A lot of my students who are good at English hide their ability because they would get bullied for being too fluent for some reason. It breaks my heart to hear that.
What the hell.. it breaks my heart too, this is so unfair. It just shows how different are some countries. For me, everyone's mesmerised that I can speak English fluently, becouse in my country not a lot people can speak fluent English.. But I wonder WHY other people would get bullied for this I just don't get it.. I would be happy for the person who can speak (some language) fluently it's really cool actually.
Because they're seen as showing off and they would stand out. Remember the saying in Japan, "the nail that sticks out gets hammered down." This is why it's hard for the majority of Japanese to be (act)different from the rest. Rules, social etiquette, expected Japanese behavior and speaking(conforming to the group), and more rules; things we find we like as tourists in Japan are the result of all if this.
One way to stop bullying without confrontation is just to interrupt the situation. If you see Jimmy being picked on, you walk over and say something like, "Hey Jimmy, you're good at math, right? Mind giving me some help?" or "Got plans for lunch?". If the bully gives you a look just say, "Oh hey, sorry, didn't see you there. Am I interrupting something?" The key is to ignore the bully and not give them the reaction they're looking for. Ideally, they'll get bored and move on to another victim (who you then can invite to lunch as well). Be the change you wish to see in the world. ;)
I was, but for adults. Just recalling what worked for me and my friends back in the day. You never know why a bully is being that way, or if they'll one day change their ways. Many bullies matured into friends by the end of high school. Never burn bridges. ;)
Some feel inferior, some have troubled home lives, some just having a bit of growing up to do. Whatever it is, it just takes time. We can help them along by not encouraging their bad behavior (interrupting), and encouraging their good behavior (redirecting). Everybody's fighting their own unseen battles. Don't be a victim, be a friend.
yeah man bro. So when that kid was being told to jump out the 4th story window or the other one was getting his head cut off your gonna walk over there and be like "hey Jimmy your good at math right?...... jimmy?....JIMMY!!!???!!!??!!!?!!!". You the man pongo bongo!
That can be usefull but with kids that aren't really problematic. Sounds to me like you are an elementary teacher and you never had to deal with a problem of real bully. When I was a kid in later elementary and beginning high school in my age group we were 8 kids and we confrontate the bullies of higher age being corporative. If you bother someone of us we get you in group when you were alone preferably at the toillets and preferably with sticks and beat you and if you wanted to use a knife we had too and you will lose so you don't try. Those who more bully received by far were the two who weren't covered by the group by being assholes and who ended being the target of those idiots.
Like the fact they are honest about the fact they couldn't do anything when they saw someone getting bullying. It must be tough to stand against everyone and be the new target but maybe if a little group is against bullying they can ally to defend the one who gets bullied
I'm really sorry to hear.. That the victim suffer so much.. If I'm srsly in that situation to help I will push the bully away and try to comfort that victim.. I will ask bully to back off.. If he comes near.. I will tryna bend his arm slowly until he felt pain and give up.. Then I just shouted weak.. Take on me if u want to.. Not girls.. Idiot.. Baka
I've been bullied as a kid for my differences (I'm an Asperger), but while my reflex in primary school was to try to mix in as much as possible to not stand out and be left behind (it was still some pretty lonely years though), in middleschool I decided to reach for the other kids who were being bullied, we all became friends, and since I also had friends who weren't bullied nor bullies, it helped a lot creating some sort of cohesion. It was a small school too, which helped a lot with keeping the different crowds small. And since I was a good student who never caused trouble, I ended up getting away when I stood up for myself and beat some of my bullies (one of the situations could have gotten me in big trouble, had the kid not have an already bad reputation among the staff - which totally played in my favour). I even became friend with some of them after putting them in place once and for all, because we actually liked the same stuff. 😂
In my school the boys simply policed themselves and didn't tolerate any bullying in highschool or middle school. It was quite easy to stop the bullies with having the students people respected, popular kids, and the delinquent type threatening any bully with consequences. If the student body doesn't put up with it. The bully becomes a endangers species
Bullying in Japan is just as bad as in Europe. You will get excluded and stared at with evil eyes when you're different. Do something they wouldn't expect and they'll stare a hole into you. The moment you try to talk to them about it they won't look into your eyes and just ignore you. Teachers will just listen and look at you but don't do anything. It's disgusting. Despite having tried studying there and failing I still love Japan though. Because people outside of school were awesome actually and more open.
In Europe (that's quite big generalisation) there's bullying, but it goes usually because of pysical weakness. Never encountered bullying because of different interests, opinions or clothing. Even obese kids beside mean nickname weren't actively bullied. That quite abnormal "stick wit the group and rules no matter what" japanese people attitude is pushing them into bigger and bigger trouble these days. And sometimes causes unspeakable tragedy (Okawa elementary school).
All this psychological/emotional bullying is a bit strange to me. It sounds torturous to be honest. At my old school, bullying=getting the shit kicked out of you. If you fought back, you gained some respect. But then again, I grew up in a rough neighborhood.
zabijca that is a very big generalization. I think it's a global thing that bullies pick out easy targets who tend to rub the bully wrong in some way just for existing. I was bullied for being weirdly well articulated in elementary school, which I then toned down. Obviously that didn't help. I also got picked up a lot for being black and chubby at the time. I was contemplating suicide at age 9. The same people followed me into high school, but luckily I went to a youth center after school later, that safed me. I then found other outsiders. One of them is still my very close friend, I am in my late twenties now. By the way I live in Germany, part of Europe.
but i feel like the thing is that people in Japanesse mostly have the type of bullying they mentioned in the video meanwhile in Europe(im from Europe so i know) people would not only get verbally bullied or left out but beaten up and things like that and i know it from my personal expirience however maybe it is a thing there tho but they just didnt mention it
I like the seriousness. Please do more if you can! I still enjoy the fun questions, but the serious topics are very interesting since they add another layer to my understanding of Japanese culture. As always, love you guys for all the work you do and thank you, Cathy, for constantly putting yourself out there for our sake... err, benefit!
I'm so glad I wasn't born Japanese. I was always foolish, loud and strange since my early childhood, sticking out in all the wrong ways even as I tried to please the masses. With time I learned to be happy with myself and came to realize that being unfitting doesn't mean to be the wrong one. Honestly, that culture of "bland-in-utopia" truly frightens me. I love manga, anime, vocaloids and tradicional japanese art and thair history is fascinating, but for me as long there's internet access - the further the bether.
I wonder if there is bullying against foreigners that stand out/dress differently. I'm from the US and when I first went to Japan I was very self conscious about how I dressed because I already stand out so much, I was afraid of not fitting in even more. Of course, my Japanese is not good enough to tell if someone was talking about me in a negative way. It's just interesting because Japanese tend to be so warm and welcoming.
They won't bully you because you're white, japanese has this western or white mindset because of the relation they had between westerners long time ago. That they see people who has dark skin or ugly or fat as people needed to be hated or cannot live in this world. They had that mindset that will look down others who are different. When they see Foreigners who are white and blonde , they would usually praise them and see them like goddesses or good people that's why foreigners who are white and blondes usually don't get bullied
@@reynsantos6192 That’s not true. There are tons of examples of white kids, even half Japanese kids getting bullied at school. Simply being different increases chances of being bullied.
My cousin who is half Filipino half japanese got bullied a lot in Japan during her middle school days and got traumatized... she was pretty as hell and even work as a print ad kid model...she got rehabilitated here in the Philippines after several months of stay... she's ok now and studying in college.. every year she always comes back here in the Philippines. (forgive my English I've tried)
If someone is being bullied, I just go talk to them rather than confronting the bullies. I'll just act clueless and not understand the social stigma. Interacting and making friends with the bullied people is the best option for me! You get to make friends and make them feel like they belong. If you dont single them out, others will join. I'm not scared of being singled out and I'm friendly but some people also don't want to be helped. They don't want to interact with anyone. After a while of trying and not changing anything, you just have to give up...
