Thank you. This is truth people like me need to hear because I tend to give people the benefit of doubt and it always blows up in my face. Your videos are so important to me and reminds me that I don't deserve this type of treatment.
Good for you, denial is what makes you stay and the time invested but deep down you knew what you had to do! Stay strong and know that time waits for nobody! You did what you had to do for you!❤
I’ve been married to mine for 3.5 years, and now I’m pregnant with twin boys at 52 years old. He does all of these things in this video. We live in his country, I’m going home next week ❤, I’m done.
Wishing you all the best ! Your first priority is to take care of YOU! Your twins feel your energy. I'm so happy this video fell in your path🌺 Take good care of yourself & your babies 💕
Yep....you are SO right, Ace!! These people do this stuff, and all I can ask is, "WHY?" HOW can anyone be so EVIL to play with people like this??? I'm never going to understand it, but ya know what? Maybe it's better that I don't. I'll live in my authenticity, unashamed and unapologetic. All of you should, too...don't ever let these pieces of shit ever bring you down to their level, otherwise they win.
Remember hurt people hurt others. 💔 but the most important part is that you can heal. Never belittle yourself to fit in someone box. Set your boundaries and love you first. Mental illness is a real thing.
@@krystalgivens207 I totally agree that hurt people do hurt others and it's often an automatic self-defence mechanism, or can be done with awareness; however, many who've experienced trauma don't intentionally do so, or are working on changing their own toxic behaviour. I've been immensely harmed by many people over the years, including my parents and other family members, yet it doesn't make it okay that they were hurt as well, hence why it's safer for me to keep my distance. 🙁
@@cyndigooch1162 Thank you for your response. Now days you have to set boundaries for anyone you come in contact with especially family they know you better than anyone and will take advantage of you. Also, we can't expect people to be something they are not. I believe the topic was about being gaslighting. Actions speak louder than words but as women we respond with emotions most of the time. Never expect someone not hurting you whether it's intentional or not intentional that's just the facts of life. Keep them boundaries in order.
I felt like you were speaking directly to me. I’m currently dealing with a gaslighting husband and I don’t know what to do. I feel stuck. I’m praying for some clarity.
Omg that's minor. My ex took my college texts and put them up on the top of my China cabinet towards the back. When I finally found them while cleaning, he SWORE I put them up there and just forgot about them. For a hot second, I actually considered that maybe I did it and forgot. I then thought, why would I do that? That's stupid. I'm currently using those books so I had no reason to hide them from myself like that. I'm a be honest, the way you were saying "you can trust me,..." gave me chills in a bad way (as in scary). You see, my ex used to say all those things so now when I hear them, I run from the speaker. I was engaged twice after my divorce and ran off from both of them. I decided there was no way I could trust anyone enough to marry him and have decided to enjoy the rest of my years as a single woman.
Man just straight up read me, not even joking, this ain't a freaking joke. I feel like this has been the most real words anyone has ever told me about my problem in my relationship.
Good teaching. They are mastermind manipulators, which is witchcraft. The person who says to you that you think you perfect bring out the perfect example of what you are saying about gaslighting. Thank you, brother.
Facts. I lived this experience for 9 years. A narcissist never shows empathy. They negative pattern of lies, blame and deflect game was perfect for them. A zebra never changes its stripes actions is the best teacher. What's the main part? I knew he was full of sh.. all that time. But, I still stayed. Now, Im happily loving myself a valuable lesson was learned.
Oh Ace, more videos like this please. This hit so different when you included saying “I’m sorry “ is the ultimate gaslighting. Never saw that way, but this made total sense😢😢😢
I am so upset to have found this in my very own family circle.... i would love to change completely environment, because it is clear to me, after listening to you, that NOBODY can change such people... they disgrace innocent empaths.
Yeah they are like expert readers. They watch your reactions to trigger an emotional response. Normally, it’s your weaknesses. Could be fear of judgment. Could be empathy. Could be shame. But whatever triggers you, know that, they don’t have a problem with triggering it. Idk if it’s a way they won’t be a victim. So if i do it to you, you can’t do it to me. Mmhhhm. No one’s perfect, but if i say something bothers me and why it hurts my feelings, i would think you should not do it anymore. If someone said that makes me bad when you do this, I’d stop doing it.
