I really appreciate DeAnn's honesty about her struggles with her ego, etc. Thats great knowledge to keep in mind for the next relationship. Also, love ourselves first!
2nd marriage are close to 70% failure and 3rd marriage is 75%. Now we also know that 20% that are still married, at least 80% of them, are unhappy. Did I make the case not to remarry?
Married for 20 years 3 kids, the 50 year old woman I’m dating 3 years and she has a 10 year old said she won’t contribute to house expense unless I put her on mortgage. I owe 60 and equity is 250. I had to let her go.
A lot of people in their 50s and older can't get married again without losing money they want to leave their kids! The finance question is huge for a lot of people. Thank God we no longer have to worry about having kids...but I'd still like to be married again to have the law in my court.
Lisa said " I'd still like to be married again to have the law in my court" ...... this is exactly why I'd NEVER ever marry again, because as you stated you want the "law in my court". Lost all my $heet to a woman who also had the "law in her court". Note a Divorced Female Family Court Judge who actually did the financial raping of men is even having a discussion here about ideal relationships. Even her boyfriend has the common sense of not marrying her. Hell, any guy who is even thinking of marrying again, especially after the age of 50, should have their head examined, and/or be committed to the loony bin.
@@LisaGemini - I LOVE women ...... I said I LOVE women. However the Marriage/Divorce Racket has forced me to stay single until my dying days due to the FACT that 'most' women and their attorneys are using the Family Court System to DESTROY the financial assets of HARD working males who earned their money via blood, sweat and tears. Most women actually hate men and are just using them to acquire a retirement plan so they can, like vultures, feast off their carcasses. Only people I'm talking to Lisa are men who believe in the fantasy of marriage as a viable alternative to being alone. P.S. ..... Alone is much better, especially if you're a male. Here's a woman who know's the truth about the marriage/divorce racket. Please note the loving comments (over 300) made by men and women about Pauline's Speech: ua-cam.com/video/7ubP8FXueGM/v-deo.html
Thank you for the segment. Most of what is said I agree with however it deepens my sadness. I am divorced and divorced because I did not follow good solid advice from God and I did not listen to my instincts. Nobody's fault but my own. However the institution of marriage is a wonderful one and it saddens me that we enter it so flippantly without seeking God's guidance. Being married to the one that God intended is a wonderful thing and the more we discount marriage as an institution, discount the possibility or say that it's not needed the worst that we as humans become. It isn't hard to find news articles, editorials, clinical and psychological research showing the increasing numbers of depression, loneliness, isolation. Whether you are a Believer or not you have to understand that there is a force that has been working toward having this be the case all along, to have people isolated, miserable and refusing to make any attempt @true, sincere, deep connected relationship. I truly wish everyone the best - myself included. I refuse to believe that this is just all there is.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. And I completely agree with you conceptually. I think where we differ, if I'm understanding you correctly, is that God is somehow absent in a committed relationship without the marriage certificate. Whatever your spiritual/religious beliefs, I believe God, a higher presence, is always guiding us and present in our life. The institution of marriage that we refer to in this segment - from my perspective - is societal/man made and brings so many complications and stress factors that can actually contribute to the failure of a marriage. There is research that shows midlife relationships where people don't marry have a better chance of making it than 2nd or more marriages. Yes, loneliness is a HUGE crisis - it's actually been deemed a healthcare crisis, and we'll be doing a lot more segments on that topic. Loving relationships is what life is all about!!! It's an interesting discussion!
Zechariah 4:6 said "the institution of marriage is a wonderful one". If it's so ' wonderful' how come your divorced? Most marriages fail (more than 50%). Not a good track record, and the ones that are still married methinks most are unhappy and even miserable. I'll even bet you that many married couples sleep in seperate beds. Maybe at one time, before the 60's marriage was somewhat wonderful .... errr let me rephrase that ..... was somewhat bearable, but never the less, it was still a struggle to maintain some kind of happiness. Robin Williams was quoted, prior to his death, as saying something to the effect, "I'd rather be alone than be with someone/people who make me feel alone". I'll bet many marriages today are like that. I'm a guy, and I'm done with trying to make a woman happy, it's a difficult if not an impossible task imho. I wish the best for you, Zechariah 4:6 and that you find what you are looking for. As for me, myself and I ..... I've found happiness by being alone ..... errr with a cat.
I've been told all my life that women are strong, independent, and empowered. My response? Be that. (Live under your own roof, pay your own expenses, go ahead and have relationships. You won't be getting a finger trophy from me.)
I really appreciate DeAnn's honesty about her struggles with her ego, etc. Thats great knowledge to keep in mind for the next relationship. Also, love ourselves first!
I agree, and DeAnn's a pretty straight shooter! :-)
NO
I have been married 46 years and I'd NEVER marry again.
Marriage is for men who HATE money.