I know about bullying in Japan since so many long time ago & to know that this is still a serious topic in Japan is kind of surprising. Hopefully Ask Japanese will talk more about serious topic. This one is great *thumbs up*
It’s not just Japan, I think most Asian schools, especially middle and primary schools have this problem. I’m from Asia and I got bullied for being a quiet (not to mention small for my age) kid for the longest time. The thing is the bullying really is more so verbal and mental in Asia. People talk about you behind your back, make you feel excluded, call you names, mock you or discuss you while you are still in the room, but most don’t have the fucking guts to do anything to you physically. If I tried to tell a teacher about the bullying, the teachers themselves made it look like I was the problem, which is even more bs
Adding serious topics once in while would be great. That would give the regular viewers, such as I, a better understanding of Japanese society from all sides of the spectrum.
"Wonderful Everyday" (Or Subarashiki Hibi) is a really great visual novel that kinda hones in on bullying (in japanese schools) and is really worth reading.
Love the different range of topics you cover and really interested to hear more opinions on serious topics. Bullying is always a tough subject to cover but from this video it seems there isn't that much difference between bullying in japan and bullying here in the uk. Through most of my time in secondary school (what America and Japan would call middle and high school combined) I was that singled out kid for most of my classes. People who were friendly in private often looked the other way while in the classroom because they didn't want to become a target either. I won't beg sympathy over it, it was just part of life. Thankfully the staff did tackle it as best they could when, like many bullied kids I started dropping out, the school moved me from one teaching block to another so that the only time I faced the original group were during home room or lunch break. Wasn't a fix all as I was still "that outsider kid" who got moved because of bullying but it was definitely a good thing. Very little of my bullying was physical, most was being excluded from things, picked last for groups, having stationary damaged or gum put on my chair, the usual stuff. Think the meanest was coming back from PE on the sports field to find my tights and skirt hung up on a basketball hoop in the gym and my shoes still sat in a toilet bowl
More videos on bullying and more advice on how to deal with it and stop it would be amazing because bullying all over the world is getting out of hand even here in Sri Lanka there is a bullying system in universities where the seniors bully the new students for a period of three months and some things get waay out of hand. This was an awesome video btw 👍
I find this mentality quite weird Like, why is it so bad to not having a group of friends? Sure, being told everyday that you suck and you should die is terrible, but is it really worth it to "fit in" to be part of a group of people who'd say that to somebody? Really? I've always been a loner, so let me give you a tip: no matter how singular you are, if you are a nice and open person, people sooner or later WILL eventually come to you. Don't hurry It's better to find nice people and make solid friendships rather than to stick with bad people just to not be alone
i stood up for people who were bullied at my school, i would love to be a teacher so i could help kids get along, and accept each other, they don't have to be friends or like each other, as long as they respect each other and don't act mean towards others for no reason.
If someone get bullied i will record it, after that i will friend the Victim and tell her/his parents that she/he got bullied, and if his/her parents do not care, Well I'm gonna go at the bullies house and tell their parents with the video so that i will have proof.
I feel lucky to graduate from college without ever experiencing bullying or even seeing it in my class. But there was one time in freshman college where a boy was ostracized among boys in our class because he's mostly aloof. I just found out about it after a year when the guy has transferred already and I wasn't part of their class anymore. It's sad thinking I could've done something to prevent this. There were actually signs, like some guy would make snarky remarks when he's called for recitation. I thought that was normal for some boys. I wish I'd have known sooner.
in Italian schools bullying is a very bad situation. As an italian student,i was bullied since i was little,now i am in high school,situation got better. in my opinion,the things now are worst than before,and if it continues i think we have to...i don't know,sorry
We have a lot of bullying in the US. Two results occur as a result of bullying here which get media attention. The first is suicide and the second is the bullied victim getting revenge by shooting the bully and innocent victims in the process at the school. Unfortunately, bullying happens everyday and in every country.
Could you explore on their concept of friendship? Its something that still baffles me to this day after 5+ years of living in Japan and having a stable relationship with a Japanese girl. Its something I discuss frequently with other foreign friends (the only ones I got). Or put in another way: how can I detect when they don't really give a fuck about me and when they genuinely have an interest in knowing me? These last months the whole 本音と建て前 concept is starting to take a toll in my mental well being because I'm always paranoid about who's being genuinely friendly and who's just being polite. As a Malay friend brilliantly put one time: "they are friendly, but they are not your friends", but, I wonder if there's something more than that... I would really like to make genuine friendships around here, my Japanese is good, and yet, I find it extremely difficult. To be honest I just stopped trying and did what most foreigners here do: make friends with other foreigners, which is fantastic but still, I feel weird that after 5 years here the only person I can call my friend is my ex. Apart from that, nothing, nada. I appreciate this country and its people, but when it comes to social relationships, I truly feel like a second class citizen. Thank goodness for the other foreigners I've met along the way. If it wasn't for them, this country would be so extremely boring.
I personally haven't got bullied except for an episode in my first year of high school (I'm in the fourth now) when my best friend (of course she's not anymore now) told the class that I insulted them behind their back saying that girls are b*** and boys are f*** . That happened when I was absent from school. The same day she came to my house telling me that the whole class was very angry and they would have made a "meeting" to talk about that. Of course when she came she didn't tell me what she said to the class so I was naively thinking that she would have stood up for me and say that I didn't do that at all. When I went the day after to school they did that meeting putting me in the centre while the girls were something like saying that I shouldn't dare saying those things and one of them was actually nearly hitting me so I started crying for that horrible situation of being alone against the class and when I turned to ask for help to my best friend she was laughing saying that I really said that and the boys were laughing too for my face while I was crying. I had two of my classmates that I thought were my friends but they shut up saying anything so I ended up spending the whole first year staying alone with one of those two classmates who talked to me (but didn't do anything in that situation) so now that I'm in the fourth year that girl keeps talking to me like nothing happened and I can't do anything but smile and joke . I know well how the situation of being alone at school is scary and makes you feel like you don't even want to go out of your house and turn the phone off because people really can be double-face, even the person that you don't expect it from .. I know that maybe I should not say this because it won't solve the problem itself but my advice is to bear it until you get out of primary/middle/secondary school because some people will always feel stronger and at a higher level than you so if you are a victim, at least this is what I think, you have to beat it. Personally I think that telling the teacher about the fact is okay but at the end, even if teachers talk about it in the class and help the victim, those people who bully will keep doing it when teachers go away.. I know it's not what a victim wants to hear but this is the truth... however, as that girl in black said, don't think that since those people are bullying you you have something wrong because THEY have a problem: they could not leave without their "friends" helping them to bully you. If their friends turned their back to the them it would be the end. So, be strong and don't think negatively because you have nothing wrong.
Sarah Abdel That's sad to hear. That girl's probably insecure of you or if it wasn't the case, she's more or less mental. What I'd probably do is outsmart her, though. For example, provoking her and videotaping her bullying you. It sounds evil but that's serving justice to your self. You see, your mind is a powerful weapon. Use it to your advantage. Just a warning, use it only for good reasons.
