, legal consequences could follow.
@@jacklow9611I'd sue her for taking about the situation 3 years after the incident and still painting brother in a bad light
Either for harassment if people she or he knows are made to hate him
Or for a cease and desist to shut her trap😅
Not a good brother? He sounds like an amazing brother and stepped up in a huge way for her wedding.
My aunt does NOT like my mom. She was the only child and center of attention for 12 years and my mom ruined that. My grandmother even told me stories about how she would give them a marshmallow every day as a treat since she didnt like a lot of sugar in the house and one day there was only 1 marshmallow so she goes to hand it to my mom who was 3 at the time and my aunt (15) snatch it away from a literal child and ate it before anyone could do anything. Made my mom cry. That is the dynamic to this day. My mom is so kind and gentle, she takes everything to heart and has burst into tears before because she just wants her sister to love her. My aunt has to make everything a competition or a one up. She HAS to have more money, the bigger house, the more successful kid. Shes honestly insufferable.
Honestly sounds like the child who got forgotten and is SCREAMING for attention. The marshmallow story tells me that it's quite possible their parents didn't do a good job treating them fairly. I would have cut that marshmallow in half. You don't play favourites. The aunt was still a kid, too. It's a shame she projects that onto her sister still, but it's also not a surprise.
Your aunt sounded exactly like my aunt. My aunt is one of my late granny's sisters and let me tell you, you do not want to meet with her in person, oh no you don't. My late granny has two sisters who are, along with her, would be INVESTED when it comes to drama. My late granny was from my mom's side, and I'm pretty sure you can tell there is always drama. Especially before I was born and up to now. My mom's side of the family.... Its not pretty. Anyway, my aunt also has to make EVERYTHING a competition and sometimes would even compare me with her kids who are way older than me, because I'm not entirely "independent". I don't get when it comes to "wealthy" family members they just have to talk about themselves. Especially when it comes to massive drama.
I love how annoyed Charlotte is as soon as she hears someone is late 😂 Finally someone matches my energy
I can not stand being late, and especially if im waiting around for others who are always late. I now leave them😂
I know, it annoys me so much when people come in late and unprepared.
For context, I work at a testing center, and we stay open until the last person is finished. Nothing is more frustrating when someone comes in late (no call in ahead to give us the heads up or apologies) and takes their whole time when we could have been out of there like a half hour ago.
@@alyssaagnew4147 Mmmmm that perso wouldn't like me, I'd be having a meeting with HR
I apologize on behalf of every person who is chronically late bc of time blindness (I have adhd). Everyone else who is late just sucks lol
Waves of Virgo disapproval just radiating off at the mere phrase "was late..." Is perfection
The first story where everyone seems to be honed in on the detail of him expecting the services to be free - he immeadiately moved on and agreed on a price. Unless he stamped his feet and threw a tantrum he’s leaving out we can’t really bust him for that.
He didn’t ask for it for free
No, he literally DIDN’T ask nor even assume that he was getting her services for free, idk how people are saying that. They just didn’t actually LISTEN nor apparently bother to read what he wrote, because he definitely IMMEDIATELY said “I never expected her to do it for free”.
He was just irked, understandably, that she didn’t charge a random couple, and that was her gift to them, but she was intent on charging her own brother.
And that IS weird, it’s intentional, and she sounds like an immature, petty AF - not the Good Petty, either - person.
She sounds like a nightmare for EVERYONE, not just the brother.
Cut her loose. You don’t need that in your life.
Love it when the narcissistic person turns round and says " yeah but I didn't ask you to do that for me"
“I don’t like surprises,” says past Charlotte, unaware of her surprise proposal on the horizon. 😂💚
yess😂😂😂
Charlotte can get married however she likes, but I so want her to have an anti-wedding wedding. Love you, Charlotte!
This story was absolutely exhausting, I usually rage out and I'm appalled to listen to these entitled sisters, but this one took the cake, I have never felt so defeated on behalf of someone and I wish she'd care less about her family bc they clearly don't reciprocate the feelings.
That last story legit made me stressed too. The number of times OP made an effort to “keep the peace” and tried to include her sister who clearly only cared about herself is outrageous. I’m definitely a “keep the peace” people pleaser myself (still trying to get to the recovery stage lol) and I still would have cut my sister off long before it got to that point, by just not talking to her about wedding related things and relying on the second MOH instead. If the family goes no contact only because you freeze your sister out, then maybe it’s a blessing in disguise to find out now so you don’t have to cater to them anymore, at all.
Aaaughhhh, my stomach hurts too, same , because of how stressed I was. I was just hoping for a happy ending but it never came oml.
I hate the bride at this point because she will never change her doormat ways.
@@dudeorduuude5211 yeah i dont like to victim blame - but guuurl you did everything you could to set up yourself for a failure. she should have ended that shish on the second try
Yep, I would have kicked my sister after the dress shopping episode. She showed she was untrustworthy. Why would you keep someone like this around at all. I would put my sister in the same list as acquaintances if she was anything like this bride's sister, just extend an invite and forget they exist on earth.