This is My ex. Everything was always my fault. I broke things off with him in a very respectful manner but I told him the truth. That I don’t trust him. I can’t give my life to a man I don’t trust. He told me I’m not a human being, I’m a child, and that I’m masculine 🙄
This hit hard. Not only did my ex do this, but I just realized my entire family dynamic is like this. I’m going to program that acronym into my radar: LDDD. Lie, Deny, Deflect, and Defend. Once I see that pattern, I’m out!
Whoa. Lots of hard truths in this. I bet he’ll do this to the next one and never have what he wants because he can’t man up and address his issues. He hurts me continuously and it’s always my fault.
Life is a choice. Some people choose to be evil. The devil is the original narcissist. Pay attention to your INTUITION and that persons ENERGY. If you feel something is off with that person, it means you need to go the opposite direction of that person. God gave us INTUITION for a reason. Amen!
Intuition can lie and there Ian no such thing as narcissism or a narcissist in the Bible. Read the Bible and learn the real truth from God Himself. May the real God of the Bible lead you to the truth. Amen and God bless!
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 Exactly what a narcissist's enabler would say. Saying that narcissism doesn't exist and telling her to never listen to her intuition is exactly how you send her towards predatory abusers. Are you trying to destroy her life? Or are you just that dumb?
Wow! Thank you for this!!! I can close my eyes and see my ex talking to me again 😢. My ex & I just got divorced a few days ago and I feel my freedom & sanity flowing back to me 😌.
Thank you Ace for all that you do with so much heart. I can only imagine how many good people need to hear this. And how many people will receive what your heart wants to bless them with. 🙏🙏🙏💗
Thank you for your work ❤pray that your videos will be exposed to more and more audiences and help so much more people avoid wasting life and time on toxic relationships so we can all be spending more time on loving the world and other people rather than being confused and heartbroken all day❤😂
It's the deflection for me... And the am sorry with tears and the I love you and the you made me do this.... Pls its all the above and some... Yes yes on point 💯💯💯 Speak up Speak up 💞💞💞💞
Experienced each of the ultimate forms of gaslighting. Wasted 9 years of my life. But I'm glad I'm finally out. Although it was only after a visit to the ER, therapy, psych treatment, and his final betrayal, which happened today. Been cheated on, abused, insulted, ignored when I needed him the most. I'm glad for this video. Such an eye opener!
Thank God for my deliverance…Continue to let God use you. I am a gen x er who married a boomer. I knew something was wrong with this relationship. I married the Covert which I think is one of the worse. Yes it is amazing to see how he took my entire network of friends and family and turned them against me. But I am safe now. Today I went to look at an apartment for me. I have started over and it is possible But you have to want a different life ladies. The education I got from the Bible God books and you young people on U tube took me on a path of deliverance. Ace be not weary in well doing for in due season you will reap a reward if you do not faint 🦋🦋🦋
Every single word you speaking is on the money....when someone does those things the signs 1)LIE......... 2)DENY...................3)DEFLECT.🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣...RUN WALK .......POWERWALK..
Facts! All facts took me about 6 years to understand what I was dealing with and I got out because it’s really unhealthy, not peaceful and quite frankly abuse gotta love yourself to realize what you’re dealing with without trying to make any excuse and or wait to see if it will go away! The tactics used to keep you involved is crazy it’s like an addiction gotta be strong to leave & it will be hard if you invested years…. It will be embarrassing, emotional, sad & you might feel like how was I that weak & confused to not recognize & not leave sooner! Forgive yourself, love yourself & understand you will need to heal! Identify what inside of you made you deal with such & never fall into that cycle again! Be smart & choose wisely as Natalie Clarice says! No but coming from someone who has been in abusive relationships most of my life sadly but not anymore & not ever again! Choose you!❤Peace & blessings
One thing I wanna add on the whole actions not matching words. Consider the importance of that. How many parents accept a toxic other into their house and around their children? How many men manipulate women to giving them money or letting them slide on not paying bills? How many times do men take from a single mothers resources from her family and she let's it happen. Knows it ain't right and let's it happen. Don't ever be that parent. Always put your kids first and if adding a significant other is damaging to the kids in anyway its a no go. Kids come first.