I've been bullied back in my first year in grade school. I was in a new environment because i used to live in the city. What happened is that, i was seated next to the 'bullies'. I'm not even aware that such bad things could ever happen. So it kinda gave me a trauma that time. I was friendly and jolly but it really shocked me that i was physically bullied because everyone's nice to me in the past and since i'm just a six-year-old back then, it really stucked in my head and made it hard to go inside the classroom everyday. And during the 4th-6th grade, i grew so much taller than others and being a girl, of course i stood out a lot and just like the tall girl in the video, i was really bothered by people always noticing my height and always asking me why am i so tall, like i can't do anything about it, right? And at some point, i've thought that i can never be treated as a 'girl' because i can't be 'cute'. But i'm proud to tell these stories because now, i've become stronger physically, mentally and emotionally. To all people who are getting bullied, time will pass and you will be able to overcome your challenges BUT respect yourself and if you think it's getting too much, don't be afraid to face it head on. Keep your head up and keep moving forward! 💕
i was a bully in primary school ( not fully aware til later ) , then became the bullied in junior high , i then bursted my bubble and just fought them (lost all the time) , they soon backed down of course as many scars i have on my face from then , i m more confident with standing my ground and enjoy the andrenaline rush some just can t be reasoned with and depend on how u act , there ll always be consequences for extreme behaviours , so either be smart , vigilant or learn to 'dance'
Sounds pretty tame. Thinking back I actually think my school was one of the worst! - kid beaten daily, knocked out, head smacked against wall - some guy opened a drain and filled up a plastic bag with sewage and tipped it all over another kid - constantly stealing each others bags, throwing them in the trash, toilets - sticking chewing gum in people's hair - kid on bus had bananas thrown at him, and a whole sandwich smeared all over his face - hair set on fire - lit a tennis ball on fire and threw it around the classroom - sticking chewed up gummy bears into hair - lots of verbal abuse and fighting - shit talking behind back - kids arriving drunk or bringing drugs into school - kids bag and pencil case opened and scattered across the class - one kid had an incontinence problem and someone showed the whole class his shit stained underwear - kid born with really tiny fingers bullied daily - fat kid beaten up, severely . Was a real chill dude and was never the same after - one kid finally had enough, flipped a table, smashed windows. Probably more but it's been a while!
lmao in the school i studied in brazil none of this shit would happened because it was near a lot of slums so everyone's life was already violent enough plus everyone had a cousin/friend who was into gangs so it was kinda peaceful
I really like this video, I suffered bullying too, and I consider that it's a big problem. When I suffered bullying, I think that I was not going to finish and you think that everyone are same, but there are good people too. If you become until here and you have a problems with bullying, I want say you that you have to endurance, and will be worth, not everything is lost. Sorry for my bad English and good luck guys❤️
As someone who was lowkey bullied in a manner of speaking and then beat his ass, I'm not seeing why more people don't fight back although I guess it's not for everyone.
Somehow in yearly years I always tried to stand by person being bullied. Later I was bullied but there were people who were on my side. I cannot imaging how hard it is being bullied by everybody. This seems damn hard.
Bullying is a general Problem in other Countrys with Kindergarten/School's/Workplace. For Schools: U have to make you're own Point. Tell Teachers and Parents to tell make a Signal. If that wont work u have make you're own Point: Self Defense to get Respect or to Suffer over you. I would say in my opinion Self Defense to get the attention. Atleast i wouldnt care if the Bully get owned in a Hospital. If ur get Banned from School tell them like this: The Responsible failed because i told him this like Days/Weeks/Months ago and they didnt do anything. Many times it must sometimes something happen before PPL react.
Man I knew bullying in Japan was much more sevre and malicious than the rest of the world but I had no idea that it was much more vicious in nature than I anticipated.
Kids need to learn how to defend themselves both mentally and physically from twisted people that behave like this. And parents need to make sure that their children don’t get involved in bullying, help others when they need them and remind them to treat people on how they want to be treated. Teachers must also be strict and bold enough to help stop these problems in their schools. It’s their job to care for the students no matter what. And if they don’t even try to intervene, then the should pack up and go get a different job all together.
Exactly, unless you prefer tyranny and want an environment where you're constantly monitored it can never be avoided. Best you can do is try and manage or mitigate instances of bullying and the bullied when they occur.
More serious topics please. This was very insightful. I've come across many people who have family members dealing with "hikikomori" lately. I've actually come across many Japanese that can't work as a result of increased social anxieties and such lately myself. All suffering at varying degrees. I don't know, I feel like some of this problem may start as early as elementary and jr high, probably stemming from things like the bullying talked about in this video. But, I dunno....
Listen to Ijime Dame Zettai, one of the many awesome BABYMETAL songs. Also it would be nice to see more serious videos like this but honestly, I'll watch anything as long as the same format is used. ありがとうござます
Not all schools has bullies, I’m an introvert and would had been bullied a lot if I didn’t go to a school that is safe, my school was strict where the Teachers are strict and won’t allow bullying and there are cctvs everywhere, but only heard of bullying from other schools , get info from classmates and social media. In college a boy was beat up for having sex with a girl in the school toilet, but the girl was the one who wanted it and her Cousin beat the boy up, I think it’s f up that when the cousin came she blame the boy, the lowest age for college is 17 here
One of my classmates gets bullied from most of the girls in my class. She's heavier than others but wears croptops, etc. and they especially target her for that. They tell her that everyone's disgusted by her and that she shouldn't wear something like that If she's not skinny. She's been bullied in every class that she's been in because of her body type but one of the bullies is even "fatter" than her and bullies her for her body size. They tell her that nobody likes her and that she should leave the class because they're annoyed by her depression. They even planned to rip apart her leggings for our PE class. Me and my best friend are friends with her and talked to our teacher about it. She's a really sweet person in general and doesn't deserve the bullying that she went trough. She even was in a mental hospital for 6 months because of the bullying in the past.
My friends best friend killed herself because she was so depressed from all the bullying and even after she graduated from high school she was still being bullied. It was all because of a blonde girl and her two friends. Legacy Neff Barnes being the blonde haired girl the other two I'm not sure of their names.
When I was in grade school I was transferred from privite to public cause my parents can't afford to pay my tuition fee. I was grade five that time. I was left out even my adviser treat me like I'm an outsider no one talks to me. I lost my confidence but things change when I got into High School. I still consider myself lucky to have a nice classmates during high school specially on my sophomore days. We treat each other like siblings, though boys and girls were seperated in third year our room is next them. Thank's to that we can help each other even though were on different section.
Unless you are NRA, arming all the teachers would be a great business deal. Try to look at the positive side, the pursuit of happiness can only be achieved with an unchanged second amandment, don't you know? :-(
Now i am pretty sure that i was bullied back then in middle school. At that time i was a loner. Didn't like to talk nor being friends with them. If one of them tries talking or being friendly with me others would avoid that unfortunate classmate. So naturally they preferred their reputation over me. They would avoid me or talks bad behind me. Well you know the fancy boys, or the girs in class would say i am old fashioned, ugly calling me a grandma behind my back. At that time i know that. But that didn't affect me that much. Cause you know the phrase "Ignorance is a bless" and also it sure is a bless at such times. Whenever there was birthday party or whatever kind of celebration they wouldn't invite me. Cause of my ignorance i had known these kind of things after in high school hahahaha. I wasn't hurt cause i hated them to the core of my heart hahaha. Also one of the fance boy in class punched my chest area a few times. I just asked him where is my notes thinking that he hided it. Suddenly he snapped out and punched me. Nobody in the class helped me nor said something. So you can see that they were jerks. Only that memory had left me hurt. In high school it got better cause i transferred but i was bold. Some boys tried to bully me calling me baldy girl or saying "oh excuse me man, i thought you were a boy" like that so i snapped and fight with one of the boys and beat him up. Since that moment he always hated me hahaha well cause everyone in the school gossips that he was beaten to death by a new girl such a weakling like that hahaha. But still it didn't stop. Also i was friends with every girl in the class so they would defend me. So my high school were much better than my middle school.
damn, I hope I can be bullied instead of them. I like getting in fights (blame it on self defense to relief my stress) --- If you don't want to be bullied fight back, like litterly fight back. They gonna ignore u sooner or later and go for someone els.
March comes in like a Lion,is a real good one about bullying, takes a while to get to it.touches on the fact that a lot of teaches, will ask the kid, what they are doing wrong that makes people, bully them and Teaches ,will sometimes deny the kid, is getting bullied to other teachers so they don't have to deal with ithas several episodes about and the Anime isn't even about bullying..
I got bullied physically and emotionally but that is human nature and growing up. But my bullies were cowards being a group of boys against one girl. Like a pack of dogs really. If it was 1 on 1, I could of fought back way easier. (I was bullied for being mixed so I was inferior) In America. When in my time before schools really started caring for bullying, they cared only if you don't socialize with others. It was complete bull. I was pulled into a "PALS" program that is supposed to help kids with social issues to learn to socialize with others but they did not solve my bullying issues. I isolated myself and hid around the school during breaks from classes. That was how they found me and judged my behavior as odd....People started paying more attention to bullying due to school shootings and suicides. 1 week ago my college and another nearby college got a shooting threat and went on lockdown. Former students were arrested and one had weapons while the other student that threatened didn`t.