The bride is a pushover doormat. In this case she needed to be a bridezilla.
My sister and i would NEVER NEVER NEVER treat each other like this. I have health issues and couldn't do much, but i was still her maid of honor. She was mine. I would do anything for her. I love her endlessly and am so proud of all her success.
Same
Same, I adore my little sister. We have always been friends
Yes!! ❤
My sisters are my world. We aren't in each other's pockets but we have a group chat we talk in almost daily and I would go to the end of the earth for them - and I know they would do the same for me too. We've proven it to each other over and over.
Sisters are the best! (I don't have brothers to compare to, but if I did I'm sure they'd be the best too 🙂)
This is so crazy to me hearing these stories.
I lost my mom a year before my wedding to cancer, so my mother in law flew in on a 10 hr flight just to go dress shopping with me.
My big sister took up all the mother rolls at my wedding she was truly my strength in the planning period too alway making time during her busy schedule to answer my calls (we live a pretty far distance away) Between these two amazing women I had a truly beautiful day so hearing sisters not being there I don’t know what I would have done without mine
My daughters wedding photographer was a good friend. She gave my daughter a super low quote. So being the MOB I paid for their hotel. They were flying across the country to work it.
The pictures are amazing.I’m so glad she did them.
Well done to you. Getting her a hotel room would've made her feel included and appreciated. What a lovely gesture. 😁
Our photographer ghosted us weeks before our wedding. We had an agreement to pay it all after the wedding based on the amount of pics n time. We are fortunate to have had a few freelance photographers in and at our wedding. One of the groomsmen takes breathtaking photos. He offered to take a few as a gift. By a few he gave us 4 or 5 beautiful shots and we appreciate them. All other candid cell phone pics are the best memories we have. ❤
Did you ever get any answers about the photographer? Or at least leave a bad review? I'm glad you got good photos in spite of the nonsense, though.
@BeeWhistler no. I was never able to get ahold of her. It looks like I was blocked on her social media. I'll probably never see her again, so it is a non-issue now. I have always liked random candid pics rather than posed pics.
@@chachiemMy daughter had a big bowl full of disposable cameras for the guests to take photos at the reception. When they were all developed they were the best random candid shots ever! I thought it was a brilliant idea.
@chucky6367 I did that for my first wedding. It was the best idea! Lol, so many of the wall fun pictures. 2 friends took pictures of each other taking a picture of each other.
This time, we had people use their cell phones as much as they wanted and tag us in them n use a specific hashtag. This way we never had to go and get them printed. Just sent the pics off to an online Pic print site like shutterfly.
@chachiem professional ghosting is so much more common than I remember it being and I am so sick of it. Like, even if you cannot help me, you don't want to work with me anymore then I would rather know late than not at all.
And people say it is anxiety...but I have anxiety, it is not helped by people doing this. I have also never done this. I have cancelled appointments late and been very apologetic. But the very LEAST you can do is communicate.
this video is honestly so healing because it reminds me I am not the only one with a sociopathic sister
Feel thiz 😢 my twin is like that
Yeah i have a sister thats like this. Its all about her and she has to have everyone one her side....until ur her next victim.
I have a twin sister and she lives in Florida while I live in PA. I got married and basically planned everything with my parents and husband. I of course kept my sister in the loop and asked for her opinions on things from wedding food to my dress to music. She was wonderful. I don't get these siblings being jerks to each other. You have a best friend for life if you can put aside your own crappy feelings or insecurities. Charlotte, there are sisters who love each other. We are one example!
I have 2 sisters ..we are each others biggest fans ..we support each other no matter what ..we have went through alot together and couldn't imagine having a celebration without my sisters ..we pick each other up on the down days ..we have besties for life ❤❤
You’re lucky! Mine hasn’t spoken to me since 2012, don’t know why.
Me either. I don’t get to see my bro a lot due to living in different states. I went and visited him one year.. and he cried. I love him so much. I would never be able to cut him out of my life
She showed up late and left early so she didn't put in 12 hours of work. He did not complain about paying her; he complained about her changing the date the payment was due to a much earlier date while holding the pictures over his head. She was cheating on her husband, so she had no right to expect the family to uninvite him to the wedding. The sister was the only one wrong in the first story.
SISTER was an hour late (so everything was disrupted), then left BEFORE the reception--so was she PRESENT even one HOUR-for 300$--sounds over-paid to me...
Agree, I'm entirely on his side. He maybe was slightly presumptuous at first, but didn't do any actual asshole moves. The sister was the one doing everything wrong!
@@corvuscorax7451Fr. It’s not like he mentioned that part to his sister. He only said in the POST he thought he might get free service because she gave her services to a friend for free. That’s not an unfair expectation and he didn’t pitch a fit when she expected payment, so I don’t even see the problem here.
holy hell. we have a family wedding business and when my sibling got married, we literally pulled out all the stops to make sure everything ran smoothly despite how snippy "someone" was getting. all for free. we were the ones paying our employees for everything actually. this was all out of love and we even showed up 3 hrs early to the wedding to make sure things went smoothly. these siblings boggle my mind
on another note:
CONGRATULATIONS CHARLOTTE~~~ MUCH LOVE FROM THE US~❤
I will never understand how people can be so awful to their own siblings (assuming they're good people). Hearing about this kind of thing makes me feel so thankful for my immediate family.