Oh wow I recently found you and I think you are phenomenal you hit it on the nose God bless you on your journey you are doing amazing work thank you my black king
I literally had to stop myself from admitting into a hospital because he gaslit me so much to truly believe that I was crazy and I wasn’t equipped to handle myself. He always apologized but never changed. I fell for it every time. I was always the blame for relationship problems. Any time I stood up for myself, it turned into an argument. He decide to end the relationship and as much as it did hurt, staying in the relationship was hurting me more than anything. I wasn’t happy, I was settling; trying to create a family. He was a dark cloud over my life. He hated himself, and he made me hate myself as well. It’s going to take some time to build myself back up, but I have two beautiful girls that deserve a peaceful mom.
I literally had to ask for closure from a former friend. 20 years to be exact. Always hype, always comment on my social media, but claim broke. Said he was struggling but still had a gig. Ok understood but years though? It was the infatuation he had for me. We never had sex. But.....we finally did it and it was great. But it felt empty but great lmao. Now hes in a situation where he cant bring his current baby mom, their child and her child from another man to the states because "he cant afford it". God is my protection. No hard feelings. I dont hate the man im just glad that I'm 38 with no children. I dont think I'm the shit but then again I'm not in "that shit". God got ME🎉🍾🙏
After my ex made everything about him when I was feeling sick and gas lighting me it was literally the last straw when he said, "It's because the Dr. diagnosed you with Bipolar 1 (the dr said I may have Bipolar 1 he never said I had it) I told him to please not gas light me and it took me about 10 times to tell him to gtfo. Nah I'm not playing those games nor am I doing the push and pull thing I used to do when I was diagnosed with BPD I feel like my whole body is falling apart and I would rather be thinking about Jesus who at this point I barely believe in. Thanks for the message I needed that last part I don't expect anything from anyone at this point and am working on not blaming others for my mistakes I know what I need to work on. I've been so stressed out that I'm feeling it physically.
It's depressing to because I gaslight also sometimes on accident. I learned it from my family. I cut them out of my life and have been so lonely ever sense. If you never have anything to live for then what's the point? You just wait to die.
umm gaslighters can also do a lot of acts of services to get you and still be fake. they have gotten better at there craft. you end up seeing the actions when they start devaluing you then say it’s your childhood trauma.
SO RIGHT. MINE HAD THE AUDACITY TO TELL ME AFTER MY MOM AND DAD PASSED, OH THEY SAID FOR HIM TO LOOK AFTER ME AND MY SON AND HE PROMISED THEM HE WOULD. I KNOW FOR A FACT MY MOMMA AINT NEVER TOLD HIM TO LOOK AFTER ME CAUSE SHE WARNED ME BEFORE SHE DIED THAT HE WASN'T GONNA CHANGE. SO GASLIGHTING AT WORK HERE
Thanks for the eye opener, last relationship, dude made sure he spent one on one time with my family, especially my mother. I would be at work, he'd go spend time with my parents because he had no family which was a lie, they just don't deal with him. He's got so many lies with him. My parents read between all the lies and eventually I did too. You give a person enough rope, they will hang themselves. Not looking for a perfect person but at least be honest with yourself and others. Its scary out here y'all...stay woke ladies. I KNOW what I experienced.
I see it. I would love us all to keep our integrity. Apologies should be meant and followed up. That was my downfall. I had a set back into insanity but I'm getting back. I know where to put my effort and grow myself. I'm learning more about defense mechanisms I believe this was an unfinished project and my ex was able to wiggle in. I see now that I need to commit more to myself and NEVER let anyone push me to lose myself again.
I got out of a relationship like this more than 5 months ago now. It was truly hell and I never realized what I was truly going through until the end. But it’s crazy what he said about mutual friends. Me and my ex had a mutual GIRL friend who literally blatantly took his side without even knowing what was going on between us.
Both the words AND the actions have to match...one without the other is still confusion...example: if he's disrespectful and rude to you and mostly looks for negatives thing to say about u but on the other hand will do what u ask him to do it even if he doesn't do it immediately but ends up doing 🤔 can u be sure with that or is that still confusion? 🤔 exactly im still confused about that!
He knew exactly how to gaslight and its gonna come back on him. Had my mind twisted and blamed me for everything. Yessss I take own and I let him do it.
Red flags raise when I get an unreasonable emotional over react to a question. I see that type of reaction as a deflect.