In Japan, I wonder if a target has ever stood up to a bully and knocked him/her the fuck out…but I have a feeling that the situation was never resolved that way.
haha this doesnt happen as much in US. we are too diverse, and some of us will pick a fight immediately if someone talks sht lol. yyeah im glad i was born in US. I used to wish i was born in japan but not anymore!
Nvm I now am happy the school I went to was good, never seeen bullies my whole school life there, it used to be a gangster school when the school was new in 2000 ,I went there in 2012 and it definitely cleared themselves up and is a good school now
i love japan, but to be honest I`ve been bullied in my school before because i was half-japanese plus the fact that im not a fashionable person, they also used to make fun of my clothes during school fair or parties. and i find it funny because i was bullied for being an otaku, even Japan is a place for animes. i guess i`m just lucky because my school is quite popular with bullies... Good times though. good times that even until now Im having anxiety attacks because of it.
Honestly, I understand the people who are scared they will get attacked next. I don't think you should say something on your own. You should make sure there is a whole bunch of people who will stay by your side and not run away if the bully starts targeting you.
I know they're education system is suppose to be top notch, but the teachers have absolutely no soul. They don't really do their job as teachers on the supportive side, just push for the best test scores. Bullying happens because the teachers dont care and dont allow for the students to defend eachother. Here in the US, every school is different and some school, there are students who band together and combat bullying themselves. Sometimes violence is necessary, if you can't stop a bully with words, you can definitely shut them up with a fist to the face.
Bullying in Japan has been on the news? I feel like bullying in America is ignored by everyone, peers, teachers, adults even. Even if you so say something to the teacher it feels like it either gets worse, or they completely ignore it. Then again I haven't really seen bullying around me, though I did have a semester during 6th grade myself
I would get bullied in school, I had these girls come up and sit next to me as I was waiting for class and they would say things. But what they didn't know that is although I'm shy, I stick up for myself and we ended up having a fight and she was the one on the floor 😂 after that they left me alone. Alot of the time people would target me for being shy and nerdy but never realised I wasn't Afraid to stick up for myself
I think bullying in Japan is similar to my country's (except for the suicide thing), I was a victim of bullying myself and it never got physical like in those US movies were they put their heads in the toilets or anything like that, it was more about been secluded and kids saying really mean hurtful things, that was in elementary school, towards the end of elementary school I became part of a group that was I think compose of the other less popular kids, and as I enter middle school I started to change myself for the good, like trying to be more social and less afraid to speak for myself and at some point the bullying stopped, I wasn't one of the cool kids, but I was in good terms with almost all my classmates, in fact one of my current dearest friends use to be one of my biggest bullies and right now we just laugh about it when we remember those days, so I think like the tall girl said, that we have to take the positive out of this kind of experience and become stronger, bullying is wrong, but I think is sometimes part of growing up, for both the bully and the victim.
Great video, just I dunno..maybe just me...felt like some words were missing while doing the captions for the interviews..maybe that was intentional..anyways good job :)
Look I know kids getting excluded or made fun of can hurt but bullying when I was in school was a lot more physical . I had some problems with older students when I started JR. high got beat up a couple of times because I just let it happen, finally I got fed up with it one day and started swinging back and didn't stop until the older guy that use to mess with me was lying in a heap on the floor, the guy never screwed with me again I can tell you that ( and neither did any other upperclassman), I ran into him several years later at a party and asked him " Man why me? What made me stick out to you where you felt like you had to pick on me constantly?", he never gave me an answer, some people are just jackasses. I would also add that from then on if I saw some other kid getting picked on I broke it up fast, there is no reason for that crap and sometimes violence was the only thing those jerks would understand. I have had several guys come up to me over the years and thank me for helping them, that really feels great and it was worth the times I got suspended from school over them. Ok story time over, if you read all that thanks, violence is rarely ever the best solution but sometimes it's the only thing that is left.
In Canada, the bullying culture is different. You have more chances of being excluded if you are smocking or have big boobs. But in older classes, even that disappear. The most popular students are the ones with good grades, good social skills, participate in the community and a moral compass. Also, I don't consider talking behind people's backs as bullying. Maybe because in my family it's common practice, and such I don't really care.
I like how people in the comments pretend that bullying is more rare in the rest of the world. Bullying is rampant everywhere, which is why we had to have massive anti-bullying campaigns. I live in northern europe and had friends in several school districts and there were bullies in all of them. So don't act like we're on some sort of high horse.
In my opinion, Japan’s bullying is different from other countries. In Japan,It’s not violent. (a few people are violent though.) It is always “Bad Words”
I agree, and unfortunately my opinion might not be taken well likely, but because Japanese people generally are nice in the majority, because of this there's no real backbone in most people to take such abuse, even if it's online, so every now and there some twisted-minded jerk behind a keyboard and monitor decides to choose someone as a victim to bully, they take it and take it until they're daily life is just torture to them. In Western Countries like America, it's almost 100 times worse, because the bullying can get very physical, and often end with the victim mentality snapping, leading in wanting to kill the bully to end they're suffering. Often times asking to help doesn't always work though, as some bullies are so persistent they always come back when trying to be reasonable with them.
A lot of my students who are good at English hide their ability because they would get bullied for being too fluent for some reason. It breaks my heart to hear that.
What the hell.. it breaks my heart too, this is so unfair. It just shows how different are some countries. For me, everyone's mesmerised that I can speak English fluently, becouse in my country not a lot people can speak fluent English.. But I wonder WHY other people would get bullied for this I just don't get it.. I would be happy for the person who can speak (some language) fluently it's really cool actually.
Because they're seen as showing off and they would stand out. Remember the saying in Japan, "the nail that sticks out gets hammered down." This is why it's hard for the majority of Japanese to be (act)different from the rest. Rules, social etiquette, expected Japanese behavior and speaking(conforming to the group), and more rules; things we find we like as tourists in Japan are the result of all if this.
they need to boost their ego alot
leo Yeah they really do lol
That's one downside of the whole collectivist/conformist social mode.
One way to stop bullying without confrontation is just to interrupt the situation. If you see Jimmy being picked on, you walk over and say something like, "Hey Jimmy, you're good at math, right? Mind giving me some help?" or "Got plans for lunch?". If the bully gives you a look just say, "Oh hey, sorry, didn't see you there. Am I interrupting something?" The key is to ignore the bully and not give them the reaction they're looking for. Ideally, they'll get bored and move on to another victim (who you then can invite to lunch as well). Be the change you wish to see in the world. ;)
I was, but for adults. Just recalling what worked for me and my friends back in the day. You never know why a bully is being that way, or if they'll one day change their ways. Many bullies matured into friends by the end of high school. Never burn bridges. ;)
Some feel inferior, some have troubled home lives, some just having a bit of growing up to do. Whatever it is, it just takes time. We can help them along by not encouraging their bad behavior (interrupting), and encouraging their good behavior (redirecting). Everybody's fighting their own unseen battles. Don't be a victim, be a friend.
yeah man bro. So when that kid was being told to jump out the 4th story window or the other one was getting his head cut off your gonna walk over there and be like "hey Jimmy your good at math right?...... jimmy?....JIMMY!!!???!!!??!!!?!!!". You the man pongo bongo!
That can be usefull but with kids that aren't really problematic. Sounds to me like you are an elementary teacher and you never had to deal with a problem of real bully. When I was a kid in later elementary and beginning high school in my age group we were 8 kids and we confrontate the bullies of higher age being corporative. If you bother someone of us we get you in group when you were alone preferably at the toillets and preferably with sticks and beat you and if you wanted to use a knife we had too and you will lose so you don't try. Those who more bully received by far were the two who weren't covered by the group by being assholes and who ended being the target of those idiots.
easy to say impossible to do
Go watch an anime movie called "A Silent Voice" . That was a really nice movie about bullying
MEGU CHAN Sounan desu !