2nd marriage are close to 70% failure and 3rd marriage is 75%. Now we also know that 20% that are still married, at least 80% of them, are unhappy. Did I make the case not to remarry?
Marriage? Never again.
I'm not even willing to cohabitate.
You would not go to the bars because the competition is fierce
Married for 20 years 3 kids, the 50 year old woman I’m dating 3 years and she has a 10 year old said she won’t contribute to house expense unless I put her on mortgage. I owe 60 and equity is 250. I had to let her go.
Yes, your avatar name is aptly named!
You did dodge a bullet indeed. What kak
A lot of people in their 50s and older can't get married again without losing money they want to leave their kids! The finance question is huge for a lot of people. Thank God we no longer have to worry about having kids...but I'd still like to be married again to have the law in my court.
Lisa said " I'd still like to be married again to have the law in my court" ...... this is exactly why I'd NEVER ever marry again, because as you stated you want the "law in my court". Lost all my $heet to a woman who also had the "law in her court". Note a Divorced Female Family Court Judge who actually did the financial raping of men is even having a discussion here about ideal relationships. Even her boyfriend has the common sense of not marrying her. Hell, any guy who is even thinking of marrying again, especially after the age of 50, should have their head examined, and/or be committed to the loony bin.
@@yahknow01 Wow, you probably should go talk to someone about why you dislike women so much. You got issues, buddy.
@@LisaGemini - I LOVE women ...... I said I LOVE women. However the Marriage/Divorce Racket has forced me to stay single until my dying days due to the FACT that 'most' women and their attorneys are using the Family Court System to DESTROY the financial assets of HARD working males who earned their money via blood, sweat and tears.
Most women actually hate men and are just using them to acquire a retirement plan so they can, like vultures, feast off their carcasses. Only people I'm talking to Lisa are men who believe in the fantasy of marriage as a viable alternative to being alone.
P.S. ..... Alone is much better, especially if you're a male.
Here's a woman who know's the truth about the marriage/divorce racket. Please note the loving comments (over 300) made by men and women about Pauline's Speech:
ua-cam.com/video/7ubP8FXueGM/v-deo.html
@ Lisa Cunningham, at least you put your motives on full display. Thank you for that. Validates my disdain for opportunist women. Yuck.
Thank you for the segment. Most of what is said I agree with however it deepens my sadness. I am divorced and divorced because I did not follow good solid advice from God and I did not listen to my instincts. Nobody's fault but my own. However the institution of marriage is a wonderful one and it saddens me that we enter it so flippantly without seeking God's guidance. Being married to the one that God intended is a wonderful thing and the more we discount marriage as an institution, discount the possibility or say that it's not needed the worst that we as humans become. It isn't hard to find news articles, editorials, clinical and psychological research showing the increasing numbers of depression, loneliness, isolation. Whether you are a Believer or not you have to understand that there is a force that has been working toward having this be the case all along, to have people isolated, miserable and refusing to make any attempt @true, sincere, deep connected relationship.
I truly wish everyone the best - myself included. I refuse to believe that this is just all there is.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. And I completely agree with you conceptually. I think where we differ, if I'm understanding you correctly, is that God is somehow absent in a committed relationship without the marriage certificate. Whatever your spiritual/religious beliefs, I believe God, a higher presence, is always guiding us and present in our life. The institution of marriage that we refer to in this segment - from my perspective - is societal/man made and brings so many complications and stress factors that can actually contribute to the failure of a marriage. There is research that shows midlife relationships where people don't marry have a better chance of making it than 2nd or more marriages. Yes, loneliness is a HUGE crisis - it's actually been deemed a healthcare crisis, and we'll be doing a lot more segments on that topic. Loving relationships is what life is all about!!! It's an interesting discussion!
Zechariah 4:6 said "the institution of marriage is a wonderful one". If it's so ' wonderful' how come your divorced? Most marriages fail (more than 50%). Not a good track record, and the ones that are still married methinks most are unhappy and even miserable. I'll even bet you that many married couples sleep in seperate beds.
Maybe at one time, before the 60's marriage was somewhat wonderful .... errr let me rephrase that ..... was somewhat bearable, but never the less, it was still a struggle to maintain some kind of happiness.
Robin Williams was quoted, prior to his death, as saying something to the effect, "I'd rather be alone than be with someone/people who make me feel alone". I'll bet many marriages today are like that. I'm a guy, and I'm done with trying to make a woman happy, it's a difficult if not an impossible task imho.
I wish the best for you, Zechariah 4:6 and that you find what you are looking for. As for me, myself and I ..... I've found happiness by being alone ..... errr with a cat.
Be single but not lonely
That is a beautiful dress she has on....just looking at the top half
I've been told all my life that women are strong, independent, and empowered. My response? Be that.
(Live under your own roof, pay your own expenses, go ahead and have relationships. You won't be getting a finger trophy from me.)
Why can't you just call him or her your partner? Simple and easy