I just got out of a relationship with a Gaslighter. He did all three to me and made me think I was losing my mind!
Thank you. This is truth people like me need to hear because I tend to give people the benefit of doubt and it always blows up in my face. Your videos are so important to me and reminds me that I don't deserve this type of treatment.
Thank you Ace I appreciate you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I needed to hear this
LOVE YOU ACE
🙏😢
“…you can be imperfect, broke, short, smelly and still not lie to people and still have integrity”.
Best. Quote. Ever. ❤️
This!!!
I married a gaslighter. But I was in denial for 17 years. I'm done with allowing it.
Good for you, denial is what makes you stay and the time invested but deep down you knew what you had to do! Stay strong and know that time waits for nobody! You did what you had to do for you!❤
I’ve been married to mine for 3.5 years, and now I’m pregnant with twin boys at 52 years old. He does all of these things in this video. We live in his country, I’m going home next week ❤, I’m done.
I hope you found some peace! 💛
52 and pregnant with twins! Congratulations on your beautiful blessings.
Wishing you all the best ! Your first priority is to take care of YOU! Your twins feel your energy. I'm so happy this video fell in your path🌺 Take good care of yourself & your babies 💕
Yep....you are SO right, Ace!! These people do this stuff, and all I can ask is, "WHY?"
HOW can anyone be so EVIL to play with people like this???
I'm never going to understand it, but ya know what?
Maybe it's better that I don't. I'll live in my authenticity, unashamed and unapologetic.
All of you should, too...don't ever let these pieces of shit ever bring you down to their level, otherwise they win.
Well said!
Remember hurt people hurt others. 💔 but the most important part is that you can heal. Never belittle yourself to fit in someone box. Set your boundaries and love you first. Mental illness is a real thing.
@@krystalgivens207 I totally agree that hurt people do hurt others and it's often an automatic self-defence mechanism, or can be done with awareness; however, many who've experienced trauma don't intentionally do so, or are working on changing their own toxic behaviour.
I've been immensely harmed by many people over the years, including my parents and other family members, yet it doesn't make it okay that they were hurt as well, hence why it's safer for me to keep my distance. 🙁
@@cyndigooch1162 Thank you for your response. Now days you have to set boundaries for anyone you come in contact with especially family they know you better than anyone and will take advantage of you. Also, we can't expect people to be something they are not. I believe the topic was about being gaslighting. Actions speak louder than words but as women we respond with emotions most of the time. Never expect someone not hurting you whether it's intentional or not intentional that's just the facts of life. Keep them boundaries in order.
@@cyndigooch1162 Also, pray for them and move on gracefully
Needed this today, thanks for reeling me back into reality. ❤️
THANK YOU!
If you stay it will make you really lose your mind please run run as fast as you can because if you dont you will suffer for years after
Dude being with a narcissist is just something, he demanded trust he never deserved, so glad that's over, just enjoying the peace more and more.
I felt like you were speaking directly to me.
I’m currently dealing with a gaslighting husband and I don’t know what to do.
I feel stuck. I’m praying for some clarity.
Me too
Ace, you’re such a blessing! Keep casting the light on the craps hidden in darkness and all forms of invisibility.
I have healed from watching your videos you helped me clear the fog
Do not yolk yourself with a gaslighter amen
Omg that's minor. My ex took my college texts and put them up on the top of my China cabinet towards the back. When I finally found them while cleaning, he SWORE I put them up there and just forgot about them. For a hot second, I actually considered that maybe I did it and forgot. I then thought, why would I do that? That's stupid. I'm currently using those books so I had no reason to hide them from myself like that.
I'm a be honest, the way you were saying "you can trust me,..." gave me chills in a bad way (as in scary). You see, my ex used to say all those things so now when I hear them, I run from the speaker. I was engaged twice after my divorce and ran off from both of them. I decided there was no way I could trust anyone enough to marry him and have decided to enjoy the rest of my years as a single woman.
Man just straight up read me, not even joking, this ain't a freaking joke. I feel like this has been the most real words anyone has ever told me about my problem in my relationship.
Good teaching. They are mastermind manipulators, which is witchcraft. The person who says to you that you think you perfect bring out the perfect example of what you are saying about gaslighting. Thank you, brother.