MEGU CHAN I loved that movie
アニメと現実は違うよ。日本に来たってデスノートは無いぞ
TheSatomonkey well at least that movie have a good moral message about bullying
The J-Drama serie "LIFE" is also very good!
Like the fact they are honest about the fact they couldn't do anything when they saw someone getting bullying. It must be tough to stand against everyone and be the new target but maybe if a little group is against bullying they can ally to defend the one who gets bullied
sakesako 12 I’ve seen this alot in mangas too
I'm really sorry to hear.. That the victim suffer so much.. If I'm srsly in that situation to help I will push the bully away and try to comfort that victim.. I will ask bully to back off.. If he comes near.. I will tryna bend his arm slowly until he felt pain and give up.. Then I just shouted weak.. Take on me if u want to.. Not girls.. Idiot.. Baka
sakesako 12 ..nice idea.. But one person is enough for me.. I got my gang too.. When they say they have their gang
I've been bullied as a kid for my differences (I'm an Asperger), but while my reflex in primary school was to try to mix in as much as possible to not stand out and be left behind (it was still some pretty lonely years though), in middleschool I decided to reach for the other kids who were being bullied, we all became friends, and since I also had friends who weren't bullied nor bullies, it helped a lot creating some sort of cohesion. It was a small school too, which helped a lot with keeping the different crowds small. And since I was a good student who never caused trouble, I ended up getting away when I stood up for myself and beat some of my bullies (one of the situations could have gotten me in big trouble, had the kid not have an already bad reputation among the staff - which totally played in my favour). I even became friend with some of them after putting them in place once and for all, because we actually liked the same stuff. 😂
The problem is, in Japan, you're usually up against the majority of the whole class
In my school the boys simply policed themselves and didn't tolerate any bullying in highschool or middle school. It was quite easy to stop the bullies with having the students people respected, popular kids, and the delinquent type threatening any bully with consequences.
If the student body doesn't put up with it. The bully becomes a endangers species
Bullying in Japan is just as bad as in Europe. You will get excluded and stared at with evil eyes when you're different. Do something they wouldn't expect and they'll stare a hole into you. The moment you try to talk to them about it they won't look into your eyes and just ignore you. Teachers will just listen and look at you but don't do anything. It's disgusting. Despite having tried studying there and failing I still love Japan though. Because people outside of school were awesome actually and more open.
In Europe (that's quite big generalisation) there's bullying, but it goes usually because of pysical weakness. Never encountered bullying because of different interests, opinions or clothing. Even obese kids beside mean nickname weren't actively bullied.
That quite abnormal "stick wit the group and rules no matter what" japanese people attitude is pushing them into bigger and bigger trouble these days. And sometimes causes unspeakable tragedy (Okawa elementary school).
All this psychological/emotional bullying is a bit strange to me. It sounds torturous to be honest. At my old school, bullying=getting the shit kicked out of you. If you fought back, you gained some respect. But then again, I grew up in a rough neighborhood.
zabijca that is a very big generalization. I think it's a global thing that bullies pick out easy targets who tend to rub the bully wrong in some way just for existing. I was bullied for being weirdly well articulated in elementary school, which I then toned down. Obviously that didn't help. I also got picked up a lot for being black and chubby at the time. I was contemplating suicide at age 9. The same people followed me into high school, but luckily I went to a youth center after school later, that safed me. I then found other outsiders. One of them is still my very close friend, I am in my late twenties now.
By the way I live in Germany, part of Europe.
but i feel like the thing is that people in Japanesse mostly have the type of bullying they mentioned in the video meanwhile in Europe(im from Europe so i know) people would not only get verbally bullied or left out but beaten up and things like that and i know it from my personal expirience however maybe it is a thing there tho but they just didnt mention it
I still love Japan much.. Ya I get that too they don't talk to u.. That's.. Really bad
The tall girl is so beautiful
I agree. The fact that she's tall makes her even more attractive
Wilde North lmao she’s probably like 5’6 since Japanese girls are tiny af
Marina Daniel Ikr! She should be a model! She’s stunning
Yes more serious topics please if you can adequately address them in the length of your average interviews.
flinx yeah, I'd prefer more of these real topics and a little less fluff if possible.
I like the seriousness. Please do more if you can! I still enjoy the fun questions, but the serious topics are very interesting since they add another layer to my understanding of Japanese culture. As always, love you guys for all the work you do and thank you, Cathy, for constantly putting yourself out there for our sake... err, benefit!
I'm so glad I wasn't born Japanese. I was always foolish, loud and strange since my early childhood, sticking out in all the wrong ways even as I tried to please the masses. With time I learned to be happy with myself and came to realize that being unfitting doesn't mean to be the wrong one. Honestly, that culture of "bland-in-utopia" truly frightens me. I love manga, anime, vocaloids and tradicional japanese art and thair history is fascinating, but for me as long there's internet access - the further the bether.
Everywhere you go there is always a bully. And make fun of you.
Well in my case I just punch
KingsRight U R STRONG. DON'T LET THE OTHERS MAKE U FEEL SAD. REPORT IT ASAP
@@KingsRight Get a knife.
Look up the psychologist Izzy Kalman for how to respond to bullying.
I'd like to see more topics like this. Eating disorders for example.
bullying is extremely common in most of the world
I wonder if there is bullying against foreigners that stand out/dress differently. I'm from the US and when I first went to Japan I was very self conscious about how I dressed because I already stand out so much, I was afraid of not fitting in even more. Of course, my Japanese is not good enough to tell if someone was talking about me in a negative way. It's just interesting because Japanese tend to be so warm and welcoming.
They won't bully you because you're white, japanese has this western or white mindset because of the relation they had between westerners long time ago. That they see people who has dark skin or ugly or fat as people needed to be hated or cannot live in this world. They had that mindset that will look down others who are different. When they see Foreigners who are white and blonde , they would usually praise them and see them like goddesses or good people that's why foreigners who are white and blondes usually don't get bullied
@@reynsantos6192 That’s not true. There are tons of examples of white kids, even half Japanese kids getting bullied at school. Simply being different increases chances of being bullied.
My cousin who is half Filipino half japanese got bullied a lot in Japan during her middle school days and got traumatized... she was pretty as hell and even work as a print ad kid model...she got rehabilitated here in the Philippines after several months of stay... she's ok now and studying in college.. every year she always comes back here in the Philippines.
(forgive my English I've tried)
If someone is being bullied, I just go talk to them rather than confronting the bullies. I'll just act clueless and not understand the social stigma. Interacting and making friends with the bullied people is the best option for me! You get to make friends and make them feel like they belong. If you dont single them out, others will join. I'm not scared of being singled out and I'm friendly but some people also don't want to be helped. They don't want to interact with anyone. After a while of trying and not changing anything, you just have to give up...
Well , they also bully people that even interact with their victims.
I know about bullying in Japan since so many long time ago & to know that this is still a serious topic in Japan is kind of surprising. Hopefully Ask Japanese will talk more about serious topic. This one is great *thumbs up*
It’s not just Japan, I think most Asian schools, especially middle and primary schools have this problem. I’m from Asia and I got bullied for being a quiet (not to mention small for my age) kid for the longest time. The thing is the bullying really is more so verbal and mental in Asia. People talk about you behind your back, make you feel excluded, call you names, mock you or discuss you while you are still in the room, but most don’t have the fucking guts to do anything to you physically. If I tried to tell a teacher about the bullying, the teachers themselves made it look like I was the problem, which is even more bs
Adding serious topics once in while would be great. That would give the regular viewers, such as I, a better understanding of Japanese society from all sides of the spectrum.
"Wonderful Everyday"
(Or Subarashiki Hibi) is a really great visual novel that kinda hones in on bullying (in japanese schools) and is really worth reading.
One of my favorites. Good call.
Love the different range of topics you cover and really interested to hear more opinions on serious topics.
Bullying is always a tough subject to cover but from this video it seems there isn't that much difference between bullying in japan and bullying here in the uk.
Through most of my time in secondary school (what America and Japan would call middle and high school combined) I was that singled out kid for most of my classes. People who were friendly in private often looked the other way while in the classroom because they didn't want to become a target either.