Same. I won the lottery when I was born- 3 older siblings I would have loved even if we weren't family
It’s called, “the Golden Child.” These kids get a pass from the parents. There were 4 kids in my family. The middle 2 sisters (me and another sister) were ignored. The oldest and youngest were the favored ones. The oldest cheated with my younger sister’s finance and my mom sided with the cheater. The favored kids act entitled and the parents make excuses for them.
They are immature and act like a child tbh. I get when siblings are younger that they argue and are petty to each other but there comes a point where you would literally die for them if given the chance. Clearly some people never grow up like that or grow up at all
I have a mitt full of ungrateful brats now too, thanks to interfering grandparents who now want nothing to do with them either. Yay.
Even if sibling aren’t great people treating anyone poorly is a reflection of your own poor character. If you feel a need to treat someone badly that’s the universe telling you to stay away from them and work on yourself.
What a sweet brother. My brother was the "DJ" at my wedding--all he did was use his high quality stereo system and played songs we put together, but we had a lot of fun because of him doing it. I paid him a bit of money and got him a gift. He didn't expect me to do anything for his. We are great friends and we just see it as helping each other when we need it.
My step brother (who I'm fairly close with) was our photographer as a gift to us. No, he's not a 'professional', but he did a great job and 39 years later I still love them. He got some really neat shots, even if they were by accident.
When my niece got married, she, her mom, and future MIL went to David’s Bridal and found a beautiful dress for about $1K. When they found out the veil would cost $100, they came home and told me I would be making it. Okay, I was glad to help. I spent a day experimenting with edgings on tulle. I found a pattern on-line. I worked on it for hours. Before the wedding, my sister-in-law told me, “A’s veil turned out nice.” That was it. No “Thank you,” just that. I felt like saying, “Well, I’m glad it met with your approval.”
I can't wait for you to start planning your own wedding! Congrats, girl!!! You're going to be the best bride, and I love this for youuu
Thank you so much!!
We love you!
Same!! We are so excited for you Charlotte!! If anyone deserves a Happily Ever After, it is you!!! Congratulations Again!
Just here to reassure you that not all sisters are like this! I have a healthy loving relationship with my little sister. She helped me choose my wedding dress and was here for me on my wedding day. On her wedding day she had asked me to perform the ceremony,which I did,respecting the couple's wishes and offering them a lovely moment. We are here for one another everyday, even though we don't live in the same country anymore! Having a sister can be wonderful ❤
My sister has always been my best friend. She's 10 years older than me, but has always been there for me and I'd do anything for her. I was her junior bridesmaid and she was my maid of honor. She had to drive 3 hours to be at my wedding. Her husband accidentally took all the car keys with him on a work trip, so she rented a car to make the trip that day and still managed to be there early to help me.
Agreed. When my sister was getting married I went with her, our mom, her daughter, her best friend and her husbands's cousin. It was a lot of fun. We all cried when she chose the dress. I thought my sister would be a bridezilla, but she made it so easy for all of us to afford bridesmaid dresses. I spent maybe $150 on two dresses and shoes. The whole wedding went smoothly.
My little and I are good friends! We get along great. All of my stepsisters do, too. I just don't get why sisters can't get their act together 😕. 💜✌️
I was going to comment this too! My sister is my best friend in the whole world. She is incredible and stunning and I’m so proud of her. She has a beautiful 5 year old son and is an incredible mom (I don’t want kids and also can’t have any but LOVE being an aunt). My nephew is the sweetest kid and not at all a brat (I say this as someone who isn’t the biggest fan of kids in general). I’m 27 and on hospice care (a couple months ish to live) but have been terminally ill since my before he was born so he’s only ever known me as Auntie Kayla who is sick and is going to be in heaven soon. He asks lots of questions about heaven and knows about a few of our pets that have passed and knows a lot about what heaven is and that people/pets in Heaven are always with us and in our hearts. The cutest was when he asked if 1) I would still watch him play from Heaven (to which I responded “of course buddy, I’ll always watch you play! And I’ll still be able to hear you so at night before bed you can tell me all of your adventures from the day” and 2) “auntie Kayla when I get to heaven do you think God well let be wear my spidey suit” (he’s in a Spider-Man phase)(I responded “I think you can wear anything you want in heaven”) lol. I’m bedbound but you ask anybody and he’ll say I’m his best friend. We have a “secret handshake” and I play with him from bed and tell him jokes and stories and my sister is so supportive in everything and overall she is not just my sister but my BFF, my confidante, my favourite meme exchanger, mom to the best little guy in the world and truly the best gift! Not all sisters are horrible lol
Sameee! ❤ We are 5 sisters and we are each other's biggest fans
Me and my sister have never had a close relationship, in fact she was quite emotionally abusive to me as children, and she never treated me very well. When she got married she told me "I don't want you in the ceremony cause I want you to take care my son and help watch the kids at the wedding. I was hurt, I was angry, but I did it because it was family and I wanted to make sure that everything went well for my family's sake. While caring for her son and holding THREE crying kids simultaneously, I managed to take the best picture of the entire wedding a perfect frame shot of her kiss. After that she was apologetic and very grateful for the photo and things went better between us for a while.