Facts. I lived this experience for 9 years. A narcissist never shows empathy. They negative pattern of lies, blame and deflect game was perfect for them. A zebra never changes its stripes actions is the best teacher. What's the main part? I knew he was full of sh.. all that time. But, I still stayed. Now, Im happily loving myself a valuable lesson was learned.
Facts ❤
Y'all women is just trifling azz lil soft weak girls listen to yo dad n mom period
Oh Ace, more videos like this please. This hit so different when you included saying “I’m sorry “ is the ultimate gaslighting. Never saw that way, but this made total sense😢😢😢
6:02 glad you are making these videos to enlighten others. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about not abusing others!
I am so upset to have found this in my very own family circle.... i would love to change completely environment, because it is clear to me, after listening to you, that NOBODY can change such people... they disgrace innocent empaths.
Yeah they are like expert readers. They watch your reactions to trigger an emotional response. Normally, it’s your weaknesses. Could be fear of judgment. Could be empathy. Could be shame. But whatever triggers you, know that, they don’t have a problem with triggering it. Idk if it’s a way they won’t be a victim. So if i do it to you, you can’t do it to me.
Mmhhhm. No one’s perfect, but if i say something bothers me and why it hurts my feelings, i would think you should not do it anymore. If someone said that makes me bad when you do this, I’d stop doing it.
THANK YOU!!!! SENDING YOU LOVE FROM ALABAMA!!!!!🥰🥰🥰
I never knew what a gaslighter was until I met this dude. Everything youre saying I've peeped in his actions.
Every single word coming out of your mouth I am experiencing at the moment and thinking when this torture will end. Help me God
That’s the key! Watching words AND actions. If the don’t align, it’s pointless!
This literally broke my heart..
This is
My ex. Everything was always my fault. I broke things off with him in a very respectful manner but I told him the truth. That I don’t trust him. I can’t give my life to a man I don’t trust. He told me I’m not a human being, I’m a child, and that I’m masculine 🙄
Yo, I had a narc apologize for calling me the B word. (Sounded so genuine) 5 minutes later he called me an asshole 🤦🏾♀️.
Ya can't make this shit up!😂
I could appreciate this video more if the Gaslighter wasn’t gender specific. Everybody is capable of being a manipulator, not just men.
Amen❤️🔥🙏🏽 Needed this real talk!💯 " Watch Action's not words." ♥️
This hit hard. Not only did my ex do this, but I just realized my entire family dynamic is like this. I’m going to program that acronym into my radar: LDDD. Lie, Deny, Deflect, and Defend. Once I see that pattern, I’m out!
Whoa. Lots of hard truths in this. I bet he’ll do this to the next one and never have what he wants because he can’t man up and address his issues. He hurts me continuously and it’s always my fault.
Life is a choice. Some people choose to be evil. The devil is the original narcissist. Pay attention to your INTUITION and that persons ENERGY. If you feel something is off with that person, it means you need to go the opposite direction of that person. God gave us INTUITION for a reason. Amen!
Intuition can lie and there Ian no such thing as narcissism or a narcissist in the Bible. Read the Bible and learn the real truth from God Himself. May the real God of the Bible lead you to the truth. Amen and God bless!
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 Exactly what a narcissist's enabler would say. Saying that narcissism doesn't exist and telling her to never listen to her intuition is exactly how you send her towards predatory abusers. Are you trying to destroy her life? Or are you just that dumb?
Wow! Thank you for this!!! I can close my eyes and see my ex talking to me again 😢. My ex & I just got divorced a few days ago and I feel my freedom & sanity flowing back to me 😌.
Had me thinking I was crazy
Thank you Ace for all that you do with so much heart. I can only imagine how many good people need to hear this. And how many people will receive what your heart wants to bless them with. 🙏🙏🙏💗
Thank you for your work ❤pray that your videos will be exposed to more and more audiences and help so much more people avoid wasting life and time on toxic relationships so we can all be spending more time on loving the world and other people rather than being confused and heartbroken all day❤😂
It's the deflection for me... And the am sorry with tears and the I love you and the you made me do this.... Pls its all the above and some... Yes yes on point 💯💯💯 Speak up Speak up 💞💞💞💞
I love you, you are.so straight to the point, and say such truths, I'm amazed. Are you a therapist, because you should be
Experienced each of the ultimate forms of gaslighting. Wasted 9 years of my life. But I'm glad I'm finally out. Although it was only after a visit to the ER, therapy, psych treatment, and his final betrayal, which happened today. Been cheated on, abused, insulted, ignored when I needed him the most. I'm glad for this video. Such an eye opener!