I won't beg sympathy over it, it was just part of life.
Thankfully the staff did tackle it as best they could when, like many bullied kids I started dropping out, the school moved me from one teaching block to another so that the only time I faced the original group were during home room or lunch break.
Wasn't a fix all as I was still "that outsider kid" who got moved because of bullying but it was definitely a good thing.
Very little of my bullying was physical, most was being excluded from things, picked last for groups, having stationary damaged or gum put on my chair, the usual stuff.
Think the meanest was coming back from PE on the sports field to find my tights and skirt hung up on a basketball hoop in the gym and my shoes still sat in a toilet bowl
Excellent! A much needed topic
New subbie from Norway here, love this channel!
More videos on bullying and more advice on how to deal with it and stop it would be amazing because bullying all over the world is getting out of hand even here in Sri Lanka there is a bullying system in universities where the seniors bully the new students for a period of three months and some things get waay out of hand. This was an awesome video btw 👍
I find this mentality quite weird
Like, why is it so bad to not having a group of friends? Sure, being told everyday that you suck and you should die is terrible, but is it really worth it to "fit in" to be part of a group of people who'd say that to somebody? Really?
I've always been a loner, so let me give you a tip: no matter how singular you are, if you are a nice and open person, people sooner or later WILL eventually come to you. Don't hurry
It's better to find nice people and make solid friendships rather than to stick with bad people just to not be alone
i stood up for people who were bullied at my school, i would love to be a teacher so i could help kids get along, and accept each other, they don't have to be friends or like each other, as long as they respect each other and don't act mean towards others for no reason.
Do you think some of these people you interview speak slower because you're a foreigner?
If someone get bullied i will record it, after that i will friend the Victim and tell her/his parents that she/he got bullied, and if his/her parents do not care, Well I'm gonna go at the bullies house and tell their parents with the video so that i will have proof.
Everyone seems so honest in what they say. I am impressed but also so sad for the victims of this abuse
I feel lucky to graduate from college without ever experiencing bullying or even seeing it in my class. But there was one time in freshman college where a boy was ostracized among boys in our class because he's mostly aloof. I just found out about it after a year when the guy has transferred already and I wasn't part of their class anymore. It's sad thinking I could've done something to prevent this. There were actually signs, like some guy would make snarky remarks when he's called for recitation. I thought that was normal for some boys. I wish I'd have known sooner.
in Italian schools bullying is a very bad situation.
As an italian student,i was bullied since i was little,now i am in high school,situation got better.
in my opinion,the things now are worst than before,and if it continues i think we have to...i don't know,sorry
Excellent and important topic. Great job!
We have a lot of bullying in the US. Two results occur as a result of bullying here which get media attention. The first is suicide and the second is the bullied victim getting revenge by shooting the bully and innocent victims in the process at the school. Unfortunately, bullying happens everyday and in every country.
Could you explore on their concept of friendship? Its something that still baffles me to this day after 5+ years of living in Japan and having a stable relationship with a Japanese girl. Its something I discuss frequently with other foreign friends (the only ones I got). Or put in another way: how can I detect when they don't really give a fuck about me and when they genuinely have an interest in knowing me?
These last months the whole 本音と建て前 concept is starting to take a toll in my mental well being because I'm always paranoid about who's being genuinely friendly and who's just being polite.
As a Malay friend brilliantly put one time: "they are friendly, but they are not your friends", but, I wonder if there's something more than that... I would really like to make genuine friendships around here, my Japanese is good, and yet, I find it extremely difficult. To be honest I just stopped trying and did what most foreigners here do: make friends with other foreigners, which is fantastic but still, I feel weird that after 5 years here the only person I can call my friend is my ex. Apart from that, nothing, nada.
I appreciate this country and its people, but when it comes to social relationships, I truly feel like a second class citizen. Thank goodness for the other foreigners I've met along the way. If it wasn't for them, this country would be so extremely boring.
Most people regardless of culture would feel bad if somebody is being bullied, but they won't help the bullied person in general.
Great topic!! More like this would be great 👍🏻
I personally haven't got bullied except for an episode in my first year of high school (I'm in the fourth now) when my best friend (of course she's not anymore now) told the class that I insulted them behind their back saying that girls are b*** and boys are f*** . That happened when I was absent from school. The same day she came to my house telling me that the whole class was very angry and they would have made a "meeting" to talk about that. Of course when she came she didn't tell me what she said to the class so I was naively thinking that she would have stood up for me and say that I didn't do that at all. When I went the day after to school they did that meeting putting me in the centre while the girls were something like saying that I shouldn't dare saying those things and one of them was actually nearly hitting me so I started crying for that horrible situation of being alone against the class and when I turned to ask for help to my best friend she was laughing saying that I really said that and the boys were laughing too for my face while I was crying. I had two of my classmates that I thought were my friends but they shut up saying anything so I ended up spending the whole first year staying alone with one of those two classmates who talked to me (but didn't do anything in that situation) so now that I'm in the fourth year that girl keeps talking to me like nothing happened and I can't do anything but smile and joke . I know well how the situation of being alone at school is scary and makes you feel like you don't even want to go out of your house and turn the phone off because people really can be double-face, even the person that you don't expect it from .. I know that maybe I should not say this because it won't solve the problem itself but my advice is to bear it until you get out of primary/middle/secondary school because some people will always feel stronger and at a higher level than you so if you are a victim, at least this is what I think, you have to beat it.
Personally I think that telling the teacher about the fact is okay but at the end, even if teachers talk about it in the class and help the victim, those people who bully will keep doing it when teachers go away.. I know it's not what a victim wants to hear but this is the truth... however, as that girl in black said, don't think that since those people are bullying you you have something wrong because THEY have a problem: they could not leave without their "friends" helping them to bully you. If their friends turned their back to the them it would be the end. So, be strong and don't think negatively because you have nothing wrong.
Sarah Abdel That's sad to hear. That girl's probably insecure of you or if it wasn't the case, she's more or less mental.
What I'd probably do is outsmart her, though. For example, provoking her and videotaping her bullying you. It sounds evil but that's serving justice to your self. You see, your mind is a powerful weapon. Use it to your advantage.
Just a warning, use it only for good reasons.
I've been bullied back in my first year in grade school. I was in a new environment because i used to live in the city. What happened is that, i was seated next to the 'bullies'. I'm not even aware that such bad things could ever happen. So it kinda gave me a trauma that time. I was friendly and jolly but it really shocked me that i was physically bullied because everyone's nice to me in the past and since i'm just a six-year-old back then, it really stucked in my head and made it hard to go inside the classroom everyday. And during the 4th-6th grade, i grew so much taller than others and being a girl, of course i stood out a lot and just like the tall girl in the video, i was really bothered by people always noticing my height and always asking me why am i so tall, like i can't do anything about it, right? And at some point, i've thought that i can never be treated as a 'girl' because i can't be 'cute'. But i'm proud to tell these stories because now, i've become stronger physically, mentally and emotionally. To all people who are getting bullied, time will pass and you will be able to overcome your challenges BUT respect yourself and if you think it's getting too much, don't be afraid to face it head on. Keep your head up and keep moving forward! 💕
i was a bully in primary school ( not fully aware til later ) , then became the bullied in junior high , i then bursted my bubble and just fought them (lost all the time) , they soon backed down of course
as many scars i have on my face from then , i m more confident with standing my ground and enjoy the andrenaline rush
some just can t be reasoned with and depend on how u act , there ll always be consequences for extreme behaviours , so either be smart , vigilant or learn to 'dance'
Surprising enough I never was or saw anyone get bullied in my schools I only ever was it on TV or online in articles and stuff
Sounds pretty tame. Thinking back I actually think my school was one of the worst!