Flash forward 6 years to my wedding, we still had a very rough relationship (we are only starting to really coexist more now 18 years after I got married) for a lot of reasons I didn't want her in my ceremony, and it was a not a revenge thing about being excluded from hers, though I can see how many people would see it that way, the fact was we just were not close, so I asked her to be the photographer, completely fine with paying for the services, and not feeling like I was doing anything malicious, I wanted her to be involved in the wedding. At the time this happened, we were not on good terms at all, but we talked it through, we worked out a common ground standing for the wedding, and we planned out the event. Meanwhile my aunt who announced 2 months after I got engaged that she was gonna get married the same month, MOVED her wedding to the same day and time, my family being a bit into their booze, and my wedding and reception being held in a church that did not allow booze, she ADVERTISED her wedding as the place to come to drink. This ultimately took over 60% of my guests away, and created a rift between many people in the family for over a decade (side note again, this aunt has made amends, and is actually very close to me and my mom now, and actually helped take care of my mom when dad passed away). Jump back to the wedding and my sister's showed to be the photographer, her at that time husband worked as the DJ and running the effects and everything for the wedding, I decorated the wedding hall and reception MYSELF and all the decorations were hand made BY ME, now to the reason for this story, with me and my sister's complicated history, no one would have blamed her for turning me down or for charging more because I basically uninvited her from being a part of the wedding party (which many people did assume was malicious cause she did the same to me 6 years prior). We had discussed prices, and I had fully agreed, I was exhausted as I spent 5 months making EVERY silk flower decoration, table decoration, and vase art, I did my own flowers, made my own veil, and even altered and sewed most of the dress myself. when the ceremony started it was a bit of a downhill trek to the ceremony, the actual ceremony was held in a gazebo overlooking a waterfall and river behind the church, my sister was working the wedding and as I was going down the "aisle" (well decorated trail to the gazebo) she tripped and actually ended up doing a full spin cartwheel and injured her knee. But despite how bad this all sounds, MY SISTER who lets face it did not have a good relationship with me, managed in the cartwheel to land with the camera up and still got the picture (which made her injury worse).
When I got to the honeymoon she had sent me a message with a bunch of pictures asking me to pick between them, while resting in the room we sent her the choices and then went out for dinner. When we got home a week later, my sister presented me with a box full of professional hard bound wedding albums (I had not picked a wedding album or the cost value of pictures, and this was a lot of albums so I was genuinely nervous, cause this many professional grade books would cost thousands even then) but she winked at me, smiled and said... "I know I didn't give you a wedding a present, I know I treated you like crap when I got married, so consider these books and the drives of photos, along with the cost of the photographer session to be my wedding gift." In the end kindness and professionalism had won with both of us during a time where we could have been extremely petty and vindictive. I do believe that this effort we put into NOT being the Ahole as reddit describes it, is part of why we are managing to find common ground and get closer as adults.
The lesson, always be professional, or don't take the job.
As someone who used to DJ weddings, I’ve seen several weddings go sideways because they got photography from a family member or friend or some sort of “deal” for a friends friend. There are a lot of places to be cheap for a wedding and trust me, no one cares. Decor, venue, flowers, wardrobe, cake, catering even, but do not, I repeat, do not cheap out on photography.
Ive had to rush wedding events because the photographer had to leave early. I’ve seen family friends used as photographers bail last minute more than once. Hire a pro, and hire someone who doesn’t work alone or has a backup for your day in case they have an unforeseen emergency, which can happen.
I would say catering is also something you shouldn’t cheap on. Nobody wants to celebrate your big day with salmonella
So true! Especially "who doesn't work alone". For my sister's wedding, we hired a team of photographers which had 5 team members and they were able to take pictures from all sides of the hall. One was next to the stage (we had a sorta higher platform erected for the couple), the other was next to the entrance, the 3rd was moving around the hall and the rest 2 focused on videoing the whole thing. The great thing is, they took turns eating as well so some were eating whilst others were continuing on with the job.
The second story was hard to follow. All of that moving around between Chicago, Nashville and Florida. Money didn't seem to be a problem.
Why is family so unreliable, it’s so sad. People hire their family because they trust them, but it’s usually professionals, strangers, who actually do the job and do it WELL. I come from a very small and close family, so it boggles my mind.
Not that I wouldn’t be against using relatives for wedding stuff, but THIS would be a definite reason why I would hire vendors for weddings, then they have no bias towards you, and you are just another wedding couple to them that they are working for.