Thank God for my deliverance…Continue to let God use you.
I am a gen x er who married a boomer. I knew something was wrong with this relationship. I married the Covert which I think is one of the worse. Yes it is amazing to see how he took my entire network of friends and family and turned them against me.
But I am safe now. Today I went to look at an apartment for me. I have started over and it is possible But you have to want a different life ladies.
The education I got from the Bible God books and you young people on U tube took me on a path of deliverance.
Ace be not weary in well doing for in due season you will reap a reward if you do not faint 🦋🦋🦋
Every single word you speaking is on the money....when someone does those things the signs 1)LIE......... 2)DENY...................3)DEFLECT.🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣...RUN WALK .......POWERWALK..
Thank you for this .
This is so true someone has done all of that me even promised to marry me. It was lies. Thank you very much
Facts! All facts took me about 6 years to understand what I was dealing with and I got out because it’s really unhealthy, not peaceful and quite frankly abuse gotta love yourself to realize what you’re dealing with without trying to make any excuse and or wait to see if it will go away! The tactics used to keep you involved is crazy it’s like an addiction gotta be strong to leave & it will be hard if you invested years….
It will be embarrassing, emotional, sad & you might feel like how was I that weak & confused to not recognize & not leave sooner! Forgive yourself, love yourself & understand you will need to heal! Identify what inside of you made you deal with such & never fall into that cycle again! Be smart & choose wisely as Natalie Clarice says!
No but coming from someone who has been in abusive relationships most of my life sadly but not anymore & not ever again! Choose you!❤Peace & blessings
One thing I wanna add on the whole actions not matching words. Consider the importance of that. How many parents accept a toxic other into their house and around their children? How many men manipulate women to giving them money or letting them slide on not paying bills? How many times do men take from a single mothers resources from her family and she let's it happen. Knows it ain't right and let's it happen. Don't ever be that parent. Always put your kids first and if adding a significant other is damaging to the kids in anyway its a no go. Kids come first.
Say it again for the people in the back, and louder!
Omg it’s like you are right in the conversation 🥺 and this is so true ❤
You are excellent!!!
Spot on Ace . Your my angle .
There's no formula to relationships, people are people. That's what makes us different from AI, we're unpredictable 🤷🏿♀️
In everything we do in life actions speaks louder than words 💯 ❤
Oh wow I recently found you and I think you are phenomenal you hit it on the nose God bless you on your journey you are doing amazing work thank you my black king
I literally had to stop myself from admitting into a hospital because he gaslit me so much to truly believe that I was crazy and I wasn’t equipped to handle myself. He always apologized but never changed. I fell for it every time. I was always the blame for relationship problems. Any time I stood up for myself, it turned into an argument. He decide to end the relationship and as much as it did hurt, staying in the relationship was hurting me more than anything. I wasn’t happy, I was settling; trying to create a family. He was a dark cloud over my life. He hated himself, and he made me hate myself as well. It’s going to take some time to build myself back up, but I have two beautiful girls that deserve a peaceful mom.
I literally had to ask for closure from a former friend. 20 years to be exact. Always hype, always comment on my social media, but claim broke. Said he was struggling but still had a gig. Ok understood but years though? It was the infatuation he had for me. We never had sex. But.....we finally did it and it was great. But it felt empty but great lmao. Now hes in a situation where he cant bring his current baby mom, their child and her child from another man to the states because "he cant afford it". God is my protection. No hard feelings. I dont hate the man im just glad that I'm 38 with no children. I dont think I'm the shit but then again I'm not in "that shit". God got ME🎉🍾🙏
After my ex made everything about him when I was feeling sick and gas lighting me it was literally the last straw when he said, "It's because the Dr. diagnosed you with Bipolar 1 (the dr said I may have Bipolar 1 he never said I had it) I told him to please not gas light me and it took me about 10 times to tell him to gtfo. Nah I'm not playing those games nor am I doing the push and pull thing I used to do when I was diagnosed with BPD I feel like my whole body is falling apart and I would rather be thinking about Jesus who at this point I barely believe in. Thanks for the message I needed that last part I don't expect anything from anyone at this point and am working on not blaming others for my mistakes I know what I need to work on. I've been so stressed out that I'm feeling it physically.