- kid beaten daily, knocked out, head smacked against wall
- some guy opened a drain and filled up a plastic bag with sewage and tipped it all over another kid
- constantly stealing each others bags, throwing them in the trash, toilets
- sticking chewing gum in people's hair
- kid on bus had bananas thrown at him, and a whole sandwich smeared all over his face
- hair set on fire
- lit a tennis ball on fire and threw it around the classroom
- sticking chewed up gummy bears into hair
- lots of verbal abuse and fighting
- shit talking behind back
- kids arriving drunk or bringing drugs into school
- kids bag and pencil case opened and scattered across the class
- one kid had an incontinence problem and someone showed the whole class his shit stained underwear
- kid born with really tiny fingers bullied daily
- fat kid beaten up, severely . Was a real chill dude and was never the same after
- one kid finally had enough, flipped a table, smashed windows.
Probably more but it's been a while!
lmao in the school i studied in brazil none of this shit would happened because it was near a lot of slums so everyone's life was already violent enough plus everyone had a cousin/friend who was into gangs so it was kinda peaceful
Russell Jimmies lmfao if any one of these things happened to me, my parents would sue the school
honestly, where do you live? it sounds pretty bad. does the school do anything to prevent it?
Well, that's some fine childhood memory. Where the heck do you grew up? Is this the U.S.? If so, I no longer wonder about shootings.
So fucken disgusting!
It has been an issue in Japan for a long time but I hope there will be more awareness
The girl with the little braids was so cute >w
I really like this video, I suffered bullying too, and I consider that it's a big problem. When I suffered bullying, I think that I was not going to finish and you think that everyone are same, but there are good people too. If you become until here and you have a problems with bullying, I want say you that you have to endurance, and will be worth, not everything is lost.
Sorry for my bad English and good luck guys❤️
As someone who was lowkey bullied in a manner of speaking and then beat his ass, I'm not seeing why more people don't fight back although I guess it's not for everyone.
A mi hermana le gusta este canal pero no le gusta que ya no pongan los subs en español y me incluyo pero no tanto porque entiendo el ingles
Haré subs en español, pero como no suelo hacerlos pueden demorar en aparecer o/
Somehow in yearly years I always tried to stand by person being bullied. Later I was bullied but there were people who were on my side. I cannot imaging how hard it is being bullied by everybody. This seems damn hard.
my uncle was Malay, but he's died of a long standing bullying from Japanese at work, it's real
Bullying is a general Problem in other Countrys with Kindergarten/School's/Workplace. For Schools: U have to make you're own Point. Tell Teachers and Parents to tell make a Signal. If that wont work u have make you're own Point: Self Defense to get Respect or to Suffer over you. I would say in my opinion Self Defense to get the attention. Atleast i wouldnt care if the Bully get owned in a Hospital. If ur get Banned from School tell them like this: The Responsible failed because i told him this like Days/Weeks/Months ago and they didnt do anything. Many times it must sometimes something happen before PPL react.
I never bullied anyone and never got bullied at school....I guess I was one of those kids that blend really in the background.
Man I knew bullying in Japan was much more sevre and malicious than the rest of the world but I had no idea that it was much more vicious in nature than I anticipated.
Kids need to learn how to defend themselves both mentally and physically from twisted people that behave like this. And parents need to make sure that their children don’t get involved in bullying, help others when they need them and remind them to treat people on how they want to be treated. Teachers must also be strict and bold enough to help stop these problems in their schools. It’s their job to care for the students no matter what. And if they don’t even try to intervene, then the should pack up and go get a different job all together.
I'm from Russia and I was bullied too in primary and middle school. My classmates always tried to insult me. Teachers just ignored the problem.
So pretty much the bullying I’ve seen in anime/ manga was pretty much spot on aside from the exaggerated forms.
I hope bullying gets extinguished soon..
Unfortunately this is a human condition based problem, it's not likely to be solved anytime soon without violating a moral line.
Exactly, unless you prefer tyranny and want an environment where you're constantly monitored it can never be avoided. Best you can do is try and manage or mitigate instances of bullying and the bullied when they occur.
If you listen to Kpop then you should expect to get bullied.
V系 HQ wtf
Mecks089 not just humans. It's animals instinct too. Humans are still animals. Believe it or not.
More serious topics please. This was very insightful. I've come across many people who have family members dealing with "hikikomori" lately. I've actually come across many Japanese that can't work as a result of increased social anxieties and such lately myself. All suffering at varying degrees. I don't know, I feel like some of this problem may start as early as elementary and jr high, probably stemming from things like the bullying talked about in this video. But, I dunno....
Listen to Ijime Dame Zettai, one of the many awesome BABYMETAL songs. Also it would be nice to see more serious videos like this but honestly, I'll watch anything as long as the same format is used.
ありがとうござます
Robert Tucker It's ありがとうございます
HeroesPsykozz Such a simple phrase yet I still get it wrong. I guess that's another thing I need to work on 😁 Thanks for letting me know.
Have you guys considered expanding your sample?
I need help im in japan now I moved here 4 years ago and I get bullied sometimes.
Not all schools has bullies, I’m an introvert and would had been bullied a lot if I didn’t go to a school that is safe, my school was strict where the Teachers are strict and won’t allow bullying and there are cctvs everywhere, but only heard of bullying from other schools , get info from classmates and social media. In college a boy was beat up for having sex with a girl in the school toilet, but the girl was the one who wanted it and her Cousin beat the boy up, I think it’s f up that when the cousin came she blame the boy, the lowest age for college is 17 here
Please do more on these topics.
One of my classmates gets bullied from most of the girls in my class. She's heavier than others but wears croptops, etc. and they especially target her for that. They tell her that everyone's disgusted by her and that she shouldn't wear something like that If she's not skinny. She's been bullied in every class that she's been in because of her body type but one of the bullies is even "fatter" than her and bullies her for her body size. They tell her that nobody likes her and that she should leave the class because they're annoyed by her depression. They even planned to rip apart her leggings for our PE class. Me and my best friend are friends with her and talked to our teacher about it. She's a really sweet person in general and doesn't deserve the bullying that she went trough. She even was in a mental hospital for 6 months because of the bullying in the past.
*4:23* Merece un gran aplauso esta chica 💝
I just realised that captions was off and I'm already at 5:26 and why does it feel like I can understand this? Help call 911..
Bruh I was so bullied in my Japanese middle school in Japan
I so understand the tall girl's pain..I had to endure lots of rude remarks towards my height too.
My friends best friend killed herself because she was so depressed from all the bullying and even after she graduated from high school she was still being bullied. It was all because of a blonde girl and her two friends. Legacy Neff Barnes being the blonde haired girl the other two I'm not sure of their names.
Children are mean, no matter the country. It's sad to see that Japan also has this strong bully behavior.
The tall girl has a similar build as me (I’m 175cm tho) and it makes me happy to see another y’all Japanese woman :))
When I was in grade school I was transferred from privite to public cause my parents can't afford to pay my tuition fee. I was grade five that time. I was left out even my adviser treat me like I'm an outsider no one talks to me. I lost my confidence but things change when I got into High School.
I still consider myself lucky to have a nice classmates during high school specially on my sophomore days. We treat each other like siblings, though boys and girls were seperated in third year our room is next them. Thank's to that we can help each other even though were on different section.
in some animes there are bully characters that tan there skin dye there hair where very bright make up and have phones and purses
Yandere Simulator?