Hire a vendor and get a contract!
Yup. Family members tend to slack off more on the resposnsibilities too. But in his case, his crazy sister would probably fake being offended for not being asked. Sometimes you just can't win with some people.
Well if you. Ant trust your family who can you trust. That’s so backwards, this poor guy.
I agree, specially if they’re going through a whole divorce!
Years ago i went to a wedding with my parents. I took pictures throughout the day. A few weeks later mom told me the bride contacted her to see if there was any way id be willing to share the pics i took. Turns out the photographer that they hired barely took any pictures at all and most of them werent what they wanted. Luckily i was able to give them some pics
Congratulations on the proposal Char! My 76 year old father in law absolutely loves you! Said to tell you what a strong, and intelligent woman you are and that your fiancee is a lucky man! Many blessings lady.🎉😂❤
Aww thank you so much say hi to your FIL for me!
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Never, ever provide professional services for a friend/family member or accept it from someone close to you. When it goes well, it’s great. When it goes bad, it’s catastrophic. Better to just stay out of that.
Ohhhh so sweet! Congrats Charlotte 🎉🎉🎉
Story 1- sister is AH. Selfish, entitled. And skeezy to boot...
For the last girl, the bachelorette party situation was a very easy fix. Since no one wanted to go to that bar because it was so bad, let the MOH plan it, but then the bride could plan the good one, give everyone the information to the piano bar and see who shows up. I have a feeling that the rest of the bridesmaids would have gone to the piano bar, and MOH would have been at the bad bar all by herself. On top of that, the bride and the others would most likely be taking pics and posting them on social media. While the MOH would be waiting, she would most likely be on her phone scrolling around. She would have seen the pics and that everyone was happy in them. Sounds petty, but it's what she deserves.
If the OP had asked to not know anything about the bachelorette part, the sister would have told her every little thing.
Story 1: Always put it in writing. Always. Protects the buyer and seller.
I feel like the Groom in the first one could easily sue his sister for the money back and compensation, if he has in writing the amount and date of pay and call logs showing him calling and messaging her etc then he could sue for not doing the job she was being paid to do!
The only thing here is that I doubt it would be worth it. In the end, he paid his sister $300. Which is pretty much nothing. I'm going to guess that $300 got him the digital copy of the photos taken. So that he can have prints done. Suing her would cost him more and it wouldn't be like he would get $20k.
Small claims court
@@southernsunshine6154 You can. But you still have to pay court fees. And hope you get them back. Add in your time off from work. How is that worth a couple of hundred bucks? Judges generally don't add stress/emotional damages to this. So I just don't think a $300-$500 win is worth the hassle of court.
Unless they're family as wealthy, suing her wouldn't add up too much in the end. However, filing a police report about her attempting extortion, that could put a damper on things. Not to mention I agree with the person that Opie said was like bombing for peace.
The sister hasn't shut the fck up about all of it and is still lying and slandering them to anyone she possibly can. It's a sister, I get it but at the same time, all of this isn't just about the two siblings, this is screwing with his wife, consistently, who did absolutely nothing wrong.
He is letting his wife deal with all of this, for the rest of their lives --because he won't grow a backbone.
@@B.Harper7 Cops would probably laugh on your face if you called them about this. Likely would just say that this is a civil matter and to take it up to a civil court. So unless OP or is wife knows someone in law enforcement, I wouldn't even think twice about that. They can't really stop sis from yammering her mouth. They've cut the bitch off. The only other thing I would do is to write up a summary and pin it onto their social media. If they can afford it, they can ask a lawyer about sending a threatening c&d order letter to her if she has tried to affect their jobs/livelyhoods. Their blocking of her is probably driving her nuts. If she is still trying to bitch about their last interaction from over 3 years ago.
Some sisters are wonderful people who are supportive and kind. I wish everyone’s were like that.
i love my sister with all my heart she is my best friend. i forget not everyone has this. ☹️
I don't understand why people don't appreciate low contact over no contact. Its so much easier and less geared towards regret.
Because some people are so toxic, even low contact is too much.
Story One: NTA - He should know not to expect any service for free from any family member, but they came to an agreement on payment, and when payment was due. PERIOD. Not only did she show up late, she was late and left early to go be with her affair partner. That is not OP’s fault. Plus posting them on social media before showing them to the bride and groom is beyond unprofessional. If her pending divorce was upsetting her that much, she could’ve told her brother months before the wedding she was not in a good mental place to be the photographer for his wedding day.
I agree. Also, if he’s telling the truth, it sounds like he did a lot for her for her wedding. She sounds like a huge B…
Will to be fair to her brother, he did do a lot of things for her wedding that everybody is glossing over and pay for a lot of things for her if anything they should just be even even if he never paid up.
If she feels like she can’t cut her off completely she needs to stop expecting things from her sister that her sister can not offer her. I tell everyone that alot of folks are unhappy because they are putting their expectations and what they would do on someone else. Her sister doesn’t care at all.