It's depressing to because I gaslight also sometimes on accident. I learned it from my family. I cut them out of my life and have been so lonely ever sense. If you never have anything to live for then what's the point? You just wait to die.
I got to go through it again because I have children with him. He has a team of fly monkeys around me. Even some family members on his side.
as i just went through something so crazy that pushed me off edge. day 1 to my new beginning hearing this helped me.
This is such an awesome video! Perfectly said.💜
umm gaslighters can also do a lot of acts of services to get you and still be fake. they have gotten better at there craft. you end up seeing the actions when they start devaluing you then say it’s your childhood trauma.
Thank you 🙏 so much this reading reasonate with me
SO RIGHT. MINE HAD THE AUDACITY TO TELL ME AFTER MY MOM AND DAD PASSED, OH THEY SAID FOR HIM TO LOOK AFTER ME AND MY SON AND HE PROMISED THEM HE WOULD. I KNOW FOR A FACT MY MOMMA AINT NEVER TOLD HIM TO LOOK AFTER ME CAUSE SHE WARNED ME BEFORE SHE DIED THAT HE WASN'T GONNA CHANGE. SO GASLIGHTING AT WORK HERE
Thank you Ace! I truly appreciate your advice always!
Great video , thank you so much for all these gems
Yes we have to trust actions than words is only what you want to hear because they know they "got you"
This is beautifully said and you've validated what I've experienced with now long gone exes and other people as well. ❤
This ninja here 😂😭😭😭
Thanks for the eye opener, last relationship, dude made sure he spent one on one time with my family, especially my mother. I would be at work, he'd go spend time with my parents because he had no family which was a lie, they just don't deal with him. He's got so many lies with him. My parents read between all the lies and eventually I did too. You give a person enough rope, they will hang themselves. Not looking for a perfect person but at least be honest with yourself and others. Its scary out here y'all...stay woke ladies. I KNOW what I experienced.
Wow. I’m left speechless. True.
Some women do that it happened to me
Oh, absolutely! It's just that normally, it's more men than women. 💯%
Goosebumps ❤️
You are such a light. You are giving me courage.
Thank you!!!!!!!
So glad I came across this! I was being gaslit by the ultimate gas fitter !!!
Love your insights!
I see it. I would love us all to keep our integrity. Apologies should be meant and followed up. That was my downfall. I had a set back into insanity but I'm getting back. I know where to put my effort and grow myself. I'm learning more about defense mechanisms I believe this was an unfinished project and my ex was able to wiggle in. I see now that I need to commit more to myself and NEVER let anyone push me to lose myself again.
Thankyou for saying this to me. I'm fighting for my life.
Keep fighting love you first!!!!!❤
What if you are already married to one, what do you do
Truth ACE! Thank you.
You've just listed every single thing he said and is doing...that hit me like a hammer 🔨 in the head
Thanks 🙏🏽
"Ignore everything that you said that has substance and merit". That fool would do this. That fool is no longer part of my life.
I got out of a relationship like this more than 5 months ago now. It was truly hell and I never realized what I was truly going through until the end. But it’s crazy what he said about mutual friends. Me and my ex had a mutual GIRL friend who literally blatantly took his side without even knowing what was going on between us.
Thank you
Thank you, I needed this
Do you offer 1 on 1 sessions over Zoom?
💯 eye opener 👏👏👏
Omg facts!🍷💯
THANK YOU
Preach brother!!!!!
Thanks Ace. This was my ex all the way.
This is on point!
Both the words AND the actions have to match...one without the other is still confusion...example: if he's disrespectful and rude to you and mostly looks for negatives thing to say about u but on the other hand will do what u ask him to do it even if he doesn't do it immediately but ends up doing 🤔 can u be sure with that or is that still confusion? 🤔 exactly im still confused about that!
This was so spot on!! I needed this today! Thank you!
Agreed
He knew exactly how to gaslight and its gonna come back on him.
Had my mind twisted and blamed me for everything.
Yessss I take own and I let him do it.
It's absolutely mind twisting, so give yourself some slack... We'll both do better next time we're faced with it.