In America people would be concerned about school shootings because of bullying :|
Unless you are NRA, arming all the teachers would be a great business deal. Try to look at the positive side, the pursuit of happiness can only be achieved with an unchanged second amandment, don't you know? :-(
BULLYING IS SO SCARY HERE IN JAPAN FOR A FOREIGNER I SWEAR TO GOD
I once stood up against a girl that was bullied in elementary school but she didn't really care so I started to not care either
Now i am pretty sure that i was bullied back then in middle school. At that time i was a loner. Didn't like to talk nor being friends with them. If one of them tries talking or being friendly with me others would avoid that unfortunate classmate. So naturally they preferred their reputation over me. They would avoid me or talks bad behind me. Well you know the fancy boys, or the girs in class would say i am old fashioned, ugly calling me a grandma behind my back. At that time i know that. But that didn't affect me that much. Cause you know the phrase "Ignorance is a bless" and also it sure is a bless at such times. Whenever there was birthday party or whatever kind of celebration they wouldn't invite me. Cause of my ignorance i had known these kind of things after in high school hahahaha. I wasn't hurt cause i hated them to the core of my heart hahaha. Also one of the fance boy in class punched my chest area a few times. I just asked him where is my notes thinking that he hided it. Suddenly he snapped out and punched me. Nobody in the class helped me nor said something. So you can see that they were jerks. Only that memory had left me hurt. In high school it got better cause i transferred but i was bold. Some boys tried to bully me calling me baldy girl or saying "oh excuse me man, i thought you were a boy" like that so i snapped and fight with one of the boys and beat him up. Since that moment he always hated me hahaha well cause everyone in the school gossips that he was beaten to death by a new girl such a weakling like that hahaha. But still it didn't stop. Also i was friends with every girl in the class so they would defend me. So my high school were much better than my middle school.
damn, I hope I can be bullied instead of them. I like getting in fights (blame it on self defense to relief my stress) --- If you don't want to be bullied fight back, like litterly fight back. They gonna ignore u sooner or later and go for someone els.
March comes in like a Lion,is a real good one about bullying, takes a while to get to it.touches on the fact that a lot of teaches, will ask the kid, what they are doing wrong that makes people, bully them and Teaches ,will sometimes deny the kid, is getting bullied to other teachers so they don't have to deal with ithas several episodes about and the Anime isn't even about bullying..
I got bullied physically and emotionally but that is human nature and growing up. But my bullies were cowards being a group of boys against one girl. Like a pack of dogs really. If it was 1 on 1, I could of fought back way easier. (I was bullied for being mixed so I was inferior) In America. When in my time before schools really started caring for bullying, they cared only if you don't socialize with others. It was complete bull. I was pulled into a "PALS" program that is supposed to help kids with social issues to learn to socialize with others but they did not solve my bullying issues. I isolated myself and hid around the school during breaks from classes. That was how they found me and judged my behavior as odd....People started paying more attention to bullying due to school shootings and suicides. 1 week ago my college and another nearby college got a shooting threat and went on lockdown. Former students were arrested and one had weapons while the other student that threatened didn`t.
Bullying is pretty bad there I can tell because of like every anime/jp drama
Yea, even if you say your own opinions, you’ll get bullied.
In Japan, I wonder if a target has ever stood up to a bully and knocked him/her the fuck out…but I have a feeling that the situation was never resolved that way.
haha this doesnt happen as much in US. we are too diverse, and some of us will pick a fight immediately if someone talks sht lol.
yyeah im glad i was born in US. I used to wish i was born in japan but not anymore!
Problem is, that some of you choose a AR-15 for picking up a fight.
@@hkw242 Then again, at least it's only a duel.
Nvm I now am happy the school I went to was good, never seeen bullies my whole school life there, it used to be a gangster school when the school was new in 2000 ,I went there in 2012 and it definitely cleared themselves up and is a good school now
it's not only in school, at work too.
i love japan, but to be honest I`ve been bullied in my school before because i was half-japanese plus the fact that im not a fashionable person, they also used to make fun of my clothes during school fair or parties. and i find it funny because i was bullied for being an otaku, even Japan is a place for animes. i guess i`m just lucky because my school is quite popular with bullies... Good times though. good times that even until now Im having anxiety attacks because of it.
I know this is completely unrealted to the video, but the first AD before the video started said "we noodle". Just thought I should share that🤣🤣
we don't have such thing as bullying in school here, in India we always are friendly to each other
Honestly, I understand the people who are scared they will get attacked next. I don't think you should say something on your own. You should make sure there is a whole bunch of people who will stay by your side and not run away if the bully starts targeting you.
this reminds me when i got bullied in elementary school
Yes just like in every country, except in Japan it seems to be less physical and more psychological
I know they're education system is suppose to be top notch, but the teachers have absolutely no soul. They don't really do their job as teachers on the supportive side, just push for the best test scores. Bullying happens because the teachers dont care and dont allow for the students to defend eachother. Here in the US, every school is different and some school, there are students who band together and combat bullying themselves. Sometimes violence is necessary, if you can't stop a bully with words, you can definitely shut them up with a fist to the face.
Bullying in Japan has been on the news? I feel like bullying in America is ignored by everyone, peers, teachers, adults even. Even if you so say something to the teacher it feels like it either gets worse, or they completely ignore it. Then again I haven't really seen bullying around me, though I did have a semester during 6th grade myself
I would get bullied in school, I had these girls come up and sit next to me as I was waiting for class and they would say things. But what they didn't know that is although I'm shy, I stick up for myself and we ended up having a fight and she was the one on the floor 😂 after that they left me alone. Alot of the time people would target me for being shy and nerdy but never realised I wasn't Afraid to stick up for myself
tbh, Im fine with being shy and nerdy. Is that weird? 😂😂
I think bullying in Japan is similar to my country's (except for the suicide thing), I was a victim of bullying myself and it never got physical like in those US movies were they put their heads in the toilets or anything like that, it was more about been secluded and kids saying really mean hurtful things, that was in elementary school, towards the end of elementary school I became part of a group that was I think compose of the other less popular kids, and as I enter middle school I started to change myself for the good, like trying to be more social and less afraid to speak for myself and at some point the bullying stopped, I wasn't one of the cool kids, but I was in good terms with almost all my classmates, in fact one of my current dearest friends use to be one of my biggest bullies and right now we just laugh about it when we remember those days, so I think like the tall girl said, that we have to take the positive out of this kind of experience and become stronger, bullying is wrong, but I think is sometimes part of growing up, for both the bully and the victim.
Great video, just I dunno..maybe just me...felt like some words were missing while doing the captions for the interviews..maybe that was intentional..anyways good job :)
Look I know kids getting excluded or made fun of can hurt but bullying when I was in school was a lot more physical . I had some problems with older students when I started JR. high got beat up a couple of times because I just let it happen, finally I got fed up with it one day and started swinging back and didn't stop until the older guy that use to mess with me was lying in a heap on the floor, the guy never screwed with me again I can tell you that ( and neither did any other upperclassman), I ran into him several years later at a party and asked him " Man why me? What made me stick out to you where you felt like you had to pick on me constantly?", he never gave me an answer, some people are just jackasses.
I would also add that from then on if I saw some other kid getting picked on I broke it up fast, there is no reason for that crap and sometimes violence was the only thing those jerks would understand. I have had several guys come up to me over the years and thank me for helping them, that really feels great and it was worth the times I got suspended from school over them. Ok story time over, if you read all that thanks, violence is rarely ever the best solution but sometimes it's the only thing that is left.
In Canada, the bullying culture is different. You have more chances of being excluded if you are smocking or have big boobs. But in older classes, even that disappear. The most popular students are the ones with good grades, good social skills, participate in the community and a moral compass.
Also, I don't consider talking behind people's backs as bullying. Maybe because in my family it's common practice, and such I don't really care.
I like how people in the comments pretend that bullying is more rare in the rest of the world. Bullying is rampant everywhere, which is why we had to have massive anti-bullying campaigns. I live in northern europe and had friends in several school districts and there were bullies in all of them.
So don't act like we're on some sort of high horse.
what's the japanese word for 'bullying?'
I thought it only happened in mangas
In my opinion,
Japan’s bullying is different from other countries.
In Japan,It’s not violent.
(a few people are violent though.)
It is always “Bad Words”
I agree, and unfortunately my opinion might not be taken well likely, but because Japanese people generally are nice in the majority, because of this there's no real backbone in most people to take such abuse, even if it's online, so every now and there some twisted-minded jerk behind a keyboard and monitor decides to choose someone as a victim to bully, they take it and take it until they're daily life is just torture to them.
In Western Countries like America, it's almost 100 times worse, because the bullying can get very physical, and often end with the victim mentality snapping, leading in wanting to kill the bully to end they're suffering. Often times asking to help doesn't always work though, as some bullies are so persistent they always come back when trying to be reasonable with them.
lmaooo it can get violent. There's all types of bullying in Japan just like any other country
TRUE. They don't bully you physically but MENTALLY and that's far more worst for me.