Right, OP sounds desperate for her sister to act like, well, an actual sister. But it obviously ain't gonna happen. And it sounds like the whole family are flying monkeys for sister. She should've just eloped.
I was the only one there with my sister when she got her dress and I cried cause I was so happy for her, she truly deserved it
Damn, the last one was definitely stressful...but she puts herself there by still giving that sister tasks.
Yeah, that one gave me a headache. The sister is never going to change, she needs to go no-contact.
Right? I would've been done after the dress fitting drama. She would've been out as MOH at the very least.
Thank you!! At this point I have zero sympathy for her, she is putting her fiance through this unnecessarily, when all of the answers are right in front of her face.
Yes it's going to be painful, but right now she's causing herself SOOOOOO much more pain than necessary!
@@YamiNoSensei13
Yep, I'd have moved her to guest status at that point. You don't want to be involved, then fine, you don't have to be.
I had to keep pausing just hearing the story is stressing me. She definitely needs to cut contact with her sister and go low contact with family HOWEVER I do understand that can be hard for a family oriented person-(I'm assuming she is based on the amount of hoops she's jumping through for her crap sister)I cut off the entirety of my dad's side of the family because they're toxic asf and my dad knows how they are(and he agrees they can be toxic) "bUt ThEy'Re fAMilY" he doesn't agree with my stance but accepts my decision. It was easy for me to cut them I don't need that stress in my life but I also wasn't very close to any of them besides my grandpa so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
The bride to be needs to learn some self preservation skills & her fiance needs an award for putting up with this crap for so long, I know I don't have the patience for it.
my sister did the photo's for my wedding. they are amazing. she didn't charge me to do them, she offered and refused to take any money. she also bought us a beautiful wedding album and set the photo's in it. i love my sister.
That last one was the most stressful one you've done yet.
This is why you get everything in writing, Especially when dealing with family
I have 7 sisters and not a single one acted so immature. We all pitched in and helped in any way possible for each other
That’s awesome! Sisters can be the best. I know I can count on my sisters to help me whenever needed. I will do the same for them and my sisters in law.
So happy you’re still doing episodes where you read the stories. Alskbhlad glad that you’re still doing solo episodes. I’m a purest!
“Anyone …who causes this much stress for you does not belong in your life” Thank you, Charlotte! This is exactly what I needed to hear today.❤
My sister just got engaged and is getting married next year in May. My mother and I both watch your videos (just found this out!) And we've been laughing about how smooth the wedding planning will go for the wedding after watching so many of your bridezilla/monster in law videos. Thank you for teaching us Petty Queen 🙏
1st story: That's a lawsuit to both the ex-husband and the sister
2nd story: OP needs to say "F*$% IT" and just drop her sister as MOH, and when the family cuts contact, send them all screenshots on how horrible and unhelpful she's been and tell them that if they don't want to be there for OP for the wedding, they can just cut ties permanently, even when OP and new spouse have their own children, as they are showing BLATANT favoritism toward OPs sister. They'll choose sides immediately and OP will know who is on their side
As a sister, I am listening here like some magical tale. I cannot even begin to imagine how parents were raising their kids that they become like THAT. Or my family is literally from another planet. How come my sister and I - we respect each other and help each other then? These stories are sure crazy.
The first story, the sister is definitely the A-hole. He mentioned he provided a band and food for his sister’s wedding and She did not pay him. Also she photographed her friend’s wedding for free.
They agreed on a price and time for him to pay her. She didn’t show up on time, she left before the wedding was done and just so she could continue her affair.
The brother asked her not to post his wedding pics and again she decided not to listen to him and put it all over her social media platforms. So No he wasn’t even a little bit of an A-Hole. ❤
Agreed. I can't for my life understand, how anyone could treat a sibling like that, unless the relationship was super bad to begin with. Which it doesn't sound like at all. Makes me so mad 🫤
Well put❤❤❤
Love this. 1) the moment she agreed to take photos a contract should have been made. 2) when she said she won’t be attending the reception I would have told ppl to pull out their phones and take pics and videos throughout her he night.
Exactly why would anyone rely on just one photographer. I've done weddings personally I'm not a professional but I tell guests I will pose ppl and take my shots. Then step back and let ppl take theirs for each pose. My shits turned out great no interference and bride's family / friends got good shots too just in case. All my weddings the pics turned out awesome and bride's were extremely Happy. U should always have other ppl taking shits as backup just in case.
Sister is an absolute ah and I would have had reviewed her everywhere I could.
I was SO LUCKY that a family friend who was a professional photographer generously agreed to take a small wedding shoot for us in exchange for once weekly childcare for 6 months. I loved his kid and could easily pick up the child from school and care for him on Thursday afternoons for six months before the wedding. Our photos were lovely, and I felt very fortunate to have such a wonderful family friend!
21:51 YES. My sister was my mom’s favorite child of 5. I was the youngest and she told me when we were older she was ALWAYS jealous of me. For my looks, for my freedom, for my friends, boyfriends, clothes…. She carried everything that happened in our childhood and allowed that to shape and ‘ruin’ HER ENTIRE LIFE- she is in her mid 50s now. Everything that is wrong she blames on our childhood, and her insecurities she blames on me. I no longer speak to my family, they are all toxic. But YES. It happens this way for A LOT of sisters. 29:09 FACTS. Best thing i have EVER done is not try to re-engage with my family. I miss it sometimes (very little now-it used to be heartbreaking until i realized how much freer and happier i truly was), but overall I’m loving the family my husband and i made.
Were I a professional photographer I would have offered to do my brother's wedding as my wedding gift. I would have ensured it was the best work I had ever done. The photos would have been waiting on their dining table when they returned from the Honeymoon.
Remind her that you weren't the parent. I have a narcissistic brother. I'm no contact with him now. So much peace. In Mum's latest years she couldn't even remember how many children she had so it doesn't matter. I'm the one who looked after her.
That horrendous sister is in the same camp as my brother - unable to remember agreements, making up stories to paint themselves in a better light. There is nothing you can do except step away and protect your heart.
I always say just because you're blood related doesn't mean you're family. Family are those that have your back no matter what, through good times and bad, and expect nothing in return. Vin Diesel would agree 😂
I agree as well. My bestie says, “Friends are family we choose.” 😊
To me family is what and who you make it not necessarily what you are born with.
Congratulations to you and Mike on your engagement! So happy for you both! ❤️
Thank you so much!!
I have 2 sisters and they both didn't tell me they were engaged, didn't invite me to their bachlorette parties, but were glad to show the photos of it the next day. I never received an invitation to the wedding, they just expected me to be there. Kind of hard when you don't know where and when. I basically found out that from our mom when she talked about shopping a dress for the weddings. I was and still is treated like a small child. I'm 40 years old and not the youngest.
I'm another person who has a lovely sister, and even survived potential drama leading up to her wedding! Don't understand these sister stories, but they make me love my chill sister even more.
I was my sister's maid of honor, but all of my friends had very small, non-traditional weddings - so I had no clue about all the expectations about planning the bachelorette. And they are all 6-7 years younger than me with very different tastes, so I assumed we'd plan as a group. I was also in grad school, and started the hardest class I have ever taken in my life about 9 months before the wedding.
Two months into the class, I have a 69% grade (nice), I cannot afford to retake the credits, and suddenly my sister is calling me to say her best friend was worried we aren't planning the party yet. I'm glad I was able to talk to my sister directly, because she knew my "wait, the MOH is in charge of planning that?!" was genuine confusion. I was honest that I was overwhelmed with grad school, but I also thought that her best friend had a much better idea of what my sister would love. So we asked her BFF if she could lead the planning for bachelorette party while I did the bridal shower with my mom. I would have also handed over the MOH role if my sister asked.
Pretty sure sister was annoyed about having to be the go-between at the time, but all events went so smoothly, and there was no bridesmaid stress after that! (Also got an A in the class, by going to professor's office hours every. single. week.)
Ahhhh JUST ELOPE PEOPLE!! 🫣 also to note; just because somebody is family doesn’t mean they belong in your life. There is a thing called boundaries, and if somebody crosses those boundaries repeatedly they do not belong in your life that includes family.
Never deal with money like this with family. It NEVER works out.
The important take away: don't do business with family!!!!!! Congratulations to you and Mike on the engagement 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
My dad and I love to watch Charlotte together! I told him you were getting married and he got so excited for you!! Congratulations on the engagement!
I told my husband!
I love this for the two of you, that you wibe together like that!
@@rebny7801 my dad finds her incredibly funny and he likes her voice! He started listening in with me when I had her on in the background and it’s become a bit of a routine!
Hearing these stories makes me so happy I have wonderful sisters! ❤️
I cannot imagine being anything but supportive of my sister, especially during something as massive as getting married. I'm the oldest, and my little sister is one of my favorite people in the world.
That first story! When my husband and I were getting married, our photographer (my MIL’s boyfriend’s daughter) backed out ONE WEEK before our wedding. And she was just starting out, she wasn’t charging us but around 300 dollars. She didn’t think she could do it being pregnant and couldn’t even tell us, she just told my MIL who told us. So we literally had to put a PSA out on social media. An old classmate of mine from grade school was an absolute legend of a savior and agreed to do it for us for 650 since we had only originally budgeted for someone who was charging less than half of that anyway. We didn’t expect her to be so awesome. We told her to enjoy herself at our reception and if she wanted to leave early she definitely could. We weren’t paying her near what she normally charges. She did it out of the kindness of her heart and our photos together are amazing. She took photos until about 7:00 and we were totally okay with that!
She's obviously a truly good human. That's lovely to hear and I bet that you let her know how much you appreciated her time, skills and efforts. Lovely.
"blood don't make family"...my favorite quote from Supernatural and SO apropos for this situation
My brother had a photography side hustle back in the day. He and his wife did our engagement/ wedding photos as our wedding present. There was zero drama. He did the same thing for my sister a couple of years before and again, no drama. Honestly the sister is TA for a multitude of reasons.
His sister is a literal sociopath.
congratulations Charlotte on your engagement 💍 ❤ so excited for you!!!!
The Photographer Sister: Pay her for the pictures... but then give all of her business pages a super honest review.
😂yes!
My stepdad gifted me his photography services for my wedding. I never asked, but he wanted to do it. Despite divorcing only 4 years later, I love my photos. They are amazing! Only good memories when I look at them, as my ex is still a friend. ❤
That was stressful w/ that bride & her sister - she kept asking her for help… May she love herself a lot more to be treated better - sheeesh 👽✨
and this is why you hire a professional to handle a wedding and not a jealous sibbling. but besides that i hope your wedding to mike is a grand and joyous day charlotte and i hope you and mike have a blessed day and a wonderful sunday. ps being the youngest out two sisters and a brother i am glad my sisters get along pretty well.
I hired a photographer for my wedding. He showed up, took photos and left. Later I decided to stop by his studio because I hadn't heard from him. It was closed forever. My husband had a friend with access *though it wasn't legal to do this, he found his address. We went to the house and saw the pictures, which I hated, but his family made me an album. Years later, I like my pictures better. I also posted his home address on the door of the closed studio. Oh, and they tried to charge extra..and I made them reprint a couple because they were printed backwards, meaning the negative was flipped and my ring seemed to be on my right hand. This was pre internet. I found out later the photographer fell off the wagon and was on an extended bender. When I picked up my album there were other anxious couples waiting to talk to someone, I'd like to think my note on the studio door helped them.
1st Story: His problem was assuming his sister would extend the same courtesy he did for her at her wedding. That was his mistake. People don't often treat you they way you treat them. Those of you getting on his case about expecting something for free or discounted are not taking what he did for her into account for his confusion and outrage.
Family and friends can straight up suck which is why you ALWAYS hire unbiased professionals...ALWAYS.
The last story makes me so sad. I really hope the bride was able to have a beautiful wedding despite how awful her family is. Definitely agree with Charlotte’s advice of going low contact.
15:47 holding them over his head is not only what she was doing. They had an AGREED date for payment & she suddenly told him "pay me by the end of the week or say buh-bye to your wedding photos" This is why at my wedding we are not going to have a "photographer" but rather hundreds of mini disposable cameras, each guest gets at least one & our friends and family are going to do them together. I find it that it makes the photos much more meaningful when they are taken by the people who you care about the most in the world❤
She broke the law by posting their photos online without their written consent. She was just a mess!
@@DawnKellyMedia she definitely was! I feel really bad for OP but hopefully this teaches him to get everything in a contract for any event in the future. I don't personally think he was in the wrong for thinking that his own sister might be okay with doing them for free as their wedding gift considering she did her friend's wedding for free. I really hope OP gets therapy and realizes that what she did was extremely toxic and not okay. Based off of the way OP worded the post, i think that he may need therapy to be able to eventually go lc with his sister
LOL, "Low Contact", brings to mind Jerry Seinfeld's description of see you around - "See you around, see you around. If your around, and I'm around, I'll see you around that area. You'll probably be around other people, you wont be around me, but you will be around". What you really want to say is get outta here! 🤣🤣
My mom's friend did our wedding photos. She just charged what it would be to print. She was amazing and she gave it to us as a gift. I did not expect her to do that ❤❤❤❤
It is always unresolved sibling rivalry. Weddings provide a perfect situation for acting out.
I attended a wedding reception where the brother of the bride slugged the stepfather of the bride because the stepfather was chosen to walk her down the aisle.
@@martina21953 lordy
These stories are horrific.
I would just like to say my sister is amazing!! I’m so grateful to have a loving and caring sister who has always been there for me. Sisters can be great ❤
Meanwhile, my sister and I were both bridesmaids in each other’s weddings AND she even baked the cake for my wedding, which turned out lovely. I couldn’t ask for a better sister♥️
My sister is great. She's 8 years older so, she had a kid when I was 17. She also decided to change her career. And her husband (now ex) didn't considered his part of chores as helping, so yeah...
Still, every time I visited ( we lived in different countries then) she planned trips and activities and always made my time there.
Sisters can be super awesome! ❤❤❤
engaged, glowing and beautiful charlotte!!!
Thank you!!
Bro I’ve never been pissed watching these stories but that last sister had me heeeaaaated lmao bro stressful!!
From the guy's PoV, he did nothing wrong. He asked with the caveat that she didn't have to say yes.
I was a studio photographer when my brother got married. I'm obviously going, and I asked him and the bride if it would be okay to take photos. I was also shooting a lot on B&W and wanted to see how I would do at a wedding. I had the film processed, contact sheets made, some prints made at an outside processing company. I scanned in the negatives, did post processing, saved them to a CD and gave them to my brother. All for free.
Funny thing, my photos were better than the photographer they hired. From that wedding forward, my mom hired me out for a few weddings. 😂